Life with Gender Dysphoria | Sunny Miller | TEDxEBS

[@VixeyFrost]

WHEN YOU HAVE A TED TALK ABOUT GENDER DYSPHORIA AND STILL MISGENDER THE SPEAKER IN YOUR DESCRIPTION

[@breannamata3224]

Hopefully it was a mistake but if not, it just comes to show some people will always continue to be cruel and heartless towards others. It just seems that the world can never really come to terms with peace on earth!

[@ethancampbell8877]

Lmao

[@olwynglover8918]

@@ethancampbell8877 It's not funny!

[@apreil4821]

That’s a bruh moment

[@sandysimpson4785]

"Misgender"??? i.e as in calling someone the gender that they clearly are as opposed to who/what they think that they should be??!?🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@sagehoff969]

Hey Ted Talks, why did you use "he" in your description for Sunny when she said explicitly that she is a woman?

[@cactusjacksentme3211]

It's not a big deal, no one really cares, sit down

[@sagehoff969]

@@cactusjacksentme3211 Hyped Oh sure, no one cares. It's not like it's the entire point of the video. Kinda convenient and underhanded, if it was done on purpose. Ignoring it, like you're trying to do, is also convenient. So, please, I insist. Take a seat, sugar plum.

[@nilajeti1126]

Wow that is really inconsiderate!! As a trans man, if I got up and talk about such vulnerable stuff, open myself up like a book, and look at the description and see them misgender me like that, honestly that would hurt a lot!!! Damn

[@sandgate2355]

I think it reflects that the journey is started, not fulfilled. At 7:44 (s)he talks about changing his name and choosing her name.

[@RealMephres]

@@nilajeti1126 You wouldn't want to tell someone your name and then get called by a different name, thus delegitimizing and disrespecting your request to call you in a specific way, do you? If you want that to occur, you sure are a weird person to consider.

[@eelnetflix5196]

I'm having an identity crises at 6:30 am and I haven't slept at all, someone please help because I'm exhausted lol

[@GabS-o1m]

Hey! Everything will be ok. Just take some deep breaths, exploring your gender and overall identity takes time. Don’t rush yourself, if you’re in a safe environment I encourage trying things that help you feel euphoric. Things will settle in place over time and it’s ok to not be sure. Also, I hope you didn’t read the previous comment left here. If you did don’t listen to people like that, always be true to yourself! You are loved and you matter. Always remember that. :)

[@GabS-o1m]

Sea It’s ok to disagree with something or not understand it, but you should never encourage one to take their life. That’s not ok ever. That’s really sad that you find joy in speaking such terrible things to another. I hope you work through your personal issues and change that mentality.

[@Sea-zu4bj]

Gab Sasala welcome to the internet. I should also inform you you are drunk on 1st world privilege to be changing genders

[@sniggitysnack2166]

@@Sea-zu4bj aww look guys, a little transphobe wants attention! How adorable. "I should inform you" that you're looking in the wrong place. Try the incel forums maybe? You can't go wrong by looking into the Westboro Baptist Church either.

[@Sea-zu4bj]

Sniggity Snack someone doesn’t live in a democracy

[@garymarkham4538]

Wow. This is a totally new subject to me. I'm actually truly saddened by the bigotry and prejudice around the subject. First point has to be, you have a fellow human being standing in front of an audience baring their soul, and some of you guys choose to tear their self worth apart. Secondly, I'm always fascinated by people who say things like 'turn to Jesus'. Rather than saying things like that, why don't you treat a fellow human being as Jesus would have done, using compassion and empathy. Thirdly, open your minds folks. Try to understand another's perspective. What makes them so wrong and you so right? Try to make the world a better place through empathy and compassion. Ask yourself what you are doing to make the world a better and more accepting place for your fellow humans. If you can't do any of that, then try to just keep your opinions to yourself and walk away, because your actually making the world a worse place through bigotry and intolerance.

[@fredrickneitzche6748]

The world is just fine. Its humans and culture that are the problem. Stop crying k.

[@RealMephres]

@@fredrickneitzche6748 ?

[@gwen9939]

@@fredrickneitzche6748 cringe 14 year old who just discovered philosophy moment

[@gildardolujan1143]

Well I don’t care wat you people do to you’re self. I don’t Iikeschools teaching kids young kids about trans

[@gildardolujan1143]

I have kids I am strate. And I don’t want people like you teaching my kids about trans. You are trans and don’t have kids so don’t mess with mine. If my kids are trans I want them to figeret it out by their self. Don’t push your agenda on the kids

[@leekimberlin623]

I'm so tired of discrimination in this country and other countries all people have rights!!

[@kirigayakazuto5756]

No, all people SHOULD have equal rights. Sadly in some countries that's just not the case.

[@aeolian951]

@@kirigayakazuto5756 MUST*

[@marwar819]

No trans are trying to take ours away by forcing us to believe their ideology. Do the research.

[@jaydoubleu3419]

It happens because they are jealous of you and who you are and want to be you and take their insults as a compliment

[@gracemortiz-fp9iu]

I'm really glad you're alive : ' ) thank you for sharing your story

[@emilyl5078]

I’m so proud of her for not only doing this TedTalk, but doing it in 2015!! It’s a whole different world today and speaking up when it was a lot less ok to be in the LGBT+ community is beyond brave. Stay strong sister, wherever you are!

[@wasweissichbla]

yep, that´s exactly what i thougt

[@toniluster2654]

This is my life story,told in the most profound way. Thank you "Turning Point".

[@marsagain5635]

why am i here I've already got a life with gender dysphoria

[@cloover-jg5zd]

I... Same

[@AliceMGT]

I…ye- yeah….yeah.

[@vivisglasses_]

@@cloover-jg5zd J E S U S?

[@aeolian951]

@hyper claws Same :(

[@ahammouda00]

i mean aren't we all? man one wish if he really can switch sexes or get reborn as the opposite sometimes

[@harsh4964]

Love and respect from India 🇮🇳 🙏♥

[@michaelmigliaccio3509]

🇮🇳 🔥

[@leekimberlin623]

We need to as a world 🌏 embrace each other there needs to be acceptance of all people in our world, will be a better place to live.

[@JosueLopez-kk9us]

the world will never be like that, in conjunction 5 percent of the population has either narcissistic or antisocial (psychopathy and sociopathy) personality disorder, and of course, that's just the ones diagnosed. I will suggest to you to not accept those types of people.

[@nikester5673]

Im 13 but we are like the same person lol

[@Sea-zu4bj]

Yes both of you act like children but it’s normal for one of you

[@natalia_vlatka]

@@Sea-zu4bj, just don't ok?

[@Sea-zu4bj]

jaoz lagustera shut up

[@sniggitysnack2166]

You're valid, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. 👍

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

Sea I bet you saw that it was about them being trans and immediately got triggered. You transphobes don’t even listen to their backgrounds or struggles

[@themoon2988]

Your environment and community supportive that what you make you lucky, especially when you have found the person who understand you. Thank your God for this and try to stay strong by trusting yourself. Good luck.

[@Kai-ug5vh]

I'd be one of those 41%

[@sniggitysnack2166]

I'm so sorry. If it gives you any happiness, I love your profile pic, its adorable. I see you are subscribed to Geesus, as am I. I really hope things are going better for you 💖❤

[@flightofthelawnchairman5766]

I hope you're doing okay, too. You deserve to be okay. ❤️💛💚💙💜 (I like geesus, too!)

[@aeolian951]

Same

[@TiffanyClayton-we4cn]

We love you Sunny all the way from Austin TEXAS :) Please give us a update of your journey

[@Diamoondust]

FIX THE PRONOUNS IN THE DESCRIPTION PLEASE

[@alarispoljanac9919]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate it

[@wildearthbounder4927]

Be yourself. I live in Texas and it’s scary here.

[@getajobsy]

Thank you for sharing your story ❤

[@garretttaylor2772]

i have gender dyshpobia i have the body of a female but the brane of a male

[@ethancampbell8877]

I dont think thats how it works. Male and female brains are different.

[@teapotcollector3670]

@Garrett Taylor Dysphoria is awful, I wish you much luck on your journey through life. Always remember that you are valid no matter what other people may say to you.

[@Kai-ug5vh]

@@ethancampbell8877 Exactly Thats exactly how it works

[@Lucifer_Mortala]

@@ethancampbell8877 they actually did a study and trans people have the brain correlating to there gender

[@temerianlillies]

@@ethancampbell8877 Trans people have the "brain" of the gender they are transitioning into, that's what causes dysphoria. It's just brain structures, which is a real thing, male brains have certain structures only in male brains and vice versa for female brains.

[@micktierney2779]

Your story is my story ❤

[@tinehammerbo9018]

You are probably the bravest person I've come across

[@milvusz]

Hey, @TEDxTalks. How about you moderate this comments section and use the correct pronouns in your description?!

[@vivisglasses_]

ouch

[@davefisher1840]

This was wonderful. May God bless you as you continue your transition.

[@allisonbaker-t5z]

it's not a crime to want to be the other gender. do anything if it makes you comfortable. especiallly stockings and heels go well with a red bottom

[@IAmAir22]

thanks for sharing

[@ryecatcher84]

Soo eloquently spoken...very inspiring.

[@DisturbeD802]

Is this me ?

[@kasperdomagala4544]

This is me lol

[@vivisglasses_]

idk you know

[@yvonne-transitioning]

Great presentation

[@DeismaGames]

Came here hoping to get an informative and scientific explanation on gender dysphoria. Instead I got a sob story. Damnit Ted I was counting on you!

[@fernandosauret1906]

Same here, very very sad though

[@jonathanavila9699]

Was just looking for a unbiased point of view.

[@Miloggy]

Jonathan Avila There's never quite an unbiased point of view. If you want a good source, however, John Oliver had a good start.

[@enigmaticamelia4099]

Yeah it's really difficult to get an impartial view on this stuff, because you either live with it or you don't

[@BlueberryCats_]

🏳️‍⚧️

[@Mech_Wizard]

This story is vague

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

what do you expect exactly from a 9 minutes long video?

[@Mech_Wizard]

​@@i3ignorantidelweb43 there are videos 4min long which do not contain a single word but still tell you more than that

[@multihorse]

Said some really good things, but was a very weak performance from the speaker

[@olwynglover8918]

She was probably VERY nervous and anxious. It's not easy talking about this like this, ya know

[@olwynglover8918]

*Things like this

[@kriskabin]

She has more guts than you'll ever have.

[@mansi1955]

It's human to get nervous talking about ur struggles

[@Kordon87]

Sadness.

[@richardbedford6657]

It may be time for people to realize that we are born physically male OR female while at the same time born male AND female mentally. We were married at conception to become an individual. This union has been attacked by the world which, for its own purposes, told us to suppress one half of ourselves to the subconscious mind and to express the other in the conscious ego. We may even forget that we have gender partner buried in our subconscious mind. What an insult this is to a beloved partner. The angst will most certainly be felt by the ego as dysphoria streaming out of the subconscious mind. It will most likely be mishandled by subjects and therapists alike with brutal SRS and superficial advice from therapists who do not really understand the cause of GENDER DYSPHORIA!

[@darlalei4303]

I'm a woman. I don't ever think about makeup or wearing dresses. How can you "feel" like you are a woman, if you're not one? I think about people who were born without eyesight or limbs. They don't know what it feels like to have them. I would not add or subtract my body parts to different.

[@sagehoff969]

Oh and a little anecdote about the makeup and dresses. My fiance is a trans woman, and she never wears make-up and very rarely wears dresses. She's fine with a t-shirt and (really comfy!) cargo pants. Yet she is still trans, diagnosed and everything. So, no, not every trans woman thinks alike, or are stereotypically "feminine".

[@twentyeight602]

Gender identity and gender expression are 2 different things I get that you might not understand the whole "feeling like a woman" , and that's quite common for cis people because they don't or barely have that sense that something's wrong You started this comment with "I am a woman" you *know* you are a woman, so do trans women Lol sorry for the long comment I hope I could atleast explain a bit

[@DeAnnaParisRN]

@@twentyeight602 define woman.

[@billyhunter144]

@@DeAnnaParisRN I'm not a biologist

[@keeprollin9911]

@@DeAnnaParisRN A person who identifies with the term "woman". No problem!! ;)

[@Lily-baby23]

He says he is a man , in his speech, but then also says he is trans , 🙀 so I guess you can be both now in 2020 , They live 👽

[@deafdaoboy]

Yes. You are all people who deserve love and respect. But you all share a psychological condition. Not a physical one.

[@ebenezersam9871]

The childlike parentheses intracellularly beg because use presently want to a thick pine. raspy, eight alibi

[@DaveNanan]

This was more of a sob-story than an intelligent discussion about gender dysphoria 👎

[@JohnLee.]

I identify as a 55 1/2 yrs old, i’m still waiting on my retirement.

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

I WANT TO GO IN A COUNTRY WHERE THE RETIRMENT AGE IS 55

[@JohnLee.]

@@i3ignorantidelweb43 lol 😂 oh yeah, it’s 65 1/2.

[@mikecausey758]

I just farted.

[@yodaDageezy]

You don’t have real problems if your main problem is about your gender.

[@calistafalcontail]

Its a mental illness...okay. So why do we act like correcting the body is the thing to do? The body is not the issue, its the mind. Fueling something that warps your perception of reality and makes you demand from others to deny it, is messed up.

[@adonisblox9198]

Bro it was taken off the Mental illness chart in 2015, get your facts in check

[@MrRyan-fd9rd]

I had a cousin that swore he wasn’t homosapien, but rather 100% Neanderthal. Is he correct because he said so? Or is he just wrong and delusional?

[@Mech_Wizard]

Gender is all about your chromosomes. Any discussion beyond that obvious fact is leading to nowhere.

[@ialnavi]

@hyper claws who told ya that

[@mediocrepancake313]

@@ialnavi Look up "intersex" conditions.

[@vladi4ko]

i too gender people by looking at their chromosomes. prepare yourself for an on the spot karyotype

[@Mech_Wizard]

@@vladi4ko I have never heard of karyotype named: "decieving people about your reproductional capabilities ", and did you ever heard of such?

[@i3ignorantidelweb43]

no, also there are intersex people, people who have some weird syndromes like Morris’ syndrome

[@Anita1984isuponus]

Kindergarten teachers need more screening

[@judgejudy3035]

So ridiculous.

[@InsaneCopePosse]

This is a joke

[@andrewb90]

This wasnt informing at all all. It was all just about this guys sob story

[@billyhunter144]

This person is grooming kindergarteners smh

[@AliceMGT]

Wha- how? Was there a report? When did they groom kindergarteners? Oh. Lemme guess. Since they’re a teacher, and also not someone you agree with, you immediately say they are grooming little kids to make them look bad based on a stereotype. I’m not denying the fact that every community has bad people, but not every person in that community is automatically a bad person just because one or two people are. (Note: one or two obviously isn’t an accurate number. There are billions of people on the planet, but you get my point. Anyway, have a nice day/night/whatever)

[@vivisglasses_]

what the ffffffuuuc is the logic behind that

[@AliceMGT]

@@vivisglasses_ i don’t think there is any tbh

[@user-je4eh9ht1k]

Kinda embarrassing the way you follow that propaganda like a mindless sheep. I can tell you who **does** groom kids though and it's the good ol' priests of the Christian church lmao

[@kerilinko4]

This made my head hurt..... how are you born into a male body, but not male 😒

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

Because your brain shows more signs of being female. Studies have shows that trans ppl’s brains have more signs of being the gender they identify with then the gender they were born. If you’re confused, please research and don’t hate.

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

@Arran Vijayadurai because none of you are trans

[@fluffydice9410]

You can be assigned a certain gender at birth but that won’t always mean you are that assigned gender

[@kriskabin]

Spoken like a typical cis gendered person.

[@sagehoff969]

@@kriskabin hey let's not hate on the cis for being cis. Let's hate on folks who are transphobes and purposely misinterpret us for their own gains. This person seems like they were just hearing about trans folk, and it didn't fit with their worldview so they needed more explanation. Not surprising, transphobes like to erase us where they can.

[@Rov-Nihil]

Sunny is also a female name. I don't think it would be fair to choose your own name since nobody gets that privilege without paying tons of money. You HAVE to let your parents decide, perhaps let them go with a female name they thought of back during pregnancy.

[@Kai-ug5vh]

Well no, uhm we pay a lot of money to also get our names legally changed

[@kerriannechilders]

You know, cis people can change their name too? It’s not a trans privilege?

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

You do know that cis people can do that to, right?

[@sylviemartin5932]

@@kerriannechilders yeah, if i didn't have dysphoria i would've probably changed my name anyway since i didn't like it.

[@sushilovermf]

well yeah ofc, a fetus can't choose their own name so they have to stick to the name their parents give them, if a fetus or a newborn could make such decision i bet most people would choose their name. So if you have the chance to choose it, why not do it? Your parents picking it for you can help but ur opinion on the name is also important since you are old enough to choose

[@wiredworld4042]

Satan is deceiving you

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

I bet you say that to ppl with autism or depression.

[@AddilynneLastname]

your god and satan are fictions, they're not real, the worms will eat you too and your consciousness will end to nothing, the earth will reclaim you and all your offspring and family and friends, as she does everyone, even if yall really wanna get this delusional with it, but I'm sure all the people in power love you for drinking their control mechanism fictions down so smoothly, not that you'd be smart enough to know that's not a good thing, you're clearly not at all familiar with what actually is even right or wrong or good or bad, but believing fictions as fact was your choice now you can't unmake it, have fun I guess, delusional people can enjoy their delusions I guess that's your only option now

[@mongel9211]

@@AddilynneLastname Lol. I guess if god isn't real clearly the dude who thinks he's a female is.

[@cloover-jg5zd]

Y'all and your space fairies.. Smh

[@asdffdsa898]

@@cloover-jg5zd its not about satan...its doubt. The truth is no one should ever allow doubt to consume them as this person has.

[@jremi]

Gender dysphoria affects a very small number of people… anywhere from 1 in 30 000 to 1 in 110 000. We now promote the LGBTQ+ ideology in school in the name of inclusion. But if the goal is to be inclusive, why don’t we also talk about people suffering from ADHD, autism, schizophrenia, anorexia, binge-eating disorder, and hundreds of other mental health issues. Why do we put so much energy in the LGBTQ+ ideology while ignoring all the other issues? Who decided this is more important? Why do we feel it is important to promote it in schools, indoctrinate the kids in the process, and turn many of them into gender confused people at an age where they are most vulnerable? The truth is… this is pure propaganda. I am not transphobic; I do believe that EVERYONE should be respected. What does scare me though is our society’s apparent inability to use common sense anymore, especially our legal system, and to see through a few activists’ agenda.

[@Corion2121]

What an exhausting existence. 😐🥱😐

[@yumerepaint8287]

tell me about it. But there's no other option but to live the life we have and not live a lie. I couldn't live as my afab even if I tried

[@stephanieencarnacion8286]

God does not make mistakes.

[@GabS-o1m]

You’re right. But everyone is different and that’s not a mistake. :)

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

That’s why they’re not a “mistake” you’re the only one saying that they are.

[@AddilynneLastname]

Theater Geek That’s From Japan wow someone capable of thought, that's new on youtube comments also the first was reply was good too just not as good

[@i_eat_rocks1481]

Your right god makes people trans

[@fluffydice9410]

He made you