Stop Arguing Over the Smallest Things - Relationship Advice | Lia Huynh

Relationship Advice | Stop Arguing Over the Smallest Things... For real... Stop!
Do you ever find you and your partner arguing over the tiniest things? Something so small that a day later you don’t even remember what you fought about? Well today I’m going to talk about why this happens and how to stop doing it. So you can stop arguing over the smallest things and get on living your life!
Now Arguing about small things, we have all been there. We are all there right now! And I would argue that arguments over small things are actually harder to deal with than arguments over big things.
Say for example your spouse cheats on you with their coworker. There is no doubt who is at fault who needs to apologize, etc. But when it’s a small argument, its there is a difference in reality. To you, it’s a big deal but to your spouse it’s nothing. So it’s hard to get on the same page. And you end up fighting about whether or not it’s a big deal.
So much of this has to do with communication, unspoken wants and needs and misguided assumptions. And I’m going to help you wade through some of this today.
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[@kennethspeaks2408]

Excellent, excellent content should have seen your site 20 years ago😀

[@Darkmode9]

fantastic advice, so helpful!!

[@therapywithlia]

So glad it was helpful for you!

[@bobbert3981]

Thank you for the video. Im so desperately looking for a solution. I 100% agree with everything you said but no matter what I do I cannot find a solution for my wife's and my arguing. Its always the small stuff. Like you mentioned it starts out with something like forgetting the eggs but instead of just being annoyed she reacts with this intense anger which I defend. I never ever mean to hurt her in any way but sometimes life happens and I cant just take a time machine back and fix it. I really wish all she did was get annoyed but typically the default is to jump into yelling. I dont know what to do or how to escape the situation. We have been fighting like this for 5 years and just like in your video I try to tell her its not what you say but the tone. Its always just the tone that triggers me. No matter what I cannot talk to her about a solution and she refuses to acknowledge that the tone has anything to do with it. Its always 100% my fault and if I cant handle her tone its ecause Im not "man enough" or Im just "too sensitive". We can never actually get to the real issue because the argument gets turned into how she yelled at me and then she defends that I dont care about her feelings and will never change. Even sometimes in public places she just randomly lashes out about somethig small and yells so loud that people turn around and look at us. Its extremely embarrasing and I am left feeling in a situation like Im stuck between 2 options that are both bad. Either I just let it go and look like a weak little B*$& or I get angry and fight back making me look like a typical angry male monster which she can play victim. Its a lose lose for me no matter what.

[@therapywithlia]

I'm sorry to hear this and I'm glad that you are trying to find solutions. Like you mentioned, it is very common. I would advise the two of you to find a trusted person or professional to help you both navigate these tricky waters. Good luck.

[@bos_guy101]

I really needed that video so bad! I hated when my parents argue all over small things such as: Clothes, food, forget to do things, and other small things. Even my mom yell at me all over I drop a candy wrap, like seriously used your nice words not yell at me to do so. So yeah, if I have a girlfriend/wife, or even kids even though I don't know no kids. I will never argue or yell at them for small things. Rather deal with big things. That's why I take a break to go to my friend's house on the weekend sometime, or even I go on the walk around the neighborhood to help me clam down to get a break from the argument. Also I listened to music and listened to ASMR help me clam down!

[@therapywithlia]

I'm so sorry to hear about your home situation. I hope that you find the support you need to cope with your situation. I am so glad to hear that at least you have learned what you don't want to do and have found ways to calm down yourself. All the best to you!

[@bos_guy101]

@@therapywithlia Thanks!