THINGS TO KNOW BEFORE GETTING MARRIED

[@ld71sc2]

I’m a middle aged Christian male and somehow found your channel. I love it. Your content is funny and informative and helps me understand another culture. Great interview skills too 👍🏻👍🏻

[@bxccapricorn]

Now accept the truth you can't claim no one told you about Islam and Prophet Mohammed (PBUH)

[@LL-iu3bi]

@@bxccapricorncmon that was so rude :(

[@Repsychus]

I'm not Muslim, but I love listening to you. I feel like I'm seeing another side to traditions that are both familiar and beautiful. Catholicism is what I was raised in, but I always felt close to Islam. Thank you for expressing this. Thank you for being here.

[@akmoshen3014]

🌹

[@DiaryofaNomad]

That’s your inner Fitrah that we believe, believes in only 1 god - Allah

[@samreenamalik9033]

Aww that is sweet

[@aerialtaprootanalysis6117]

I'm not muslim, but i stay for the content, because 1. wild editing skills gaaah dang, and 2. SO FUNNY, i can't breathe

[@rani1835]

I’m here for the same reasons 😂 love her!

[@aerialtaprootanalysis6117]

@@rani1835 yassssss 👏🏻

[@indrinita]

Me too!

[@isy1521]

Me too.

[@animegem16]

I have been very anti marriage my whole life becuz of my parent's relationship , but now i have started to grow up at the age of 24 -_-! and accept that maybe my life won't be the same as my mother's. So that is why i really appreciate your videos as they give me new perspective on the matter and help me get over my marriage phobia just a tiny bit more ^^! . I pray that your marriage is fruitful and full of compassion for each other(ameen)

[@starlight147]

I kind of relate to this! When I feel like I would become like certain people, my family reassures me that I'm my own person, and I have my own unique experience with things!

[@anzajamaa5001]

Me tooo same age x

[@whenyousmileismiletoo5419]

im still anti marriage cuz of my unhealed trauma and toxicity I've in me from it

[@Dreamcess]

Not muslim, not in a relationship, but watched 100% of the video 😊 I appreciate you taking some of the fantasy out of marriage and making it more real... Perfect is boring, anyways 😁

[@SM-gx3ho]

Come from a broken marriage, had a bad damaging and broken marriage, given up on men and marriage but this video gives me a teeny bit of hope.

[@aerialtaprootanalysis6117]

0:33 💀"you know man when he's hungry.......he's UGLY" -------lmao 😂30 seconds in and I am already laughing, you're a hilarious person and 100% underrated youtube channel.

[@rani1835]

😂😂😂

[@rachelhutchins8758]

😂

[@88Roshan]

I wonder if men are warned of women becoming hangry. That’s very important 😂😅😂😅

[@lizsmith247]

Me: not Muslim, not interested in marriage or relationships, haven't even liked someone in a couple years .. Also me: *Clicks on video and watches through all of it with great interest*

[@aishazamir844]

TAZZY U GOT MARRIED OMG!!!!!!! MABRUUUK

[@SanaZub]

omg that hijab color is gorgeous!

[@khadijah9604]

Fr😍

[@rachelhutchins8758]

Lol, I love how your eyeshadow matches the photo frames in the background.

[@munnesa1]

I never thought I would be watching a video about the nikka and the marriage process, but here I am..

[@bigbang6382]

Wallahi

[@lisamedla]

Made spit out my tea. Don't tell my old self

[@lalaal4190]

Im gonna come back to this when i get a fiance or something lol congrats again

[@rachelhutchins8758]

❤️

[@fandangofanful]

I'm loving this deep dive. Not sure if I'll ever get married (allahu alam) but this is good to know mashallah.

[@zg6085]

My husband’s aunt made us a nikkah nama. It was so sweet and something we overlooked when getting ready for our wedding. Note to those getting married soon: put down everything you need from marriage in the contract. For women especially, woman-initiated divorce is such a taboo but it is so important!

[@stariehearts2366]

Yes women must right down that if she asks for Kula the man can't reject it. I wish I could marry but I'm so scared of being abused and miserable because nearly every older married woman I see is miserable

[@zg6085]

@@stariehearts2366 marriage can be a gamble. Make sure you have a strong support system and try to get pre-nuptial counseling with your partner to make sure you guys are both equipped with the right tools to have a strong and healthy marriage ❤️

[@stariehearts2366]

@@zg6085 that's the problem, after marriage a husband can take your support system away and because he's your husband you must obey him. There are so many husbands who forbid their wives from seeing friends, talking to family ect, and the wives have no choice but to obey because divorce is so hard. I'm disabled so if my future husband stopped me from seeing friends and family I would be stuck as I wouldn't be able to escape on my own. A disabled spouse has the highest risk for abuse and I won't risk it. I'm 23 and no man wants me, I used to cry over that but perhapse this is a blessing in disguise. Because Allah knows should a husband abuse me, I will have no way to escape due to my disability, so perhapse Allah is protecting me by not giving me a husband in this dunya :)

[@zg6085]

@@stariehearts2366 I pray that Allah increases you in blessings and protect you from all harm ❤️

[@stariehearts2366]

@@zg6085 jazakallah 😘 I wish the same for you too

[@TheMusicBabe2010]

Grew up in an Indian and Mexican household, I never thought I could relate to something so much like your content. I love it! Getting married in about 2 months, so this is helpful. Thank you ! ❤🌻

[@maryamismail5660]

Fascinating Woman is a good book. A lot of the stuff works like magic.

[@karolinaahk]

Tazzy you got married! Wish you the best, God bless you

[@TheNaba87]

this video was very good, the advice from the second woman about establishing somebody for guidance and counseling so that family/friends don't hold grudges later on is million dollar advice. Whatever people think-you are never the exception, your family is never the exception and it is always better to be prepared. Thanks for sharing!

[@TheNaba87]

Congratulations by the way :)

[@Getlkasper]

Dear Tazzy: In Arabic, the highly decorated & hand written marriage contract is “el kitab”; in Hebrew it is a paper contract detailing the marriage union that is specially written by a trained RABBI called a scribe using a silver nib on a pure white dove’s feather & its called a “Ketubah”; while in Urdu it is “nikah” or “nikka nama”! Interesting the early connections between related Semitic cultural practices & the labels used for these social objects! Would enjoy reading more details about the nikah! Oh, May You Both Be Endlessly Blessed with much joyous happiness, eternal & bountiful congratulations and enjoy the wonder of marriage every new day you spend growing together . Getl Kasper

[@rachelle2227]

My husband is from England, and we got married there. I had to be in the city of our marriage for at least like 10 days a month before the wedding (which was a seperate trip since I couldn't be there that long) then have seperate interviews in order to get a marriage license. They almost couldn't do the interview since the dates were mixed up, and I was to leave to go to the US like the next day! Luckily they fit us in. Congrats to you!

[@Thisismyeza]

I wish I looked more into the nikkah contract ! I would have totally gotten something I can frame ! You look great and happy ! MashAllah ! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Thisismyeza]

@Mynameisnot John doe funny story. I can’t even frame mine because my dad signed in the grooms and fathers spot LOL

[@Thisismyeza]

@Mynameisnot John doe I guess my dad was just more nervous than us! I think he wasn’t wearing his glasses

[@raininglemons28]

Tazzy, you don’t understand how invaluable this is (or maybe you do bc you would have loved something like this) but I haven’t even thought about the things that should go in a contract. Are there people / things / podcasts / articles you read or listened to that gave you direction on things you should think about to write up in your contract? Amazing video and excited for what is to come thanks

[@m0lecule23]

Omg I love hijabihybrid it was such a nice surprise to see her in the end of the vid ❤️

[@bootsmade4walking]

OKAYYY so this gold-mint green color pallet is EVERYTHING we need in 2020 and then some!

[@BelezaArtistica]

Yes girl 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 This is pure gold. I love that you hit on all these varying components of getting married. InshaAllah so many people can benefit from this 🤲🏽🤍

[@ur9264]

Omg you got married. I am late ,seriously late.i am soo happy for you.sending you loads of duas love and good wishes 😍😍😍

[@Zzabin]

Congratulations on getting married! I have no idea what I am doing on your channel, I'm not American, I'm catholic, many things you're talking about don't concern me in any way but you are such a lovely, funny and sassy person I just can't stop binge watching your videos. It's great to explore your faith and point of view, plus props for your acting skills :D

[@kelss2023]

This makes me feel like not rushing now... thank you!

[@rozempire2843]

So happy for you Tazzy

[@Ullahussain]

I really like listening to Esther perels relationship lectures. I’m glad you shared the stuff about the contract!

[@zaniebal2273]

I’m so shook she’s married now! that’s amazing wow.

[@padlocksncocoapuffs]

This is such an interesting perspective of marriage. My husband and I have been together 9 years and only married for 1 so not much changed for us post marriage.

[@pinkghaaaash]

Loved this video! Watched it all the through. Twice. Even though I’m already married. And have been for several years. Really well thought out, articulated, mature, but still so relatable and light-hearted. And the fact that you made the time to do this in the middle of wedding planning and moving states in the middle of a pandemic! Props to you! And speaking of moving states, welcome to Texas! Not sure where in Texas you moved to, but I know the struggles of moving to a new city/state after marriage and having to find new friend circles and fit into new communities. I’m a nurse in the Dallas area & I’d be more than happy to help you get acquainted to life in Texas!

[@nabihaf1]

More people need to watch this video!!!

[@nadiadansani2139]

CAN WE GET A WEDDING HIGHLIGHTS VIDEO

[@abp8042]

Yoooo tazzy do the husband tag!I challenge you.!

[@kozmodnigma4747]

So she already said she won't do it because her husband doesn't want to be in a video (watch her video where she cooks).

[@May77440]

I never comment but I’ve been watching you for a while and so excited for videos! The aesthetic, the editing, the CATS! Congratulations on your marriage, may it always be a source of blessings and happiness ❤️

[@naturessanctum7113]

I'm a human, to follow the I am label trend. I like your content. You look nice being married. Glad you found someone to love. Often wisdom is there always.

[@naruman7]

That was so well formulated mashallah! Definitely sharing this with the clique! Can't wait for the rest of the interviews (especially Yasmin Elhady)

[@sanyahassan9030]

haha i love that ur friends said you might needa change ur pajamas. i was told this too and i threw out my clothes and later on i ended up wearing all my husbands pajamas and tshirts so u do u sis.

[@Fahranaaz-e]

Im from Cape Town South Africa and after 13 years still never got "legally"married. We only had Nikkah and thats it. Alhamdulillah, bought a house together and two kids later, never had any issues. PS as a 13 year inmate, Id say Yasmin's advice is GOLD. I wish I had that in my early journey through marriage.

[@bintanwar18]

i wish this video was posted before August. This is really great!

[@Anawar29]

When you thanked your past self and she didn't even care I hit that like button 🤣

[@haneefahusain1]

I just got married 4 months ago and I had a COVID-19 wedding too lol But I feel this! Mabrook love!

[@linal7640]

I think when it comes to marriage, it's your life and therefore your rules. On the topic of femininity and looking a certain way for your husband, I think as great as it is that the outlook on dressing is not limited anymore. But by the same token, let's 1. Keep in mind there is such a thing as letting oneself go and 2. men need to look good. We're both humans and thus both are visual. Same goes for courting, women may choose to do the cooking and cleaning however men should not forget we like the dates and gifts or whatever love language works best. Essentially, as millennials, lets make changes where we want but not bash traditions that aren't toxic.

[@FR-ud4ux]

💯😍 loved the video, the editing, the advice.

[@TheBlushingGiraffe]

Hahaha loveee the cameo of the 4 characters 😜

[@rachelhutchins8758]

It was a throwback for sure

[@randomrups2069]

I just wanted to compliment you on the fact that your hijab and makeup perfectly match your decor

[@mlindalina1]

I AM SCREAAAAMING WITH JOY!!! ALHAMDULILAH YOU ARE MARRIED!!

[@Phoenix_7568]

I checked out the Nikanama link and wow, those are so beautiful.

[@Missmethinksalot1]

I resonate with you in a lot of aspects and felt like my sister was talking to me in this one. Looking forward to more content on this topic !

[@fandangofanful]

Yay! You uploaded. I'm at work, but lets goooo. lol

[@jumana9999]

I wonder what preparations did the hubby make?

[@nadiadansani2139]

ALSO WE NEED TO GET TAZZY PHE TO A MILLI SUBSCRIBERS

[@StxpTheGenxcide]

The last advice was for me the most special. I love my pyjamas, but a lot of my friends tell me to stop wearing those village grandma style pyjamas and even, when talking with my sister and mom about marriage, we always end up talking the we have to change our whole closet if we are going to marry. Ok, the torn leggins and underwear etc can be exchanged haha but not the rest. And I also wonder a lot about hairs. I am a hella hairy girl and I don't plan to wax my whole body every few weeks. That's painful and he doesn't wax his whole body for me either, but, at the same time, I don't want to be a turn off. Sometimes, when I think about all the years of pain from waxing, I just don't want to marry.

[@cherryBlossomE7]

Omg about the hairy thing I totally relate lolll

[@alphafish4756]

I get you!!! Have you thought about laser? That will lessen a bread deal of your problems!

[@StxpTheGenxcide]

@@alphafish4756 yes, I thought about it, but God created us this way. I don't really understand why we have to put our bodies under danger (it is said to be cancerous and the long term consequences of being hairless is not known yet) and have to pay a high price to fit the social norm. I want to be accepted this way. Yes, I don't like the sight of them. I want a bling bling body too, but that's how I look like. Thank you though, I heard a lot about it, but I think that it is sad that we have to make a lifelong change on our body to make ourselves accepted. I wished that we wouldn't wax all the time just like we don't dress up all the time (e.g. for our husband). Those bling bling shiny legs should be something appreciated and then, it would also maybe be worth the few hours of pain.

[@anannarafa3984]

@@StxpTheGenxcide you don’t really. To be honest. I’m sure your husband will get used to it. You are both human. Just pick the person most accepting and understanding. And talk about it before even getting married if that’s possible for you. I have been dating someone longer than most people’s marriages, around 7 years and if he can be ok with me being hairy sometimes for that long I’m sure any man is capable of the same degree of leniency

[@StxpTheGenxcide]

@@anannarafa3984 The problem is how do you say it. And then, there are those men saying they are fine with it, because they don't know what you mean by hairy. Some men don't understand how hairy a women can be. They think you have some thin, almost invisible hairs on your legs and arms. Yes, there are plenty of women like this, but I am not one of them. Aaah I don't know.

[@AyeshaMadaran]

This is so informative Tazzy, and you put the video together in a way that's fun to watch! Shukran! May Allah bless your marriage and make you and your husband the coolness of each other's eyes ☺️❤️

[@direct2taiba1]

Desi and my Wedding is next wednesday. I was waiting for this video to drop. Thanks 💙

[@representationmetaphorique]

I just saw the video you made for your husband on his birthday !! It was so sweet also it was very funny that you put his driving license height in the video lmaooo

[@haketyu7891]

Just so everyone knows: I did Law and: ANY contract is binding in Canada from promising something verbally to a hand written note with a promise/agreement. So anything regarding Islamic contracts for Nikka, will count under state law as long as there is written proof. Plus, more than that, God is a witness to wt you promise and ur intentions. And Allah (SWT) is the biggest witness so we should be worry about that more then the actual law. Becuz in Islam, our word is binding on us forever, including the hereafter. 💜🙌 So BE CAREFUL AND FOLLOW ISLAM GUYS!

[@Sofiascorner17]

Yes Tazzy! I could honestly watch this even longer. Not even getting married but really enjoyed this. Also Stunning look mashaAllah

[@martynazgruzji1170]

The part with a cat 😂 he is cute!

[@fatoumatajadama9510]

Mabrook Tasneem! May Allah SWT keep the both of you happy, protect you and grant you a successful married life and beautiful relationship Ameen! xx

[@sweeterthantoffee]

OMG I HAD TO CLICK SO FAST LOLLL, ily

[@saffs001]

Very informative video! Thank you Tazzy🥰🥰 loved the incorporated interviews especially

[@rachelhutchins8758]

❤️

[@qwertydeluxe]

the kittenssss ​​😭​❤️❤️❤️

[@aimeenunez2904]

Thank you for this, much needed 💗

[@jasmineabdul-karim6850]

You are beautiful! Such a unique human beauty

[@ashleypollock1]

Tazzyyyyyyyyy, missed you boo! Firstly, come through with the sage, sis, mashallah. Secondly, congratulations and Allah bless you, your husband, and y'all's families, ameen. Enjoyed the vid, (already have trolled the nikah-nama site tbh...)- a LOT of helpful things!

[@Carpediem5826]

Thank you for this ! I really appreciate your content. This is what we need

[@michp571]

Assalamu alaykum sis. When you called the court house, the voice changer you used makes the marriage deal seem so shady 😂 Like under the table marriage services or something 😅 Too funny MashAllah

[@fuzzywuzzythebackyardigans2283]

This is the best video I've watched on this subject, thank you!

[@mufeedaabdulsalam521]

This is really valuable Taz, we appreciate the effort, this is actually rare... Thanks for going deep

[@lightening791]

I love your channel

[@NM_kawaii]

owhh you finally got married? congrats!

[@kmosulli]

I love them kitties!!

[@samia4766]

Thank you so much for this video Tazzy, it is indeed very insightful and helpful. Also, the editing is insanely good I'm amazed.

[@safiagabure2722]

Aw this was so helpful, thanks so much! Alf Mabrookkk !!! 🎉💛💍✨

[@sabirahguzana6383]

Mabrook babes!❤

[@hinataJem]

hello, im confused still.. what should i put in my nikkanama? what kind of conditions in marriage…

[@johannaliceaga5936]

I love the art on your wall where did you get it from??? Congrats on your marriage btw

[@nadiaa237]

Omg taz I didn't know you got married! Congratulations

[@Ayahgreen]

Yesss! Marriage Monday's... great advice 💓 thank U

[@ssarwat2233]

Lol. You killed it!

[@bishocutie4197]

Congratulations sister !

[@18annum]

This was so helpful!!!! Thanks

[@bintanwar18]

@tazzyphe omg home clothes pyjamas! my mum said the same thing

[@cherryg.3042]

Yo Tazzy, this is great content girl! mA

[@ibrahimm2012]

Just a question I am a male 25 years old immigrated here as a student later became citizen. I am pressured by parents to settle down or at least start looking. I don’t know should I bring someone from back home or try out here. Both have their pro and cons . But it’s really hard to decide . One part of me thinks I should never get marry. 😅 I am also scared of my freedom be taken away after marriage. Let me know if you can make a content about this . And how you see people around you taking decisions

[@inesita365]

Loved this ❤

[@SK-pr7qh]

Such great insight!

[@anneho2721]

Congratulations!!! How does married life feel?

[@madinawared6000]

Hii! I dont know if ur gonna see this butbut.. SOO my sister and my mom lived in Denver and they used to visit you. Eida and Nargis. Do you remember them?💗

[@iluvyosocks]

Thank you.

[@sabaalogman7525]

I’m not getting legally married until about five years after my Nikkah and I’m definitely having a prenup. It’s just too binding it’s way easier to get divorced in Islam without going through financial hardship then by the state.

[@AlabasterMuslim]

Just a little heads up, if you have kids before being legally married and then try to get them citizenship in a muslim country...it can be difficult. They don't take your Islamic document seriously and therefore your kid is not attributed to your husband. Birth certificates don't matter, either. But maybe this doesn't apply to you at all haha.

[@xylema.]

It’s better to get legally married as the law will never be on your side if something does happen..

[@sabaalogman7525]

@@xylema. I don’t know what you mean I don’t plan on having kids yet so I’d rather not be legally and financially tied to someone until I’ve spent a extended period of time with them and only with a prenup

[@xylema.]

Sabaa Logman I’m not talking about children at all? The main issue is that nikkah-only marriages come with a host of problems and are ripe for abuse. Legal rights for spouses can't be enforced without a marriage contract. Another problem is getting a divorce, this is especially prevalent in British Muslim communities where legal marriages are very rare and this people who want to seek a divorce have to go through these informal "Shariah courts" which is basically a few imams in a room who decide if a divorce is granted or not. They've been extensively documented as extremely difficult to work with and have denied divorces to people in abusive homes. You do you sis but it’s a real risk which can be sorted out easily

[@sabaalogman7525]

@@xylema. I’m thankfully not from there and I have a lot of imams and sheiks around me who aren’t like that. Plus getting legally divorced in America can take years and depending on the situation can be really messy. If your in an abusive relationship being legally married isn’t going to make it any better it just makes the whole divorce process uglier and if their physically abusive abusive the police can get involved whether it’s legal or not. Plus what are my legal rights I personally don’t want their money or inheritance if they happen to die with in those first five years I understand how it can be helpful in some cases just don’t think it does for me personally.

[@DearestModesty]

MashAllah May Allah bless you both. Alhamdullilah also had a COVID wedding on July 10 :)

[@ShabanaK2011]

Great video!

[@TraitorHater]

tazzy, you ain't gonna convince me that marriage isn't a trap. Too many of the women before me had to make that choice, I am NOT doing it. I am considering it self respect personally

[@fathimarasha5322]

@TazzyPhe What do you mean when you say to "talk to religious leader...and have clear communications and expectations"?? Did you mean the sheikh who officiates? Or like a local ustad to clarify about marital obligations/rights?? Like in the "religious premarital counseling" and stuff?

[@ahakeemmabof258]

I know am not getting married anytime soon but really love these video ❤️❤️ Am always thinking about how marriage life is that sometimes I really don't want to be in that situation but Islam makes it compulsory and really scared because I love being on myself more than anything so being like in charge of another person is really scary 😂😂

[@yenlik5165]

Is it really compulsory? I heard this recently from someone. But I couldn't really find any evidence. I'm also so used to being on own🙂

[@ahakeemmabof258]

@@yenlik5165 it is I can't remember the exact verse and hadith But it like without marriage half of your Deen isn't complete, you and your partner fulfil each other and together you become closer to God and all