sugar, spice, and all things bi 💖💜💙

[@izrawezenberg1386]

me, an asexual, remembering how I used to think not being specifically interested in anyone meant I must be equally interested in everyone and later realizing that I was never interesting in anyone.

[@eurydice5890]

Didn’t we all my dear ? (I mean.. ik, not all of us… but quite a few )

[@broblerone413]

lol i've seen so many ace and aro people who have thought this. it kinda reminds me of something i read about how a long time ago secret bi/pan communities would accept aspec ppl into their groups bc of that same logic of 'they experience the same level of attraction to everyone' even if that ammount of attraction is zero

[@sandalaris]

I had this. It was the question of "who would you prefer to have sex with?" And the answer was "they are both equally unappealing. I must be bisexual!" Of course, it turns out I'm biromantic. I'm primarily romantically attracted to men though and I feel like I'm a fake bi all the time because of it and being ace.

[@blackmoonroze9336]

I was just thinking: Isn't it funny that people that like more than one gender and people who like none both have purple in there flag? Also, I'm ace too and don't know how to sit on a chair just like bi people... maybe that's why! LOL! (I did had a crush on a girl when I was younger so, yea, had the thought about being a lesbian actually lol)

[@bitchenboutique6953]

It honestly never OCCURRED to me that I was bi my whole life until very recently (and I’m 53 !!!) because I thought my attraction to women was how I was conditioned from a world in which women are depicted as sex objects (imagine being a toddler in 1971) so I assumed all women had this automatic sexual reaction to seeing a hot woman. Then one day I realized I had believed that for my whole life without ever ASKING anyone if they felt that way too. Derrrrp.

[@meganwarren221]

This is the best way to describe why it took so long for me to realize I was bi! My daughter was asking me about it the other day and I did not have the words.

[@missnaomi613]

Is this the almost-senior bi mama section? I'm 51 now, and just figured myself out in 2020! My kids and I had a good laugh, because they weren't surprised at all!

[@xpaartan6916]

Me too! I just thought the tinging between my legs happened to everyone when seeing attractive women.

[@bitchenboutique6953]

You know how some people have a list of celebrities they’re like pre-approved to have sex with by their partners? Instead of making a list of men for myself, I made a list of hot women for husband. HERE YOU GO, HONEY. 🤣🤣🤣

[@silverghostcat1924]

I, a cis-female, used to think I was straight because in my 20's & 30's I enjoyed sex with males. Later I realized I was attracted to women as well, but never pursued that type of relationship. Now in my late 60's, while I find all different genders attractive, I prefer to be celibate. In hindsight, I realize most of my choices were made for the sake of an uncomplicated life.

[@franzessie9697]

How did you realize if I might ask?

[@glitterspray]

@@franzessie9697 sometimes it just takes getting to your sixth decade. 🙂 I’d like to see our following generations figure things out a LOT earlier. So much easier on themselves and the those around them. ❤

[@glitterspray]

At 60, I’m pretty sure my cishet reality is just that: my reality. And since hitting menopause (YAY!) I too am happily celibate. My attraction to women is mostly about wanting to emulate them. Physically, I’ve sometimes wished I could give a beautiful butt a squeeze, but it’s more akin to seeing a baby with adorable chubby cheeks. Doesn’t feel sexual. I came to this planet attracted to boys - too much so, frankly. I could explore alternatives, but there’s never been a reason to. This is a description of where I’m at. Just me. Ol’ menopausal me! 😂

[@silverghostcat1924]

@@franzessie9697 in retrospect, I was always attracted to females, as well as males. I never gave it much thought. I was/am an introvert, so most of the females I found attractive were on TV. It could be I've always been attracted to the esthetics of different people regardless of their gender or gender expression.

[@franzessie9697]

@@silverghostcat1924 @glitterspray Thank you both for your perspectives 😊

[@mr.honeycomb]

Growing up, I also thought everyone was bi, and just picked what felt best for them. It just made so much more sense than 'I can only find someone attractive once I have confirmed their sex matches what I've stated my orientation allows'.

[@ladymeow1226]

Yeah, I think far more people r bi than straight. It may b the norm, which perhaps people r scared 2vocalize such thoughts. I cant imagine being straight, taking gender into consideration w/a partner is weird 2 me. And irrelevant(im an Agender pansexual).

[@melanies8263]

Just for perspective: I (as a cis-het woman) never think about who I am "allowed" to find attractive or not; it's just that all the individuals I've ever been physically and/or romantically attracted to so far (I'm 30), happened to be men. It's really not like "hmm she's female, I'm not allowed to be attracted", it just never happened (so far, I assume that could change). Just as much "not a choice/decision" as only being attracted to same-sex individuals, I'd say ;)

[@TallWillow1]

@@melanies8263 I'm about to turn 65, and my experience is the same. It's not that it isn't "allowed" (although it definitely wasn't when I was younger) it's that it just doesn't happen.

[@BethBTC]

Hey! Thanks for all your vids! I've never left a comment because, Idk, I've always been scared to be me. Hi. I'm a 36 year old trans woman and yourself and your husband have always been an encouragement for me. Thanks. Hope you are having a wonderful evening. Take care.

[@EmoNightDragon]

Awe, hey! Congratz on the courage to be more yourself. I hope it brings you lots of happiness and fulfillment and confidence. ❤️

[@BethBTC]

@@EmoNightDragon Thank you! I'm trying. Some days it's easier than others. I tried to transition a while back and my mom's push back hurt me. Now I'm pushing through no matter what. We'll see how well I do. Lol. I have to face facts that I won't be who I want to be which is 5 foot nothing and tiny. I'm just, too tall, but I'll be who I am. A rather tall 6'6 woman who can step on you if you get out of line... not you but well you understand I hope. Lol. ♥

[@EmoNightDragon]

@@BethBTC Omg tall women are so hot tho just saying. I get what you mean with the stepping, hahha! 👀 Yeah, ofc it'll be rough some days, take it a step at a time. The trans people I have met have always seemed very happy with their decision to transition. And I think it will likely be much better for your mental health in the long run than dealing with intense dysphoria and not being able to really enjoy the things you like as a woman. Just make sure you stay safe. ❤️ Following positive creators like Jamie and Shaaba is definitely nice, I recommend Summer Cheung too. She's a singer and content creator from HK, and is healing from family trauma. Just don't go to her comment section cuz there's a lot of trolls there rn. And for an example of a really sexy tall woman, see Gwendoline Christie. She's 6.26, plays in Wednesday, Game of Thrones and Sandman.🔥

[@BethBTC]

@@EmoNightDragon I want to be Jenna Ortega. I want to be the small woman. Like I said, I'm 6'6 and am really wide in the shoulders. I really do hate being big. I've always been told how wonderful it must be to be so big and I've always been envious of the girls out there who were a fraction of my size.

[@EmoNightDragon]

@@BethBTC I totally get that, I just hope u can accept yourself as you are, because being tall does not make you any less of a woman. We all got our ideals tho. Self-love is a long journey.

[@allisoncarter726]

The genuine confusion about people only being attracted to one gender was soooo relatable. I also constantly ask my straight or homosexual friends that question: do you really only look at one gender of people? how does that work?

[@larakleefeld8855]

As someone who is at least certain about not being attracted to one gender (the rest is a bit confusing), I can say that for me it’s like there is a group of people that I just am not attracted to, and they all share one gender. Maybe you have people in your life, like good friends or annoying people or gross people, that you just aren’t attracted to. Take the feelings you have (or don’t have) towards them, and apply that to people of one gender, and maybe that explains it.

[@melanies8263]

I'm a cis-het woman and while I can definitely *see* attraction in other women (like wow she's really attractive), I've never *felt* attraction like I do with some men (like getting the tingles, wanting to touch their body, etc.) - or felt any sort of romantic connection to a woman, either. Its much more on a purely "visually pleasing" level for me, meaning I also never had the desire to explore that route more. At the same time, I do like my own female body in a sensual way, but I feel like that's more about how I feel in my body than about potentially being bi :)

[@noaccount2494]

That is called Aesthetic Attraction, and Sensual Attraction is also a thing.

[@melanies8263]

@@noaccount2494 Thank you so much for this term! I did a little internet research and I guess you could say I have experienced asthetic attraction towards certain women, but not physical or romantic attraction :) Unfortunately, I have no clue if this is a common situation among hets or if that's just me.

[@mirandarensberger6919]

@@melanies8263 You totally described how I experience it. I appreciate women's beauty, but I'm not sexually attracted to them as I am to men. But I can see how Shaaba might not have realized that not everyone is bi. As an aro, I didn't realize till my late 30s that people get married/ have long-term relationships because they want to, not just because of societal pressure, because that's the only reason I've ever been in relationships. Apparently most people are not nauseated at the idea of being with somebody forever, but I always thought it was just something people resigned themselves to. Now that I understand they actually enjoy it, it's a lot easier for me to be happy for happy couples.

[@shiroganetsuki9634]

@@melanies8263 Aesthetic Attraction seems to be common to some degree at least. My best friend (m) is hetero and I know him well enough to know he's not in denial or something. Yet, on occasion, we can have a very satisfying talk about how attractive certain males are.

[@sarahbader6976]

Came to the comments to say the same thing Also want to add...for me, seeing a beautiful woman sparks thoughts of "I would like to be like her" or "I wish I'd look like that", not sexual attraction

[@AnonymousButNott]

Does anyone else sleep like a rotisserie chicken? Just turning over and over every 15 minutes

[@TheArtGirlMaddy]

Haha YES!

[@missnaomi613]

I did not come here to be called out like this! No wait, yeah, I did!

[@joanfregapane8683]

I’m over 65 and completely straight woman (one of my daughters said I’m completely cis but gender nonconforming). I can honestly daily I never had any interest or attraction to another woman. The idea of doing so isn’t distressing at all, it’s just not part of who I am. Btw, love you & your husband as a couple and as content creators- what I do find distressing is the amount of bias (and worse) against the lgbtq+ community.

[@KatjeKat86]

This honestly sounds like a statement that could have been written by my mother. Based on the conversations we've had.

[@TallWillow1]

I'm just under 65, and my experience is similar, as is my opinion on Shaaba and Jamie both as a couple and as content creators.

[@torib796]

Thank you for replying about your heterosexual experience! I think I try to deny and rationalize (like that grandma) that people just like looking at butts, but nope!

[@gegu8802]

I could have written that comment, except for the age - I'm 45.

[@pyritethefool4637]

Thank you for being so bi positive! It is nice to know that I am not alone in my struggles.

[@Toon_Topaz]

For the attraction question, I’m aromantic asexual (as well as aplatonic to a degree) and I’ve never been sexually or romantically attracted to anyone in my life. The concept of attraction in general is entirely alien to me, I have no idea what it even feels like or how to describe it. Obviously I don’t speak for all aces but in my experience every “attraction” I’ve had has been from me trying to fit in with the allos around me. When the topic of crushes came about, I would have to consciously choose someone to be my “crush” because nobody believed me when I said I had none. It would be either a friend I already got along with or just whoever looked the most aesthetically pleasing to me. I feel like allos have a hard time comprehending that we just don’t experience something so central to their identities, just like I struggle to understand why anyone would make such a big deal out of dating, or finding the “right person” So yeah I’m not straight, but I’ve never been attracted to someone of my own gender, or any other gender lol

[@brenna5200]

bi here - I do love frogs. Glad to see I’m fitting the stereotype

[@mary-janereallynotsarah684]

I love frogs and I used to sleep like that cartoon person lol. I had very loose joints growing up and I could never sit normally or sleep normally. 😄

[@mary-janereallynotsarah684]

@Stop LGBT OK.

[@noaccount2494]

@@mary-janereallynotsarah684 I wouldn't respond to them. Just report their channel for hate speech and violence and report all their spamming hate speech comments in the threads

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I think I've worked past the 3:35 thingy. My (strangely all-queer) friendship group was so oppressive of any kind of sexuality. It was like I wasn't allowed to like men, so I never really considered anything else. My bisexuality went unnoticed for a very long time until a girl put her hand on my knee and I realised 'oh, I'm also attracted to women.' The group were so gatekeepy that I didn't feel like I was allowed to like men (still bi with a strong preference for men), I didn't feel like I was allowed to have any kind of sexuality at all so I'd assumed being acespec was the norm, and I also never really gave my gender any thought (I'm genderfae, although I still feel entirely comfortable with feminine gendered terms, my gender is just also fluid). Now, I'm unapologetically bi and a strong advocate for 'even if you're bi with a preference for the opposite gender, you are still bi and still valid.' Bisexual women need to be allowed to love men too. I also saw something that said 'bisexual women are women that love men in a gay way' and it's like, honestly, yeah. I'm gay for men, gay for women, gay for non-binary people. Although I have also been informed that being under the genderfluid umbrella means all of my relationships are automatically gay, sooo...

[@heather9130]

Bi memes are always so validating. My bi awakening was boring, but I'm gonna share it anyway. Since I'm an artist I have studied the human form forever. Bodies are so beautiful. I follow instagram models and nude photographers, and one day I realized it's not just artistic appreciation. I wish I could point to a celeb and say "yes! My bi awakening!" No instead it was, "Damn my insta feed is full of thirst traps...oh." To answer your bi-curious question, my husband and I talked about this. He identifies as straight but thinks sexuality is a spectrum. Like he looks at men at the gym to inspire himself to work harder, and he appreciates a good figure no matter who it is. He looked inward growing up to find his preferences and decided he's straight because he doesn't feel a desire to be with men. Whereas I have literally always checked out men and women, but I never realized I was scoping the goods. I thought that's what everyone does! I can't believe not everyone enjoys female butts.

[@broblerone413]

lol as an artist finding humans generally beautiful was my bi awakening too! (i'm asexual but biromantic). that, and having an artist friend that constantly flirts with me XD

[@jonathanfelgate42]

i’m bi and my epilepsy actively prevents my from sleeping in anything other than an approximation of the family guy death pose. in conclusion, my epilepsy made me bi

[@thecraziestcrayon]

As a fellow bi epileptic, I agree, the epilepsy made me bi. Guess all the seizing shook the gay awake lol

[@atheveane.nequen]

Im straight and the only attraction I've felt for someone similiar to my own gender is aesthetic attraction. Like wow you're beautiful! But I do not want to have sex with you. I can have deep emotional connections and be great friends, but it doesn't ever turn into anything romantic And i stress similiar gender to be inclusive of non-binary people. This isn't a convo i feel people have enough. Being heterosexual does not mean i am a woman who likes men, i like people different to my own gender. Like if anyone sees someone and thinks they're attractive, they have those thoughts regardless of knowing the other person's gender identity. I've been attracted to nbs without knowing they were nb at first. And nbs that are closer to female side of the gender spectrum/female presenting I don't find sexually/romantically attractive, and other times, even for 100% men, i just don't find them attractive because I am obviously human and that's not how attraction works. There can be a scenario where I say, "she's my partner" and be totally valid. I've been attracted to people who used multiple pronouns (I've never been attracted to anyone who exclusively uses she), and so yeah, in case anyone was curious about this subject 😭💜

[@Cascadeis]

This is exactly my position as well! I can appreciate a gorgeous woman, but I can not even imagine kissing or dating a woman. The second part is something I’ve never put into words, but I feel really similar. For me being straight means I can feel attraction towards anyone (that fits my “type”) so long as they don’t identify/present as female. Huh, never thought about it before. (I’ve also been in a monogamous relationship since before words like genderfluid/queer became part of my vocabulary, and I don’t suppose I spend much time thinking about what kind of people I would sleep with. Lol.)

[@richkarter1916]

I’m an “Ian, sit on the f*ing sofa” it’s comfier than sitting on a sofa or a chair

[@LibRoseITM]

I was one of those people who chose to be straight presenting whilst being pan, because I grew up a very oppressive religious environment. I never thought that being gay is a choice though... I still had the thoughts and feelings of a pansexual person, it was the outward appearance of my sexuality that I chose.

[@emilymoran9152]

11:00 - Have you heard the werewolf explanation? A werewolf isn't sometimes human and sometimes a wolf, they're just always a werewolf. I swear Terry Pratchett must have had that in mind when creating the character of werewolf policewoman Angua because at one point she is literally sitting between her human boyfriend and wolf ex having that exact conversation (with the extra detail of noting that both species tend to distrust her!). Also she's besties with the obvious-trans-metaphor dwarf, which is super cute.

[@lbjcb5]

Love the feel good bi vibes. Also, your blouse is really cute!

[@roneliadelgrange8315]

I often use queer as an umbrella term but I understand that it might not fit for all people

[@fleetyfoote5483]

Oh my god. Aragon, legolas and eowyn. The holy trinity of LOTR bisexuality, one for each colour.

[@gender_crisis1630]

Facts

[@TaraTara-ld2xb]

I like Frodo and Pippin. Frodo solely for looks (Elijah Wood = gorgeous!) and Pippin because he has the cutest personality! Like, personality-wise, he's totally my type! Lol.

[@thecraziestcrayon]

My bi awakening was my zumba instructor. Looking back, I think a lot of my "I wish I could be her" experiences might've been "I'm attracted to her", but I'd never really thought too much about it and brushed it off as jealousy. Then I started getting really nervous around the dance teacher, to the point of me being like "WTF" and thinking it was my social anxiety. But when I thought about it, I realized that all the things I was feeling (butterflies, racing heart, constantly stuttery) were all things that happened when I thought a guy was cute. Then it hit me. Oh. I like girls too. Explains why I was so obsessed with Haley Kiyoko's "Girls Like Girls" music vid in middle school lol

[@misslion951]

yes, we love frogs.

[@TiBunCosplay]

Oh yes, I totally had a time that I was 100% sure that everyone felt an attraction to the same gender in some way or another. Turns out that no, I'm just queer.

[@rachelsnyder1772]

I am now reading comments and questioning everything. I have always thought of myself as straight but I have definitely had attractions to the same sex before and ignored them/just assumed it was normal/was more attracted to the opposite gender. And apparently that's uh...not how other straight people feel. I grew up in a very conservative place and would never have considered until I started trying to be more open and learn more about things for my kids.

[@KimsiePimsie]

I hope you know it's totally okay and valid to be questioning, it is quite confusing especially in the heteronormative world we live in! Take your time and try not to pressure yourself into anything:). I hope you'll figure it out, if you want to. And good luck❤!!

[@missnaomi613]

Wow, you sound like me in 2020, just before my 49th birthday. Video with bisexual memes. Looking at the comments. 🤯 Whatever your truth is, be gentle with yourself. You are valid!

[@theembersinside1420]

If you like saying Gay instead of LGBTQ+, why don't you just say Queer. 🤷🏻‍♀️💜 Edit- 42 yr old bi cis woman here. It wasn't a phase, Mom! Still bisexual.. haha

[@noaccount2494]

I use the term Queer for myself because its much simpler than describing every facet of myself when I dont feel like it

[@MsAmylou97]

I feel that knees as high as humanly possible at night thing so much 😂 that’s the only way I sleep!

[@Ikataja]

regarding the "isn't everyone at least a bit bi-curious" - this might just be true for me and is not meant to invalidate anyone, but I'm aro/ace and the most any person can get from me is either platonic or aesthetic attraction, no butterflies or heat flashes or anything like that

[@TinyTucker15]

Yes! I’m the same way! I love it but most people are like nahhhh no sex…. I’m out lol xoxox

[@mynameismaddymwah3178]

Nothing encapsulates the bi experience like not realising how many same sex crushes you had when you were younger Also bi memes always seem to remind me of Boy Bi by Mad Tsai (amazing song btw)

[@bekah10213]

Me not getting the frog thing while simultaneously being more into frogs lately is absolutely hilarious

[@lrfcowper]

To answer your question, I'm straight, and, yeah, there's just nothing there. If I'm honest, it's a little gross thinking about doing something intimate with a woman. It's easier for me to understand gay people, because I totally understand that kind of, "No, this gender is not for me," than it is to understand less monosexual orientations.

[@PeiPeisMom]

The frog thing might be because frogs can switch genders if there are too many males and not enough females, like physically change. But that seems more trans than bi. Or maybe gender fluid. To answer your question for us, I'm 57 and have always been a straight cis woman, never been attracted to anyone but men, but I've been attracted to trans men as well as cis.

[@odakotarose]

finger guns and anxiety is basically the 4 word summary of my entire life 😂😂😂

[@twistedfrannie9311]

Can confirm, frog. My first one lived for 28 years and I'm on year 4 of my second frog, both African Albino Clawed frogs...think uncooked piece of chicken with pink eyes, lol.

[@Melinea13]

I'm bi but I thought I was straight for ages because I somehow convinced myself women were just so attractive that even straight women were attracted to them

[@EmoNightDragon]

I like reclaiming the word "queer" instead of saying "gay". Which is also very fun with the Norwegian equivalent "Skeiv" which means not-straight // crooked(?). The puntential

[@LCcoolcraft]

10:18 the cow is Otis, from back at the barnyard.

[@missnaomi613]

8:18 My bisexual epiphany happened whilst watching a video with bisexual memes... and then looking at the comments. I relate so hard to that grandma!

[@roxepy7618]

whoohoo good day to be bisexual

[@missnaomi613]

Every day is a good day to be bisexual! 😃💗💜💙

[@noaccount2494]

@@roxepy7618 Just report their comments and channel for hate speech and violence

[@roxepy7618]

@@noaccount2494 I did!!

[@noaccount2494]

@@roxepy7618 great!

[@roxepy7618]

@@noaccount2494 yesss exactlyyy

[@thelittlestpika]

My queer awakening was Shego from Kim Possible. Made me realize that I wanted a big tittie goth girlfriend. I ended up with a big tittie pastel boyfriend.

[@BiggerinRealLife]

Answering for my partner who is straight: he’s never felt attraction to other men. I’ve questioned this extensively, because like you I always was sure everyone was a little bit gay. Nope, just us bisexuals. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@theprincessed]

Your energy in this video especially is so chirpy and cute! 🥹

[@breadlover645]

The Owl House on Disney Plus is a great show with bi and many other different types of representation in the LGBTQIA+ community also live the content 💕💕

[@starparodier91]

5:23 really called me out, haha! The number of times my parent’s have visited my place and asked me why I’m sitting on the floor in front of my couch… 🤣 In my defense I mostly do it so I can put my head next to my dog’s while we’re watching something because he really likes it.

[@ladymeow1226]

Ive since youth known i wasnt straight (April from Ninja Turtles i fancied), and realized i sometimes like males as a teen. Im pansexual, but b4 I found the term, went w/bi. Back then I never did artsy things w/the bi colors, where as now as a pan person, I frequently use the colors. N I always have at least my pan flag ring on, finding it important 2b proud of my queerness n help normalize &educate people on lgbtqia+.

[@nudgificator]

'Finger guns and anxiety' has to be an album title.

[@rebeccagiraffe225]

I'm on the ace spectrum (heteroromantic). I have only felt romantic attraction to people of the opposite gender I know well and only felt aesthetic or very slight sexual attraction to my current boyfriend. I'm significantly more likely to feel sensual attraction (desire for physical affection such as hugs) to people of the opposite gender that I know or connect with well, but my love language is physical touch so really I want to hug people anyway.

[@Xanderj89]

As an aegopanromantic nonbinary girl, *cishetn’t* might be a more accurate way to describe me than anything I’ve come across lol. Thanks yesn’t!

[@DustyStarrs]

feeling the love as a fellow bi!!!! I relate to so much of what you're saying Shaaba ❤

[@dorothea_walland]

"everyone is a little bi just admit it"!

[@danbirdneo591]

I am very much a “Linda, I believed in you”

[@apfel0766]

My Bi awakening was young Bill and Donna in Mamma Mia 2 so I watched that movie sooo many times until I realised that I just had a massive crush on both of them.

[@gender_crisis1630]

Let’s start a chain here, what was your bi awakening?

[@TheArtGirlMaddy]

The first can can recall is Blythe from the littlest pet shop show but only in that one specific episode where she dressed all goth lol. Which is funny because I remember watching that specific episode over and over and over again and being like “why do I like this episode so much?” But I didn’t realize that till much later in life the first one I was like “oh that was hot” was Korra from legend of Korra when she did that hair flip at the end of season 2 😂

[@Zapporah85]

Shaaba: Do you truly not feel any attraction to the same sex Me, an Ace: You guys are feeling attraction?

[@miaik-]

I'm all the sofa positions other than Ian on the backrest...but I could see myself doing it too

[@kayleeschaber3642]

I loved realizing a lot of my traits are similar to other Bi people! 😅😅

[@Mockingjay975]

Person: So do you like men or women? Me: Yes

[@pineapple_the_turtle]

Pride and Prejudice was my bi awakening. Mr.Darcy and Elizabeth are both fine.

[@marigo5951]

I am mostly attracted to men. But also a little bit too women, and yes, I also thought long time that’s what everyone felt because women are just beautiful, aren’t they😅

[@missnaomi613]

This right here.

[@esf34147]

so many people's bisexual awakenings were orlando bloom and keira knightley and i am so glad heartstopper represented this alskdlas

[@MorgynGreyWolfASMR]

As someone who is pan I can relate to some of these! LoL 😄

[@Eco_Hiko]

I've had a really naff day and Preppy, Poppy, Shaaba is just what I needed

[@TheHaniverse]

In the last one, when people say bi is half gay and half straight, I ask them if purple is a shade of blue or red and they instantly get it LOL like yes, there are elements of overlap, there are more blue purples and there are more reddish purples, but we all acknowledge that purple is its own colour in its own right. Also, I know you were asking straight people about attraction, but as a fellow bi person, I just can't wrap my head around how you could be attracted to someone (say they're androgynous) and then all that 'disappears' the moment they have the wrong thing in their pants. I can understand having a preference for masculine or feminine features, but the focus monosexuals put on gen1tals is sooooo weird to me, and I'm happy to bi because we really do get the best of both worlds.

[@bitchenboutique6953]

Is this why I’m so drawn to these really cute enamel frog pins?

[@oliviawolcott8351]

Trans woman here who transitioned later. (relevant to story, I promise) My Bi Awakening was Shemar Moore. for a while I thought I was gay, which was super confusing for me since I grew up in a homophobic environment. finally accepted my bisexuality when I came out as Trans. which was way easier than accepting I was trans. but all is good now.

[@oliviawolcott8351]

oh, addendum to that. I had the whole are you straight or are you bi thing sorta. although it was more like are you gay, or are you a lesbian? someone presumed that since I was transitioning I wanted to be with gay guys. like yes... that's how that works. derp. and then they asserted well if that wasn't it then I must be a lesbian. to them they couldn't conceive of gender identity being separate from sexuality.

[@oliviawolcott8351]

oh, fuck EOWYN IS FIRE! I am so attracted to strong women characters, and I like gentle but strong male characters. my biggest bi crush right now is Jaimie and Clair from Outlander.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I never realised that Shaaba pulled off a great optical illusion with her hair.

[@ashofmeal9453]

5:15 I am either the comfy side lean or the LINDA WHAT THE…..

[@raymondstegman751]

The Cartoon cow is Otis from the Back at the Barnyard series that was on Nick years ago. And he is canon transmasc.

[@sarahmellinger2907]

Bi people just love frogs. Idk why. We just love them. They’re so neat.

[@rosieg6989]

I'm omni, but Identified as bi for over half a decade, and I relate to a lot of these.

[@shiroganetsuki9634]

You know you're pan when you unexpectedly find yourself attracted to Gandalf instead of all the other hotties in LOTR more appropriate to your age.

[@JennaGetsCreative]

I disagree that bi and pan are fundamentally different because bi is both a specific label and an umbrella that covers many labels. As an umbrella term, it's attraction outside of the binary. As a specific label, it's attraction to 2+ genders, typically including your own/one that makes you pass as straight. This goes along with the other common labels under that umbrella of pan (attraction regardless of gender,) poly (attraction to multiple genders not necessarily including your own,) and omni (attraction to all genders because of what makes them those different genders.) My preferred sleeping position: 3/4 position, somewhere between side and front laying, with the top leg bent up to my chest and the lower leg relatively straight.

[@superzooperhaze6597]

i agree with you. i don't mind the use of other labels (i sometimes use both pan and omni as well) but bi is interchangeable with all of them (and is my preferred along with just "queer") so to claim that bisexuality is inherently different is just false if you've read the bisexual manifesto.

[@WishGender]

I agree. I feel like as long as you’re under the bi umbrella it’s perfectly fine to say you’re bi. Like I’m omni but I call myself bi a lot because I don’t want people to be confused. It felt kinda icky hearing her tell someone that them using the bi label is wrong..

[@ShiniNoMegami]

'What if you like rabbits or lizards???' Trans, that's the trans experience right there

[@Shartreuse1312]

Wait omfg you’ve never seen back at the barnyard??! That’s where the cows from , it was such a staple in my childhood omg I would love to see you make a video watching it for the first time!!! Aaaaaa it’s so good 🤣😭😭

[@hello_its_jo9951]

I also only recently discovered that straight girls/women genuinely are not attracted to other women. Like zero. Not at all. Turns out not everyone feels like I do, I’m just gay 😂

[@MeMyshelfAndI]

Ally here, but I am very, very straight. Never felt an ounce of attraction for anyone of the same gender. It didn't even occur to me that it was a possibility until I was like 12. I spent a good 1-2 weeks just seriously scrutinizing all of my present and former feelings because the idea seriously rocked my world 😂 I still think about it every occasionally over the past 20 years to see if my attractions have changed. But nope. 100% straight every time 🤷Half convinced my spouse is lying because I can 0% understand being attracted to female bodies, lmao.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

I've always been able to understand being attracted to female bodies because I feel like women are just objectively prettier, have nicer faces and voices and are just overall more attractive as people (not necessarily in a romantic way) but I honestly used to be like you. I looked at women and it was like 'nope, no desire for a romantic relationship' and then one day a Spanish girl put her hand on my knee and I couldn't stop thinking about it for days on end so then it was just like 'well shit, I guess I like women as well.' (I do still have a preference for men though. I feel *the thing* more commonly with men. Look at them, though. They're just beautiful and hot and perfect... that is, when they're being allies and generally cool people. I have a particular soft spot for strong bisexual men who are tall, dark and handsome and have long hair.)

[@MeMyshelfAndI]

@@unapologeticallylizzy lol! I get finding them pretty the same way I find flowers or sunsets or paintings pretty :) But 0 sexual attraction of any kind. (And I lose my pretty scale entirely once we're talking about unclothed. 🤷Then, for me, it's just the same level of interest as looking at picked blades of grass.) Like I _know_ people have attraction I just personally lose _understanding._ But very grateful the world is increasingly more accepting of diversity! :D Humans have so much range and opportunity for attraction to be ever-evolving, even within individuals.

[@unapologeticallylizzy]

@Me, My Shelf, and I Yeah, it's nice! Although honestly, I'm talking completely about romantic attraction. My experience of sexual attraction is slim to none. The thought or sight of a naked man honestly terrifies me. Gotta love childhood sexual trauma. I want to work through it though, and I think that I can once I find someone I trust. I think I did feel sexual attraction once with one guy but yeah. Unclothed, women are tolerable, men, unless I'm fully in love and have a very deep, intimate trust, I'm running. Even with that trust, I can't look.

[@williamswindler105]

9:13: When someone calls me he even thought my pronouns are they/them.

[@ennanitsua]

I feel called out by finger guns and anxiety. Excuse you, internet.

[@Peachessssss13]

I’m so sick rn that I can’t communicate with anything other than texts or upset noises so thank you for making this video💞

[@missnaomi613]

Feel better soon! 🙏❤🏳‍🌈🏳‍⚧

[@EssBJay]

I'm in my thirties and just came out to myself in the last year or so, even though I've known since college that I sometimes find men attractive. I just didn't think it meant anything. When my psych 101 professor taught us about the Kinsey scale I said, "Oh, okay, I guess I'm a 1...maybe a 2 sometimes, " and I *still didn't think it meant anything.* It's only years of exposure to the rainbow mafia and the Rona-induced sit-down that made me realize, "Waaaaaaiiiiiit a second..."

[@Sailor_Enchantix]

“I think more people would be bisexual if society and religion didn’t shove heteronormativity down our throats.” -My grandma.

[@pmbluemoon]

The top you're wearing is super cute! 😍 Thank you for the video! I wonder whats up with the frog too actually... 🐸

[@Mockingjay975]

Person: So what gender do you like? Me: Yes

[@binglemarie42]

I'm a big fan of "queer" as a one-word summation of LGBTQ+.

[@nueroptera]

😬 Ursula the Seawitch person, you are not alone

[@emilymoran9152]

7:40 - This is why reclaiming "queer" is so handy: One syllable. Covers everything.

[@christinakyleloves]

Love you, Shaaba!!🍑🍑🩷🩷

[@isabrom5295]

10:14 the bull is the protagonist of the movie Barnyard and it has many ftm trans bulls in it

[@heatherbaker3903]

IF straight women never look at other women's bodies and think they're hot.... I might be bi. Women are goddesses and so beautiful and so sexy.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Harley Quinn is THE chaotic bisexual.

[@nose-rice]

10:15 the cow is from barnyard! Please watch this movie it's insane in the best way possible and I'm pretty sure that cow is canonicallly trans

[@lunaamagenp5847]

I never really had a "Bisexual awakening." I've just always known that I was Bi, as far back as I can remember. I remember always saying to people, "If you touch the right thing the right way, it will respond no matter who you're with, so in the end, gender doesn't really matter." And I truly believed those words, for YEARS. The thought that people aren't at least a little bit attracted to all genders (with their own types to take into consideration, obviously), is something that I only started to realize more recently.

[@jadethegingergoblin718]

Tbh, I've been married for 10 years, and I never want to date again. If something happens, I think I'd just stay single and hide inside my house. I'm pan and just generally awful at flirting, or being able to tell if someone is flirting with me, for that matter.

[@alexhika]

I love all the bi memes about sitting in weirdest position and I had never seen one about sleeping positions! Super relatable to me, apparently I am absolutely terrifying when I try to find a "comfortable" position to sleep lol

[@thejestingfool]

I've been them all except Normal Sidelean and IAN 😅

[@cheriestolze]

Thank you for another video.

[@danielreher1987]

I love the outfit you were wearing when you recorded this video.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I like Keira Knightley because I want to be her in those fabulous outfits. Also, she had some SIZZLING Co-stars 🔥

[@winterpagel216]

Shaaba I totally understand your relief of not being in the dating scene and trying to flirt with people! My wonderful boyfriend and I often talk about being grateful that we found each other because dating, dating apps, people, etc are exhausting!