How our interactions with people can shape their futures | Dr. Mesmin Destin | TEDxChicago

We live in a world of vast inequality, and Dr. Mesmin Destin shares a new angle on this reality to help us see how the forces that perpetuate these inequalities play out in our own life stories. His work shows the small and large ways that our everyday interactions and experiences push us on to different life paths and perhaps most importantly, what we can do about it. This talk draws from powerful experiments to capture the specific messages and moments that can inspire people to see and reach towards who they might become.
Mesmin Destin is an associate professor in the Department of Psychology and School of Education and Social Policy at Northwestern University in addition to a fellow of Northwestern’s Institute for Policy Research. In collaboration with his lab group, Dr. Destin uses experiments and other methods to investigate factors shaping the experiences and outcomes of students from diverse socioeconomic backgrounds. His work carries implications for institutions and the development of learning environments that recognize and leverage student strengths and identities in ways that support motivation, achievement, and well-being. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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My takeaway: Stories that fortify the self-concept are the true sources of encouragement. Thank you!

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Peace and light to Reggie. I know he is proud of his lil bro. I will be even more mindful of my words and support of of the youth moving forward.

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Our words can be a force for good or bad. Each encounter should leave the other feeling positive, inspired, uplifted. Fabulous TED Talk. 💗

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the message is so powerful! love and peace to big brother Reggie

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I don't think most of us, like you, really take it in when someone's words are an arrow to the heart. I look back and now recognize when I voiced hope and was shot down. We need to instill confidence in our children to stand strong against it.

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You have to rethink your position in the Comm model, the Sender of a message is not as important as the Receiver, who could completely be devastated when what you think is just casual is actually quite distressing to them. Learn empathy and practice it daily.

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That's why one of my favorite quotes, didn't used to be, but is now, "be kind to everyone you see, you never know who you might run into that is just barely keeping it together."

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What a wonderful speech that was ❣️The influence during childhood is something you can’t choose. You are depending on parents/family and teachers.That often has such a bad impact on a child that it’s really hard to develop a different identity for his further future. So parents/family and teachers should really be cautious with children and young adults and support them in their development.

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Just by being around them we can do that, you CAN change people; but you can't DIRECT that change or control it much. This is just another misconception and fallacy, since our very presence changes those around us every day! Embrace that change, and think of the possible consequences of any Communication you have with others along with experiences. A harsh word or a loving one can change a person's day just like that. So, DO IT.

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Absolutely awesome! Just gave me the inspiration I needed

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Absolutely fascinating how the conversations and messages we share with others can make a remarkable and memorable impact. We can enrich the visions of others who otherwise would have missed these opportunities in both life and business

[@TheCommunicationCoach]

You have to rethink your position in the Comm model, the Sender of a message is not as important as the Receiver, who could completely be devastated when what you think is just casual is actually quite distressing to them. Learn empathy and practice it daily. We CAN change people; but we can't DIRECT that change or control it much. This is just another misconception and fallacy, since our very presence changes those around us every day! Embrace that change, and think of the possible consequences of any Communication you have with others along with experiences. A harsh word or a loving one can change a person's day just like that.

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It is not a discovery that people around us influence for bad or for good, that's why we have got to chose who quality of persons are going to be our closer friends.

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More than that, you have to rethink your position in the Comm model, the Sender of a message is not as important as the Receiver, who could completely be devastated when what you think is just casual is actually quite distressing to them. Learn empathy and practice it daily.

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Expectation is keener then enjoyment .We interact with each other we becomes more communicator or orator .Possibilities not comes from comfort zones .A creative mind have more possibilities. Identity valued is a self esteem . This lecture also touch the mental health topic well. . . clapping 👍

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You have to rethink your position in the Comm model, the Sender of a message is not as important as the Receiver, who could completely be devastated when what you think is just casual is actually quite distressing to them. Learn empathy and practice it daily.

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