Why we need to talk about depression | Kevin Breel

Kevin Breel didn't look like a depressed kid: team captain, at every party, funny and confident. But he tells the story of the night he realized that -- to save his own life -- he needed to say four simple words.
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[@nashae_9217]

The worst pat of depression is waking up every morning and facing the day. I wake up every morning having to put a fake smile on and talk to others. I really do try but each day and it gets harder and harder. Depression sucks, and it's real.

[@kevinasaurus]

100% agree. No idea how to make it better either, seems like I've tried everything...

[@kiarathellama4841]

Same i understand how you feel faking a smile hurts

[@nashae_9217]

Your the blessed one

[@nashae_9217]

I know, I tried meds and they were great but I moved back home and my mom didn't want me on them so I stopped.. But now I'm getting back on them which makes me happy.

[@kimtalibou1554]

Antwonette Simpson Girl I understand!

[@pizzaparlorprincess]

"if you break your arm, everyone runs over to sign your cast. if you have depression, everyone runs away."

[@WishIwasinItaly]

Queen Victoria What saved me was a high quality supplement. Daily 4,000 IU vitamin D and high quality of fish oil. High quality vitamin B complex plus magnesium for a few months then cut back to half. Been through it all. This was the fix for me after years and years of Depression . Stay strong you will see bright blue skies again!

[@itsmyopinionboss8379]

if you express your depression no one runs away instead they try to solve your thoughts...

[@lanfanji7784]

itsmyopinionboss bahaha, I’m told I’m not depressed and depression isn’t a thing.

[@Vonx_Crane]

itsmyopinionboss I was raised that it was a demonic spirit that has corrupted your soul. I'm fucked 😓

[@nicparker3809]

he relapsed you boob....

[@rejiinamio]

you know what's even scarier about people hearing you got depression? *they think you're just lonely*, they *don't listen to you*. And if they do listen... they say "move on, dude." or they change the topic. It's been like that for me. I thought even the closest friends would hear me out, but they just brush it off and change the topic. So I never spoke to anyone about it. I didn't notice it myself until recently but, keeping everything in made me numb... like, I just feel really hollow inside. I created a world for myself where I'm surrounded by happy thoughts, and things that make me happy... but depression will always haunt me, and it made me numb. It didn't improve one bit. It's the stigma that I hate. That people are blind and deaf to these things. What's keeping me from ending my life? I see my family's faces and I instantly feel guilty... there's this voice mocking me for not committing suicide... there's a war within myself. That's what depression is for me. It's a vicious cycle of wanting to kill myself, to trying to pick myself up.

[@naregzomdjian6726]

You're wrong. There are MANY people who feel like you, if not worse. You're not alone. People brush it off either because they are afraid to talk about it or because they just don't understand it. Don't accept that you're alone in this cause you're not. Trust me.

[@rejiinamio]

Nareg Zomdjian There is no right or wrong here. I was talking about how it was for me, and I never said anything about what other people experienced or are experiencing right now. I was sharing how depression is for me, how it felt being rebuked by people dear to me who never did _try_ to understand my case. Having to suffer this alone is not what I was talking about, but how it was for me suffering from depression --- and I am aware that people suffer from it. I know you mean well, but there is no concrete solution to my problem unless I seek professional help and educate the people _close_ to me about my condition. Words are empty unless action is done. And I have been trying to seek help and trying to tell the people around me that this is what's happening inside me, that I am at war with myself... and that I seem to sink in again and again in this pit while struggling to reach the surface. You see, the fact that you pointed out that MANY people felt the same way as I do is just not the right thing to say. We are all from different walks of life and the surroundings as well as our experiences contribute to our well-being. I appreciate that you took the time to say that I am not alone in this. However, I was not talking about loneliness or feeling alone. I was talking about depression. "Feeling alone" is never a problem to me, but being "rejected" is.

[@RaRa-Online]

Same here.

[@UnbiasedWho]

story of my life

[@lovejo101]

yes true

[@BlackSwanNews17]

This is probably the realist video on the Internet

[@RaRa-Online]

Couldn't agree more.

[@Das-jc7nt]

BrokenJoystickGaming I agree 100%

[@johannsebastianbach5223]

All videos on the internet are real, your comment is illogical.

[@Alanislynx]

to this day

[@AwsumCherry]

I tried to open up to my mom once and she made an uncomfortable comment and walked away. I love my mother to death, but that's why 8 years after being diagnosed with clinical depression she still doesn't know I suffer every day. I'm terrified of her response, of her rejection, and what that might do to the delicate tightrope I walk every day.

[@Silviegold]

AwsumCherry Give her time and possibly bring up topics of depression just to see her reaction. If she doesn't accept your depression, then she's not the person you'd be going to for help. My mom took a lot of time to adjust because she couldn't believe that her precious daughter was always like this. My dad is ignorant and even scoffs, but I don't go to him. It's okay to be afraid, but you can always find a solution without feeling scared. Besides, its never the depressed person's fault for the other person's stigma. Don't hide it, because your life is precious and I'm sure if your mom is educated on depression, she'll likely accept who you are. I hope things with your mom can go well, it might bring you two closer than ever. Have a great day and don't forget that you are worthy and that you shouldn't have to care what others say based on their opinion.

[@AwsumCherry]

Silviegold Her family actually has a history of depression (she's adopted so mine is genetic from my dad's side I think). Her uncle (my godfather) killed himself in 1990 and she still doesn't understand his "selfishness". Her mother also also died from a simple illness that she may have been too depressed to receive treatment for. So as I understand it my mom is very angry and has a hard time processing her own emotions let alone someone else's. She's also slightly narcissistic, and has never had very much patience for dealing with anyone else's physical ailments without one-upping. Despite all this my mom and I are actually very close, I'm just the daughter who is always taking care of everything and never causes any problems for her like my other siblings. I have brought up my problems in the past, sort of dipping my toe in the waters type thing, and she's either brushed me off, joked it off, or launched into an "oh yeah well I have this..." type speech. So it is partly my fault just because I have allowed her to see me as the type of person who fixes everything and never breaks, so I have trained her how to treat me in a way. Maybe someday I'll open up to her, for now I'll continue seeing therapists without her knowledge lol and will continue to lean on her in other ways that I know she's capable of supporting. So thanks for listening to me ramble, once I get going I can't stop haha.

[@Silviegold]

Oh no it's okay! I'm sorry for the late reply though ): My mom sounds like your mom lol. My mom thinks its good for her to spoil me when I'm down (I was raised by my grandparents for about 14 years of my life). She would buy me clothes and etc, when really all I want her to say comforting words and give me affection (even though i push her away when I don't really want it). I probably inherited my depression from my grandpa and from my great grandma (my grandpa's mother) because she was suicidal and tried to kill herself 3 times. My mom would just try to let me forget about it, when really I will remember everything in detail. I wish I can see a therapist, but they're expensive. It's okay to not let your mother know, but it's kind of a little worrying if you never let her know. I hope you find some good days to embrace, because you deserve them. (: You're welcome!

[@VilleGardian]

I was the same as you, as a young teenager I was constantly saying how I wanna die and was just ridiculed and insulted because of it. My mother fully realised when I was diagnosed with a head tumor, that I must probably suffer. The tumor takes years to form. Maybe I manifested it to be finally seen and heard. But at the end, you only get to know, that you have no choice but do not allow your suffering take over your life. I still suffer but at least she is aware of that and understands a little bit better. But my partner ridicules me now like she used to do so it is inevitable part of life. Accepting that most people wont accept that you suffer and would like to die. Because they themselves live in denial and suffer too.

[@melinavalenzuela5897]

I have depression and my mom doesn't want to accept it because she doesn't want anything to be "wrong" with me so anytime my therapist talks to my mom about it she gets really angry and leaves

[@ThePrivet18]

Yeah, the saddest part is that no one takes it seriously. Whenever I open up to somebody they say :'' oh, it's just autumn blues, i get that all the time, you'll be fine". It is not just Autumn blues for me, it's a constant fight with myself

[@persephonepomegranate2067]

same

[@rachelfrances905]

What they don't know I that seasonal depression is also an extremely large issue, but it's passed off as winter blues, although this is obviously not what you're suffering. I hope you're doing okay x

[@leannecurtis1582]

Yes and ahh get up and go outside, fresh air will help. Yeah maybe so but having anxiety too it’s a battle to sometimes even go outside my front door.

[@mechanussunrise]

Yes. I hate telling people who think they have dealt with it.

[@pipsch12]

Depression is the incapability of being vulnerable because you are afraid that you will die if you are rejected for this very vulnerable thing that hides inside you

[@themusicalpilot1382]

I understand this completely. I have depression and it's devastating. It's literally like you watch the person you used to be before it fade away. You can't feel emotions other than sadness. You can't do the things you used to love. It's like consciously watching every part of the old you get consumed by this black void that is depression. It's painful, it hurts. But the thing about depression is, it's hurts you so badly you can't feel the hurt anymore

[@hikingtheoutdoors]

Feel the same, William. Hope you are OK. I have suicidal thoughts every day and feel like I am hurting the others by simply being alive.

[@susangurung7462]

i never knew depression was such a serious problem. Being a med std, in schools, we are taught like depression are mild forms of psychotic illness. so, nevere realized it was such a dangerous one. thanks a lot for the video. i really got to learn a lot.

[@nayyarnayyar1560]

you are a god gifted i am glad from you

[@courtneycampling293]

susan gurung It is severe.

[@evadarkeyes4164]

susan gurung I think what they meant is that depression when compared to mental illnesses such as psychosis, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, psyochopathy..etc...these disorders can actually make you lose your ability to function 'normal'. I mean...you lose complete control over yourselves....seeing hallucinations...delusions...n needing serious treatments such as shock treatments for some..(only if the listed illnesses happen to be severe and high functioning). Depression on the other hand is complete hopelessnes....its helplessness....its something nobody is going to see...it slowly..slowly eats you away....and makes you to take your own life....so what i think they meant is....the former illnesses are like rabies...etc....if not treated immediately..it can get out of hand.....depression..anxiety..is more like cancer....it spreads slowly...very much curable at the first stages....n gets severe by last stages....complex to cure....yeah..that is what i think

[@TheeeDanielR]

Livi Shan same

[@shiheyi5250]

The mild ones kill the most

[@1gnore_me.]

He's right, depression would be a million times easier if you could simply share it and talk about it without having to worry about being stigmatized. You rock, Kevin

[@nekogirl5629]

I saw this in class today and it very much inspired me and telling me i should speak up about my depression

[@chloeledbetter635]

I also watched it in class it made me understand truly what depression is

[@charliechuck8994]

brave smart young man...good luck bro you will thrive.

[@BruisedFullMoon]

I've been struggling with depression for a few years already. I've found that when my depression has its worst days (like today), I come to youtube and read comments about people dealing with this mental illness as well. It makes me feel a little better to know that there are so many others out there struggling with this. In real life only my family and a few friends know about my illness, and yet most of them don't understand the extent how badly it affects my young life. Some even commented particularly nasty things about it, making me feel worse and more anxious. I feel very ashamed and 'coming out' to new people telling that I have depression, it's just terrifying. Asking for help is even more horrifying. I mostly feel very alone but knowing and reading other people their struggles with depression makes me feel like less like a 'freaky sad weirdo'. Thanks everybody for sharing your stories.

[@5flapjacks468]

What i did to free myself fro depression was to take the path to Jesus. Nothing else helped. It was not a physical condition, but spiritual. Thus going Christian freed me...Perhaps you too might try this way? You don't know unless you try...Pour out your heart to Jesus in verbal prayer as well as listen to a knowledgeable bible teacher/preacher who can tutor you in all things Jesus. I was helped by Joe Cortes teachingfaith .com. All his content is free... Start with a series titled, ' a change of mind' & 'table of the Lord". One of the benefits of doing this is you receive Jesus Spirit to live in you who will give you internal peace...

[@Nati4Truth]

choir of furies same here.. but nobody knows about my depression n dissociative disorder.. im still afraid to open up.. when I had just panic attacks earlier, family took care of me, but smiling n wondering why this girls is so anxious, we give everything to her,n etc.. from that I felt ashamed n it's been addressed as it's my weakness.. from then I never let anybody see my anxiety n depression flaws.. But. I'm here, if you need to talk or just "listen"

[@renren510]

i feel you.we are fighting it together.we are not weak and we are going to overcome it.i hope best luck for everyone on this journey.

[@kevinhead9464]

Imagine what its like for us who dont have friends or great family.

[@juzellTV]

Sometimes family and friends are the reason of our depression. We have to fight it alone. I am fighting it with you now

[@rarebreed345]

@@juzellTV and me to 🤛

[@eggboi6760]

@everyone and me to

[@e.m.9502]

Imagine suffering because of that family and when you speak out, they call you a liar, a faker.

[@maryam4259]

Love you kevin

[@hungrymadcat3734]

Becoming invisible is the scariest part of depression -_-

[@barbarousseau]

r u still invisible kakashi sensei

[@trinsit]

It seems inevitable. At times, it makes me feel like this is an auto self-destruct code written into our genes.

[@timothyralston663]

It feels good to know there are others like us... that I'm not the only one... thanks for helping me understand myself Kevin. Thanks bro

[@breanadevey5433]

the first time I saw this I was in inpatient, and this video described me in every way. this video gave me a voice and now I think of myself as a survivor. thank you kevin for the words I couldn't say.

[@stevethomas74]

Quite simply, one of the best real talks on Depression I've heard. I'm going through another fairly severe bout of it now and like Kevin, I've been battling it almost every day but for 14 years. Most of the time, it's what I call 'low level' meaning that I can usually overcome it pretty easily with distractions and walking for example. But when it's full blown or near to full blown and then you throw in insomnia plus near constant suicidal thoughts which I've had consistently for the last 3 nights, well, that's a whole other stinking kettle of fish indeed Something Kevin said really struck me and that was the part where he said something about if he was being honest, he's thought of suicide right now as he's talking. Jesus H, man that couldn't have struck me more harder if it tried I wish for everyone reading this who is in the same boat or similar to keep on battling as it IS a battle. But it's a battle worth fighting for in the end I believe. I know that someone reading this might have a situation or feel 10 x or 100 x worse than I do. But for me, what keeps me going is helping to look after my parents and knowing that I am very fortunate enough to have some good friends, even if they aren't around me because of location differences Sending love to all who read this

[@victoriapark6926]

I don't think I've been depressed for a fourth as long as you but I relate. I find myself randomly thinking about suicide. I hope you don't commit suicide and stay strong. I can't tell you it'll be fine unfortunately since that's something you decide.

[@victoriapark6926]

Oh. Thank you. I'll check both of them out.

[@stevethomas74]

Tori Park Take care, Tori :)

[@SonOfGod-sz5yc]

+Steve Thomas I'm in it for about 10 years now I have no friends due to isolating myself I have no family because they are toxic and i finally drew the line with them. I'm 40 and as a man i feel worthless that i'm suffering from this soul cancer, at least i have no children that have to see me like this at least thats one thing to feel ok about. I only exist in the shadows of this world all i hold on to is that one day i can feel again feel the love again the love that this life is so precious the love i once knew that is why i hold on hoping that i can feel that again my soul is crying out for that love that is Life,,, not to forget me.

[@stevethomas74]

dakota38rip+ Hey there, I truly hear you my friend and you we're probably quite similar people (certainly the age although I'm 42 this Sept and thankfully my parents aren't toxic). Right now, I'm going through yet another extended bout of severe mood swings (mostly on the low side) and suicidal ideation galore. I know I won't do that but it still doesn't make it hurt any less. I love your description btw at 'soul cancer' that's a really great way of putting it. Please feel free to reach out to me either through here or my Facebook page if you just want to talk or have someone listen to you - I know how much of a big difference it can make. Also, check out both Douglas Bloch's channel on here as well as Bignoknow as they are 2 great guys who know only too full well and then some what it's like and have made some great videos to help and advise people Stay strong

[@matiascamposg]

it made me cry man, thanks for sharing.

[@jacksonturner242]

I've never ever talked to any professionals at all about the kinds of feelings I've had that are similar to Kevin's here...but I'm going to. Thanks man.

[@dopehat868]

Jackson Turner I know getting a reply is a long shot but I'd absolutely love to know if you ever ended up seeing a professional. Seeing the 'right one' helped me unbelievably.

[@NeonPinkEyeShadow04]

I'm sitting here about half WY through and trying not to cry. this mirrors so much of my battle with depression from the time I was about 11 or 12. it's only been the last few years I have started to truly understand what I have been going through. all I can say is thank you. thank you for putting words on the things I, and many others, go through.

[@amandareucser]

I wish I could use the word lucky when I turned away from the edge like he did. All I could feel was trapped because my life is completely interwoven with others that if I chose to break my tread I think I would unravel someone elses. Kevin definitely gave my thoughts freedom. He is very brave for standing up and talking about mental illness.

[@traceysouth1047]

this guy is phenomenal to be that age and that insightful. I suffer from depression. And I am feeling a bit less embarrassed about it , thanks to this great young man !

[@CryingXCX]

This was 4 years ago and still depression is judged and not understood by the world. That will never change unfortunately.

[@Nati4Truth]

Crying exactly.. instead, the world creates artificial intelligence.robots ...

[@MyIceman12345]

I feel like everyone should watch this video, it brought tears to my eyes because ever single word this man said was true !!! Facebook. Is also very concited, I find that looking where people have been on Holiday and updates to your profile is a synthetic lifestyle, it's good in some respects but can be detrimental for some, it's also not a realistic view of real life events, show the good but not the bad, we must change our view and we need to start to listen to eachother and listen to people's problems not avoiding them !!! This man is my hero Merry Christmas.

[@awfullyawful]

What is it called when you don't feel anything? I used to be happy, then I was unhappy, now I'm just nothing. I've grown so out of touch with myself I can't even identify the source of my sadness or whether or not I'm sad. It's like having a splinter in your finger and fixing it by cutting off your arm. The splinter no longer hurts but it's only because there is nothing there to feel the pain.

[@sexywildlad]

It's called apathy I think. I've had it for a couple of years, it is symptom of PTSD, for example. I think I got through it by slowly, almost unconsciously giving up on certain faulty beliefs and assumptions that were causing the 'splinter' to be stuck in me. When I gave those up, the splinter got out, the wound healed and I could feel again (it started with crying, but I'd rather feel that than nothing).

[@jguilford5080]

Apathy is also part of depression. Numb, I hope we all get the help we need. I took in what he said about the self-acceptance being important - I know I can't change other people's reactions or opinions. Depression may be biological - so there may not be an event causing it. It can be helped.

[@sexywildlad]

J Guilford Depression may also be a biological reaction to certain events, for certain people.

[@AmeFeyre]

Sal C It hurt to say that I know what you mean.

[@AmeFeyre]

Jane Eyre hurts*

[@miker2236]

I struggle with depression everyday from my moms death, to being in debt close to $100,000, no car, no home to call my own, not feeling accepted in the LGBT community. This is a serious issue and people who tell there stories people will not listen to them, I told my story to a station in my hometown. I agree with Kevin its so amazing to here is story. I like people to here mine and I know that there are others just like Kevin and myself. We all have stories to tell but who will listen is the next thing.

[@yasmeennaz9184]

Miker sorry for your mother death. I hope you will a successful life. Now you have a wife and kids. I read your comment 5 years after. I will pray for you. I am from Pakistan

[@andrewrobinson2727]

Standing up in front of all those people sharing that and spreading such an important message can only be admired in my eyes! Pure bravery ❤️

[@TheJournalCEO]

Wow. Not sure how I stumbled on this video, but can relate more than I want to admit. Touching. Takes a lot of bravery for a 19 year old comic to talk about depression like this. Kudos. I had no idea someone takes their life every *30 seconds.* So often, so tragic.

[@amyle9689]

This is my 3rd or 4th time listening to this talk and every time I just gets better and better! I'm currently reading his book and it is one of the best books ever. Kevin is a hero, he's my hero.

[@jenniferbueller9917]

I hear everything that you say and I have been depressed for many years and I do have a support team around me to help me through the darkest times. My husband, my friends, my parents. It is hard to come out and admit depression go to my three beautiful children who are 16, 11 and 9. How do you explain depression too young, joyful, happy children look forward to the future and don't know what it feels like to have darkness shrouding you. They see when my body gets very thin. They see me when my eyes are red from crying. But they don't see the deep despair, nor do I want them to. But as you said, there is light. And they are the light that keeps me away from the bottle of pills, or the tall building. They are the light that keeps me seeking help and compassion and support from my depression. Thank you for bringing it out into the open

[@keithclingan6689]

Hey Jennifer you have a husband and three great kids and I am sure they understand that life is tough sometimes. But they also know that you love them unconditionally and they feed that back to you. I guarantee that once they get older they will become ever better strength-givers down the road. They love you regardless of how you are. Peace be with you sister...

[@harleyjules5129]

I appreciate his honesty because I have hidden and covered my depression for 25 years. The only way i handle it is to stay in my home 85% of the time. I only leave when I absolutely have too. I am too depressed and ashamed to go out in public. So thank you Kevin for saying what I can't. You are young and smart and can still live a life. Please try to get help and live a good life. I am 58 and time just keeps ticking away. God Bless You Kevin.

[@missnadial5174]

I absolutely loved everything about this speech! He is beyond brave for putting this out and shedding light on something that is a major issue in our society.

[@chridenner7806]

This is so impressive! I've been struggling with depression since I was a teenager. It is basically linked to heavy shyness and anxiety and I would never be able to give a speech like this. I almost lose my speech when being in an episode of depression.

[@michellebooker7765]

I felt like I could have stood in his place and said almost every single word. I have hope. I do. But I also have this disease and I'm so sick of trying to hide it. It affects everything and when people get too close and find out I feel like I have to uproot myself and start all over. I want to live life to the fullest. My thoughts are consumed with being the person that can change lives and being better. I know I'm supposed to love myself but I've never learned how and don't know where to start. Most people reading these comments can relate and for that I'm sad but I also love you all, because you get it and we, though often times feel alone, are in this same battle together. Keep fighting friends. Our loved ones will never understand and I've learned we can't expect them to. How could they? Just don't give up.

[@wavesurfer7284]

live suffered with depression for 4 years no end at sight yet, but when my mind allows I watch others talk, it helps to feel less alone. Charlie

[@petmeee]

The thing about being depressed is that you can't share it because you'll only get ignorance which is why you're depressed in the first place.

[@latoyadale5747]

True

[@baruchben-david4196]

Nam Dam No, being misunderstood isn't the cause of depression. Depression isn't a response to difficult situations. It is more accurate to say that clinical depression is a cause of being misunderstood.

[@aaronius4444]

God damn it this is the most relate-able speaker I've seen so far, If I tell my friends and parents I'm depressed they tell me "everyone goes through it" and "cheer up", it's it's so much fucking more than that, you can't just "cheer up" if you have depression, and no, "everyone" doesn't go through it, but TOO MANY go through it without anyone lending a helping hand. Depression is a massive problem that i just flat out ignored, and for me, I'm only 17 and I've looked at life in many different ways because of depression and although I haven't fully overcome it, I promise that pushing through the rough patches gives you the greatest feeling you can ever have

[@Lancym]

In real life and on the internet, I put on this mask of a guy that's happy and friendly, being random, all of that stuff. But when I get home and go to bed, or when I log off, I hated myself. I have memories of me going on websites like lostallhope and stuff, searching for ways to kill myself. And it's still happening.

[@Ropeadopeya]

I have found that a lot of my own depression seemed to stem from self obsession. Ever since I stopped obsessing about myself and my problems and instead focused my attention on the world and outside life it has never really returned.

[@chad4452]

O 'Muireadhaigh What makes you say that?

[@MandarinCat]

Ben Alexander How did you discover that? I would like to try discovering something like that if I can.

[@TT-fn1xb]

Works for some but not for others. That's why people in caring professions like doctors, nurses, teachers etc also struggle with depression and suicidal thoughts sometimes. When you start to believe life is meaningless and pointless it's hard to see purpose or a reason to continue. I focused a lot on others at one point in my life but all it did was defer the depression which had been longstanding. I'm glad nevertheless that the shift in your focus has allowed you freedom from depression.

[@elflakeador09]

Absolutely brilliant, showing strength way beyond his years, everything he says is so true, having being living with depression for the last 13 years he sums up exactly how it is.

[@feelthesounds325]

Thank you, Kevin, for being so brave. You have inspired me to keep on moving forward and facing my fears head on because I too suffer from depression. This was amazing, thank you!

[@mdowney9621]

You are a strong young man. After more than 40 years with depression, I could not have expressed myself as well as you.

[@73838814]

Once you start down the slippery slope of depression, it's hard to climb off of it. And sometimes you don't want to climb off of it.

[@capnsully]

Wise words from a fellow suffer, as you say, it is the stigma of having depression that is sometimes responsible for keeping us in the darkest places, as we are too afraid of what others think and in turn how that will make us feel. Thank you Kevin for standing up and making your voice heard. If more people can find the courage to do the same it will make a difference. Thank you.

[@hammieinvestigations5392]

Very brave. We need more open conversations on depression.

[@adventuresthruart2530]

What a moving and sincere talk on Depression. He is so brave, honest, and moved me to my core. I can't wait to show this video to my 10th grade Health class. I hope they are mature enough to take something away from this.

[@MrSocalreoking]

Thank you Kevin for articulating so well what we go through , our thoughts and how we long for others to understand with compassion.

[@debrahill2272]

You can be shining in brightness to others but living in darkness..It's OK to say you're not OK..Mental health is physical health...

[@MrFlamingpride]

This one is my favorite. I related so much. All of these quotes spoke to me, and made me tear up. Because I look down off the train platform every time I go to college and I hang my head low when I can't just step off. And unlike every other video on this site, this video made me go to my school's counseling center for help. I thank God that suicide isn't my only option.

[@Isabe1le]

What a beautifully eloquent man. I'm so glad he came out to talk about this.

[@mckenna799]

He's so real and raw and I love this and identity with him so much.

[@cindytarter8517]

I was clinically depressed and read the book Battlefield of the Mind. The information in this text helped me realize that I have control of my thoughts and decide which thoughts to keep and the ones to throw out and know the facts about who I am and that I'm blessed. And as he says going through it means there is a other side.

[@clairelovell6578]

6:55 He put it into words. This entire talk he's been doing that, but this part specifically is something I've been struggling with. I've been diagnosed with depression and have been on meds and whenever I forget to take them or go back into a depressive state, maybe I've been stressed and have forgotten to take my meds for a week (I'm 16, I don't have my life together yet), I go back into being numb or suicidal and wonder why I can't just "get through it" and make it stop. Why I'm normal on meds but I can't make myself be normal without them. Even if I considered it wishful thinking, which I hadn't yet, hearing someone else say that and then say it's procrastination, not a game plan, just made me understand. I never put that together before. I know this is from a while ago, but that just really helped me. It's hard to believe in a family with depression, in a friend group with depression, and being exposed to so much mental health awareness in media, no one has said this. Sorry, this was a bit long. I just wanted to express my gratitude and awe. Have a nice day/night, whoever you are.

[@mikolaykuka9759]

We don't see depression on social media because it is blocked and censored. This content is removed by social media! That is the problem when we can't talk about it

[@czr7j9]

I have had shocking anxiety and moderate depression and would not wish it on my worst enemy. It has taught me to value my life and appreciate the simple things like just being able to breath and never take anything for granted. But that comes once you start to feel better not while living in the nightmare.

[@maxbp101]

Thank you!

[@Sarahandbunny]

Im watching this and crying. I can't help but push my sadness away, because I tell my self bullshit that isnt true, saying I have this and that, so i cant be sad. Im tired of lying to myself, but I'm too scares to tell anyone. I've never been good at being honest, I don't know how to tell someone. Mostly because I don't what to say when they ask "Whats wrong?" Because I don't know how to say it, how to say who, and its tearing me apart. Im so glad to watch this and realise I'm not the only one

[@syyhkyrotta]

Very brave guy! Takes balls to talk about these things

[@valentinafangirling]

First TED talk ever that makes me cry, more people should be aware of this. Makes me proud I'm a survivor too

[@TheMicIsMyLover]

I don't think you should classify "real depression" based on a circumstantial idea that only if everything is going right that that is when the depression you feel is significant or a sign of it. "Real depression" can be triggered by a variety of things.

[@lightnightsky]

I agree, however many times it can be that case.

[@GracieM17]

Agreed, there is a stage of grief literally titled depression. Sometimes people stay stuck and it clings and develops by the trigger occurring.

[@TT-fn1xb]

Totally agree with you. To categorise depression as real or trivial means we minimise the suffering of some. Irrespective of the trigger or lack thereof, depression can kill.

[@tammyn3612]

Thank you Kevin for sharing your story. It takes courage to be vulnerable and truly authentic, and you did this publicly. THANK YOU!! I'm glad you didn't take those pills and you are here to help others and to help de-stigmatize what is so common in our world! To all those suffering with depression my heart goes out to you, I've been there and understand. May you find strength and inner peace...YOU matter!!

[@sparkandflame]

I hide behind a character.... I dont know how to speak what it is and I am crying now .... Evrey day I want to tell people I no hope in my self...... :( My mum will shout at me

[@ephemera...]

It sounds like you need someone safe to talk to. There are free online counseling services. www.7cups.com/ is one site, there are others. I haven't tried this one but others have liked it. Many countries also have crisis lines. I'm sorry your mum isn't more supportive but there are supportive people around, you just have to find them. I wish you all the best. : )

[@layslifestyle2265]

I'm willing to talk with you if you want to. Wait for your responce.

[@Buddharob23]

Excellent job Kevin. 19 years old and talking about that stuff. So brave.

[@Marcousse]

I'm so grateful I came across this video on youtube. I didn't know much about depression before but now I realize deeply that it has a devastating effect on an individual's life. Kevin truly spoke from his heart and some of the things he said felt so relatable: we all have our ups and downs, and sometimes it feels like nothing is worth it. But you are worth it, because you're a person with emotions, you have feelings and you're a living soul. So please don't give up on yourself, whoever is reading this. I promise you that it gets better, I know everybody says that but just hope it will eventually.. You contribute to the world by being in it, and if that's not enough for you, it's enough for the people who love you. Stay strong everyone

[@tuliotonheiro]

I may be working while listening to this, and not be a native american speaker, but the truth on those words made me shake... wow... I, myself, know those fellings. Had the same problem. Hope nobody gets the same troubles...

[@paulafowler5099]

Amazing young man. He speaks so well about this very important issue. My son has this as well, and he struggles every day....but he's a fighter and I'm so proud of him.

[@Nosey855]

God bless him! It takes a special type of person to come out and share their story. Luckily with the love of god, I am overcoming my depression. I understand how all of you feel. I pray for you all! God bless!

[@ihatelameusernames]

Fuckin spot on! This kid really hits the nail on this one and explains it all in a 11 min nuthshell. Kudos!

[@mjroseee]

I'm 14 and i suffer with mental health (depression, anxiety, bipolar etc.) its so hard to pretend that your okay when your not just because you don't want people thinking differently of you, you try to bottle it all up inside so no one will know but it makes it worse because you want someone to know and to help you but you don't want to seem needy and like your a attention seeker. I respect this guy so much for his strength and courage and I wish i could do the same!

[@sukeertisamaleimishra5641]

Every single statement he said resonates with something in me. When I first caught depression I thought I was the only one dealing with it and I thought I was alone. But people like him who're brave enough to talk about it make me feel we're in this together.

[@iwnunn7999]

Great voice.

[@mshell1959]

This might be the bravest most profound TED talk I have heard. Thank you!

[@anabogdan3601]

The honesty of the speaker is amazing, it's inspiring.

[@kousarh259]

I was thinking about why i told my friend about my depression this morning I'm suffering depression for 3 years... then I saw this video and I cried :( my family and my friends dont know anything about depression and I know noW that is my fault! I didn't talk to them clearly about my mental illness! they think I'm just sad about nothing or anything!but of course this is way more than that...

[@RaRa-Online]

Same here. :(

[@mathewarago98]

we are on the same boat me too i also suffering in depression for 3yrs i cannot know how can i do even my friends and family cannot understand me..

[@danpetcoff5752]

Good for you! Communication is key you will find that there are lots of compassionate people out there and the more you tell people about how you feel and why the better they will understand and can help make your dark days less dark. The ones that are intolerant and turn their back on you don't deserve to be in your life. I just went through this discovery with my son, like you he kept most of his feelings hidden because he didn't want to burden others or have them think less of him. Believe me its made a huge difference and while we are still working through the challenges we are at least doing it from a place of understanding and that helps! Your life is a gift make the most of it!

[@byroniac]

As one who has struggled with depression for as long as I can remember, this TED talk was not only refreshing but his words resonate with me. I have little faith in humanity, and the judgmental comments here serve only to reinforce that view. But this TED talk and the uplifting, supportive comments are therapeutic to my being and to others, I'm sure, especially those who suffer in silence with the stigma of a disease they cannot voice in a society which refuses to hear.

[@oneproudpappa]

Kevin, Thank You for your courage sir. Very well said.

[@samiblake]

All of this is true besides the fact that depression isn't if something went wrong, I had severe situational depression which means that something happened and I became depressed. You can overcome situational depression not sure about other types.

[@firatparlak1]

You can overcome all types of depression, some are harder than others

[@MsMeowzerz]

+Sami situational depression is basically exactly what it says. its depression like SYMPTOMS caused by something in your life (aka the grieving process after losing a loved one or being in a financially unstable) this usually acts like depression but its a natural response to things going on in your life. It can be dealt with by support of your peers until time passes and whatever process of symptoms you're going through goes away. clinical depression is the depression that he's talking about. the kind that's caused by a malfunction in the brain, its an illness. its not caused by anything so you can't wait for time to pass for it to go away. the difference is with situational depression you're just feeling the symptoms of depression in a normal response to problems in your life, with clinical depression your brain is actually sick and you can't usually overcome it without medical treatment

[@samiblake]

+Francis Bonnefoy you brain is actually sick if you have situational depression

[@MsMeowzerz]

you can consider it one, but its short term and usually much easier to overcome because a lot of people can just do it on their own. doctors call it adjustment disorder, its just having adverse reactions to an event. with clinical depression there are physical imbalances in the brain

[@SDBR]

+Sami He's referring to clinical depression, which is very different from situational depression. Situational depression is natural and happens to nearly everyone at some point in their life when they lose a job, or a loved one. That's acceptable by society because people can relate to having "bad days" due to something tragic, or not being happy with their current situation. However, there's a stigma about people with clinical depression because like he said, it happens even when everything is going good in your life, and a lot of other people don't understand why someone would feel "down" or depressed at a time like that.

[@enols20]

This is incredible. Such a difficult topic to talk about that we need to talk about.

[@beckyweaver5981]

Wow, What a great speaker. It takes a lot of courage to get up there and say all that and he articulated the problem better than almost anyone I’ve ever heard. I hope he’s doing well today.

[@user-oj3iw1us7p]

Thank you, Kevin, for speaking out not just for yourself but for me and for millions of others. What you said is so true. The first time I sought help for my lifelong depression was when I was 36 years old. I went to my doctor and said, "I have a husband I love, the career of my dreams, wonderful family and friends, a beautiful home, and I want to die." I've had good times and bad since then but I keep fighting!

[@FlubbersQuid]

Following with the context of this video I would just like to comment with my own confession. I have struggled with depression for many years now, and I've come to the point when I've passed the point of wanting to commit suicide or end suffering with alternative means. I know it never has been an option for me even thou I've probably thought about it close to every day since at least 4 years back. I've always had a tendancy to struggle with my stronger emotions and at the same time I've got a very logical way of thinking. I twist and turn on every dark thought for days, weeks or even longer and most of the time I find no solution to what makes me unable to express emotion, pain, sadness or anything at all. I should be so simple right? Just to let it out and empty your sorrow from your own self. But for me it has never worked, as if noone heard what I just told them. As if what I know is true about myself is not an exceptable truth for others. So how do you make depression acceptable to those who do not see the same reality as you?

[@syd2001]

+FlubberSquid Do you mind if I converse with you about this farther while sharing my story with you?

[@dopehat868]

FlubberSquid Maybe the biggest issue here could be your own judgments on yourself even more than the judgments of others upon you? I could genuinely be completely wrong, just a thought.

[@extremelucky1]

No matter how much you accomplish in life, accepting and loving yourself is one of the fundamentals of being happy. That was one of the first things my therapist really wanted me to do on my journey which I didn’t understand at the time but I do now.

[@bigj651]

It's a shame because I know many people, and past ex's who have just looked at me blankly when I've told them about my anxieties and depression. Usually then leading with some anger and "oh I'm fine why can't you be!?" And the usual ignorance.

[@ruru6374]

I'm proud of this kid. The courage it takes. He's not the best spoken person but he still did his best. Some of these comments show exactly why he thinks depression isn't seen as a serious subject in our society. Its true that depression can come from genetically or from chemical imbalance. Anyone can have depression regardless of how well your life goes. Its the feeling of hating who you are and being so unmotivated about life that it's a struggle to finish any small task.

[@alliekuma4234]

This is how I have felt for over 20 years and a huge struggle I am experiencing right now. It's very frustrating but I always fight back. : ) I believe in happiness ♥ Don't give up everybody!

[@gigagerard]

Don't stand together, run together! ;-)

[@SteveHoover69]

I am depressed too. For 23 years I never knew what it was like to simply smile just cause I was happy. Now I can. It never fully goes away but it can get better every body needs someone to talk to :) I love that you did this. thank you

[@johnjarou2357]

boy, this guy hits it right on the head. just how I feel.

[@ghooloo]

bravo Kevin! I suffer from depression. We will do it together. You spoke my heart brother.

[@A_Salted_Fishe]

Jesus Christ Kevin, you've put such good words to depression and are completely right about speaking up about it. Online communities especially can be so negative and frankly cancerous

[@balisto1566]

i love you,kevin. this means a lot to me

[@tonythomas5153]

I always thought it was someone else's family this happened to but this young man sounds just like my son Jordon had Jordon not taken his life. Please please talk about mental illness so it's in the open and out there. It hurts so very much to lose someone so great. Let this generation rid the stigma and ignorance. Love you.

[@sanara77]

I went to go see Kevin Breel speak and he is amazing he is over coming depression.

[@blazehussey5226]

Thank you for this ... it needs to be talked about alot of people dont understand it at all.

[@oneshot2375]

as much as I hate some of the places, some of the parts of my life depression has dragged me down to, in a lot of ways I'm grateful for it because yeah, it's put me in the valleys, but only to show me there's peaks, and yeah it's dragged me through the dark but only to remind me there is light

[@k3n235]

I'm 16 and have had depression since I was 14, and these talks really help me

[@janiriaspowerfulvoicepodca69]

Wow one of the best documented problems and least discussed. That hit me hard.

[@damilla1958]

Thanks for your advice. Listening does seem to be the most effective type of support in most situations. I think my friends know that they can talk to me about anything in complete confidence. As a father, it is tough to listen without trying to fix everything, but over time I have learned to simply listen. I guess my point is that I could be standing next to someone who is suffering and not have a clue. That is heart-breaking to me.

[@seonjamie3059]

I was first depressed at the age of eight. At the time, I didnt knoe what it was. I lived with it for four years before realizing what was happening. When I couldn't get out of bed. couldn't smile. I didn't express anything really. and because that's what my life had been for four years at such a young age, everyone thought it was normal. Once I realized what was going on (in my third year) it took me an extra year to help myself. nobody knew about it around me, I refused to tell anyone. I didnt want to be a bother, to worry anyone else. I like this man came close to suicide, multiple times and even harmed myself throughout this battle. I don't know how, but for a year I beat it. I lived as a normal person, and suddenly its like someone slipped glasses onto my eyes, turned on a light. The happiness... it was wonderful. Depression invaded my life once more when I was fourteen and this time it had no reason. it wasn't disabling like the time before, so i left it. I allowed my depression to grow and tear at me, the cloud looming overhead, raining, not yet thundering. I felt that the rain was fine, but I was so wrong. depression no matter to form or intensity really effects a person. I wish i had felt it was okay to tell someone. to het help. to admit that I was sad and have someone there for me. In covered in scars as reminders to this stigma society holds, but no longer do i let it rain. On my own i became Zeus, ruler of the sky. No longer do I allow clouds. If only others could be their Zeus. If Only I could have always been the sky god.