Tarek Ali's "Apology" & Colorism, & What We Can Learn From It

[@KingofReads]

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[@rooboatdeer22yu51]

I hope we are heading to a place where people's perspective of this negativity coming up in reaction to past negative actions is viewed as a natural thing instead of a punishment type thing. Alittle more peace would be nice for everyone.

[@ronanyomu5967]

Now get zachary Campbell for hid comments on megan plzzzz

[@rachel2699]

I am getting kind of tired of the "I bullied dark skin black women because [insert personal trauma]" only because it proves to me that people made fun of these women because they are the easiest target. Plus if healing is not a one and done process, neither can making amends.

[@tionnajohnson8430]

This is ridiculous I've been bullied and I was self hating but I never went on Twitter comparing dark skin women to trash to be fair it wasn't my skin I hated but still

[@imo.124]

It's also because they hate themselves, so they hate us. That's how they really feel. Don't let these men fool you!

[@kokainejane773]

The black woman was the easiest target but the one who casted the stone is the WEAKEST LINK🤌🏾🤌🏿

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

It seems like damn near everybody has a internet history of clowning dark skin women for absolutely no reason. Everytime you turn around a mf apologizing after getting caught insulting and attacking dark women.

[@JulianSteve]

Exactly. It’s getting old. Just apologize, acknowledge what you said, or shut up if that’s the case.

[@carrington2949]

To be a little black girl growing up around the 2010s was hell on the psyche . I think that is why so many of us sought out escapism in other worlds and cultures. Whyte people may have pioneered racism but black men made it a elite sport in their campaign against black women and girls at the time.

[@jerkchickentimbit]

This!!! ✊🏿💯💯💯

[@ASprinkleofAnime]

This is so true! I really got into rock music and indie pop as a child. And also anime too because it's a wonderful escape from toxicity in the black community. Im detatched from the community at this point and only support minded black women.

[@trxphywaifalt]

@@ASprinkleofAnime I’ve always been detached from the black community as a dark skinned girl. I was always called oreo for a number of reasons, but when I started feeling bad for not being “black enough” and being detached from the black community and culture, stuff like this started to pop up. And now I don’t feel bad for staying away from the black community at all🤷🏾‍♀️ we are doing nothing wrong.

[@notmyrealname11]

Don't draw the line at the 2010s. They still trash in the 2020s too.

[@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913]

The way I didn’t think/know that black men were even remotely attracted to me a darker skinned black girl until I got to college? Because it was a literal hell scape. Bullying dark skinned black women was a whole entire personality back then.

[@ASprinkleofAnime]

I hate the "i was a child" argument. I was a child too and and bullying towards black women affected my self-esteem. Some of the boys at school would insult the black girls and praise the non-black girls. And when I heard rap, I would hear lines insulting black women (specifically darkskinned) and praising everyone else. These things have an impact on young black girls and need to be addressed way more.

[@eyuh77777]

Yup! I grew up hating my dark skin and would actively stay out of the sun to lighten up. I started hating my skin complexion, started spewing some of the same harmful rhetoric and was jealous of the light skin girls because, even if they weren't pretty they still got chosen over the pretty dark skin girl. As I got older I actually lightened up a lot, im light brown skin but, I will never forget how I and other girls were treated when I was darker. I fight colorism every chance I get and support dark skin women with my entire heart. I see how differently I am treated compared to dark skin women now that I'm lighter. Dark skin women deserve so much more. They deserve better than this 🤬 up world has to offer them!

[@JulianSteve]

I am trying my best to discuss anti-blackness with Black men/mixed with Black men “in power,” but folks want to shut the whole series down. I am not stopping. This situation shows why I need to continue discussing anti-blackness (self-hatred), especially with Black and mixed with Black men “in power.” Then, relate to the impact it has on day to day life.

[@BrandysASMRchannel]

Lil Wayne used to be my favorite rapper growing up. When I heard him say “beautiful black woman I be that b look better red” he stopped being my favorite rapper. The insults in the music are crazy

[@canisha1986]

@@BrandysASMRchannel and *surprise* he’s dark skinned himself… smdh the self hate is real

[@denisegroce7135]

Which is why black women need to start only caring and protecting other black women. We are too busy trying to get disloyal men to respect and love us, we need to stop doing that and only care about one another.

[@astridediva]

Normalize not accepting apologies on behalf on black women. Let them decide when to accept apologies

[@ziolp]

Agreed! And be more critical of male centered social justice movements. Instead of marching shift that energy to other movements

[@najeeduwonofficial134]

@@ziolp if I may ask, why be critical of those movements that are male lead?

[@2120musiclover]

EXACTLY

[@prettybrwneyez7757]

Normalize the callout and cancel

[@vegannn7178]

@@najeeduwonofficial134 because it’s mainly focused on the conflict and issues of the males like BLM. The protest and movement difference of Breonna Taylor and George Floyd is major

[@beeha8133]

Dark skin women just be minding they business and here comes the dust smh

[@herndontaisha3795]

It's so fuckin weird. They use as objects to harass or use us as a punching bag because they know they can get away with it and nooone will care

[@trxphywaifalt]

@@herndontaisha3795 exactly why I hate them

[@thecosmicchild8947]

@@trxphywaifalt I hate them too sis. I really do. I really need for us Brownskin and Darkskin women to segregate from all black men at this point. I’ve also seen documentaries of Indian women going through the same with their own men and it pissed me off.

[@kyrathedestroyer_]

@@thecosmicchild8947 that doesn’t stop colorism tho and colorism doesn’t stop at black men ? y’all will not find saviors in dating out and segregating from black men. please channel this energy into healing bc it’s really sound anti black and self hatred-esque

[@vegannn7178]

@@kyrathedestroyer_ Or you really sounding desperate for black male validation. People have a right to expand their options. Black males are wildly colorist and yes we know it stems from white supremacy but ultimately in modern times black males spew more anti blackness than non-black men sometimes. Just do you and let other people do them

[@Blackmalechrissie]

So every black men had a colorist phase ? Do him like chefway and tag the companies that is sponsoring him

[@princessleah187xx4]

Yup. This is why wyte zaddy allowed the disrespect online. He was gonna come back a decade later and exposed these jiggas. White zaddy is ALWAYS PLAYING CHESS.

[@lucywynn4048]

@@princessleah187xx4 💯👏🏽👏🏽

[@tkm1875]

Definitely not every, lol. But definitely too many! He barely loved himself a few years ago.

[@naled1987]

Exactly

[@BePatientSeeLove]

I feel like any demeaned community is always the target sadly

[@cameroncapers7807]

“I didn’t create colorism and racism.” Sir no one said you did? 😅

[@azaynahbrown]

No U just participated

[@cameroncapers7807]

@@azaynahbrown Right. It’s like when white people say “I never owned slaves!” 💀

[@xshesyourqorqeousxx3]

I was looking for the proof that someone did 😂

[@aniyasimon215]

At this point these colorist black men can’t exist without hating on black women🤦🏾‍♀️.

[@lucywynn4048]

It's absolutely sick🤷🏽‍♀️

[@JulianSteve]

This is why we need to keep calling this shit out. The more we do, the less normalize it’ll be in the community👏🏾‼️

[@Scorpiehibiscus]

This is actually their aspiration in life

[@JessieBanana]

I’ve been harassed by Black men about skin color since I was a child in the 90s. The internet just documented the hate they’ve always had.

[@BlaydeAlabama]

Yet you are absolutely gorgeous!!

[@lilyruby3733]

It's a self hatred for sure...here at age 5o..had a discussion with some1 ive know since I was 7...who has black..dark skinned daughters...who proceeded to explain that..all heads don't turn when I walk into a room since I'm not light skinned but once a man has a conversation they wld date me... I pushed him to reveal his true tights and yep..turns out to him beauty is light skinned..had to intelligently ask him to emancipate himself from mental slavery...for the sake of his daughters!! Pitiful

[@amandaross8867]

🎯🎯🎯🎯

[@xeon4044]

I agree. You are a BEAUTIFUL WOMAN 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

[@angelajones201]

But they swear colorism isn’t real. It’s scary how much people hate their own but particularly dark skin black women. It’s sad af.

[@IsBreRight]

Since his response continues to be dismissive and careless, I’ll continue to ignore his social existence. *shrug*

[@dajiyahmcae1880]

But I’m not gonna ignore them sponsors that are platforming his bs. So tired of ppl getting away with this mess

[@JulianSteve]

It’s funny how he plugged his podcast… Bro, we’re are not listening to this shit. You clearly think you’re above criticism.

[@vegannn7178]

Right he needs to be deplatformed

[@shantellakaladypersephone8671]

SAME

[@Zareastuckey]

Dang I actually like him smh

[@DeniseFaraday]

Chef Way resigned from the DA's office days ago with a four-page apology that was more about deflection and blaming booze for his actions, so it was a big bag of bs. He can kick rocks as well as the other colorists out there.

[@JulianSteve]

Good he resigned, but bad on him not genuinely apologizing. SMH 🤦🏾‍♂️‼️

[@glamglam8347]

@@JulianSteve girl he had no choice there is no way he could continue with a giant stain like that on his reputation especially as a black man. maybe these white folks can somewhat get away with it but you black and a man in a white field pack you bags

[@chisomo8088]

@@JulianSteve that man doesn't feel sorry, that much is obvious considering that nothing has changed.

[@JulianSteve]

@@chisomo8088 I agree with you, Chisom! Also, Hey!

[@TheDivineOne187]

He may not have created colorism but he sure did helped to sustain it.

[@noahzero9380]

At 13 lol yeah I guess

[@eyuh77777]

@@noahzero9380 yes. If you participate in racism/ colorism at any age you are actively engaging and promoting white supremacy. What's not clicking?? He harmed other teens with his rhetoric. He doesn't get a pass because he knew right from wrong.😒

[@noahzero9380]

@@eyuh77777 At 13 his behavior was more of a reflection on his parents than his character. What’s not clicking for you?

[@zeewann]

@@noahzero9380 Yes.

[@noahzero9380]

@@zeewann I happily disagree 🙂

[@dajiyahmcae1880]

I did grow up in that era and NEVER, not once in my life did i go on the internet to hate on a group of marginalized folks. I’m younger than him and never felt the need to do that. He needs to do some healing before he can extend anything to anyone.

[@BooksandLooksTV]

Exactly tired of ppl using age as a scapegoat

[@edgesidontknowher4997]

EXACTLY how I’m a teenager and know better.

[@AuroraCreator555]

What's so difficult about saying, "I'm sorry?"

[@neeciiw7840]

Exactly and Generally meaning it too

[@pynkbymbo]

It's difficult to say when you're not.

[@AuroraCreator555]

@@pynkbymbo That’s so true

[@cookiemonster8184]

@@pynkbymboOOP!

[@yougotgamesonyourphone6947]

Because they aren’t

[@xenwilliams1535]

Oooh this recorded apology was so tone deaf ! Anybody who has ever been on the receiving end or loved someone on the receiving end of colorism knows that hurt is too deep to brush pass with a bs apology.

[@lynx70123]

Tone "deaf" and sure is! What's with all his snickering? And he's a healer??? According to whom? What credentials does he have to make him a healer? All Rhetorical questions, but these self-proclaimed healers and life coaches keep popping up. 🤔

[@bobbiewright1500]

@@lynx70123 as a child i was picked on ; i was called dirty & a monkey because i am a dark skinned woman ; mostly by adults such as teachers & other adults !

[@themonsterwithin4000]

@@bobbiewright1500 I’m a dark skin black man and I wanna tell you that your dark skin is beautiful. Listen to “Brown Skin Girl” by Beyoncé. That will send the message across.

[@janaepatterson8486]

YES !

[@colandaunderwood2043]

Yes Xen! It was literal trash!

[@fredaowusu-agyapong]

At this point everybody colorist until proven not. 🙄🙄

[@vegannn7178]

Ehh I would say it’s mostly black males more than anything

[@fredaowusu-agyapong]

@@vegannn7178 ofcourse its black guys.

[@dday3322]

💯💯💯

[@LakyahBerry]

I hate how when influencers get held accountable they immediately be like “oh that was just the times…” or “oh that’s just what everybody said…..” … Andddd all of these jokes were at the expense of Black women. Now that we are older and know better, instead of deflecting and trying to make yourself out to be the victim, accept being held accountable and make a commitment to do better.

[@carrington2949]

Exactly. If that is the case then whyte people have every right to use the same logic to justify racism.

[@cookiemonster8184]

Right, that just shows that they’re spineless and follow the crowd. It also shows that they thought it was true on some level. I was the same age as him when he made those tweets and I would have NEVER said something like that. These people are weird AF.

[@Astr0629]

I want so bad for just one person called out for colorism in tweets, posts, or videos to admit they really believed/believe black women are inferior/unattractive/undesirable etc. Because that’s the only real reason. Anything else is manipulation and emotional appeal to just make the backlash go away.

[@tessc4615]

that’s literally what some white folk say about slavery 😂🤨😒

[@momoshiggles3631]

That was such a weak apology. It wasn’t an apology at all. He needed to take responsibility for the harm he caused to those young women. Disgusting.

[@hawa_88]

Wow I did not see this coming because he seemed sweet. At this point the hate towards bw especially the ones with dark skin is a sickness!

[@JasmineMartinTV]

His twitter voice note was the most narcissistic response I’ve ever heard.

[@prtdiva]

I’m liking this video but not watching. I think I’m overwhelmed by another person telling Black women how disgusting we are. I’m just tired. But giving you a like to move this video up in the algorithm. I hope it helps someone who needs this info.

[@eddyquara]

I met him a few years back before his old tweets came up. He definitely aligns himself with 'palatable blackness'.

[@titlepending1302]

Exactly it would be full blasted if he carried out his medical career

[@tkm1875]

He barely loved himself a few years ago and longer than that probably. People like him be projecting. Nobody happy with themselves talk like that.

[@latoya1591]

What's "palatable blackness"?

[@Damngoodchicken_]

He was nice to me but I’m smart enough to know my experiences do not speak for everyone’s. What is palatable blackness though?

[@SaBaby93]

@@latoya1591 someone answer this

[@braidslikebrandy]

This was an entire era. Im glad they are being called out but i must admit its painful to be reminded of this time.

[@carrington2949]

Yes, especially if you were a little black girl seeing this on the internet at the time.

[@cookiemonster8184]

@@carrington2949I’m so grateful that my parents kept me off social media during that time, I would’ve been so hurt seeing those tweets.

[@mjllw2000]

Exactly whenever I hear about things like this, all the negative thoughts and,feelings come rushing back.

[@braidslikebrandy]

one person personally apologized to me for saying these type things to me in high school smh

[@KylaSaidSo]

I’m from the same area that he is from in Virginia and I’m four years older than him I’ve never had a colorist era to say we all did to excuse himself is wild.

[@YannickTMusic]

No shade, and with all due respect to Tarek his behavior, reeks of toxicity and has some elements of narcissism and I’m not being disrespectful I’m just making an observation

[@NT-fq8sk]

No shade at all, his apology was definitely giving narcissist and he definitely thinks his isssh don’t stink.

[@Journey2FindKay]

Folks been saying that about Tarek for years

[@YannickTMusic]

@@Journey2FindKay and it’s obvious are used to follow his channel but when I saw how he had changed and it was so quick I started falling back

[@dajiyahmcae1880]

That “apology” was so pathetic. These ppl aren’t shamed enough. When internalized hate is brought to the forefront as shame, it encourages ppl to be responsible for their pain as it expresses itself to those around them. This is a sickness but they will stay sick if they don’t do the therapy. Wild. I hope he can heal.

[@CA-zn9bq]

And when whyte folks treat them with racial hatred because they are darker then them, they want to cry raycism.

[@xESSENCEx]

Ok bring shame back!!! Where is these ppl pride, they never had none

[@ejakaegypt]

Knowing they only apologized cuz of the backlash If there was no backlash, there would be no tone deaf apology

[@EnlightenedFemme]

This Age of Aquarius ain’t nothing nice! Whatever’s hidden will definitely be revealed ❤

[@shugaslimm1151]

🎯

[@LoneWulf278]

So true!

[@babygirla5717]

Yep

[@GODESE]

☕️👀💯

[@Leno323]

Say that!

[@Smileychild22]

As a darkskin Blk female, when someone say “She is a Pretty Girl” I just automatically think of a gorgeous chocolate black girl. I guess I’m an alien but I automatically think of my skin complexion as being superior. I know “society” would say a “pretty girl” is someone of lighter complexion but that doesn’t mean we have to agree with it. I learned to love me first but yes, pretty could mean any complexion…it’s just boils down to your experience with life as to what comes to mind after that statement

[@theflowers999]

I feel the same! I hear "pretty girl" and i think of someone like flo milli. i'll say for me, it was a journey. I had to do a lot of unlearning to view women who look like me as the most beautiful, which I definitely do now

[@ubiquitousseymone]

I thought of a dark skin black girl, as well

[@lexieburnafteruroll]

Me too. But my brown skin granny made it a point to instill in me to not let someone make me feel bad about being dark skinned.

[@AmericaNo1VeneerTechInTheWurl]

👋🏾 Me four! 😂 I think full black women being extremely pretty naturally is very common but I don’t see the same in other races, just my observation 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@Smileychild22]

@@AmericaNo1VeneerTechInTheWurl Yes! There is a channel on her that post nothing but Super chocolate women from African and I swear they are the most gorgeous thing that comes to mind. I almost wish I was darker because they skin is so flawless...omg. That's why I said I think of chocolate girls when someone says, "Beautiful women". When Amara La Negra first became popular...She was so beautiful to me with her afro. I know she is Dominican and Afro Latina...but if I never heard her speak, I would have thought she was just African 😍

[@1.0.2.4]

Not him saying “that’s stuff I said when I was living in the hood living in poverty” that doesn’t have anything to do with it. He must be genuine and sincere in what he feels and expresses and age doesn’t come with that but changing perspective and the outright ignorance he spewed is what real change consists of and he may still be speaking like that off of social media unless it’s deemed otherwise. I hope he eventually takes accountability because the pattern I’ve seen so far this year and it’s still very early, the exposure is heavy no stone is going unturned so far and everything a person built is tumbling down around them.

[@rachelalexis3392]

i was a child ALSO, (14) when i brought a bleaching soap and literally sat in my room debating if i should use it. It’s not an excuse!!! I didn’t use it thank god because now the way my skin glows it’s beautiful. but to the girls who went and used it im so sorry. you’re beautiful either way 🫶🏾

[@Boahemaa]

People are criticising me because they're jealous is such a lightskin response to accusation of colorism. He really lived down to his stereotype.

[@ornenow4703]

His response was extra condescending. And I don't understand the point of saying "I already apologized" when the apology video isn't even available anymore.

[@poohcorner24]

Justin, I just wanna say thank you for always standing up for us and speaking out. You are an amazing man, and I appreciate you so much ❤️

[@YannickTMusic]

I can’t say that I am surprised by Tarek but just saying how he is handling this for me he is shunning accountability and continually being anti-black icing. People are hating on him when we’re actually calling out bad behavior.

[@omarhoward758]

I’ve always felt an unsettling feeling ever from Tarek since the initial exposure of his colorist tweets. But his management of this recent scandal goes to show he is not sorry for what he did. We are all products of our environment but even deciphering his “apology” you hear things like “I’m praying for y’all.” He separates himself from criticism while diminishing his actions. He’s a colorist period. I mean just look at his past partner…

[@amberscott4262]

Omg! I supported his content. Absolutely no excuse!! Unfollowed and unsubscribed. Thank you so much for shining light on this ❤

[@abby-a]

The guy is so pathetic and you are right Justice he took *no* accountability. Blk women need to *stop* supporting ppl like that

[@princesscarolyn5716]

People need to stop pretending they lack critical thinking beyond a 5th grade level.

[@channiballecter]

I don't think they're pretending 😬😫🤦🏾‍♀️🤷🏾‍♀️.

[@kmink1727]

He’s so well spoken in every video that he puts up I really didn’t think that this is how he would respond

[@botdushka]

He’s a master manipulator

[@deesudie1504]

Justin, thank you. I often recall a very distinct First Grade memory regarding colorism. “Shut up, you ugly roach!” A young lady in a higher grade yelled this to another young lady in the hall way as she made her way to class. Even in first grade, I knew the target of those value- assailing words was a dark skinned black girl. I knew it was a girl who most likely looked like me. I knew we shared similar identity markers. And I knew this so wholeheartedly because when have you ever seen a girl of a light/fair complexion be likened to a roach or rodent????? I knew that term, and terms like it, were reserved for girls with specific complexion and I knew they were reserved for instances when we needed to be reminded of our value and place in society.

[@BriaBarrows]

That’s so disgusting. And I know she still remembers this

[@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913]

Thank you for this Justin. The work is not expecting grace and forgiveness, but apologizing growing and evolving.

[@dreapartyof_5]

It’s getting really old, I deleted my actual face off my twitter profile and uses an avatar because I would get a lot of hate and fake clap backs using my complexion. Even tho I know I’m a beautiful dark skinned woman. Twitter is a dark place and people don’t think I’m a real person on twitter because of my avatar, they even say things like “show your face or your real self” I really hate it there. Especially when you digging in someone’s bs. But I love myself but hate all the hate we get from being what God made us.

[@kyrathedestroyer_]

yeah i had to delete twitter. a fucking cesspool

[@dreapartyof_5]

@@kyrathedestroyer_ agreed 💯

[@ChocolateDropStylist]

His giggle throughout that sorry a$$ apology really annoyed me. What a TERRIBLE way to own up. No accountability. Smdh. Loved this video, Justin!

[@chloebenjamin5599]

A pretty girl or boy can be of any skin color. I think there are certain features in both light skins and dark skins that society as deemed acceptable to be considered attractive. Think about it. There is a reason why we find Maurice Chestnut and Naomi Campbell to both be attractive despite being dark skin. I do think darkskins don’t get a lot of recognition in the media but pay attention to the type of dark skin people that do get attention for their beauty. You’ll see a trend. Colorism AND featurism is a problem in society!

[@abbadabba917]

You changed up this man’s whole name 😂 it’s Morris love, I was like who is Maurice?

[@eyuh77777]

First, dark skin men is praised so when we're speaking about desirability and colorism you would do better just focusing on dark skin Black women. And the dark skin Black women that society deems acceptable have "eurocentric" features.

[@eyuh77777]

@@abbadabba917 No, she's talking about Morris Chestnut.

[@Moni11111]

NOT Me early!!! I was literally checking my email to see if you uploaded to patreon and here you are!!! Thank you!!! I appreciate you.

[@angelm2755]

His “apology” was cringe , listening to him speak and be so dismissive about it made me look at him differently , and it showed his true colors beyond the nice guy persona . It was giving mean girl

[@channiballecter]

💯💯💯

[@omqchewchi]

This was a refreshing video. I appreciate you for offering your insight on the situation & hitting the points that really matter💕

[@aizhabrownie]

All Tarek ever does is come up w excuses and gaslight ppl. He always plays victim.

[@tonimichelle8401]

That apology was beyond dismissive and manipulative. I also didn't appreciate how he correlated where he lived to the things he was saying, as if colorism doesn't exist or thrive outside of the hood.

[@wanderingdruid8973]

Kimberly Nicole foster said it best “ show US the work you’ve been doing.” Show US that you no longer feel that way about dark skin Black Women, by letting us know what steps you’ve taken to unlearn that ideology… as far as I’m concerned, until then it’s all lip service.

[@takirahousen8780]

Firstly, I love how nuanced your takes are. His response is very alarming, being a "child" doesn't excuse your poor behavior and mistreatment of others. As a mental health advocate, he should be well aware that trauma has no time limit and the pain he could have potentially caused young girl who came across the things he said. His glib response doesn't show understanding only justification.

[@Caramel9487]

Chile imagine disparaging dark skinned black women when you don’t even DATE WOMEN to be worried about how they present themselves. Dark skinned women really were beat down from every corner. No other group of women has the experience y’all have had. I’m sorry 🥺😔

[@MissFortune1000]

I hadn’t heard anything from Tarek since this controversy no shade. Truthspeaker02 had been clearing these colorists on twitter like the legend they are. The first thing I thought when you said that was “She’s a pretty girl for a darkskin” btw

[@dajiyahmcae1880]

This too. But I definitely always heard “pretty boy” be used for light skin men, whether they had some sweetness to them or not.

[@idkwhatever7947]

You are one of my favourite commentary channels always being REAL

[@chickaliciousnyc]

I always appreciate your POV and your set looks great!

[@SCFLEUR]

2023 the year of house cleaning

[@toombs6287]

Period

[@nikkijones2286]

Ummmmm. HE'S dark skinned

[@SCFLEUR]

@@nikkijones2286 they always are for the most part

[@ziolp]

@@nikkijones2286 crazy how self hate works huh 🙃

[@unbiasedunbossed889]

He made these tweets at 15 & 16. If you look in his description on youtube, he said he started advocating for human rights at the age of 16 for the LGBTQ community. So, he was advocating and support their rights while setting Black people back...

[@ItsMsAliciaNicole]

Hmmm I’m not sure what you mean by “their” rights. Black ppl should be invested in both lgbtq and black rights since intersectionality proves you can be both 🥸

[@ZyraJ]

17:50 - 18:50 I empathize with you Justin 💯. I’m a black dark skinned trans woman and I’ve also had to do the work of unpacking my views and I’m still growing💜

[@lw5820]

He says “I was a child”. I’m 20 and even in middle school I never believed in the darkskin stereotypes. I witnessed them and thought that way of thinking was so dumb. He didn’t even apologize. He had no remorse he only cared about the outcome of ppl calling him out. He was so insecure about himself but didn’t care that he was adding towards the insecurities of black little girls.

[@AudreyMFFly]

So sick of them dissing my sisters & the majority be BM! I’ll never forget that vid of the little Black girl who was getting her hair done was crying bc she thought she was ugly 😢🤬

[@mizrelmizrel]

It's imbedded Deeply in most of us 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@lucywynn4048]

The self hate with BM is troubling and dangerous..crazy stuff!

[@pvxxyfairy]

A big part of growth and healing is acknowledging the pain you have caused others even when you were not where you are now in terms of self development. It does not matter whether you have had internalized issues that you weren’t aware of, the point is that you still projected your pain onto somebody else; which in turn causes somebody else having to heal from things you have yet to heal from. There are layers to healing and it’s never ending. Take accountability.

[@JulianSteve]

Tarek Ali’s content has been getting recommended to me for a while and it stopped (thankfully). Long story short, something told me that he had an anti-blackness problem back then. Now, he’s in his victim era. He does not want to apologize for what he said again because more people, especially dark skin Black women are calling him out. Thank you for calling him out, Justin💯

[@ronny_ron2168]

His response was very dismissive, and I don’t respect that. It feels like he downplay the harm that his comments cause. I get that he apologized about it before but clearly as you gain new followers and they are then made aware of your past problematic comments you may have to address it again, it comes with being an “influencer”. I watched videos of his in the past and I didn’t always care for his vibe. So I’m not shocked but it’s still disappointing

[@Blackmalechrissie]

We should find out the companies that was sponsoring him and tag them

[@thepriceisright048]

Tarek has to know that living in the hood is not equivalent to being bigoted

[@nki5ikni5i45]

Never heard of him... Glad this os what I'm hearing 1st. I like when they tell me/I find out why not to support/entertain them. ✌🏿

[@BKATwigs]

It’s getting embarrassing how much history is repeating itself in real time. THAT BLIND SUPPORT BW have been ADDICTED to pouring allover BM seems to always come at a high cost. 🙄ATP, the risk is NOT EVER worth the imaginary award… and that’s word to Taraji and Kelli and nem… Get on code BW ❤

[@Cnichal]

Him repeatedly deleting the apology messages (video and audio) means he does not truly feel sorry. IMO

[@kamieyonce]

His response was crazy😂 i understand u hated yourself and u have apologized before but it takes nothing to apologize again fr

[@limegreenlover21]

Yes!! I was waiting on you to talk about this!

[@Milotheearthfair]

This was so eloquently said I hope this reaches him bc you came truly from a place of love..this was really refreshing to see

[@Zionara_.]

why make the excuse that he was a child? we understand that as teens we don’t understand the severity of certain things we say or do but why not just say “I was young, i didn’t understand that what i was doing was wrong and that it was bad behavior” and then take accountability for what you did, explain why what you did was wrong and how you grew to practice better behavior. i’m tired of these “apologies” that don’t address what the person did wrong and to then promote yourself is outrageous 😭

[@Lu_Williams]

The GOAT at it again 😁😁😁

[@sweetlooweeze]

Can I just say I appreciate you, your spirit and your energy so much. Such a positive force and voice that we need, encouraging us all to hold ourselves accountable and think about what we do. That point about impact vs intent was really profound

[@CA-zn9bq]

These folks are just plain stupid and hateful. If you are a lighter skinned blk person who talks down on someone darker than you, then how do you feel or how would you feel about a whyte person discriminating against you because you are darker than them?

[@dajawnchriscross]

I personally thought of “pretty” as a brown skin black woman/light skin man. As someone who may be considered a light-skin woman, I continually have to check my bias be they taught or not. I feel most black ppl have colorist tendencies. It’s harmful and we should all be held accountable not just to “shame” but to unlearn those harmful tendencies to understand how to improve our feelings essentially towards ourselves and others. These things matter and sorry if you have to continue to apologize, the internet never forgets and certain actions follow you.

[@LoveByLyn]

We are not products of our environment, we are products of the CHOICES we CHOOSE to make in our environments. I hate when people use this line.

[@ivygray8352]

Thank you for your support I'm a dark Skin black woman and it's nice to see a Dark Skin Man stick up for us so many men don't. You Really Care.

[@Kimmy_Beee]

Baybeeeeeeeee when I tell you I been waiting on you AT THA DOE!!!😂🙌🏾Lol

[@kionaofoldstones4263]

These conversations are so triggering for me but I'm glad it's being brought to light.

[@taliajournee212]

For pretty girl I thought of Jennifer Hudson. For pretty boy I thought of Steph Curry lololol...I think it's good that this is being discussed more in the community. It's sad it's taken this long for it to happen showing in general how communities think of and treat dark skinned women.

[@malllllll]

This was a beautiful, graceful breakdown.

[@TheDivineOne187]

Karma doesn’t come when it’s convenient….

[@sweetlooweeze]

I definitely felt a ways when I saw tareks tweets resurface as a fan of his. I understand what he means about how when we hate ourselves we spew hate to others but we have to acknowledge that even in those moments we did damage

[@parease]

I grew up in Fayetteville & there's a lot of gay boys out here yesss lol (a lot of people are accepting here) but when I hear the term "pretty boy" I generally think of a lightskin gay boy, & to think about it I never heard anybody classify any of my brownskin/darkskin friends that are also gay (including myself I'm a darkskin gay) get called the term "pretty" we would get called "cute" or "handsome" but when once my lightskin friends come around here goes call my female friends or my other gay friends "OHH HE FINE HE A PRETTY BOY THIS AND THAT"

[@thetereaz]

17:46 i can relate to this sadly: talking about a product of your environment and to now see the bigger picture

[@tamm888]

This apology was giving “are they are healer or are they just light skinned?”

[@Canadascx]

He's canceled...

[@krisjackson6567]

I told my mom last night I hated myself for a long time. The comments of coming in from outside that “you got dark”. I remember seeing cream at the beauty store to brighten your skin and buying it before vacation. I was always cute for a dark skin chick or beautiful for a black women. My mother has lighter skin, and last night she said she wish she could take a day off from being seen as just a black woman. I empathize with her and her history with white men but for the first time I told her that I revel in my blackness now. I want you to see it when I walk through the room. I want you to see how smart how poised how strong I am and I respect my culture and my history. this topic will forever be a thing but I’m glad we are coming together now to speak and heal about it!

[@Jabari-vm6jq]

That response from Tarek was giving very much "these black nappy-headed b***s is jealous of me cuz I'm 'pretty' and got good hair." Like that's the vibe that response was giving. And you'd think someone like Tarek, whose entire brand has centered around his tactful use of words, would know better. But even in this he fell short.

[@kimikosumi4940]

Thank you, Justin!💜👏🏽👑

[@HRLady48]

Love your commentary, J ❤️

[@Cinnamoncupquake]

He's 3 years younger than me and the first voice message was so thoughtless. He shouldn't have responded at all.

[@BrandiIne]

It’s almost as if him apologizing for a choice he made is beneath him.

[@AlexClementine]

Thank you for shedding light on this. I can't believe it. I just had to unsubscribe after watching this only to see he posted a new video about it with a thumbnail saying he's cancelled 🙄🙄 Hearing the same voice who gave such great advice on mental health not even attempt to give an apology but instead cried cancel culture was very disappointing. I'm glad you discussed being accountable for your actions even when you've "already apologized" or other people have done it as well. It's crazy he's claiming to be cancelled when his pockets aren't effected. Cancel culture doesn't exist.

[@am17love]

I really liked him. He was always striving to improve and be better. It hurts learning about this. I'm a dark skin black woman and was a fan. You're right. I would have easily let it go! Had he claimed his past and confirmed it was unacceptable to be colorist. Apologize as many times as it takes... If the dirt resurfaces. It old news to you, but as you grow more people learn what you did they want to know you're sorry...sincerely, and is that too much? When it's racism everyone understands it's this disgusting unacceptable thing but get obtuse about colorism? It's bullcrap.

[@damienjohnson1739]

His voice thread tells alot. That's all I'm gonna say

[@kishacallwood4017]

As a dark skinned BW, I am not caping for any of these self-hating BP. I loved watching Tarek Ali a few years ago and still had great affection for him. However, while I can and will accept his apology, I will not be in community with him anymore. I will love him from a distance. But, I will never support him again.

[@epiphanyarina366]

“I’m praying for you although I’m the one who said the hurtful and hateful things” lol, this is how these ppl feel about dark skin women. We are a speed bump on their road of finding self esteem. But how do we heal? Or no one cares about that…