Stopping Dementia Repeated Questions w/ Dan Salinger

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[@nikkernacker1]

It’s Dan!!!!!!!! Dan we love you and your Dad!

[@kimberlymullins8028]

I've cared for the elderly with Alzeimers and Dementia for the past 8 years and they have my heart ❤

[@chrisp231]

I worked for 15 years as a school librarian in elementary schools where, among other things, I worked with children with developmental issues. I see many parallels between adults with dementia and those children. I wonder whether "social stories" (booklets or single sheets with simple pictures or photographs demonstrating the steps of a common ativity such as getting dressed, eating meals, and other routine daily activities). Pictures really can be worth a thousand words. And in talking with the person, the fewer the words the better. Thanks for your channel, which is helping me deal with a family member who has Alzheimer's that is starting to advance more rapidly.

[@Mayhemsmom]

I was an IEP specialist for Daycares for years and I absolutely agree. I first ventured into pharmacy and then made my way to geriatrics. I absolutely agree the parallels are startling but they don't want us to talk about it because it upsets so many to compare them to children. When you look at strategies used in later stages including palm pressure and breathing techniques, it's exactly like the strategies we're taught to help regulate overstimulated children.

[@anneredman5836]

I wish you would stop showing your dad at his worse.He is a very sick.man and should not be on show like this all the time.Did he agree to this,I don't think so.Let him have some privacy in his final years,enough.

[@grandma27or8]

@@anneredman5836those moments are helpful to others, so if it offends you just stop watching.

[@carlaeskelsen]

​@@anneredman5836 To whom are you addressing your comment?

[@diane9247]

That sounds like a great idea!

[@karatekai6384]

Sun downing was very stressful as the different steps came into play I remember one episode and I literally went down the wall and just started to cry it can become very overwhelming but pure love ❤️ is the key to their care

[@kannettestewart8677]

So much of this resonates with me. From not sharing the Drs report, to having to put a box on the AC/ Heater Thermostat, monitoring their food supply, so you know that they are eating. It's so difficult to limit their independence, but it is absolutely necessary is some instances. Bless all the caregivers, it can be a thankless job.

[@rosaurashroyer2559]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@p.siadoreyou9050]

Watching Ed help me heal from losing my own dad last year. Dan is a wonderful supportive son husband and father. He deserves nothing but joy and happiness.

[@AGM-ts5bb]

I have a person with a disability at home; yes, the struggle is real. They repeat the same issues sometimes 600 times a day. Love them so much but sometimes my patience wears thin.

[@donilagringaloca]

Self love is the one thing I didn't give myself; I could have asked a few of my Mom's neighbors to sit with her; I didn't ask just because I was to tired to go anywhere, I could have just gone outside or to my room with the laptop but I never did ask and people stopped offering; my Mom's best friend always asked though and then one day I asked Nini if she would sit with my and she said of course and what time; if I had to do over again I would've asked at least once a week even if I thought (crazy me) I didn't need time off.

[@justanotheralmaroad1923]

My mother inlaw lived with us and was somewhat hard to manage. Then my husband became worse than her. I had my hands full. I reached out to my sister inlaw about taking her mom in with her. Thank goodness she came right away. She passed on very shortly after this. Later my husband passed so I started looking for work. Ended up being an In Home Non Medical Caregiver. I have dealt with many over the past 14 years. Wish I could have watched videos like this many years ago because not knowing what to do was stressful for me. I plan on quitting by next winter and try to enjoy what life I have left. I worry about if and when it comes my time for this disease. I'll be 70 in April.

[@guestguest2030]

@@justanotheralmaroad1923 Wow. Wishing you the best!

[@Zxx459]

Indeed....self care is the key . If you have time learn what centers you Heals you Makes you strong

[@debby891]

Great video and love watching Dan, grandpa and Danielle❤. I’m a full time caregiver for my elderly mom with Alzheimer’s and so appreciate Dan and Danielle as it can be physically , mentally and emotionally exhausting when doing it alone 24/7. I so appreciate their day to day support, humor and empathy for those of us doing it.

[@marleyjacobson-or7co]

Excellent interview! Dan is the man! He’s a sweetheart ❤I just found you because I saw Dans picture on your KZbin 😊so I’m following you now!! Your awesome and a real sweetheart I will be tuning in! Blessings and love 💕 Marlene Jacobson from Macomb Township, MI 🙏🏻❤️👍

[@catherineprentice5927]

Great video! I watch Dan and grandpa all the time….I took care of my mother in law for six years after my husband passed. It is a draining job but it was ultimately a blessing…..I don’t regret it at all!

[@susanlippy1009]

My mother just passed on after 9yrs of Alzheimer's. Her mother and grandmother also had it as well as her siblings all but one who have passed on with dementia. I now have a cousin who is 49yrs old and suffering with children at home to raise. My aunt is devastated crying that it was supposed to be her. My sister entered drug trials and they have done scans to find she has signs of plaques in her brain making it likely she too will experience dementia at some point. Genetic testing shows high markers on both sides of the family. I do hope they find a cure for dementia. I wish I had found your content sooner. It is invaluable to have strategies at hand to deal day to day.

[@rehanaamarshi5216]

I am following this channel Because of Dan This helping me deal with my parents 92 years old

[@chelsealaine2550]

Love the Salingers❤😊

[@dianewinters8628]

I follow Dan, Danielle, & Ed Salinger. Thank you for the informative discussion.

[@fairgreen42]

Nice! I follow Dan's channel for some time now and probably thanks to the yt algorithm your shorts started popping up. I am hooked and glad to learn more from you! Thanks for sharing your knowledge with us!

[@texasbandera7320]

Dan your Dad is the sweetest man! You are an awesome person too!

[@karinvaleri7130]

I totally understand, Dan, on not getting Grandpa diagnosed. Same with my mom, she had early dementia, and at 92, her age, why? I have alot of respect to you and Danielle, your kindness, patience and wisdom. Hugs to u and yr family. Great suggestions from u both! Power of Attorney for finance and health matters is a must.

[@eija8042]

Good DAN you took help from a proffessional,. .They dont need the thruth, Ask them guestions Live in their reality. ..very good advice....❤❤

[@Dojustdoandbe]

A brilliant idea to have this conversation with a trained professional who has a very compassionate but also bio psychosocial approach.

[@HariKSamineni]

Wonderful conversation, thank you so much ❤️ ❤❤

[@lwk4229]

I don’t care for a dementia patient but I fear it or that I might become the dementia patient since it runs in the family. My mother in law had dementia but lived in another state and I was not a caretaker. This channel is really helpful.

[@hollykeller1545]

I believe I’ve heard Dan ask Ed “where do you think he is?” regarding Ed’s brother’s whereabouts. Once anyway.

[@Chiara-ez5hw]

I can 1000 percent relate my mom has dementia it's extremely difficult. Eventually my dad had to put at Aegis last living facility. He gets and sees her everyday! How however, she doesn't keep asking questions over and over due to the medicine she now takes. She fell out of her bed and then fractured her hip. She told the the physical therapist that is nothing wrong she can walk! Nope. It's difficult now she is on a wheel chair. I can share alot more maybe on the future smile we all need to pray and stay strong for them❤

[@gloriahallelujah1118]

Thank you so much for finding each other ! This is such a benefit for other families to lessen their frustration and increase their patience ( love) though understanding ❤

[@karlleonard3794]

Dan this was the best conversation with with anothother person from ouside your family big thank you from bring on air this helps not only one Dan I love your shows karl dundee uk 26:56

[@robinettbanister1236]

Can a picture book or videos of Dr Ed's brother Bill of happy times help to calm his concern and that he misses Bill. Bringing up those happy emotions that you both talked about.

[@sandystevens7046]

Dan,Mark and Danielle are amazing with Grandpa.

[@diane9247]

This was absolutely wonderful! I wish these two had been around when I was taking care of my mom. 😢

[@chriskryzak604]

Me too ! I unfortunately didn't discover these people until after she passed away

[@User91032]

So glad to see Dan On this channel With a professional. This is where caretakers should be And guide other care Providers to this channel. She is a professional. Please remember all donations Send to the Alzheimer foundation. She is remarkable .. She is a qualified professional

[@patpeters6331]

Interesting and informative interview with Dan Salinger. I follow his KZbin channel and this gave good background information...

[@patriciamchugh4756]

Excellent video!! The Salinger family is priceless. Dan, you really are a wonderful man. Just like your Dad.😊❤😊 38:39

[@Faye1993]

This was so educational. 😊 Fantastic conversation.

[@Amy-oj6lu]

This is a excellent interview!!

[@calarthur96]

really appreciate you sharing so much important, helpful information for free. i'm a case worker at a crisis stabilization unit and we had a client recently who was eventually diagnosed with dementia. having seen your videos helped me to be able to respond to her with appropriate care. thank you :)

[@_VioletValor_]

Thank you so much for this. I’m staying with my grandmother who suffers while I’m at school and these videos help me manage

[@jsmum196]

God bless you and thank you for serving us!

[@smaar8092]

I just found your channel, it is a wonderful resource, I wish I had known about it when I was dealing with my Dad who suffered from Lewis Body dementia. Thank you so much for putting these informational videos out there.God bless.

[@cremebrulee4759]

I was just thinking that you two should do something like this, and it showed up in my feed.

[@OGDeeHiggins]

Mom has the beginning of dementia. We will be moving to her place soon. She’s most comfortable in her own home. It’s challenging, but it’s mom. 🤷🏻‍♀️I really appreciate your channel. The tips on redirection and sundown ing has been really helpful! Mr Salingers videos show real time, real life. Soooo helpful to see what’s coming.

[@publiceyes473]

Really enjoy the advice it's like a miracle I see it I know it's needed and then you help this guy in exactly the way that I wish anyway I hope your information keeps out there and keeps getting to everyone that needs it for 50 to 100 years and Beyond thank you ma'am

[@seemakhan5885]

The greatest blessing of God on your dad is you and your family❤❤❤

[@shay7090]

Aww the only 2 ppl I’m subscribed to in the experienced Dementia relationships. Great interview!

[@cyndikonopka2734]

Great presentation!

[@soundimpact4633]

In my limited experience with Dementia caretaking. I have a book where I write things down. And she reads and rereads the book, and that helps her a lot.. She is a reader, and that is how she can get things established in her mind.

[@jsmum196]

Thank you so much for your videos about Dementia. They are so very helpful! These are helping me with my grandfather.

[@MCDMCD3]

I so enjoyed this video. I learned a lot.

[@Tomtaylor7337]

Its Dan , i am so happy he is bringing awareness to dementia 😢 I enjoy grandpa Ed, DR. Ed 😢

[@mrd1228]

Very informative interview 👍👍

[@tammydouglaslafreda9992]

DAN, MOST OF UR SUCESS WITH GRANDPA IS 1. YOU LOVE YOUR DAD 2. ED DISPLAYS HIS GENUINE LOVE FOR YOU 3. A RESPECT LEVEL THAT HASNT BEEN BROKEN, WITH THAT COMES TRUST. (ITS VERY CLEAR GRANDPA TRUST YOU) 4. YOUR HIGHLY EDUCATED, AND CONDUCT YOUR SELF AS GRANDPA DOES WITH DIGNEITY & RESPECT AT (FOR ED) AT ALL TIMES. YOURSELF ALWAYS WHEN DEALING IN LIFE SITUATIONS, CHILDREN, CAREER, ( THIS PART IM JUST GUESSING) BUT ALL SYBLINGS SHOW ON THIS PLATFOURM SHOW DIGNEITY * RESPECT FOR THEMSELF, JUST LIKE MOM & DR. SALINGER.

[@kamemli3248]

Great family I'm happy to hear you always ❤️ take care yourself

[@brotheramos1613]

Dad Ed must not hear what Dan said about the checkbook.😂😂😂😂 "Checkbook is at Mark....Checkbook is at Dan...." Thank you for this intervieuw..

[@yeesh9215]

I had to step in with my dad, as he was wanting to purchase from scams online. He wanted me to give him his credit card. Had to divert his attention to something else. Glad Dan was able to vent his day to day care with Grandpa.

[@angeleeram3080]

Thanks this is great

[@malgorzatafernandez3480]

You’re Wonderful Son

[@sissymccloud583]

My mom was diagnosed back on December 13 2023 with vascular dementia . That's was what was written down on her MRI

[@tianalombardo4517]

I've been doing this for years. But this case of both having Demencia is a handful . She doesn't let me do my job I need to feed him well the husband has a pacemaker kidney failure and more she doesn't let me do his diet. 😢as I should

[@mrd1228]

hang in there 😊 that sounds like a lot

[@MouseTheGoblin]

Hey do you have a mom currently in an institution in Indiana with her name starting with an M? You look very shockingly like her! The eyebrow quirks are like spot on for her; she kept calling me birdie? I just kinda let her talk so she’d feel comfortable while we were stationed

[@barbaramiles4573]

I'm a 47 year old female with schizophrenia. I was diagnosed 4 years ago with early dementia. My partner and I find when I have a turn. I take what is called a "reset nap." They actually help.

[@brendadickenson3547]

I kept counters clear except what will be needed.

[@joancarrino890]

Unless hes fouling himself i dont think they need a shower daily

[@bettybrogan2612]

In Ireland when we say to our children, you’re a little pet. We mean you are a little sweetheart so that’s what someone meant when they said your dad was a little pet they meant he’s a sweetheart

[@allesasmart]

What are your top 3 things you do to protect yourself as you both age?

[@waynesalmon4894]

My keys my phone thats normal. Bless you

[@victoriagoins5250]

I wish I could have gotten mom to get an MRI before everything blew up. Went from signs of obvious mental struggles to a UTI that she had just started med. For the day before, to me coming in her house to find her setting on the floor beside her bed trying to remember how to use the phone. In just over a year, we have gone from that to a whirlwind of 3 day hospital stay, rehab, now long-term care and wheelchair bound . I wish I could have gotten an MRI like the neurologist suggested. But she calls out mom all the time, and there no way she could lay still and not talk for 40 min . As long as 4 to 5 yrs ago, she had mentioned seeing a cat or dog in her apartment. Then started seeing a little girl over a year ago in bed with her that she had to get up and make sure she was covered up before getting back in bed. Neurologist is guessing maybe Parkinson, or lewey body mixed dementia with alzheimers because of seeing the animals and child. But no way of knowing for sure without further testing which Dr said he didn't think she would be able to tolerate He has seen 3 different cat scans from 3 different times due to falls within a 4 month period from Oct to Dec of last yr. Said there was a lot of white matter. I wish I knew for sure. She hasn't been back to the neurologist. Really nothing he can do. I struggle with the guilt that maybe it is something else and I am not asking the right question. Also she has 8 siblings 5 of which ( including her) have died from dementia the other 4 died younger from cancer, heart issues. . Are there people who will come to the nursing home who could spend so time with her and give a educated guess as to what is going on?

[@neale.kaufman5168]

WOW... I seriously empathize with you 100% . Only 9 months from the end she became violent.an she beat me my arm mostly, when I'd try to change her diaper..!! Strangely now I miss her❤️❤️..crazy huh ??✌️

[@lindabaker8934]

My dad is going though this, he lives with us, his repetition is what should I do , do I have any more pills he asks for pills all day which is why he ended up with us because he wanted his pills over and over,

[@yourdaywillcome5694]

My mom stayed confused because nobody in my family would help her remember anything and I wanted to do that

[@donnanelson2967]

My mom with dementia doesn’t know who anyone is. Is that late stage? I play music when I visit, and she loves it❤

[@michellemason5408]

My elderly mom , 94 years old. She actually enjoys getting a shower. She’ll stay in the shower for a very long time if I don’t say okay, that’s enough. I usually don’t have a problem with that. Actually, she did a couple times before told me she can do it herself, she doesn’t need a help. But so far she still loves to take a shower.

[@michellemason5408]

Keep sharing Dan. I enjoy watching your streams and videos. It’s so inspiring and helpful. My mom never comes to the kitchen to make food. We give her meals and she’s always thankful. Thanks so much for this content and feedback because dementia is crazy and complicated. It’s different for everyone I see now. Dan’s dad is so similar to my mom’s experience though. It’s therapeutic for me what Dan shares on his videos of his dad. I can identify with what he says and how he reacts to his dad.

[@michellemason5408]

In general the shower experience has gotten better but it’s doing well.

[@jenniferchaney3019]

❤😊❤

[@brendadickenson3547]

Like i told my aunt when i took mom to see who i found and she grew where you did, would you like to talk with her? And they talk a lot. Yet doesn't remember her sister but this way she doesn't think mom is a stranger coming

[@Chiara-ez5hw]

Cause and the effect of the baseline

[@christineneville-ch3jd]

Can you program Alexa or Seri to answer all repetitive questions and have ear bud so he can here the answer in your voice. Stage common answers you say every day.

[@scorpio663]

🤔 Wondering if Dan will have this problem as he grows Older ? I notice he shakes his head while he is talking. 😮

[@seemakhan5885]

You could paint M on mail box key, C on car key and D on door key, this is what even normal people do ,I did that with nail paint

[@carlaeskelsen]

They weren't the real keys.

[@lindabaker8934]

I'm dad wants to do something with the TV, so he can like get someone out of jail or move someone on the screen, I think maybe is thinking about a computer game but he was not really involved computer stuff

[@user-lt6vj4gq4l]

“ …. a doctor that really knows what they are doing “ …………. well what does that say about the state /lack of confidence in the profession ❕❕❕

[@karatekai6384]

Regarding Ed’s bro I thought the world cruise 🚢 was great

[@KJ-yises]

Is it possible that repetitive questions despite knowing the answers is not a symptom of something else like social disorder of some sort?

[@victoriadavis4339]

My MIL HEARS “ the guy” turn on the water and the pool ALL OF THE TIME Majority of the family tell him there’s “ no guy” I allow her to tell me about the guy And then I tell her he’s watching out that the pool works etc WHAYS the right thing to do or say

[@atcgirl5034]

I really appreciate your content. Totally off-topic, but has anyone told yoi thst you resemble Natalie Portman?

[@yourdaywillcome5694]

My mom didn't believe that her mom and dad was dead and she bury them she would not accept that

[@rhondamcknight2596]

Dan is doing a great service to family caregivers on how to treat parents and people youre caring for with dementia. Whoever has a problem with Dan then go somewhere else.

[@windasafriend]

This is a difficult question, and I hope it is not insensitive. I think I would not want to live with dementia and if it was legal, would rather take my life. But I also think, once you are going to experience dementia, your feeling about wanting to live might be very different. My mom and grandmother both had dementia, and they certainly did want to live. As a caregiver, what do you think about legal suicide? My sister took care of my mom, and even though it was certainly challenging, I think she would have been very upset about the very thought of it, and in a way, she wanted to take care of my mother, and give back all the love and care our mother had given us. Still, the thought of maybe getting dementia one day myself scares the *hit out of me, and I think I would be grateful if suicide would be a legal option. But I guess what I am trying to say is, if my mom would have had the option and would have done it, I think my sister would have been very upset. I guess my real question is, for the care giver, would assisted suicide be a relief or upsetting or both?

[@carlaeskelsen]

After caring for my mother with dementia, I feel much like you. I would rather die than put my children or husband through what my mother put me through. It's been two years since her passing, but I still feel very traumatized. My religion forbids the self termination choice, but I'd rather unalive on my loved ones than turn mean on them. And you have to make that choice before you're unable to make that choice. What do you do? 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@nancymosby7369]

Put grandpa back on plz 😊

[@joancarrino890]

Krista I would find your videos more helpful if you could slow them down a bit so I can read your tips

[@pennyvuori9267]

There is a transcript you can read and get the tips down on the description part tho

[@ceecee3488]

Time away....totally on your own for a couple or three days Dan.........and a very healthy diet and exercise routine. Even if its walking to the end of your street and back 3 or 4 times. We ALL know what our limits are as far as stress. Find what works and do that religiously. I myself had to take off for a week when my children were little. I just knew what the stress would do to me and how I needed to steer clear for a few days. It may sound selfish.....but you can see if as your life vest. Let Danielle do the same. It will make all the difference in the world. Don't try and play the martyr or the strong guy.. There is nothing wrong with sweets or alcohol here and there.....but not if you are using as a band aid to cover up what you are really feeling. Just saying Dan.....just saying. Have a book I would like to share.....a must have. Jon Kabat Zinn.......Full Catastrophe Living. My bible.

[@merriedger882]

It’s not just Dans dad. It’s the dynamics of the relationship between Dan and his dad and the family.

[@relevant.c5411]

all the people i have ever met who had dementia and wanted to go home never once mentioned relatives dead or alive. they want to go home where they came from - HEAVEN.

[@Corinthians--ek4kt]

Repent and Believe the Gospel 1 Corinthians 15 1-4.......JESUS CHRIST is the Only way ❤

[@tammydouglaslafreda9992]

My dear your probally having a boy!

[@lindadavy6641]

I feel sorry for Danielle. She is dealing with two narcissists, one is 91 with memory loss, and a 55 year old husband who's extremely selfish

[@Victoria-ro2yw]

Why,I don't get this, why selfish. I think she loves him Anyway. Sometime we say things we know nothing about

[@p.siadoreyou9050]

You’ve got the be kidding me…Danielle created her channel and she bashes Dan and Ed and even her own children. This was a what her channel is making people think about her amazing family. Danielle is the abusive one. Listen to the lives that n Dans channel. Nobody can stand watching Danielle abuse Dan, get drunk, cuss like a sailor and burp and fart like a baby. If anyone is the problem it’s Danielle and Dan has provided her a very comfortable lifestyle yet she is hell bent over n playing the victim and spending up the money at casinos. She’s dangerous

[@elizabethwooldridge7043]

He’s such a liar!

[@user-dy1hh7hd1l]

she doesn't know how to ask questions

[@neale.kaufman5168]

I took care of my mother for the last two years of her life.. In 3 years she went from driving living alone... to a bed ridden invalid in 3 years... I'm sorry I'm not a professional but...very knowledgeable on the subject.. 1st thing is I believe and seriously don't want to believe, is the way Dan can't seem to understand that Ed Is hard of hearing... Dan continues to talk to Ed about (ie) his car..he will say to Ed , I'll clear it up in 3 sentences... And he rushes through all three without pausing to see if Ed heard the 1st word.... WHICH HE OBVIOUSLY DID NOT". ..Dan & his wife are serious KNOW IT ALLS.. Perfect example is they totally refuse to put Ed in a WALKER.... Danielle absolutely refuses to try She has said for a year now when viewers comment on the fact that Ed needs something to do. They offer suggestions like counting change, and sorting socks, Danielle finally tried it and Ed loved it. So she was wrong yet a week before she gave him the socks or coins , she would say "he won't do that. Oh Ed won't do that". That's the crap that really gets me mad.Even after a Little fall..She won't try the WALKER.... Please if nothing else gets them to put Ed in a WALKER. Thank you.. And their Son doesn't spend a moment more with Ed than he is FORCED TO... TOTAL LACK OF RESPECT FOR HIS GRANDFATHER... Hell Ed doesn't know his name.. That proves the point... Doesn't do shit around the house. Danielle works her butt off...Why is she mowing the Lawn and he sits on his butt...👎🤔☹️