WHY EVIL PEOPLE ALWAYS SEEM TO WIN & WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT | LIVE CHAT

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

KZbin will make the LIVE chat box available to view within 12 hours of this video posting. That's the absolute best part!!

[@thirtyyearcosmetologist]

Evil people have goons and minions. For example an evil parent who tries to pretend they are not evil they adore their evil aggressive children and they sick those children on the more vulnerable children to avoid looking like the villain.

[@kpf2014]

In my experience, some of the most covert insidious “dark side” people go into positions where they are seen as experts and positions of “power” and I witnessed over 30 years of seeing the acting in public and the real person behind closed doors. Dependency can make us so vulnerable to these people.

[@DeeDee-lr8nb]

@@kpf2014 FACTS!!

[@shereses.3298]

My mom is a narc with severe delusional disorder. Because I was raised in this dysfunctional family system, it created a serious suspicion/fear of people and their motives and intentions. Moral of the story: I never really trust anyone, which can be difficult sometimes, but I have often been able to stay 10 steps ahead of guys as it relates to dating. I have pulled the rug from underneath many of them because I APPEAR to be someone pretty naïve or gullible. However, it just would be nice to make a meaningful romantic connection before my story ends. Pray for me please.

[@thatshot8]

A perfect example of this evil is this Adelson family case that been gaining publicity... an entire family conspired to take a dedicated father and professor out because they couldn't control him.

[@jsizzle577]

It’s sad how they all ganged up on that poor man. 😢

[@fifilafleur5555]

Yes… it’s ALL about power & control with evil people.

[@fifilafleur5555]

Yes… it’s ALL about power & control with evil people.

[@bridgettetraveler658]

U are talking about my family, many churches have been a part of & many ppl I allowed in my life until I realized how selfish, self-centered entitled they were. Some ppl snap after so much trauma. Some ppl I've known were evil as children! I've seen narcissistic get old, alone & sick. It looks like GOD gives them time to repent, but they're so evil & they refuse to change. All they know is evil & they become very paranoid they others will harm them the way they harmed others!!!

[@w8what575]

What I love is this whole concept of “if u don’t like how people treat u then stop doing what ur doing” but what if ur not doing anything to cause it? How can someone stop doing something they’re not actually doing and it’s flat out someone making the bs up to make it appear they’re my victim…lol…I’m the last to find out if I am even allowed to find out….

[@elconejito99]

You are an exceptional therapist Támara. I know i sound like a broken record, but my goodness are you good. The way you present info, concise & articulate. Thanks for the hard work as always, this helps me tremendously to process and understand myself amd those close to me. Also don't push yourself too hard 😊 hopefully you're feeling better

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

This is such a humbling comment 🤗 Thank you! It's nice to know someone feels helped or "moved" by the hard hours put in. Bless you! And yes, feeling a bit better each day.

[@bridgettetraveler658]

My daughter has an Aunt on her dad's side who's a dark enpath. She's a crazy old lady who's turned my daughter against me, my son, & my husband. I've had to go almost no contact with my daughter, because she's friends with many of my enemies who hate me with their whole heart. It was hard at 1st, but now I've just pray for her. I've learned to pray for all of my enemies to find CHRIST & leave evil religions alone. I pray for discernment so I'll know who's righteous & not just religious!!

[@fifilafleur5555]

This is my family. They are tight. I’m the outcast… the whooping girl… the black sheep. My therapist tells me you’re not like them. You’re so authentic she says. All I know is I tell them the truth and they scatter like cockroaches when you turn on the lights. They don’t like me… but I can’t ever be someone I’m not. This is how God made me and living in denial is not being true to yourself. It changes who you are or could be. I was forced to do it in childhood & adolescence but now I’m middle aged and they are still trying to control me. They are not healthy for me.

[@gwensanders37]

Thank you Tamara.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!! Thank you for tunning in. 🤗

[@Mllascelles1]

I have been attempting to binge watch your videos. All equally important and speaks to modern life situations and occurrences. I'm working on my PhD masters right now in I/O Psychology. I switched my major after obtaining a BS in Psychology. Everything you discuss is intriguing and helpful in my personal life. I appreciate how you always stick to what research says, that allows you to remain unbiased but still respect others' experiences. You are absolutely gem. I decided against practicing because I didn't feel I could remain unbiased and remember we're all human, even the dark empath (personal experiences - I wasn't convinced I could successfully do). Giving you your 💐!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much for this kind and humbling comment.🤗 The path of professionalism in this field is tough because we do have to straddle the line between personal and professional. Sometimes we can do a great job, as humans, of being impartial. Other times, it's really hard and nebulous. I think you could absolutely master this as long as you continue to build personal insight and stay humble in the process. It's a continual process for me. I wish you all the best on your journey!

[@kpf2014]

Im so grateful for your channel and finally finding someone who will talk about this.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!! Glad you are here🙂

[@SageSuede]

I'm being stalked while watching this.

[@thereugo8900]

Tamara, I'm sorry I missed your live feed today.😢 I injured my knee and leg and on crutches and medication. I feel so bad. I'll watch your video. Please take care. Blessings to you.❤❤❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Oh no! I'm so sorry to hear that. You have to rest up and hopefully in a few days you will recover. It's so hard when you don't feel good. Blessings to you! Stay strong.

[@thereugo8900]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Thank you for the well wishes and all that you do.❤️

[@CarolMcCooke]

Thank you for your honest comments, ‘ believe in God , yes, but hate religion,’. That’s my take exactly Tamara, I have questioned religion verses faith and for me faith comes out on top. Religion on its own causes so many divisions.Great chat enlightening, thank you Carol N.I.

[@TheRetroWoman80]

This video reassured me that my staunch decision 2 years ago to stay cordial and paint everyone with the same brush works best for me. I'm an introvert who has learned hard lessons time and time again in the past and de-investing emotionally in human beings (except a few loved ones) was the best thing I could have done for my spirit in defense against the darkness in others. Thank you once again for the nuggets and guidance, Tamara.

[@thepragmatist]

I can relate to this comment.

[@monikaballah931]

i love reading these comments and i am glad i am not by myself. i am 48 and still dealing with this.

[@bonita_studio9]

My mom just started to say that she feels like she wanted to die already, she met my dad on her 35, my dad left us when I had 13 since then she became depressed, but I saw my mom suffering for this man since I was a kid, he never sleep waiting for him omg all this year's watching her got me traumatized now I don't know how to connect to make I avoid them, I have boundaries I learn all this by myself but it's scary how a man cash destroy a woman also if the woman doesn't have self-esteem, don't know how to deal with a depressive mother when you don't have psychological support which is expensive

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Thank you Tamara- how you so clearly and concretely describe strategies that help, it is beyond anything I have heard elsewhere- including extensive therapy. I now have so much more to put on my road map- for one step in front of the other. I also need process and distance myself from the opposite to what has been helpful, despite my best efforts and high engagement- that is how it was. And also a lot of vague, non commital, back to me stuff in the present.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome 😊 I'm so glad you feel like you can move forward with tools. I have always felt that my field leaves people hanging, talks a lot of psychobable, and is far from practical. That helps no one! I love the study of the human mind but we have to touch peoples lives with the knowledge we have.

[@tammymiller9773]

Thank you Tamara for this and your last. You are up there with Arendt, Frankl, Mate, Van der Kolk. You are the modt practically oriented in a way. ❤❤❤. I had to do all of those things by myself with no guidance for 10 plus years then with online only for another 5 plus years. Wow what a weight off my shoulders to know that healing is really going on. Too many years of knowing I needed to leave and had no where to go. Still couldnt forgive myself until I heard this. I needed the part about how getting stuck happens.🙏🏼

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you Tammy Miller for this humbing statement. That's an honor to say the least. I really appreciate how Dr. Van der Kolk, Victor Frankl, and others like him including many others can make sense to those who are searching for healing. We don't need big words, psychobabble, or wasted energy. We are here to heal and possibly be healed ourselves. When our work is personal and professional, change happens and so does connection with those who need support.

[@annmurray2832]

Its come down to binding the enemy in Jesus Name.I used to be able dogde away ,avoiding contact.Not anymore ,in my face.Being stalked,so this is how handle it works!off the demons run.

[@TheBlackCat1337]

Hello. can you explain more on this? I don't quite understand. thank you.

[@jodirichardson2820]

But how do evil people persuade others, even if they are alike? This is a topic has been really weighing heavily on my mind, my bestfriend passed away, I was her care giver, and there was a lot of money in her family, my best friend had a lot of other friends, so well liked, but 2 of her friends are pure evil, they even got my best friends aunt to dislike me, and I guess I just don't understand why they don't see the genuine good person, over the evil one, anytime I try to nicely warn someone about an evil person, I get met with not so good results, so how can the evil do it? It bothers me, so much? Maybe because we are always taught that good overcomes evil. These two evil goers even go as far to say that I am a murderer because I cared for my bestfriend when no one else would. I try not to let it bother me, but I worked so hard at caring for my friend that well, it does bother me

[@Lyrielonwind]

I think they start saying how much they love a person and slowly showing concern about how unstable they are to end up saying that person is evil and they are suffering. They don't say directly a person is evil right away and remember they are great playing the pity game.

[@island.91]

I have missed the live unfortunately I live with an evil mother… I do relate too this.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Islandgirl - you won’t always live with her.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry 😞 That's difficult to deal with undeed. And there is always the replay 😉

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

what a relief to have found your channel! Thank you Tamara- take care. 🪷

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🤗💖 thank you. same to you.

[@beautifullife3344]

They at the beginning hide themselves and show off as good, then they show who they really are. Things like stalking, cyberstalking especially etc have as goal to make you feel bad about yourself and as tho you are in some kind of trap, to make you feel like a victim, like you have obssession (when in actuality it's just a normal reaction to their evil manipulative tactics), to feel crazy, to do some things they want you to do, because they're really evil. STAY LOYAL TO YOURSELF AND DO WHAT YOU WANT TO DO 🩵🩵🩵

[@beautifullife3344]

And to make you look like you're crazy in other people's eyes. These people simply see the POTENTIAL you have, if they're your family they might simply know your plans and wanting to stop you from realizing them that way. So that others would turn their back from you when you need their support. Some might do that on a more subconcious level, as a learnt, programmed behaviour and unresolved, unhealed trauma

[@JKDVIPER]

I think if you're being honest, having empathy, wanting the best for everybody, you aren't insecure, you dont KEEP SCORE, and you definitely know and ARE AWARE of antisocial behavior, educated on maladaptive behavior, you'll definitely see between the lines and recognize evil people winning. 🤢✅💯

[@JKDVIPER]

How about you form a new healthy relationship only to have 1-2-3 different extended family members decide you're a bad guy without any particular reason except to benefit themselves. In one case it was retribution, in another, a stunt to up his living style, and the latest one was a likely triangulation. 😂❤wth. I almost lost my mind. I found myself trying to relax, not knowing why I was tense. At first, I could just play it off with I KNOW MY TRUTH kinda thing. But over time anxiety kept creeping in. 🤢✅💯

[@w8what575]

I think my mother began to really despise me when I was a small child..,she used to be madly in love with her ex before my dad..,he was the director of the local ymca…I didn’t realize what she was doing by signing me and my siblings up for lessons at the ymca …I must have been an embarrassment for her because I was extremely shy and didn’t know how to deal with people and their insults…she didn’t care much about my physics well being….i had chubby cheeks and people called me chipmunk which I hated…she would get so angry when I didn’t want to go to whatever it was I was signed up for…no matter how often I tried to socialize..,o didn’t do well at it…she refers to me as the ugly daughter lol…

[@randolphhoward8040]

In my opinion, in the workplace, people can be motivated by fear to align themselves with an evil coworker or supervisor

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's a very good point. Agree. There are also other situations too such as a desire to fit in, a need to feel wanted or accepted, and/or confusion over their own identity.

[@UrbanFitMom]

Thank you so much for this

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome!!

[@juanmanuelventura8203]

Ms Hill are you familiar with the Book “People of the Lie” (Same writer as The road less Travel”) .It really describes a lot of concept of Evil as oppose to to Phycological.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I am not. No. I'm sorry to say. But I do now. I will look it up! Thank you.

[@christinelamb1167]

M. Scott Peck is the author. I remember reading both of those books many years ago, when I was still very young and trapped in destructive relationships. Even though it's taken me so many years to get to the level of healing I'm blessed with now, those books planted the seed for me. I need to go back and read those books again. Mr. Peck was definitely ahead of his time!

[@Smartbeautifulawesome]

You know what if people want the truth with all this. It’s like the movie wicked and wizard of oz. The evil one was actually the one for social justice she saw the bad behind the curtain. I would say most people make the decision to follow the good witches position lol but I think a lot of people don’t see those bad things happening like ignorance is bliss sometimes. There’s extremes both sides

[@Shiningbrilliantly2024]

Interesting about a dark empath? Thanks for sharing

[@janethomas78]

Can narcissists REASON? My sister is unable to reason as per her college transcript.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😅🤭 yes. It's called cognitive empathy. Or intellectualization.

[@fairygurl9269]

Both of My GrandPaPs Were Disturbing Evil.....as Both of My Parents Get Glee From Causing Another Distress.... Lucky Our Granny Tried Very Hard To Counteract it.....Her Ma Was Also Evil And Granny Basically Raised Protected Nurtured and Encouraged Her Siblings, & She Wanted Better For Her Own Children/GrandChildren ... Now That Im Healed Alot & Have Learnt More About these Patterns. (*Resource Institute of Human Anatomy *The Brain of a Psychopath) I am Curious About the Genetic & Environmental Conditions that Was the "Norm" Even Before Them....

[@ElizzzaB]

Tamaea, Is it called financial exploitation? There is also romance scam and financial abuse.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, this is close to what I was thinking! Thank you! Someone also mentioned catfishing.

[@rockinrobinsnest]

Im here a little late watching after the live right now.

[@donnaparks1919]

The work environment describes the church i left 😢

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Yes, absolutely! The church environment can be more toxic than other groups in life, sadly. As one who has experienced both sides growing up (non-religious and religious), I can safely say that religion sometimes breeds overinvolvement of others into your life, can foster toxic communication between church members, and even cause emotional injury.

[@Jarontodd1988]

You got a nice office, MS Tamára

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! I need to do some live chats there more often.

[@stopwars8642]

Like the title lol, and info

[@dwaneharris8252]

God bless you woman of God I'm a new person to this I have done a lot of good things to people and they did nothing but evil to me in return and I realize it's nothing I did wrong I'm a man of God and I know that the devil in them hates the Jesus in me

[@randolphhoward8040]

Hello everyone!! Randy from New Orleans

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Welcome Randy! Glad to have you here.

[@dr.karlakornegaymba9754]

Some people are demonically possessed

[@Johnny-h1i]

??? “Dark Empath” when was it coined??? is it in the DSM? & is it replacement for the DARK TRIAD??? asking for a friend.

[@GracieDontPlayDat]

A good explanation for evil is knowledge built up against the Knowledge of God (1) If you do evil, you don’t believe all people are equal, whether you are a vulnerable or grandiose narcissist, because you think you are better or worse than others, yet God says we are all His children, made equal through Christ when our sins don’t count against us through Christ Alone, not our own behavior. (2) A false belief you can choose to do evil, as if Christ never died for you, knowing you would do evil like all persons. (3) A false belief you have special DNA that makes you evil or pure without Christ counting His righteousness for your unrighteousness. (4) Demons have trained them in a Pavlovian fashion to get thrills off of evil, and believe it is fun, if not for some greater good. It is a lie that Christ needs Lucifer if Christ was pre-existent before Lucifer and the darkness He shone into. Believing all things were created through Christ because He is God and God is what existed before everything helps understand that God would not allow evil unless He already had a way to fix it. Evil doesn’t understand that Christ does not need evil to shine, because people are saved by Christ, not a response to Evil. I think evil would change its tune if it didn’t believe lies from Satan, and understood the truth that Christ “saved us even while we were sinners.” Believe & be saved: Don’t believe religious lies. Tamara, I feel like you started to touch on the fact that some evil people think they are the purifiers of us, telling us we bring evil upon ourselves, when the Bible says it is Christ and the Holy Spirit who are the only Ones holy enough to do that. Gee, if only evils ever read the Bible before they rejected it!

[@erickakane-ic2dz]

Hi

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Hello there!!

[@Richualistik]

Thats not a dark empath. Thats narcissistic.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

A lot of people believe this but it is incorrect. Keep in mind that a dark empath has dark triad traits which includes narcissism, psychopathy, and Machiavellianism . Dark traits are the main personality characteristics of the dark empath. Hope this helps! www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/experimentations/202008/introducing-the-dark-empath-0

[@fairygurl9269]

Much Compassion for Those Who've Been Betrayed 💔❤️‍🩹💗💞

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

💖

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Thank you @ fairtgurl and compassion to you also 🙏