3 Facts That Shut Down Narcissists

[@AliRisings]

Narcissists are NOT teachable! Let's sit with this... This is worth knowing!

[@ketchup1185]

Yes! They are incapable of self-reflection on a deep level, therefore unable to learn. During my year long relationship with someone who had narcissistic traits, I kept waiting for them to have a light bulb moment and see the light. And waiting. And waiting lol. They are perpetual selfish children.

[@mikebott6940]

They aren't. They won't surprise you with new behaviors, with goodness or a desire for reconciliation.

[@cacatr4495]

@@mikebott6940 though they might have "new behaviors" that come from their ploy of imitating a chameleon, which will only be different versions of the same old crap.

[@anewlifestirring]

If a person is teachable, he was not a narcissist in the first place 😊

[@aaronkwolfe]

I became apathetic to the attempts to goad me into reaction. It shut down those attempts eventually, and made me a worthless source of supply. I call that a win.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Absolutely 💯

[@BaraSchmidt]

@@aaronkwolfe ALL day!

[@SherryWilson-dk7bo]

Yay Aaron, definitely a win ❤🏆🙂

[@diamondtbar9818]

That's a win!

[@carolnahigian9518]

Amen. be so boring; the Narc Psycho seeks supply, ELSEWHERE

[@fayefarrar]

They do not listen. One cannot reach them.

[@oceannomad4236]

I could swear that my narcissist has a perfect recollection of my every failure for the last forty years.

[@MarianneCatherine]

The same here!!!😂😮😅 Picture Perfect!!! 😊

[@teresadvorak6145]

But no memory of their own failures 😮

[@angpttmn]

That made me laugh.....I hope think you are right.😂

[@justmichael6628]

​@@teresadvorak6145​ 💯 percent true . Because they refuse to do the inner work needed to Regress ; to Redefine ; and to Restructure their understanding's of perceptions in the renewing of their minds .

[@pppp-jf3yc]

To top that, my achievements are also brought as failures.

[@Mom-277]

Amazing how they know all the answers without asking questions before rendering their "facts".

[@mariegumpel4955]

Exactly and get everyone to believe it..

[@bobtaylor170]

Oh, heck, don't we all know that the narcissistic ( expletive of your own choice ) in our lives have all the answers and that we should allow them to run our lives for us?

[@TheMazinoz]

I had one criticise me over a conversation I had with someone else. Only problem was they were not there, nor did the other person tell them what was said. It was all a lie that they fabricated in their own head to justify their lack of responsibility. No wonder people go nuts trying to deal with people like this. I didn't ask them into my life, they moved into next door apartment and kicked off being abusive from the get go.

[@kristinaekstrand]

They think they are God himself!!!!

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

So true 😌

[@stillaworkinprogress2147]

One thing I have learned about narcissists - they believe their stories/lies that they made up as soon as that story/lie leaves their pie hole.

[@madelinemaize1426]

😂 so true.

[@karendixon401]

And probably before ..when they made it up

[@chantalle7340]

💯

[@TheMazinoz]

Yep, they live in an alternative universe to the rest of us.

[@urbanangst7630]

Lol.. pie hole. Great description of the narc's mouth moving.

[@user-wo5bp2oi5c]

Being the son of a clinical narcissist father this all checks out. It is one of the most confusing and torturous experiences imaginable. I am 41 years old and I’m just now beginning to realize the hopelessness of the situation. Which is hopeful for me because I’m finally beginning tostop trying to change them. But it is been a very hard ride. Thank you for doing what you do. I don’t have to tell you how deeply destructive and isolating narcissism is to the person on the receiving end. So these videos do act to make me feel a little less alone in all of this. Because that’s what they do to you they make you feel like you’re the one with the problem

[@SusanHagan-ul1uf]

Knowing the truth about the narcissist parents is half the battle. I got you. My mother was a narcissist drug addict literal witch and she was the worst thing that ever happened to me. I am healing from it now

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

After desperately attempting to communicate with My Ex-Narcissist (as usual😏) he annoyingly texted back to me “You just think way too deep about shit! ” so, i replied to him, “What if i don’t really think too deep at all and you’re just way too shallow?” He went completely silent (of course) 🙄😅🤓

[@cacatr4495]

How many have heard the statement, "You think too much!"

[@BonnieJean4578]

Good comeback!😘

[@karablake9200]

"you're too sensitive" "Just don't go there in your head. You need to get over it" "That's not how it happened" "Can you just forgive and forget? It seemed like everything was going better"

[@cacatr4495]

@@karablake9200 "You're making too much out of it, you're making a mountain out of a mole hill!" Such ones, whether they are parents or spouses or otherwise, act like they are allowed to treat people any way they want, and that no one can say anything about it. They're deluded.

[@LeeAnnTorrans]

@@cacatr4495 They need to do all the 'thinking'! How else could the criticize everything you do?

[@Victoria-c4n]

How about: “It must be so frustrating for you that you cannot manipulate me.”

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Narcisists are not teachable. Spot on dr Carter 😊 Thank you ❤

[@CrazyEightyEights]

Warm wishes to everyone on Team Healthy. ♡ To those scapegoat survivors of narcissistic abuse who have gone no contact, I am thinking of you with love and empathy. I wish for you the inner peace I have achieved over four years.

[@larshesthaven5828]

Narcs will never be accountable for anything..when confronted they will say they never did that or said that and then blame you for making it all up or say: you have a bad memory...narcs have a very selective memory and will only bring something forward for their own benefit. If no benefit you will be gaslighted right away or end up with a borderline rage fit. You cannot talk with a narc. They dont have the skill or an interest in talking together on a deeper and honest level...they are stuck in their own hardened mind and will only listen to their own story, both if the story is a lie or the truth...narcs are destroyed, stuck and traumatised creatures from early childhood..narcs are hopeless..the worst for me is to have a daughter with a narc monster..its heartbreaking

[@kelly450]

@@larshesthaven5828 They are EMPTY CREATURES..

[@MarianneCatherine]

I'm so sorry. 😢 Do the best you can to protect your daughter. It is definitely heartbreaking 💔 Everything you said is absolutely the truth!!! Good luck, and keep listening and learning. It does make a difference. 😊

[@michaeltroy7777]

I couldn't have said it better! 😊

[@tonifonseca9178]

My daughter moved her animals and kids to an RV

[@BonnieJean4578]

I am so sorry. When I confront my narc with her manipulating behavior, she says, "oh, that's just a difference in opinion." NO, it's YOUR behavior. They don't see the world the same way. No sense wasting time talking.

[@blessedgrandma]

My husband is a narcissist. He believes he's the new savior, his way is the right way and I'm supposed to jump every time he says to do something. Like right now. He is so special

[@Erica85255]

Yep! And anytime I call him out for something, he then accuses me of the same. It’s insanity!!!

[@tonifonseca9178]

Exactly do they all have to show you how to build the ark by insisting you come see what they did??😅

[@cacatr4495]

Quote: "his way is the right way and I'm supposed to jump every time he says to do something." How many of us have grown up with a parent who was of that attitude?

[@karablake9200]

"You don't do this, and you're sunk." "If you cause a scene, your name is Mudd" " Your sister will be here soon. You go in your room and don't come out until she leaves the Air BNB in the morning tomorrow". This was during a massive reunion for extended family. I said, "so I'm supposed to make myself invisible?" My mom got annoyed. "No. Just stay in there." I'm 44. And a lifelong learner. I appreciate y'all for giving me the context I need remind myself of my convictions when my soul gets a little muddied.

[@Hatbox948]

When I got myself entwined in the "house sitting" episode with the nex he very aggressively insisted I cook. I refused because I was no longer a GF, and I knew it was a pathway to the servitude of the past. You'd cook, clean, serve him the food, refill his drink, remove his boots, etc. He was very angry, but what else was new? One night I wanted to make myself something to eat so I prepared enough for us both. He will stand there giving instructions as to how he likes it fixed. Then, some butter spilled in the oven and smoked a little. He had a hissy fit yelling that I was trying to burn the house down, blah, blah. You cannot win with a narcissist. You can develop anxiety and PTSD for starters. I don't ever want to be mixed up with one again.

[@caroleminke6116]

You’re enabling them when you return to secondary mommy supply so don’t do it!

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@Hatbox948 You showed courage getting through and out of that situation. You are an incredible inspiration ❤️ ✨️ 🙏🕯

[@Hatbox948]

@amandaliverpool3374 Thank you Amanda. You're always so sweet!

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@Hatbox948 I mean it ❤️🕯

[@Hatbox948]

@@amandaliverpool3374 💟

[@lockstar169]

I often wonder if my ability to remember everything in detail with a sort of "play the tape" accuracy, was largely just a defense mechanism against my narcissistic family. I do it passively and without effort and I remember nuance and chronology. Everyone accepts this as fact but when they see it as being "used against them" it's like a full on assault of abuse...

[@angelwild5665]

Merry Christmas and the Best New Year, yet to all❤

[@Greeceismygoto]

Merry Christmas too! That would be so nice if we all can be healed together ❤

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Same to you! Happy Holidays!

[@GR44N]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Thank you for your help over the years Dr. Carter ❤️

[@ዚman]

Hard to love a narcissist. Trying to get free from one now but hard when young children are involved.

[@julieb8445]

It is . I finally left mine 6 years ago my youngest was 11. It was hard and now she’s 18 and I don’t have to speak to him anymore. I wish you all the strength to be where you are.

[@Greenwings701]

And one of the narc's techniques is to tell you that you can't actually know anything. They want you to seriously doubt being able to speak and represent your own experience, history, etc. They want you to mentally fray. They'll ridicule you for participating in conversations with others and will put you down in front of them, basically implying you're either crazy, stupid, or a liar. This is especially triggered the more interesting your knowledge is, and how close it comes to what THEY wish they like knowing about or consider themselves to be an expert on.

[@TheMazinoz]

I had one tell me I was not to email the Body Corporate manager to get three blocked drains fixed that were blocked due to tree roots and rust! I own the apartment and had absolutely every right to do this.

[@darinsmith2458]

It is very helpful and very freeing to know that they are not teachable.. Can't fix stupid comes to mind..

[@caroleminke6116]

He’s said it before about a quote at the work place in the dining area 😉 admission without attribution

[@darinsmith2458]

@@caroleminke6116 I heard him say it before and I got a good laugh out of it..

[@suzannebryan1194]

Know a narcissist who told me ‘ I only deal in facts’. Hmmmm …his view of facts it turns out.

[@caroleminke6116]

Psychosis

[@Erica85255]

Sounds exactly like my husband

[@B-H-B-E-B]

Same exact pronouncement from my ex spouse

[@rickwolfe7386]

I've learned so, so much from you on this subject Dr. Carter. I only wish I'd known all this stuff in my mid teens. Different choices would have been made and that would have had a profound effect on my life. At least I know it now and that will prevent further pain, heartache and mistakes. Thank you x100 for sharing your knowledge with us.

[@caroleminke6116]

❤

[@MarianneCatherine]

Me too. Well said, and thank you!!! 🙏😊🙏

[@alexastirling4385]

Me as well. Thank you ❤

[@notagain779]

There really isn't anything in them that you can work with, so don't waste your time and energy.

[@pinschrunner]

I am grateful that I learn something new every day, sometimes from what humans consider to be the lowliest of creatures. Narcissists could learn a lot from the cooperation of fire ants, instead of just biting.

[@caroleminke6116]

😉

[@TheMazinoz]

My cat has appointed herself my "emotional support animal" 😊

[@BushcraftQuebec]

I had to cut contact with everyone . Everyone i knew was a narcissist . I ended up no familly no outdoors buddy . No calls for Christmas my birthday I never really existed . And now the crabs are only there to bring me back in the bucket .

[@Teacher369]

Don’t give up. Not everyone is exploitive. ☮️

[@cherobinson6371]

Yes once You see what a narcissist is Yoy suddenly are crossing off almost everone you Know! I’d say they make up 50% of the Population.Who? Truly has had more than 2? Maybe 3? People you can say were 100% Friends. Not ,any can say that!

[@cherobinson6371]

Not many can say they have more than 2 people in lives they can see we’re absolutely 100% Solid Friends. People who claim I have TONS! Of Friends! That’s definitely a Narcissist.

[@gwendolynwehage6336]

I have had the same experience and feel more peaceful than I ever have. It is better to be alone in peace than in a crowd being mistreated. Christ is my best friend, He is all I need and once in awhile He brings a kind person to visit with.

[@VgVi13]

@BushcraftQuebec same here. You're not alone for sure.

[@AUSTRALIANAMADE]

Thanks Doc, you've helped me become a pretty healthy narcissist diverter. There are 3 responses that really help to catapult the crap back in the moment..... "Oh you're so right, most of the time", "I bet you are", and "You're just one of a kind!". All of these are received with the most amazing 'Thank You', it's very telling. A normal person laughs and says 'what?"

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Love it!

[@AUSTRALIANAMADE]

@@SurvivingNarcissism Your creation here is a must for step parents to watch also,, taking the higher ground is normally done by the kids. They just ignore the toxic steppie... What's say a grilling and telling segment on "do you know what the narcissist is doing to your kids?" A life of isolation from lack of trust will be the result otherwise. No pressure of course.

[@saltwaterjoys6110]

Best Wishes for a joyful holiday season to you & your family, especially Gus ❤️

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Happy holidays!

[@angelawatts4390]

Gus!I love you man!

[@surferdude4487]

1. I will not ever argue with you about how you feel. It is the height of arrogance and how you feel is not up for debate. However, if we do not agree about facts, instead of arguing, we can look it up. the number of times I've been corrected really help me to become smarter. 2. It's pretty pointless to argue about what I remember. It is a fact that I will recall different details from other people who were at the same event. It can be fun to learn about how other people saw it. In any case, memory is not perfect. That is why camera recordings are better than eye witnesses. 3. My vision is not your vision. but, let's look at what we both have in mind. This way, we can find a better way. In any case, let's do it with respect. This is how people become closer and great things are done.

[@Ty44444]

I love this channel so very much. Dr.C has changed my life just from this channel. Thank you Dr.C much love to you. I have healed so much and continue to thanks to Dr.C and my will to heal.

[@lishmahlishmah]

I'd really like to see, sooner or later, some research about the therapeutic effects of some people working _via internet_ (psychologists, coaches, etc). It's about human connections, at the end of the day... Ok, this is easily understandable. However, we still consider it as a "simple" information. Well, information / knowledge is power, this is clear as well. And yet, with people like dr C as well as dr Ramani and others... for me it's NOT just a simple "information" , it's not just "knowledge" they are giving to us. It's much more. No doubt.

[@brucefriedman1]

Telling a narcissist their hairdresser talks behind their back, that restaurants they frequent wish they wouldn't come around any more and that they look ridiculous in their outrageous outfits usually shuts them down. Of course, however, you won't hear from the narcissist any more, yet you will discover through the grapevine they have found a new hairdresser, that they frequent new restaurants and that they have completely changed their wardrobe and their look. Moreover, the narcissist will often go under the knife for plastic surgery to put the proverbial icing on the reinvention cake.

[@Survivin2Thrivin]

I assume this narcissist you speak of isn't vindictive, then? 😂

[@DawnSelby-k5w]

​@@Survivin2Thrivin This! ⬆️ It's not wise to poke the bear. Much better to keep it civil.

[@cherobinson6371]

I did that and it works. I told one that all his Golf Buddies were at the Pub the Other DQ and they were telling the whole Pub how lame he is and how he’s nothing more than a Mental Midget. He literally melted in front my eyes and hasn’t stalked me since. Really hits hard when it’s a small town or community! He has left house since!nhaha Insecure Much Narcissistic? Absolutely!!!

[@Blueberry-u2x]

I wonder who is who ! 😅😂

[@brucefriedman1]

@@Blueberry-u2x Names and events will always be a closely guarded secret in order to keep the narc's flying monkeys far away from me given they all got what they wanted by playing along with the narc and are dangerous predators.

[@lishmahlishmah]

So much good air to breathe in being authentic people. And so many roads of freedom that open up before us. All roads leading towards a "calm confidence" ...even though many of us are still going through difficult situations. A big hug from Italy to all people of Team Healthy looking for autenticity. No need for perfection, Thank Heaven. Let's keep on learning. Thank you dr C. for this "therapeutic" lesson. One more gift for us. Wishing a joyful Christmas, to you, your wife and all your family. And Gus !

[@MarianneCatherine]

Beautifully said. 🫂♥️🎄♥️🙏

[@lishmahlishmah]

@MarianneCatherine ✨🌟🧡💚🌼✨🙏

[@well_weathered]

💯 🧡✨️🫂

[@lishmahlishmah]

@Summer_Harvest 🙏✨💠✨🧡✨🌿

[@BaraSchmidt]

An individual who has a narcissistic personality style has "imperative thinking." I say THEY have IMPAIRED thinking if they think they are the standard bearers for all! Especially those of us who... Stay Healthy!!

[@caroleminke6116]

Yup 😉

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@BaraSchmidt Well said 👏🏽 ❤️

[@lishmahlishmah]

😁 👍 ✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨🧡✨

[@Marie-ts8rp]

Cute puppy on couch sir❤

[@MarianneCatherine]

❤🐶❤🦮❤🐕❤

[@lishmahlishmah]

He is a silent healer ✨🧡✨✨🧡✨🧡✨✨

[@mikebott6940]

The silent co-host.

[@nobutterinhell]

i love Gus

[@MarianneCatherine]

Self-preservation becomes Selfishness for them. Thanks, Dr C for another great and pensive video!!! Have a nice weekend! 😊

[@miras.9514]

Oooohhh, look at me- I know fancy words!! J/k lol.

[@abbazabbadoodle]

Love your vids, they’re therapy-light when you cannot afford a real therapist, thank you.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

So pleased!

[@constancebarrett1398]

Awe gus

[@shannonstoney1]

I think this "flexibility" should only go so far. It can't overlook exploitation or abuse.

[@TruthandJustice-hz9nv]

Absolutely tremendous DR Le's, Thank you so much for this, I'm a lover of learning from everything and everyone, You're right some people can't self reflect and are unteachable, When someone covertly humiliates, Then shows humility, It's sick and false, Peace, love and respect to you, Gus and everyone, Thank you universe, All glory praise and smiles to the most high :-) :-) :-)

[@stardustnebula8692]

I love that you have Gus with you in all the videos now Dr. C! He's looking so comfy back there! ❤

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

If he's not already in my study when I'm ready to tape, I just call him and let him know it's time for him to get to work. He sees me set up the camera, etc, and I swear he knows we're doing something significant.

[@stardustnebula8692]

@SurvivingNarcissism that is ADORABLE! Little gus can just tell that it's time for him to provide some cute dog entertainment! He really adds a lot of warmth that's for certain! 🙌🏼

[@judyhogarth80]

I always enjoy these sessions as they make me think.this one certainly did. Before the narcissist started to hate my guts and began to play games, I used to bake him carrot cake. We went out with his partner and had lunch, and spent time together. This happened for about 18 months. He never mentioned playing the guitar….EVER. Now others have said he plays the guitar and has met quite famous people. They have seen the guitar. BUT a never heard him play. Most of dr carter s sessions state the narcissist is in a different world. Mostly hes a liar. Golly my narcissist is in cloud cookoo land all the time. His perception is certainly not mine. He interprets things very differently than me. Boy I really don’t want to be in his world. I can’t believe that having spent time with him and he never mentioned playing the guitar. EVER…and since he has moved here I have not seen the guitar or heard him play. And there are so many opportunities. I am glad I am real in my world. Thanks dr.Judy from uk

[@debra-zs3fk]

The NARC:why you always remembering the bad times?Me:very few good times.

[@Liz-Grace]

Imperative thinking explained perfectly. Thank you Dr C.

[@Ilikeart888]

Thanks for the helpful videos Dr. Carter. Your little dog sleeping on the sofa is so cute 🥰

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

You are so welcome!

[@hopespringseternal7038]

met a new narc recently and thank god for this channel and this doc because i can spot them more quickly now. this one makes me look at her phone non stop. here's yer hat!

[@Blusky-j2z]

My covert narcissist spouse told me once that shame is a emotion she doesn’t know. I looks like that is the same for guilt or remorse. However, in the discussion, she is very good at stating "facts" that more than often trigger guilt or shame, is she is replied to with "I’m sorry" even when it’s not necessary. She uses that to induce enormous amounts of guilt and shame on me.

[@amandaliverpool3374]

Thanks Dr.C and Team Healthy ❤️

[@caroleminke6116]

Happy holidays ♥️

[@well_weathered]

🕯

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@caroleminke6116 ❤️

[@amandaliverpool3374]

@@well_weathered 🕯🕯🕯

[@well_weathered]

@@amandaliverpool3374 I took a hard fall. My feet went out from under me when I was getting out of the van (not a mini van) and I landed fast and hard on my lower back/bottom and bloodied my elbows. Need 🙏🏼 🕯

[@bepresent_reflect8]

Dr. C you relayed this message clearly. Hopefully this sticks. I took notes, just in case I need a reminder. Respectfully, Thank you

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Glad it was helpful!

[@MeCynthiaAnn]

Thank you Gus and Dr. C. Hugs from JANESVILLE, WI

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thank you Cynthia!

[@joannajohnson696]

I wish you, Gus, your wife and family a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year.

[@MarianneCatherine]

Beautifully said. 🫂♥️🎄❤️🙏

[@shawnrisley2404]

My N mother was upset that I used the "wrong" hand cream. Very upset. :)

[@leonasweny1525]

Oh dear 😂😂😂😂😂

[@caroleminke6116]

How insecure is that?!

[@angpttmn]

If you have been there you get it. Too crazy for words. I'm 60 and my mom when she sees me tells me how unattractive my hair is because I refuse to cut it short like a "pixie". It's insane. Tells me I look old, etc..

[@miras.9514]

I mean, how COULD you?

[@karablake9200]

I like the laughs on this one. It makes glad we have grown enough that realizing how flipping ridiculous it is finally wins out over the anxiety and pain.

[@JackieFerrell-f6o]

Thank-you, Dr. Carter.

[@CowichanValleyRD]

Merry Christmas Dr. Carter and Gus. Really appreciate your KZbins.

[@MiRiAmetje]

Happy holidays! 🌲💐🎁❤️

[@scrimes]

What a great video. Thank you for your helping and healing take on interacting with narcissists. Some of us are permanently attached to one, even when we know they aren't healthy for us.

[@bereal6590]

Thinking appears to be something they do not do. They certainly don't think anyone else has a valid opinion! One pervasive problem in my fam is things have to be done their way, no discussions, no nothing. They don't grow or listen or care how that affects anyone else. Excuses of that's how things were then, we're too old to change, I can't understand/do that. Or just simply you're wrong.

[@MzNettyBird]

Happy Holidays Dr. C! 🥂 What a timely and insightful message…!! ❤we never stop growing ❤️ Ps.. Gus🔥💋💯

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Thanks…and Gus appreciates the good vibes!

[@ZiggyPlayedGuitar1225]

Can a narcissistic mother give their child BPD? I've been in therapy for BPD and I've taken multiple DBT classes as well as bought books and workbooks. Lately, I've never felt more stable and happy with myself but I'm now noticing how toxic mother is in a whole new way. I don't yell back. I don't insult her back. She's escalated to hitting me (I'm 38 on the 25th) because I think she sees I'm finally emotionally regulated and her tricks don't work anymore. Yesterday she called me a fat a** and a glutton and when I ignored her she put her hands on me. Will narcissists get violent when they're no longer hurting you? This started when I was a kid and I was just wondering if it's possible. My therapist says I no longer qualify for BPD. I think that made my mother angry.

[@hopespringseternal7038]

stay away from your mother as much as possible. you are being abused.

[@karablake9200]

Ha ha. I'm 44. Three years ago I spent 7 weeks in inpatient at Cottonwood in Tucson and another three months in PHP and IOP. Best thing ever. Pain terrifying hard work, all about healing. I started learning and changing and growing a spine. The family didn't like the stronger healthier happier me, and one thing my mom did was insinuate that I have Borderline. Qualified professionals have confirmed I do not have a personality disorder. Just my mom sowing doubt within me.

[@stephaniefairey8633]

I tell you what really kills me. After 17 years with her narc, my daughter is finally split up with him for good. However she is still consumed with hatred and revenge...she has become very nasty to him, purely to see him suffer. And he is. I hope she can let it go eventually.

[@judyhengel4013]

My husband has been going to counseling. He's actually gotten worse. There is no communicating.

[@BoksCar29]

My wife, unteachable .

[@She_McGee]

could there be a "rule" or a trueism, that all narcissists are control freaks but not all control freaks are narcissists, or are all control freaks highly narcissistic at the very least? having someone who wasn't even around much, trying to dictate my perceptions of abusive people all my life, has been quite a mental tangle to try to extract myself from.

[@jeankipper6954]

Control freaks are out of control narcs, it's something easy to see, unless born into relationship with them. And VERY hard to deal with, if stuck with them. I pity their kids. With the exception noted, passive aggressive covert narcs are harder to spot. Equally evil results. Awful people.

[@caroleminke6116]

OCD is on the same Cluster B spectrum of personality disorders along with BPD, narcissism,sadism, ASPD & Machiavellianism… then you’re into psychopathy

[@She_McGee]

@@caroleminke6116 ocd should maybe be renamed "obsessive CONTROL disorder. of course it's in the same cluster, b/c clluster b's, above all, cluster b's have to keep reality and truth concealed, otherwise, they'd be exposed

[@lisaallen9339]

Just in case Dr Les reads this…I just learned about something called Machiavellians- It’s not a diagnosis-more like a description, if you have heard of this please expound.

[@SurvivingNarcissism]

Yes I read this. Do a search for my video called, How To Spot A Machiavellian Narcissist. That's a tough subject...I wish you well.

[@SteelyBlue2013]

Yes..

[@DedeHough]

My husband would not accept any feedback of any kind "unless it makes sense" to him. Most nothing makes sense to him if it wasn't his idea, plan, opinion or suggestion. Then he say "cut to the chase" on important conversation between us. Horrible insight.

[@rebeccanatal1435]

I actually managed to stun one into silence... you know why people laugh at you? Its not because u made a mistake. We all make mistakes. Thats part of life. They are laughing at the fact that u actually pretend that u r God when all u r is a human being like the rest of us and that is just funny as all hell. Satan tried to do that too honey... see where that got him.

[@backrack01]

I need to find a therapist who is experienced in dealing with a narcissistic woman that i have a young child with. I'm in Michigan.

[@YourCapyFrenBigly_3DPipes1999]

Good luck to you. I'm sure they are out there. Just start asking what their specialty is; if they feel they're qualified to discuss possible NPD conditions, etc. It may take a little time but I'm sure you'll find a good and grounded therapist that can help you.

[@well_weathered]

#1 What you know, you do not know completely #2 What you recall, you do not always recall perfectly #3 What you desire will not always satisfy. 💯🎯

[@fred.k9875]

🙏

[@kristaaustin3803]

can you do a video on which feelings are valid and which feelings are invalid? Ive come to find the general messages is that " your feelings matter" but there are times when a persons feelings are not valid. the best example i could give would be that there is a persons who always is told you're mad at me or you dint like me and that person would argue thats not true but really whatever they beileve to be true isnt true because any oppositin to being mad would be mad so you are what people believe and your feelings dont matter i guess ... idk. maybe you know what i mean. Ive heard a lot that someone who misses a lot of people misses them because they are mad at everyone but that person's thought the desire to be invited or visted in person was something more than anger and now im just really confused

[@dacisky]

Are you saying they don't have theory of mind?

[@caroleminke6116]

There’s no one home 😉

[@MarianneCatherine]

DENSE AND OBLIVIOUS 😐😮😳

[@TheMazinoz]

Absolutely zero functional ego.

[@GodBlessUsEveryone-yg8vf]

🛩👋 🫂