how to DATE successfully for women | high value dating standards and how to get princess treatment

[@tamkaur]

YOU KNOW I GOT YOUUUU 🤩 2023 is the year of princess treatment only! p.s. feel free to watch in 0.75x speed because I got wayyyy to passionate speaking on this topic lmao

[@ankitatahilyani7584]

Need a video on how to start KZbin.. about your journey.. how to get views, editing and everything

[@sun_shine-z2h]

New subscriber here ❤ Can you please make a video on how you have started your brand , your inspiration and idea for that etc

[@jasmina_soul]

😍🤩🤩

[@nathaliepassaya438]

This was so good! 😍 Keep it coming girl! 🤩

[@zara-cm3kv]

listening on 2x

[@erikagsanchez]

my whole life my family has told me “you are gonna end up alone if you act like that” (refering to me not tolerating X behaviors and having my standards clear, and ive always ignored them, now im happy with my bf who treats me amazing and they be like “be grateful there arent many like him, you are lucky” and im like ???? this is because i have standards for myself, not luck! Great video as alwayssss❤❤

[@tamkaur]

Queen!!!

[@Cadesbaee]

GET EM SISSS

[@jasmina_soul]

Yesss

[@mc-hz2xt]

sis ate. Literally what i've been thinking over years but situation around me made me think i should lower my standards. Glad I came across you, not backing down now

[@johnwise4341]

He’s gonna eventually leave you when he realize his standards. Simpin’ ain’t easy… 😏 “Single” - Lil Wayne

[@Radhajaiswal_]

The bare minimum 1) when he opens the door for you 2) when he is polite wd you and everyone 3) basic communication skill - listening what you said asking how was your day 4) when he response your text quickly 5) when he wants to spend a time wd you and initiate the plans to hang out 6) when he is kind, well mannered, well behaved and genuine and loyal 7) when he text you good morning 8) when he is patient wd you and don't over reactt in situations!!! 9) he don't like that you going upset on bed

[@hursheragamreddy3148]

What is not the bare minimum.

[@MilicaDinić-j9j]

​@@hursheragamreddy3148 You're just simple

[@exuvie1]

@@hursheragamreddy3148Then what it? A human mannequin? basic human understanding and emotional intelligence and empathy ARE the bare minimum. The bar for most men is in hell right now, this IS truly the basic bare minimum.

[@notwerkinginthishouse8634]

Actually going beyond to help others and fight for their rights is one of them lol Also inventing something ​@@hursheragamreddy3148

[@charlesrev-ee2nm]

Ok so then whats the bare minimum for the man then? Give me a list of what the woman has to do at the bare minimum.

[@fit8706]

i rewatch this everytime i catch myself getting flattered or excited over the bare minimum 😭

[@Mylife.lari20]

Yess! I've been watching her video after a guy I used to talk to is now with another girl and omg these videos have been helpful in seeing another perspective. 😊

[@Fluffy_cloud201]

@@Mylife.lari20this is what I learned so far, simple gestures of kindness or attraction doesn’t mean shit, so don’t assume anything based on those things. Unless he approaches you in person and tells you that he wants to be with you, don’t even entertain the thought of being with him. Even when you are in a relationship, don’t let him consume to the point you lose yourself in him. Instead of getting emotionally attached, teat it like a business. If you are making more effort than him to make the relationship work, that means you are being robbed. So you should get away from him. Don’t let your emotions be the downfall of you. Prioritize logic over emotion ❤

[@Shessobizzare]

yes!! let’s teach ourselves lol🙂

[@queensun6059]

words to live by. well stated!👏👏👏

[@queensun6059]

@@Mylife.lari20 my condolences (onviously metaphorically only) to the other girl. bc he's no prize😌

[@kyliechristina234]

Do remember ladies: In order for us to be deserving of a high-value man, we MUST be ourselves high-value women. You cannot just act as you please and not set high standards to abide by yourself, and then expect to be justified in having high standards in man. In addition, we cannot be upset or offended if good and high value men set high standards for us as women. We are NOT all just queens: we have to earn that status.

[@ouroboros2285]

💯

[@jayaroy4169]

Very importantly we have to raise our standards.... This actually saved my life.. I would have been depressed or dead. We have to be very careful. We can't wste our lives with a poor person who doesn't even have education and stable job

[@shrushtipatil06]

Your outfit ❤️

[@hydratedqueen2782]

💯💯

[@sudoegodor891]

Thanks

[@jamiehuynh23]

“Low value men wants to take a lot, and high value men want to give a lot.” 👏 girl you speaking truth in so many ways! You’re so wise for your age! This is my first time watching your video & I just subscribed! 🤗

[@tamkaur]

🥰🥰🥰🥰

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

wel said gal

[@queensun6059]

👸bingo👏👏👏👏👏

[@chaitanyagupta6668]

Lmao, classic woman logic. He is giving me a lot, he is high value. 😂😂 Now yall not even afraid of being called gold diggera

[@queensun6059]

@@chaitanyagupta6668 why be afraid? bc he ain't afraid to expect &/or ask for s-ex on or before the 1 date😌.

[@monasmemo9307]

Just got out of a Situationship. Walking away from a toxic relationship is something new for me because the old me would stay no matter what. But now that I discovered your channel, you’re like a bigger sister that I didn’t know I need. You inspire me in a lot of ways girl. Thank you :)

[@professionalpookie]

You choose who you open your legs for. You're reckless with your vagina

[@gera7291]

i was LITERALLY talking about this today and the way people judge me so bad for never lowering my standards but i would rather die than settling for the bare minimum

[@sharlotececilia]

PERIOD 💅💅💅

[@JellyfishAranara]

As you should 💅 keep them high

[@cinthyalc1162]

Hahahahaha yes a lot of girls with daddy issues will throw you a show if you speak about wanted to be treated with care and love by a guy

[@godzilla400]

Standards for modern women is men need to make 6 figures and spend it on her.

[@gera7291]

@@godzilla400 my standards are literally just wanting a men to be a decent human being that is not a misogynist nor racist but for them that’s the craziest thing to want in a person

[@beccalove7133]

Love this video. Living my Princess life with or without a man. I really think the main thing women need to master is being on their own and loving their own company, this is such a powerful place to be, if you’re starving - crumbs will look like a feast. A woman not scared to be on her own is a powerful thing to contend with.

[@lalisherwell3207]

I feel so scared to be on my own 😅 how to overcome this

[@yeayeayeah933]

@@lalisherwell3207 Well, for starters, you're physically safer alone than with a boyfriend. Most cases of rape are done by current or former boyfriends and the leading cause of death for pregnant women is homicide by a (male) partner.

[@Sumivampireprincessss]

THIS

[@pia.behmuaras]

Finally, I can stop feeling ashamed about my past relationships and feel proud about the things I learned from them.

[@sabrinaaouadchaibou6854]

Omg this made me remind of a boy I had a situationship with. I suddenly realized he was naturally trying to give me princess treatment without asking. But this idea of being an independent woman who doesn't need someone pays the bill for her and can do all by herself made me reject this actions the guy was willing to give. I regret it so much!

[@tamkaur]

I used to make the same mistake 😭

[@johnwise4341]

Men should give themselves the Princess treatment. Work hard just to spoil a woman who will never do the same for him? I pity the fool. It’s like being royalty and servicing the help. 🤔

[@sakuraesther6309]

@@johnwise4341 The fact that you view women as the help . You should post in on all your socials and make it clear that is how you view women so that they can avoid you

[@claramarie9858]

@John Wise you hella need to seek help

[@anjalijain2651]

​@@sakuraesther6309 he just doesn't want to put effort into a relationship, but wants one. So he thinks every girl should just want not even the bare minimum, so he would also get the chance.

[@kelllllyyyy3010]

Remember ladies! These standards should apply even after you are married. If he does this things only in the beginning and not after you have been with him for some time. DROP HIM! . I have seen so many married men give princess treatment to their side chick and not to their wives. So please realize your self worth. Even if you are married for 10,20, 30 years if he forgets to cherish you, you need to find someone who does.

[@zara7276]

Yea 😔 I’ve given up completely

[@kelllllyyyy3010]

@@zara7276 Give up on him not on life sis! You need to cherish yourself, learn new stuff, watch new movies and take care of your own mental health.

[@queensun6059]

👸yes! 100%agreed!👏👏👏

[@rickycool6083]

This is why men need to stop marrying. Both side wins that way.

[@floramargarete1736]

okay, this is truly insane. I’ve watched this video like a week ago, agreed with the things you said and made a deal with myself not to date below my value. I had a first date coming up and in my head I’ve pictured him waiting for me with a flower. what can I say: the date came, he actually stood there waiting for me with a flower. he was a true gentleman. we’ve already had a couple more dates and he has been the sweetest. all the things I would have wanted him to do, he did. thank you so much for making me aware of what I deserve and what I want ♥️

[@cyanidepills1262]

Just asking hypothetically what if he didn't buy any flowers? Would you have rejected him?

[@aryan-yi7nc]

probs yeah cause he didnt fit her high standards@@cyanidepills1262

[@awakenedone7577]

Guys who bring flowers are so corny

[@BecomingaQueen]

“ never apologise for having high standards. Those who belong in your life will meet you at your level” 👑❤️

[@lin3378]

27:28 my mom let herself be used by my father (she does everything, work, cook, clean, even masculine tasks, he work and drives once in a while, he rarely helps her and driving is the only thing that she dont do) and other people as well, she is kind of a people pleaser, I told her I don't want this in my life, and to my surprise, she agreed, I'm kind of changing her mindset as well 😍😍😍

[@icebear4826]

U go girl❤

[@elxnaduan]

Dating - Bare minimum + setting high standards: set your standards so you don’t entertain anyone who doesn’t meet them. They include: wine and dine, plan thoughtful and meaningful dates for you by making an effort to understand who you are so the dates align with who you are, emotionally mature, supportive, gentleman and chivalrous and opens every (car) door for you, wants u to be a part of his world by introducing to his fam & friends, intelligent, ambitious, financially stable, knows how to drive (passenger princess life), same values and morals, matches future ideal lifestyle and dreams you have envisioned for yourself and the places you wanna visit, values his self development and invested in each other grows, biggest supporter in (creative) endeavours and cheers you on, creates safe environment for communication of needs and healthy communication for issues, gives princess treatment, gives weekly flowers. NEVER ACCEPT 50/50 - Wait 1 week during talking stage, if they don’t ask out on date (and they don’t live far away otherwise FT / call) then move on - Give people a chance to prove themselves: give them benefit of the doubt if in doubt and go on a 2nd date (1st date jitters). If 2nd date doesn’t go well, dismiss. - Communicate ur standards during dating in a chill polite way when the person has already proven themselves to you and it is getting serious. “How do you feel about X? Bc this is how I feel about it, these are my values and what is important to me when I’m dating somebody and how do you feel about it?” -> then you can reevaluate if you wanna keep dating this person. - Communicate ur standards in relationship: use positive reinforcement by praising, don’t nag. Show how grateful you are and be appreciative so he naturally will keep doing that. - If they’re not meeting your standards: leave. You can’t change a man and their actions/feelings towards you. You don’t need to put up with it, don’t come up with strategies to change them (otherwise ur operating masculine energy, feminine energy is open to receive). Men are an addition to your life, he’s not good enough if he’s not good enough. - Fix your mindset: self-love journey, solo dating, you have yourself and you’re not alone/lonely, you’re simply by yourself and enjoying your own company and self growth.

[@chanellove3482]

🙌🏾

[@iminuru1881]

That's why women are single. All these standards even tho you can't put shit on the table.

[@yinpassion7817]

I have always had high standards and my whole life ppl have told me I am “too picky”. This is so validating that what I am doing is worth it!

[@happygololo9096]

it's crazy how sometimes people can make me feel like I'm asking for too much. The things u said your partner does for u are literally the things I want for myself and people always say that I want too much or my standards are too high and that I'll never be in a relationship (I've never been in one before). I do know that they are things that I need to work on right now but I will never ever lower my standards again cause I know what I want and I'm not tryna be in a lot of dysfunctional relationships before I settle down. So thank you♥

[@BBeeblebrox]

This is by far the most realistic and very good dating advice I've heard in a long long time.

[@tamkaur]

Yay 🥰💕✨

[@mikaelag5743]

okay so I’m convinced that you are making videos specifically for me 😭 like these past 10 videos you made all related to problems I was having at the moment and now this video is relating to what I’m going through rn . I love listening to your videos while I’m at work thank you Tam ❤

[@melissacarreno6475]

Girl, you have been helping me out so much. I'm glad that you are telling everyone that THEY deserved an amazing partner! NO MATTER WHAT in LIFE! I hope you have an amazing day and deserved happiness💕❤

[@angelaaaaa2]

Questions from part two: What shared interests do I want us to have- how do I see us spending time together? Pick the ones you’re really passionate about and will want to do with them. E.g. reading, museums, travel. What makes me feel loved? E.g. surprises, vulnerability, deep conversations. What behaviours align with those? E.g. someone that’s caring, kind, cultured, emotionally mature etc What are the dream romantic gestures that I want to experience ? How do I want them to be when I’m sad? How do I want them to support me? What do our bad days look like together? How do I want them to communicate with me when shit goes wrong? What do our weekends/ home life look like together? What are they like as a person? What are their goals/ values/ beliefs/ philosophies?

[@AnaS-of8ri]

I love you! Thank you so much for doing thiss❤

[@angelaaaaa2]

@@AnaS-of8ri i love you more !

[@ananyagaur2412]

Thank you so much for this ❤

[@angelaaaaa2]

@@ananyagaur2412it’s okay❤❤

[@An-vi8hj]

Thanks sis

[@sohinidhar5612]

I am just blown by your ideas. Writing down pros n cons of exs to figure out personal likes and dislikes is such an awesome advice .. you are my favourite.. lots of love ❤️

[@annastark9155]

Thank you so much, girl, when you were decribing the high value man, my boyfriend came to my mind, he is so perfect, he always respects me, kind to me and always do princess treatment to me, protects me, understands me, loyal and a true gentlemen. I'm so thankful to have him in my life. And I love your videos too thank you, I love you so much, you are like a big sister to me :)

[@tamkaur]

Omg yes you go girl!!! 💕

[@_taenosaur]

i feel so happy everytime she has a big smile on her face whenever she talks about her boyfriend its so cute

[@daniellecharming]

This is so helpful! I have high standards and low tolerance for men not meeting that, and this helped me refine my approach. Thank you!

[@tamkaur]

Glad it was helpful!

[@daniellecharming]

​@@tamkaur and congratulations on your healthy long-term relationship! You're a walking proof of your talk.

[@godzilla400]

When women use the term low tolerance it just says 🚩

[@sg3918]

@@daniellecharming what proof? it's been 4 months. come back in 40 years married to the same person and tell me this is realistic advice to women. this is fairytale stuff.

[@atomgonuclear]

A lot of good information. The only thing I would caution against is "Supports all of my endeavours". You want somebody to tell you if something is a bad idea. You dont want a man who co-signs bad ideas or bad behaviors. Nobody has the best idea or plan 100 percent of the time. Emotional maturity is accepting that you are not always right. The biggest take away is shared values. I love that you mention being able to have high standards without being nitpicky

[@aria8463]

you really cover everything ! i feel like a lot of people talk about this “high value” stuff in a way that presses gender roles and shames people and is kinda toxic but you cover everything and just reminded me that i deserve so more more than i’ve settled for before also All About Love is amazing!

[@rickycool6083]

Man is still in his gender role. Defending you, providing for you, chivalry, paying YOUR bills, planning and taking you on dates. Being rich and ambitious. It is only you that doesn't wish to do the same for the guy and hate your own gender roles that he might also expect. Because how dare he expect anything from his girlfriend right?

[@aria8463]

@@rickycool6083 I don't have a boyfriend and no man has ever offered to do any of this for me as I'm only 22. Doesn't mean that there isn't one out there that will! I would just prefer to be able to rely on myself first and if a man wants to take care of me that's great. Just how I was raised and everyone is different. Would rather not be put in a box just cause I'm a woman and when I am in a relationship I'll communicate my needs/wants then and listen to his.

[@vastok064]

@@rickycool6083sadly it is like this. They expect everything, set their standandarts so high while bringing nothing in return and wonder why the "high value men" don't want them

[@audreynewell2608]

When you said "Situationship" I bet we all had the same reaction 😭 I am currently trying to find the courage to leave one (my first one). Everything was fine initially, but there was no growth.

[@arnelabih1845]

I've been getting Royal Treatment since I was 17 years of age as my dad and aunt taught me this and my dad built my self esteem and plus I went to acting and modeling school it seriously helped me be confident and a leader. Thanks to God I never had self esteem issue and that I'm not stupid I choose to wisely who I date as I am very picky.

[@lalisherwell3207]

I’m almost 30 and only learning to have high standards now… but am scared I won’t find someone in time to start a family! Feels hard to stick to standards if it means being alone … but also can see the potential in waiting for someone great 🎉

[@Eve444_]

Oh my god!! Never thought that you’re in a long term relationship!! The moment I saw your self love videos, I started to follow you in all your social media platforms! You really helped me to raise my standards and love myself more!! I hope you continue spreading your positive energy 🫶✨

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[@josharethlouise]

it makes my heart so full that i am doing so many things for my growth, like for a long time i have this hole inside my heart and now i realized that all i need to do is just show up for myself and love myself.

[@xinsyyy]

I LITERALLY need this advise. The timing that this video pop up in my feed is just amazing ✨ OMG I'M IN MY HEALING JOURNEY and you're contributing to that A LOT, thank you Tam 😭

[@xerindavisx]

you put this all together so perfectly. such a huge reminder to me to raise my standards

[@tamkaur]

🥹❤️❤️

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Much love from Nairobi Kenya am 45yrs plus gals if you could listen to this gal and do as she says your love life will be amazing DONT SETTLE FOR MEDIOCTRITY. you deserve better trust me

[@thelovewitch-r2k]

She a whole preacher without the church thank you babe ❤

[@Bibiandhami]

OMG YES THANK YOU!! You just confirmed everything that I was feeling! Grateful that you exist sister! Keep educating women to save their lives in the future and that of men as well I might add! As a low value man is never truly happy because it’s in their genes to provide and we give purpose to their lives!

[@jasminemelanie4300]

i swear to god tam every single time im worrying about something you release a video addressing my concerns i love u sm

[@tamkaur]

Ilyyyyy ❤️

[@lilsarelilies]

omg i just realized that ive been shitty with my self for accepting the bare minimum . i just love how tam says she got us GIRLSS

[@review_with_anu]

I had fear of keeping my standards high,But You gave me clarity 🙌 I think this is universe's sign for me❤️🥰

[@MS-ns4ki]

A heavy reminder I am the shiznit

[@aryaadattamunsi8526]

I come back to this video everyday. After 3 failed relationships and LOADS of situationships, i really needed this. This is like my daily motivation. Thanks queen 🥰

[@agostinaodierna6787]

Since I found you here on yt, the moment you upload a video has become one of the best moments of my week ♥ I'm told to lower my standars all the time and I usually let myself get convinced, so this really gives me motivation to trying to fix my mindset. Thank you for sharing so much with us!

[@sophia1423L]

Nah babe they’re not unrealistic they’re amazing, my man does most of what’s on that list he’s made me realise what I deserve

[@kailynnmarie8119]

I finally did it! I stood up for myself and feel way more powerful than I did trying to beg someone who didn’t care to care. Thank you Tam❤️❤️

[@Theuncuratedhealthmaniac]

I know you said not to set “superficial standards” but I tried really hard to continue things with two men who were not very physically attractive and no chemistry, it was really difficult for me, I couldn’t even look them in the eye or didn’t wanna hug or touch them in anyway. So I don’t think girls should dismiss physical attraction completely, you can be physically attracted to someone and they might not have the physical features you envisioned and this happened to me in one of my more recent relationship which was close to being successful. All in all, there’s a difference between chemistry vs. being shallow.

[@4andicoffee]

i think this should be for everyone who wants a relashionship, that all is needed in both sides

[@lin3378]

8:51 - It is real and he is teaching me to love

This is so niceeee since those standards couldn't just be applied to love and relationships. I can apply it to my career, too. ❤️ People are telling me to find a 9-5 job in a company but I like to pursue my passion more-writing and gain freedom in my crafts. Thank you so much for this! I've been watching your vlogs now and it helps me so much on my self-love journey ❤️❤️❤️

[@TamBella80]

Not only was I loving everything you’re saying, I’m also loving the energy and vibe! New follower ❤

[@tamkaur]

Yay! Thank you!

[@mariadiduko9671]

Could you do a video about how to START dating? As for someone, who's shy and a bit self-conscious I would love to hear your tips about how to start conversations with men etc.

[@zizir3717]

Hey, girl! I’m 30 years old and I felt really happy about listening you! You are beautiful and full of energy! ❤ I adore the way you explain important things!

[@aritrikaroy4286]

OMG 😳 this is exactly what Every girls need to see for dating this is just so wholesome, detailed & perfect as possible ❤ 😊 now I gotta work do the homework for dating 🎉

[@Mona-em5ii]

The comment section under your videos always gives hope, glad to see women uplifting women ❤

[@aleenahalleman2403]

I recently got out of a relationship that was very toxic and my needs were not being met in the relationship and I was put into thinking I was stupid for wanting to be close. I have figured out that it is my needs and I have started working on myself and I will continue to until I am ready to get back in there

[@kirtisrivastava5896]

*Pros and cons of exes *what something they never did *find love language *what makes u felled loved ..communication ets *dream romantic gesture... roomm flower petals *what ur weekends look like *how independent are they *what does future look like *ur standard should not be compromised *to always give chance to prove themselves

[@kumikoasakura5650]

Thank you for your videos❤️. I'm from Bucha, Ukraine 🇺🇦 and you breathe in feminine energy in me. So needed right now

[@dazzlemanuel1954]

The best teacher for self love, and only accepting the best. You have truly changed my life, and transformed my mindset, thank you

[@serraphics]

I love when my friends say my standards are too high and that is why im still single bcs i KNOWWW i deserve better 😂🥰

[@dikshitaprakash]

so have you got your partner?

[@serraphics]

@@dikshitaprakash no. im only 20 & not in a rush to have a bf nor is it a priority for me 😬

[@dikshitaprakash]

@@serraphics it's not a need right😂

[@laurarobinson917]

I love this woman, she covers everything , I literally think of something and then … there’s the answer and I don’t know how I coped without her before now. ❤

[@martinasaviano11]

Could you make a video about perfectionism? I’ve been struggling with perfectionism my entire life and I heard that it can keep you in your wounded feminine energy, but I don’t know if that’s entirely true. I really love your videos and I would love to know what you think about the topic!!

[@xnm2754]

this omg

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[@jazelyb.9240]

Been there😭 She is completely right! I dated this guy almost 3 months ago and he broke up with me because I didn’t seem happy with him? It confused me cause I was the one who texted first, I was the one always going up to him, and I was the one who started most conversations, and I had to ask him for almost everything, even the bare minimum! And I knew that everything he did was wrong but I still stayed with him because I didn’t have standards! Yea he did write pretty things for me but that’s BARE MINIMUM so yea if I listened to this video earlier it would’ve woken me up even more because even his friends were telling me that deserved better! And now that that has happened I’m more awake on who I talk to know, I know what bare minimum is and I know what kind of standards I want.❤️

[@Buse-999]

I feel you! You really can be proud and grateful to yourself that you realized it .

[@fionamaclean8618]

usually I put the videos on a speed 1.5 but I LOVE that you have so good communication skills that the normal speed is like music to my ears! Love you already

[@meow7263]

I ❤️ u! I just started dating again after a relationship that did not meet the bare minimum, so this really came in at the right time for me!

[@Yabelle]

"HAVE YOU BEEN ON TIKTOK? HAVE YOU SEEN THE ALL OF THE DIFFERENT LOOKING HUMAN BEINGS ON THAT? AND EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM ARE GORGEOUS IN THEIR OWN WAY!" hahahahaha love it!

[@loe7068]

She is the wholesome version of wizard liz

[@motivational.__-.at._TheBeest]

I'm a teenager and haven't dated yet but ur advice is so helpful and nearly saved me from a situation ship. I can see the change when i started to value myself over others opinion

[@shahbegumsikkandar5035]

Heyyy Tam...... Ilyyyy ssssmmm ....i am so happy that a Punjabi a Indian a Desi girl is talking about theses topics and posting videos like this ... Keep going

[@tamkaur]

🤗

[@aliceluker4797]

Thank you, truly. This video empowered me to realise the guy I've been dating isn't matching my high value energy 🙏🏻

[@sunvavachi]

I am 36 in October and I've had to date in secret all til now. That has been a huge hinderance. I'm south Indian and I find out parents are more stricter. I'm glad I did try to date the men I did. All of them were long except my last. This was a really good video. I am still fighting cultural issues to feel independent in order to even feel free in the dating world. It's been a major block but hopefully not too soon. Communication for me is also important though so I would notice how they text me or call. My last relationship ended since he was horrible at communicating.

[@RLifestyle453]

Some just can't get it together with communicating, and the funny part is that it's free. this is my main issue w the guy I've currently got

[@elchangomemazcas2050]

36? commen on, you are out, no one would like to recycle you. maybe a 59 years old rich man, no one your age, nor yourger, nor older, well 25 years older than you yeas

[@sunvavachi]

@@aj3866 what do you mean? I'm quite a good daughter to them and do listen. Just because I am 36 in October doesn't mean I did anything wrong. I am quite traditional and you don't know me. So don't make a judgement so fast lad.

[@sunvavachi]

@@RLifestyle453 communication is definitely important in a relationship. If it's not there, leave! Learned that from my mom! 😂...but ya communication also with parents are tough but I'm learning to slowly have my boundaries while still respecting them etc and it's working out slowly. :)

[@sg3918]

​@@sunvavachiand why are they ending? Is any introspection required or is it all on them?

[@coolendesigns810]

you girl with thick eyeliner, i love you sm! thank you so much for your words. i badly needed this. i'm here til you get 10M subs

[@tamkaur]

UR THE BEST🥺🥰

[@coolendesigns810]

@@tamkaur you are the big sister i never had. bless your radiating soul

[@miunny]

oh my god, this is so timely! thanks for the video, tam! really needed this, especially with relapses happening.

[@kylaevans5928]

Just got out of a relationship where i was so attatched to him & only felt safe with him & felt lost & unsafe on my own. Im on my own journey now on self love & setting higher standards, i realize now he was giving the bare minimum. Iv let men use me & my body way too many times in the past & now im no longer going to let them make me feel pressured into sex. Time to stand up for myself & be happy on my own, until i find a man who can be everything iv ever dreamed of.

[@ma_isa_coooo]

Girl you stay killing it I needed this when I started my self love journey a yr ago But I’m glad I can check things off with the things you listed Your POV is what I truly believe in Love it ❤ You deserve your blessings too with all the work you do on social media !! 🌷

[@RioAmor-vk8yg]

A man who wants me to be part of his world ❤ I was so hurt before because i can feel like he doesnt want me to be part of his world or to be part of his life. He doesnt want to stay, because he said we have a different path in life. And i realized that yes we are in the different world. I have a lot of goals in life and pursuing to be successful on my career while he is busy scamming people. We are indeed different. Thanks for this video i figured all of it how i become from zero standard to have a higher standard. ❤

[@loe7068]

When you love & accept yourself, you won‘t have to have these bare minimums in mind & think about it to control what people do. Just love yourselves babes and meet people & explore yourself. How are you with different people? Who brings out the best in you, really? And then build your circle & your man will fit into it

[@classy_c88]

18:42 is something very serious to listen to. My mom back in the day tried to tell me I should tell a man how to treat me but same man can turn around do that to someone else…. Not bashing mom but that was her mindset at the time. I’m very glad I ran into your channel as I recently just got of a bad engagement. I’m about to rewatch all your vids. new *sub* I started at 2024 vision board 😆

[@bubbleybubble123]

how do I superlike this 🥺 love how you always know how we think and teach us how to rewire it so we hold our self worth 🤲🏻

[@Seoyull38]

Hi! I really wanted to say that you helped me realize the thing that I didn't want to recognize. When I first saw this video I felt uncomfortable, so I put off watching it. After I had a conversation w my boyfriend (he’s nice and kind but is shy w money) I came back to this video. I think I realized that I liked the bare minimum cuz I never got the bare minimum ever in my life before. (This is my second time dating so it’s kinda obvious). Thanks to you I got the chance to recognize my standards and what I want in dating. Also I feel like this video gave me permission to cut him off without guilt. We were not a match, that’s all. So I really wanted to say, thank you so much for helping me and other people.

[@UC_Podcast]

As a guy, reminders like this are important for my own growth too. Thank you for your content. 🙏

[@stanwinx1144]

GUYS SIS IS GIVING US HW, WE LOVE A SUPPORTIVE TEACHER 🥺

[@tamkaur]

YESSSS 👩‍🏫

[@ayantikapaul5599]

First I used to skip her videos on YT then I observe YT constantly showing me her different videos again n again n again. So I watched one , now I am Grateful for YT suggestion and For Her Choosing YT. Thank you Tam , You are saviour 🙏♥️

[@shwetakhade6531]

Hi Tam, Your videos are helping me so much to heal my past wounds and build a fresh new mindset in all areas of my life. whether it maybe love, relationships, friendship, femininity you have covered it all. you are a blessing. Thank you so so so much. I want to request you, can you make a video on how to be consistent in the self love journey or career? because I find myself shifting things but sliding into the old toxic self sabotaging patterns again.

[@Lara77473]

What scares me about princess treatment is then I might be expected to be subservient because then I owe him. .... I've had bad relationships

[@EmmaM-q1l]

hair really is sooo important!!! even if i wear miminal or even no makeup aslong as my hair is styled it still looks good and im confident !!!

[@tamkaur]

Factssss!!

[@schmdtta8106]

I never wanted gifts, doors opened for me, flowers delivered, dates planned, for him to pay so much or even go anywhere, I dont even mind if he's poor, I dont care, all I've ever wanted was pure love. and for me that doesnt show through expensive gifts, it shows in how he looks at me, how he can talk to me, how we spend time together, no matter where we are and we are happy together and make each other even more complete.

[@Rekhadailyactivities888]

I’ve read a lot of books, but women’s magic truths on borlest is on another level. It doesn’t just talk about vague concepts-it reveals secret techniques that can actually help you attract almost anything you want in life. This isn’t some watered-down law of attraction; it’s the real deal. You won’t believe what you’re missing out on until you read it.

[@Strawdollyy]

I remember going back and forth with this girl on tiktok bc she got mad that I told her that her bf being faithful and always being there for her was the bare minimum 😂

[@reneejoseph5030]

I'm sitting here thinking how have I not come across your channel before now? I found you at the right time.

[@marymagdalene1212]

Girl, you are so gorgeous, so smart and I love your energy. I learned a lot from this video and just subscribed! Thank you so much 🙏

[@unicorne19804]

Note to my self : 18:54 and 20:47 to 22:06

[@emilyzhao]

needed this reality check THANK YOU

[@emilyyu9150]

Love how you speak hahahaha just listening to you speak makes me feel empowered and so much more confident!!! Of course your boyfriend loves you - strangers like us love you because of how much you love yourself and how confident you are!! Continue to live your best life ❤

[@amethyst6073]

You made me realize that my dating standards were on the floor wtf,

[@tanujashinde2931]

Make a video on how to be a high value woman. Thank you for everything ❤

[@tamkaur]

Done!

[@khrystinevalentinearcedo1096]

I am literally crying while listening to this

[@keiranalei]

could you do a video on how to be a good girlfriend? i feel like i don’t give enough honestly and it makes me feel like i don’t deserve princess treatment

[@tamkaur]

Noted x

[@garryhunjan3729]

I feel love is about giving and not being greedy to expect anything in return..yeah have standards ofcourse just don't be so attached to their behaviours that if they don't give you princess treatment you end up hurting yourself! You should be your own source of happiness ❤ Loved the video though..it gave a new perspective