UNCOVERING 12 SIGNS OF FAMILY AVOIDANCE AND TRAUMA REACTIONS

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@TherapistTamaraHill 6 ай бұрын

Stay tuned for the VERY active live chat box which KZbin will make available for you to see within 12hrs of this live chat.

@Justshill 6 ай бұрын

My sister died and they found her many days later. I have been estranged from her for almost twenty years. I would block her then start to feel guilty thinking that my deceased parents would want me to help her. Then the threatening messages come flooding in by text and email. I killed her cat that I never met, I destroyed her life, I placed a hex on her and she can feel it two times a day, etc. Growing up we (two brothers and me) weren't allowed to touch her, breath on her, or look at her and if we did all H.E.L.L. would break lose. Our sister was our t.err0rist. As an adult after my mother died, I moved 1k miles away but there is almost no way getting away from an emotionally unstable and/or mentally ill family member especially a sibling because they are still in your head. All of the daily physical, verbal, and emotional abuse is right at the surface of my memory. I was not protected from the abuse. My parents didn't get my sister any help which may have allowed her to have a better quality of life later on. I mourn for what might have been.

@calebereid 6 ай бұрын

Thank you, I needed this, it hurts dealing with people a lot when it is almost always stressful with the family.

@TherapistTamaraHill 6 ай бұрын

You're welcome! I understand. This is rough. You often feel alone and unheard. Keep your head up!!

@realnush 6 ай бұрын

Relatable!

@truth4utoda 6 ай бұрын

❤❤Tam, you are a doll. I love anything you talk about. I always learn. Plus, you are REAL.

@TherapistTamaraHill 6 ай бұрын

I appreciate that❤

@denfolo5224 6 ай бұрын

I am W African and here, culturally, parents do not face the consequences of their actions. When I stand my ground, my parents act super friendly with other family members while ignoring and ostracizing me. They won't act right but when I try to avoid them by moving out and they won't let me move out ( gaslighting and cultural emotional blackmail).

@TherapistTamaraHill 6 ай бұрын

Thank you for mentioning this. This is such an important point because culture plays a major role in a lot of the concepts on this channel but more specifically, to this live chat. I'm sorry you have to deal with that. It's beyond stressful to navigate. Getting your own treatment or building your own insight will strengthen you and your approach as you move through this.

@zionrose007 6 ай бұрын

I hate I missed the live session, but thank you for always providing clarity and healing ✨

@TherapistTamaraHill 6 ай бұрын

Thank you! And you're welcome 😊 There's always next time! I still owe you a response. It's on my list.

@zionrose007 6 ай бұрын

@@TherapistTamaraHill Awesome

@Andronicus2007 6 ай бұрын

Wow, this is a topic I didn't know even existed. I think this might be happening in my family, very interesting topic! My problem is nobody in the family will refuse to budge from their state of denial or defensiveness. I've tried everything but have now given up on them at age 50. My sister is 60 and is rude and invalidating with me when I speak with her. She's definately avoiding me, I refuse to chase her. My Father who is now 80, is a very nasty person, to be in contact with him would mean nonstop abuse. If I try and hold him accountable for anything, he will rage and use the silent treatment, in the past this lasted years. It is very painful to cut family members off, but I'm totally done with him. I don't see this as avoidance, I see this as a survival strategy.

@dnk4559 2 ай бұрын

I very much understand this predicament. The narcissistic father has passed and nothing has improved with my siblings. It’s such a sad situation.

@fairygurl9269 6 ай бұрын

🤗Was In a State of Personal Discomfort So I Avoided This Live. Glad You Exist Im Sure Many More of Our Future Will Have Better Resources & Opportunity Because Of Your Contagious Healing Effects 💞

@Dobermanmomma 6 ай бұрын

My mother is living in avoidance so deeply she won't talk about any of the last 30 years which was my entire life, so it is unsettling to say the least. She seems as if she is delusional believing the last 30 years did not happen. Its difficult to comprehend, since it is not rational. Its as if she wishes I did not exist the way she even moved across the country to avoid any reminders of her life before she decided to act like having a kid didn't happen. Anytime I try to bring anything to the surface she quickly says the exact same thing as if she is a toy with a string claiming she won't talk about the past. When I say you can't wish away reality she just goes silent. Your timing is perfect btw. I talked to her twice after not speaking to her for two years, and the way she thought was so confusing and toxic I needed this information to understand what was going on.