WHY BEING TRAUMATIZED BY EVIL MAY BE MORE HARMFUL THAN YOU THINK

[@johnlovesbridge]

This channel is valuable. You discuss what no one else is talking about.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🤗Thank you!! I hope to keep these topics coming!

[@polyglotta1]

@@TherapistTamaraHill Yes - you say it like it is, and with humour - this is rare. You made me laugh when you talked about the brakes going on in a conversation - that's helpful imagery for me so thank you! Would really appreciate more videos on how to deal with dark empaths in particular as I've done battle with too many in my life by now... draining isn't the word...

[@TheRetroWoman80]

She does indeed👏👏

[@UnderTheSameSun693]

​@@TherapistTamaraHillThank you for all that you do... Really... These types of videos save lives. You really have no idea the service you're doing.

[@M-gd6ow]

Yes & in such a firm grounded way I love it ❤

[@Flowergirl222]

I am an INFJ who has had many relationships with evil men. I had a psychopathic mother and narcissistic father who did major damage to my life (kidnapped my children as a form of retaliation when I was 20.) I recently went no contact with them last year and I am 33. As an INFJ I am highly sensitive but I fought back against every one of them and they weren’t expecting it. In one of the romantic relationships it was so hurtful to me to be betrayed over and over that I acted evil back. I am not proud of it and I had to take a long time to forgive myself for who I became in that relationship. Your videos are very enlightening for me and I am grateful for your work. Calling my parents what they are-evil-helps me stay no contact with them as they try and hoover me. I got myself prepared for everything that would come with no-contact, but sometimes I still feel sad for them. Thank you again 🥰

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Vulnerable narcissists- in my experience are extremely jealous- all this I learned the very hard way-

[@CCX-uo3xu]

The new age believe they shouldnt have compassion lower their vibe for others because some how everyone signed up for their life experiences. I see this as a narcissistic excuse to not care about other and not to lift a finger to help others.

[@Borat_Sagdiy3v]

I noticed a lot of new age people who think that way are egotistical pseudo-intellects!

[@GabHeart-rk6qm]

You can have compassion for others but don’t have to take on their problems to help them. As a new age person I believe you can help people from a distance because sometimes helping someone can hurt you in the long run bc imagine being pulled into something that ends making things more problematic

[@persiamotorman]

This is the exact type of person I had to deal with. I was sent an email by one of them full of spiritual quotes in an attempt to explain to me that evil doesn't exist, but this "highly spiritual person" never asked me how I was doing.

[@justice8563]

There is a book called People of the lie by M. Scott Peck M.D that some may enjoy reading. He gives examples of stories about evil people, where he is absolutely positive that evil exist. I’m dealing with two dark empaths ( Machiavellians) that have shown me the face of evil. I have no doubt that they want me tormented and harmed for their own gratification. Nothing else makes sense for the hate that stems from them. I’ve known the cruel games they have been playing for sometime, but when you actually see the evilness with your own eyes, it will be something that a person will never un-see. I pray that no one has to experience what I have, because it will clearly affect a person ability to ever trust or look at people without wondering what lays beneath the facade, or when the evilness of who they are will come out. Thank you for addressing this topic, it’s important that people understand that evilness appears on so many levels.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're welcome! So glad this was helpful tonight. You mentioned a good point regarding the behaviors as "cruel games" because those who are evil in our lives tend to harm us the most through their games. We can see them, as you know, when they are playing games and keeping up fooled. And thank you for mentioning this book! I have yet to read it but you have encouraged me to pick it up again.

[@justice8563]

@@TherapistTamaraHill You’re awesome. I always feel better after listening to you. Sorry I missed the live, my notification didn’t alarm me. It could have been my fault.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

So kind of you! Thank you. And notifications are tricky on KZbin 🤷‍♀️ No apology needed!

[@mariaseidi4023]

They are devils in human flesh...

[@Flowergirl222]

People of the Lie is a game changer!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

An evil person is a person who does evil acts and likes doing evil. They get a kick out of it. There may be different types of evil. And for the successful In society evil is a decision.

[@POV00005]

❤❤❤

[@JKDVIPER]

If you’ve ever watched the evening news, you definitely have seen evil. ☺️💯🙏

[@amandamerrill1306]

Brilliant thanks. I have sn evil mother in law. She was in my life 30 years. She judged me negatively, put me down, criticism of me, lied to my husband on things i hadn't done. Think she was annoyed as i am full if life and love of animals and people. I annoyed her. No longer in my life. I set a boundary. Oh and lied about me to my 3 daughters too😢

[@sarahk6254]

Evil is quite obvious. Evil is causing suffering unto others especially when it impedes on the natural rights of a being and their freedom. Evil is usually about power and control because what causes a lot of unnecessary suffering? The ego

[@juice_wink]

I read this book earlier this year and became terrified at realizing the deeper drive behind my families treatment of me. It caused flashbacks of the looks they would give of contempt and hatred while causing me so much pain. I lit could no longer ignore it and had to finally say there is no way I can go back. It was too much validity in the book and my experiences.

[@elocat2511]

So glad to have found your channel. ❤❤❤ The following is what I understood you to say about angry rumination, based on my belief that our sometimes ugly thoughts are not considered sin. I’d love to know if you agree or not…it’s not a person’s anger (anger is a normal emotion) or rumination (rumination is a natural reaction one may use to make sense of something that’s been done to them), BUT evil IS when a person’s angry rumination develops into plotting and premeditating something of an evil nature to act upon. In other words, a person can be angry and ruminate about what caused their anger, that would be perfectly normal, but when a harmful plan is devised within the mind and then carried out, that would be evil. Now my thoughts…that’s why premeditation of certain crimes is considered of higher degree, because it was thought out ahead of time. I can see how a normal thing like angry rumination for a narcissist or psychopath could lead to a premeditated evil act, their lack of empathy, lack of morals, lack of emotional regulation, and a mind that is constantly scheming for ways to get and stay in control of others. As a lifetime victim of narcissistic abuse I find my self angrily ruminating about the abuse and my abusers. I think others may benefit from knowing that being angry is a normal emotion to being hurt. Rumination occurs but just keeps you stuck. I’m working on myself and I know healing is hard. Evil is a reality in this world. I’m glad I have a level of empathy that keeps me in check😉

[@dark7angel456]

I hate these types of people. I had to deal with evil types of people most of my life and I have a deep resentment towards them. They drain every ounce of energy from my life and nobody else seems to know that.

[@fredcraven1699]

Ignore ignorance , what you choose to ignore is your ignorance

[@charlottecoolik9872]

Actually just hung up the phone with my narcissistic father screaming at me on a Sunday and I'm 53 and a half and just still feeling like sometimes a helpless little girl but learning more and more on how to deal with the narcissist is so important so I think you in advance before I listen anymore to your video and channel❤❤❤❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry to hear this. 😫 I firmly believe this is more prevalent than we think.

[@charlottecoolik9872]

@@TherapistTamaraHill I totally agree that it is super prevalent and so many people are trapped and don't realize it or even like myself thinking I was free of my father's narcissist control button many ways I'm seeing he's been like an octopus

[@charlottecoolik9872]

@@TherapistTamaraHill prayers for more people to hear your channel and other people speaking of this and informing themselves and learning how to armor themselves with logical truth on ways to apply strategies for Liberation and very good mental health

[@terrim9885]

I recommend "People of the Lie" by M. Scott Peck. It found me at a used bookstore, and I bought it and read it in one sitting.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you for this!! A few others suggested this during the live chat. I must read it now!

[@redsak5311]

@@TherapistTamaraHill It is a must read and "Permission to Exist" broke it down in a detailed review!! One of my favorite books

[@BarbzSA]

This discussion made me realise that I automatically think an upsetting relationship is an evil one. Which is quite telling actually.

[@Marina-be8tk]

EVIL DOES EXIST ! Often in our own families. As for the PFC, teenagers are also prone to risky behavior and addictions for the same reason - the prefrontal cortex (PFC) is not fully developed at this age. Thanks for covering this topic !

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

98 year old momma- having a great old time playing with people and is here the master puppeteer- she intends to keep her control beyond the grave- she is far from unique. Remember you gave power- you can hold your power- for e.g. mom’s money is mom’s money- she can choose for herself….

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Yes please Tamara it would be very helpful to learn how to deal with the evil person.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

I’ve most recently experienced a very Machiavellian female character.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

That's interesting indeed. That is a great video idea!

[@Liquid_Alexis]

I don't get how your channel doesn't have WAY more subscribers and why your videos don't get that many views. Great channel and very informative! Thank you, Tamara ❤.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! Thank you. 🙂

[@Macchiato2398]

Thank you for covering this topic! I also believe people have a difficult time examining these topics because they don't want a self fulfilling prophecy. If evil exists, then it can happen to me. There's a wall dividing evil from our experience when we only hear about things like SA, filicide or school shootings on the news, because it isn't happening to me (and I don't want it to). One views the world differently when they've personally been exposed to evil, but even then, if the events were traumatic enough, the struggle to accept what happened ends in denial of evil existing altogether.

[@BarbzSA]

I'm a cultural anthropologist and interested in how people conceptualize/perceive evil. Also I've experienced a maternal evil relationship. Such an important discussion.

[@MalkaHavah]

Can you do a video about how to get rid of the constant nervousness that comes after narc relationships please?

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I can actually add this to tomorrow's live chat. Hope you can tune in 6pm est!

[@MomTube-i9w]

I love this channel

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

thanks so much!!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

KZbin will make the live chat box available within 12 hours of this live chat ending. Stay tuned!! The chat box is ALWAYS the best part.

[@Megan6772]

My wonderful Mama passed away shortly after my 8th birthday and my evil stepmother pounced on my dad before she even passed. She then proceeded to terrorize me and completely destroy my father and I's relationship and change my dad into a different man. Since we were of course isolated none of my extended family believed that my dad was capable of the things I was telling them. I'm 37 and saw him yesterday for the first time in 10 years, he's still in denial and has said some egregiously hurtful things to me when I tried having a heart to heart. He revealed to me that she's in kidney failure and I pray for her passing soon. I will not attend her funeral as I will be celebrating. 🎉 I hope to look back and read this comment in relief soon. ❤

[@Amanita23]

Machiavellianism: the Hannibal Lector character

[@SkullyTheHypnoSkull]

Nope. That's Hollywood brainwashed you. Hannibal Lector is not real, at all. His behavior is fake.

[@jenniferc1671]

I really like your sweater, it looks beautifully handmade. I tend to look at these things that are more in the metaphysical realm, and I actually believe in this stuff, it’s very true, even though some people don’t believe.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!! It is handmade by a family friend. :) And I agree with your assessment of this topic.

[@kiskakuznetsova503]

Another GREAT topic and I'm always amazed by how you manage the live chat while reacting and sharing (with a concussion!). This is such an important topic and I'm grateful that you've brought this up. Dr Simon's book Wolves in Sheeps Clothing helped me a lot. I always listen to any interview I see with him, too. He validates what a lot of us have. witnessed but that society at large seems to say does not exist (except if its that week's mass shooter). Thanks too for validating that god ol' "depressed" and forlorn covert narc so many of us have been manipulated by. You have a knack for addressing things so many of us have been through but, like I said before, our culture at large ignores or avoids. You validate so much and so authentically -- it's a real gift!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

🤗😊Thank you so much for this comment. I'm grateful. And I'm so glad this was helpful and helpful to you. That's the goal every single live chat. You guys are worth all the research indeed.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

I agree @k and also a lot of professionals in psychology had talked down Dr George Simon- saying his Character Dirordered person is not based on empirical research. They do exist- I’ve met them- they are highly functional and get to do a lot of damage and hold positions of power

[@H-youtube7]

Ms Hill you are very good at explaining complex information and helping apply it to life experiences, this helps to get a grip on what we feel is going on but isn't all seen with the eye. I like that you can also incorporate and relate it to spirituality, that's a real part of being human. Keep doing your good work!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!! I'm so glad this was helpful.

[@bodymindsoul60]

I loved this, so informative, thank you! This is rarely discussed. I really appreciate it and looking forward to the next episode 🙏❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

So glad! Glad this was helpful. And thank you!! I absolutely will be talking about this again soon.

[@slimdusty6328]

I've come to believe that a lot what's been related with Christendom could perhaps be considered to be somewhat evil. Colonialism and that type of thing and inquisitions and all. Even scriptures what have been messed around with and altered added onto, which the scholars find out after they do research into historic nature of the writings by comparing the scripture back to very earliest copies. Some other scripture what were left out too. A number of suspect matters. In recent years i've begun to take note of it. Even to take good note of the reality of love surrounding the followers as well. How genuine is it really. Things like that. Some of it is subtle simple matters what's so easily overlooked without paying close attention. Sometimes ive even begun to have felt as if perhaps i'm being constantly shown signs of the full extent of it. Like any time when i'm quick to forgive, time and again, and get burned by it. As i'm also like a slow learner too, when it comes to being aware of people what it's better to beware of. I far prefer to see the best in people. I'm agnostic, but i can't help but hope a God might exist, as otherwise there's going to be a whole lot of injustices what the perpetrators won't even end up needing to face up to. Ideal to know that if a God would exist then it follows that it never really matters even when there's been good people whose valid complaint might have been easily brush aside and been disregarded. As even those small matters won't end up being completely missed either.

[@K4KUTE]

Hello Tamara, tuis is my time making the live chat!

[@cherhaffen-ut1xb]

How about groups of psychopaths can you please do a session when groups provoke others into this evil path. Ty

[@brendajones2081]

Cannot wait to hear, you Speak about this Topic,

[@EvaEva-lf3ww]

Thank you so much

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You're most welcome!

[@darrylharris756]

Thank you💛

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You’re welcome 😊

[@K4KUTE]

Ive been watching you for about three years……you’ve given me so much valuable information! Thank you!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

You are so welcome!🤗 Thank you. Glad this is helpful to you!

[@BlancanievesUSA]

Sooooo good! Can't wait for the next video ❤❤❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😁 good to know! Thank you. Glad this was helpful.

[@dark7angel456]

I like these videos. I feel so perplexed with many people. I dont even have much social life anymore because of my anxiety from the evil i know of

[@TheRetroWoman80]

Intriguing video, Tamara. Thank you for covering it. People have all sorts of titles for it, I prefer the term darkness. Yes, it indeed does exist.....on a much deeper intelligence level than most humans (no matter their station in this reality on Earth) could ever fathom. It was 2015 when I slowly began to unsubscribe from the religion I was raised with, and religion in general. I then chose to truly accept this existence we're in was odd to my inner soul. I have not looked at life the same since.

[@brianadamec0723]

Your describing my mom 100 percent !

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry😫

[@mamapapaforgiveme]

Im back ...

[@laurareedy8852]

My whole family is evil and I have been dealing with it my whole life. One day they just packed up and moved away to another state and none of them will answer my calls, texts emails… nothing . I call my extended family and they hang up on me. I don’t know what I did to deserve this but it has left me confused and I’m just trying to figure it out .

[@jenniferblue1387]

I have stage 4 cancer . Tell me about it!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I'm sorry.

[@christinecronk9234]

Thank you for the videos I'm currently dealing with this now. ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

So difficult to deal with. Hang in there. And glad to hear this is healpful! Thank you.

[@Faith_Chi]

Thank you Tamara, I enjoyed this talk. Have a lovely weekend.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you! You too! And you're welcome 😊

[@ecohumanism]

But, people, please, don't blame yourself in rumination concerned those who really harmed you or others. It doesn't make you evil (my opinion), what we do to others - does. Maybe each of us has their own definition of evil, just like with other abstract concepts. I myself would like to go not further than people who can ignore or intentionally do bad things to the "good" people around, or to those who depend on them, or to other people in general (struggling to formulate). You know, those, who increase stakes, create conflict, obsessed with control, disproportionate punishment, self-righteousness, absorbed by their own things to notice others. So I believe in good, evil, justice and karma, even though I don't believe in supernatural. Justice is something what people do, I don't believe in gods - no reason for me to expect anything from them. Karma is the consequences of the environment a person creates around themselves by their actions. Like when narcs abuse people and surround themselves with other dishonest people etc

[@marymotherofgod4861]

Good stuff ur great!!!💜🙏

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I appreciate that! Thank you. Glad this was helpful!

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

For my recent adjacent video on this topic, click here for the unlisted video kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWm3fIKsrKh5lbs

[@SteadiouslyBalanced]

I really appreciate what you doin for real its a most listening to you every day to remind my self where am at but other then that you are a professional!!!! Love you❤❤

[@nancyP7448]

Glad I found you here.

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

😊 to have you aboard! Welcome.

[@claudiafloresgonzalez1515]

You are super smart 😊 I love all your videos. So knowledgeable and you have great wisdom ❤

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you so much 😀🤗

[@amandadavis5246]

Is there a way for me to book with you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

I do offer consultations that are private pay. Right now, I can't take on any new clients as I am booked into June. Feel free to email me at the email in the description box!

[@amandadavis5246]

@@TherapistTamaraHill ok thank you

[@ritadoran5039]

Hi Tamara Love the channel thanking you

[@TherapistTamaraHill]

Thank you!!

[@dark7angel456]

I would say it can be witchcraft since its fixating and cursing

[@BibleTumper]

It appears that people in general are pron to evil. You don't have to teach people to lie, but not to. It's not right, just is. Pay attention to your thoughts and desires and not play them out in the real world, you may not get the results you're sorthing after. Ask God to help you in your mind, read your bibles too Christians.

[@JKDVIPER]

24:08 How about getting your BM evicted, after she protects herself from the guy, he gets her and the kid kicked out by FLYING MONKEY. Then he presses for custody. Not to mention he's a free house guy on a state funded or whatever voucher himself. ❤omg. Dear Lord. That's bad. He knows she's a good mommy, relied on her to feed his narcissistic tendencies, but then in the same beat, sends authorities, all after getting in trouble himself for being aggressive. Now, all in the name of change, people are buying his crap, but he still to this day attempts to control, scare, and dominate her and the kid. 🤢💯