WHAT ARE THE SIGNS YOU'RE GETTING PLAYED?!?!

EP 86: In this episode we open up by talking about how to know if you are getting played/used or not and why we think a lot of guys like to play around with girls. We then talk about the "UPDATED 2022 DATING AGENDA" and what dating entails nowadays. We also discuss what some skills guys/girls can have that can INSTANTLY make them more attractive! Finally, we get really deep towards the end of the podcast and talk about how we deal with loneliness as well as the cons of shutting people out of your life especially family members. HOPE YA'LL ENJOY!!!! :D
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[@alexb.2320]

Idk what it is but I respect Sage so much for his answer on the order of events when dating someone. He is legit the only one in the group that actually takes it slow and really invests himself in relationships. It is low-key refreshing to hear.

[@zoediys1708]

agreed

[@1azza141]

Agreed but I feel like marus answer would be diff if she wasn’t played 25/8

[@pinkbunnylover]

completely agree

[@elainaaa3444]

totally agree! I was just as confused as him when everyone else was shocked by his answer

[@arabellaliwanen1446]

this is exactly what i was thinkin ❤️SAGE

[@geemorales3555]

Damn the deep talk at the end was crazy, I feel like we all go through things behind closed doors, thinking no one wants to listen but in reality, we be going through the same things

[@noshabaquazi2013]

For real!! I didn’t realize how much I could relate to others especially since we mostly keep our problems and struggles to ourselves, so it feels like we’re on our own in this world but so many things are so much more common than we realize. The way Nick described his experience growing up was like looking at a mirror. And the way he reflected on it at the end that didn’t really put the blame on anyone was so eye opening.

[@jjsspot9738]

Omgg like I stated crying and relating to what nick was saying , and it hit me that I don't have to say something to other people I can just be sad and not be selfish . Especially to my close ones .

[@theasianjason]

aye got the whole squad back together, that’s how we know it’s finna be fire, and sage and dev are hosting??? perfect

[@ash1936]

WHEN THE WHOLE GANG IS HERE U KNOW ITS A BANGER

[@shainablando7912]

Almost 2 hours too🥵🥵🥵

[@gonzaloflores9524]

the ending of this podcast is so important to talk about, the way sage was just opening to their thousands of viewers really shows the growth hes been through. he went from going mute for 2 months not talking to anyone about his feelings to being comfortable talking about it to his fans. I love you guys, youre doing amazing things with these podcast, its becoming bigger than just some silly conversations about relationships.

[@jeffersonroth1638]

I actually feel so bad for Maru. She does not deserve to be getting played.

[@emmagarcia9688]

I knowww she deserves a good guy

[@inactive120]

she seems like a sweet girl, some idiots take advantage of that

[@juliechristine4217]

She’s literally so sweet and beautiful 🥺

[@MissBubbakush]

I feel like Maru was about to cry in a lot of parts during this podcast

[@inactive120]

@@MissBubbakush bless her, I really hope that isn't true

[@ssairachaa]

The silence after Maru said “thats how you know she was asking other guys” 😭😭😭

[@bae3185]

and i oop hahahaa

[@L6901Malice]

When?

[@ssairachaa]

Sage not being able to vocalize his emotions is something that really resonates with me too because I have been through so much shit and I didn’t want to tell anyone but once I told my closest friend I realized how fucked up shit was really was and it helped me process that shit but I literally get him 100%. I’m really glad he’s opening up more and I’m so glad he felt comfortable talking to us about this in this podcast honestly like I’m emotional rn. Thank you for that Sage 🤍 edit: thank you too Devin and Nick, and all of you, I really appreciated listening to you guys at the end 🥹

[@kaykayyy26]

NICK BEING HELD AT GUNPOINT BY THE PEANUT BUTTER IS 100% THE HIGHLIGHT OF THIS PODCAST, LET'S GO MARU! edit: time stamp for this God given moment is 17:51 . . . you're welcome

[@soymud09]

You mean Peanut Point 😏

[@inactive120]

that shit had me dying

[@angelzamora3835]

I WAS SO PROUD OF MARI

[@urfavaries5340]

time ?

[@kaykayyy26]

@@urfavaries5340 17:51

[@lucyq6830]

AHH FINALLY WE HAVE CYNTHIA BACK!! WE MISSED YOU don’t ever leave us for that long again pleaseee 😫

[@marp4054]

@@ari-pj3xh she was probably just taking a break bruh

[@gxahmed7]

@@marp4054 she was stuck in Rio

[@kvyem]

@@gxahmed7 whyy?

[@alyssakaytlin758]

lmao this comment didn’t age well😭she dipped tf out

[@gxahmed7]

@@alyssakaytlin758 lmao I hope she comes back.

[@alyssab09]

THANK YOU SO MUCH devin, sage, and nick for opening up a little bit about your experiences in life. It's rare to see guys be vulnerable. Although I can't relate to what sage went through, I can relate to devin and nick a lot. Love you guys !!!

[@averydespatie3319]

"That shit takes like 5 minutes x2" Maru: "😯😧" Devin: "😶😅"

[@eve20182]

Literally went back to hear again cause normally it’s always dev and sage saying something at the same time😭

[@franciscomontero8925]

I was looking for this comment 💀

[@jjasminevarillas]

I vote that Maru's channel should start with a video where her and Nick have to speak Spanish for an entire day !

[@naroagonzalez8072]

I agreeeeee

[@Stillkatherhine]

was she born in Argentina?

[@jjasminevarillas]

@@Stillkatherhine yup !! :)

[@ssairachaa]

Sage’s stages of Dating is actually amazing, I agree with his

[@nnnicole10]

I'm happy there's representation of how I see it too hahaha

[@naroagonzalez8072]

Sameee

[@angelinqiu]

You already know its gonna be a good one when the whole squad is together

[@hunneeeyval727]

I love how Sage, respects himself and his time! There’s hope that not everyone is the same and some people are deeper. I respect him so much!

[@carsonnelson2741]

I haven’t even watched yet but the whole squad being back PLUS this episode being almost 2 hours long ??? Today is a good day ladies and gents

[@morgandavis3786]

FRR

[@inactive120]

Sure is :)

[@shouathao3447]

MARU TALKING ABOUT “SHADOW WORK” CAN RELATE TO ME SO MUCH! So far I can see that she’s the most spiritual! ✨ not a lot of ppl does that & that’s why it comes back to them later. Reflecting, feeling, and understanding the whys and slowly accepting it will help you heal from the roots. That will help fix the problem, not push it aside and have it possibly hit you later. My girl maru, ily! 💕💕💕

[@marulee_]

Ily !

[@shouathao3447]

@@marulee_ 🥹😭💕 I’m so happy you’re replying!!! I’m a huge fan!!!

[@marulee_]

@@shouathao3447 we’re on the same wavelength 💓

[@naroagonzalez8072]

That really resonated with me when she talked about it.🥰 I LOVEE HER ENERGY

[@shouathao3447]

@@naroagonzalez8072 right?!?!? I’m so glad at least one of them can reasonate with me! 💕

[@damachavez]

Cynthia is back!!!

[@rebekahrbkh]

Yesss I missed her

[@jasonramirez6433]

🐐

[@summanus1334]

Damn I was actually crying at the end and I just came here for a good laugh , nah but im glad y'all taking a lil time to talk about mental health bc some ppl do need to hear this to realize how not speaking up + keep everything to themselves is never the right choice, so thanks

[@Pluto_Unbound]

This episode is definitely one of my favorites, the balance of comedy and mental health check in at the end was amazing. Love you guys

[@lhea4925]

If I didn’t watch sages part at the end, I generally think I would’ve went down the same path. Im always looking for ways to better myself but this is what I didn’t realize. just from watching that short part sage is saying just gave me another perspective to look at myself from and gave me the realization of my situation because i kinda been going through same feeling, and been doing the same thing as him, just a different situation, I started to handle my shi the same way he did. Yo im crying right now idk what to say. all yall making me cry fr, I appreciate y’all fr, this whole podcast I love it. I love this podcast so much, I always look forward to when you guys drop videos cause it’s very entertaining and it’s also fun to watch and it’s eduacational, yall speak bout mental health and shi. This the only podcast I feel connected to on another level.

[@naroagonzalez8072]

Thank you for sharing Lhea💗

[@alyssab09]

To handle loneliness I listen to music that is nostalgic, hang out with people who I know will cheer me up and listen when I need to vent, journal, and I also like to read books just as an escape. For some reason it helps get my mind off of being lonely.

[@beautifulwords318]

i do the same, it really helps :)

[@emelyponce2398]

Same here, some people in my life probably disagree on the way I handle loneliness/feeling lots of emotions at once, no joke my best friend barely realized why I say that music is basically like therapy to me

[@Ma-ep7fr]

I hope Maru gets to a point where she isn't hurt to speak about things. I seen the pain in her eyes , the tear buildup. Everyone trauma is valid and I hope you all continue to heal and find happiness in your life!

[@fromthearchives01]

I loved this episode so much. Thank you Sage and Devin for being so vulnerable, it definitely was felt through the screen and comforted me as I too was able to relate :)

[@monzzemartin426]

nick: crunchy peanut butter or smooth peanut butter? devin: smooth…you cant have either i dont know why you asking 😂😂😂😂😂

[@amberguesa_]

Dev makes me crack the F up all the time but I also live for his down to earth, soft side. Real ish we all go through and should be talked about more. Thank you for your share boys, seriously 💛🦋

[@Person-oe7li]

I love when sage and devin host ! They always have me laugh crying

[@Crazy4Jelly]

This has been one of the most relatable podcast yet. Sage and Devon opening up about how hard it is to feel out loud and share with the ones that love you the most is so comforting to hear. It’s still hard but im working at feeling my emotions and sharing with friends and family. Peace and love. Y’all truly are amazing

[@jenniferaquino919]

I really resonated with Maru when she talked about "Shadow work". The whole point of Shadow work is to take a moment to understand 'Why do I do things I do and where does it come from?' Shadow work has been something I've been doing since I was a kid cause growing up I didn't feel like I could trust anyone. Shout out to Maru bro!

[@angiedutra6667]

I love how you guys can discuss things that are on a deeper level. I don’t know if you guys genuinely realize how many people are feeling seen when you discuss things such as abuse, parental trauma, depression, etc. So thank you so much, you guys make my day every time you post.

[@joyy719]

hearing all of u talk at the end was amazing it made me realize a lot and I could feel myself tearing up a few times especially bc of how much I relate to what all of u were saying especially sage and it made me feel less alone and less crazy, I seriously love u guys u have no idea the ppl ur helping

[@ssairachaa]

Same 🥲

[@may3liii]

shoutout to Glo Dev’s gf that whole last like 30 mins that started the ending conversation was so good and very much needed i cried when sage n dev started sharing there stories. best pod fr

[@katherinevargas1759]

Maru deserves so much love 💕 she’s truly such an amazing soul, she’s 100% the most relatable

[@wunshyangel1]

these podcasts are one of the highlights of my week, I lost a lot of my friends from my last break up and these have been helping me get through that. I'm happy they brought up female loneliness and Nick's childhood situation really resonated with me, by far one of my favourite episodes and I appreciate everyone's vulnerability in this one!!

[@sonya.nguyenn]

whenever i feel lonely, i try to remind myself how i realign with my values and how i want to move forward for myself. throughout my life, i've felt, and honestly still feel, that there's more that i can do for myself. building off of how cynthia talked about you being by yourself at the end of the day and how devin talked about taking the initiative for himself to really change, it really does help going through these moments with ourselves. not being okay is okay too, you know yourself better than anyone else does. on a different note, i loved that nick talked about going through that stage of seeing his parents as people, and the shift in seeing family dynamics as he got older, and the insights we got from christine and cynthia on this concept. it really hit home with me because i recently saw another podcast talk about the shift in family connection as you get older. my family is finally accepting the realities of how we've grown as a family and moving forward together as we go through life.

[@naroagonzalez8072]

Thanks for sharing❤️❤️❤️

[@sonya.nguyenn]

@@naroagonzalez8072 of course!!

[@stephaniemeza3564]

sage is so genuine wow where can i find someone like sage😭😭

[@kaylaflores1029]

Sage gives me hope that there are still good guys out there. Respect. 👏🏼

[@outtahere3902]

Facts

[@lileekay]

I just wanted to say thank you for sharing something so deep esp at the end. That shit isn’t easy to do and I have mad respect for folks who can get a point where they can share it with others. I love seeing how y’all are empathetic and loving with each other. My heart is full 🥹

[@leah3732]

Bruh y’all always have me emotional af watching these podcasts! I’m so thankful for y’all’s content literally gets me through sooo much shit.❤️

[@KaylaMichelle]

The ending of this episode made me realize how much I've actually gone through and just push it down instead of talking about it and realizing who I am as a person and how strong it's made me. I resonated with Sage because I was the same way with just taking things in but never letting them out and talking to anyone and just continuously crying day in and day out and even crying until I finally was too tired and just fell asleep and now I realize how mentally dangerous that was for me to do. I'm grateful I have people I can go to now and it's nice to also see that these guys are there for one another through times like that as well because not everyone is fortunate enough to have a bond that strong with their friends.

[@JesaAva]

IM HERE and SOOO happy seeing everyone back together love y’all so much 💕

[@buddhabihh1885]

I really enjoy the moments when you guys allow yourselves to vulnerable. Hearing others feel their feelings validate the way or things that I go through. Much love everyone! I’m so glad you guys have each other, it really warms my heart 🫶🏼

[@buddhabihh1885]

I also felt Maru’s pain in that last statement. Stay strong pretty woman! You have great people around you that love you! 🫶🏼🫶🏼 stay beautiful love

[@marvinpham5180]

Maru is slaying these outfits for days

[@naroagonzalez8072]

She is glowwwinggg

[@KA-zn2bu]

THE WAY MARU PULLED OUT THE JAR OF PEANUT BUTTER 😭

[@CarlosReyes-lm3mn]

Nick is such a no sabo kid but I fw how he’s embracing the culture still lmao

[@MyPetLynx]

Still can’t believe people were confused by Sage’s answer. Literally the most normal, I can’t imagine it any other way

[@t.ayl0rd]

i really appreciated the intimate discussion about mental health and trauma at the end, to this day i am still having to learn how to cope with growing up with an abusive father and no longer have him be a part of my life even though it was my decision to cut ties with him for my own health it's still a really difficult thing to process and accept after living with someone who is supposed to take of you for 23 years and never did❤thank you so much for making me feel accepted and helping push my to speak about my emotions and feelings more often, this is my favorite podcast to watch/listen to and i can't wait for what 2023 will bring us😊

[@yamiletberdecia]

cynthia!!!!! so ready for tonight’s podcast.

[@sovafnt2638]

I actually love this podcast so much and ever since the first episode i saw i got hooked. Keep up the good work and nick is too funny sometimes

[@stephanie3408]

To anyone who needs to hear this! I moved out and started uni, went in without knowing anyone but I was super pumped to meet new people. I made new friends and went out with them a bunch. But as the semester went on I found myself spending a lot of time alone bc everyone was so busy. Without my family there I spent days at a time without interacting with people and fell into a slump of loneliness. As simple as it seems the thing that pulled me out of this slump was effort. I put in the work to meet more new friends while proactively trying to keep seeing my other friends. In highschool I never had to put in this effort as friends were guaranteed to be there everyday but in Uni this is not true at all. you NEED TO PUT EFFORT and try step out of your comfort zone to meet and interact with friends. So personally, to handle loneliness make an effort to surround yourself with friends, it doesnt have to be going out for dinner but even just studying together!

[@rc-lj9ff]

this hit, made me really realize we really are all the same, going through things,and learning how to cope with our feelings. I really seen y’all as “ better versions” but honestly we are all the same. It’s crazy. We all had our own struggles no matter now “big” or “small” it’s all battles we go through. I really enjoyed this ik I’ll for sure come back to this vid if I’m ever feeling down or something. 😮‍💨

[@shxunen5342]

Desperately needed the topic of this episode right now, going through a self-love journey right now and this helped so much unexpectedly. Yall are such an awesome group and I wish the best for all yall

[@gonzaloflores9524]

im so glad cynthia is back on the podcast, deadass missed her so much

[@alwayskim4901]

"how do you guys cope with loneliness?" i literally just watch u guys. i love this ep sm. when devin said that thing ab talking ab it to other people but you're not acc doing anything to change ur situation or to make it better,, that fucking hit bro. i needed that.

[@sent2elide]

I love that you guys are so open to talking about mental health

[@lauramorataya9644]

Sage opening up about his situations means a lot bc people who have a family meme er that deals w mental health or have manic episodes really takes an effect on the people around and it can be hard to open up to Anyone or find the right words on what’s going on or how you’re truly feeling and in a way you just become numb and rather go about your day than to talk about how or what your feeling/ going through

[@cesarumanzor577]

I related to Sage so hard this episode… bro I’m turning 25 in less than a week, and I’m just barely learning how to deal with my bull shit, thank y’all so much for talking about this

[@user-jy8lz7no3r]

thank you sage for speaking up on what you’ve been going through. my dad is an air force vet and i’ve been struggling through such a similar situation, esp how u said it’s so hard to open up to people. I started crying listening to you hear about your issue bc i’ve always thought nobody else can understand my situation. hearing you talk about this was really mind opening to me :)

[@loverboi9208]

From jumping in excitement that Cynthia is back to almost crying with sage 👌🏽😭top tear podcast

[@lauramorataya9644]

Mad love for Devin & Sage for opening up it always helps others knowing they things can and will get better

[@inactive120]

Toxic ppl actively look for ppl like maru who see the best in everyone and often overlook the bad. They test u to see if u let that stuff slide, I know I've been there. You have to learn to trust your gut and try not to be receptive to ppl who r giving u bad vibes even if it's the tiniest red flags.

[@jenno3767]

The ending of this podcast definitely put a lot of things into perspective for me. Especially with how I've been recently, it's just super easy to be selfish and shut yourself out from others and avoid talking. It's such an eye-opening experience when you start realizing the reason why you do things, and how you come off to others- that shit makes you want to actually better yourself, not only for yourself but for the people closest to you as well.

[@AceStarkXD]

I definitely feel what Nick goes through when he shared his family experience with his dad towards the end of the podcast. Having an overworked dad who brought frustrations at work into the home and being loud during dinner also made me avoid eating at the dinner table when I grew up as a teen. And about what Nick said about him avoiding fights because he realised it's probably because of how he grew up with his dad. Really cool podcast especially with the deep talks, sometimes I learn more about myself like in this segment.

[@lizethespinoza5242]

I love that sage and devin can be so goofy and joke a lot but when it comes down to it they know how to have serious discussions as well. Also thank u to sage for his story. A lot of men don’t really open up bc of society’s norms and standards, seeing other men open up encourages others to be open as well. Seeing someone who is known on the internet or however u wanna put it lol gives men more courage to talk about their feelings. Makes them comfortable to have these deep conversations. ladies please remember that men are allowed to have feelings, anyone is allowed to share. Don’t ever shut anyone down.

[@Ddreinthebay]

I love how this podcast is now a little bit deeper than when I first started watching. There’s substance and things I can take with me. I do love the surface level convos too but this was refreshing 💪🏾

[@Raevinh]

I just found out I been being played for roughly 8 months.. now Im trying to constantly better myself. Im being super active and working out. No more video games, partying, drinking, drugs.. nothing but health until I feel good enough again. Also never feel like you werent good enough for someone else. If you feel that way make sure its cause you arent enough for yourself and youll really start putting yourself first… this is working for me while i work through the sadness and memories. Learn from everything you go through and try to take it into your future in a healthy way so you dont hurt yourself or others! These podcasts really help me to be honest!

[@emaan5222]

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[@cnteven2827]

I totally feel Maru at the end. I like to find the root of the issue so that I have a better understanding of myself. It’s hard to do but I feel so much better afterwards.

[@thiskiddkelly]

I agree with sage on the stages of dating tho lol And LMAOO when Maru bought out the peanut butter against nick 🤣💀

[@povjennie4757]

Why is nick scared of peanut butter?

[@thiskiddkelly]

@@povjennie4757 he’s allergic to it lol

[@xovicc9426]

@@povjennie4757 he has a peanut allergy😭

[@nyahjeon]

i often hold everything in to the point i breakdown. recently i had a bit of similar moment to devin’s, i called my mom sobbing telling her i just needed a hug and she drove over immediately and she cried as soon as she saw me. i felt so bad for making her worry about me but i’m forever thankful she was there. that night, i just cried in her arms and we talked. i’m trying to do better, communicating and it all. it’s truly a work in progress… but it’s still progress. i appreciate you all sharing your stories and being vulnerable with your viewers, it’s admirable and i’m proud of you all. im wishing you all the best.

[@Earth2Tiffiny]

Maru's makeup is fitting different today wow 💕💕

[@Come_AsYouAre]

U guys are actually all such rays of sunshine, the moment at the end was so powerful 💖,takes a lot to be so vulnerable so proud of u guys perfect reminder that sm ppl r struggling ,there’s nothing to be ashamed of we’ve just gotta check in and take care of each other 🙏🏽💖 bless u all , so glad u have each other

[@Ling08890]

Maru is so BEAUTIFUL!! She deserves sm better, the guys she goes for doesn’t deserve her at all‼️

[@zoeydiebold6322]

The mental health aspect and the ending of this was by far the best podcast yet. I think recognizing this really helps people begin to understand that healing from generational trauma is super important to better future relationships, including the relationship you have with yourself. Thank you so much for this!!!!

[@JESUSCHRISTSAVES_]

Maru really deserve a good man in her life. 😢She cool ppl

[@mslaydee1202]

This episode was fire! I loved all the vulnerability and honesty! It’s so nice that younger people are enlightened and so in turn with themselves and aware of what’s going on around them. This is so relatable for so many people. ❤

[@Supakalii]

The last segment has me feeling so emotional. I love seeing them be vulnerable and open up 😭

[@gucciguzmane]

They were tryna convince Sage he was tripping lmaoo

[@noshabaquazi2013]

amazing podcast! would love it if you guys could do more deeper podcasts like the end of today’s one (if you feel comfortable that is ofc!) because hearing your reflections, experiences, and thoughts actually helped me realize what I’ve struggled to understand and practice myself, which is being attentive to what I have. It’s easy for me to get lost in what I lack and it causes me to think more negatively but if I can just recognize what I have and what I should continue fighting for, it definitely gives me a stronger sense of purpose and helps. Like Nick said, “stress gives him purpose in life” which was something I never even thought about until today. I think its certainly something I have to personally be more grateful for in order to utilize it to shape me to become better rather than letting it pull me down. I used to see the statement “be grateful for what you have” as dismissive whenever anyone would say that to me, I’d think “Well of course I’m grateful for what I have” but I’ve come to realize I don’t genuinely think about what I have and appreciate them most of the time, it’s just not a thought - and I think I can speak for many - that happens often, we get busy with other stuff so naturally we forget the little things that truly aren’t so little. I’ve come to view things as hindrances and complain constantly whenever I’m struggling with something which definitely attracts more negativity. sometimes things are out of our control, but sometimes things are in our control more than we realize- it’s definitely something I have to unlearn myself. But I really appreciated today’s mental health session in the podcast it was truly refreshing and eye opening. loved seeing everyone back in the podcast today :))

[@cj2558]

1:37 I swear I said this out loud verbatim at the exact same time as them wtf 17:55 Maru’s PB attack 20:02 Cyn bro moment 26:47 “She just like me fr” 27:46 “I was poor and hungry” 30:36 This sounds wild coming from Sage 50:51 Welp

[@cmoua2002]

I think dealing with loneliness will forever be a life battle and I agree with all the points everyone made. Personally, I just suffer with the sad feeling and recognize that I need to be alone and dealing with ts. Idk about anyone else but I think talking to yourself out loud can help a lot ESPECIALLY if you don’t or am not comfortable sharing with another person about your personal business. I always feel a LOT better afterwards.

[@Glitchonmars]

damn sage had me tearing up respect to him for sharing

[@worood.a]

every single podcast you make is so good but when I was watching this yesterday it had me dying of laughter in the first half and then crying in the second half 😭 definitely my one of favourite podcasts so far.

[@macwillacy3181]

Yooo! What an episode! the courage and vulnerability you guys showed was so amazing and inspirational to me. Ily guys! 💛For me, key things I love to do, to reflect and just be with myself and my feelings. Is go to a park, Grab a favourite snack or drink and chill out in some sun. Also if you have pets talk to them to. If you’re not comfortable or ready to talking to someone. They will always listen. 🐶🐱

[@alenagrife9233]

Y’all are really doing gods work with this! It’s not just goofy little conversations anymore. I really hope you all know how many people you’re helping by opening up. We all appreciate you guys so much!

[@jojo_mcnugget]

Another Monday, Another Amazing Podcast🕴🏼

[@maamitaa]

reminding yourself that this will pass and you'll get through it def helps make your path less foggy. Writing out what's going on and how you feel also is helpful. Im not big on journaling but sometimes I just be turning on some tunes and writing. Somethings that helped me a lot were podcasts and KZbin videos. StrayKids, Troyce TV, NorthStarBoys and even this podcast has brought more joy and laughter into my life. All feelings are valid guys, even when you cant but a name on it.

[@dramaticc]

I always end up coming back to this specific episode

[@youareloved9576]

From someone who understands how hard it is to open up to people, I want to say thank you to Sage for opening up about his struggles and everyone else too. I really enjoy when you guys have deep talks because apart of me feels like I’m sitting with you guys at the table and I honestly feel heard. Even though I can’t speak directly to y’all. So thank you and I love you guys ❤️

[@zacsintrusivethots]

with that whole mental health thing for me the biggest thing is just getting out. ik during quarantine a lot of people were struggling with mental health and it was really easy to feel alone. it was really easy to feel like ur friends weren’t there for u and like u couldn’t talk to them, but the important thing is to get out of the house. whether it’s going for a walk or just going to the store real quick or even just getting out metaphorically by like immersing urself into something that u enjoy

[@sheluvskai9611]

When she backed out the peanut butter and nick freaked 🤣🤣

[@danna.bustillo6552]

when Devin suggested dropping in the comments what helps us (in this case me) get thru our depressive state or overall sadness, what i do (and i know it’s not the best bc shutting yourself down isn’t always the answer) i literally distance myself from people and feel wtv i have or need to feel to get over it. i watch netflix, read, watch youtube, listen to music while looking at the ceiling, literally just myself and my thoughts and i let them run free and if i end up crying i cry it out until i’m ready to get up and be myself again. i was in a toxic relationship for such a long time that it got to a point where i couldn’t even vent to him bc he would always make me feel worse and would even tell me “i’m not a therapist” “you’re always so sad and it’s exhausting” “you tired me so much with your mood swings” and even more, so i got used to keeping it to myself and let myself heal however i want to because only you know how to make yourself be and feel better. so i do not recommend distancing yourself from people but it can be good, doesn’t have to be for a long time, u take the time u need and deserve to be able to heal and be the person you need to be FOR YOURSELF! bc at the end of the day, only person who should care about your personality, happiness and well-being is yourself bc no one has the right to judge your ways of healing of becoming better. i love you guys and please if u see this & decide to try it out lmk, and if u need someone to just vent, listen to you and just talk it all out, i’m here and many more are here for you. my snapchat is danna.bustilloo and IG is pao.bustilloo if u need someone to listen or more advice, i got you! take care of yourself and heal and become better how u think or know it works best. you are loved by many and once u learn to love yourself u will see it💜🫶🏽

[@kaitlynbonilla4946]

i will forever appreciate all of them for being so open about all their past events, I love how comfortable they feel with each other and with us

[@zackaryrudolph8489]

honestly, i feel comfortable enough to do this here with you guys so ill share. my dad was an conditionally emotionally distant person growing up, it felt like when he would come home and give my sisters so much love but it never felt like he loved me unless i did something that he wanted, i played football he smiled, i quit and his smile faded, i played basketball he smiled, but as my interest wained so did his smile. i don’t have any good memories with my dad of me on his shoulders, or us playing catch. i remember mostly the bad, him yelling at me about dishes, the trash, my room. it felt like he’d find anything to yell at me for, and i grew so much anger and cold towards him. one day i was so angry and after a while i fell in love with music it felt like the people singing knew what i had been through shared my heart, my pain. Then all the anger and cold towards him turned into anger and cold towards myself because it felt like i failed at being the perfect son that he wanted i wasn’t the athletic kid he wanted, but a lazy slack off that would rather hang with his friends at the park or play the game than do his homework and chores. So i grew more anger at him, thinking “how could he make me feel this way” soon after i had my first attempt. i told no one, thinking it was ok, it’s not like they’d care, but someone cared, i cared. it hurt so much that i hated myself so much i’d try to do this. All the pain i had turned into anger and i blamed my dad, thinking “if he would realize that i’n drowning” not long after that i gathered up more and more attempts, more and more scars untill i learned it wasn’t bad, that it wasn’t normal and that i needed help. i told my sisters and i told my mom and they had me put in a psychiatric hospital and for the first time in forever my dad showed some interest. for a week my dad showed me all the love and attention i had wanted and it didn’t do anything, i still felt the same. i shut myself off from him, my mom, my sisters everyone. fast forward a few months of silence to everyone. i moved in with my dad, things were stressful at my moms and my dad had offered an open invitation. i had hoped it’d bring us closer. it didn’t, i harbored secret anger with my dad, never telling him i felt like he hated me, and that i was his reject kid, the one he didn’t plan on. i lived with him for two years before i finally told him, i poured my heart out about how it felt like no one loved me, how no one knew i had been drowning in my head for years, and how no one knew that i felt rejected. i finally seen some emotion from my dad, he cried tears for the first time ever in my life, and to this very day its the only time in all 18 years of my life that ive seen him cry. he told me that what i’ve always thought to be true was a lie told to me by my own brain, that he has always loved me as his only son, and that he sees so much of himself in me that he wants me to be better, and how he sees more potential than i could ever. he told me that i lived up to his expectations and more. and for the first time i can ever remember he hugged me tightly like he didnt want to lose me and i cried. it fixed everything for our relationship, i can tell him anything now. but it didnt fix how i felt about myself i harbored so much anger and hate and pain towards myself so much deeper than i thought so much so that sometimes it still comes back. if anyone reads this all the way through, i beg you, please please please dont sit in your negative feelings, dont let them take over. even if its a complete and total stranger like me please talk to someone, anyone who will listen.

[@sydneyperdomo]

how i handle loneliness is letting myself think and see why i feel this way. and then get up and go do something productive. the gym has helped me out so much. i’ve literally cried in a gym parking for like 30-40 min and still go in and put as much work as i can towards myself. when cynthia said “you dont have to be happy to do something.” SHE ATEEEEE. just do things that fulfill you in a healthy way. you haven’t read in a long time? go read a book. you haven’t written or painted in a while?? do that. try to remember your hobbies that you used to do when u had no responsibilities. heal your inner child. take time towards yourself and dont distract yourself in other peoples problems because it takes away the focus u need to put towards yourself. how can we help ppl we love if we haven’t fully helped ourselves. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@jascrm1440]

the way nick keeps telling maru to come closer to the mic is so funny to me😭

[@dankviv5711]

man that part with sage, devin, and nick near the end almost made me cryyyy fr this podcast was great

[@nicholedukes2549]

I appreciate you guys taking the time to talk about serious topics constantly I love this podcast so much! Usually how I deal with loneliness is making myself know it’s ok to feel the way I feel then doing the things I know I love to do but also I love watching this podcast especially when I’m feeling a little too lonely and feel like I need someone’s presence I’ll plug my headphones in and it makes me feel like I’m apart of the group laughing with y’all so thank you !

[@leedej8723]

love how cynthia is back!

[@danny4112]

maru pulling out the peanut butter like a glock man 😭😭

[@sammiegood6133]

A week later and I’m still swimming in a puddle of tears watching the end of this episode. Thank you all for sharing this, and for making me (and I’m sure others) feel less alone 😪❤️