What trauma taught me about happiness | Lindsey Roy | TEDxKC

Why are trauma survivors happier, on average, than lottery winners? During her recovery from a devastating accident, Lindsey Roy developed ideas and ways of coping that suggest an answer to that question. Learn about her specific methods for overcoming the brain's natural negativity bias, letting go of past expectations, and connecting to a deeper self in the here and now. Lindsey Roy is a brilliant storyteller with a captivating story. A tragic boating accident while on vacation almost claimed Lindsey’s life and left her with an amputated left leg, severely injured right leg and injured right arm. Through a challenging recovery process, Lindsey learned impactful lessons on how to harness disruption and find clarity in the chaos.
Lindsey has spent over sixteen years in the corporate environment, leading teams in innovation, digital development and product merchandising. She was named Vice President at Hallmark Cards at just thirty-two years old, one of the youngest VPs ever in a company with over a 100-year history and in the top 1% of brands worldwide.
Lindsey combines her unique life experience, corporate background and emotional intelligence to truly connect with audiences. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@lynguyen8590]

Trauma teaches one about strength. If you suffer you do not have to hide your sufferings. Trauma could be your greatest power.

[@BhaktaChand1]

Those 49 dislikes, I hope you are perfect. Thank you, Lindsey, for sharing such a wonderful and inspirational story.

[@susanmazzanti5643]

I was hit by a car and had a broken neck. Thank you for helping me find a new way to move forward.

[@JaysonT1]

Susan Mazzanti How are you now?

[@harbhajankaur2907]

Punjabi

[@dbsk06]

Stay strong. Nothing is permanent

[@susanmazzanti5643]

This was several years ago and I still improve but I doubt I will ever get over this. I am old enough that the surgeon who did the neck fusion thought I probably would not grow enough bone to actually fuse my neck. I did and I still live alone. Not as well as I did before but I look for ways to manage. Thank you all caring. That helps me do what I need to do on the hard days.

[@sbakerproductions]

It took me two years to come to terms with my physical limitations after a violent assault. It wasn't until I bought into the process of healing wholeheartedly, especially the inner self. I can attest to her message and my deepest respect to Lindsey for sharing her story.

[@honestcheetah]

Someone once said something like, "if you look closely at what brings you tears you may see that you weep for the very things that brought you joy." -T.S. Eliot(?)

[@joanm3682]

I've had more than my share of personal trauma. This is the best TED talk I've ever heard- which is saying quite a lot. Thank you for your words of wisdom!!

[@Kristiana-mb9lk]

I’m moving on from my trauma of the last 2 years, it happened so learn from it and move on, I can’t change that past but embrace the change that is coming, the change not only of my making but those close to me who have allowed me to see that I need to change, to engage with them at what level they wish to engage at, listen to new ideas not just that they are my friends or colleagues but because I trust them to hold in part my new life that I know is coming, to change my Negative hypnosis into a Positive one. ♥️

[@actionforanimals4862]

Lindsay's courage is inspiring. She offers a path forward for anyone struggling to live without trauma.

[@TheJuryIsOut]

What an amazing courageous soul. I hope you find healing and peace in your life. One of the few talks that had my undivided attention from start to finish. Some really inspiring pearls of wisdom to live by and deal with whatever life throws at you.

[@josephamankwa10]

2020 and am still watching. Inspiring

[@dennisnewton9384]

That’s awesome. You could have given up and been miserable and bitter. Great talk!

[@harenrussel]

Thank you Lindsey. You're courage, bravery, acceptance of your changes and rising up above it all is motivating and encouraging. Keep strong.

[@cathihanauer6513]

I love this talk. Pure inspiration.

[@RalphDratman]

Remarkable level of honesty. Many thanks to Lindsey Roy for this excellent talk.

[@SamSung-zx9tb]

...two left feet...lol! Continued blessings and thank you for the 3rd person perspective.

[@consc306]

“Focus on what’s in the present & what lies ahead”

[@maureenurness9197]

Lindsey, as always, lots of "catch your breath moments", tears, and even laughter, in a talk about trauma. Loved it.

[@ShereeTrask]

Profound, inspiring and so courageous. Thank you for sharing your story of resilience and bravery!

[@tammiwood3937]

Sp honored to hear your talk...you are amazing

[@alibeaumont-filder3185]

Amazing courage .. great perspective too .. humbled by your message .

[@user-no9tu9rz9g]

You're so great and amazing! So honest and strong! I believe your talk helps a lot ot people...

[@BhaktaChand1]

Such an inspirational story. Thank you for sharing. I can not understand why people would down vote such a beautiful story.

[@mykel6406]

Thank you for your honesty, and authenticity, life changing

[@chrisburke2085]

Thanks for being you. God bless your family!

[@jude1515]

Excellent speech and I admire your strength!

[@alwanmaria]

I love this talk! It makes me so emotional evertime I see it! Beautiful!

[@ronadiongon7075]

You are strong and truly an inspiration. This talk is so pure, you can hear the emotion in her voice. One of the best inspirational ted talks.

[@nellyb.9340]

Lindsey- thank you for giving me hope and sharing your experience and wisdom, I thank you for your courage and you have a very large extended family and we love you and love each other,; we are united by one thing.

[@olsparkywisenheimer8239]

Great talk. Being a trauma survivor enlightened me to many of these same things. I admit though, after living through trauma myself, I'd like to win the lottery for a scientific comparison.. lol

[@hollowone777]

This is great. Thank you very much, I appreciate your candor and help. I'm in an extremely dark place in my life right now because of my difficult physical issues and this has given me a lot of things to think about and meditate on.

[@sempressfi]

Hope you are doing better 💜

[@linishabhoyroo2145]

Thank you for this awesome perspective!🙏🏻💕🌸

[@mirandamiranda9579]

Amazing talk! you are a hero! You really inspire me to look at life challenges in a different perspective! thank you!

[@user-ee7vr9nn8f]

Thanks Linsey for your story.

[@benjoplin8302]

this is great. what a thoughtful and sensitive talk. thank you for the wisdom and inspiration, ms. roy.

[@artsmart]

Well done Lindsey! Simply inspiring.

[@monstervan]

Thank you for sharing your story!

[@monkeyfacelove1283]

Needed this talk!❤️

[@AChis-vg3fw]

Your talk is amazing. I listen to it when I’m struggling. I’m so grateful to you for shearing. Please know that you’re helping me to look for my perspective. Thank you so much 🙏

[@ArtandKitchen_]

My trauma taught me how to be happy by myself.

[@Pro0osh]

She is the BEST !

[@truebluewonderful1139]

New perspectives keep depression away from us too.

[@Chanesmyname]

It is really brave and kind to share your experiences and how you have managed and sorted these things to help other people with those lessons.

[@TheCozyCushion]

Great Talk ;) I truly enjoyed it and will use a new perspective.

[@LotsOfun69]

Thank you Lindsay I am going through a traumatic situation right now. Thank you for showing me about perspective. I promise to do the work ask the right questions search for the right answers so that I can move on and just be happy with what I get from here. No more looking back that what could have been and what I used to have. Thank you again Lindsey I really needed to hear this. And you know who knows, maybe one day I'll give a TED Talk about how you and Anne Mahlum helped me to not give up so that I could____________.

[@zylascope]

Thank you. Great advice.

[@brendadrew834]

Great TedX talk...beautiful woman, inside and out!! Blessed be~

[@arlinegeorge6967]

Roy you are beautiful amazing impressive n courageous soul. Inspiring great talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.

[@rockysage7760]

Thanks for this talk. It's insightful.

[@SandeepKumar-bt7is]

Vry vry inspiring Ted talk. It's one of my favorite

[@pryncessyanni]

POWERFUL!

[@irektaflinski5449]

Wow life changing 👏🙏🏾💙😭

[@jimhammond9193]

Massive "Fist Pump"! Wow!!!

[@Sarahthompson2237]

Awesome, thank you… I’m trying-wiring

[@selamselam3942]

Well done!!

[@riaspoint7374]

Good motivation Dear

[@Guitarshredder-fd6oz]

Hey that’s my friends mom!!!

[@jeandistefano5486]

Thank you. Gina in lights

[@miraclegirl4634]

Beautiful

[@azylstra4777]

[@dasbeharifull-timemystic2075]

ok....so perspective training is the answer

[@JaysonT1]

I'm a trama survivor and it hasn't improved me. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying I salk in it and it's poor, poor me. However, it hasn't added anything really. It has taken away many things and you learn adapt. Maybe some/few find value in it but most just learn to adjust.

[@marksoberay2318]

Same here, I was in an accident that i lost multiple limbs

[@MrDan11422]

As much as I want to stay positive with someone that's negative. Confused about what to do

[@peanutbuttercookies6227]

I’m glad everyone is so inspired by this, but I’m having a hard time taking her seriously. She’s still able to work and earn her own money. She’s still able to bathe and dress herself independently. She can still think clearly. She has supportive friends and family. Sorry, but I don’t see her as a “survivor.” She just had an injury that she had to adjust to, but her life really isn’t that different than before her accident.

[@truebluewonderful1139]

I think you don't have enough life-experience to get it.

[@jodie-annsemenov19]

💜💜💜

[@Ella0158]

❤

[@robertcorderchiang3947]

My God

[@ghazikutbi3206]

Lindsey Roy is right. What is the worst thing that could have happened. i. e. we should count our blessings bestowed to us by Almighty Allah, the creator, and none of our blessings should be taken for granted. Par example: an electrician was working with his plier in an electricity wall plug and all of a sudden the two electric poles touched the plier and a shock happened which caused a damage to the tool. Imagine if the plier does not have insulated handles.

[@JyoSco007]

😊💕🙏💞😘

[@gildardovalencia6323]

137

[@nothanks8594]

Champ

[@harvinkhaneja4688]

Accident Eksident Eiksidant Eksidnt

[@harvinkhaneja4688]

Anchor Hainkar

[@VladyslavKL]

🐳

[@amberscottcmt7400]

Does the microphone really have to pick up every sound her tongue makes inside of her mouth while she's talking? It's a good message, but dang girl, try hydrating your body before you have to give a speech on a microphone. Like the day before, cuz that dry mouth smacky sound is enough to send those of us with misophonia into the survival brain where we cannot absorb the message. Seriously, I wish there was a transcript for this one.

[@chantalgreen9035]

Where is your empathy