How to burnout and Be Successful | Rachel Sheerin | TEDxPuntaCanaWomen

[@thisismindfulness]

And this is a perfect example of why it pays to be mindful. Our bodies, our minds, they give us signs when it is time to slow down and initiate any self care practices.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

So true! Mindfulness and burnout are definitely dark and light sides of our mind/body connections. In my experience as an event emcee, I see a lot of attendees at conferences with their ears to their shoulders and have been incorporating breathing breaks when we come back to encourage a mindful moment (if the meeting planner approves it!). Is that an effective practice, in your opinion? Do you have any others you would suggest?

[@buddyfranks]

The best thing to avoid burning out is changes. It always works for me.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Love that, Buddy. What do you change when you burnout? Do you feel that it affects your success and happiness instantly at work or does it take a while to have an impact on your motivation and life?

[@dustyevans2130]

If happiness is a precursor to success, then I have to learn how to be happy! Its a never ending story.

[@carldupont4440]

Happiness is fleeting. Learning how to be accepting and forgiving to your own self is the hard part

[@thanawatdangprasert]

I definitely feel this

[@TheRealLoveChannel]

I love happy people, for the most part they lift the energy in the room. I try to be a happy person too as it has a lot to do with perspective and mindset.

[@stanchance]

You can't be happy all the time! Often exceedingly happy people compartmentalize negative emotions and without processing those emotions - well, it can lead to burn out!

[@thanawatdangprasert]

Finding harmony within our personal lives and work lives can be such a task. I'm still learning! And I really got a lot of guidance here. Now to find something I love to do, heh.

[@lynnecousins]

I am so grateful that we are having these discussions now. It doesn't matter if you ND or NT, burnout is REAL. We for so long have been on such a "go, go, go" trajectory I think it's hard for some of us to admit and accept that we must take time to realign ourselves, find balance and be kind to ourselves. Even when we are doing things we love it is still so easy to lose all capacity and not have anything left to even feed yourself. Kudos to this woman!

[@thisismindfulness]

It is so important that humanity learns to live within balance of their bodies and their surroundings.

[@marekduvanche]

So true! I love how we are all actually talking about this now

[@mikewobblyweaver]

Killing it at work and always late for dinner, too tired to go out and always had too much to do. Good-bye 2020, thank you for showing me what I no longer have to do.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Mike, this response is so encouraging - I am cheering you on! Can't wait to hear how you crush your 2021 in happiness and success!

[@surasakwichairak]

Successful in a way that matters to you. Yes exactly.

[@piperdalgliesh]

but I got burnt out listening to this talk...

[@thipparatchuri-nagrusk]

Needed to hear this!

[@gobigorgohome1161]

yes that makes sense

[@laelresands5016]

well money can matter!

[@thipparatchuri-nagrusk]

@@laelresands5016 it can no doubt!

[@josefthepichler]

Oh my! Your talk just opened my eyes. It’s amazing. Be successful means be happy. So simple.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

If we feel success, it will be so! Thanks, Josef

[@josefthepichler]

@@Rachel-Sheerin Thanks, I will keep trying to make it so!!!

[@IamLegoMan]

Her attitude is delightful, a solid base can pull you up and out when life is pulling you down.

[@yafaxestre]

she is a great speaker!

[@zackpinonet]

she's really awesome

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Thanks so much, LegoMan, Yafa and Zack! Sending a lot of love to you all.

[@margaretstrom]

Ive been where she was, good talk!

[@ezekielaliss]

I am burnt out!!!

[@alexleister]

Some of my friends just laughed at me when I said I had burnout. But when I was so exhausted that I had to take medication and had to quit my job to overcome it, they changed their mind and were much more understanding.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Alex, I am so sorry that happened to you with your friends -- and I'm so glad you listened to your instinct! When I burned out, I barely told anyone for fear they wouldn't understand. When first became a keynote speaker and virtual emcee, I had the same fear for a while. But what I realized was that the more serious I took myself, my burnout, and goals - the more serious everyone around me did too. All that to say, I bet you will be a great friend and understanding supporter of all you meet who are going through burnout - you are a light in their dark moments!

[@josievannorman]

I think it's still hard for older generations to understand that burn out does exist as they were never offered the opportunity to really listen to their bodies and take time off

[@keeserevin]

It is so sad it takes such extremes to 'prove' we need support

[@josievannorman]

@@keeserevin I think we all do at times.

[@felicityhalette]

I loved everything about this woman and her presentation - we are such a turning point on this side of the world and so much of what she says describes so many of my friends and I

[@magaliegoulet]

Me too!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Felicity! Thank you for this comment! When it comes to burnout, the more we talk about burning out and how to heal from burnout, the better we can be for our lives, teams, communities and ourselves. So glad you found my talk!

[@daveallanthedave]

I remember a careless, easy-going life when I was a student. I dreamed and hoped that the best was yet to come. I had no idea what burnout was. But now, working 6 days a week, having 2 weeks of holiday a year, the word burnout is part of my day.

[@TheRealLoveChannel]

It seems to be the way for a lot of us. Not quite what we anticipated!

[@easyrider9366]

Yeah, so much of our idealistic views.

[@Me-lolahernandez]

I wish someone had told me the truth!

[@kenfletcher1306]

It is almost unavoidable

[@easyrider9366]

@@kenfletcher1306 true

[@therealjuanschmidt]

Burn out brings you to a stronger flame, I so get this.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Here's to burning bright, @Juan!!! Cheers to you

[@sofiatclara]

Ensuring success aligns with your values... That's such a big thing. So important. So many people spend their lives trying to succeed in areas that don't really speak to them. I know I had that after 10 years in the same industry, I cringe when I think about how reactive and unhappy I was towards the end of that stint.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Agree 1000%, Sophia. Congratulations on realizing it was time to launch into your next chapter - your happiness MATTERS!

[@sofiatclara]

@@Rachel-Sheerin thank you, and thank you for this wonderful talk!

[@marekduvanche]

Even if you love what you do, you must take breaks as often as you can, that's the only way to protect yourself from burnout.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@Marek, you're spot on. Breaks, whether they be mini breaks throughout the day to stretch, stand outside, pet the dog, watch a funny clip here on KZbin - or longer breaks like a hike in nature, reading a book or travel, is vital. The rest and reset just like a bear in hibernation - we all crave and need it!

[@wittylove7215]

Yes, burn out is created by some sort of change. That feeling of I just can't do this anymore. Thank you burn out and a global pandemic.

[@emkegillis]

This is great that people are starting to talk about this. I think burnout is the reason for all the depressions, mental diseases and even suicide.

[@westhalbrook2472]

6 Zooms, 4 reports, and a hundred emails, and yes this is just 1 day. Needed to see this today. In this lock down where I am locked down in more ways than 1 one. Thanks Rachel!

[@michaelhunt635]

this was my day today, and it's saturday. needed to hear this lady's talk. thanks for sending westy.

[@johnlum8136]

haha, its my life this year

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@West, I am so glad you found my talk. I hope the work you're doing is getting you closer to that success that matters most TO YOU! Cheering you on...

[@westhalbrook2472]

@@Rachel-Sheerin Or closer to another drink, lol late at night still working. Great talk Rachel.

[@magaliegoulet]

Be successful in a way that matters to you.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

As an emcee and keynote speaker, I love using this line! Thanks, Magalie - I am so glad it resonated!

[@emkegillis]

love this. especially now that success is being redefined.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@emkegillis There's never been a better time to have happiness be part of your definition of success! Cheering you on, Emke!

[@emkegillis]

@@Rachel-Sheerin Bless you Rachel thank you!

[@margaretstrom]

Love the energy in this talk!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Thanks so much, Margaret - The TEDx stage was electric to be on and I loved sharing. Do you want to do a TEDx talk yourself?

[@sandycrisp4518]

she is electric!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@sandycrisp4518 You are wonderfully kind - sending sparks your way!

[@kylelramsay]

I think the events industry can be so draining. My partner did it for 10 years and just like this woman, the job she once loved, where she thrived and has a sense of purpose ended up making her miserable. In fact, I think every one I know who has done events has had the good old burn out. It's such a high energy industry where smiles and people pleasing and efficiency are of such importance. It can take it right out of you!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Kyle, I agree with you! Passionate people care so much - and the events industry is FULL of passion! And you don't want to stop caring or being passionate, it's a big part of joy - but the key is to care about yourself just as you do your clients and guests! Your happiness matters!

[@robertjoinersr]

My daughter works for an events company and she's gone through the exact same thing.

[@robertjoinersr]

@@Rachel-Sheerin I keep telling my daughter this. Sending her your talk, I'm hoping she'll listen to you better than she listens to me

[@stanhopeishere]

Events person here, so the truth!!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@stanhopeishereAppreciate all you do - and wishing you a better 2021 ahead. The industry will bounce back!

[@carldupont4440]

I contemplated becoming a paramedic a few years ago and I must say, I'm super glad I didn't do that. I can only imagine the burnout there at the moment

[@aaronereid]

Incredible story, so raw and real. How many of us have lived this! This lady's journey is so real, so REAL. Really appreciated this, more than I can properly articulate right now.

[@desivaldez]

thanks for the link, she is good!!!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Thanks so much, @Aaron - so glad this resonated with you. We are all in this journey of life, love and burnout together!

[@kaymitchell4935]

I get that, I feel the same.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@kaymitchell4935 Not being alone in the stormy seas of life is one of the greatest solaces we have. I'm glad we're connected - best wishes to you and yours!!!

[@phyllismknapp6038]

When happiness leaves you, where to from there.

[@lizettesimon478]

I am there right now 🥺

[@annerossiter]

Yes yes yes, I loved this Ted!

[@verapatrizio]

here!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@annerossiter Thank you so much, Anne. Sending love as we launch into 2021!!!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@verapatrizio You are not alone!

[@Me-lolahernandez]

Emails never end and my little child is growing up so quickly. I feel guilty as I'd rather deal with work related emails from strangers than having direct contact during the day, though it takes away from spending evenings with my family.

[@gaiasardoni]

I can relate to this feeling as well

[@jeffgoldygold]

I get to the weekend, I sleep til noon, get up drink coffee and look at emails, then feel so wiped out I need to sleep more, but can't because I am stressed. Thanks, yeah there is another, just wish I could make the leap.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

You're not alone, Jeff - with you in burnout and the otherside... keep going and take some time for your joy!!!

[@just-4-meImworthit]

im stressed just watching this, haha, seriously I get it though.

[@alanwbell]

I couldn't agree more with what she's saying. But I instantly think - what if we all worked to live, instead of lived to work? I am all about being passionate in your career choice but if we didn't live in the society we currently do, burn out probably wouldn't exist... We would have more balance. They have it right in France, consistently protesting working conditions.

[@wittylove7215]

I think this is very true!

[@mikewobblyweaver]

Very valid!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@Alan - I agree with you! And in the same breath, I think there's a magic to be had when people really love the work they do. I think no matter where you are on the spectrum of work and the investment of your energy and talents of it, I think the key is that you LIKE what you are doing. The balance you strike. The time and energy and focus you invest. If you don't love what you're doing... CHANGE IT! Permission granted - and if you love it, then carry on with good wishes sent to you my friend. The power of choice - it's powerful - and I'm grateful you tuned into my talk. Thank you for the conversation and feedback!

[@desivaldez]

Success is not steps in a ladder. Trying to un-shed old thinking requires an internal renovation and recalibration of the mind. So much too unpack.

[@gadlubac]

heck yes!!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

You're so right, Desi - ladders are the old way of thinking about success. I like to think about it now like an ice cream sundae bar. I mean, who isn't motivated when they get to pick their own toppings, build their own creations and have fun in the process? Thanks for watching and sharing!

[@kylelramsay]

@@Rachel-Sheerin Was reading through the comments and saw this, EXCELLENT metaphor. Love that. What a way to think!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@kylelramsay Thanks so much, Kyle!!! Sending love to you

[@gaiasardoni]

I remember when I was working with people for about 12 hours a day, had 4 days off a week and had a 4-year-old daughter and was a single parent, I started to hate people I worked with. That was a destructive feeling and I had to take a 3-month pause which was helpful but I still struggle.

[@miriamhilley]

That sounds so overwhelming, I hope you have more support in place now

[@emilyquail8929]

WELL DONE!! Left me in tears just like when I attended "F This S" at NACE Conference a few years ago.

[@kingbrantley]

The what conf?

[@hudson-crawford]

LOL the f and s?

[@macyduens]

I agree!

[@sandycrisp4518]

I hate that saying, don't quit a job until you have another one lined up. I dare say that's why so many of us jump from one heart breaking job to another, anything is better when you're suffering... It's only when you take time out with no work that you really figure out what you want to do

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@Sandy, you bring up such an important point here - the jumping that can occur when we're burned out. Instead of searching inside ourselves, we seek outside and repeat the burnout patterns - just in new positions, new relationships, new jobs, companies, states, countries. Love that you shared this!

[@felicityhalette]

I have done this on a few occasions and it truly is such a disheartening experience!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@@felicityhalette Burnout can be a career long affair, for sure. It comes back because we care about the work we are doing - did you change the way you think about burnout?

[@lynnecousins]

time to re-evaulate and re-prioritise, is very important

[@miriamhilley]

I am curious to know what people use as preventative measures, or at least when they feel the burn out beginning.

[@kenfletcher1306]

Or even know that you are burning out before you realize that it has already happened

[@miriamhilley]

@@kenfletcher1306 agree.

[@keeserevin]

Here for any tips too!

[@gadlubac]

Oh I can so relate to this, where you just don't have the passion to continue with something you used to love doing.

[@IamLegoMan]

ain't that the truth

[@zackpinonet]

saaaame, it's a tough one to realise.

[@sofiatclara]

yep, same here.

[@stanhopeishere]

it's amazing how love can turn to spite

[@robertlcbranson6834]

I have been in burn-out so many times that I don't even know when I am or I am not.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

Robert, that is such an eye-opening statement. Oftentimes, when you feel that you are so deeply burned out, that the cycle of life is a cycle of frustration and fatigue, that means that you have changed so radically from the person you were while not updating your life to the person you are NOW. Are you living in all of the shoulds of your past, your beliefs? What can you let go of today that isn't serving you? Do you want to start a new life? And if so, what are you waiting for? Much love and strength to you. xx -Rachel

[@stanchance]

It's interesting that before the Industrial Revolution, humanity figured out that there was a balance and understanding in life, hence the Age of Enlightenment. Funny how it was all forgotten once we were distracted by consumption, instant gratification.... I think we are coming to the end of that cycle though and realising again how important balance and long term thinking is

[@alexleister]

Far out, I never thought of this pattern before.

[@stanchance]

@@alexleister good isnt it?

[@hubert-olszewski]

We invented burning out. So true:(

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

The fact that we made the lock and chains means we have the key!!!!

[@josefthepichler]

@@Rachel-Sheerin such a fabulous response!

[@zackpinonet]

How did I get here? An unemployed time out gave me the insight to what I didn't want to go back to....

[@phyllismknapp6038]

lol thats right Zack!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

It's the detours, side adventures, unexpected pitfalls and chances that shape our greatest stories, decisions and surprises in life. I've been there - keep going!!!

[@JosieZamolyiCaldwell]

Way to go!!!!

[@stratulatlucian8064]

I want to feel happy every day. But who cares? I have so many responsibilities that stress me out that I can't do what I really want anyway.

[@kingbrantley]

I get that!

[@Sarahlee2480]

Yes girl!

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

@Sarah Forth - Sending love to you in NY!!! Happy almost 2021!!!

[@josievannorman]

It also depends on a persons' ambitions. Some people work at the same factory the whole of their life and never feel the need to change jobs... I am not sure if they are happy, but looks like that! Do they know what burning out means? I have doubts.

[@dustyevans2130]

I think if there is simplicity within the job it makes a big difference

[@josievannorman]

@@dustyevans2130 thats true!

[@rusticsettings]

Titles, awards, even good income won't protect you from burnout.

[@lachiepturner]

Back in the 80's being a burnout had nothing to do with work. Just saying.

[@Rachel-Sheerin]

That's so true, Lachie. I am a motivational keynote speaker and I was speaking to a company conference last week at their virtual event - in the chat, someone said "When I started in this business, I never thought the day would come where I would be the only one left." - and it was such a sincere moment. What do you think is the cause for the change we've seen?

[@daveallanthedave]

@@Rachel-Sheerin I wanted to chime in here. It would definitely be that the award wage has stayed the same, but house prices, food, utilities, have all gone up. I would think even those who make above award wage would still feel a constant need to get ahead in fear of somehow losing everything. Especially after the GFC.

[@kenfletcher1306]

and now everyone who was doing burnouts in the 80s is burning out in the reality of adulthood

[@nissansgaming5688]

Aaaa ma mataji