Struggling with Miscarriages & Healing

[@Cloggindancer]

I've lost 5 babies to miscarriages and each one was so hard. Finally, I went to see a natural family practitioner and she prescribed me folate- the biological form of folic acid, which my body absorbed so much better. She also helped me address a progesterone deficiency. All of this lead to three healthy pregnancies and babies. My heart hurts for mothers who have lost babies- I'm with you and praying for you ❤

[@ashleyslack5960]

Napro doctors are a God send, truly!

[@martaacosta4415]

You’re so blessed, Heather. Jesus helped you handle the loss of James and you know your little one is with Him. Your other lost babies must surely be with Him also. I also have 5 children and never had a miscarriage, but after my fifth, my husband (at the time) insisted I get a tubal ligation. I don’t know why I gave in but I almost immediately regretted it. Naturally, I confessed this and confession helped, but I I grieved tremendously the loss of my fertility. I still grieve for that loss, that self-maiming, and my youngest child is now 44 years old! I will always grieve the loss of my fertility and of the potential children that might have been conceived and born from my womb. I am now 70 and remarried to a very fine man.At our age now we live as brother and sister and are very happy. But I will always grieve for my mistake, my destruction of my fertility, my saying no to Jesus.

[@HSingMomto5Kids]

I've had 5 as well. No one ever wants to listen. The hardest thing ever.

[@maryfrey]

"Five I can hold and three in heaven." What a beautiful sentiment, Heather. ❤ So kind of you to do this video to help others. ❤

[@TheHumbleConvert]

Im currently in the middle of a miscarriage right now and just got “cleared” that it isn’t ectopic. So Im thankful for that but sad that it’s happening. This is so timely!

[@aleksia123]

I was so moved by your dream about James, it truly is a beautiful reminder that our babies are with Jesus in heaven. Thank you for sharing such a personal experience. 🌷❤️

[@ashleyslack5960]

I would gently make the correction, that we do NOT know that our babies in Heaven. That is not Catholic teaching, not now, not ever, despite what secular sources reported some years ago. We DO have enormous reason to hope though. We must not spread this error simply because we are grieving. There are huge implications to assume the sacraments are optional for our salvation. May God blanket you in His peace and love. I have hope my Bernadette, and all lost preborn children, are in Heaven but as we say as Catholics... Jesus I trust in You! No matter what their eternal destination is.

[@amyr4777]

I healed and came to peace in Adoration. Adoration has helped me at many times in my life.

[@ACatholicMomsLife]

Yes! Adoration is so amazing!

[@TriciaPerry-mz7tc]

@@ACatholicMomsLife *****IS MARY OMNIPRESENT?? Answer this question!! Yes or no The Catholic doctrine of the eternal virginity of Mary is not supported by the Scripture. They claim these others were sons of Joseph by a former wife, but there is no biblical foundation for this nor for the perpetual virginity of Mary. The Bible only teaches us that Joseph kept her a virgin until after the birth of Jesus (see Matt. 1:18-25 below). When Jesus told John to take her into HIS HOME….. You are adding to the scriptures to say it means for us to take her into our house. If God is in us by the Holy Ghost Mary If she is according to you all? In heaven how can she be in our home ⁉️ Catholic Church teaching another Christ and gospel and use words not in scripture or proven to say otherwise. It’s a false doctrine to pray Hail Mary. It’s not what Jesus told us to do at all. No one in the Bible PRAYED HAIL MARY

[@jannier9766]

I had two miscarriages before we had our son. My first miscarriage happened on a Wednesday. We went to church on Sunday and a lady came up to us and said, “isn’t it about time you two start having babies!” 😢 I was already so deeply sad and had to say that we had a miscarriage on Wednesday. She said she was sorry and quickly walked away. Hopefully, she never did that again. People should not say things like that. They don’t know what painful things people are going through and end up adding to their pain.

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

Every time I see a pregnant woman my heart and face as a single 28 year old man desiring to be a husband and father one day lights up. I can’t help but ask her how she’s doing and wish her the best of joy even in the hard times asking her how I can pray for her. Even when I see little children especially with their mothers I can’t help but want to be happy and gentle with them and participate in their joy. It’s amazing how God is teaching me how he truly cares and thinks of us as his children when I see these things. It’s just heart warming and melts even the most bitter and coldest parts of me away. It’s why I am praying for all those men and women called to be spouses and parents one day because Satan has done a terrifying job of destroying the family unit in modern culture.

[@louiseb_____3592]

Unbelievable! Some people are so inappropriate and they don’t even know about it, props to you for giving this lady a life lesson

[@magrock151]

Amen!

[@mariannatodd7010]

I miss my little one so much, after almost 8 years. I'm always just a thought or 2 away from tears. Praying for all mothers who have suffered loss....

[@andreae5417]

I’ve never clicked so fast! I recently miscarried our 18 week boy. Healing has been mentally and physically hard. Praying for you and all mamas who have lost a child 🩵🕊️

[@karenjohnson5634]

I’m so sorry to hear of your loss!!!😢😢😢 Praying for your healing! I can’t imagine losing a baby that far along. I lost mine between 8-10 weeks.

[@Justyouraverageguy172]

Every time I see a pregnant woman my heart and face as a single 28 year old man desiring to be a husband and father one day lights up. I can’t help but ask her how she’s doing and wish her the best of joy even in the hard times asking her how I can pray for her. Even when I see little children especially with their mothers I can’t help but want to be happy and gentle with them and participate in their joy. It’s amazing how God is teaching me how he truly cares and thinks of us as his children when I see these things. It’s just heart warming and melts even the most bitter and coldest parts of me away. It’s why I am praying for all those men and women called to be spouses and parents one day because Satan has done a terrifying job of destroying the family unit in modern culture.

[@franjajorgaarnsek4316]

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[@danedmdan]

Averageguy172, great comment my friend!! May the Lord help you marry a great woman and have many children God willing, as soon as possible!! Blessed Mother Mary and Saint Michael, pray for us! God bless

[@retrorenegade1967]

Thank you for this video Heather ❤I'm so sorry for your losses. I lost my first pregnancy/baby last year, then I quickly regained my period and I conceived my daughter I am currently pregnant with on one try. Everything happened so fast, an emotional roller coaster and it was hard to process. After the loss I went to a priest and asked for "blessing for parents after miscarriage" and it was comforting to recieve that blessing and speak to him about it. Anyway, God bless ❤

[@molliec4719]

I have struggled with secondary infertility and miscarriages due to an autoimmune diseases. God blessed us with one perfect baby, and that is more than enough for us! I felt so much peace once we decided to move on and be done. The hardest part is the judgement from others, who have no idea what our struggles have been like. Being done having children has brought me closer to God by not focusing on getting pregnant all of the time. ❤

[@LenaSheppard]

Thanks for doing this. My oldest daughter would have turned 20 years old this year. I appreciate you so much for being here !

[@stefanielynn84]

I'm so sorry for your losses. I had a miscarriage a few years ago. We named the baby Mary. Just a few weeks ago I had an ectopic pregnancy. We named him Andrew. I have a St Andrew bracelet to remember him, and a Mary of Bethany Keychain for my other baby. We pray for them and feel like we have a special little connection to heaven with our babies there. There is a beautiful icon called "He Who Loves the Innocent" that I want to get for our home.

[@CFW1]

Your dream about James is beautiful. What a gift the Lord gave you through that dream. I had a miscarriage when I was 47....am currently 59. We have our Samuel in heaven praying for us. Sometime I might share our story about that. Hugs to you, Heather.

[@keedee3104]

Oh Heather my heart grieves with you and anyone else who has lost. ❤

[@corramac9603]

I’m sorry to hear about your miscarriages and struggles. I can pray for you patience understanding if you would like.

[@BratKatUzar]

Thank you for sharing your heart with us. The dream about James is so powerful and so profound! It also gave you some closure. I have had such doubts that my babies are in heaven. And there are so many priestly talks that I wish I didn't listen to.. and my husband has said things as well about our babies actually not being in heaven and about baptism and just so many things. It makes it even more devastating than just losing a baby because you're right, we want to know that they're safe and loved. We have had 3 early pregnancy losses. We got married in Oct 2017 and got pregnant on Good Friday 2021. I miscarried today (April 24th 2021) at 7 weeks, 5 days. I was bleeding and had contractions. I told my husband I felt empty. And truly I was because they couldn't find a baby on my ultrasound. It was heartbreaking walking out of that hospital. And it was worse because I hadn't told my husband how bad i was bleeding. When he saw he knew something was wrong. He was right. To this day I'm heartbroken over it. I miss our baby so much. RIP Blair Francis Lee Our second pregnancy came in July 2021. I was SO stressed out. I actually didn't realize at first I was pregnant and had weird spotting. We lost our baby in August at 6weeks. RIP Ainslidh Marie Hope. Our last pregnancy was in September 2022 and lost them in Oct 2022. RIP Riley Zelazny Kennedy. After my first loss I went to see a napro Dr. I did tests and things and was told I have low progesterone and low estrogen. I was put on progesterone but not before my 2nd loss. Then with the last one I didn't even know I was pregnant. With the last one we were traveling and I left the progesterone at home. I feel quite guilty about the last one but I was grieving the loss of my husband's grandma so I wasn't thinking. All in all, I love our babies. I wish I could know exactly why but I don't. I jus keep moving forward and trying.

[@caballefam]

Hugs to you Mama. ❤❤

[@ashleyslack5960]

Hi there Mama - Church teaching has never categorically assured us that our miscarried babies (and all babies who died before baptism), are in Heaven, but we have reason to HOPE. The Church has allowed room for this hope and there are many arguments for it. Limbo remains a possibility and that ought not be ignored just because it is uncomfortable. For those of us who bear this cross of not knowing, perhaps it is an invitation by our Lord to embrace the bold hope that makes us Christians, and to simply Trust in the Lord, that His plans are better than ours, and He is Mercy itself. I don't know where our precious babies are. But I trust God.

[@tmaffeo]

Oh Heather what a beautiful story about your Angel James and for God to come in your dreams was soooooo amazing ty for all you do 🌻🌻🌻

[@ACatholicMomsLife]

Hello Friends I hope this video was helpful to you, here are the links from this video Saint Paul VI institute Catholic Napro Doctor and health care specialist popepaulvi.com/ Infertility & NaPro Technology (my video) kzbin.info/www/bejne/n2elp6age9Vjmcksi=NRX-2fn8jN1nOF2 Statue of Mary and Baby collabs.shop/kkfcmo JellyBean A Baby's Journey to God (Book about Miscarriages) holyheroes.com/products/jellybean-a-babys-journey-to-god?bg_ref=mgJscHCptX

[@nativefraulein5801]

Thank you for this video. I've had two early miscarriages (November 23/February 24) I am 40 and even though all my tests/levels are normal everything is blamed on my age. I think about my babies in heaven all the time whilst being so grateful for my daughter.

[@BlessedLifeLoveandFaith]

Thank you Heather for sharing this and your stories of your three babies in Heaven.💗 I am not married or expecting any children, but this is extremely kind of you to do. I'll save this for myself if I ever need it or to share with others around me. Sending hugs and God bless always.💛🙏🏻

[@medievalwolfgrrl]

Thank you for sharing this with us and the wonderful advice. I've never been able to even talk about my miscarriage.

[@anonymous78546]

God bless and comfort you Heather. Thank you so much for your kind heart and for helping others.

[@brookelawrence7829]

Thank you for sharing your story about James that is so amazing!

[@megancrocker2234]

I hope God continues to Bless you. I hope you continue your beautiful work for God. That book was beautiful. And your dream was fabulous. So, sorry for your losses. I just started getting more into God. I lost my best friend. I miss him. Stay safe. Have a great night. God Bless and family too!! Xo 😘🩷 You do beautiful work!! Xo 😘

[@caballefam]

Hello Heather, it's really true that grieving is different for every person. I had a miscarriage 2 years ago, on valentine's day😢😢😢. I was 9 weeks pregnancy. I was sad but not to th point of being depressed. I am just lift up everything to God and the Blessed Virgin. Then later on I understood why I had a miscarriage. It was all in God's plan because 4 months after the miscarriage, I got infected with E.coli. I got the strong strain that made them give me different meds and coz the bacteria were very resistant. I was in the hospital for 2 weeks and 1 months going to the hospital everyday for my liquid antibiotic shot everyday. I can't imagine going thru all that while pregnant. We are preparing to get pregnant again to add to our 2 boys. We are older parents, but still want another one. Praying that with God's grace we will be pregnant this summer. ❤❤❤

[@totustuusmaria477]

I am so sorry for your loss. After a little research I stumbled on two supplements that maybe worth researching for fertility, NAC and Alpha Lipoid Acid. May God the Father bless you and your family.

[@StrawberryShortcake3-f4b]

Sometimes it could be a blessing. Which could come across as cold but I think Mother's sometimes need to go easy on themselves and stop blaming themselves or feeling inadequate for some reason. Maybe the child just wasn't well to begin with and it was for the best. Sad either way but hanging on or blaming yourself is toxic. Even if it was multiple times it is possible that the baby just wasn't well. If it's a selfish side of just wanting to have a child maybe a different journey for your life is what's in the cards. Sorry if this sounds cold it's not intended. Also, I don't think your babies would want you to worry so much but it's definitely considerate to respect their life.

[@marshamagic8551]

So sweet and touching..

[@lizzie9989]

Thank you so much for this video. It was healing for me ❤

[@ACatholicMomsLife]

I’m so glad! I was hoping it would help some🥰

[@lizzie9989]

@@ACatholicMomsLifeThe story of your dream of little James was especially touching and healing. Thank you again for sharing.

[@nopemeow3655]

Thank you for sharing your story. I hope it reaches everyone that needs to hear it.

[@lorenalaverde3681]

Hello Heather! Thank you for sharing this video and I am sorry for your losses. I’ve had two miscarriages one in 2020 and one a couple of weeks ago. My husband and I haven’t shared with my 4 children that they have siblings in heaven. Can you consider sharing your experience on how to do so? I know that this is something they need to know, just don’t know how to have that conversation yet. Thanks!

[@nicolesemtner2156]

I had 3 miscarriages last year and a total of five all together. I only have one son and he’s always asking for a sibling and it hurts my heart and soul because I haven’t had any more children.

[@TheTarantinoFamily]

Thank you for sharing your story. By any chance do you have a miraculous medal necklace on? Where did you buy it?

[@ACatholicMomsLife]

Yes! I love it! Ill linked it here it’s the tiny acatholicmomslife.com/catholic-women-gift-ideas/

[@stefanybeyer4653]

Please pray for Dani and Steven, whose baby was stillborn two weeks ago at 36 weeks.

[@clivejames5058]

So lovely to hear you describe your babies are in heaven. A friend of mine has had 5 miscarriages. Because, of course, they were not baptised, her priest has told her they are not in heaven (as per Catholic teaching). She has suffered devastating mental health issues over this and I wondered what people's thoughts were?

[@deb9806]

That's not true, of course they are. Limbo was made up by the church out of ignorance. I didn't think anyone said that now. Can you imagine a just, PERFECT God not embracing those souls 100%. It never enters my mind he wouldn't. I will pray she will see that too." Let the little children come to me, do not hinder them"

[@ashleyslack5960]

It is equally wrong to automatically canonize Lost preborn children as it is to insist they are not in heaven. Official Church teaching is that we don't know but we have reason to hope. I say this as someone who runs a Catholic miscarriage support Ministry and who has thoroughly researched the topic alongside my husband

[@molliec4719]

I don’t for one second think that those babies are not in heaven. Shame on that priest.

[@catiemsimpson]

Im sorry for your friends losses and for how that was worded by her priest. I disagree with that. We recently had a miscarriage and our priest helped us bury our baby. He said the most wonderful and consoling prayers and spoke a little about how he has faith our baby is in heaven with Jesus. He also talked about the recently canonized Polish family, which included an unborn baby. They are the Ulma family of you want to look them up. They were beatified the day of my miscarriage and the whole story comforted me a great deal. I will pray for your friend ❤

[@alldoneup]

I'm not sure why her priest said that to her to be honest. 1257 in the Catechism, which ends with this line: “God has bound salvation to the sacrament of Baptism, but he himself is not bound by his sacraments.” So straight from the catechism (book on all the teachings of the church), your friend can have hope beyond hope that in God's unfathomable love and mercy, she will see them in heaven.

[@anastrawberry8047]

Hi Heather! Thank you for sharing your story. How many months into pregnancy were you when you suffered the miscarriages? (Healing from a recent one myself) Love, ❤❤❤

[@laurateixeira17]

Thank you so much for this video Heather. I am still grieving my second miscarriage. I'm 39 and it's so confusing to my heart because I don't know if I should be open to try again. It was so painfull to my body and mind. I have 4 kids (plus those 2 in heaven). I've been avoiding with natural methods. It's strange to accept I won't have more kids.

[@marthawitter6231]

I just wanted to share that while you are avoiding pregnancy - you may try to find out if something is wrong hormonally... Which will give you some hope and peace to try again. Personally I have had 5 losses and I truly believed that if I had another it would have killed me... God let me get pregnant again and I was 39 and what a blessing he is - so many people were praying for him. Please don't give up or lose hope! My own Mom had her last pregnancy at 46.

[@TriciaPerry-mz7tc]

Yeah. Please stop sis. You have four. Be thankful.

[@Lovecatholicfaith]

I have twins in heaven ❤

[@AdrianMyrstrandSandland]

Hey i dont know if you’re going to anwser, But i want to be catholic, Im trying my best Even tho my mom or dad isn’t Christian, they wont drive me to the church so i can Get my rosary or scapula blessed. Its to far for me to walk, and Im baptized protestant and my mom says i cant be confirmated catholic, do i have to Get all my things blessed by a priest? Even tho i might not be, my only catholic friend i know he told me i wasnt actully catholic, i hate it, i just cant Get anwser, and Im sitting here crying because i cant pray the rosary because i dont understand How to, Im actully scared to Ask someone for help, can you please anwser me? I need tips and anwser🙁

[@cath3rine9]

I had a missed miscarriage 2 months ago and my husband who is a devout Catholic said that babies who didn’t get baptized don’t go to heaven. This was devastating for me to hear. Does anyone know if this is true? I am a Catholic but not Very educated in that faith so I wouldn’t even know where to get an answer

[@kimwilcox1952]

Please get tested for APS (antiphospholipid syndrome) if you have had miscarriages.

[@KB86-uq8pu]

Shocked to see a comment on this thread that a woman's priest told her that her miscarriage babies aren't in heaven. Please know that not all priests are as brushed up on their theology as they should be, and that father, if it is correct that he said such a thing forgot about Baptism by Desire, imo that could be either the parents intention to baptise, or the soul itself having an innate desire for God as yet uncorrupted by the world. If that's exactly what he said and not just how the woman took it, he was despairing of (as opposed to presuming which is the other immoderate vice) God's salvation, which although he is a priest, would be a sin and we should pray for any religious whp has been telling miscarriage sufferers or even regretful post abortion women that he definitively knows about the salvation status of their babies, as, no, no one is authorised to judge on that. If we believe in a Just God we must believe that he works things out for babies with a short stint of purification for their Original Sin. kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZnUoIZjpbClntU

[@KB86-uq8pu]

The Catechism of the Catholic Church states that the Church entrusts unbaptized children, including miscarried babies, to the “great mercy of God” that “allow[s] us to hope that there is a way of salvation for children who have died without baptism” (1261).

[@kellyh8218]

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[@ashleyslack5960]

Hello Heather, I was aware of your past miscarriages and I have miscarried as well and now minister to families suffering through this. Once again I am terribly sorry for your family's losses . It is a heavy cross. A very common mistake that I made early on in my Ministry was basically canonizing people's babies. I say this in all charity, and as someone who has to suffer this mystery of the Eternal destination for lost preborn children as well, the Church DOES NOT teach that our miscarried babies are without a doubt in heaven. We have reason to hope, but we do not know for sure, so it is important for those of us in Catholic Ministry to be careful to not teach this error. Limbo remains a possibility, and sadly many modern priests are unaware of this. We must take this as an opportunity to trust in the goodness and love of our Blessed Lord, however hard it is when bearing the cross of infertility, miscarriage and infant loss. May our blessed Lord and his mother blanket you and all others in peace and love

[@RGRGIS]

Like!

[@sarahantonin3534]

God never blessed me with a baby

[@marianbris61]

I have babies I will see in heaven.

[@Shawn-q3x]

All things are delivered to me of my Father Jesus said "All things are delivered unto me of my Father: and no man knoweth the Son, but the Father; neither knoweth any man the Father, save the Son, and he to whomsoever the Son will reveal him” (Matthew 11:27). God delivers all things to Jesus-his power, his spirit, his words-whether they be about Jesus himself or God himself. Everything Jesus does is for God and His will only. God’s word says that no one has ever heard God or seen God, yet most of the world goes against this and claims that Jesus is God? There are too many ‘Christians’ who have been brainwashed by the masses into believing this lie; this is why many will cry ‘Lord, Lord’ and not make it into the kingdom-because they do not know both the Father and the Son. Only those who read and do the will of God can enter the kingdom of God.