What Every Man Needs To Know About Women

[@rudetins]

I never really understood what it is that I find attractiv in men. I thought it's just chemistry but now I know it's those men who are protective over others, men who help the weaker ones (women, children, old people, disabled people, animals etc.). Whenever a man steps in to defend someone, I'm instantly attracted to him. It's so true that the best quality in a man is if he makes you feel safe no matter what!

[@ardschuna88]

It's rare in "woke" times a woman would frankly admit that! ;)

[@FlorinGN]

Well then... Ignore 99% of the opinions about how men should be... especially corporations' commercials :))

[@Mr.Honest247]

What a weird way to base attraction on someone. That sounds a bit superficial honestly... There should be more to male attraction than mere “Oh you defended me! Now I love you for life!” People need better moral guidance... 😒

[@lucianradusart]

get a bodyguard :)

[@FlorinGN]

@@lucianradusart good one 😂

[@fg-yp7rz]

When I'm walking around a women alone at night, I can always sense the fear radiating out of her and also the way she walks. I would usually try walking in a different direction just to avoid scaring her more

[@christinevr7698]

joe mama you are a kind soul to be aware of that fear and make an adjustment. That fear has happened to many women and girls. I will never forget being followed and harassed on my way home from Highschool in Gr 10. It was terrifying. Luckily I ran into a guy I knew and it stopped.

[@TheAmal89]

Same thing happened to me in a bustop at night when there was a woman standing. The energy almost made me run away from there.

[@sohndervenus]

I totally feel the same. It can even trigger a feeling of guilt when I sense the projection of being some evil creep in the streets.

[@kristin4840]

I’m astounded at some of the suggestions I get from men for places to meet for dates etc. I want to say “haven’t you ever seen 20/20?” Why would I put myself in the position you’re suggesting?

[@nikkimadison6892]

Wow..great vid

[@panda59043]

women want to feel safe and men appreciated- often we do neither.

[@MrBooYa-yd5er]

Hell yeah on that one sir

[@Primitarian]

Well said.

[@ms7HD]

@@recabitejehonadab2654 lol ye like it's not her business are you need appreciation and respect , she can give no fucks about what you do for her of for world . Zero fucks where given , if she is normal she will have gratitude for your effort if you normal you would want to make her feel good , all else is mental case

[@MikkoMurmeli]

@@recabitejehonadab2654 and men are somehow better? Please...

[@shavemangin]

Amazing quote

[@kellirysztak4141]

As a woman with Complex PTSD my need for trust and safety is greater than a normal woman without mental health issues. I hope all men see this.

[@andziagreen4922]

I feel you, woman with cptsd here too. Last man was soo avoidant and unhealed from his past that I disconnected emotionally when he started avoiding me

[@elinek5470]

Omg Yes i feel you... And i loose my mind completely when he shuts down and i feel left alone

[@JinxMarie1985]

Same here. ❤❤

[@dante19890]

As a warning sign

[@tolicoenciclopedia9696]

Your health issues are not our problems. Harsh but true, you need to deal with that yourself any way you can. Therapy, meditation, whatever. Men have to do the same. No woman wants a man with health issues.

[@Name-oz4lq]

I work in a nursing home & a few years back I saw a ghost at the facility & it freaked me the hell out & my husband doesn’t even necessarily believe in ghosts but he never called me crazy & after I put everyone to bed he would come to my work & sit with me until midnight when I got off. He still shocks me with how understanding & nurturing he is 🥰

[@christinevr7698]

It’s Sid You’re a lucky lady. He sounds like a beautiful man.

[@simplehealthyliving4681]

I haven't watched this video. I was reading some comments and your emoji about you feeling cared for and loved by your husband, pours some life into my semi cold dark heart.

[@ink3478]

@@Svyp3r you sound like you have everything figured out already, what are you doing here?

[@Name-oz4lq]

Svyp3r blah blah blah 🙄 after a decade of being together I don’t think he’s just trying to “sleep” with me, but what do I know lol also, I’m not saying what I saw was necessarily real.. the point is he showed great empathy, respect, & understanding. I’m not in need of your relationship advice, but thanks anyway ✌🏻

[@simplehealthyliving4681]

@@Name-oz4lq *"I’m not saying what I saw was necessarily real.. the point is he showed great empathy, respect, & understanding."* Boom. 100% correct. Slight modification - I wouldn't call it respect because it is a positive thing like respecting a hardworker for his/her hard work, but I would call it not-disrespect, i.e. something not negative, something polite, sweet and caring.

[@scottgrittner2753]

I've always known this .. The best way for a Guy to make a Woman feel safe is to be competent. Have social skills to avoid conflict, know how to physically fight if need be, manage your emotions so you aren't a source of fear. It's the basics to life. It's not about fancy canned lines telling her it's going to be ok... you radiate confidence through competence.

[@vmasing1965]

That's how a man would put it. Women don't bother trying to evaluate competence. They look at the results. Safer, simpler, works every time.

[@LuxMeow]

This.

[@LuxMeow]

@@vmasing1965 Also this.

[@pawan2647]

@@vmasing1965 laughed a long time. Thanks for this lovely comment

[@Phant0mGetsuga993]

Finally someone says it

[@daniellechekel8866]

I love at the end when it is said there's nothing sexier to a woman than a man who makes her safety a top priority. It is so true, and I willingly admit this!

[@dreday77764]

Yet you can look around and all you see is women going for the nerdy skinny guy that couldn’t even protect himself. That proves that this msg is flawed

[@natalewska]

@@dreday77764 it's because he's less likely to hurt her, or so it seems

[@Rut-vi7iz]

​@dreday77764 we have learned that gym rats are likely narcissists and not worth the time. They will never make a woman feel safe, even if they look strong. Safety for a woman is an emotional connection, and those guys never understand. So we choose the nerd carrying a 9mm. Simple.

[@JohnSmith-pt5sg]

I've noticed they drop that man like a hot 🥔 when the "danger" is over. Let the 🐺 s eat em lol

[@LeoInterHyenaem]

My darling girl, don't lie, please. 🙏🏻

[@agnivaray7476]

As a man, thank you for cutting to the chase and speaking the truth. Thank you for this message! 🙏🏼❤️

[@LeslieESP21]

Thank You

[@voidwalker9223]

youre welcome

[@KaiMarcad]

You were right. As a man, this is one of the most shocking videos I've watched. But I'm glad I did.

[@Val-rv2xb]

really? what parts shocked you? as a woman, that's heartbreaking to me.

[@KaiMarcad]

@@Val-rv2xb The fear part. As she said we men don't really fear and think nobody should.

[@Val-rv2xb]

Oh ok. I totally get the fear part. I’m a black woman and when I was younger, I feared black men sometimes (mainly the ones I wasn’t interested in) because they would hit on me and it would be in an aggressive and disrespectful way, and it terrified me. It seemed like they didn’t care if I liked them or felt comfortable with them first. They just went on approaching me however they wanted to. It has emotionally upset me a lot over the years. It was very intimidating. It would make me feel like prey being hunted down by a predator.

[@gregorybenson4860]

I think my lack of aggression has been seen as a lack of confidence that indicates i know i cannot really guarantee anyone's safety with my current abilities to dominate or not. and don't i want someone enough to fight everything for them? I guess it's impractical not to be a good tool. I would like to read minds so i know ahead of time where i don't belong

[@KaiMarcad]

@echosixnoble Biology man. You cannot escape it. Woman needs a man, not a boy. A confident person who follows his path with determination. Often nice guys are too nice. They don't set the boundaries because they are "nice". They sacrifice their own path for others. Then comes the line "honey is it ok if..." in every turn. If the good guy cannot be assertive in a healthy way, then women seek assertiveness from bad guys. Bad guys don't sacrifice their path, they simply take the woman along for their ride on that path. That's the unfortunate flaw in female genetics. In a criminal they see a confident guy who follows his own path. They skip the part that the path is against the law and society. But that principle worked well in caves, where there was no laws. The genetic programming needs an update, most likely in men too.

[@Det_313]

I am a woman And I approve this message

[@infinitydreamzz]

I am a message. And I approve this woman. Seriously, these simple insights are profound in the era of "men and women are the same" kind of ideologies. I love how Teal recognises how nature has shaped males and females in slightly different ways through endless aeons of evolution, and understanding those differences is crucial in understanding ourselves.

[@Det_313]

@@infinitydreamzz" i am a message" 😉 Absolutely.

[@infinitydreamzz]

@@Det_313 😜

[@thesmartestmanintheworld2653]

Well of course you would because it benefits you at the cost of men. Disgusting.

[@GODHATESADOPTION]

What is a woman?

[@veronikaamaya]

Wow Teal! I was watching this with my boyfriend and it is exactly how you say! He is the only man ever that made me feel completely emotionally and physically safe and this is the best relationship I've ever had! He was really touched by your video because we literally talked about this topic just before watching. He feels so empowered and masculine when he feels that I feel safe with him. He is absolutely atuned to me and can sense when I am feeling afraid or triggered. I am a outgoing person and no other men ever realised how much safety I needed - they simply couldnt feel it. I will share this with all my girlfriends because I think that many women are not aware that their basic experience is fear and what they should look for in a man. You are incredible, keep up the good work!

[@Monikainlove]

where did you meet

[@chuckwilliams4569]

Are you still with him?

[@dianapennell383]

God has not given us a spirit of fear. Fear comes from Satan and the fallen angels. I often times help male strangers when I am alone. I have even given them rides in my car. I don't fear for my safety because I know that God's purpose for my life is to help needy people. I have never been hurt by any of these men, even when 1 of them had a machete on him. God and his angels keep me protected. If God is for me, no one can be against me. 😇

[@bunnyboo6295]

The problem those types of men are becoming rare. Men only think about their needs and get frustrated but as teal said a women can't get arouse until they feel safe a man refuses to do anything but chase his desire

[@veronikaamaya]

@@chuckwilliams4569 Yes, we're getting married soon!

[@angelaramseyrobinson4407]

I’ve always been very independent to a fault and as I’ve gotten older I’ve really worked at allowing myself to become more vulnerable and to lean into my feminine energy more. I remember once being on top of this shaky ladder on top of a scaffolding, painting part of a mural at the very top of this building. I had to reach up and felt so uncomfortable. There were a lot of people hanging out watching and I looked down and noticed this man I didn’t know moving purposefully in my direction. He noticed I was uncomfortable and asked if he could help support me. Oh my … I was instantly in love and it was surreal because as he held firmly onto my legs so I felt safe enough to reach up and paint, I understood that this is what it felt like to be supported by a man. I had left a 17 year relationship a year or so before this and I remember wondering what I might be capable of if I had that kind of support in my life. Another time I remember walking downtown in a city with busy traffic and my boyfriend at the time, firmly took my hand to pull me with him to cross and something about knowing he was being so protective, decisive… it was so masculine, sexy, and incredibly attractive to me. Unfortunately, I’ve not had many experiences or partners that I felt that kind of support, but just recently I started dating a man -after years of being mostly alone- and he is very protective of me and seems to love taking care of me (something truly foreign to me) and I love it soo much. One of the sweetest things… I mentioned that I was allergic to certain hot peppers and he instantly and poetically declared he would “stomp the peppers in the fields”… before he’d let them hurt me.. I forget the exact words, but it was quite adorable. I don’t identify with feeling fear that often, but I am sure that it’s there and I’ve just been conditioned to be brave and strong. I seem to require a VERY strong man and then I can relax and let my guard down..

[@mdanasmusic]

so sweet and beautiful

[@annloismcpherson]

This is so true. I suppress my fear so that I can do daily things like putting gas in my car, crossing a parking lot or answering the door when I expect a delivery. I am afraid though I know because I am alert and my senses increase. When I am with a man I love and trust the feeling of safety is intoxicating. I agree it’s my #1 need. To feel safe.

[@JoBlakeLisbon]

@@gabbsdy8741 If you live in the West, you're living in the most pampered, safe, protected and policed environment that has ever existed in human history.

[@zhhrah]

@@gabbsdy8741 One way would be (and many will disagree on this) scrap the known concept of prisons. Bad company destroys good habits. Prisoners enter as bad (or unfortunate) persons and later come out as even worse ones. If they would spend time instead with grannies and friendly, joyful people it would actually change a person for the better.

[@ottomanpapyrus9365]

@@gabbsdy8741 lmao

[@kssgpv]

@@gabbsdy8741 exactly, who is going to protect you from the man you choose to bring in your life? You are never safe really

[@gucciashton4731]

@@zhhrah this comment is so on point. Accurate AF. Bad company destroys good habits.

[@leonievw2466]

As a woman: I never thought about this... But yes: this is what I seek in a man, without me even knowing it :)

[@suzannecampbell2260]

Me as well I knew it yet I could never explain it as Teal did so eloquently.

[@ms7HD]

Ofc man has to be god and wizard to read women , when even women had no idea about wtf their existence is about XD

[@malkmusmalfie]

The big mistake she makes is painting women as passive beings who have to look for the 'right man' who can service these needs. I believe this is the number one thing that actually destroys relationships. Men are not empowered or women disempowered. Men don't react with fight and women with flight. The statistics do not bear out women being the main victims of violence at all. Women and men are both empowered AND fearful. But often in different ways. Relationships must be approached with equal effort and responsibility, and none of the above assumptions if you want the best chance of success

[@davidbloxham5062]

@Redrustyhill Sad but 100% spot on. Then we must still there and hear them claim to be smarter then us. What a nightmare..😩😩😩

[@Elisa-dv4ob]

I didn't now! I really feel fear all my life. I didn't now but I separate of the man i had relationship because they where Looking for that I will give them safty and could it not give to my. Wow!I understand so much more and have now the words I needed!

[@GrahamMilkdrop]

I was gonna say, there are a whole lot of women living in denial of their actual experience... but you brought it up... Thanks for being thorough.

[@thomasanderson9247]

As a man, i agree with Teal's analysis of how women are biologically and mentally conditioned towards fear and the need for trust, safety/security in relationships with men. However, there is one big issue she glossed over. Generally speaking (Key word: "Generally" not all) when women are young between the ages of 15 to 30, it seems they are rather attracted to confident, aggressive "Bad Boy" types of men. Generally speaking (Key word: "Generally" not all) most men who are confident and aggressive tend to be very unemotional and self centered. On the other hand, there are "Nice Guys" who women between the ages of 15 to 30 always seem to overlook. Generally speaking (Key word: "Generally" not all) most men who tend to be "Nice Guys" are good listeners, empathetic, less aggressive and humble. But these kinds of men tend to be unattractive (boring, predictable) and women would rather engage with the "Bad Boy" types who are attractive (fun, unpredictable). Yet, we all know how the story usually ends. The "Bad Boy" usually breaks her heart and she complains to her "Nice Guy" friend that there aren't any good guys out there in touch with their emotions. All you have to do is a google search (nice guys and women) (nice guys finish last) and you will see thousands of pages that bear witness to this phenomenon especially in the comment sections. So the big question is why do some women (a rather large number but not all women) choose these kinds of men over and over again? My answer: "Bad Boys" make these women feel safe and secure over "Nice Guys" on a Primal Subconscious Level. But "Bad Boys" will also most likely break a woman's heart and not bat an eye. It sucks but it seems to me that is the reality of the vast majority of relationships out there.

[@namelsess93]

@@thomasanderson9247 Easy: Girls who go for bad boys usually have a lot of inner restrictions due to their social and cultural upbringing - they are not allowed to be bad, free, break the rules, have no responsibilities, be strong, rude, aggressive ect. So when they meet a bad boy - they feel strongly attracted, because that's their rejected inner self and by loving the bad boy they indirectly integrate thei inner bad girl, that's been banned from their personality. They same goes with the bad guys or guys, who love bad girls. That's not the problem. What you're saying is an example for the basic law of attraction and subconsciously trying to integrate your broken pieces. So we're back at square 1: Girls and boys should be treated and brought up with an open mind and not based on how a "boy/girl should be", allowing them to find their own form of inner empowerment so that they grow up with a strong sense of self. That's how you get strong women and men and can actually get a chance at healing this gender pathology we've got going on for centuries now.

[@GrahamMilkdrop]

@@thomasanderson9247 Yes, the assessment criteria appears to be entirely superficial. Easily fooled and manipulated too. I think many women disown their part in calculating value because they don't like to think of themselves as making decisions like that. They prefer to think of themselves as driven by emotion or even fated to be with someone rather than as having the power to choose. In rejecting the conscious part of the selection process they defer to reflex and end up instantly drawn to the person who's invested the most in their "I'm an Alpha. I'm intimidating to others." act. In social groups women take on the status of their male by simple association and being with the most dominating person is a much safer social position than being in opposition or in competition with them. However... that's chimpanzee behaviour!. Humans don't have to think like that under normal conditions. A woman who is more aware of her own power can look at her options through the filter of any number of hierarchies that aren't bound to the immediate physical environment or through the lens of a more personal set of hopes and desires that truly reflect her own life's story... It IS fear that takes the better options and decision making away but denial also because the act of acknowledging that fear is leading us down a particular path can create an opportunity to consciously give some other aspect of ourselves a turn in the driving seat. Unfortunately, people have gotten so good at believing in themselves and feeling confident in what they are doing that they will rarely take the time to question their own behaviour or choices, even in retrospect. Even self belief has become fear driven!

[@nejczupan]

@@GrahamMilkdrop looks to me like you have some issues with your own "bad boy" stuff. In my opinion people are naturaly both(good guy,bad boy) ... we must integrate both of those aspects,debating about it and feeding the intellect wont do much for you.the best way is just to "get in there" and get dirty

[@GrahamMilkdrop]

@@nejczupan That was certainly a huge issue for me growing up. It is not uncommon for males my age, growing up with that strong anti male message, to have vowed to be 'different' to the image of masculinity that we were presented with... and then to have suffered the abuse, disrespect and plain cruelty that inevitably comes to people who are 'too nice'. And what a horrible thing it is to have had our own goodwill used to set us up to fail. Brutal. But I was mostly dealing with that 15 years ago. My comment about female denial of experience is not from the perspective of someone who is also in denial... at least not to that extent. It is from active observation... specifically of a woman who had successfully bought into her own dreams only to have her fears destroy them because she couldn't acknowledge they were there. The belief system that she had adopted leaned heavily on superficiality and the times that she couldn't genuinely believe in herself she gravitated towards super-superficial confidence... the kind that people learn by watching "10 body language tips for getting what you want...' videos on KZbin. She would even say how disingenuous it was of her, but she just could not stop... It was a reflex. There were a number of women involved in the situation at the time and they all had that same 'desperate-self-belief' thing going on, some to an even greater extent... reaching personality disorder levels. Seriously... things got insane! So, I guess what I am trying to say is that in this case my issue is far less to do with how I feel about 'bad boys' and more to do with having witnessed the way people cover up their own fear with superficial displays of confidence and how superficial relationships feed into their denial. It is definitely a thing! (For bad boys too)

[@Yetipfote]

As a man, I didn't expect my mind to be so fundamentally blown ever again as with this info about women's fear. I cannot fathom how this must feel all the time for you women! I am truly totally fearless most of the time when walking alone somewhere. When I rarely feel a little fear when walking in the dark it is even enjoyable and exiting for me! Very seldom this emoji is so absolutely perfect: 🤯

[@rainbowpheanix]

So true, right? I also was very surprised and now i feel so much more empathy for women cause i understand better how they function and suddenly i actively wanna make them feel safe. I thought they just feel unsafe when walking alone at 2 am in the ghetto or when someone creepily walks behind them. Now i feel the urge to give women respect just for making it through the day.

[@dreday77764]

Really?? Your mind is blown away by this? My mind is blown away that you didn’t even realise this in the first place

[@Yetipfote]

@@dreday77764 maybe we have to rewrite psychology then because a fear based disorder is obviously something very different for men and women.

[@madmax5841]

Congratulations on never losing your v card, simp

[@Waywardbiscuit]

@@mysticdove8 no you dont. You need to stop living in fear based on false hoods. You have been programmed since you were young to live in fear despite all evidence stating that its men who should not women. Men are attacked and or killed far more often in public.

[@Bandgeek601]

If you're a guy and you're watching this video thinking "Then why are women attracted to bad boys who cheat or emotionally abuse them while nice guys are left in the dust?" Teal's explanation is only half of the story. Most bad boys will (usually) act physically aggressive to everyone except her. A nice guy can be trusted not to strike her, but he's not trusted enough to protect her because nice guys are generally pushovers, which decreases attraction. Bad boys will also lie about cheating in order to protect her emotionally, and most of the time they get away with it until they get caught, at which point she won't feel safe anymore and she'll likely leave. The best compromise? Be the bad boy with a good heart. Learn MMA or boxing but hope you never have to use it, and don't be a pushover with anyone (including her). That's the most idealistic version of a man who is both capable of protecting a woman and trusted enough not to cheat on her.

[@nunyabizz4328]

Never thought about it like that but totally makes sense!

[@selmaharizi4685]

@Dan when are we getting married ? 😂😂😂

[@Bandgeek601]

@@selmaharizi4685 Depends on where we want to get married.

[@Freefolkcreate]

Absolutely.

[@bittersweetindustryexecutive]

@Dan Interesting take on this! Going by your comment, is it save to say then, you're the bad boy that went through the 'car wash' and has come out exactly as the 'ideal' compromise you've decribed in this post? And has it been difficult to change your ways? I agree with a lot of what you're saying, except for the part about "protecting a woman emotionally by not telling her when you cheat on her." I understand the rationale behind it, but isn't it mainly to be having your way with another woman without bearing the consequences? And thus, first and foremost out of self interest? If I'm wrong here, I'm very curious as to how not telling her about your infidelity is done with the sole intend of protecting her emotionally. Further, in my own experience, men sometimes conflate being kind to a woman with pleasing her all of the time. The latter is usually deemed a lot less attractive, while being genuinely kind to a woman is usually seen as attractive by most women. Especially if she feels you really mean it. Another one being, agreeing with everything she's suggesting. Which is a bit of a problem if you genuinely agree with her on all of her suggestions. 'Cause then you have to suddenly hold your ground and act all tough over having a peanut butter sandwich before grabbing a beer by the sea. "This man is not having this! I will go with you to the beach and have a couple of beers. But I will refuse this peanut butter sandwich! Period!!!😎😂 Cheers!

[@devonrex4959]

I used to have a dear boyfriend who im still good friends with who would always say to me, "Im here with you! You got me n i got you. Your safe now!" Then he'd hold me close and gently. It was such a comfort and i trusted him with my heart and body more then any other man i have had a relationship with. He grew up in a family as the one boy amongst many sisters. So i feel he saw, heard and understood their fears as they were growing up together.

[@astridthepastrid]

why do i feel like crying watching this? it hits too close to home..

[@bambifawn7363]

I feel you love~*~

[@deepdiver849]

Me too. I am just crying 😭

[@51elephantchang]

And every woman needs to know that generally most men don't know this.

[@SS-gs6tg]

Well it's not true so that's why men don't know it... I don't think I've ever feared this way and I travel to 3rd world countries alone!

[@SL-lb6lz]

@@SS-gs6tg Agreed!

[@roohshi7839]

I can totally see that, everytime a meet a woman i notice that she's pretty unsafe, closed as if i'm a potencial treat which is understandable. But after a good conversation a good connection takes place depending on the level of safety she's feeling. What i see most men go wrong(including myself) is that they have a really direct and agressive approach towards women which only makes them feel more unsafe not giving place and time for a true connection to be created.

[@bobcowan1035]

Brilliant 👍🖖

[@roohshi7839]

@betty lynch I understand... you're right to need space and time when getting to know someone you're involved with, unfortunately a lot of men out there are lost. They're blind, they can't see a woman as a unique and infinite being, all the they see is an object that is there to be used... missing the best part which is who you truly are. your feeling of unsafeness is perfect, is there to protect you and prevent those situations from happening so keep following your feelings. Thanks for the awesome comment

[@megja1812]

A women fundamental fear rape and murder as we a physically less strong. Whilst men’s greatest fear is humiliation.

[@777newworldlove]

I find your generalisations & homophobia very distasteful.

[@astralmindny9055]

She's talking about AFTER you get the girl. A woman may like an aggressive man because it can be perceived as being confident. A lot of what she's saying Is just security in general, not of danger, just secure in life. One day me and my girl was waking past the park and I heard 2 gunshots. She's not used to hearing shots, so she thought it was fireworks. As we approached the corner of her block, I saw one of my boys on the ground with half his brains hanging out. Before we actually got to the corner, I told her to walk down the other block, but she refused because she didn't want nothing to happen to me, she said she didn't know what she'd do if she lost me. Til this day she can't walk past that corner, she always crosses the street. Had she listened to me initially and walked around the other block, she wouldn't have this" fear." This was in 2010. I know I diverted from the subject, but I think it's talking about after you get the girl.

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

Once we men understand what Teal Swan says and what makes a woman feel safe with us AND in our absence... it´s an incredible feeling what we get by her receiving our care. "The true power of a man is the size of the smile of the woman next to him"

[@lemmings6516]

the woman in you profile pic is smiling pretty big, so thanks for being on her side :)

[@juliadarling3404]

Yes, exactly, men should also know that they are showered with love and affection, basically blessed with all her feminine energy, when she feels protected by that man.

[@kncraft]

You are absolutely correct.

[@selku3973]

@@lemmings6516 yeah i agree

[@haridunic2351]

Pathetic

[@craftychick48]

This was one of the main reasons that I left my husband after 23 years marriage. I never felt he was supportive or had my back. I became that independent strong female. This was 10 years ago, and I learned we weren't compatible. Hes a good man but not good for me. I need to feel that safety, support, and trust from a man. Men I've met tweek that inner gut feeling of not being able to meet these needs. Something feels off early in the relationship, and I cannot feel close to them, or feel trust. These men are dismissive and think I'm being dramatic or behaving " like all the other women ". I suspect I'm hyper sensitive because I was let down in my marriage and in my childhood by my parents. After a few bad short-lived relationships I know how I want to feel around a man. Teal is right. I want to feel safe, trust, supported, understood.

[@angelpuente131]

What she said I have messed up sooooo many times.im a dude through and through My chick is a chick . I have to stop calling her insane. Thanks teal.great message

[@AE-tv4ue]

This video made me cry. I always thought I was weird or fucked up for always being scared of the world, scared of showing my true colors and my vulnerability. Turns out I'm brave! That is the most beautiful thing I've ever heard and I really needed that! Thank you!

[@scofah]

I experienced a little compassion for myself when I heard that part too. I'm brave! You're brave! Also, I like when Teal reminds us/describes that we're in the emotional dark ages. If we could come back years from now, and see how we're doing it now (compared to what would actually work for us), then our current treatment of each other (emotionally) would be the barbaric equivalent of "bleeding" people or slavery or believing the earth is flat. Suggestion: Watch kzbin.info/www/bejne/sHOyf4xoarZ4js0 for "What We're All Really Looking For."

[@MoonwalkerWorshiper]

"scared of the world" What are you, a child? " scared of showing my true colors" So you're a liar? "my vulnerability" You have anxiety that you need to work on. "Turns out I'm brave!" How? Because someone who doesn't know you said so?

[@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837]

Abla I feel with you. Society has shamed people badly for feeling vulnerable thus there are so many people who will shame anyone for saying true things. You are not alone. And together gradually we are making the world a better place to exist in.

[@MoonwalkerWorshiper]

@@nickidaisyreddwoodd5837 Being vulnerable is not going to make the world a better place. It's like you're proud of your fear.

[@halcioncocaine2096]

@@MoonwalkerWorshiper Have sympathy for other humans,when you leave your door in the morning if you have one,are you guaranteed a safe return home if you have one?☠💀🚪

[@nicolet572]

When I was a freshman an college I went to a frat party with a group of guy friends. At one point in the night I had lost track of all of them and I couldn’t find them anywhere, no one was answering their phone. I was terrified, my night turned from fun to horror as my 100 lb intoxicated self wove through crowds of drunk men praying I wouldn’t be noticed by the wrong person before I found a familiar face. Eventually I figured out they had all left the party and went to a bar without me. So I walked to the bar by myself in order to find them and when I got there I reprimanded them. But the night was relatively young so I loosed up and let myself enjoy it again. My friends were sitting at the bar and I was on the dance floor, I could see them and they could see me, and so everything was okay again until it was closing time and I look over to see all of my friends already making their way towards the exit, seemingly leaving without me yet again. I was furious, I yelled at them to stop, cursed a bit, and the entire walk home I was cold as ice. And when we got back to the dorm it wasn’t an apology I got from them for leaving me twice and causing me so much anguish, they told me they were mad at ME for yelling at them in public and that I am an “adult” and it’s not their responsibility to take care of me. Needless to say I cut all of them off that night and made better friends. Edit: for those saying maybe they didn’t want to be with me, first it was known to all my friends that I hosted a pregame at my dorm every weekend and anyone who wanted to come could come, I didn’t force them to come to my dorm and go out with me they came of their own volition, it was a regular affair. Second, it’s basic human decency to care about the wellbeing of your friends, are you leaving your boy passed out on the sidewalk or are you carrying him home? If that’s your gf in this situation are you blaming her for getting drunk bc “drinking is dangerous for women” or are you mad at her friends for leaving her vulnerable? And lastly, a few of them did come to me and apologize after the fact because they recognized their error and wanted to continue to be friends, they didn’t hate me they just didn’t understand because that’s not the male experience.

[@PS-qn4oz]

Sad. Now you know, if people leave you behind once.....you shouldn't follow them anywhere after that.

[@Shasha8674]

Being drunk is not safe. They are not your keeper.

[@mapanapa6342]

@@zinab2blessa : Yes. Men in reality like being the "Masculine" figure. Men like being the protective ones. But the third wave of feminism has Forced men into this "Oh okay, you can do it all by yourself, imma let you do it all by yourself" attitude. Men nowadays are seen as "perverted sexual predators" as a defacto standard.

[@vmasing1965]

@@Shasha8674 1. Yes, being drunk is not safe. Especially for women. Very true. 2. You don't understand women. At all.

[@mahidm1804]

Maybe you're a liability and thats why they left you the first time. Take a hint.

[@7heVoiD1]

That moment when you realize that you've literally done everything wrong.

[@DandyZero]

Trust me man you're not the only one. Not by a long shot haha. Here's to a better year, yeah?

[@7heVoiD1]

@@DandyZero You're right. I'll make up for it, though. I know I will. Cheers, to a better year!

[@walkerchino]

Tell me qbout it

[@7heVoiD1]

@@walkerchino I'll be honest.. I failed to make her feel understood, listened to.. I failed to make her feel safe and like she can talk to me. I failed to show her how much I actually love her. I failed to show her that it's okay to feel the way she does and to act the way she acted. And every time I think about it I start crying because now I feel all the pain I caused her and because I'm afraid I broke something her and I could never find again.

[@MikkoMurmeli]

@@7heVoiD1 Dont worry, it's nothing that can't be healed. People have been healed from serious mental trauma before and yours doesn't sound like it. Ain't easy if you ain't got the tools, but Teal's making it easier for us. Dont beat yourself too hard for it, you need to keep living to make things better.

[@stellamaxwell777]

I remember when my ex told me, “I bet you thought you were safe with me. Well you were wrong.” Stayed with him for another year as the situation devolved into a hell scape. Should have left when he first warned me.

[@alllscination]

Oh no, that sounds really scary. I'm sorry! You got out alright?

[@stellamaxwell777]

@@alllscination yes, eventually!

[@kenehnsklp5530]

My life changed since Ia admitted my fears and constant anxiety and be open about it. Strangely enough, men’s feedback to me is that it makes me look like I know exactly what I want, it makes me more feminine than other women they met and that they know they need to meet certain standards in order for me to deem them worth my time. What also happened is that I’ve been treated better ever since, all the while becoming more independent and climbing up in my career progress. Being authentic and true to yourself is powerful and rewarding. Im still peeling off layers of my scars and wounds to work on it. It may seem harder especially if you’re in a society that praises modern feminism.

[@juliadarling3404]

All true! Interesting experience, I've just started to open up about my feelings and being more vulnerable and wondered how men wouldn't react to that. So far my ex bf dismissed my emotional openness but I sure will be better off if I state my needs openly to men I encounter.

[@Phantom-ez4zv]

Its a good feeling to hear transparent communication from a woman, it makes it much easier to know her likes and dislikes, i also feel good that she feels safe around me. When a woman is closed off is kind of eeerie feeling, its like she hold grudges and makes theories about me in her mind, and i start to feel guilty for doing nothing lol.

[@sarahrobertson634]

Feminism is what allows you to be on the internet expressing your opinion. You're welcome!

[@rainbowpheanix]

@@juliadarling3404 if you turn it around it becomes quite obvious: how are you to have a relationship where you cant openly talk about your feelings? that sounds so wrong.

[@rainbowpheanix]

@@Phantom-ez4zv its so nice right? its a total win-win. she feels safe and i feel masculine.

[@znki59]

It took me years and 50 books to understand this. And finally at the top of my masculinity I understood femininity. Thanks brilliant video

[@MartinGarden]

Forreal tho.

[@alexstokowsky6360]

One of the most fearful things to do as a woman is to have to take public transportation in a dangerous metro at night. As a woman, I had to do this to go back and forth from work, for the sake of my family's income, as my husband's car had irreparably broken down and he did not work at a place where there was public transportation. Therefore he used my car for many months, while saving for another car, until my car also broke down. We had to rent a car to go to a dealership to buy new used cars. I believe my cortisol levels were out of control, and I felt he should have taken care of the situation much sooner and expressed more remorse about exposing me to nightly walks and drunks and places even security was afraid to monitor in the light rail stations. If there was noise in the basement, I was the one who had to go downstairs with the baseball bat to see if anyone was down there. I told him, "I want to be the girl," and he thought I was joking, but I was very serious.

[@YourPainting1]

I wouldn't say I'm in fear all of the time. Maybe once or twice a year I have moments when im unsure of my safety, but I think it has a lot to do with our bringing up and how we've been treated through out our life.

[@nupian06]

Yes you right 💯,... But as she said also women often don't notice it, because its subconscious 🙏💚💯

[@thisisntallowed9560]

@Flowered Sentiments Everytime I go out I am wary especially at night. Of course I think about other things at the same time but I make sure to hear or see everything around me. Every men is a potential treat to me and I never had any types of violence done to me by a man in my entire life. If it's dark and there is a man walking near her, come on, every women fear something might happen to them right? And this scenario happened to every women. To give another exemple if a stranger ring the bell to my house I won't open if I'm alone. And I live in a safe place

[@madisonhealey]

we have become so accustomed to operating from fear that it doesn't even register in our minds...Its always not full-blown panic, but smaller things like being hypervigilant of who is walking near you at night, feeling uncomfortable and closed off when a man approaches you, worrying why your date is not calling you back when he said he would, feeling frantic when you can't see your kid at the park, stress when your partner doesn't come home when he's usually does (is he cheating? was he in an accident?). It's not just fear for safety but fear of abandonment, loss, betrayal, deception, etc.

[@thisisntallowed9560]

@@madisonhealey I agree exept for the jealousy part I think it comes more from a lack of self esteem than female nature, not every women has fear of abandonment, I don't.

[@madisonhealey]

@@thisisntallowed9560 I would argue almost everyone has a fear of abandonment to different degrees. This is because we are a social species, and if we are rejected by others and left (especially as a child) we would die. This is the reason breakups, loosing friends, and loss of loved ones is so emotionally painful and why we are then afraid of it. It's not always at the front of your mind and its not necessarily a predominant fear. Some have this fear worse than others, of course.

[@mkschreder]

Wow.This was a real eye opener. I only thought it was maybe 10% true but it literally explains everything.

[@frankschmitt1322]

... oh , if I'd heard this 50 years ago ... but the times they are achangin ' ... thanks for being the most solid teacher for the evolution of the spirit of mankind on any public platform that I am aware of , Miss Swan . My heart beats with you and your team . God , you're good ! So many people actually love you because of the purity of your spirit . Your wisdom is sublime . Just ... thanks !!!

[@sheenapearlbarandino3776]

Thank you for explaining how women feel. I feel this and sometimes blame myself for my expectations of men that arent met.

[@marloesk9753]

I’m shook!... I thought what the hell are you talking about, I’m not scared. And then I remebered that not two hours ago at work I removed a small knife, that I use to open packages for retail, from my sleeve. I stand behind a counter and I became aware that someone could easily grab the knife and hold it against my throat. Now you could say that this has nothing to do with being a woman and it’s just part of doing this job. But it’s not that thought that has me triggered now. It is the reaction I had to that thought, I treated it like any other, because I am actually so used to thoughts like this. And to be honest it scares me now thinking about this, about all the moments that I am terrified. I’m even on edge when I cycle through my dutch small village with only 7500 inhabitens. That’s insane... That that apparently is normal for us...

[@Pandoradow]

Teal just casually described how most men treat most women hhhhhh. Thank you so much for voicing my own deepest shame. That I as a woman, cannot accept the fact that I live in a perpetual state of fear. And that I fail to notice just how much bravery there is in the fact that I'm still living.

[@ekaterinashlosberg5119]

Never thought about fear as a base feeling, but after teal said that I could not stop crying for 20 min

[@DebraWilderMeditation]

Thank You for putting this out. Most men do not believe how often a woman is afraid for her life or angrily harassed. This video is so good.

[@lockandloadlikehell]

@Darcy M. Royce Lol

[@lockandloadlikehell]

@@yasaiasazuke Who TF are you talking to, jackass?

[@jakubrogacz6829]

@@yasaiasazuke Because women don't choose nice men. They choose wealthy men. So the nice men are tired and seek help. Women create problem women cry because of it.

[@jakubrogacz6829]

@@yasaiasazuke Hahah of course. That's why I am MGTOW. Hopefully I can resume if stuff goes but to romance but till it's pricy rental of used cars... well I do have my own car and let me assure you riding a car is way more pleasure at this point than dating women. Cars have radios and feeling of free road at night is best of the best.

[@RichPoorGrl]

Thank you for this Teal. I didn't realize how afraid I had been until someone made me feel safe, it was a shocking realization!

[@young-gi9ny]

you think men dont feel like this

[@Alyssasrealm]

@@young-gi9ny All you need is more WonderWoman. It's not really a gender thing, you just be fooled if you think so. When I was a child, all gang leaders were girls. The boys were just too stupid, they only got helping tasks.

[@renegadedalek5528]

Strange! Women usually articulate all their feelings non-stop 24/7 and you missed that one?

[@renegadedalek5528]

@@Alyssasrealm a story about something that never happened , unless skipping rope club was called a gang in your neighbourhood..

[@ekwilliekpo667]

@@Alyssasrealm where was that

[@MyNameThe1st]

I have been trying to figure out why my relationship of 14 years stranded.... less than 14 minutes later, I understand why I had to let him go. Somehow it kinda hurts to realize my needs were never met, and I just did not even realize that was the cause of my frustration.

[@leofeza9325]

I watched my mom live in utter terror all her life and it made me hate life.

[@MrBudacat]

all the best kzbin.info/www/bejne/i3jQcnecipp7fbc

[@rawknowledge5096]

Lol

Her choices!!

[@DomDeVille]

I can relate to that.

[@LuxMeow]

Wow, thanks for sharing.

[@queengoblin]

For any woman who doesn't relate to this and believe you do not live in fear: conscious caution is subconscious fear. Living in fear your whole life means it becomes your setpoint and you stop noticing it after a while. Fear doesn't look like a constant quaking in your boots and anxiously looking over your shoulder. It looks like locking your doors as soon as you get in your car. It looks like checking to make sure of your surroundings when you're on a run. It looks like a clenching in your stomach as you pass by a group of men. Just because you don't notice it doesn't mean it's not there, it means you are unattuned to yourself and the experiences of the women around you because it is so normalized. How many of you walk freely at night without any care? How many of you feel safe going shirtless in public? How many of you feel fine travelling alone anywhere in the world? Oh, those things are stupid, you say? Even men don't do this things, you say? Yes, men do those things, without a second thought unless they have been traumatized previously. Women are taught from birth not to so those things because they get us assaulted, or followed, or killed, or worse. You absolutely do live in fear, being unattuned to that will not change it.

[@cynthiajohnson9412]

I was watching an old Joe Rogan segment where he had a behavioral anthropologist on who actually had to explain that women consider the possibility of getting pregnant every time they make the decision to have sex. The other men on the show, including Rogan, were honestly surprised. I was shocked that they were surprised. Now frankly if anyone, ANYONE, has to explain that to men, what freakin hope is there that they could possibly understand the trials and nuances of a woman's emotional life.

[@user-ff4tw8uf4b]

That’s astounding.

[@mantrahus]

Thank you very much for this hint. As a man I have to admid, that this is a blind spot. Maybe we as man trust the woman on a subconcious level in this point. The biology of getting pregnant is the biology of fear and is the point of woman testing men even or especially in relationships. If that is true, (the fear of) woman might change after they lose the ability to get pregnant. The other thing is, how this point changes my thinking about the dating game. The difference between "Do I get a kiss tonight?" and "What if we (as a couple) get pregnant?" is tremendous.

[@DanLetts97]

I would think men are just as worried about pregnancy as well. After all, if we get a woman pregnant we’re going to be paying child support for 18 years! I know that when I have sex I’m extremely aware about the possibility of pregnancy

[@arbitrarylib]

How tf are they shocked??? Yes we think about this every time. The only effective contraceptive is abstinennce, sadly!!

[@paulmurphy8993]

Years ago I dated a girl who was 5'1 tall and probably 110 lbs. Now I'm 6'2" and 235 lbs. so quite a difference in stature. So one day we got to talking about how everyday when she leaves her house she always has to think about possibly being attacked. Now I was shocked because I never, ever have thought about that. And she of course responded why would you... you're a man and you're huge. And later on in our relationship she was attacked by a guy in his car trying to run her off the road. She survived but it was touch and go for a while. Needless to say I have a different mindset about women and how they have to navigate their lives when they are alone out in public.... especially at night.

[@godsLOL]

fear for my physical and emotional safety absolutely defined how I made choices in life and making them from a place of fear only manifested them time and time again into my reality. At the age of 55, that fear is no longer there to that degree, so my life unfolds in a more creative, powerful way. I'm doing my best to teach my 19-year-old daughter this awareness and that is all I can do... make her aware and yet watch with joy all the mistakes she makes as they lead her to understand this even deeper. thank you, Teal

[@l1meyman]

This comment needs to be at the top 💛

[@meredithr9824]

Life is so less scary to me now at 37 than it was at 19, hopefully 55 will be even better! Thanks for the encouraging comment!

[@hilderwanjiku6269]

Every woman's needs are different, attunement is the word, Thanks Teal.... Always love your channel, so therapeutic

[@Leries0]

That s the work I was looking for, (therapeutic)

[@halcioncocaine2096]

Every twat is different💖

[@shortfusephillips]

Sounds a lot like an excuse for a victim mentality to me. My ex wife was so comfortable with me, she full on punched me in the face multiple times in our marriage, totally confident I would not retaliate, because I had no desire to harm her. And then, when her feminist friends convinced her she could do better, she accused me of abuse and rape, with the intent of getting me kicked out of the house so she could stay in it. In most cases of one side domestic violence, it is the woman being violent. Society has taught women that it is okay to attack men, and then jump on the "me too" bandwagon, claiming the victim was the perpetrator. That is totally unacceptable, and needs to be changed in order for women to ever regain the trust of men.

[@levinolan636]

Absolutely 💯 true and the gospel truth. The woman you describe is most of America now. I'm sorry for you bro. Handshake and hug. I'll pray God gives you health n peace. She sounds like a CrAzZyEey biotcch

[@gmc7298]

in time we realise it took 2 to tango

[@your_mom_is_my_dad]

I am sorry that happened to you, but I know more examples that are the other way around. It may depend on the area/social circles and wealth of the region you life in, and country.

[@suzannelee854]

I'm guessing she was unable to make you understand and respect her emotional and physical needs to feel safe in the relationship. That said, there is absolutely no excuse for her violence or covert manipulations.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

It really means that if you’re are emotionally unavailable you’re unfit to have a relationship .

[@howmathematicianscreatemat9226]

Yes but keep in mind also we men are unfit to be in a relationship if we are too available, bro. It´s because then she doesn´t feel this charismatic masculine energy emanating from us, the spark in our being which actually makes us men sexy because it indicates we are self-sufficient in life. Or in other words: an emotionally intelligent beggar is still not attractive to women

[@eugeniamikulan3328]

@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 what?

[@Ana-rb7ws]

@@howmathematicianscreatemat9226 - This is true, yes. But only in a certain population of women, primarily in their early 20s, still naive and not really looking for anything serious. A woman looking for her forever after will not be attracted to men who make her feel unsafe (by being emotionally unavailable in this example), because she needs to know that when she is vulnerable, like when she is with child or nurturing small children, her man will be there to protect and fend for them. The exception to this of course is women who are psychologically wounded from past abuse/neglect and are in need of healing.

[@EmyN]

Righttt

[@hamiltoncannagar636]

@@Ana-rb7ws early 20s is all that matters. What age can humans breed at?

[@millysmanifestations]

im a woman and do delivery driving as my job i’m just trying to support myself and it’s a shame i have to fear my survival and safety in the process. but thanks for shedding light

[@user-lk1qx7gb5o]

I can't tell you how many men Ive known that have ridiculed me for even suggesting that I meet them in a public, bright open space on the first date. Unfortunately, I've had to learn to protect myself all my life because men have failed me in that area. While traveling alone around the world, I've also had to learn to self protect so now I'm usually tougher minded then most females but not in a masculine way just in a way that I've learned to be street savvy and I can play tough if I have to when challenged by a potential predator though I prefer an alpha male to protect me.

[@MRSguitarHEREo]

I've shortly been with a man that made me feel like I was wrong all the time and that my emotions weren't right and valuable. Good thing was that I kinda knew what was going on and that this wasn't a good relationship. But I still had moments where I doubted myself and was afraid of actually being wrong. I watched this video at the perfect timing, as I am analyzing what actually happened in that relationship. And it makes me feel so much better to know that my instincts were right and that he is just emotional very unavailable and unable to provide anything to a woman.

[@GreenTara2010]

if you look at most of the male comments, they are all like that, telling women we are wrong rather than try to help the situation. Bottom line is: there are not enough good men to go around so most women will better off single..

[@justinnamuco9096]

@@GreenTara2010 that is really just men treating women like men. it's confusing to think about what a woman needs nowadays

[@nochso6835]

@@justinnamuco9096 You are right, but the truth is that men need to stop treating women like men. They may scream equality, but they want to be pampered. Trust me - the minute you start treating women with kid gloves, protecting, caring and providing for their needs ahead of time, they will respond very positively.

[@goropeza101]

The same can be said for women that they too need to be tuned in and earn a man's trust! So many men including myself have been betrayed by women to the point where it is difficult if not painful to trust another women!

[@whitebirchtarot]

You’re right about a good relationship being one in which a woman feels safe. I married my husband because I felt safer with him and closer to him emotionally than to any other person in my life. But before that I was always attracted to men who were emotionally unavailable and I feel more sexually attracted to men like that. Can anyone else relate to that?

[@damienroberts934]

Beauty and the beast - you want to tame a beast. And then get safety from him... that's a unique female adventure.

[@kn5132]

OMFG! What an eye opener! Why am I now finding out about this after 25 years of marriage?!?! This should have been taught to us boys in school... before math and science! Epic video!

[@clayclay95]

I remember when I was a kid I was taught to ALWAYS protect women. Then, in college I was taught women dont need men forcprotection. So which one is it? Now we blame men for not understanding and protecting women? I opened the door for a lady to go inside the bank but she looked at me and told me, "Do you think I cannot open my own doors?" So what is the "NEW" standard for being civil?

[@matchaa121]

I don't like guys who think they should be praised for small gestures such as opening doors etc. If you do it with expectations then better don't do it at all.

[@raindrop6041]

ALWAYS protect women :)

[@nicoletterebelle6781]

I like guys opening doors or bottles for me. I can do most things myself but I feel feminine when a man offers :)

[@thaismenezes7279]

I think men need to have patience cuz women are finally looking inside individually and collectively and trying to understand lots of denied parts of themselves. Women want to find power in themselves cuz they feel men and society are not trustworthy to make them feel safe. The truth is that women are powerful and resistant to the world's cruelty but live in constant state of hurt and fear and only in harmony with men women can feel actually safe, cuz women have husbands, sons brothers, father... Men are made to provide conditions to women to feel safe, and women are made to create beauty in the world and women's creations make men feel satisfied and emotionally nourished. So the lady get angry with you when you open the door for her cuz she feel fearful of you and she thinks she need to push men away cuz men think that just opening a door is a great thing. And maybe her father was distant and her husband and son at home dont support her feelings Maybe they call her crazy and don't help her at home and make her feel insecure Maybe much of what men do for her is used against her and thrown at herface, so she looks at other men the same way and she thinks she needs to do everything by herself so no men will say: I did this for you, I do that for you, you should be grateful. "We gave you women some rights you never had, see? We are so good to you" What men provide for women is not a favor, is a duty that benefits her and himself. It's a collective feminine crisis and this is good, it is a sign that women are doing their shadow work and men are forced to do it too cuz men are being taken from the position of acceptance from women that they were used to be. Hopefully we will heal together someday.

[@violethaye6987]

let me explain this, someone who is disabled and requires a wheelchair for mobility and their transportation needs is going down a street as normal. They're approaching a hill. Some ignorant bystander with the intention of being helpful approaches from behind and starts pushing the chair up the hill as they think the person is struggling and would like help. WRONG MOVE, it's an assumption and people appreciate it when you ask without taking their autonomy away from them. If they say no, as they have done this before and are capable (and feel they are) of doing so again. What if there were reversed gender notions and I started opening up the door for some random able bodied person on the basis of their gender. Bit odd I'd say. You open doors for men with the same intent too? And the women react the way they do because they may feel you are not helping them to be genuine or are doing it unsolidity, but out of obligation for everyone women you see should you be in the mood to put in the effort as you mentioned you were TAUGHT to do. Last word of advice, ASK THE WOMEN IF THEY WANT TO BE PROTECTED OR NOT if you want to avoid such a response. You're the one getting irked over the response. You choose what to do buddy.

[@darbirhian]

Always staying vigilant and aware of surroundings. That's the life of a girl or woman. The worst was when I was pregnant with my kids. I felt too vulnerable while out in public alone and I take public transit to get around. My spouse drove me to work a lot in the later months of my pregnancies.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

True: women fear more Also true: fear isn’t weakness, its a survival instinct , which women developed more because society HURTS women for being a woman. (Survival instinct are necessary for survival) In fact the amount of women still go out and fight shows how brave women actually are for a human feeling afraid all the time not because women are weak but society hurts women for “being women” , than it hurts men for committing crimes... In the end you realise that women are Awesome.....

[@DaAxiomatic]

We act like being weak is bad. Meanwhile, we're literally born weak, making weakness fundamental to our existence. We have an unhealthy but valid relationship with weakness.

[@ithinkiknowme6450]

@@DaAxiomatic exactly

[@thesmartestmanintheworld2653]

Men expected to die so women 'feel' safe. Women still most effected.

[@autarko]

@@thesmartestmanintheworld2653 affected

[@sarahrobertson634]

@@thesmartestmanintheworld2653 I smell incel!

[@MR-qq6ec]

This is scary and abit heartbreaking to me in a way (as a man)... I've never thought about it that way before. I feel waaay more enlightened just 13:40 minutes later. Thanks

[@kellymolly3616]

I'm a lady and now I understand why I couldn't be able to get aroused by my ex after he broke the trust. I was completely vulnerable and couldn't trust him and my sex drive died

[@MR-qq6ec]

@@kellymolly3616 Thanks for your answer. It's all very interesting and definitely makes me more aware how I am around women

[@zetristan4525]

I clicked on your timestamp and all I saw was black🤣

[@alexanderringler5747]

I realized it for years and my behaviour changed. Now it changes back, because I developed a fear of women and Intimacy with my relationships. - so at the very least, a man still needs a woman, that will not exploit the man emotionally. And that is as rare as a sensitive man.

[@GreenTara2010]

women don't emotionally exploit men, it is men who don't know how to handle their emotions.

[@outsideworld76]

Men are sensitive beings but yoy can never show this to a women. Once you do that you are no longer the monster that can protect her. For a man it's better to be feared than loved.

[@outsideworld76]

@@GreenTara2010 women are the manipulative sex, sure you exploit men but you don't see it that way.

[@saionjisan]

How sad is that some men are conciously taking the decission to make their women fear instead of searching for equal respect, it is the easiest option, but there should be no need for that, and even I can understand that out there really there is very bad women that take advantage of men, it might be better to go and search for someone else to understand you. if this woman is uncapable of respecting a sensitive man then walk away. Sensitive men like that are needed as well as understanding women. I have seen in my husband he has been hiding his emotions so much in his life that now it is so hard for him to deal with them whenever they come out. Not all women are bad. You need to be better in order to attract better people to your life, it might take time but it will eventually happen. Good luck and hopes to both. 🙏 I hope this helps.

[@aniokay]

Yeah, you need to find a woman that is also sensitive. I know that when I go looking for a man, he needs to be sensitive to make me feel safe.

[@Melanie-lb4od]

So true. Everything boils down to feeling safe with a man. So great, that Teal sends out this message!

[@Nutritiondude]

As a man, you can accept this that’s true..if a women isn’t self aware of this she will definitely push it away and reject it..seen this too many times in relationships. Great video

[@eanjames6446]

Never heard this stated so clearly and explicitly before. Real food for thought, and I will test these concepts in my daily life. As a guy, I almost never feel tangible fear. Challenge yes, but not actual fear. This woman is cool. Teal speaks her well-founded ideas and opinions with conviction and honesty. "New age cult" does not do her justice. She is a person expressing what she has learned about life through insight and intuition. We humans would do well to share more of this with each other. We all hold important wisdom.

[@voccessbg5396]

As a woman I genuinely do not relate to fear being my baseline. I have rarely experienced stress related to my wellbeing and every time it was actually an invigorating experience, one that calls you to action and you feel fulfilled by acting on it. So..... there's that

[@voccessbg5396]

​@@mysticdove8Europe.

[@ordinarytree4678]

i appreciate your comment. As a guy, I have experienced this "feminine" fear. Gendered thinking and traits are a spectrum

[@damienroberts934]

You've been lucky. It only takes one experience. I am very happy your baseline is safety. Though that requires a lot of good men in your life from an early age. Or I might be wrong! Some women see life as a challenge and a risk like most men...@@voccessbg5396

[@yonkromis7883]

Buy her own admissions she says if you ask women they will say they are not in fear all the time. She probably feels it and she's projecting it on all women. Either that or she's saying that all women are lying

[@ceecee-differentinhappyway6228]

Then either you have had a very very blessed life and should reflect on how truly unique your situation is...or you are in denial. I have had difficulty finding a single woman who hasn't had horrible and/or terrifying experiences...

[@byrdmaniacsg2776]

I am a 66 year old man and I never FULLY appreciated this. I do now. Thank you. P.S. Your videos are fascinating.

[@byrdmaniacsg2776]

I agree and I’m not a sucker.

[@rocking1313]

best indicator of the status of the relationship between a man-woman: the woman's smile when she sees her man across a room ...once the smile fades, the relationship is on the decline!

[@Julie-gd2sy]

So true. I realise that every man I've ever been dated, I've started pulling back when I felt emotionally unsafe.

[@BrankoBoro]

Thank you, Teal! This is a groundbreaking eye-opener for me. I did see that fear in my partners but it seemed like a cloud on a horizon, I never understood that it is actually the baseline... The skyline that clouds her heart from shining like a bright sun that it actually is 😔

[@lurileyloo4541]

She is talking about our biological body and survival instincts, and women and men difference, NOT about what the women think and believe

[@adamsawyer779]

That could be difficult to standardise.

[@gabriellia151]

I think the point is that ,are true selves want this deep down inside. According to me , it's ok to support our beliefs and thoughts but it's not ok to become a slave to those thoughts and beliefs . People who become slaves usually never find inner peace . Speaking from experience ,i used to be a slave to politics ,devoting to much of myself into it , seeking a person with an opposing view point but it's never sadisfactory . The main sadisfactory thing in life is allowing ourselves to improve and realising that all people ,even the monsters of this world, have good within them selves and they are no more different from ourselves just with a different experience in life . Hearing them out without judgement and allowing a conversation and not a confrontation , changing their outlook ,that will happen naturally . another sadisfactory thing is allowing ourselves to be vulnerable to people

[@jacobguevara3708]

True courage is not the absence of but overcoming fear.

[@andrewkowalski3976]

My Natal Mars in Cancer is ideal for this type of attunement. I feel that many people don’t like to connect so deeply and try to block it. There is nothing more satisfying than being received with openness and love.

[@sadagathajiyeva5]

Many people don't understand or want that type of connection because they are disconnected from themselves It's sad

[@user-lm1ps2eh4d]

Mars in cancer is literally the embodiment of that protectiveness she's talking about lol. I have my venus in cancer so I can sort of maybe relate in a way, cancer does not joke around when it comes to loved ones.

[@ksy4747]

@@user-lm1ps2eh4d hahaha my sun is in cancer, my mercury is in cancer (RX of course) and my venus is in cancer too..i would HATE to have mars in cancer as well. im already struggling as it is with this backward ass, sappy, overemotional sign! hahah

[@user-lm1ps2eh4d]

@@ksy4747 your loved ones are lucky to have someone like you lol.

[@ablurida]

I have a Moon/MC/AC grand water trine and my Venus is in the 4th. The dudes I'm most attracted to have a Cancer Sun, Venus, and/or Mars. The only thing that turns me off is if they have Mercury in Cancer as well (maybe if it was in the 3rd house or something it might outweigh what puts me off about it - just not compatible with my Mercury!)

[@Nadiahope7]

I disagree I feel like I'm going to die constantly as such but definitely feel I need to protect myself & anxiety alot. I definitely seek trust & feeling safe with a partner. I completely agree with feeling safe to be aroused & emotional connection is everything! Men don't get that part for sure! This explains to me why I'm so different in my new relationship to others I've had. I feel completely safe & connected to him. Thank you 🙏

[@jakubrogacz6829]

And you definietely will go for wrong partner if you feel fear. It's illogical and forces you to make choice upon fleeting feelings. Men get a lot you wouldn't comprehend with your mindset. It's just that we were either beaten up by people for our feelings or learned to cope with showing pokerface.

[@AdiBacea]

Acting and taking decisions from a fear base state won't get you in the right direction. It's ok that women are conscious now with these kind of info about fear and complexes, but that doesn't mean that it's ok to live with them in the same way. Fear its not our natural way in the beings that we are spiritually. Fear is a state that indicates that you have a belief system that is not aligned to your true self.

[@jakubrogacz6829]

@@AdiBacea Or that you live your life in a way that conflicts with your own beliefs is more like it. There was a Polish song by a well known band Budka Suflera that has lyrics like so : "For years we are doing loss and gain calculus, there is nothing to fear there is nothing to hide, so why on bottom of mirror from the threshold of you home, into your eyes first stares disgust then it's brother fear". It had also a good line about frienship and way women do now. About 30 silver coins and stuff like that. Women are like Judas. They just betray for money. And do you remember how Judas ended ?

[@jakubrogacz6829]

@What Not To Do At a Stoplight I have an insight from PUA guy I watched recently. He said something like teal though much less extreme degree. But he underlined that better. Women have being approached anxiety and men have approach anxiety. Both are anxious.

[@peacefulplace6208]

As a woman, I wholeheartedly agree. And thanks, now I know why I'm attracted to things, and why I pull away from others

[@solngv8]

Thank you Teal! I honestly have only felt genuine fear for my life a few times in my life. I can only imagine what it's like to feel that kind of fear on a constant basis. I guess I've done it a little without knowing it but I do need to attune more with the women close to me and help them feel safer.

[@carolinelaronda4523]

I remember at the curveball retreat we shared our scariest moments of our life . Out of about 20 people I was toward the end of the group to wait for my turn to share so I had more time to think of what I wanted to say. It occurred very quickly to me that I had soooo many scary fear-filled moments of my entire life that I then said out loud while looking at Teal that my realization of this activity was that I had been living in fear my whole life. And I did feel like most of my fear was related to relationships and being alone or neglected rather than a freak incident like most of the men shared .

[@dragosavo]

Bingo. Now someone is finally talking sense around here. It reminds me of the poem by Bukowski, All Alone with Everybody. " Nobody finds the one but keep looking, crawling in and out of beds. .the flesh seeking more than flesh" Pathetically, I think if we mapped fear in those terms, more men are afraid of being alone than women are.

[@carolinelaronda4523]

dragosavo a mans biggest fear is embarrassing rejection from a woman . A women’s biggest fear is being killed by a man she rejects .

[@kristin4840]

I remember my step dad squeezing me so hard I would pass out. I remember the feeling of not being able to breath. And I remember my mother thinking it was funny. I think there’s a time in every woman’s life where she realizes that men are physically stronger and can basically do whatever they want to us. That is a fearful realization.

[@carolinelaronda4523]

kristin so true . I’m so sorry you had that terrible experience. I would have felt so violated and unsafe and the worse feeling of not being protected . I have similar feelings from my childhood .

[@kristin4840]

Caroline Laronda ❤️❤️🙏☮️

[@brookeschwartz8470]

Absolutely incredible. This video is absolutely spot-on and you talked about so many things that I've experienced subconsciously but have never actively identified. Can't wait to watch more of these

[@gringura]

You're so right, I cried! You've just explained something I've always felt in the clearest way and now I know how to explain it. Thank you so much!

[@TrishaNP]

Yes to everything you said in this video, Teal! I am pansexual and have had partners of various genders (male, female, non-binary). Safety, trustworthiness, and attunement are absolutely necessary for me to let myself be fully vulnerable and open with someone. Without it, I don't even want to date them. I've been working on becoming more attuned to myself and others and it has helped me find and strengthen other relationships too--like friendships / chosen family. I'm glad you suggested watching your attunement video, because, for me, they are all connected. Without one of these three, I am not calm or satisfied within the relationship. And if I get to the point where I don't think experiencing them with someone is possible, I'm out. I've spent far too much of my life feeling alone/misunderstood. And now that I know what it feels like to be seen, understood, and deeply connected to another person, it's my new standard. I cherish and savor the love in my life so much more now that I've learned how to be and find attunement and safety. My heart feels light even just by typing this.

[@singularity844]

Ok I was suspicious of this narrative Teal Swan spun, so I asked my sister if this video represented reality. She said it did not. That she sees masculine strength as a kind of protector more than a threat. She has a friend though that constantly worries about walking home in the dark etc and she thinks its because her relationship with her father was abusive. My sister's relationship with our father was a very positive one. So I think if you spend your life fearing men as a woman, then you have some emotional damage you need to resolve. Most men would put their lives on the line to protect women around them. Thats the norm. For your psychological state to be tuned to the opposite of the norm, that shows your state needs to be adjusted.

[@sherryknackert5947]

Thank you!!! Thank you for making this video and explaining it so well. I have been aware that women (myself) want to feel safe and this is #1 in a relationship. Trust and honesty is key. I've explicitly said this to others and my husband. I didn't connect it to fear before, but it makes perfect sense, as I self-examine. Thank you, again for communicating this insight.

[@adamortiz8482]

The greatest compliment that I have recieved from women be it friends, family or romantic relationships is "I feel safe with you". OMG women Looooove feeling that with a man who they can trust and count on. Men.... protect your women with your life!

[@Silvery115]

This is such a great video. I can't even go on a rant about how much I agree with all of this, it would take forever. Thank you for this!!

[@jadegrenade8287]

I feel safe walking around in the dark alone. I remember one time I was walking at night and another woman on her cell phone crossed paths with me I saw a man following her i thought he was following her strangely it struck me as odd so I slowed down a little bit after they passed me next thing she was screaming I turned around and they were gone so I ran towards the screams then people from the apartment complex came running out yelling, he had dragged her into the drainage ditch we were walking next to but he got spooked took off running and disappeared into the swamp land, the cops came but couldn't locate him I had to give a description. My family is terrified that I walk around in the dark alone esspecally my grandmother and I've never told her this story because i thought it would only fuel her fantasies of fear, I thought she's scared of the slightest thing's. After watching this i think my fear mechanism is broken slightly in some way's or I've been desensitised by trauma. I love looking for mushrooms and moth's in the dark they are so beautiful and it's so much more quiet and calm.

[@elizabethcooper9815]

Hi Teal, I cannot thank you enough for doing this video. You are so on point. In all my relationships with men plus growing up, it has always been that. Not feeling safe. This video is not only good for men to watch but fathers. Not feeling safe, is, to this day I live with. I am more concern as I have gotten older and not having a man in my life. As we get older this concern/fear I feel runs deeper. It's much harder to trust mens words. I have seen your other videos you recommended, however, worthy of watching them again. Thank you again. Many blessings.

[@gococojay]

May I ask, at what age does this fear take hold? I dont see it in my daughter?

[@Poway19]

It’s pretty obvious this is how nature works. Good men are supposed to be protectors from bad people and outside threats. It’s been biology for thousands of years. Woah I typed that last line as she said it. Problem is society has brainwashed people by saying everyone is equal and women can do some things as good as men is just not true. Just as men can’t do some things as good as women. We need each other.

[@littleblackbabycat]

Yes!!!!!!!!! The best feeling is leaning into my partners chest, his arms around me and I just breathe..... Feeling safe and looked after, supported and loved💕

[@emaambition9378]

Every thing you are talking about is happening right now in my house. I enjoy listening to you beautiful teal swan 💯❤️

Same here☹️

[@DebraLynnP]

I thought I found someone who I can trust to feel safe with... I shared my experience(s) of rape and in a conversation he said to me “I can understand that being raped once can happen... but more than once?” Made me feel that the first time was not my fault and possible but more than that was in some part something I did to cause it!! I said it took a long time for me and most women to not blame ourselves for it....... and you open your mouth and say that almost undid my mental health!!! Needless to say that ended the relationship because I felt insecure and unsafe emotionally

[@kevinmaxwell9649]

Somehow I think I knew this, but was too ignorant of my intuition to realize it at certain times in my past. I am sure it is also minimally subjective (a certain few women may not experience this fear as much) but I want to say thank you Teal! I really appreciate your videos. :)

[@drleo6409]

This was a very enlightening video. As a man I had no idea that women felt this way or at least this often every day? So from now on, I will be more attuned to creating a safe atmosphere around me regardless of what woman it is.

[@ssbbmoto]

I recently lost my left leg and have been adjusting to life with a disability and the one thing that has been the most difficult to deal with is loosing my ability to fight and defend myself or my girlfriend if I ever had too. As a Marine infinity vet fighting has always been a way of life both in training and real life so I've never worried about being able to handle potential threats but now if I am unarmed having only 1 leg to work with I am completely defenseless from just about any physical attack and recently I was violently assaulted leaving me bloody and bruised both physically and emotionally leaving me with the same uneasy feeling anytime I am alone that women have always delt with and it's not something most men could ever understand or fully appreciate.

[@Awenevis1]

All this material and more is covered in the book 'The Man's Guide to Women' by John Gottman. He is the person who pioneered the research about attunement, the "fear-difference" between men and women, and in the book he gives a very nuanced and approachable picture of how a men can better understand how the world appears to women. I can heartily recommend it to those who want to learn more about this topic. As a side, I find it unlikely she doesn't know about John's work because of the large overlap. I'd have liked to see her mention/refer to it.

[@valerievanbeusekom741]

Thanks for sharing I appreciate it

[@danielfleming5449]

But she's Teal Swan! The great mystery queen. She just channels brah. Shirdi Sai Baba reincarnated and that ya know

[@juliadarling3404]

She never mentions other authors, just but occasionally certain schools of psychology for example. But you know what? I dine care, because A she makes important information available for the greater public and easy to conceptualize, B she infuses many sources or levels/dimensions into her topics and C she provided desperately needed resources/healing modalities and help for a lot of struggles people currenrly have.

[@juliadarling3404]

Oh and btw thanks for your book suggestion, I will look it up for sure.

[@c.s.70]

You do get that different people can arrive at the same conclusions and insights separate & independent of each other, right? Esp ppl who have original independent thinking, and intelligent insight beyond just reading and parroting books a.k.a. other ppl's thoughts.

[@RedeemedRose1]

A lot of men are saying something along the lines of "it's not my responsibility to coddle your fear, fear is something you have to work through yourself." In many cases, that's true, but it's important to note that this all-pervasive "pull-yourself-up-by-your-own-bootstraps" mentality is ultimately isolating and self-punishing, a byproduct of being domesticated to believe an adequate human, "a real man" doesn't feel fear or get hurt at all. The goal of a relationship... is a functioning RELATIONSHIP in which both people feel safe and seen and valued. If you're accommodating to a fear that your partner has, you're not necessarily enabling him/her, you're just showing that you care. Like if I tell you I'm afraid of heights, it would really hurt me and make me feel devalued and bring up all sorts of fear if you surprised me on my bday with a skydiving trip. It would put me in a shitty situation that could have been avoided and I might feel all sorts of shame for having to say "but I'm afraid of heights" when you gave a gift the best way you knew how. A lot of pain and fear could be avoided by paying attention and simply taking steps towards ACCOMMODATING the personal truth of whoever you're in a relationship with. It's a fine line that we have to learn to walk, between enablement and accommodation. There's so much shame that needs to surface regarding masculine/feminine relationship before we can hold a safe and caring space for one another. Let's work through it together, honoring one another's personal truths, paying close attention to our own fear and shame that surfaces, and expanding our paradigms to accommodate a healthy relationship however it manifests. It's never me vs. you, it's us vs. the problem :)

[@SabatSch95]

Well, what "a lot of men" are saying would in this instance be entirely correct. Women's feelings are not an accurate assessment of their liability. Men are far more likely to be the victim of violence (especially public violence) than women are, just like they are the overwhelming majority of homicide victims. Violent crimes and homicide are things that affect men around 70-80% of the time, and this is true pretty much all across the world (yes, even in the most "patriarchal" societies). This isn't my opinion. It's not contentious. The fact is that it's much safer to be a woman than it is to be a man. So how come women believe they get to complain about this and demand sympathy, when it's actually men who are far more likely to be victimized? I honestly could care less how you "FEEL". I care about the data. And if the data showed that women experienced violence at the rate which men in actual fact experience violence, then I'd be on your side and alter my behavior. But this isn't the case. So why exactly should I feel sorry for you, or feel responsible for the way men make you "feel" just because I'm a man as well? Women need to get their act together and start thinking like mature, rational human beings. I'm tired of constantly hearing how "hard" it is for you to exist when it literally boils down to nothing more than an emotion. Telling people to act responsible and own their agency isn't "self-punishing". It's incredibly liberating and powerful. It means that you and you alone are in control of your emotions. So I don't buy for one second this "we need to honor each other's truths", because you're not even willing to honor THE truth. Meaning, THE truth that women by all accounts have less reason to be scared living in this world than men. You're asking men to enable women's delusions. I simply cannot respect that and I never will.

[@jenfryeresqueda2027]

If a man I love, made me feel unsafe, but later was able to become consious of his wrong actions and behaviours and is working on bettering himself, so I can trust him again, should I give the relationship a second chance? I'm really afraid of letting my guard down.

[@dgetzin]

What I think would be important for Teal and other people to realize is that a fair amount of men consciously use emotional attunement and emotional validation to manipulate women. Plenty of emotionally unavailable men ACT as if they are available. So - what to do? I wish I had an easy answer - but looking at how someone acts with love or not in concrete ways is pretty important.

[@aliciakitten9590]

very true

[@lilithstarchild2701]

@dgetzin~ I was afraid of that. :/

[@gumbothundereagle8006]

We Study and Love ❤️ You TEAL SWAN ❤️👍✅

[@oeckstei]

To build attraction with women I’ve learned over the year to be great at fulfilling 3 areas: 1.) fun (personality, intellect, creativity, funny, physical attractiveness etc…) 2.) security 3.) provider I think all men know these things deep down, the issue is it feels like our chivalry is taken for granted at times in western modern dating culture and therefore isn’t promoted as often.

[@leoninenoble]

7:56 I love the random meme pic! 😂

[@colinwinterman]

Im a man I thought I was pretty reasonable, yet things havent worked out, and through you I can see the errors of my ways and the front I have worn. God bless you Lady

[@douglasivison4439]

The first watched this video a few weeks ago ... And it has shifted EVERYTHING. Bc as I look at what I would bring to my next relationship, and reconsider the goal I had of "doing my share" of making our lives work ... I can totally see how that would not feel like "support" for her. Like, for a single mom I have dated, her BASELINE includes questions like "How does my child get provided for and cared for, if I get sick or lose my job?" So I need to be prepared to take more than 50 or 60% of our lives. I need to have a capacity to take on 100%, when that fits. I already do emotional healing work, to expand ranges of energy & possibility & being. The implications of this have shifted my tsrgets, for that work.

[@erickent4248]

I’m a man and I feel constant fear, about so many things in life. Every day is a conscious battle to not let it stop my progression.

[@idontcare_wtf]

It's not about feeling fearless, it's the fact that those fears need to be justified and controlled

[@jenlinds1]

But do you get raped or killed by the other gender simply bc you’re a man. Life fears are something we’ve all got to sort ourselves from inner work, but fear of being physically hurt or killed bc of your gender shouldn’t be something anyone fears.

[@Zwischenmeister09]

@@jenlinds1 Mmh, these days there are plenty of crazy people. I guess the probability of beeing threatened, forced or maybe even killed, just because you're a man, isn't that small any more. The danger of being killed by another man had always been existent (most probably while protecting a beloved woman, taking her fears and risks to carry them on our shoulders). Nowadays of course there is also the risk of beeing attacked or forced by some crazy woman out on the streets, maybe just because she feels entitled to cut men's balls or collect some male tears while fighting patriarchy. That beeing said I would like to add, that we nowadays live in a permant fear of saying something wrong to a woman, or even worse, accidentally come to close or touch her and then beeing accused of something we didn't do, get cancelled or even jailed - and if we don't, most likely there will be no way to fully recover from something a woman JUST SAID. Sorry Lady, I can't even say times have changed, because men at every moment in history where in way bigger danger of getting physically attacked or even killed. Why shouldn't we have that deep and old fear in us? Since hundred thousand of years we are the ones having to fight against each other, no matter if it were Vikings coming to our village or if it was WW2. Would bet throughout history much more men had a horrible and violent death than women had. Maybe we should be the one fearing for life constantly, don't you think? And guess what? No "men" out there to protect US. No stronger humans out there to make US feel save... Whish you would have taken that into consideration..

[@independentthought3390]

​@@jenlinds1 Teal is completely wrong, statistically speaking, men are far more likely to be the victim of a violent crime in any age group www.cbs.nl/en-gb/news/2018/51/fewer-women-than-men-fall-victim-to-violence

[@PS-qn4oz]

@@independentthought3390 Rape is its own thing. Most men do not fear being captured and raped but it's super common for women to have this fear, especially after it happens.