How You Can Support a Loved One Through Cancer | Diane Thomas | TEDxEustis

[@carpediem8752]

To those who have a family member or a friend with cancer,.just be there, no judgement, no pity, be patient, be kind... Just be there for them.

[@aletaMuheua]

@@carpediem8752 thank you it's not a easy journey sometimes I cry to god alot but I never show him that I feel pity for him ...my partner is having leukemia

[@ana-zb7ix]

Thank you. I’m trying to learn how to act or say or not act or not say for my father. A tough man I saw cry for the first time in my life that I can remember. Today we got bad news that it spread to his bones. And he’s sad, I can see it even though he doesn’t say anything (he won’t, ever) and I don’t know how to act or not act.

[@WordUnheard]

I found out last month that I have a glioma brain tumor. Two weeks ago, I was informed that the biopsy revealed that it is a grade 4 glioblastoma, and that I have a year, at the most. When I first found out I had a brain tumor, with the strong possibility of it being cancerous, my "friends" and family acted all supportive. They would tell me, "Oh, we need to get together next week!" or "Do you want to do something (insert day of the week here)?" Time and time again, I would either get an excuse as to why they couldn't meet up with me, or they simply ignored me. I'm dying, and the people I thought were close to me treat me as though I'm already dead. I'm not afraid to die. The only thing that scares me is the thought of leaving my baby girl without a dad, and without emotional and financial support. She doesn't deserve to lose her daddy at such a young age. I don't deserve to be treated as if I'm already dead. Most people turn into heartless monsters, when they find out you're dying. If I didn't have my daughter, I would have already killed myself. But I would never do that to her. If you know someone with cancer, a simple phone call or an invitation to dinner would mean the world to them. No one with cancer deserves to be shunned and ignored.

[@sayss4611]

I am so sorry to know that friends started to avoid you instead of helping

[@rosehartstudio]

This makes me so sad. I've faced the same with my terminal cancer diagnosis last year. Sending you strength and Angel hugs. 💖💖💖

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Rosehart Studio prayers for you🙏

[@rosehartstudio]

@@calebosbourne9677 thank you. My angels are with me and my treatment is working. I'm working within on many things but it tough with so much going on but I'm trying my best as the four agreements recommend and I am desperately trying not to take it personally as well. I think facing englightenment with a full plate is how I'm supposed to roll. 😊💖👼

[@valerierobertson8303]

Thank you 🙏 I am sorry your friends are unskilled how to be with your cancer. Much love and prayers.

[@ohyouresotough0]

Thank you. As a person battling cancer for the second time we need to have these conversations. ❤️

[@bayaryan7942]

Cancer? I haven't had a decent fight in a while

[@ZeeshanAkram1976]

May the lord keep u in his protection

[@henryplays6251]

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@Dzanarika1]

@@henryplays6251 oh, another jesus beater!

[@vanessadu9216]

To all the friends who want to support, do not judge, it is better to just listen, offer helps needed without them asking and give a hug. When I found out my mom has ALL leukemia, my husband tried to comfort me by saying my mom's type of cancer's survival rate is high. I know he had good intention but I feel absolutely isolated when I heard what he said. Cause when you make a judgement like that, I feel you are saying "OK, this is no biggie. So you can handle it on your own". Also, later on I read a paper and found out that my mom's leukemia's survival rate is only 10%( cause she is over 50 years old and has ph+). So do not judge even if you thought it is "good news"! Be patient, be kind, take actions to care, not just sit there and say "Let me know if you needs help".

[@Just2SistersSeekingJoy]

As a mom of a cancer survivor… I cannot thank you enough for sharing this! Such good information we are working so hard to help others now who have to walk the same walk, thank you for this content!

[@amyjacquelineg.9541]

Thank you. Great talk. I’m calling my friend now to ask what day I can bring dinner. And will lay off the medical focus!

[@pinco_pallo]

Was it a good idea?

[@heathisul]

Thank you. I struggle a lot with the topic of process in relation to family. I don’t like the conspiracy of silence or the ghosting. I prefer to discuss my cancer and health, it helps me process and I want to advocate everywhere I can.

[@Julie-si3hi]

Best talk I've heard as a support to my husband, I learnt a lot from this x the ground still shifting is an explanation that totally makes sense.

[@Cozy_cardboard_box]

I recently found out my boyfriend has cancer, i just want to know how to be there for him because i love him with all my heart. He is the best boyfriend ever and he deserves the world.

[@christopheradam6967]

Wow.. really sorry, you must be overwhelmed with emotions. When you visit him (especially in hospital), make a nice joke at the start, then use the beginning to listen to him, then take him for a walk or a little wheelchair adventure meeting other patients and take him outside so he can see birds and children. Tell him in a calm voice, 2 or 3 funny stories about your day. Always bring a gift, no matter what it is, even a fancy bottle water will be super sweet.

[@christopheradam6967]

And create a visit plan, with notes, topics of conversation written, you’ll be suprised how easy you’ll forget it things. it will also double as a diary for you.

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[@estoyaqui5386]

Thank you for sharing your story and your hints of how to approach close ones affected by cancer. Just thank you.

[@bayaryan7942]

Cancer? I need a good fight

[@mooskamoo]

What a great talk and a beautiful woman. My brother was recently diagnosed with brain cancer and it’s so hard to navigate with the family and obviously himself. This really helped.

[@valerierobertson8303]

Thank you, it is very helpful to know to offer help in a way that will be not overwhelming.

[@nouhabhy3067]

Be patient. Give them options. Treat them for who they are not what they got.

[@scottelrod1733]

Great talk. Life is always changing and it is awesome to see you thriving in the face of challenges and change. I really took away some solid points, not just about talking cancer but in dealing with life in general. Don't forget the Flipper's double cheese and green bell peppers as an very occasional treat. Best to you and family.

[@alexandramurphy-l6p]

This made me feel so much better about my mom going through chemotherapy ❤️ thank you.

[@mjanusic]

Excellent and well addressed topic. I suffer from chronic autoimmune disease and can totally relate to the subject and I think your suggested discussion points can fit to other diseases as well, not just cancer.

[@bayaryan7942]

Are you turning to stone?

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[@henryplays6251]

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@iSheree]

I have chronic autoimmune diseases as well as many other chronic health conditions and disabilities. I agree with you. I have cancer now and it’s no different for me…

[@surfer610]

I got full thyroidectomy. Radiation therapy is undergoing. Motivation is what makes me keep going.

[@Ijustwantthepainover]

hey, how are you?

[@flordgold356]

Wonderful! Practical and to the point. I agreed cancer is a process that may last many years. The treatment. Chemotherapy and/or Radiotherapy and other adjuvants have horrific side effects and complications also depend of the individual own body and chronic conditions. Worthy!

[@lli_loue]

thank you for this incredible lesson ... of have heart failure and just got a transplant. its the same mechanism for people suffering from serious chronic illness. people have no idea how to react to illness ... and sometimes we are expecting things they don’t actually know how to give. it’s really hard not to judge them badly for it, but I try as hard as I can. thank you for also addressing the question of is jeter people’s struggles, I keep on telling my friends « it’s not a competition » but it’s hard for them to understand that we actually want to hear about their everyday struggles and victories, just as we used to.

[@iSheree]

Completely agree. I was born disabled and over the years I have developed other chronic health issues. Now I have cancer but I am being treated no different than before. No one knows how to react… not saying they’re bad people though. ❤ Hope you are doing well.

[@EnglishVirgo]

Cancer is something that I would never wish on anybody. I fought it myself, as did many of my loved ones. It also stole way too many good people from my life. It sure as heck sorts out your fake friends. So many can't run out of your life fast enough.

[@carpediem8752]

I still dont.understand why they run away, ignore you when you are sick and vulnerable. That happened to me and it was hard.

[@EnglishVirgo]

@@carpediem8752 A lot of people are fair weather friends, sadly. I'm sorry that you went through it all. I hope that you are doing okay now.

[@arteblack13]

The blessing is that you find out who cares about you. I went through this myself. It does hurt though.

[@EnglishVirgo]

@@arteblack13 Yes indeed you do. I see it as the thing that opened up my eyes to people and their motives, so I'm grateful.

[@henryplays6251]

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@JoeShawWriter]

Diane is amazing!

[@uneceriseaupotager4952]

You helped me so much with your advice, thanks, I wish you the best!

[@strikingeffectspromo]

Thank you Diane! Love you, Vicki

[@Charmingchan_]

My boyfriend was diagnosed with lymphoma at the end of November & is about to be done with his last round of chemo. I wish I had known some of these things because I know I made mistakes or didn’t support him in the way he needed.

[@arteblack13]

I'm a recent survivor myself of throat cancer. You really do care, you just didn't know how to express it. Many people in my life were like that. I don't hold it against them. Cancer is an extreme and personal issue both for the patient and loved ones. Remember, we don't have to be perfect. Bless your kind heart.

[@henryplays6251]

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@henryplays6251]

@@arteblack13 For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@paulahader2676]

Thank you very much for sharing!

[@HuberPhotography]

I wish people would understand that every cancer is different. Don't think that you know because you had cancer....My treatment is VERY different than others. I'm unable to work, I require home health care for over a week after each infusion. I need help going to the bathroom and eating. I have 14 months of this, in addition radiation and multiple surgeries. Just because you had cancer doesn't mean you know what another person with cancer is going through. So happy for those who had a simple lumpectomy and went back to work, I wish that was me but it's not.

[@christaylor8337]

I hope you are doing well.

[@EC-yd9yv]

So true... Can be said for many illness. . 🕊️🌸🙏

[@cocoa105]

Phenomenal message.

[@sabrinacici1]

Since I knew I have cancer.. I didn't have peace.. alot of confusion problems from my home.. it have been more then a year now.. I feel I want to leave everything.. no mercy on this world.

[@aletaMuheua]

Keep fighting dear don't give up ....and trust in god

[@alexyssmiley3010]

This was extremely helpful!

[@Vincelen]

This is inspiring. Thank you so much 🙏

[@luciusjohnson384]

Going through this now with mom i try to not bring up the cancer talk so much just act regular laugh joke etc sometimes talking about it all the time is draining

[@Survivingthematrix1]

I needed this ted talk tonight ❤

[@Michaelmclachlan66]

Thank you for the talk x

[@Promiseland-i7n]

My father passed from stomach and throat cancer it still hurt its only been 4 month 😢 im so depressed 😔 😞 and miss him dearly i told him i love him evey day til the last day 2/17/2024

[@waldemarpalomo]

My mom passed away from cancer ovarian cancer. And my neighbor is best friend I started to know more his mom and later she was diagnostics. With cancer and she beat it and it came back I tell her if u ever need anything ask if u need to go do ur appointments we don’t know how long we are gonna live 😢

[@BaseSRKI]

A nice option to see how I can help, for real. It is still So hard

[@user-woo-liu-jio-999]

Well said

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Word to your mother sweety

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[@Avb53]

I didn’t want her to stop talking

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Ty

[@bayaryan7942]

Cancer? Good. I haven't had a good fight in a while.

[@celineboy-d3u]

What causes cancer?

[@Rohan-yu1bb]

Carcinogen agents

[@whitewizard7514]

I believe it to be caused by irregularities in dna after being replicated improperly, normally after being replicated a great amount of times, causing uncontrolled rapid cell division.

[@dotjason8087]

It's a matter of chance, mostly. But smoking, drinking and bad eating habits increase the chances drastically. And by "drastically" I mean that some cancer types develop multiple times more often. But the chances are still very low.

[@dotjason8087]

@@whitewizard7514 that's a perfectly valid answer, but I don't think that was the point of the question)

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[@henryplays6251]

For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

[@MICHAELTULE-ok8mn]

Hi god

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[@bayaryan7942]

Damn these comments are full of sad and/or weak . When god pulls your card it's time dont be afraid

[@rosehartstudio]

No it's not full of sad and weak people. All spirituality teaches kindness, compassion and unconditional love without JUDGEMENT. We create our own karma through cause and affect of our actions, thoughts and words. Toltec wisdom teaches the four agreements the first of which states we must be impeccable with our words. We should not use them against ourselves or others as we do ourselves a disservice. My nan always said if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it. Freedom of speech does not excuse ignorance, bad manners or poor keyboard equiette. We are all part of one concious collective here to learn our karmic lessons in life. When the creator throws us a challenge we get to choose our mindset and how we proceed through freewill, making peace with it. And we take away from it, grow and learn. I absolutely know my angels, the divine, ancestors and spirit guides are protecting me and will be there when it's my time, because they answered my prayers. I have no fear of death, no one should, its just the beginning. But I also had to go through this to show people there's no such word as terminal. Because I am healing, blessed, miracle, Destiny? yes, or maybe we have the answers within us to heal. Death and rebirth. Death is a stripping away of all that is not you, so that you may become your authentic self and the person you were destined to be. To become awake to the illusion that is the plain in which we exist. The secret to life is to die before you die. And not be so full of ego and drama that we think we can possibly have all the answers and comprehend the meaning of our existence. May you find peace, love and kindness in your heart and may you be blessed with discernment. 'Judge not lest, ye be judged'. To judge another person shows pride. Only God knows what is in a person's heart and the effort it takes to function there. Let us stop passing judgement on one another. Instead make up your mind, not to put any stumbling block or obstacle in the way of a brother or sister.

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[@lli_loue]

wow ... how can anyone be so full of hate ? must be grueling for you.

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For God so loved the world, that He gave His only begotten Son, so that everyone who believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.

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