Seeing the World through the Prisms of a Lazy-eyed Realist | Muborak Samieva | TEDxWoosongUniversity

[@DLStarbuck]

Thank you for telling your story Muborak. Stay strong. When I was born I was cross-eyed and as an infant, pitied by people who looked into my face. As I grew I was belittled constantly by some peers/children from the time kids could talk till I was eleven years and a second operation cosmetically corrected my eye misalignment. I have too many vivid memories from a childhood of running home in tears, inconsolable. It was crushing. I had wonderful loving parents who helping me. I am at the end of my happy life now. I think of my childhood as a trial that made me stronger and more compassionate toward people who are not completely "normal". Peace and Love DS

[@gamelihlencube2128]

Relate to you so much

[@elonmusk8296]

Hi

[@elonmusk8296]

If you don't mind may we have a talk😊

[@deepalisingh3939]

i am also the same.. sometimes its really hard and uncomfortable to make eye contact

[@elonmusk8296]

Even I managed to make eye contact by practising for years

[@terabyt8799]

I still can't today

[@deepalisingh3939]

now i live in hostel with roomates and day by day i am practising to make eye contact,, people usually stare at me but i dont look away instead i focus more to thing and people in conversation and this thing helped me alot..

[@sandyuk0294]

Same problem 😢

[@smithy2170]

It's not so easy for everyone, but I think we have to keep in mind that there are a lot of us out there. You are not alone with your struggles of self confidence. The remarkable thing about confidence is that everyone has it within them, just waiting to be shown to the world.

[@Deniseallen425]

I commend you for your self acceptance and for recognizing that surgery alone will not fix your strabismus. I too have struggled with strabismus but was able to gain 3D vision at age 56 through a combination of vision therapy and surgery. My daughter with the same condition needed only vision therapy. I am grateful for this fuller view of the world and am raising awareness that it is possible to teach your eyes to work together at any age.

[@dk3153]

I have this exact same problem and i cursed myself for it my entire life until i met a friend of my now ex. her friend was talking to us, the sun was shining and she was really engaged in a conversation with her. then she turned to me and stopped talking. i was so confused, i was certain she would make a comment on my lazy eye but something else happened. she started tearing up and told me that i have the most beautiful eyes she has ever seen. she obviously said it in the most innocent way possible so no worries on my ex's side. after she said that i started tearing up and to this day i would call that the best moment of my life

[@Itsmanibro2001]

❤❤ i know how it feels

[@debabr4t]

she prolly pitied u

[@sleazyR5573]

Sad but feelings great that people do talk about this👍 as a teenage with this condition its feels like it is the only thing that's holding me back to achieve my goals and happiness and my happiness is really depends on people validation "i wanna change that"🙏

[@stevanniegunawan7875]

You are the most amazing person I have ever met, someone with a beautiful heart. I didn’t even tell when we talk, all I see is perfection! 💜💜

[@sybcomaabhishek.ryadav5572]

❤

[@VeikhailouJohnson]

I am in my early 20's now with exotropia strabismus. It's an everyday challenge to live with a normal mentality n social behavior with a lazy eye. Thank you for you sharing. Nothing comforts except self acceptance n compassion.👍

[@SIMPLEStrengthSara]

Oh my god the “are you talking to me” hits home

[@sitoraburitosheva2571]

You are the strongest, most amazing and gorgeous person i have ever met!! Never stop to love yourself❤️

[@mumtozaposhokurbonova]

Muborak, you are the best role model❤

[@dadodalosa9122]

You are amazing! You enlighthened me and a lot of other people.

[@makhbubasamieva304]

Muborak, U R always on TOP🔥🔥🔥

[@mirjonkhamroev606]

Муборак молодец ! Мы гордимся тобой!

[@username_illa]

3:41 I've faced this thing many times in my life.. I don't know how to respond to them.. I often say to them that 'My eyes are like this!'.. But they'll repeat that question again after some days..Nowadays I can't speak to anyone looking to their eyes.. Most of the peoples say that 'you should speak looking into the eyes, otherwise they would thing that you're lying or may not be confident'.. Most of the peoples can't understand how much it affects my mental health..🙃

[@NN-et7xt]

I have this condition. Love that you don't have glasses x

[@medialwoman9]

You are beautiful, and this was a wonderful talk. So young and so wise!

[@carolinefilmt9268]

But thank you sooo much for this talk. Very inspiring and uplifting!

[@jjamiejackson]

I honestly couldn't even tell you had a lazy eye. Mine is horrible. I've had 3 surgeries and it always goes back . It's been pretty rough.

[@What-q5v]

I can relate to her story..sometimes they don’t answer when you talk to them

[@BrettMichum]

The worst is if I have to point, because then I’m the rude one.

[@What-q5v]

@@BrettMichum damn that's just messy

[@arshadaafaqd8636]

I can feel too😔

[@What-q5v]

@@arshadaafaqd8636 we have to just accept it and move along in life 😁

[@arshadaafaqd8636]

@@What-q5v Agree💯

[@zodasaidova5805]

Muborak you are the best

[@azizaaxadova4622]

Omg u r so gorgeous, thank you so much 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@kimberlybeasley8548]

You Are A Beautiful Person

[@Himanshi.Singh.]

Thankyou ❤ from a person with strabismus.

[@rajsinha-j2i]

Only the suffering people knows whats this video means to us..

[@enfieldjohn101]

I have Binocular Diplopia, or double vision when looking with both eyes. The rectus muscles that control eye movement are weak, especially in my left eye. Not weak enough for my 'lazy' eye to be immediately obvious to an untrained person, but weak enough to prevent me from seeing correctly. The difference in how my eyes look is really only highly noticeable if someone watches my eyes as I'm trying to track the movement of something or if I am trying to cross my eyes. I have to concentrate very hard to see things singly, especially if they are moving. I wasn't able to cross my eyes when I was a baby and I still can't do it, not even after years of eye exercises. There is a paradox of ableism that comes to mind. On the one hand, clearly visible deformities or abnormalities help one get the accommodations that one needs. On the other hand, if the deformity or abnormality isn't readily visible, it is easier to hide from people so they won't tease you about it. In some ways, I have it 'easier' than Muborak because when people are just looking at me or chatting with me, they don't usually notice that my eyes aren't 'normal'. On the other hand, I have it a bit 'harder' than she does because the problems that my vision challenge causes are quite noticeable, can be debilitating and even dangerous in some situations. For example, if I am driving a car and my eye muscles get too tired, I can no longer see a single road in front of me. The signs and even the dashboard in the car become harder to read. Perhaps worst of all, my ability to judge distance and depth becomes impaired since that relies on proper binocular vision. As you can imagine, I don't enjoy driving and only do so when I have to. Most of the time, my wife drives, or I take the bus or a cab. Having binocular diplopia also makes reading, writing, working math problems, solving puzzles, playing most games and sports, etc. very difficult. I wasn't able to develop my hand-eye coordination as well as I maybe could have otherwise as I was growing up. I also had very low self-esteem and confidence as a result. My 'peers' weren't much help either, as you can maybe imagine. They seldom missed an opportunity to tease me for being clumsy and no good at any of the activities that they thought were 'cool' or important. Worse yet, I had a hard time helping my grandparents with chores on the ranch where I grew up. They were as kind and understanding as they could be, but naturally they got frustrated with me when it turned out that there was yet another necessary chore that was something I just couldn't do well, so it was not much help to have me try to do it. Ranching livestock can be a risky job and some of those chores were downright dangerous if you couldn't do them correctly. There were many times when I would get injured because I was too slow and clumsy to get out of the way of a kicking cow or a moving piece of farm machinery. I was also always thin and a bit frail as a kid, so I wasn't strong enough to do many of the chores. I was really hard on myself as well. I felt like a failure, like I was letting my family down by not being able to the cowboy they needed me to be and not the athlete that the community I lived in wanted me to be. The only sport I could sort of do was running races, but even then, I had the stamina to run a long distance, but not the speed to win races no matter how much I trained. The only things I was any good at were things that involved my imagination. I could draw anything that my mind came up with. I couldn't draw a still life of a real object that didn't look almost as surreal as something that Picasso might have drawn. I could also tell you a story about that drawing from my imagination that was quite detailed and involved. When I finally learned to read and write at the age of eight (after struggling with eye exercises daily for three years), I began to be able to write these elaborate stories down and to illustrate them with my drawings. The only person who seemed to really like my stories and drawings was my high school art teacher. A few other people, like my family and the few acquaintances I had, would politely say nice things about them, but she actually seemed to enjoy them and to encourage me to do more. Everyone else told me when I was in high school that I needed to get a 'real' job that would pay better than art and writing, so I studied natural sciences and got a botany degree in college. I do find plants fascinating and did really enjoy my studies, but there have been times when I've wished that I would have worked on developing my artwork more. I also am autistic, as I've come to learn in the last few years, so I tend to get off on tangents and 'over share' sometimes. Though usually, my tangents have some connection to the original topic. I think in collages and tend to create art, design gardens and even decorate my home in a collage sort of way. I wonder if there is any link between neurodivergence and physical and mental challenges such as binocular diplopia and the difficulties that it can cause during one's development. Back to the direct subject at hand. I applaud Muborak for having the courage to get up on a stage and talk about her challenges like this. Public speaking is very difficult to start with, but especially when the subject is something that is so personal like this. I especially loved when she talked about forgiving yourself and accepting yourself. That is so important no matter what one is going through! I have struggled with self-doubt, self-hatred and self-pity for most of my life. Sometimes, I make progress and am able to have a few years of growth and fulfillment. Other times, I fall back into the trap of depression, anxiety and doubt. It's not easy, but like her, I know that I can't give up because I'm the only 'me' that I have. I need to accept that I am who I am, flaws, malfunctions and all. Today, I also have an advocate: my wife, who is one of the few people I've met who accepts me the way that I am and who is willing to support me as I struggle to be the best me that I can be. She says that maybe my binocular diplopia and autism are actually blessings and not curses. It is partly because of them that I experience the world in a unique way. A way that I can express through my stories and art. I don't know if I could give a TED Talk like Muborak did, but I am happy to share something like it here in the comments.

[@divyasachdeva2210]

God Bless you for sharing your experience. My 8 year old son has lazy eye and it is hard. I understand the challenges, but it does not stop people from thriving and achieving great heights. I also know many people who have it and as much as they say that you can't fix amblyopia, that is not true. We are doing vision therapy and it helps a great deal. They have convergence exercises to help strengthen the eye muscles to work in the same direction and also other exercises that work to retrain the brain to use both eyes as a team and get binocularity. It is a process and takes time and hard work, but it is possible to fix it. Watch Sue Berry who fixed her strabismus at a much older age (in her late 50s). Very inspiring.

[@Watermelon_editz.]

Thank you for this speech I needed this

[@Hoppinwithhago]

thank so much for this!!!

[@dheerajgaonkar]

It looks like my mind is speaking in front of me.

[@gulcehre8340]

Мубор я тебя сильно ЛЮБЛЮ ты моя гордость 😍😍😍

[@navjotsinghsandhu4729]

You really have a incredible beautiful smile..♥️

[@aghakhanum9342]

I m also facing this

[@МахмудСамиев-п4в]

Very good 😊🥰🥰😘😘💋❤️

[@carolinefilmt9268]

i have strabismus. And I wear contacts which makes it better, but it's not gone. I don't want to get a surgery because like Mubarak said: the chances of having multiple is SO high and it can make things worse (although it can also work and everything is fine). I'm beyond insecure about it. I don't want anyone to know, because I feel like no ones going to think I am attractive..although.. maybe that shouldn't be the end goal after all?

[@arshadaafaqd8636]

Could you please tell me what do you wear contacts?? Explain

[@malkolmshabazz6430]

I have strabismus, but my is constant and I cannot move it 😔

[@IamPazan]

It's Just nice to be self. Imperfections everywhere

[@ceydaarslan5643]

Super 👍🏽

[@elonmusk8296]

Am late in my my teen, I have amblyopia(lazy eye ) I was slim , fair , attractive, upper middle class boy, even I has lazy eye I have make the confidence to look others eyes( correct eye contact made by practices and hardwork) , as a pre degree student I made lot of friends, girl friends, besties, some days later I fall in love with a girl who was younger than me , somehow overthinking make me broke 💔 my confidence vapourizes , bear market in my studies, try to isolate my self from my friends , I have more than 200 close friends, some of them always tried to contact me , get me to the grounds , to eat , but then also I was broke , days after days now .....

[@elonmusk8296]

Today at the function I saw the girl

[@Itsmanibro2001]

Brooo wanna talk?

[@elonmusk8296]

@@Itsmanibro2001 why

[@elonmusk8296]

@@Itsmanibro2001 yeah

[@Itsmanibro2001]

@@elonmusk8296 just share your thoughts about life bro, i have squint/ strabismus too

[@bangtanworld661]

Well spoken mam

[@Sirmokey]

I have lazy eye and it’s miserable

[@hatixhehuseini3187]

Thank you you are beautiful I felt the same way 😮

[@decentgangff791]

😊❤i m also suffering from this

[@navjotsinghsandhu4729]

You are beautiful pretty girl..🥰🥰

[@itsallnews2536]

❤️❤️❤️

[@aghakhanum9342]

This disease can be seen after avery 15 girld & dr says sorry .....we are facing lot of problem like thia .........

[@lone8398]

Lazzyyyy eyes. Why

[@demi3115]

Strabismus =/= amblyopia..

[@nika_art848]

❤❤❤