Healing Adult Survivors of Child Abuse | Fire-Brown | TEDxGreenville

[@MrAtbillings]

The worst pain is when it hits you 30 years later when you've lived a life thinking, 'this has never happened to me'

[@crystald8465]

Yes

[@daritykane7]

Yes it hit me 15 years later when I was triggered and had a nightmare reliving my scene. Made me wanna shut up even more cause it's been so long why am I not over it but God is so good and has definitely helped me through this

[@EC-yd9yv]

🙏💙.....same here. Family turned on me and became closer w my abuser who is old enough to be my father....idk which pain is worse, abuse or the family betrayal and abandonment that continues😥

[@shivangisharma354]

I agree. Hope you are doing better now .

[@EC-yd9yv]

@@shivangisharma354 thx...a def work in progress.🙏

[@aleee9214]

When she said trust your memories, I broke down crying. till this day I question my self and my memories.

[@elizabetyang8808]

I cried as well. The scariest part for me... Is knowing that my memories are real.

[@jvo444]

Me too.

[@sharonlee8719]

Me too

[@Manifestwithmegan]

Same.

[@Antpeople1]

The Aunt who told her to keep the child sex abuse a secret was as bad as an abuser

[@Hannah-hg7xr]

There are ppl who after listening to your experience can abuse you... Its very important to know to whom you open up !!!

[@weknowuknow9405]

Very true

[@carrotkitten_3712]

... or even worse.

[@Antpeople1]

@@carrotkitten_3712 Yes

[@aditijha5527]

My mother did absolutely nothing after knowing my abuse story... I am constantly trying to forgive her but I can't-

[@israrkarim65]

Tell the truth even if your voice shakes.

[@jac1161]

Always have, always will! And because of my own, I'm a strong advocate for others!

[@hayleyzion9218]

I told and nothing happened

[@duermedespierto]

@@hayleyzion9218 I hate that nothing happened when you told. I hope you are well and wish you peace of mind.

[@vincescuadrado]

I told my family a couple of months ago... they still saying they dont believe it.... doest matter i know what happened and now I am free

[@kimsmith819]

I spoke my truth to my husband and his response was "well I didn't have anything to do with it ". I told him after he kinda pushed himself on me but not in an abusive way. However he did it, it gave me like a huge flashback of my childhood days.

[@melliethemua7388]

I was molested almost on a daily basis from the age of 10-14. I’m 23 & I’m still suffering. I’ve lost a lot of friendships, suffered from addiction, gotten in trouble with the law. Please get help. I’m still learning how to heal, but I’ll hopefully be as strong as this woman eventually.

[@melliethemua7388]

@Brother Andrew 444 Thank you. ❤️

[@EC-yd9yv]

💜🙏

[@Eric-tj3tg]

I'm so sorry for what you went through. I wish you to reach your goals in spite of such a difficult overcome...you CAN do it.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@starring.sydney]

💛💛💛💛

[@mrbigbigtoe]

I have no excuses with any babies of mine. I survived childhood abuse, and since I’ve experienced it, I know what it looks, feels, and sounds like. If my children (who don’t exist yet) are treated like I was, I deserve death before they are born. I will not fail any child of mine in the way in which my father failed me.

[@AbolishFamilyCourt]

I'm so sorry!! Sadly, the system covers up CSA every day

[@CarmenElRose]

Thank you

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@kiara853]

@@ryu7964 I was abused emotionally and physically by my parents, and I took the decision of suing them, it's hard, because it seems like they love me, but it is in a material way, I have never received any support from them. I lost 2 friends because they manipulated me, so I stopped talking to them, no one in my family wants to help me. With abusers, words mean nothing, I think the only thing you can do is report the child abuse. It is a very hard decision, but the longer you wait the worse it will get for your nieces, there are a lot of resources, so you should research a little. If you can, you should convince your nieces that you are trying to help them. Hopefully this helps.

[@ryu7964]

@@kiara853 Thank you so much for your advice. I can really feel your pain. I didn't experience the same as you, but you have my compassion. I was having thoughts about doing this. Reporting the child abuse. I just don't know how to go about it, because I live in Germany and my nieces in New Jersey, USA. I don't know who to reach in this situation. But if I do some research on it I may find a way through some resources as you mentioned. Perhaps a station to call. I know that it gets worse for my nieces and I can't take it because I care for my nieces. Thank you so much for this again. I wish you heal and have healed to a good degree already. All the best to you. ❤️☯️🙂

[@Bluelinechevy82]

I'm 40 years old and the abuse I was put through when I was a child still effects me to this day.

[@alexandergomez0327]

It wasn’t your fault….. I am sorry this happened but to you. To us.

[@justinplaysguitar]

I turned 40 3 days ago and yes still affects me more so now cause I got sobered up I have ptsd from the way as well so I numbed well I don’t numb anymore so I have all this war stuff but then also my child ll abuse mine was physical he abused my mom to my first memory is him beating her her screaming later learned he had a gun to her head she got some reason married him and was with him thr next 14 years he never touched her again so I got it he was there 24/7 she worked. He did it in front of her so why does she think he wouldn’t when she left I try not to blame her but I wonder why she didn’t help me she took his side but when he did it to my sister once she left we moved. Now if I bring it up she shrinks I’m attacking her when I say I understand and don’t blame her

[@gardeniacampos342]

I trusted an aunt and told her about my abuse and she didn’t want to believe it because she had this person in a high pedestal to this day my whole family believes I’m a liar and made this story up. But my God knows. ☝🏼 I have my daily struggles but God is my healer. There is hope and you can break those chains I am now happily married and have very if any minimal contact with my family and I’m very happy this way. It gets lonely sometimes but we are never truly alone.

[@luisrosario363]

Wishing you all the best from a fellow survivor. You did the right thing by disassociating yourself from those nonbelievers. May God continue to bless you with strength and wisdom.

[@gaiaswildchildtarot]

It's the worst when it's someone in your family. I'm in the middle of dealing with this. I've thought about just cutting everyone off who doesn't believe me but it's so hard. I am glad you are thriving. Gives me hope.

[@caramelenaxoxo7703]

Amen sister I'm so glad you were able to break from those chains. God worketh all things together for good. However it is painful and hard. I am still learning to grieve what happended to me. I pray we all heal.

[@anonymouslyazalea]

I’m 16 Ans my mom kicked me out over a man it’s hard I’m trying to get over it but it’s hard

[@beetlejamie8065]

@@anonymouslyazalea I’m so so sorry to hear it Azalea. I wish peace & healing for you, in time. ❤️‍🩹

[@luciebourdouxhe3807]

It takes so long to heal.. I'm 33 and still struggling with it. The only thing I can do , is to keep breathing, hoping that oneday I'll wake up and this will all just be a bad memory.

[@jbgem82]

I'm 37 this year and I'm stuck.

[@enre2023]

True....

[@sammuller3060]

true

[@noemiebiniakounou1434]

I am 30 its still a struggle from me it take so long.. It has a huge impact on my relationships..

[@donnamariaananda7829]

Yes...it took so long for heal...its a long live learning. Keep strong n health.

[@ScholarlyAmbitions]

thank you from another survivor

[@kimsmith819]

Definitely, Thank you

[@vvv70v]

May god bless you. I love you!

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@tsampson38]

I'm a survivor of physical child abuse. All I wanted was to have a dad that was proud of me, but I got beat down and told I was never going to amount to anything. I refused to believe anything he told me. I've never been to jail, beat on my daughter, joined the military and served my country overseas twice and now I drive truck and still serve in the military. My healing has just begun and I'm not going back!!!

[@naturewitch8687]

😥

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@reneeoleari]

Keep going! You are not alone. I was abused by father - and am female. It's really painful - I cannot imagine abusing a daughter like he did to me / he's really sick. There is no hope for reconciliation.

[@christinadickson311]

Big hug

[@Cheryl_Frazier]

You are here for a reason, special, important, and loved just because you're you. You have experiences that not everyone has had, and can help support others who are going through the same thing. ~all the best!!

[@Autumn66614]

I told my family about all the things my grandfather used to try to do and they said "We know, he did it when we were kids." ,,,,HOW?? HOW IS THIS MONSTER NOT IN PRISON?????

[@googleaccount4488]

@movingonandup773 same

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@blueheartless36]

I'm sorry you went through that and that no one protected you.

[@BenicioW2011]

I kept it a secret until I was a late teen and when I told my mom she didn’t do anything to help me, didnt get me into therapy… that made me feel even more like I was unworthy of healing and love.

[@elishebasutherland2920]

Regardless of anyone's actions you ARE worthy of healing and love. Pursue it, find it, have it and live it. Love yourself even if they don't love you. God is good, He's with you, He loves you. Find your peace, free yourself and live your life.

[@BenicioW2011]

@@elishebasutherland2920 thank you. I am on the path. I plan on starting therapy soon, just trying to find the right one. I’m 45 now and just now starting to see how my childhood trauma affected my whole life

[@omanafire]

When I share my story it is as if I am physically burdening the people who listen. I am empathetic toward their empathy... as if they have to go through my pain and feel my hurting, so I hurt for them. I don't know if I am alone, but this emotional feedback loop has always prevented me from really sharing with anyone who is supposed to be able to help.

[@forestparkinsonmearns4928]

I completely understand what you mean. I end up feeling extremely guilty, far too much to tell people. I’ve recently properly told someone about abuse in my teen years, and spent about a quarter of the time profusely apologising for ‘wasting their time’ or ‘burdening them’. Every single time they reassured me that it was nothing like that, and it would never be a waste of time to them etc. It’s best to tell people who you know would be there for someone else who had experienced that. If they’d do it for another friend of theirs, they’d likely do it for you. Most importantly - you choose who you speak to. You don’t have to tell people if you don’t want to. If you do want to, tell someone you trust and know that it would never be a burden on them. It can be hard to push past the guilt, but it can be done. I wish you luck, friend :)

[@Lady-Carmakazi]

@@forestparkinsonmearns4928 never feel guilty for reaching out for help Most human beings are good hearted and genuinely want to help your not a burden and you've done nothing wrong. Hold you head high you are loved

[@forestparkinsonmearns4928]

carmakazi84 thank you so much. I really needed that. Thank you

[@sheanesmith4080]

CitizenLach you said that so well. I have never fully shared because of the same reactions.

[@gaiaswildchildtarot]

We are those who says sorry for every little thing because we know pain. I understand.

[@cobbleshoeselfwood8892]

We can overcome. We can heal. Someone's cruelty does not define us. Sometimes the abuser was abused when they were kids and we feel sorry for them and think we have to protect the abuser who suffered when they were kids, but that's not our job. It isn't our job to be the therapist for the person who abused us. It isn't up to us to help them heal. It's our job to heal ourselves and to make sure we don't hurt others or ourselves. Maybe we can forgive the person who abused us but forgiveness does not mean reconciliation. Sometimes we'll never get closure. We'll never know why. Sometimes we'll never get an apology. But we can still heal; we don't need closure from the person or people who hurt us. We might never know why and we might never be able to make the abuser understand how their actions harmed us. But we can know. And we can nurture ourselves. We must be very careful not to let anyone shame us; we are not bad because people were bad to us. Peace. :)

[@Mrg524]

❤️

[@Butterflygirl327]

❤️

[@Mely365]

Thank you!

[@Hannah-hg7xr]

We were not bad because ppl were bad to us!! This is so deep.. In India victim shaming and blaming is so cruel.. Victims suffer humiliation while abusers don't face anything !!!

[@rozzeyb.3350]

Thank you. Even though I found this two years later, this statement holds timeless truth

[@LonelyRider87]

"Don't say you understand cause you don't." THANKYOU.

[@wywardmoose]

More and more recently.. I finally find I'm not alone. That people suffer from mental illnesses because of childhood abuse.. This seriously makes me feel better, that I'm not alone, and that I know it..

[@kevcurtis8392]

Hi , it's a terrible thing & ur not alone, dnt ever talk down to yourself in ur head, all t the best

[@duramirez]

It's not better that we are many, it is worse IMO, i wish no one else felt what i am feeling. :(

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@kathrynmorrison4336]

I am 70 and still trying to fix my “broken parts” from neglect and abuses. I try to walk away from them but they follow me.

[@bonezbaaaby]

We are finally finding true family with one another, because we were sold a fraud and imposter and told "But it's family."

[@tmystery9505]

One day I'll confront my parents with what they've done to me. One day

[@meepcity48]

T Mystery, Same, but i'm scared that they'll act like it again if I bring it up. I don't want to ruin the barely existing relationship I managed to make with them.

[@gregrhodes2171]

You deserve better relationships.

[@TouchoftheTism420]

Chances are they will just gaslight you and tell you that nothing of the sort ever happened.

[@SplashAttackTCG]

I’m scared to confront them because all I can see is me snapping his neck.

[@krissygirl333]

Good luck, my mom is gone, she died, my dad is in denial... but down deep , he knows. He doesn’t want to say anything bad about her because shes dead. Totally ridiculous, and showing no regard for my feelings and the decades of pain I’ve been thru and my siblings. I have nothing more to say to him, but I forgive him because God forgives me. I do pray you talk to them and heal.

[@msfirebrown]

Thanks I'm often left with "should I speak up and share this"?Today, more than a year since the Talk, I'm just reading these "Comments". Never before had I been able to hear the feedback (expecting it to be harsh or negative).However, now that I'm finally reading them, I am moved, touched and inspired By All of You!Thanks so much for hearing my voice and for being the voice.

[@omanafire]

When I share my story it is as if I am physically burdening the people who listen. I am empathetic toward their empathy... as if they have to go through my pain and feel my hurting, so I hurt for them. I don't know if I am alone, but this emotional feedback loop has always prevented me from really sharing with anyone who is supposed to be able to help.

[@dellablair8514]

CitizenLach I completely and 100% hear you, as this has been my experience too.

[@maria44688]

@@omanafire I really feel this. I've been thinking about being more open with my friends, but then I think about how it would make them feel to hear any of it and I decide not to say anything.

[@KarmasAbutch]

Most of my friends or chosen family shut me down because it hurt them to hear it... but where does that leave me... having to be responsible for their comfort levels by shutting it down, while still having to live with it every minute of every day... in silence.

[@jrmckim]

Thank you for sharing your story

[@Solidude4]

4 minutes in and already this is the best talk on child abuse I have watched yet. It's so hard to find people who can TRULY relate and are speaking from experience and you can tell. My suffering from my childhood trauma is destroying me...so many issues, and now it's all I can do to keep watching videos like this to look for some hope. Thank you Fire-Brown for sharing your story, it just goes to show me the importance of not being ashamed to share mine.

[@nadineo1983]

I'm in the same boat. I'm frozen in time because of the effects of childhood trauma

[@alexbotsama7086]

You shouldn't be afraid to share your story. Just make sure to tell people who care about you and will actually listen. Being vulnerable and talking about your experience with the right people helps. My father is an abusive alcoholic. I've been away from my family of origin since 23. I'm 33 now and still dealing with it. Who has helped me the most with this? My friends - or whom I like to think of as my family of choice.

[@susanking7012]

I'm now 65 I took my abuser to court I also have been hospitalised but caused great rift in the immediate family I still suffer with anxiety and depression

[@duramirez]

True

[@jessicaschwab7485]

I was molested by my own father. And 28 years later I’m still trying to finally come to terms with it and to fight through it.

[@breaknoff_apiece-levijones6454]

20 years later and after 10 years of alcoholism and addiction I'm finally sober and have spoke my truth that I've been burying for years . I thank God everyday for telling my truth

[@aleee9214]

I will get back what was STOLEN from me. My innocence😔😣

[@junekafaltiya4514]

True

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!.. ❤️☯️🙂

[@molara7607]

The hardest scar to heal 😢 I’m 41 and still struggling

[@mitchelljames1069]

I'm 47 and struggling

[@fanuluiciorannr1xd212]

Here . Have a hug 🤗

[@zalsalmi]

Mo Lara hi dear soul , you can try ayahasca it heals trauma

[@annahennessey6999]

And I am 52 and realize that while I have worked through so much and come to a better place, there is still some lingering unconscious self-sabotage so common to those of us who struggle with our worth after being so misused and damaged.

[@naomievlahogeorge7958]

46 here and lived through this from 6-18. You are not alone. I love you and you did not deserve this. Each day I try and tell myself the same - I love myself and I did not have the capability to stop my abuser as a 6 year old nor 18 year old nor did I deserve it. Sometimes I believe it and sometimes I don’t. But I do believe one day that I will believe this with hesitation. We all will.

[@whoarewe7647]

1- believe the survivor/ trust your memories. 2-remind them it was not their fault. 3-become the love, support, and compassion all survivors deserve. 4-encourage to get help and to heal. 5-understanding that healing is a journey.

[@KeiTan-o7m]

Trust your memories. My abusers were relatives of my mother. They were her brother and his wife (a pastor & a pastor’s wife). I was forced to copy biblical chapters everyday for my mother; I remember being literally dragged up the stairs by the pastor’s wife screaming & crying for help one day by not doing so. Till now, I cannot remember what happened upstairs with her at all. Mother was there. Her brother was there. No one intervened. That night they told me I deserved it and dinner was served as if nothing happened. I was 9. Now that I am a mother myself, I’ve never allowed the same people to disrespect my children.

[@pandapearl385]

On his death bed, my father told me he was sorry for everything he used to do to me. I had no idea what he was talking about. I have no memory of abuse, but I struggle with suicidal thoughts, obesity and stress eating, drug use, and extreme emotional outbursts that dont fit with the situation. Starting therapy soon.

[@kaiawaselewski5179]

@@zoediggins1986 I hope you both find peace.

[@amelialee2142]

This women’s experiences break my heart and it enrages me the way her community handled it by silencing her! 😡 She has come such a long way.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@froggysin]

I wish more people knew to tell survivors that it's not their fault. It's so strange to a lot of people who haven't suffered through trauma to be told that that is what survivors need but man... it truly is a hugely impacting emotion. I felt for years that I was for sure to blame for my trauma, because I was a kid and I didn't know that rationally there's no way I COULD be responsible for the horrible things people did to me. "It's not your fault" is so simple and so powerful.

[@Janicesaheed]

It is not your fault, it never was.

[@sabriyaboulware1522]

Yes I have to tell myself everyday that it wasn’t my fault 💯😌

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@nl-ho4wm]

Thank god I always knew that it wasnt my fault, sometimes an ab8ser acts so bad that even when youre a child you know that its not the fault of anyone.

[@mrmicro5559]

I was molested by my step grandfather from 8-11, he helped raise me with my grandmother and father who was often away for work, my mom died when I was 2. When I was 11-13, I suffered abuse from my dads new wife, and her step son used to throw me around and spray my pants with water and make me go outside to humiliate me. That was nothing compared to what the kids in my class did to me every day I was at school for grade 7 and 8, I was embarrassed, humiliated, beat up everyday, I spent recess and lunch in the bathroom so they wouldn't find me on the playground and pile drive me. I know no one knows me, and you won't really read this, but crying everyday isn't helping, and I feel like i'm losing my fight with depression. I hope everyone that is going through the same finds love.

[@Solunadaye]

mr micro555 💖💗💓❤💚💛🖤💜❤💘

[@valeriesalcedo8228]

You're not alone trust me, never give up

[@vlogsbysalmab8790]

mr micro555 I’m so sorry please stay strong you are a survivor

[@charlottep7852]

mr micro555 stay strong! It will be alright ♥️

[@kayceewhite]

mr micro555 I’m a year late but I read it, I hear you, I believe you, my heart hurts for you, and I hope you’re finding strength and healing. You being honest helps me keep going. Thank you for sharing apart of yourself, you can do this, I’m proud of you.

[@duermedespierto]

I wish I could protect all children and animals from being abused. They are so vulnerable and to think of all the abuse and pain that their little souls have to endure.

[@mistyanderson4938]

LiliSimon- me, too!💜

[@gregoryxyz4812]

OOO Fire-Brown - I love you. I am a male survivor of CSA. You spoke so, so eloquently. You spoke for all survivors and you did us proud. I am tearful as I write. I feel an intense joy that you have spoken out for us and you have given us a voice. But deep sadness at the magnitude of this scourge. So, so well done...the clear simplicity of your words and delivery make it digestible for all, as it should be. Every body everywhere should watch this talk.

[@gregoryxyz4812]

@zombie slayer 22 'it'? Repeated - before 8 years old. Why do you ask this specifically?

[@laraoneal7284]

She skipped the anger. That is actually the first stage anger. If u do not get in touch with the anger and outrage u will abuse others including yourself. You also will not have empathy for others if u do not get in touch with ur own indignation of what was done to you. You will also attract a husband who will abuse ur children also.

[@kirstenalyssa9801]

Lara O'neal I was only angry at myself. It was because of growing up indoctrinated in the church, so anger wasn’t something I felt. I still have never felt anger toward either of my abusers. You don’t have to feel anger. But you have to feel whatever is inside you. Let it out, and feel it fully, or it will rot your soul.

[@KarmasAbutch]

I’ve been angry for 35 years... what’s stage 2 pls?

[@marieanderson7422]

She first left out the ....Terror.....Confusion...Hatetred at men.....and then future alcolholic man beating wanting to kill them all behaviors!!!

[@kjp551]

@@KarmasAbutch You're funny. At least you find a way to have some humor too.

[@laraoneal7284]

INcivil Service Hurt is beneath anger. So anger is number 2 . If u don’t express these appropriately in a safe place than journal all of ur feelings.

[@cheekychoc5132]

Incredible how she speaks about this so openly and clearly. She’s calm, rational, balanced and honest.

[@makensi8544]

I was abused by mom and I was suicidal and cut all the time and I'm so happy I'm alive today I have flashbacks all the time and this made me cry

[@EC-yd9yv]

❤️

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@quevedodayday]

I have kept mine as a secret when i finally told the first person honestly was the greatest feeling ever. I am still dealing with some issues.

[@Mamabear1320-h4k]

I'm 60. For 50 years I've been haunted, feeling so bad. Some days are worse than others.

[@valevillas]

I’m having trouble sleeping remembering everything that happened when I was a child but this gave me peace tbh. What a beautiful soul this woman has. Hope all of us heal ❤️

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

anyone else wondering if anyone in the audience is an abuser..... I often wonder who's an abuser while I'm out doing my daily tasks.

[@pinkgal206]

ASMRyouVEGANyet? Lol

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

YouGo_GlenCoCo YouGo why is that funny?

[@exadoorrising1239]

ASMRyouVEGANyet? Yes, I often look around at people in my environment when I am at the library, or in a grocery store etc

[@coin2039]

ASMRyouVEGANyet? That's funny cause that's just too obsessive, which probably is a result of the abuse. Not i think it's a funny situation as a whole. I've been abused too and I know how hard it is.

[@timeandattention3945]

I always think these thoughts when i meet new people, because my abusive father had a friendly front for the world. But i knew his other side.

[@Joker4ultr4]

What an admirable woman. Instead of being a victim, she empowers herself by encouraging positivity.

[@unlockyoursoulmemory4199]

Dear Miss Fire-Brown, thank you so much for your great talk. It was very touching and I learned a lot about the facts. I am myself a surivor of abuse and was never able to speak up, but right now I slowly start to cope with the shame and the blame and also start to believe my body which told me horrific stories. It made me cry to realize how many people are ripped by the effects of what they had to endure. And thank you so much that you pronounced that we were innocent and not the ones to blame. I wish you the very best and hope you keep up with the great work. Thank you so much

[@irisparag6513]

hi dear one. i want to say to you i was a victem to a sexial abuse when i only ander 8 years old' after that thay fratied me and fisical beating and mential abuse. i have nightmere and they padofiel still come to my perents house my perents know but they still let him come couse they beat e in my head jast not to tell my rape for years/ they neglected me till now. he come every week now i am 28 years old. nobody help me/ jast now i have help jast 1 year. and i still at home my jeal home. they took my mony jast not to run from them. i love u all sorvivel. i love to hear you ted i am a sorvivel till now jast now go to sicologist. i have no job for a year couse my nightmere. i hope my country that niglacted me too will help me more than a year. my perents till now hate and dont want me to go to sicologist. the want me jast to take drags althou they neglacted abendent me and beat me in head i forgot years my attact. now i know what my uncel my padofill do to me 8 years old till 12 years old till i were anorectic becouse i wanted not to eat becouse i wanted to die now i at am adoult sorvive and 38.5 years still at perents home doesnt have mony to move from preseon there home. i love and huge all the adoult pisical sexial and amoutial adoult till now my perents tell me its my foult. now i know its there foult i were only 8 years old. i hope i will have a home. couse my recovery deppend on my going another home. they took my mony that i will still be at home. when i wew working and they scere me not to go to bank they work at bank. jast not to go far away and recovery frome thaer seakness. i am now without mony i hope sombody will help me a good person mabby or my country will give me home to recover they sicness i have to suffer till 38 years old to see thy padofile every week its hard my perents love him/ i hope someone will help me jast to move from my bad home. my memorry comes all time couse they still acuase me. and he they padofile come every week. hes like a king. he evil man / i want to recover

[@unlockyoursoulmemory4199]

Hello dear Iris, thank you so much that you were so open to share your story and I am very sorry to hear what you had to endure. The first thing that came into my mind was the thought that I would ask myself whether there would be a possibility to leave this place that is so densely filled with such horrific stories and emotions. Is there a way for you to leave your parents place? Could this be a first step to regain your life again? I could not imagine living at a place where so much pain and denial at the same time do fill the space... can you? Maybe this is all wrong and you can dissolve all this trauma at this place but regarding your family if they are sheltering the tabu and try to hide it under the closet, don`t waste your time to convince them - because it`s your life and it is very important for yourself to accept what has happende as truth and there is no need to chance somebody else but only find your own healing... don`t worry about others but treat yourself very kindly and soft. Maybe TRE Trauma Releasing Exercises is a way to get some distressing releases for the body, maybe SE Somatic Experiencing is the way... find a therapy or friends where you can built up ressources where you can feel safe. Don`t expect others to safe you, but there are people out there that are lending you a hand. It is more about beginning to stand on your adult feet. And never ever let anybody tell you you should get over it, it was nothing, it did not happen, accept it as it was and respect all the emotions that are comming up - without harming yourself or others - they tell a huge story... To me SE was helping a lot and later on I had a very good hypnotherapist who helped me uncover my emotions with the stories... I hope you do find your way and please feel free to write whenever it feels right and good... Don`t suffocate your story, and don`t deny it yourself, but if you need a break, slow down and be gentle with yourself

[@irisparag6513]

Bea Fischer thanks u for what you write to me. i am still recovery. i hope i will have a job. and mony from they social insorense. i have been working till year ago. i have to go to psod ones a week for all day long and talk and they want to help me too. i hope so. couse i was having so difficoult life and i strageled so many years that my conty wouldnt neglacted me too. i am writing a book too about life sorvived i hope it will poblesd and my perents will not delete it. i woldnt alau it. i saw a bit of my book to a booker he said it is ousom. and it is expensive to poblisies it but i hope i will have home. my home to be. and not to fraid so much every friday. i love what u said to everyoune in this vidio. and i was cry from happyness that you could recover from child sexial abuse too. i hope to be like u. and to stand and talk and be in my home. without ther abuse and acuse after what he and them do to me i couldnt fucos becouse the took my head like its a ball and beat my head after. till now i suffer from memorry lost. but today i wouldnt aloy that anymore. i will fight for me getting help from contry. couse my perents neglagted me. beated acuse and let padofille doing whatever he want till i were anorexic becouse in 12years i couldnt eat i wanted jast to die. today i want to live i hope my contry will after this year conttinu to help couse this help isnt enough i have expensive meddicon too to buy every munth couse what happend to me and they still acuse me for something that i dont responsibale and he responsebale for this and they too and my sister who dosnt want even to hear me couse she will get mad....its their foult its happen. they souts doors and open want to know everything couse they know ther saim

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@stargazerwishes]

The stigma is so real! I have a harder time opening up and connecting after hearing so many people say to give up on victims of abuse preemptively because of their background, which is something they can’t control. If it was their current behavior that was unhealthy, I’d understand setting boundaries but to completely dismiss people because of that one thing they couldn’t control growing up is baffling to me.

[@jvsaints3028]

A couple of months ago, I was triggered and realized that the memory I had, truly happened. I will soon be 70 and the molestation by an unknown person when I was 6 years old happened. I am seeking counseling currently. I have told a few trusted friends and I feared I would not be believed. I don't know what their belief is and it does not matter. I do know how uncomfortable it makes them though. We have not discussed this since. That is why I have a counselor and I am waiting on a spot to open up in the group setting.

[@AwkwardPasta004]

Everything she says relates to me. I'm a survivor of physical child abuse and I still suffer mentally to this day.

[@mitchelljames1069]

How old are you and how long ago did it happen? I am just coming around to the fact that I was mentally abused "verbally". As a child I am 47 I don't know how to deal with it.

[@mitchelljames1069]

I am 48 years old i just recently came to the conclusion that I was mentally abused verbally also. I had to go to the bible and seeked piece in the scripture I know that it sounds redundant but if you knew me you would understand

[@Khalfrank]

Religion fails.

[@brendab3754]

This person is asking for help and you Attack their religion??? Messed up! Let her be happy reading something that helps calm down anxiety even if it's momentarily.

[@brendab3754]

Mitchell it's okay to come to terms and recognize we were hurt. Now the other step is to seek help. You can do they steps she said which are Great. Also therapy. There are great Christian therapist if you are comfortable with that I hope the process of heeling begins for you.

[@claritybadb]

I've watched so many of these but now I think I'm finally ready to believe myself and my memories....thus made me cry. I'm sending love to anyone here who was also moved by her words. Goddess bless her heart for doing this work.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@Tara-cv2kz]

wow this was 7 years ago and she mentioned online predators. such an important thing that a lot of people miss even today

[@kevcurtis8392]

The way individuals treat children is a mirror who they are & what they value..

[@kimbrown8477]

1. Trust yr memories 2. It was not yr fault 3. Become the Love 4. Encourage 5. Journal ❤ Thanks

[@CarmenElRose]

Has anyone else had memories resurface in a dream? She spoke about it and it shook me, because I got it too. Anyone else?

[@stza2414]

yes! it happens with me at time.

[@CK-yh5qi]

Yup, since therapy I have been having some jumbled memories with dreams

[@azzyazman2969]

Yeah and it sucks.

[@mollyclock8238]

i trust my memories, completely.

[@gaiaswildchildtarot]

It's really hard to trust your memories when those around you require "PROOF" or for the abuser to admit it to believe you. 😑

[@Movewithkhu]

@@gaiaswildchildtarot preach

[@FooLove91]

Let's link this video to anyone who wants to use "trigger" as a meme or an insult.

[@ASMRyouVEGANyet]

Emily Johnson I get so pissed about people who get pissed about trigger warnings. they don't understand that even a simple warning can mean so much on a person's mental health. people who don't need trigger warnings or who are against them just don't get it. to hell with them!

[@nickharley2344]

Emily Johnson lol right!

[@PrincessKurae]

ASMRyouVEGANyet? We don't make fun about the trigger warnings themselves. It just became a meme because of silly sjw feminists using it for like nothing.

[@wywardmoose]

It depends on the person. I, myself, joke about my mental illnesses sometimes. It helps to laugh about things that hurt me. I joke about almost all of my problems, all the time. Some people just hide their illnesses that way as well

[@BethanyBell]

@@wywardmoose totally ! but i think the original comment means people who are rude and dismissive about people getting triggered

[@khaoulajabri3110]

Hearing this gives me strength.. im a survivor💟

[@BlueleafDanny]

We are all here, you are not alone. I pray you heal, and find your way.

[@gwendolynpenix2754]

I wish I'd gotten to meet you when I was staying in Atlanta. As the mother of child victims, now adults and an advocate for child safety, I applaud your courage, your strength and the fact that you are helping others. Keep up the great work.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@13doolittle]

how very brave....

[@Tootruetootrue]

I'm 39, and ne of my proudest achievements is providing my daughters with a home environment and social framework that has allowed them to grow without going through what we went through.If you have kids, don't abdicate the job of raising them, kids need us.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!.. ❤️☯️🙂

[@abigaylegonzalez3490]

As a woman who has grown up mere miles from where she grew up and having experienced the same trauma; thank you for giving me hope.

[@alexrcanez]

After nearly 32 years, the guilt is too difficult to deal with. Many therapists, approaches, and still triggers attach me... Thanks for this talk

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!.. ❤️☯️🙂

[@basherhunt9788]

So true about triggers and my mum said put it in a box and not talk about it ever again

[@alianajacobs5703]

You are so right Jen Rich, Natasha Hunt deserves better.

[@alisonstier8633]

When I get triggered I end in places like this. TY guys

[@kjtamf]

alison stier Me to 👍🏻😔❤️xx

[@annahennessey6999]

That's horrible advice! But my mother ignored the things she didn't want to deal with and that was one of them. I was not protected.

[@juliedefee567]

At 60, I still have flashbacks, insomnia and many other symptoms.

[@fanuluiciorannr1xd212]

Here . Have a hug 🤗 .

[@zalsalmi]

Ayahasca can really cure

[@yoyosworld22]

@@zalsalmi how?

[@EC-yd9yv]

❤️

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@vuokko290]

The feeling of guilt when have been drinking, after realizing what have happened a long time ago, is now slowly vanishing because she explained now this: why she was drinking. Thank you.

[@Ellie-zk5yo]

I am a survivor, I was around 6 when it happened. I am now 17.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@pi2745]

​@@ryu7964 my dad and your sister would make a good pair

[@helenjones2791]

In the UK there is so little support for survivors of child abuse. There are very few support groups and if survivors want therapy they generally have to be able to afford it. The vast majority of child abuse survivors that I know have received no counselling, therapy or any other form of emotional support other than through friends or family IF they can bear to tell those people and IF the same can hear and support them.. WE NEED TO START A COUNTRY WIDE system of support, just like AA but for child abuse survivors. WE NEED HELP from therapists and those with organisational and fundraising skills to HELP THIS HAPPEN. x

[@powpunkonwhiskey6377]

Survivor aiming for thriver here. Much love, compassion and understanding to all victims of all abuse, it wasn't your fault, the shame is not yours to wear and there is a way to move on with life. You are already strong, even if you don't feel that way at all, you really are. You're worthy too, don't forget that.

[@RakeshKumar-qq9wz]

Can you help me financially for Rehabilation

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@TieranniPieranni]

“Trust your memories.” Fire Brown ❤

[@TheGemsizzle]

Thank you so much for this talk. As a survivor of child abuse, this really helped me. ❤️

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@minghui5199]

"We believe our abuse affects us as adults today. Our innocence, our power and how we live in this world."

[@youtubesdislikebutton938]

I remember being physically abused and emotionally and being told to lie to the school counselor about the marks on my body. back then the emotions I felt were fear and rage I wanted to hurt everyone and animals and I never could understand where this anger was coming from then i realized many years later it was my bottled up emotions and my environment

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@Noelhogan333]

me too. i was groomed to lie to everyone.

[@ValCaPoNe]

''trust your memories'' slapped me in the face (but I thank you for it)

[@forsakenknowledge7531]

Part of my healing is my current objective. I am sueing my abuser.

[@forsakenknowledge7531]

@I_Slayyy_demons-through_GOD 444 around 5-7

[@gregrhodes2171]

This is the most important Tedx video for society I have ever seen.

[@BerylWalubengoAnyitiNanyama]

Oh my 😪😪😪 the number one problem is not being believed when they told.

[@024_lukasmartinus8]

im 21 now and the memory of child abuse from my grade school teacher still haunts me. Even after 9 years of not crossing paths with him, the fact that he is still alive and breathing today always makes me feel uneasy. Each time a random stranger tries to talk to me or be nice (be it wholeheartedly or not) I get trust issues and always try to stay away, especially from those who are older than me.

[@andehere4u]

Thank you, Fire-Brown for your life and testimony!

[@blueheartless36]

Thank you. I told my mom and she was dismissive telling me I was vindictive if I reported the person who abused me. It was messed up.

[@corinakc9770]

Don't let anyone commit suicide God because of what happened to them Comfort them God You say when we are broken hearted you are close to us

[@ez3902]

Healing needs time, experience and a lot of moral qualities.. not everybody achieves it, and some never really need it. Some stay in the same abusive environments, and some run away from it, but most find the swiftest way of escaping this reality.. nothing more, nothing less.

[@haej8279]

My best friends suffering from trauma. She doesn’t believe I love her I know it’s hard to trust people for her but I want her to love herself

[@bear_witness]

Brave. I'm waiting for a world where the truth is accepted by the people who love us.

[@anitamorelli2253]

God bless you. No one believes me. I was abused by babysitters and my step father. I had no voice.

[@hanrockabrand95]

Thank you for sharing. I think it takes a lot of strength of character to go against the conventional wisdom of a loved one ("keep that to yourself") who was supposed to protect and support you. You already survived the gauntlet, so it would have been easier to keep your story in the shadows. But you dug deep, found courage, and set out to give words of encouragement to others. That's a shining beacon of the best of human nature, right there.

[@lovelyn8005]

Fire Brown you are truly an inspiration, I hope to one day be happy, healthy and healing. My journey starts today after 30 years in agony and beating myself up. Thank you for what you've done for victims , survivors and thrivers

[@Melodiio]

I’m sorry for what you went through but i’m happy you’re starting your journey! I’m starting mine again after watching this and another Tedtalk by Tara Walker. May the journey be kind to you and you get all the support you need, even from within yourself. I’m rooting for you ❤️

[@rox8839]

My family denied the things that happened, I did not and spoke out then was turned on by my family saying I was lying. To this day (I am 58), and I cannot go around my family without getting physically ill, so much so I moved out of state.

[@deborahstone9696]

I'm 65 yr old and have the same issue. I myself have not spoken to a single family member in 10 years, this time. Saw them last at my mom's dieing bed.they pulled the feeding needle out of my mom's arm and watched her starve to ☠ death.

[@porkbun6682]

I'm so sorry

[@deborahstone9696]

@@porkbun6682 thanks for caring

[@nancyblair9862]

SOLUTIONS is what I needed and I finally got some from this lady - she is insightful, intelligent and beautiful!❤❤❤❤

[@chcamerica22]

Healing is inevitable. The time it takes and the level of healing achieved varies from person to person as do the coping mechanisms employed by the victims as they journey toward healing. The scars, however, remain for a lifetime. We never forget.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@MulattoArchive]

I feel we’re so suicidal because the memories (cptsd/ptsd) just won’t stop.

[@anonymous-cx7ng]

same the bad memories are coming to me now and it’s really hard to realize what happened to me i’m very depressed

[@MulattoArchive]

@@anonymous-cx7ng I completely understand. I hope you find peace & healing.

[@christychurch6043]

Thank you. Form one survivor. You give me hope, that I will be one day be okay.

[@naturewitch8687]

So sad about the suicidal rate. I was physically and emotionally abused by my Dad and I’m still in therapy at 51. My mum knew but says she didn’t. I’m trying to forgive but it’s hard...

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@Jurassichero97]

I recently told my mother why she didn’t protect me or didn’t think to protect me from my predator who was an older cousin . Maybe my mother was. Scared . But I asked and I didn’t get an answer . I am at a part in my healing where I am so proud of my self that I took it for what it was and detached because at the end of the day that’s the closure I will ever “received” from my mother on that matter . Freak you mom but here comes healing

[@hevxhev]

❤️

[@MeganMarieMasters]

sometimes when Im high ill get memories of it all and have a mental breakdown

[@LivingBeyondAbuse]

Thank you, Fire-Brown! So proud of anyone who steps up and tells their story!

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!. ❤️☯️🙂

[@juice_g.i.r.l]

Thank You dear, from a survivor's mom😭😭😭

[@sadhuskat2087]

I am 29 yrs male..abused during age 9 to 14 yrs by the people inside the home be my only tution teacher, my fathers male secretary as we r agricultural background holding rich family but never by outsiders even though i realised when people had specific behavior towards me thereafter..but during this time period of age i was repeatedly forced verbally and physically by 4 men during these years intensely..i have to mention i was very good looking enough and witty that would strike ppl now i realise that..i couldnt tel anyone bc i thought i will be considered as the weak and faulted one..we were joined family with 2 elder bros and one young bro and 2 couzine of somewhat similar age..it hurt me more that among all four of us why only i was facing that..didnt ask or tell anyone just assumed own my own..i didnt know what it was nd i felt guilty aftr an encounter but gradually startd liking nd i realised it in begenning tht its something wrong..but i by time brought myself together as i wad very spiritual amongst all of my male and female couzins nd siblings..never did tell anyone..its such good platform internet provides us to share that ought not to be shared.. I think sharing with a one person whom u trust and also trust their level of maturity and kindness..otherwise forget it nd move on bc these memories wich made u feel worthless guilty for being whatever good or bad qualities u hav nd as an object of filth ppl come for.. Now i m dealing currents issues of life and dnt bother much even though i see few of those ppl nd they r in service on and off...thats how the world works u hav to be strong own your own and beleive the supreme creator up there and in our hearts follow right paths shown in religion and day to day life experiences.. No one can take that away the disgust..so much to say about it but now tired hav to study i am a medical officer

[@First-IBelieveYou]

Wonderful talk for survivors. Believe them! I just published on Amazon my story of "remembering" when I was 36--First, I Believe You. Thank you so much, Fire-Brown.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone! ❤️☯️🙂

[@MumLife2024]

Currently healing, and one day will be thriving!

[@EvaFG1962]

I have always pictured it as slamming a metal door on it...theraphy helped the nightmares to stop but sometimes I have flashbacks still . Thankyou for your courage!

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!.. ❤️☯️🙂

[@EvaFG1962]

@@ryu7964 be there for those girls , listen to them , believe them and help them as much as you can . You can talk to your sister but it may do nothing .

[@ryu7964]

@@EvaFG1962 Thank you so much for your advice. I really appreciate it. It's like being in prison or under a dictator. I mean I was with my mom, my sister and her family in vacation last year. And when you said help them as much as I can, it reminded me of one incident. One time I wanted to take my older niece of a slide to help her and my sister yelled "Don't help her!". And when confronting her with that or 1000 other reasons in which she goes mad, she curses or fights. Either against her husband, my mother, or me. She finds the weak spots and when she does, then the tormenting begins. I managed to keep calm for several weeks and I didn't fight back. This took extreme self control. And those were just some weeks and I couldn't take it anymore. But my nieces are exposed to her 24/7. She's raging like a lunatic at my nieces. I don't like talking negatively about my sister like that, but it's hurting me that she treats them the way she does and it helps me to talk about it. I hope I didn't make you uncomfortable, sharing all this. It's so just so sad. Thank you again for your advice. I will listen, believe and help them anyway. Even if my sister doesn't approve. I pray that God protects my nieces. I wish you all the best on your journey.❤️☯️🙂

[@MeleeStormbringer]

That she mentioned the jingling of a key. That's one of my triggers and I never would have thought anyone else would call out that particular thing.

[@jenniferhampton8132]

I could hear my dads truck from a block away. That would put me in a panic state trying to guess what mood he would be in

[@headwarp9683]

I wish I could speak these very things so calmly, rationally, and with people in front of me who don't interrupt, interject, or invalidate the points I am trying to make. Thank you Fire-Brown, for standing up for us. Thank you for being able to make the points that I can't seem to get across to the people that I need them to without suffering an episode, which results in defensive behavior on both sides and going in circles. Aside from your personal experiences, and that you feel you have come out thriving, you have mirrored my own thoughts about these situations..exluding my own personal experiences and physical damages.

[@ryu7964]

I am helpless. Not because I experienced child abuse, but because I have a sister in another country, who has two daughters which are my nieces and they experience child abuse from my sister. I wish to help them in future. Right now I cannot do anything because they are far away. I believe this abuse will have long lasting effects on my nieces. My older niece told me in private her heart is broken. If that is not a secret scream for help, then I don't know what is! I try to learn about and educate myself about child abuse, although I have no therapeutic role. But I'm good in helping. I wish you all all the best on your journeys in healing. I wish my nieces would be spared but they are living this right now. Everyone seems to ignore it, because nobody wants to be attacked verbally by my sister through the aggression in her. I once assaulted my sister in an attempt to protect my nieces and I looked like the bad guy. Well I was but she made me lose it. Having compassion made me lose it and I learned to never be physically against anyone again. I am not good in protecting others or me with words. Maybe that's why I did this. Sure my sister has good times and tries her best but that doesn't excuse what she does when she's insulting them, putting guilt in them, screaming at them, manipulating and controlling them. If you guys have any tips for me as a bystander what I could do, it would be greatly appreciated. I myself experienced a childhood trauma but as a victim of school colleges. My mom was and is a good mother to me. Be well everyone!.. ❤️☯️🙂

[@mojohoho1165]

Sometimes in life you feel understood. For me, this is one of those times. If you know, you know.

[@kayceewhite]

This just saved my life

[@saraukasik6508]

I honestly cried after watching this. It really helped.

[@miamzi4352]

I'm scared . I'm so so scared I'm crying . I have to be strong i have to save myself and my cousin sister too . Kids aren't suppose to be hero but i need to save her . She's my family and i have too , i need too or we'll lose her . I can't lose her , I'm gonna help her . I need to be strong , i know I'll be and when i find the strength I'll save us both