Why being "too intense" is a good thing | Spirit McIntyre

Why being "too intense" is a good thing | Spirit McIntyre | TEDxGreenhouse Road

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@OpinionWolf Ай бұрын

Another word for intense: Passionate. The two words may not seem to correlate but in this TEDx talk, the word intense can be easily replaced with Passionate. The speaker is very passionate or very intense about what they believe in. Though the passionate may seem a softer word it is just as strong as "intense". If you are going to say "you are too intense" does the situation call for the abrasive word "intense" or can it actually be replaced with "You are so passionate". There is a stigma with saying someone is intense. If you are offended being called intense ask yourself, could the word intense be replaced with Passionate? I love it when people say how intense I am. My eyes wide and bright with fire. It is not a fire to fight, but a fire of belief, of passion and drive in the beliefs I follow. This can be called, being intense.

@ayoubbelhaj8044 Ай бұрын

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@OpinionWolf Ай бұрын

@@ayoubbelhaj8044 what about "your life"? Can you clarify?

@lorrainecolbert4300 Ай бұрын

Yes yes and yes! I agree with and appreciate your comparison of intense vs. passionate. It makes me think twice about when i’ve been called intense or intimidating - the passionate fire of belief and care for things is much more appropriate in many instances

@ChristineJGold Ай бұрын

Love ❤ this! I have always been told I'm "too" much, too sensitive, intimidating...an attempt to control, dismiss and disregard. All based on their wounds and triggers. Heal to the point of having no buttons 😇

@janeomans8146 Ай бұрын

Hi All! I have learned that we're all here to express our own unique, highest, and best selves, to the best of our ability, with compassion and love - to have that experience for ourselves and allow that for others - as we are all part of a whole. That is what makes us special; that is what makes us, and life, interesting; that is why we're here; that is how we grow. That is our contribution to our soul growth, and for the growth of others.

@ashleyanderson9402 Ай бұрын

This is so perfect for me! I have been offered the privilege of being Chairperson of the DEI committee at my job and this is a great way to start the conversation! Thank you and well done on the presentation! All of my intellectual interests were heightened!

@jille7194 Ай бұрын

Thanks! I needed this today. I will work towards building meaningful change and find all of my intensity focus. ❤

@Pacamamma Ай бұрын

After a misdiagnosed TBI my 17 yr old was a behavioral nightmare. We were in the Adolescent BHU & the psych. Said to me, you are intense. Yes, it was an appropriate response to a very intense situation.

@dahlrjay63 Ай бұрын

The amount of willful and purposeful misconstruing of this person's message is pretty... Amazing. People keep talking about intensity in terms of emotion - and while that's what people mean sometime when they tell someone they are too intense, this person is using it on the more general way: Too different from the status quo Too other to be fit into a box... And determined not to be fit into a box by anyone else. They aren't talking about being overly emotional. They are talking about showing up as oneself, fully and truly w/o concern for other people's opinions of how you present yourself. (ofc meant within the bounds of law and good manners.)

@DanielMcCulloch-ix9cq Ай бұрын

Live your life the way you see fit, but always be prepared to accept the fact that the universe is what it is. Expect nothing. Practice not arrogance, be steadfast in goodness.

@askcesar Ай бұрын

This is beautiful!

@ism711 Ай бұрын

What a cool cello. What a cool person.

@siennaprice1351 Ай бұрын

As someone who is completely blind, on the autism spectrum and has CPTSD, I was never allowed to be different from everyone else in society. I was never allowed to speak up and express myself freely without judgment. I was “too sensitive. Not normal enough like the rest of society.” I’m learning that, what if it’s ok to be different. I could look at it as unique. What if it’s ok to not be like everyone else and express myself in my own unique ways? If I just remove the darn mask that’s restricting me from being my own true authentic self, then I would be more intense and love myself and accept myself unconditionally. Silencing unique people is damaging and unhealthy. I can do this!

@janeomans8146 Ай бұрын

Beautiful! Love this! I believe this to be the truth and I commented similarly above!💕

@siennaprice1351 Ай бұрын

@@janeomans8146 I just read your comment. And I fully aggree.

@janeomans8146 Ай бұрын

@@siennaprice1351 Thank you, Sienna! It's nice to meet you!

@siennaprice1351 Ай бұрын

@@janeomans8146 it’s nice to meet you too.

@williamphanz Ай бұрын

nicely put!

@Alexa-ud6qm Ай бұрын

Love this! ❤🎉❤

@Sinklebarn Ай бұрын

I think being “too” anything is not ok. Balance is the name of the game.

@twilightgardenspresentatio6384 Ай бұрын

Depends on the judge huh.

@red_roy Ай бұрын

one could also say being too balanced is not ok, dabbling on the extremes help to keep a good balance ;)

@Michelle-cn9zp Ай бұрын

Being who you naturally are is what makes society diverse and interesting. Whether you’re intense or balanced. You are who you are and no one has the right to suggest that a person change that.

@NathanKavali Ай бұрын

Sounds like you missed her point. The point wasn’t to be too anything, the point was to not let anyone determine who you are. Don’t let people dim your light, if everyone lets others dim their lights the world becomes a dark place

@sr2291 Ай бұрын

You just stopped me from using my brain - the fricken reason I like being alone.

@SpeakandBeEasy Ай бұрын

Yes!!!

@lessarey Ай бұрын

In finding myself again after “intense” therapy unpacking childhood ugliness, my husband complains I’m loud and get excited too much. Our marriage counselor tells him “I’m passionate”. He still loves me, just gonna take some getting used to lol

@TheTarutau Ай бұрын

Your not being intense your being honest.

@kayangel5042 Ай бұрын

So true

@drumbum3.142 Ай бұрын

Depends on What it Is; one is Being Intense, About

@ekennahutchinson1636 Ай бұрын

Thank you for sharing 😊

@amdiary7 Ай бұрын

I think that we do need some intense people in a world of zombies who don’t have any vital energy in them lol. The amount of living dead people I know is crazy. No one expresses themselves anymore.

@janelleluster8653 Ай бұрын

This is huge Spirit 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

@_A.t.g Ай бұрын

Nah. Alot of the people being told are too “intense” have no respect for other people's boundaries. In a party or anywhere if someone is telling you that maybe they just didn't wanna tell you that you don't respect anyone's space and are spoiling the atmosphere. Maybe not everyone has things like stutus quo in their mind. Maybe nobody wants to suppress whatever the heck is inside you.

@easyenglishwithdaisy Ай бұрын

What do you think about the importance of English pronunciation?

@twilightgardenspresentatio6384 Ай бұрын

It’s important to be understood and to understand that language is fluid and changing. Etymology is static, reported. Language is live and spoken.

@red_roy Ай бұрын

brother trust me you are not speaking the same english as your forefathers. they would think youre an uncivilised frenchie for making the k in knight silent.

@ddal3998 Ай бұрын

The speaker is intense, but it is a natural thing for her and it looks ok, but when you fake intensity, that's where it is clearly visible and may play not to your advantage.

@VenusKiiThomas Ай бұрын

Them. The speaker uses they/them pronouns.

@miky8788 Ай бұрын

There was a time were this channel was great

@ArianeVan Ай бұрын

😂

@darrochmcelarney67 Ай бұрын

Being intense is being highly emotional and sensitive. Being highly emotional and sensitive can lead to outbursts of anger and sadness. Which can cause depression and rage. I think you don't have to be intense to show people who you are or your beliefs. I actually like cool,calm and collected people who can argue their points without losing there emotions. People who lose their emotions while debating lose the debate. I know a few intense people who are my friends but I can only have them around me for a short time and I don't want to encourage people to be like that. Food for thought maybe you should have went with the word uninhibited ✌️

@amdiary7 Ай бұрын

You can be intense and yet sharing things in a calm way though. You can be incredibly intense in your own mind but knowing to adapt to other people and not yell in their faces.