Taking a Vow of Celibacy as a 33-Year-Old Woman

[@MisterFudan]

I'm going on 3 years. My mind is clear. My emotions are under control, and I see the world more objectively. Good luck on your journey. I'm 53.

[@LittlesandRachael]

I’m 53 as well and I can completely relate to what you just said. It has brought clarity. My emotions are more under control. Perfectly said.

[@andhewonders]

I'm up to 13 years now, it feels great, everyone should give it a go.

[@GoldenToothBrush]

It gives me a real feeling of peace and I feel lighter. It might seem ironic at face value but I also feel more in touch with my manhood.

[@andhewonders]

@@GoldenToothBrush Just because you put it away doesn't mean you turn Gay.

[@ADCIC]

On 5 years.

[@rogerf7265]

I have come to realize that the times in my life that I have been the happiest are when I'm on my own. I drove from Florida to Oregon and back simply because I wanted some alone time and I absolutely loved it.

[@zairoart]

At 30 I decided to be celibate after a heart break, and was celibate for 13 years. Then began to miss the romance and entanglement, the adventure and the mystery of falling in love again. Had a relationship for 12 years and broke it off when I was diagnosed with cancer. He wasn't a good partner for the difficult times, and I wanted to ensure he didn't sacrifice pretending to be supportive. We communicate and send good wishes to each other but I haven't seen him in several years. Since then I've been celibate again by choice. Celibacy helps us evaluate who we are on our own, what we want in a partner, and where we draw the line in compromising. Often we don't realize how much we compromise beyond our comfort zone to save a relationship; how much we discard of our wants, needs and preferences in favor of the other; how much we forget who we really are. Celibacy helps us redirect our focus away from the "couple" to the "individual" and allows us to be creative... and when you miss intimacy, think of Miley Cyrus' song "I can buy myself flowers..."

[@Asrajzz64]

Lol

[@MikeSmith-rd9fi]

lol

[@Powerstroke98]

I suppose some of us just love intimacy with another human being, more than others. My wife has gone through the cancer issue more than once, so I've been pushed into celibacy for 15 years now, and dislike it immensely. I find myself laying in bed, dreaming about how it was the most wonderful times of my life, and when your partner gets to a point where hormones have made changes to where those most wonderful times may never be again, I find myself anxious and depressed at times. I've gone through this cancer journey with my wife, and have a ton of respect for her not just from the disease, but how she was such a fabulous mom to my daughters. I believe we're all different, so I realize many may not find intimacy as special as I do, but that connection together, I just can't think of anything better.

[@Shamkk]

As someone who hates therapy, I can honestly say it sounds like you need it.

[@shmurr]

I’m married now but I didn’t get into any relationships until I met my husband at 26. I wouldn’t trade those single years for anything! Even though when I was single I often wished to meet my soulmate, I discovered a deep peace in being alone which was profound. When I eventually did meet my person, I think that also made me a better partner.

[@biz4twobiz463]

not sure not having multiple partners is the best approach before marriage. From older women friends of mine, they wish wish wish they had been more open before marriage. Again, now that they are older in 50's plus ages...and married for over 17yrs etc.

[@owoodford]

Being single and being celibate are two different things. Though they both include having no sex

[@biz4twobiz463]

@@owoodford ... single people have sex all the time. It's actually encouraged.

[@rogermichaelwillis6425]

@@owoodford I've been single all of my life (70 now)--had a bunch of sex, though.

[@shernandez0704]

Girl i have been celibate for 7 yrs. I was in two long relationships. I was cheated on. Then I tried the benefits thing and even online dating. It didnt work. I am so happy right now. I am focusing on myself and future goals. I am too busy to go out too. I just go out with my pup and he has helped me mentally and physically. He matters to me right now. Relationships are stressful. I am so at peace right now. I can do whatever i want.

[@Carrie1111-j9x]

What abt masturbation?

[@przemo69]

Yeah wanted to ask same question, is it allowed bei celibacy? ;)

[@sakeboersma]

@@Carrie1111-j9xThat is the relationship with yourself.

[@kage85_]

Relationships aren't stressful... If you are in one that is, it's a bad one. Why do people always view everything so fucking black and white. Nothing is a fixed state. You're single now and enjoy it? Great, nothing wrong with that. Doesn't mean you it's mutually exclusive and you can't be happy with someone...

[@josephinebustos8074]

You’ll love being by yourself with no one dampening your positive energy. The last time I was in a relationship was in 2015. Once I made a conscious decision to stay away from any man, I became content and happier with my life. Nowadays I fiercely defend my independence. Of course I’m aware this lifestyle isn’t for everyone, but it works for me. I love myself and I make myself a priority in everything I do.

[@spookycaramelpopcorn]

Girl, honestly I'm surprised you were in relationships with all the traveling you do. Can't imagine how you made it work. Celibacy is very freeing and empowering. You go girl!

[@jameskurgat9614]

You are a brave woman. Don't listen to what people say, but listen to what your heart needs. As long as you are not hurting anyone you are good to conquer anything.

[@PopstarDracula]

How is she brave by just not doing a thing for a year lmao

[@jameskurgat9614]

@@PopstarDracula the definition differs. Maybe you are used to being in a war zone.

[@DorkThink]

I've been celibate for...(Counting years...)...9 years. My life is so much simpler, healthier, mindful and ...free. No judgement for any one else's lifestyle or choices, but I know where I'm at and who I am and what I need. Best wishes to you on this new *adventure*! ❤

[@Carrie1111-j9x]

By that u mean no masturbation too??

[@daleh.7711]

@@Carrie1111-j9x depending on why you choose it but if you look up celibacy it does not include masturbation.

[@cinnamon8884]

@@Carrie1111-j9x nah, that´s just for prnsick men

[@cruel_brittania]

@@cinnamon8884 You are aware that you don't have to have prn to mstrbate, right?

[@cinnamon8884]

@@cruel_brittania exactly, ì`m a woman.

[@matthewstump7563]

My wife left me and my 4 kids after 20 years of marriage. I decided not to date until I get my kids through college and on their own. Now that they are all grown up, my youngest is 23, I find myself still searching for the real person i was that was lost years ago. It's been 9 years now and I still can't get myself to dive back in to dating and relationships. I'm working on my health and to continue rekindling my love for my trumpet playing. Here's to you Eva and for the journey you are taking. I do enjoy your spirit and love for life. You are going to enjoy the freedom you are going to experience over the next year. Glad I get to watch you continue to push forward and onward to better things.

[@chudcel99]

bro, i hate to tell ya but the kids probably arent yours

[@matthewstump7563]

​@@chudcel99 😆 🤣 they are definitely mine. She's just crazy.

[@TheAbandonedAccount7]

9 years here too, bud. Keep at it!

[@jonasbauer3942]

@@TheAbandonedAccount7 7 years and counting..

[@geometerfpv2804]

​@@chudcel99Oh shut it...go back to melting your brain with advertising-laden red pill content. Apparently you are best used as an attention-battery.

[@clairefleming4284]

It was the best decision I made many years ago. It was important to learn what I liked and not be influenced by a partner. You'll learn so much. Brava.

[@LoremIpsum1970]

' influenced by a partner' interesting choice of words. Why?

[@cruel_brittania]

My reasoning, too. My partner was very controlling and manipulative, and I allowed him to have that control, so when I left I very much needed time to figure myself out as an individual and not as his wife.

[@steveflatbush]

I only felt like being celibate after my wife died. That's the only time in my life I can remember feeling that way after coming of age. It is not particularly difficult at my age now, especially after having surgery due to prostate cancer.

[@alexandral6273]

Just be whomever you want to be Eva, this is freedom. What ever you do, it's YOUR choice. Your freedom !

[@alexandral6273]

@@megz55 No one here talks about religion …

[@Fihyyhvcffggcfffa7961]

​@@alexandral6273ya😂😂😂 that's why that person said God asin the being who made your existence significant because of sheer mercy have some class

[@alexandral6273]

@@Fihyyhvcffggcfffa7961 I don’t remember that part, but who cares. In life, freedom isn’t what you shoes it to be ? Freedom starts in our own lives. I hate when people tell me what I should do or not. Don’t you ? 😊

[@giovanimontoya4517]

Unless you are the expert on the matter

[@billye9823]

Hi Eva, my name is Billy, and I have been enjoying your KZbin videos for about a year or so, and this is the first time commenting. I am a 63 year old American man, and have been clean/ sober for 41 years, so I know a little bit about personal commitments that are not of the norm. I think this very personal commitment to your life is fabulous, and I am wishing you all the best. I can’t say for sure, but I believe that celibacy is a lot easier for most men than it is for women. I think celibacy, can help us with the inventory of our want’s and needs. I’m looking forward to seeing, and hearing about what you might discover in your future videos. Keep following your heart Eva. ❤

[@lorirhodes4960]

It is magic when you spend the time not absorbing anothers energy on that deep level. Enjoy yourself! You will love it!

[@Asrajzz64]

So how much 'energy' have you absorbed over the last few years?

[@cristianovia]

Being a male and listening to your video, the first thought that came to my mind was: what if in the middle of my experiment I meet someone I fall in love with? But probably women are better in deciding not to have feelings if they want, while man are much different in that way. I also experienced that when women decide to terminate a relation, usually there is no going back. Men are usually much more indecisive and tend to stay in a limbo situation. Another consideration I can make is that men more often are in a involuntary celibacy period due to the fact that women can almost always find a partner, at least on a casual basis, while it is more difficult for the average male. So men probably don't need to volunteer for that as well, we already went trough it at some point. Finally I know many women that like you have been on a long row of relationships and I think that it is healthy to try to live without a partner for a while. Again this is a luxury for a man, if you are a healthy looking pretty woman, you'll probably have a choice of men to start a kind of relationship most of the time.

[@spaceskipster4412]

Truth…! 👌🏼

[@stephenlaws1836]

I've seen too many of my friends completely lose their individuality in relationships , they seemed unable to function as an individual, so they flip & flop from one relationship to another , while completely changing their personality each time . I have a few life long friends the ex girlfriends seemed to feel threatened by . They always thought that their friends should be my friends & I should move away , to become immersed in their circle . It never happened. I've been through a few long term relationships & when they end , I always leave a sizeable gap until the next one . I've always been far more successful in my various businesses, when I've flown solo , I guess I had more energy , time & money to invest , when needed , than I would have had if I was in a relationship . I'm now a confirmed bachelor, not actively looking for anything , except peace & quiet & an easy life . I'm done with all the baggage & drama of relationships . Travelling full time in my van enables this lifestyle to work perfectly, if someone comes along , they can stay around & have some fun , but it's not going to end up in a white dress . I quite like marching to my own drum , if people feel threatened by it , that's not my problem . It's about being an individual

[@levt7651]

Omg! I could have written that verbatim, right down to living in a van! But from the other side, female, not male. I had suspected that I was always at my best: healthiest, most focused, goal driven, when alone. It wasn't until the end of my last relationship, in December 2016, that I made the conscious decision to live the life I want and that I create for myself sans romantic relationship. I came to really know who I am, how I am, and what I'm able or not able to give. There's a unique freedom in this. Take care. 😊

[@gloriaboillos1296]

Thanks for sharing your story! I have done my year of chosen celibacy after a break up and I can't explain how good it felt. The amount of time and energy I have to get to know myself, travel on my own, meet amazing ladies, not having to discuss my plans with another person... is so freeing! From society they get "worried" about us but when you know what you need and give yourself time to explore it, it makes you a better being for the benefit of others. Enjoy this time!!

[@JeffreyGlover65]

DIY 😉

[@mizotter]

I'm so happy for you!!!! Congratulations! I am 60 and lived my life with first spouses and then male children at the center of my life until about 3 years ago. My daily living situation and my internal state have only steadily improved since that time. I smile and laugh more and feel completely relaxed the longer I live a life centered on me, my dog, my garden, my dear friends, and my passions: hiking, camping, kayaking, biking, music, writing, & reading. My best relationship with a man is with my bandmate, who has been my partner for 15 years! I play drums & sing; he plays guitar & sings. We make beautiful music together every Sunday, with a bassist who has been with us for a year now...(we have 3 tunes on here as a trio) and after 3 hours of co-creating INTENSE JOY, they go home to their wives, and I relax into my contented solitude. When I listen to younger womyn speak on the movement to #DeCenterMen and the #4B movement, I wish I'd foregone romance with men LONG before I did. My life would've been more stable and joyful, and I can only imagine how far I'd have gone with my passions if I'd not been pouring time, energy, & resources into my lovers. I'd be a LOT better drummer, for sure! LOL! When I listen to married womyn, I am NEVER envious of their lives, which too often requires parenting of grown-ass men. There's a reason why married men live longer lives on average, while married women live shorter lives! I am excited for what you will see & do in your new identity. I sincerely wish you a deeply joyful time of exploration and discovery over the coming year. Be well, sister. BIG LOVE.

[@wolwile]

Rock on sister

[@debraharvey282]

Quite well said @mizotter

[@freeman436]

Nice. Your life sounds a lot like mine. Modern love and relationships are a disaster. I don't know what is so toxic about men in relationships (Ima man), but I can tell you as a man, modern Western women are a toxic clown show dumpster fire. Solipsistic, narcissistic, entitled and delusional. Tim-Tok, Instascam, Fakebook and online dating ruined everything. I do recognize the man-child thing in some of my peers, though. I disengage with them as well. Blessings.

[@ObossRocks]

Nobody cares grannie

[@gnostic268]

​@ScienceNow-This is why the patriarchy needs to be smashed. Real men don't obsess with women being forced to "pair bond" or any other judgy male b.s.

[@lisafilips1144]

My celibacy journey over 25 years ago lead me to where I am now-married for over 20 years, three daughters, a different life than I had ever imagined, a more enlightened, evolved one. Peace and love to you on your journey.

[@MelissaNash1979]

Yessss girl, I'm 45 and totally feel this and am contemplating this myself; thank you for sharing this, I needed to hear it, so expansive 🌅

[@bill4632]

I did this too. I've been alone for 3 yrs now. The dating world sucks these days. I'm 46

[@bengreen3965]

Two years ago at a hostel in Marseilles, my bunkmate was a man in his 70s from Paris who lived as a photographer. Although he was deaf and I only knew a few phrases of French, we had a conversation in sign where he told me about his travels and life. The most important thing he explained to me was that marriage (and relationships) are a path to unhappiness. To be happy, one should have friends but not be possessive about them. Kurt Vonnegut had a very good insight on this: 'When a couple has an argument nowadays they may think it s about money or power or sex or how to raise the kids or whatever. What they're really saying to each other, though without realizing it, is this: "You are not enough people!"' Asking a single person to take care of all your emotional needs is a major burden.

[@FamiliarAnomaly]

It's more believing romantic relationships hold marriages together when in the past it was always family and duty that held it together. There is no structure now and the television tells you romance will hold it together.

[@Nate1975]

Marriage is a wonderful life-long thing with the right person. The most rewarding thing. It is hard work but the rewards are immense. Many would agree with me, so I guess each to their own and once you meet your person you will know.

[@isabelemaria3282]

sorry for the bad english. I'm using the translator. But I must say that no one, not even a group of friends, will be able to suppress all our emotional needs, since we are individuals and before being external we have to be internal and learn to deal with who we are and our emotions. A marriage can be incredible with support, affection and love, just understand that we are all human and flawed and that we will often have to deal with some things alone. And that's okay

[@easy8077]

I mean, I see rather a modern human problem in there: We consume too much, yet evolve too little. And by that I mean that a relationship was about evolving together, to constantly change and basically have an external refence point, it could still happen that you then completely grow appart, but not because the other became just boring and mundane in the sense of novelty. I think it was Carl Rogers that mentioned in one of his books how he loved his wife and all the people she was and became over all the years. By no means is that any empirical poof of anything, but just an observation - people love to see and feel different things, yet many stay exactly the same. Edit: That shouldn't mean that staying single for a while isn't a good thing to orient yourself, but I dare say that's really only necessary when you haven't found the right partner yet, that rather makes you feel free and secure to develop and not like someone to constantly worry about.

[@tedthurgate]

It isn't either or. You can have a long term committed relationship with someone and have a circle of friends. My wife has 10 very close friends who she spends time with, often weekends away with. That gives her something I don't and it is an enhancement to our relationship, not a detriment.

[@jb-ze1yh]

I am intentionally celibate and life is 10x better. I am more focused, I feel more empowered and my life force energy is not being wasted in and on sexual pursuits. Great choice Eva.

[@christinacaro6292]

I'm excited for you! I called it a "relationship sabbatical" that I had initially planned to do for 1 year in my late 30s. After the year I went on one coffee date and the person had serious mental health issue. I decided I needed to extend my sabbatical for another year. That second year extended to a third. During that time I finished my PhD, moved to the beautiful Eastern Sierra mountains, and got to know myself and invest in getting better at healthy boundaries and finding my voice. It is such a worthy investment in yourself and the creative work you are doing in the world.

[@abbeym7691]

Good on you! I've been celibate since ending my last relationship in Feb 2020. Since I got clean and sober in 2017 sex got more and more offputting. Since then I've realized I'm actually asexual, and was just using sex as any other drug to escape reality and get dopamine. So very different reasons, but celibacy gave me so much peace of mind and self appreciation.

[@captainsalty9022]

Eva, you are a classic “seeker.” Everything you show us in your videos is you looking for some special essence, be it about a place your on your way to, the struggles you have on your journeys (And there is where you get closest to it.) and in contact with the people you find at the end of your current quest. We are all essentially “alone” in our minds, even if we are in a relationship. Learning to be who you really are, even in a relationship, takes time, reflection and honest communication with the “other,” no matter the rest of the circumstances. A wise mystic said “a life spent seeking is a life well spent.” The soul will go on, wiser for the next chapter. Happy travels dear.

[@Nate1975]

Indeed, you go deeper here than just not having a boyfriend. You know yourself and discover yourself even in a relationship and have all the freedom you want in a relationship with the right person anything is possible. The best of both is a true blessing I can confirm

[@cindyritmeester]

Love love love this video, Eva. I am in exactly the same space/phase as you are, so inspiring to watch. And remember, you always have Vilk 😀

[@vivienh.7148]

Eva you are the most inspiring woman I’ve ever known. I really look up to you and your braveness. You decide what is best for you and I really appreciate you being so open with us! Thank you ❤

[@shellylinnn]

Dear Eva, you are growing deeper emotionally and getting to know yourself. I'm touched. The majority of people don't address this aspect of themselves. They live such a shallow existence. Í know you'll be very fulfilled and it will make you much more secure. I trust you will have a beautiful rest of your life❣️

[@Befree898]

She is a very confused person and also a drama queen. Every month she plans on doing or start "something new" and by next month she will just quit, and start a new thing. I don't believe a single word from her 😊

[@robertholland7558]

@@Befree898harsh much. She has still achieved then most of us.

[@christinawalker2690]

This type of content is so needed. Even for a happily married mother of 2 little ones. What an exciting journey of self discovery. Excited for you!

[@Befree898]

She is a drama queen. She quit everything she starts. So don't bet on her.

[@Stephen-up3sd]

@@Befree898 Nailed it!

[@luciakon_off]

Hi Eva, this is such an exciting news! I will you all the best, I am sure you will have so much fun reconnecting with your friends and pursuing your projects. I didn't plan to be celibate, but when my last situationship ended, I realised the same thing you mentioned - most of my adult life was spent in a relationships and I wanted to take a break. Fast forward one year later, all the feminine and sxual energy I used to put into men, naturally changed into huuge amounts of creativity. I feel like i havent been this creative since highschool lol. It also brought me many new girl friends, that I met in a places i wouldnt have if I was dating. It made me realise my dating mistakes and patterns, i have learned a lot. My standarts skyrocketed, I feel calm and at peace. In the future, once the stars align and get into relationship, I already now it will feel completely different. In the best way possible. Kisses, Lucia

[@raquelgonzalez290]

I did this for a year back in 2019 and it was honestly such an empowering experience. I extended it till I found my person, it was the right thing to do. Haven't watched the full video yet but I'm about to and excited!

[@LoremIpsum1970]

'till I found my person' doesn't sound like where this video was heading! It's not about not wanting to be pressured into being in a relationship from what I gathered, more about being overwhelmed in a relationship...obviously the wrong kind of relationship...

[@LisaKay87]

@@LoremIpsum1970 Maybe she wasn't looking. Sometimes love finds you when you are finding yourself :)

[@Befree898]

She is just bullshiting her viewers, she always starts a new thing, and then in the next video she quit. She is a drama queen, by her own words here she have a high body count, saying it politely. So if you think she is going to stop now, l got a bridge to sell you 😂

[@sattway9]

​@@Befree898 No, I've seen her spend lots of quality time alone and not in relationships. SO I think the ideal of celibacy is a conscious decision to allow that space to be weary of drama, which is a quarantee while in relationship even if it starts in romance. We certainly are capable of drama even all on our own but choosing consciously to step out of that can happen in celibacy whereas, otherwise we may never find that space. And once you arrive there you just want to keep going with it and celibacy is the door through which your consciousness can flourish. More power to her in this endeavor...

[@LisaKay87]

@@Befree898 Sounds like you could benefit from celibacy....maybe you could become a bit more open minded from it :)

[@chelseaturgeon9383]

I love this! Focusing on friendships and building community has been a HUGE priority for me the past year. A few books I've LOVED on the topic (if they are interesting to you) is: "The Other Significant Others", and "Frientimacy"

[@AwesomeRando]

I’ve been liking these Unplugged videos.

[@shellylinnn]

Me too! This is the real stuff of which we are made of!! 💖

[@tomaszs3097]

omg please keep making content, it is so so valuable!!

[@hiuhuj]

Been celibate for 11 years and it has decluttered my life of meaningless and useless attachments. Go for it.✊🏼

[@watch-Dominion-2018]

Masturbation?

[@watch-Dominion-2018]

​@@DoctorHaydukewhy r u a doctor then

[@watch-Dominion-2018]

​@@DoctorHaydukewhy call urself one then

[@kellymoran3175]

For Me, It's Been 10 Years Celibate. I Have Really Got In Tune With Myself And I Feel GREAT! There Have Been "Opportunities" All Along The Way, But I Chose This Path For Me! I'm Healthy Both Physically And Mentally And I Love It And Myself! Best Of Luck On Your New Chosen Path...I Hooe You Make It Because It Is Great For Ones Growth! PEACE

[@bubblenyandooza]

I have been living under the constant presence of a partners energy since I was 15. So many beautiful memories and experiences from my relationships, but I haven’t had a chance to see myself outside of the lens of considering them and their approval of me. Even 5 months out of my last relationship I still feel it all the time. Watching this video gave me some of my most lucid, conscious, fully aware moments of being free from it. It felt really freeing. I feel inspired. Thank you for sharing.

[@TheAbandonedAccount7]

I've been celibate for almost 9 years (since I was 21) and I love it! Cant imagine living any differently. Enjoy your year. I get a feeling you'll want to continue after the year is up haha

[@msbeecee1]

Celibacy is FREEDOM 🎉🎉🎉 It's emotional minimalism. My preferred way of life, honestly. Liberating & nourishing to strengthen platonic relationships.

[@suyinlight]

This is super interesting! Thank you for sharing! :) I'm also a (almost) 33 yo woman and I can relate to everything you've just said. I spent the past year intentionally saying no to a men and any romantic situations. I sometimes doubted myself if I'm doing the right thing. But it freed up so much energy for everything I always wanted to do! And here I am doing it :) I met someone this year but immediately knew, I'm not ready, I'm not done with my process that I didn't put a time-limit on. But I know i will know when I'm ready. Society puts all this pressure and ideas on us, how things are supposed to be. Bullshit. We all know better. We carry so much wisdom in us and its true joy to follow it. Excited for your path. You go!! :) All the best 🧡

[@ChristopherGronlund]

I'm with you on the no soulmate thing. I've been with my wife almost 32 years, and she's my only relationship. So, clearly, I love her dearly. But...she's not my soulmate. Had I never left my home state, I'd have still likely found someone, taken it seriously, and been in a different committed relationship for decades. That's my nature (and that of most of my friends in two states I've lived in). The notion of only one person being THE person on a planet of billions makes no sense. So, yeah...definitely don't worry about that 😀(And also: enjoy your next year!)

[@Mary-eh8bo]

Your person will come to you when it’s meant to be. I went many years without a partner and actually didn’t want anyone. Then out of no where this man came into my life and it’s been 13 years we’ve been together.

[@helpfulcommenter]

Maybe the goal isn't to get "a person" but to actually be okay being alone.

[@khenglim]

That was a brave and deeply personal expression of thoughts and choice you are making Eva and I applaud you for that. This alone time for self discovery and doing things that add meanings to your life is both liberating and empowering to the person of who you are. In any given relationship, there should not only be love but respect and friendship which endures. I wish you well Eva in your search of your inner self and needs. Only you and you alone will know what is right for you.

[@sakeboersma]

After my divorce I had some short-lived relationships. But now, not for the last 3 years. I enjoy my aloneness, my celibacy. Good choice Eva! Try it! You should put your heart and soul in yourself. And… and… you and I have our relationships with our dogs. And like Mark Twain said: ‘The more I learn about people, the more I like my dog.’

[@originalmix2546]

it's the right choice even tho at times it can get tough.. seek God and His will - I have been married too, divorced now...but - those church marriage vows are very Biblical - in line with God's will. He recognizes only 1 marriage, 1 spouse until death do us apart. So best thing we can do for our own benefit - heed His will and way.

[@sakeboersma]

@@originalmix2546 God??

[@missjujulia]

Sounds amazing :) Am so happy for you. I get that experience of "getting" into relationships, not feeling like it's a well-informed choice. How amazing is it that we can choose, being aware of all our choices and options, and enjoying to choose otherwise :) I believe you speak from the heart of many women, but most are not brave enough or connected to themselves. I don't mean this as a bad thing; it is hard to live differently and close to one's heart, but it doesn't mean that it shouldn't be pursued. It would just be so wrong to not pursue what the heart desires. It was after I found your channel and after a harsh breakup, that I started solo traveling 5 years ago. I never felt happier in my life than when I was on the road alone, so connected to myself, so deeply trusting myself and getting to know what is inside me, discovering new sides; no relationship could fulfill me to that extent. I wish it would be the new norm at one point to live bravely and true to oneself without the need to explain as it is just natural. Still, I struggle with sharing that bliss as I am pressured to live a traditional life with everything it involves. It is so hard to leave "my" circle, and I am not yet ready, but I will eventually. I rarely miss relationships, only when health issues arise. Really enjoying your content :) Thank you for being such a great role model and inspiration :) 37,F

[@tammydialgray2835]

I have been married since 1987. My relationship is solid. With my husband working odd shifts , it made it very hard to have time for friendship relationships. Since, 2020 I have chosen to be good with that. It changed my emotional health significantly. I am happy and content and focused. My relationship with my husband and two dogs is better than before because my striving was causing stress for all of us. I think your choices are wise and well timed. You have so many goals you are working towards. Thanks for sharing what’s on your mind.

[@Befree898]

She is very confused about her life priorities. She usually starts a new plan, a new thing, a new goal and THEN in less of a month she will quit, and get interested into another "new thing". Don't take her seriously.

[@Stephen-up3sd]

@@Befree898 Nailed it!

[@katrinvanderleeden1807]

Love this! Love your honesty, your eloquence and most of all your heart! I have been in relationships but always lived alone with my dog and no kids. It was definitely a choice, but not entirely intentional. You inspire me; especially the part when you talk about soulmates! I am 55 but I always love being inspired by a younger mind! Shine on, Eva! ❤

[@TrekkingTheRockies]

I appreciate you sharing this personal perspective and plan. Sometimes the deepest relationships are formed when there is no romantic pressure. I wish you all the best. I feel you have contributed so much already to mankind and our amazing planet by educating your viewers on culture and all the different lifestyles of humans around the world. Thanks for taking us along on your adventures.

[@NotTheRealCodyDean]

I think it’ll be the best thing you ever did, I did it and whenever I returned I had a deeper appreciation.

[@rtdsrgd]

It's great to see you in a raw format it allows pieces of you to be noticed that are usually hidden by the persona of a presenter. It seems you are a person who puts everything of yourself it everything you do and is commendable it's allowed you to do most would fear. I suppose in relationships you take this in with you and you can end up losing your own voice by focusing so hard on the relationship. I hope that this year allows you to strengthen your self worth and growth. Good on you and from the videos lately you seem a lot happier.

[@rcjacksonbrighton]

YES!! This is something I’m passionate about!! Celibate for 6 years. (I’m 37 now).... my spiritual journey has led me to a place where I don’t feel a call to it. Only when my hormones are up and I eat rajastic foods do I notice I might feel the need for it, but a sattvic lifestyle and spiritual path will naturally mean you don’t feel the desire for it. A deeper inner connection is SO much more fulfilling!!!! And the sharing that energy with others and the world in a helpful way!! Often I feel the pull to be normal in a normal life set up like most people, my natural sense of “wanting to do well in life” pulls me into thinking I should at times, but I absolutely have to be brave and follow my inner feeling, my true feeling of connection. It’s so good to hear you speak on this and well done for being brave!!! Much love! ❤❤❤ xxxxxxxxx

[@koemelkdeenigeechte]

I feel sorry for the people who immediately judge someone for their opinion or on their new plan in life. Plans can change, nothing is permanent, but trying things is so worth it. This is what gives you new perspectives on life and not get stuck in your day to day rut. Don’t judge people on things you do not understand, learn from their perspective, be curious.

[@cscrum]

It's pretty amazing that you've been doing all this traveling and had time for a relationship. You hide it very well, but maybe that was part of the issue, on yours or their side. Good for you for taking the time to actually think about what you want out of a relationship. Too many people don't.

[@misskris4373]

Im happy for you Eva, it takes a lot of strength to work at figuring out who you are when you aren't trying to impress anyone else. Much Love to you.

[@motogirl50]

You’ll love it!! It’s SO liberating! I did this in the past. I’m married now but some of my most joyous and happiest moments were during that time of celibacy ❤

[@mega2mi332]

Thank you for sharing this so others feel empowered to do the same. Much respect to you - listening to your inner voice! Be well!

[@dariuszjutel3834]

I rarely read comments. Now I've done it. Most of them were very positive, especially considering such a difficult topic. Eva has brought together an amazing and unique group of people. I thank Eva for her work and thank you for being here. I am proud of my countrywoman.

[@anaaaa6734]

I watched the whole video and for some reason made me really emotional, I am not sure If it's because I am resonating with it so much, or if it's triggers something in me-but am sobbing. You are such inspiration Ewa x

[@Befree898]

Well maybe it will make you more emotional when she quits this resolution by next month in a new video. Her life priorities are all messed up. She never end any solid projects in all. She is a drifter and enjoy traveling, no problem with that, but she doesn't even now what she really wants 😂

[@dina-barnese]

@@Befree898troll

[@backwoodsmaster]

When a 33 year old woman takes a vow of celibacy u know that shit been RAN through

[@Morpheus_neo_trinity]

She herself said she has been in relationships all her life.

[@aychi9251]

its wild because for a lot of men this just happens unintentionally... for years, but a woman says it and it's a big deal?

[@KNUKOK]

Eva, stop over thinking things. You're offsetting emotions to the future. Sometimes, setting your goals so high you are setting yourself up to fail. Then you get disappointed with yourself. When you meet the right person, you will know it in your heart. When that happens, there will be no thinking, it will be a feeling and you will just know. Don't make excuses, don't think about it. Why don't you think about your incredible adventures you've had. A single person driving around the world. That takes incredible courage. Think about what you have, not what you haven't. Just keep travelling and let life happen. You're beautiful inside and out. You have created an amazing platform doing what YOU want to do. You are amazing. You don't need validation from fans. Let life unfold. Don't set yourself up for disappointment. I reckon you need the love of a good woman. You are healthy, successful, your own boss. The world is your lobster, as Delboy would say. When people want something so badly and don't get it, they get disappointed and stop looking. When the pressure is off, the universe throws you a curve ball and places what you're looking for right in front of you. So you do you. Don't be so hard on yourself and let the road ahead unfold. Just count your blessings and go with the flow 🙏 xx

[@robertholland7558]

Wow such an overthinking comment……lol

[@jaritza9625]

Eva, we are so similar it’s absolutely freaky. I watched this video and it’s like you’re taking the thoughts right out of my brain. Like I’m watching a mirror. SO you, my dear are making my world brighter and I don’t feel so crazy and insane now that I can relate to at least someone in this world right now!!!❤

[@MissPfixer]

I feel exactly the same I feel like we were soul sisters, also about the rest of the videos I feel like Ewa was putting my thoughts into words. I thought that the fact we are both from Poland may be the reason but obviously it's not that..

[@tavybukemlee]

Eva ,you are already doing your bit for a better world. Don't kill yourself with kindness, nothing wrong being selfish. I wish I knew earlier, now I'm mid 50s and recently being diagnosed with autism after years of giving up so much. I knew i was being taken of advantage of, so I moved across to the west of Ireland, purchased a old house and my little life has blossomed. Relationships can definitely go on hold for you to explore your inner self. You are not alone, there seems to be a individual explosion of the wanting time & space, that some friends & people don't know or understand. There's no harm what you think and need in this time of your journey, it's your life and you don't have to make excuses. Eva ,what you have done already is incredible, your next chapter is for you, only you.😊

[@johnpaine72]

Evening Eva,Very interesting and very personal vid today, so thank you for sharing your life's journey with us. It's very refreshing to hear someone else debating with themselves whether to get in relationships now or ever, speaking as someone who's tried and failed at them and has basically known celibacy as a constant from a young age, a life of solitude is something you just have to get used to, even if someone was to show interest your just so used to being solo that you know it wouldn't come to anything and that energy could be better spent helping others rather then yourself. The soulmate thing I too agree is a myth people only say when they have found someone special to share their life with those lucky few. But I'm sure you'll some day, some where one will walk into your life and endless joy will be fulfilled. Health@Happiness to you.

[@cwisaac22]

It's been 8 years (Wow) since I made the same choice as you. I do not regret it at any level. Relationships are difficult in this day and age. Longterm commitment seems to be obsolete. I feel more emotionally, spiritually, and physically free to just be me. I turned 59 years old 3 weeks ago.

[@keyapennyfox]

Youre so funny at the end. " Im so excited". 😁 Good for you Eva. I can totally relate to the not really chosing a person they choose you or u just sort of fall into it. I will tell you that through celibacy sometimes a person completely changes/unveils WHO and what they're truly attracted to....which kind of hits like wow i never knew this about myself. Cheers to celibacy! 🥂

[@MrMorton]

I whole heartedly agree with what you are doing for many reasons. I always encourage young people (20s) to live in their own place for 3-5+ years all by themselves to know themselves. I say so they learn what they all alone like. "What kind of curtains they prefer." So that if they then decide to enter a relationship, they can enter it as themselves, not the leftover person from the previous relationship. Be yourself, find yourself, glow as you have a mighty ✨shine!✨

[@mysticridge6975]

After a horrible relationship break up, the thought of being with anyone was naturally repelling to me physically, emotionally & mentally. It took years before I felt any remote desire to be with anyone. I had no rules but just allowed my path to unfold naturally until I decided I wanted a different experience. You'll know what's right for yourself 😘

[@freeman436]

Nicely put. Thoughtful. Eloquent. I'm older. Real intimacy and love where both partners bring themselves wholeheartedly to the relationship is incredible. And extremely rare. Five years now I have been living in the wilderness in sublime solitude with my dog friend, Billy. I grow food and hunt game and gather medicinal plants. I play music, read, think and train my body every day. I am blessed to have a relationship with the land, my dog and myself unmolested by another's neurosis, expectations and demands. Wouldn't trade it for anything. Good luck.

[@QT2789]

Thanks for sharing. Figure out how to be happy on your own. Then find someone who has also done this who is compatible. Then you can share and enhance each other's happiness. No one can make you happy but you. That has been a difficult lesson to learn. Settling for the wrong person out of a sense of there won't be another, is the best way to end up full of regrets. Never settle.

[@johnlyngdal8601]

That is some of the best advice I've read for quite some time. My wife and I were married when we were 39 (my first, her second marriage). We both had the stress of building professional careers behind us, and almost 30 years later, life is still wonderful.

[@peterthomas6486]

Hey Eva appreciate your openess in this video. Time out can be a good thing, learning about you more. I know with me I always give so much in a relationship, that I feel I lose the real me. You will grow as a person, no time lines, agenda's, and no pressures. Love your Vids, stay strong and peace and harmony to you.

[@steph0D]

I love this, very insightful, thank you for sharing.

[@ivegotmoxie986]

For me, I tealized that I never made the 'choosing" a priority, I was always chosen, and then just went along with the flow. I can relate to your decision. I am older now, and it's been many years since my last relationship. A highlight of that decision is that i don't miss having my mood impacted by their potential ups and downs. I can just concentrate on the mood I want to express. It's good for that.

[@kimspirit6510]

I have been celibate for years and years mostly because of me being ill. But the older I am getting the less I feel a relationship is the standard. Its really nice just being by yourself. Absolutely different for everyone yes. Also I left the I need to have children in the future phase which makes it so relaxed.

[@helpfulcommenter]

world is overpopulated

[@not_in_the_know]

Very thought provoking video. Thank you.

[@LaurenRoerick]

Love this for you! We’re very much on the same wavelength on this!

[@Befree898]

Until next week, she change her mind and starts a "new thing" . That's what she does, a lot. 😂

[@Eatthis143]

You’ve made my world a better place. Thank you

[@norah.6644]

You are so inspiring ♥️ I just love your look on life ♥️

[@julienyholm1056]

I have been single my entire life. I am 53 and never had a boyfriend or married or having kids. It took me awhile to get used to it. But I love it. From a Aussie fan

[@Chuulip]

Meanwhile 34y.o. me is celibate since 1989 😂 That being said, i figured out last year finally that my aversion to anything sexual or romantic aligns 100% with what being aro/ace is so there's that. We're quite the opposite in this regard. All my school life I've been the popular girl. i would call it an unintended pick-me girl. I always had many guy friends and many boys confessed to me and it always just freaked me out. I rejected them all and I broke off friendships because of this. It gave me trust issues for a weird reasons of feeling betrayed by my friends by them having secret feelings for me that they eventually confessed. I am kinda tomboyish and boys apparently liked that. anyways, I had to turn 33, when this had happened again, to realize that aro/ace is a thing. And it hit me like a bus when I read other people's stories who identified that way. I've always fended for myself, I deal with emotions mostly on my own and with friends here and there. But the big decisions are and have always been made by me, I never had anyone who put my feelings on par with their own in the sense of a partner. Sometimes it has been really hard, but having it any other way would freak me out. So I wish you the best luck and I hope you'll learn a lot about yourself. In my opinion you will deal really well with it, you're so strong and brave!

[@gabbyfun5150]

did it for 2 years. reclaimed self. It really helps. Good for you girl

[@carolineindacityphx]

👏I love that you are doing this. I doubt you will get a lot of criticism, but what do I know. 😂 I applaud you for trying to figure yourself out. ❤ I am cheering you on, Eva! You can do this. 🥰 PS: I noticed you did not mention male friendships. Do you think women can have platonic friendships with men? PS2: If you don't believe in soulmates, how do you plan to commit yourself to a relationship? Seems a duality there.

[@seviregis7441]

I follow Eva’s channel. She’s amazing. “No mountain she can’t climb!” As far as celibacy, I took the vow for spiritual purposes 35 years ago and never looked back. One of the best things I’ve ever done. After a while of not “polarizing” oneself in a relationship, you begin to build those aspects into yourself, becoming more complete, and a little androgynous inwardly. At some point when the process has fully formed those recessive aspects of yourself, you feel entirely free and no longer need a romantic relationship. But that’s when friendships come into play, we need each other, we need love and community, even if small. Being celibate has enabled me to be entirely free and clear thinking. I would never go back to a romantic relationship ever again. And what I’m seeing, is that it’s becoming a trend, for men too.

[@sjohn0522]

I got divorced 7 years ago, and at age 35, I tool a vow of celibacy. I wanted to work on my energy and be stronger as a person than I have been having constantly been in a relationship since I was 16. There were forces around me that wanted to me remarry and start a family, I was told I am losing my precious baby making period... but for some reason, didn't feel like I wanted to bring another life into this suffering world. I have since gained clarity in life, grounded myself and not look at relationships and friendships based on sexual energy? if that makes sense, rather I look at my connections purely without any conditional give or take. I didnt mean to stay single for this long, but I also know that I don't want to settle with someone because its what is expected me to do. Happy to report, there are absolutely no regrets. My next relationship will be my last, I have forever to go.

[@zuzanaholubova3794]

Hi Eva, I went celibate for 3 years, unintentionally at first, but it turned into intentionally wanting to keep it that way for a while. I felt I had been in a relationship for my whole adult life like yourself and it was awesome to spend that time alone. I got to know my real self and I connected to my woman energy more than ever during this alone time...and at the end of this period I knew I was really fully ready for a relationship (as you describe toward the end of this video) when I met the MAN of my dreams, my husband and a father of our wondeful son. So way to go girl ❤

[@kristencreatesllc]

I am 100% invested in this journey. I LOVE the idea of saving your energy to use on friendship and community with other women. I’ve lost much of my female community over the last few years and miss that so much. And I think your “soulmate” isn’t restricted to one person or even a romantic relationship (or even a human relationship). This is the beginning of a memoir I will really want to read in couple years!

[@costasworldofmusicmemories5792]

Clearly it's your choice Eva. We feel your connection. Don't let anybody rent space in your head. You own it. Love Always❤ Jim , Harriet and Yuki

[@MaisPot]

I’m 50, from north italy, I’m following you since a couple of months ago. First your main channel, and then, this unplugged one. Weeks ago i started wanting to comments you just to say you what amount of opinions you expressed i deeply agree. I was afraid that you would have accused me of just trying to impress you. But now, with this video, my fear disappeared and so i can tell you HOW much i agree with you, even in this celibacy thing. And to me is a very impressive discovery. You are literally me in a female version and 17 years younger. You actually scare me. But you are so beautiful too. I believe in your next steps in life, your next choices. Do people change, do our minds change. We’ll see and nothing matters. Wonderful people will always remain so. Have a good life my “sister”.

[@clownworld-honk410]

Eva, if you read this (unlikely!) My opinion is do the celibacy thing but not to the point where you would blank out someone who meets your expectations. It could be just one guy out there who is your soul mate and turning him down because of a self imposed vow may be something you would regret in the future if no one else fits the bill. Personally, I think you're the perfect woman! ❤

[@suzanne378]

Good for you! I made that decision 8 years ago! Took a break, but then never looked back. I'm loving life on my own terms, and it really is freeing!

[@valeskaraymond1600]

Eva, this self-finding journey you are on is God calling you back to Himself! "You have made us for yourself, O Lord, and our heart is restless until it rests in you!" -St. Augustine

[@suzanneyorkville]

this

[@helpfulcommenter]

she left the Catholic church probably because of people like you telling her how to feel about God or anything else.

[@suzanneyorkville]

@@helpfulcommenter I too left the Catholic church will all its rules.

[@SantosPerezAttorney]

I can only imagine what the world would be if everyone were as honest as you. Your free spirit is a natural treasure.

[@barbmckenzie935]

Eva - You are enough! You have health, a roof over your head, and a wonderful dog, Vilk. You are complete!

[@blockchainalmanac3890]

You're amazing. Your ability to publicly take on such intensely personal topics with vulnerabilty and self-awareness is inspiring and admirable. Thank you for everything you do.

[@converse_inverse_reverse]

You are such a great woman. You are very inspirational and a role model for many of us. Your way to view the world is extraordinary, your description, as traveller and as Unplugged, is exquisite. Thanks for being you!

[@geraldinefournier2407]

100% agree with you!

[@heleneGelle]

😂😂😂

[@efargusson]

I am a much different person than you and I have made different choices than you have made. However, I want to celebrate your choices with you. I am a great believer in personal choice and I find your videos very refreshing in that they are so honest and transparent. Keep living your life, your way.

[@julietteka1161]

Does celibacy also mean abstaining from masturbation?

[@teddy9999]

Yes

[@MurphyGreg]

I admire your sense of self discovery and commitment to living your authentic life. Thank you for sharing and inspiring 🤍🙌

[@larrybell1859]

Yes, celibacy is very freeing and empowering when it is your choice. However, having a monogamous life partner of your choice is more rewarding and empowering.

[@PerryVillanueva]

Very true!

[@lastpme]

Makes sense. It is good to focus on yourself. Take advantage while you can since you are single without kids. You do you…and what is good for you 👍🏿