What to expect from a therapy session | Alexis Powell-Howard | TEDxPatras

How does engaging in a powerful therapeutic relationship make all the difference in facilitating your metamorphic process for self-awareness and growth?
Alexis Powell-Howard talks about modern living priorities. Mental and emotional health and well-being are more essential than ever before to enable growth and development. However, engaging in effective personal awareness and development can be hard, especially when trying to undertake the process alone or without professional help and support. Alexis Powell-Howard is the Managing Director at Fortis Therapy & Training, the Mental Health Consultancy of the Year 2022 and a multi-award-winning therapeutic and emotional wellbeing service working to deliver the gold standard in the mental health services sector. An experienced leader and manager, a BACP accredited and experienced psychotherapist, systemic practitioner, supervisor, trainer, mediator, and coach, passionate about therapeutic approaches and how effective they can be to help individuals, organizations and schools to move through difficult times. Alexis is also a TEDx and professional speaker, award-winner, regular on BBC Radio, and a contributing expert and host of live webinars, seminars, conferences, and hosts the Keeping the Peace podcast for Oscar Kilo, the National Police Wellbeing Service in the UK. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@jkssl]

Key insights of this video: 1. Mental health care should be seen as an investment in yourself, and is now more important than ever. 2. Therapy has moved away from traditional models (e.g. sitting on the couch with no eye contact) to a person-centered approach. 3. Creative expression can be used to express the unexpressed, often associated with feelings of shame. 4. A Therapist's role is to actively listen and build a rapport with the client. 5. Learning to set boundaries and take responsibility for oneself is essential for good mental health. 6. Courage is needed to dig deep and explore difficult topics. 7. The work done in therapy should ultimately lead to the client being able to "fly solo" without needing to rely on the therapist's help. 8. Social media can lead us to look for external gurus to help us, when in fact, nobody knows us better than ourselves. 9. It is important to think about yourself and prioritize yourself on your list. 10. Opting into a therapeutic relationship can be life-changing and beneficial to both the individual and those around them.

[@robertcounts5300]

most people that I know that need therapy must first admit they have a problem but they will never admit that because that would mean that they have been wrong for most of their life.

[@silverlinings3946]

This is a truth and a half.

[@rasheedopt2650]

Why some of viewers crtisising , whats wrong, it is v. Good those who suffering, anxiety, depressions r not created. It is just like other diseases. Treatment, therapy is the only option. Ted is not fake. It is a v. Good channel. 🙏🏻. This talk is v. Beneficial Bravo. 🙏🏻👌💐

[@karlmckellar5210]

Big fan of TedX Talks, brilliant and informative

[@nHans]

*Therapist:* Don't say "yes" every time someone asks you for a favor; learn to say "no." Will you do that for me? *Me:* Umm ... no? Yes? I'm so confused 😵

[@silverlinings3946]

This exchange will be part of your diagnosis.

[@Cathee45]

If anyone has any input on this, I'm all ears. I started therapy to do just that: invest in myself and make sure I am supported, mostly regarding my job (teaching). I do it to maintain my mental health. But according to many talks I've heard, therapy should lead to the client being able to "fly solo", which is something I'm absolutely capable of. I use therapy to discuss minor problems in my life, or to bounce perspectives off with someone on certain situations. So now I am kind of confused. Should I stop therapy because I don't have a specific goal with it?

[@bishbash24]

I was looking for this lol And does your therapist suggest you should stop? What's the minimal amount of time you need in order for you stop therapy? 3, 6, or 12 months?

[@emnibob]

Really great question. As a therapist myself, and a person who has been to personal therapy I can confirm that therapy is for everyone, at all levels of mental wellbeing, including as a way to sustain your mental health and not only if you have specific goals or if you are unable to manage by yourself. Good for you! Examples of therapy in talks you are referring to probably are using more extreme cases as evidence to make a clearer point. The decision to end therapy entirely up to you and your therapist to discuss and agree on, however you can choose to leave early , if you have brought specific goals you want to meet and have met them, or if you feel like you and your therapist aren't quite suited, or stay longer because it's helping you. It is very normal, and considered healthy to be in and out of therapy to support you throughout your life.

[@emnibob]

@@bishbash24 In my experience, 6 sessions is the minimum amount it takes for you to build a trusting and secure enough relationship with your therapist, to then have the courage to start delving deeper and achieving positive healing and development. 12 sessions in the UK seems to be the most recommended for therapy although I have been in therapy myself for 2 years and always had something that I needed to bring or think about. Some sessions were about celebrating positive changes and my growth! So basically, it can be as long as you need depending on what you want to achieve. If you just need a non-judgemental space to talk or process things happening in your life with someone, then you could access therapy for that during your whole lifetime if it helps you.

[@bukurie6861]

Thank you for TEDx talk and to be💔👨‍🦼🕴🌞 successful for therapy💕😍🌏🖐

[@lilyan331]

How or what if then the patient hv "Special Feeling" to his/her Therapist? Is it "Health" for the patient? If it is Not health, Then, is it better for the patient looking for another Therapist? Although perhaps that patient already feel "Matching" with that his/her Therapist, mean that patient must begin to adaptating again when must changing with another Therapist?

[@edmundocordova4535]

Lo que deve hablar esta señora deve ser tan interesante que no lo traducen siempre lo hacen para que los que no savemos ingles no aprendamos te agradeceria si existe una posiblilidas de poner subtitulo en español seria genial gracias

[@ErnestoRoca]

Podés activar la auto traducción, que funciona muy bien.

[@edmundocordova4535]

@@ErnestoRoca gracias

[@dharmatejayadla6034]

Wow super mam

[@raynarks]

The one thing I learnt from therapy was that I have to sort it out myself. That’s why they’re called MY PROBLEMS.

[@Deeplymessedup]

Right when my mom convinced me to take therapy lol

[@andreiadetavora8471]

You have rights: you are the THE CLIENT of your psychologist/psychotherapist. And they can't disclosure whats going on inside unless you consent. However you have to be direct with them to reach an arrangement: they have to say something to your mom. I'm a psychologist and i NEVER disclosure any information that my Client gives, but i always ask: what can i tell... That said, when moms take their children to therapy, they should also go through therapy actually!! Because life is hard on everyone. Oh, one more thing: you have to have empathy with your therapist, or it will be a difficult and hard ride, and like the speaker of this video said: it can be very disruptive. But if you two click: magic can happen ;) He/she can help you with your boundaries, with your mental resources, etc. etc. Hope that this helps.

[@evilchaperone]

Handy Therapy.

[@rahmanarp4698]

As-salamuyalaikum Hello, Everyone Good expecting❕

[@nitemare1525]

Wa-alaikum salamuya Therapy is very important and every needs it

[@thatomofolo452]

Hi hello 👋👋

[@krunoslavregvar477]

🖐️

[@justaskinnywhitegirl]

Nothing

[@someoneelsesureme8927]

Arabian people I am ready to translate this Tedex videos into Arabic if you would like that l am hear to help

[@giftedgreen2152]

Nobody is born with anxiety. It's given to you. Face it, you've been indoctrinated.

[@silverlinings3946]

Oh, baby, how wrong you are. Anxiety is one of the ways your body communicates with your brain. In fact, it's how your gut microbiome send signals to your brain via vagus nerve. That's why good nutrition solves many psychological problems. Listen to your anxiety, it's telling you something.

[@ethicseo]

Jesus can change your life ❤️

[@typowyb4list458]

Lol

[@leblancexplores]

Who?

[@RachelDiSalvatore3]

Jesus Christ, the Savior of the world.

[@rach5942]

I can only do this myself not a fairly tale book what tells me how the world is going to end

[@ethicseo]

Juste speak to God then :) @@rach5942

[@janalgos]

this sounded like someone reading someone else's Ted talk.

[@HarryWatson16]

Or more likely, the speaker prepared. TED talks have to be vetted before and after they are filmed, speakers aren't just shooting from the hip - you realise this right?

[@80srenaissance67]

I found her tight jeans therapeutic

[@temi4116]

Really!

[@WesternAustraliaNowAndThen]

What to expect? 1. To have to bank account emptied. 2. To be asked over and over about your childhood and 3. To be asked over and over again, 'How do you feel about that?'. Pseudo science that often does far more harm than good. If I want to invest in myself I will head off into the bush for a couple of weeks and just relax. Therapy is simply a big con.

[@annab3818]

Have you ever been to therapy? It's great that heading off into the bush works for you, but other people with other problems can really benefit from therapy. Different problems need different solutions.

[@WesternAustraliaNowAndThen]

@@annab3818 I suppose it is a bit like religion, if you believe in it then you will accept that it has some value... Unfortunately, like religion, it is still a con.

[@taylerdavis4532]

@@WesternAustraliaNowAndThen so the answer is no then.

[@elenipapadima3385]

You describe a bad therapist not therapy. Science is not something you can reject as a whole but you can choose not to use it. I hope you have a different way to take care of your mental health in your life...

[@WesternAustraliaNowAndThen]

@@elenipapadima3385 Proper psychiatry is science, therapy is nothing but a bunch of cobbled together theories and is pseuo science at best.

[@aidibachir6085]

مرحبا لا يستحق أن تعبد مخلوق ضعيف يموت لم يخلقك فقط خالقك يستحق أن تعبده وحده لا شريك له من فضلك تعرف على الاسلام الحياة قصيرة تنتهي في أي وقت ونعود لربنا ليحاسبنا اني ناصح لك أمين وشكرا

[@jacksonfitzsimmons4253]

“What to expect from therapy” 1. Validation of your worst impulses 2. Seeking help for depression and being pressured into “coming out” as an lgbt identity that you don’t align with 3. Being told that capitalism is the cause of your issues

[@vitalucas9452]

Is that supposed to be humour?

[@jacksonfitzsimmons4253]

@@vitalucas9452 No actually it’s supposed to be an insulting mockery of therapists

[@vitalucas9452]

@@jacksonfitzsimmons4253 My oh my. Sorry.

[@HarryWatson16]

@@jacksonfitzsimmons4253 or you just had a bad experience. To mock an entire profession, that helps millions annually, wouldn’t seem to be the highest form of wit. Therapy is powerful & it works, I’ve seen it and experienced it.

[@giftedgreen2152]

4. Made to feel like your problems are inherent.

[@joeblow5658]

It really is puzzling how far Ted Talks have fallen... However , that is why they have the unsubscribe button. ✌️

[@geneleboyce]

Wait so we have to watch a video on what to expect from therapy versus going to a therapy session and directly experiencing it? HAVE YOUR OWN EXPERIENCE.

[@HarryWatson16]

That’s not the point - the presentation guides as to what you should expect of a therapist and the relationship - it shouldn’t be a passive one.

[@Darylrb1983]

You, don't have to anything...

[@livingstonseagull2465]

Dude, this channel has almost 40 millions subs and 17k views? How is this channel not fake? Dam I will never trust Tedtalk again. They're fake af.

[@silverlinings3946]

It's been posted 14 hours ago, do you think everyone waits around for new videos? And not everyone is interested in psychology either. Ted Talk publishes on hundreds different topic, only a few will be of interest to many subscribers. Do you Millennials have to be told everything? 🤔

[@livingstonseagull2465]

@@silverlinings3946 rofl look at their other videos. Also I've seen channels with 10k subs get more views in an hour. lame fake channel.