Struggle Low Effort Dating And Relationships Are Being Rebranded As “Boring Love”

[@MsFadir]

They go from patriarchy to situationship to 50-50 to drizzle-drizzle to boring love... But never to the psychotherapist chair 🤔

[@lizziedanse8335]

Girl, I'm just trying to figure out when are they "going their own way" because I can't stop hearing from them OVER HERE!

[@anjaxtv]

😂😂💯

[@Priscilla_Boye]

😂😂😂 never it’s always going to be women’s fault

[@shaypope4732]

​@@lizziedanse8335lol right when are they leaving cause we tied of them trying to detour r those who they left for don't want them either r realize they don't want their discounted love either

[@PridelessChickz]

​@@lizziedanse8335 HONESTLYYYY!!!!😩God bless you in the name of Jesus Christ, who is the name above all names & the only way to Heaven❤

[@roxannecowlesrosado3449]

He wants you to be happy with an ice-cream while walking around a lake. OK, let's see how long he will put up with holding hands, and ONLY holding hands.

[@1984reed]

😂😂😂

[@Coco-nq3vg]

Exactly 💯

[@tonjamanigo]

Right!! That REAL boring love. I'm with it😂😂😂😂

[@irianaav.6120]

OK😂

[@tamiausten873]

Elementary school love, very nice 😂😂😂

[@nikjonestravel]

They don't want the women who want ice cream and walks in the park. They want extravagant women to settle for ice cream and a walk in the park.

[@anka6356]

No lie

[@tashahall1855]

Yup they want a bernice burgos to settle for that ish

[@user-ly3li3ex8c]

And then when he sees the extravagant woman settling for his lower effort, he will start to verbally and emotionally abuse her because he starts to see her as a lower quality woman and will resent her for that. There is absolutely no winning with dating these men.

[@alexxbloomwork]

True

[@juliet4521]

THIS. then they’ll turn on you and ask why you’re so boring when you go along with it and cheat on you 😂

[@shaolinqueen3684]

"My love is boring." Equals "I am stingy, while becoming a burden to you."

[@justinebailey5333]

Exactly

[@IvyNV50]

🎯

[@tessy28]

Broke batty boi

[@Moonpie90]

His dates sound like they'd be great for quality time in a commited relationship but I'm not having a 1st/2nd/3rd date in the dark with a strange man and no witnesses. You think I'm wondering around epping forest with a guy I barely know? No sir, I'm surving this horror movie thank you

[@VerleanHurd]

*surviving.

[@isoldeandseamusclubhouse2863]

For real, stay safe everyone!

[@geperstekop]

Yes, he said walking around a lake in London at night. Most Londoners would instantly tell a woman to run away asap, this dude is a bit off

[@user-ly3li3ex8c]

The romantic thing about going to like a park or lake at night with a guy is that you've already established a relationship with him where you can trust him enough to go do that with him. The trust is the romantic part.

[@RestingVirgoFace]

Exactly when the strange old man says don't go 2 Crystal Lake Teleise ain't going!

[@MsFadir]

"Stay your boring cheap a$$ over there!" These women are on 🔥 with the roasting 😂😂😂

[@redgoddess]

😂😂😂😂

[@Rainsnowreadysetblow]

These brokies are always coming up with new ideas instead of getting their money up. I can't.

[@jt6231]

😂😂😂

[@anka6356]

He's on that podcast instead of working on a business or something

[@teresam5199]

🎯

[@joeshmoe0136]

He didn't say he's broke. He said he's cheap. That's even worse!

[@joyell821]

@@joeshmoe0136 they usually go hand in hand when dealing with Blk men. Lol.

[@Frugality]

Who t.f wants “boring love” 24/7? And don’t men say that they need, “variety” and “spice”?!! Get tf outta here!

[@traceylennon1204]

THANK YOU TF??

[@helgapataki4156]

Okkkkkkkkkk

[@TheTravelingCamellia]

He wants boring love so much he should just stick with self-love, I'm sure he'll be bored as hell. 😂

[@shaypope4732]

​@@helgapataki4156lol y it's saying google translate

[@helgapataki4156]

@@shaypope4732 I'm screaming lol, results "Ok" "Okay" 😂😂😂

[@thesilentdiva]

Walking by the river with someone that has interesting conversation and is an interesting person isn't boring. that can be very romantic. What he is describing in the beginning is CHEAP LOVE. Let's be real

[@Khaegch-favh]

And MOST of these men are SO boring! They don't have anything in their heads or hearts. They have no real experiences to share outside of torturing women and trying to impress men.

[@lizziedanse8335]

And he said with his own mouth. Please believe these dudes, ladies. 😅

[@VerleanHurd]

Facts.

[@tessy28]

He did say he has a poverty peen😂

[@afroaffirmation]

It's not even love (in the beginning), just cheap. and that's ok, but let's call a thing a thing

[@ss-ds2dn]

Imagine if a woman make a similar video promoting low effort on her looks/bedroom skills😂

[@angeljohnson234]

You have to give it to men. They will do anything to avoid becoming a better person.

[@CultureCritic17]

lol yep

[@brittanyb8997]

Lmao, yes you do! They’ll do anything but reflect and evolve 💯

[@Young_squeeze]

@@brittanyb8997look at u lame females in the comments lmao

[@kadiansenoj1849]

Thiss!!!!! Exactly smh

[@shakesinthehouse]

If you’re a high school student or an university student, of course, these types of dates are for you. But if you’re a grown adult with a job, absolutely not.

[@peapod6747]

If these are the only dates you can afford, you shouldnt be dating. Hs and college students need to focus on studying

[@katiepop3442]

When I was in high school guys took on better dates than ice cream cones😁😁😁😁😁🍦🍦🍦🍦🍦

[@joyell821]

@@katiepop3442 they sure did! And I got gifts on a regular basis too. My High School boo always copped me a pair of whatever sneakers he bought himself. 🤣🤣🤣

[@elainehelms4076]

I would enjoy a date like this very much. I just wouldn’t only want that. If you honestly enjoy each other’s company a cheap ice cream & chatting date is great. I want to do other things, too.

[@tessy28]

​@@katiepop3442 even in school the young boys would take their gf's out to nandos or somewhere. Certainly not a £2 ice cream. 😂😂

[@forest288]

So he’s basically asking for free cookie 🍪 but when a women ask for free 💰 they erupt like a volcano 🌋. They think there’s no issue asking a woman for the cookie upfront, no dates no expectations.

[@PridelessChickz]

And yet, s*x is powerful enough to create an ENTIRE human being that I have to worry about for the rest of my life. A fancy dinner and a bouquet of flowers would never cause me such a headache😅

[@VerleanHurd]

Yep, because some women don't require it.

[@forest288]

@@VerleanHurd I see a shift happening with us. A lot of us are recognizing and understanding our worth, requiring men to respect, protect and provide. If we are not receiving that from a guy she’s leaving taking all her feminine essence away. Like u said some women not all.

[@Nitra813]

Mmhmmm 💅🏽

[@maame4592]

Let’s consider the opposite situation: imagine a woman grabs a microphone and says I only offer unattractive love ie. I only offer the type of love where I won’t take care of myself-I won’t shower, dress up or do anything remotely attractive to men. I’m looking for the kind of man who would be happy with me wearing $2 t-shirt from Walmart and headscarf to go out with him and his buddies. My question is, would any man accept this woman’s offer? Would any man run to be with this woman? If not, why should any woman accept the so-called “boring love”?

[@paulbartell]

so essentially decentering men? which I thought y'all were already doing 🤔

[@manyrubies]

@@paulbartelldecentering men is about not showering and not getting dressed and asking men to date them?

[@maame4592]

@@paulbartell Have you ever heard of a thing called a hypothetical scenario? I’m not surprised by your deliberate obtuseness. That is exactly what you men specialize in. And oh, this behavior is exactly why we are decentering men and choosing the bear!

[@paulbartell]

​@@manyrubies but y'all already don't care about the male gaze so who gives af

[@JukuduB]

I see a troll has entered this comment, but I didn't see him say anything to the excellent points from ladies in other comments. 😐

[@ladybug3380]

Boring men are depressing. It’s okay to be chill but you also have to be exciting, there needs to be a balance.

[@VerleanHurd]

He's cheap, and wants you to be okay with his cheapness.

[@MsFadir]

"... jump on his back, on your way back to his Mercedes." 😂😂😂

[@yunisblu3412]

“…..as if he couldn’t hold hand and giggle on the way back from a 5 star ⭐️ restaurant” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@chakydd]

She ATE with that 🤣🤣🤎🤎

[@Moneystayswithme]

😄

[@bajasa123]

I love how they put the music behind it to make it more romantically 😂

[@changes649]

They are trying to make struggle romantic 🎻. He wants to go by the river because he is hiding from the landlord.

[@shaypope4732]

Lmao like pull out the world smallest violin for the bullshit

[@PridelessChickz]

​@@changes649BAHAHAHAHA🤣

[@BabalonNuit]

@@shaypope4732 Where's that tardigrade playing a violin?

[@tessy28]

Romantic rubbish

[@melissa-qe7fp]

Their audacity remains undefeated

[@vivianraw]

If it's okay with you, I'm going to use this.

[@racheluk87]

Don't fall For It ladies! Think about this for a second.. If this man's celebrity crush was truly interested in him, do you really think this guy would be trying to woo her and entertain her with a £2/$1 ice cream cone? Of course not, because not only does he see her value but he also is very well aware that there's going to be so many other men who can provide a lot more, so he would have no choice but to compete with those men. Take it from me, as a woman who once was in a relationship with a guy who I allowed to breadcrumb me and give me the bare minimum because he said he wasn't "into those things", and years later when on to be in a relationship with somebody else where he gives her the world and treats her like a queen, they only do that for the ones they truly care about. Say no to this nonsense!

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Amen thank you ❤

[@MsFadir]

I was almost falling for it 🥲

[@arigodut]

Why are we still listening to Derrick? Please stop. We should not listen to him. At all.

[@melissa-qe7fp]

They only do for the ones they truly care about 💯💯💯💯

[@Moonpie90]

It's more like £2/$2.50 conversion rate, but he's not finding that in London. £5/$6 for a Mr. Whippy with a flake in London

[@HaleyJo1992]

Why do men who like things low-key go after high-maintenence women? Go for who you're compatible with

[@Monica-l5b]

If they see a woman is already treating herself to nice things, and he can convince her to date him, it’s a win-win for him. He gets the ego boost and admiration of other men, plus he’s probably thinking she’s got money to spend on him too. They want to be the princess. Hard pass.

[@kiowah231]

They like the idea of “humbling a woman.”

[@tessy28]

These are the soft drizzle drizzle boys looking to be treated like princesses

[@Monica-l5b]

Like she said, there are plenty of women who will accept cheap dates. But they want the ones who spend thousands on our hair, nails, and wardrobe. They can’t afford us so they try to guilt us into accepting them broke and depleted. Hard pass.

[@anka6356]

Imagine spending all that time getting dolled up and they take you by the lake for mosquitoes to attack you That's creepy

[@tessy28]

​@@anka6356 God forbid

[@Bewise-gq4ru]

​@@anka6356🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@lizziedanse8335]

Did he say Poverty Pen!s??? 💀😂🤣😂💀🤣😂🤣💀

[@stoogie375]

dead😂😂😂

[@shaypope4732]

Lmao sure did

[@shani.ninety]

Stop 😂😂😂

[@krisl6537]

I may hate the guy but that took me straight out! 😂😂😂😂

[@tessy28]

The honesty was too real

[@FutureBillionaire1111]

The things dusties do and say to make themselves look respectable!😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@alyssah8756]

And in the 1990s we called them A scrub now they are rebranded as diaries then now they’re boring love. Lol

[@redgoddess]

He is quite right, we dont want that! Say no to cheap love. If he is cheap in the beginning expect to struggle😂😂

[@changes649]

It only goes down hill from there.

[@shaypope4732]

U can do bad all by yourself if he's not giving he's taking

[@AIBot929]

Exactly, the okie dok right into struggle love.

[@anka6356]

@@changes649 He'll have you on some 75/25 in no time. You putting in 75 that is

[@chocolatemomof4]

Always and forever.

[@lexiegonz]

The romantic music playing in the background makes this top-tier comical

[@shaypope4732]

Lmao he's trying to sweeten up his bullshit with soft sweet music

[@MsFadir]

@@shaypope4732 And a soft sweet voice.

[@lexiegonz]

Tryna drown out the BS

[@otuawan]

Using H.E.R for this nonsense 😂

[@traceylennon1204]

You ci'ant trick me, you ci'ant trick me!! 😂😂😂

[@foxylady6901]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@pynklady11]

I cried laughing at that😂😂😂😂😂

[@SmileySaidIt]

😂😂😂😂

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Tell them gyal!!!😂😂😂😂

[@shaypope4732]

Yardie nuh seh him a try trick har dwl

[@bgm8311]

When I tell my friends I don’t like cheap dates and certainly don’t want to date someone who’s financially struggling, they all call me materialistic and say I have high standards. I take myself out to nice dinners on random Wednesdays and go on solo vacations… I don’t accept low effort from myself, and I'm not going to accept low effort from men either.

[@anka6356]

Yes, you have high standards, that's a compliment. While they have low standards. What does that say about them, they're admitting they're below you

[@gojosgirl6487]

Those aren't even high standards, they're just BASIC. But of course they seem high to someone on the bottom. They consider respect to be a "high standard"

[@tessy28]

Those aren't even ridiculously high standards. You just have a baseline of where you would like to be treated your friends are just used to struggle love with men.

[@SABRINA11511]

Very nice!

[@WhoAuthorizedThis]

Your friends need to get their self esteem up and realize that what you’re asking for is basic af. They may be pick mes. Stay safe because women like that will low key try to get you to accept the dumb shit they accept because misery loves company.

[@TheCarnivoreSoprano]

.Can't rebrand garbage. It's still garbage. He said his love is cheap. Already told you.

[@shaypope4732]

Think he's going treat u as u want think I'm going to spend ur cash I won'tttt my love don't cost a thing

[@schokococoa575]

Yup so cheap anybody can get it. Not worth it🚮

[@Carameldamour]

These dudes just think we as a collective are slow. This is how they get them 25 y.o. The clock is clocking! We don't want boring love, we want excitement. Nice dinners and long walks. 2gallons gelato in Italy 😂😂😂😂😂 boy bye!!!!!

[@awilliams7796]

Oh hell no, I'm 24 and neither me nor the girlies are accepting ice cream/coffee/walk/McDonald's dates...not even a question

[@legslikewhoa]

I’m down for a walk and ice cream in Paris, or Antalya, or Athens, or Rodeo Dr… you get the picture. NOT on skid row.

[@changes649]

The reason why she has to jump on his back, is so they can run away from the vagabond that is trying to rob them for their $1 ice-cream.

[@shaypope4732]

Paris smells like pee Athens have the best snowboarding events Antalya paragliding events but I get what you mean

[@stephanies9071]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@Bewise-gq4ru]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣​@@changes649

[@amnaa9305]

guys say stuff like this but most women want balance, a man who can spend but is also willing to put thought into less expensive dates that are still romantic and memorable, most men though are too lazy and bummy to do either

[@kaeg.7800]

I've done those boring dates and still was treated badly. this might just be in my area (Atlanta area), but when a man can tell that you're low maintenance or they find you unconventionally attractive, they take that as a cue to not try. they think you should be grateful for their mediocrity. they assume all you should get is low effort dates & səx bc of how they perceive you. stuff like that is why I'm glad I'm single. those types of men usually stressed me out.

[@marydabiri2713]

Funny thing is there are women who would willingly do those days but because they mess up and treat those women so badly they ruin it for themselves.

[@TheArtPaige]

Atlanta is pretty bad for dating because most men are DL and lots of women are desperate pick-mes. Date out and see if you can get remote work out of state. Remote work has flexibility so you'd be able to travel more.

[@khrisi9410]

Date out and date older. I refuse to date men my age. I had to find my niche which was to hang out in wealthy zip codes, only men who are 15 to 25 yrs older than me and slightly unattractive and likes me 10xs more. I'm the beauty ok 😂. Women have to be strategic now days. Take an assessment of what isn't working and do something different. Ironically I met my current beau whose blk but he's 20 yrs older and quite wealthy.

[@changes649]

Also, if he wants to put in low effort, then the female should put in low effort too. Wear a head scarf when yall go out, don't put on makeup, make sure your nails are not done, and put on sweats. It should not be just the love that is boring. Dressing up, makeup, jewelry and hair well done is for the restaurants not the park. Sweats and regular shorts or jeans is for the park.

[@VerleanHurd]

Okay, I agree with everything, but the scarf. Stop it.

[@user-ly3li3ex8c]

That's only slightly better if you don't have the option to immediately just get away from him

[@silververnallbells191]

@@VerleanHurd There's nothing wrong with a scarf. If it's good enough for a babushka then it's good enough for you.

[@changes649]

@@VerleanHurd There is gonna be water cause he wants to walk by the river. A female needs to protect her hair if there is any chance it might get wet. I did not say bonnet, I said scarf. Meaning it could be any head covering. There are very nice head coverings out there these days that are meant to be worn outside.

[@BNicoleJackson]

"Most women don't want boring love" I never thought I'd agree with a man on a podcast this much. He's right that's not what I want at all.

[@MizMorgue1]

I didn't even know this was a thing! Lol

[@every1needstacos801]

🗣️Say NO to struggle love 🙄

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Challenges in relationships are part of the journey, but there’s always a way to move forward. My own marriage had significant hurdles, but with the right help, my wife and I overcame them and grew stronger. With effort and cooperation, solutions can be found. Keep your hope-solutions are within reach.

[@oglaskubuot]

I’m dealing with major issues in my relationship and can't imagine losing her. I love and miss her dearly and am prepared to do whatever is needed to have her back in my life. Any advice or direction you can offer would mean a lot to me.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

Learning to let someone you love go is always a tough journey, but in my case, I had the wisdom of a spiritual mentor who kept my marriage from crumbling. Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters.

[@oglaskubuot]

I appreciate your direction. I'll swiftly look her up online. Thanks. I'm hopeful that following this course of action will bring about positive changes for me too; her absence is deeply felt.

[@Newtonwilson-yw4kg]

You should

[@legslikewhoa]

He could get a dog and every time he says the word walk, the dog is going to be so excited and jumping up and down! I don’t know what these folks have against pets. They do fill a certain void. And there is doggy ice cream in the frozen section of the grocery. I’m not even being funny. Maybe they need to experience platonic companionship, and pets can help with that immensely.

[@shaypope4732]

Right he can get everything he needs from the pet instead of bringing anyone else in his struggle bus

[@anka6356]

@@shaypope4732 Assuming he can afford a pet. Vets are expensive. he wants you to pay for his pet

[@silververnallbells191]

Pets provide unconditional love & need daily care. They're not toys & they have feelings/emotions & intuition. For example: if your dog gets their hackles raised & starts growling every time someone comes around (not territorial barking, but watch for that, too) but straight up growling when you bring a m@n around.. that m@n is no good. A lot of hitchhikers have dogs & if the dogs start growling then they don't get in the car. This goes A LOT into a man saying he wants a woman to be his peace. M@N, YOU GOTTA BE YOUR OWN PEACE FIRST. Your Home IS your sanctuary. If you can't make it peaceful for you @ least make it peaceful for your pet which WILL help you make it peaceful for yourself, because pets are scientifically proven to lower anxiety.

[@legslikewhoa]

@@silververnallbells191 💯 maybe they speak ill of pets because those animals see their true spirit!

[@bluebutterfly5062]

They can't make love with a dog I mean, they could, but she won't make him dinner after 😂

[@JCsDaughter610]

He’s repurposing the term cheap for “boring love”! This is allll manipulation, flipping it on women, to show they’re the problem. However, he’s not. They’re so mad women are waking up to their lies/ con artistry! 🙂🙃

[@AnnerzDrum]

I like boring love, but you need to woo me first sorry. I'm very boring but boys always swerve when I'm around so 🤷🏿‍♀️ ... At the end of the day men always get bored and tend to treat u badly or leave you.

[@Misdee86]

Not Derrick Jxn talking about internships 😂😂

[@shaypope4732]

Right why is he even in the video frfr when he did his wife dirty asl

[@proudblkqueen1067]

I was hoping someone was going to point him out. The whole ordeal with his life is too much and he has the nerve to say something about another man. Boy byeee!!

[@Vanyro0]

Ok so it wasn't just me who was wondering what he was doing there. Personally he's bankrupt of credibility, I never thought I'd hear his voice again lolll

[@VerleanHurd]

Who better than an ain't shit man to tell you about ain't shit men.😂😂😂😂

[@tessy28]

He should go and sit down somewhere mumu man

[@logicandwisdom]

Just when you thought they couldn't get any worse...the British BM enter the chat

[@MsFadir]

Bloody h3ll! (In me Stewie Griffin's voice) 😂😂😂

[@lizziedanse8335]

I'm sorry but I'm scared of those jawnts... Shout out to the sisters in the UK going through it because peak BM coonery seems to thrive in Europe. They on a Hellmouth, girl. 😅

[@irianaav.6120]

😂😂

[@changes649]

The BBs. British Brokies? 😂😂😂

[@shaypope4732]

​@@changes649BBS broke bastards

[@daishawilliams8301]

Now don't get me wrong some women like a simple date but it would be nice to go to a nice restaurant or to the movies it has to be a balance between genuine love and pretend love never settle for less.

[@BigBrotherGnE]

So very true.

[@shaypope4732]

It's a big difference between simple but classy n demure and low quality airpie effort dates

[@tashahall1855]

Walking in the park is not a date lol. You could literally meet a stranger while walking in the park and strike up a conversation. Nothing special about it and beyond cheap. We can talk on the phone to get to know each other a little better b4 a real date.

[@traceylennon1204]

It might work for teenage girls, but not for grown women!

[@Suhaylyalloo]

The young girls aren't getting tricked either, this is a new generation 😝

[@KompassOhneNadel]

This is his plan!

[@ajmpbangtanminyoongi]

Young women alr know better thanks to sheraseven and these videos 😂

[@Kelema86]

Why he call it “boring love” instead of “cheap love”? Because the stuff he described isn’t necessarily boring, just cheap. It will get boring in the long run if that’s all we do. Like damn we can’t even go see a movie or a play? I guess that’s too expensive too. Literally all this man will do with you is walk you around bodies of water and giggle 😂

[@Everydayisagood11]

And around that body of water he shall walk. Because he cyant trick meh.

[@VerleanHurd]

I would have no problem with his boring love. As long as hes not asking for my priceless cookie.

[@rgeorge8618]

For some men, “boring love” is awesome, UNTIL it’s reciprocated. For men who only give “boring love,” what does being the recipient of boring love look like? Maybe romance without intimacy, an ice cream dinner date, long romantic walks in the park, and maybe a word puzzle to wrap up the evening?

[@tashahall1855]

Just say no to clowns like in the video, treat yourself; and invest in some good toys to help with urges. Most men are useless once you take away the physical even for a limited time.

[@nurlindafsihotang49]

And E.D !!!! one minute man!😂

[@Trinitytruth7]

Or the flip side is when you are both coming into your own financially in early dating as young adults and he buys you a Walmart ring but he has $3K rims on his used BMW. Or he buys you an H&M cashmere sweater but he’s wearing $500 Jays. Men will give you the bare minimum while he spends his money on Louis XIII shots, gamble yearly on Super Bowl pools or new car after car. Men date at their financial level…if you think once he gets a 6 figure income or better and he will now marry you, you are delusional and fooling yourself. Men like that are fearful the woman who saw him at his lowest will verbally or mentally remind him of that “shameful” time…and he will get the woman who can now see him at his best.

[@tashahall1855]

That and most men with more money want a woman who looks " better".

[@amilllion1]

Years, please ! He will have you on your back in 3-5 business days! He’ll be like “this date was so fun , let’s go to your place “😂! “I don’t want it to end”.❤ lazy love

[@changes649]

Why can't women do that after dinner at a nice restaurant? That is called compromise. Many nice restaurants are in nice areas where they can do that. Men don't want to compromise. They want to give you the bear bones minimum and want you to be happy with it. Then, when their dream girl acts a date from them, then all that boring love goes out the window. My younger sisters, don't fall for it.

[@user-ly3li3ex8c]

Even with their dream girl, they will start to get bored if they think of girls like ice cream flavors (especially with sex) and his mask will eventually fall off with her after she has made significant investment in being with him. Being their dream girl is only very nice in the beginning before the real pain starts.

[@paulatk44]

A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

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[@paulatk44]

That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?

[@JohnWicked-fx3cs]

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[@paulatk44]

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[@barefootedbougie]

Yeah we can take walks and talk during a little international trip, sir. I was doing the 2£ ice cream as a TEENAGER. I don’t even do 2£ ice cream with my female friends. Don’t waste my time 😂 “With Jhene Aiko playing in the background” 😩🤣

[@shaypope4732]

I guess he thought he could sweeten it up with soft music so u get distracted by his words n low effort

[@silververnallbells191]

True! I don't do cheap ice cream dates for ladies night. We go to this nice Italian restaurant in town. It was starting to click in my head reading these comments to not settle for anyone who doesn't at least treat me like I treat me, but you really nailed it home. Thanks! (I don't see myself dating anytime soon, but I plan on being picky if I ever do & due to experiences of the past, I also plan on being picky w/any new friends & I AM actively seeking new friends in my new area!)

[@barefootedbougie]

@@silververnallbells191 I love this! Proud of you for realizing picking the right friends is just as important. For a long time I was more focused on keeping my life dusty free but allowing the wrong friends around me. Learnt my lessons the hard way.

[@relaxandasmr5793]

Kind of off topic, but I had a dream last night that I finally stopped dating for love and dated for money. In the dream, sitting in a sports car heading to a date with a man old enough to be my father, I thought to myself, "THIS is what I should be doing. This is the life I deserve." When I woke up, I can't tell you how happy and excited I felt, it's crazy. If you want to be wined and dined, get jewelry every Christmas and fancy dinners and trips every holiday, YOU DESERVE TO HAVE THAT. Don't let any broke man tell you that you aren't a good person if you want that or aren't deserving of that, because you are! Manifest that shit ladies. If boring love isn't for you, maybe it's because YOU aren't boring and YOU want more for yourself.

[@silververnallbells191]

I will say two things. 1. Be wary of older men. They can be manipulative & put you through the ringer. 2. OFC not every older man is like that & I hope you manifest a good one that can give you the charm life that you crave!

[@yvonnejohnson6811]

FOR ALL THE UK LADIES... what Mr Whippy in King Charles United Kingdom is selling ice cream for £2????? That man can't even afford ice cream that realistically cost 2-3 times his boring ice cream in his head!!!!!

[@tessy28]

Listen even McDonald's flurry is more than £2 in London 😂

[@mariancounsellor]

Even a magnum from the corner shop costs more than £2..I'd rather he bought me that lol!

[@Goddess_Infinity]

No it’s the IG models that they are talking about majority or women aren’t IG models and would love this kind of relationship but your not their “preference “ .

[@tashahall1855]

Im not an ig model and still wouldnt settle for this low treatment. Number 1 bc i treat myself better, so no man is gonna treat me lesser. These men talking that mess are no GQ models themselves so they should be putting in some work to get a woman even if shes not a 10.

[@Goddess_Infinity]

@@tashahall1855 I agree . I’m stating that these men want the top of the line women but want them at little to no cost .

[@tashahall1855]

​​@@Goddess_Infinityi think these men know they cant get top of the line women, if they could a podcast would be the last place to find them. Ive had men not many try to come at me with this settle for less mess and they got curved. These men will run game on any woman that is half way attractive . I think more everyday women are waking up and thats the problem

[@tashahall1855]

​@@Goddess_Infinitythey may want top of the line women but this message isnt for them. There are still some everyday women like myself that wont settle for walks in the park and ice cream. Ive had men try me with the low efforts and they failed. The problem is more women are slowly waking up. You think ig models respond or even watch guys like that lol

[@Goddess_Infinity]

@@tashahall1855 You are having a hard time understanding my statement. They want but can’t have . They want us to settle for the least but try to impress the IG models with all of their resources. But they also no that the IG models can be able to get with the top men. The 6’5 , finance , trust fund .

[@Fire_Moon_Tarot]

Was that Derrick Jackson?🤨😂

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Yeah unfortunately 😂😂😂

[@lizziedanse8335]

Why is he still talking?😅

[@changes649]

​@@lizziedanse8335Cause even he knows it is bull$hit 😂😂😂

[@just_g7140]

@@lizziedanse8335 OK!!! I thought we been ignored that man

[@OGfromQueens]

I had to just tell a man from my past that popped up that I would not let him burden me!!! You cyan fool mi up enuh!!!!

[@shaypope4732]

Dwl nuh him a try fi spin di block den get block lol

[@OGfromQueens]

@@shaypope4732 cause he d@mn sure got BLOCKED!!

[@tessy28]

He shouldn't even be able to pop up. Block them

[@NectarousD]

Note his definition of "boring love" is him spending as little money and effort as possible, not the boring love of no toxicity, partnership, emotional intelligence, genuine love, and fidelity.

[@Coco-nq3vg]

Okay fine. So i am showing up to a walking date with sneakers, sweatpants and no maintenance and watch those cheap men comabain.

[@mun3698]

It comes down to wanting proof that they can provide for potential children (and for the woman as she raises them). That’s why we want men with money (and/or are good with it). How they’ve changed the narrative that that is selfish is wild. It’s not about love, it’s about caring for the next generation in the proper way and it isn’t about spreading your rotten seed because you want a good time

[@tessy28]

Listen this is SOOOO important.

[@In_TheHouse]

@mun3698 Exactly! Preach

[@SmileySaidIt]

I can’t stand them forreal.

[@lolarose4]

Some things are overthought 💯 He said MOST women don’t want men like him. That’s “his” love story, “his” preference.. & that’s ok. Don’t date him

[@unicorn73212]

Wanting a guy for Sex or money is different from the guy you love they think women love them when they offer these things but some of us don't because they never actually loved us if they did they would stop pushing these things onto women. I actually think if I ever had a soul mate he probably passed away. That's the real reason women are so unhappy they won't let women have a preference in who we date and they made it impossible for women to date men there own age. They started by depriving us of friendships and our virginity then they started controlling each other too and trying to get women to compete with each other for there attention by comparing us. Best advice to all women is to stop taking there advice especially if there not married and there relationships aren't healthy there trying to trick you by making it seem like there relationship are healthy but behind closed doors there probably fighting all the time. They don't even want her to have her own personality, money, or identity because that would mean she could raise her standards and have better options.

[@lolarose4]

@@unicorn73212 Most people in relationships are definitely unhappy & women accept too much from men (it’s never worth it). I’ve been single for 2 years, & I think I will be forever lol

[@Ms.Love523]

You got me fucked up all the way to the moon if you think I’m gonna accept a walk and ice cream as THE date.

[@soufia5536]

* a 2 pounds ice cream 😂

[@tessy28]

I would rather hoover a beach 🏖

[@Ms.Love523]

@@soufia5536 😭😭

[@Ms.Love523]

@@tessy28 Sounds like a much better time 🙌🏾

[@SheSavvySavage]

No woman wants to describe her life or her love life as boring. Anything that is exciting, entertaining, and adventurous requires effort. It requires the ability to spend money, travel and do activities. I always say women need to have our own money and be smart enough not to give money to men. Men need their own money that they earn by themselves. Stop cohabitating with men because women should live on our own, with other women, or with family. Cohabitation and casual anything is a set up, not a good option. Other women learned that the hard way and that's a lesson no one needs to learn through experience.

[@shaypope4732]

So true it's better living alone as u r ur only concern n responsibility

[@justacutie5201]

At least he admitted it's cheap 😂😂

[@fantym1633]

Cheap. As opposed toinexpensive. There be a world of difference. Sounds like he's a gold digger coz you *know* he still gonna want you to give up your "gold" (cookie). The moonlight walk around the lake is just the spot where he plans to *take* it

[@silververnallbells191]

@@fantym1633 Don't go anywhere woodsy with someone you don't intrinsically trust. No cliffs, no lakes, no forests.. NONE of that! No, sir, I do not want to hike with you! Be blunt if you have to.. more & more women are winding up de@d going on these types of d@tes even w/people she trusted. Stay alive, stay safe!

[@Moonpie90]

Boring is fine. I like steady and sweet. But I still expect more than the bare minimum. I'm low maintenance and casual. They are looking at high maintenance women who put effort in, they better be ready to maintain them and match that effort and energy

[@GuavaClouds]

If I was a man I'd never treat a love interest like that. Matter of fact, as a woman, if I'm interested in another woman, I'm not coming like that. I respect you and would like to show you a nice experience in exchange for some time in your schedule. We are grown, not teenagers.

[@TheNdygo]

GURL, you adding Derrick Jxson is the chef's kiss! 😂😂😂😂

[@juliannesharpe3066]

It is like men who say they like/prefer/love the "natural-looking" women, who are low maintenance etc. Yet, they value and chase the so-called fake ones! PLEASE!!!!

[@lola-ford]

19 seconds ago is crazy

[@Priscilla_Boye]

❤❤❤ 🤗

[@lola-ford]

@@Priscilla_Boye Heyyy!! I watch you every morning during work! Have a blessed day!

[@diamond852]

Why did this include a serial cheater as "one of the good ones" when he left his "boring" wife for the kind of woman he actually always wanted but couldn't get without the help of said wife?

[@ericahaynes4322]

He is giving an example. For us to know who to avoid

[@diamond852]

@@ericahaynes4322 From watching his clip in this video and without knowing anything else about him, who would know he's an example of who to avoid?

[@jojobrown2504]

The mental workings of a man is fascinating. Men really expect women to be happy with the bare minimum and act as if they are doing something amazing when they give you breadcrumbs. It’s odd. Maybe this stems from childhood idk. As soon as you become their gf, all the things they promised you is nonexistent. Dated a guy just like this for a couple months , he asked me out so quickly which was a red flag. But in the time I was with him I felt miserable and unsatisfied. Romantically , emotionally etc. I’m so happy I ended it.

[@jazzygirl4140]

These people don't know what "boring" love is. Boring love is a quiet, healthy relationship that most are too toxic to be in. Not fighting every day, not wondering where the other person is, actually spending time together and communicating with one another. Addressing whatever issues arise in an adult-like manner. Being respectful of one another. Being able to sit in the house and lead a sensible life. Boring love IS not minimal effort. This stuff if becoming more and more laughable every day. I swear.

[@---tc8km]

These are the kind of men that will spend the entirety of that walk talking about themselves and how amazing they are, while not noticing / caring you are bored AF.

[@sunnyvasic]

What he means is giving the side chick all the gifts time amd attention 😅

[@Caram3l_Bombsh3ll]

$2 ice cream is for boys in middle school / high school not “grown” men. I get it, no one wants to be used but you can’t expect someone to lower their standards to accommodate you. Find a lane that you fit in. There’s plenty of people willing to accept the bare minimum. I love how they are constantly trying to reinvent the wheel 😅

[@alyssah8756]

Also they wanna play video games when not taking you out on date . “See I told you I’m boring “

[@stephr126]

If you’re broke, just say that sir. These men want to be princesses so bad 🤣🤣🤣

[@bre9502]

See how he slid in cheap after he said “boring love” so many times….

[@johannawebley4101]

Not the Derrick Jxn clip! 😂🤣💀

[@haileys5371]

Tht made me cringe... Bcz those things shld occur based on the moment, to plan to jump on a man's back eww, also is everyone you date as a man expected to jump on your bck. Plus all he talks about is him not having to spend more than £2, that's not boring it's cheap.

[@jam_is_jammin]

'Like a duck!" 🤣 I'm pretty sure I can be boring by myself at a fancy restaurant or on a cruise. These days, women have their own money and are pampering themselves. Move out the way, Boring Love, you're holding me back.

[@ceecollette6708]

A boring relationship is supposed to be low drama/stress, not low-effort. These 🥷s 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@LemonClarkMedia]

Yawn. They’ll research to the ends of the earth for the best mics to spout BS in or their favorite sports team,but won’t look up creative(affordable) date ideas. Also, Derrick Jaxn still giving women advice after waging emotional warfare on his ex wife is laughable.

[@ariahlea]

Thank you! The effort is definitely lacking. Also, Derrick apparently knows how to run his mouth but not stay faithful. Ughh.

[@mariancounsellor]

Who wants boring love or boring anything in life? One of my must-haves is effort so we can do the walk after we eat at a nice restaurant. I go for a walk every day in the park anyway and I can buy myself ice cream. The guy is just saying he's cheap and he wants the women he dates to accept it. I agree that sometimes doing things like cuddling up, staying home, or low-cost activities is fine once you're in a relationship, but in a relationship, both people should make the effort.

[@trinnysaysno]

Boring? They think "Struggle Love" is exciting for us? Just no thank you!

[@TheHarveyTruth]

We need for his exes to come out and tell their story. This is a pick me manipulation tactic BM are using to get with women. He should just come out and say he’s cheap. Boring love is another word for I’m cheap.

[@thecliff4670]

He's trying to bring you down to his level. 😂😂 Ice cream dates are fine but not the norm unless you're married and building together. Dating is dating and you're going to need a decent budget. It won't cost much if you don't try to date 6 women at a time.

[@Egress00]

When did simple intimate activities suddenly become boring love? You can still do those things AND put effort into appreciating and loving your girl by taking her out on dates and exchanging gifts 💀 Most happy relationships do both

[@mladeau2105]

Only McDonalds ice cream is £2.00, if he can't afford London ice cream prices, he needs to forget about boring love and get a better job. Guy in the beginning is actually describing teenage love.

[@femmefatale71]

Right! A cone from a Ice Cream Van is like £8 now days!!! Delusional & Dusty🤣❤.

[@missnatcula]

No gifts on xmas just to be dumped come spring. Never again. I'm disabled and still got him expensive things...what was his excuse? Didn't even want to hear it. Disrespectful.

[@Letstalkaboutit2323]

Shera once said walks in the park are for dogs, I haven’t been on a walk in the park bare minimum bread crumming cheap date since then.

[@Spice_Curl]

He doesn't want to be seen on the town with you because he may run into the other girls he's seeing.

[@shaypope4732]

He wants top notch fila milgon women on a temu budget

[@jam_is_jammin]

Fr. I'm not waxing my pits for a piggy back ride. Armpit maintenance costs more than the ice cream. Just sayin'.

[@shani.ninety]

@@jam_is_jammin 😂😂

[@tessy28]

Reminds me of the guy that bought his girl a temu engagement ring.😂

[@dangelamarx80]

I agree ! If you want to know what kind of women a Man wants…. Listen to the ones he talks bad about !!!

[@cobaltblue26]

Those ice-cream dates and walks in the parks are what you RE-INTRODUCE back into a relationship when a couple needs to go back to the simple basics to gain fresh perspective. Abeg, I can’t be eating ice cream every damn day of my life. Love is about big gestures too.

[@victoriadream]

My ex was “boring”.. I got him lawyer for his car accident from last June & he ghosted me for another woman 3 months before his settlement payout - mind you I was put through emotional & mental & physical & verbal & financial abuse. I would offer to pay for dates just to go outside of my house because we were always inside my house.. he did not want to go out especially if i was paying cuz it made him feel bad.. So the new girl - he was meeting up with her one to two times a week after our second year anniversary… that was in February. My bday was march. I dumped him the day after because he prioritized his chase tag competition & showed up empty handed the day before, day of & after… he continued to meet up w the new girl but suddenly had money to go rock climbing w her @ a venue u have to pay.

[@victoriadream]

@whoisnicodemus new girl: #tianawebberley

[@Priscilla_Boye]

Glad you left him you deserve way better than that.

[@roramoya]

If you can't afford to be dating, just say that.

[@blaackberry]

Nah he right! And Ladies dont forget to give boring love in return! Be kids again! Take those cheap/free dates and then hold hands and kiss and thats it. That real BORING love 😂 He wont last 3 months 💀

[@Suhaylyalloo]

Derrick was talking about his wife 😂