How to use anger as a force for good | Marcia Reynolds | TEDxAtlanta

Globally acclaimed trainer and coach Marcia Reynolds draws upon her personal life experiences in this simple but powerful talk about how anger can be an empowering emotion that enables us to live up to our full potential.
Marcia's work in leadership development ad workplace communications has reached over 100,000 people in 41 countries.
She develops practical applications from the latest neuro/behavioral science discoveries and uses them in her work with some of the world’s most recognizable brands. Her books have been featured in Fast Company, Harvard Management Review, Psychology Today and The Wall Street Journal.
A globally acclaimed coach, Marcia is the training director at Virginia Tech’s Healthcare Coaching Institute. She holds a doctoral degree in organizational psychology and a master’s degrees in communications and education. Marcia’s work in leadership development and workplace communications has reached over 100,000 people in 41 countries.
She develops practical applications from the latest neuro/behavioral science discoveries and uses them in her work with some of the world’s most recognizable brands. Her books have been featured in Fast Company, Harvard Management Review, Psychology Today and The Wall Street Journal.
A globally acclaimed coach, Marcia is the training director at Virginia Tech’s Healthcare Coaching Institute. She holds a doctoral degree in organizational psychology and master’s degrees in communications and education. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@blainejohnston8265]

7:09 "Anger erupts when what you believe should happen doesn't." Powerful self recognition statement!

[@artcornish3520]

Never has anger sounded so gentle.

[@Joao-pe8ur]

I used anger when I didn't get chosen in a selection process (that hadn't the proper setup for a professional) to create some works that caught the attention of the public. Today I'm in a much better position than I'd be if I had been selected :)

[@nurainiain7761]

I cried when she narrated: You care about people! We may be very angry but we empathize with those who are oppressed! I appreciate this content and speaker a lot.

[@craigjohns7665]

I could never have guessed what she went through, such a struggle and to come out the way she did.

[@hubert-olszewski]

so true

[@craigjohns7665]

@@hubert-olszewski you know it man.

[@hubert-olszewski]

@@craigjohns7665 i do lol

[@gwendolyncarnell]

This is so true, I have been labeled by others who had no idea who I am. This is a must watch ted.

[@ForRelationshipHelp]

Knowing how to use anger to clarify your values, and learn from your experiences is amazingly powerful. Thank you for this, Marcia!

[@gazioktay441]

Yes the title fooled me for a moment, but I got so much out of this.

[@VascoBreitenfeld]

Such and underrated, under viewed talk. I loved it, just what i needed. Amazing job!

[@heatherevans6169]

Very Powerful! Re-writing the idea that anger is bad and putting it to work for us brilliant!

[@marciareynolds3235]

Thank you Heather!

[@EileenMcDargh]

Love this. As a good "catholic" kid, we were taught not to show anger. But then, yo realized that even Christ got angry at money changers. I also like the notion that anger can be the fuel to help us forge ahead. Thanks for being vulnerable.

[@LyssadeHart]

I loved this particular truth bombdiggity: "When you get who you are in here [hand over heart], you can do anything out there."

[@MindyGibbinsKlein]

"Claim your anger" - what a great statement and what a great lesson. Thank you for sharing this important idea, Marcia.

[@michaelhunter7959]

Oh yeah I get that, I thought it was something different, but this works better than fists

[@shystrshystr]

wish I had done this decades ago.

[@chanteldraper3474]

Wow. KZbin suggested I watch this video, which was incredibly random, and I am blown away by the relevance of it showing up at this point in time within my life. One of the most insightful and thought provoking talks I’ve heard in a long time. Thank you.

[@alicerose9140]

That was inspiring! Yay for Anger! 12.41 was only time enough to barely get into this long-neglected issue. And yet in that time she said so much

[@rinanoshinikov]

I wish I could like this so many more times!! I never thought of using my anger this way.

[@liza-zotova]

this is a very good talk, very good.

[@jhonusalazar]

so do i, what a great ted

[@verymarysalisbury]

she is very good

[@theresarives]

me too

[@rainithacker]

agree all day long

[@alyhdickinson]

She is so strong from what she went through and what she is.

[@felipeecoelho]

really - she is.

[@charlesdonstand]

it just shows you, cant believe what a cover says about a book.

[@michealdrozd]

I have seen this promoted for a few weeks, I wasn't going to watch, but I am dam glad I did...

[@ricardom.arnold]

yes me too

[@rickygrays]

add me in, it's been in our group, this woman is a good speaker.

[@merlemackenzie]

Thats how I found it too.

[@rickygrays]

@@merlemackenzie Hey, havent seen you online in a while, where u been?

[@tonirduran]

Great talk Mike thanks for the share

[@lyricperalez635]

I Learned That Anger Is Not Always The Answer To Everything You Are Strong And You Are The Only Person To Stop Yourself From Acting Out Don’t Feel Hopeless You Are Enough

[@tonikoch]

Great one… so glad I saw this. Helps big time.

[@natejohnson5393]

This was great for me to hear- I feel so angry all the time and want to control it

[@nitishgautam5728]

Keep it or release it

[@greenapple6]

6:14 when you get who you are in here, you can do anything out there. WOW!

[@robertaherron]

Yeah totally agree

[@marciareynolds3235]

She changed my life!!

[@robertaherron]

@@marciareynolds3235 yes I can see that, angels come in many forms

[@alessandrolorusso9778]

Brilliant and down to heart/earth as always, Thankyou Marcia. "Getting hungry is easy, it is getting angry with the right person, for the good reason and in a proper manner that requires wisdom!" - Socrate

[@marciareynolds3235]

I love the Socrates quote too!

[@tinaomotoyosi]

Thank you for sharing your story Marcia. Very transformational

[@MrCash-lm1xz]

1:26 to 1:43 sounds like something a past avatar would say to Aang when he asked them for advice.

[@tonirduran]

I was moved, and they said I wasn't enough - now I own 3 companies and have a staff of 70. Some are the kids who were in the smart classes.

[@juanlsalazar]

thanks for sending to me.

[@saundrasewell9159]

Good on you Toni

[@annmerrychristmas]

wow I am so conflicted, in the world of mindfulness there isn't room for anger, yet I hear her

[@agnespuentes]

I thought that too but I see it different now

[@annmerrychristmas]

@@agnespuentes yes I agree it is different

[@agnespuentes]

@@annmerrychristmas thank you

[@marciareynolds3235]

I hope we all come to accept our humanity in all it's forms.

[@annmerrychristmas]

@@marciareynolds3235 thats so true thank you.

[@sylviacrittendon]

Brilliant talk!!!!!!

[@AnaA-ku2yt]

Thank YOU!

[@milesprimrose5990]

Very good talk, take the few minutes and watch this!!

[@pengzhou6952]

Very smart talk, and she knows. I like speakers who you know knows what they are speaking about.

[@jimwebbjr]

Yeah, good talk really good talk.

[@spazmatt3000]

Thank you

[@adammayhew3673]

This makes sense, and it moves me.

[@susanpqpowell]

Now this is good, very good - amazing story.

[@gracefairbank]

I am that kid too, really love this talk.

[@emmillyy.]

Wonderful talk! :)

[@jorgecastano3724]

THE FORCE IS STRONG ON THIS ONE

[@scottyh8494]

Excellent speech on anger.

[@jamesbowie4540]

Great talk, I was one of those kids moved down.

[@maverickvassallo]

Yeah me too..

[@alanwbell]

yeah I know this one, me too.

[@joo-jali]

more of us than anyone knows

[@dimamoharev]

I was too, we were annoying to the system.

[@timmymckinley]

its like we need to start a support group james, kids forced into bad places

[@roguetrooper9442]

This was awesome

[@prod.dopamine]

RESPECT

[@WonderfulTruck-fi8lo]

Very good! 👌

[@nicopetey]

Talk about a shift, amazing.

[@lisa-lio]

Thanks for sending Glenn, this is a gem!!! and yes her? jail?

[@agnespuentes]

I loved every second of this video, I can look at anger in a different way now!

[@adammayhew3673]

Me too, this is why I love watching TEDs...

[@agnespuentes]

@@adammayhew3673 and I watched it again, thats how good is, watching on christmas day

[@marciareynolds3235]

Thank you for letting me know my words made an impact on you.

[@katrivers1489]

That was awesome woman!!!

[@marciareynolds3235]

Thank you Kat!

[@dl4121]

Through passion I gain strength.

[@kristianzlee]

This goes on my save list, anger this way is smart anger.

[@maryjboffa]

I couldn't believe the first few minutes, and I won't spoil it.

[@georgewatkiss]

I was that kid in trouble too, maybe I still am. Good talk should be seen.

[@johnlum8136]

It would seem again that even the best of us had to struggle with others who did not see our worth.

[@johnpederson3085]

thats beautiful john, thanks for the share.

[@michael-rivera]

Oh Lummy so good thanks

[@regina-reda]

yes I see that

[@austinjay9486]

good share Lums

[@northcosca]

that is so true.

[@liza-zotova]

This is amazing 3rd time I have watched in 2 days

[@skyec8562]

I am on my 3rd now too.

[@marciareynolds3235]

Thank you Lisa. It means so much to me to hear that my words and experiences have impact.

[@liza-zotova]

@@marciareynolds3235 :)

[@jessebrooks1158]

Nice

[@riddhikaria4628]

❤

[@charleshurstreinvention3959]

To an extent. Becoming angry when needed is normal. But as I tell my own subscribers--staying in that state is not. Suffering from chronic anger causes a few problems. First it impedes your progress. By draining your energy that you should be using to advance yourself. Ever been angry all day at work then skipped that night workout? That's probably why. But it also isn't physically healthy and can lead to long term effects on the heart and doctors now think future cancer as well. Not to mention high blood pressure. There are two simple methods I tell my own people how to control anger. One you have with you--your breathing. You can breathe in a meditative state while walking down the street. You picture a coil slowly unwinding as if you were breathing through your stomach. Slow and in and out. Wind the coil and let it go slowly. It calms you down and if you do it every few hours for maybe ten reps then it keeps you calm. Second--reflect on what you are growing angry about. Is it really going to affect you even four months from now? You'll find many times it won't. So I would use these techniques to minimize anger so you can only progress forward. Hope that helps someone out there---Charles

[@susau]

💗💗💗

[@brilliantphoto5992]

Anger can be a force for good.

[@mayali8124]

Hiding from anger will squeeze you into silence

[@tomkijiner1639]

FIRST BABYYY!!!

[@seamusconlan9673]

If I keep the energy and act only more harm will be done.

[@alexaphillips8911]

You are the smart kid now Marcia...

[@chinookvalley]

Poor volume. Good presentation.

[@alicerose9140]

My volume was great and she speaks very clearly. Have you checked your sound control?

[@zvch88]

Why is nobody talking about the fact that she was part of a school socialization experiment 😭💀💀

[@tonistark8843]

Her voice makes me more anger..

[@Version-ru1mj]

An animal caught in a trap, will gnaw off it's own leg to escape. What will you do? I must not fear... I must not fear... Fear is the mind-killer. Fear, is the little death that brings obliteration. And I'll face my fear and I'll permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past... I will turn the inner eye and see its path. And where the fear has gone, there will be nothing. Only I will remain. Like sifting sand through a screen, we sift people. If you had been unable to control your impulses, like an animal. We couldn't let you live.

[@billconconi]

Now this was a shocker, I wouldn't have picked her in this story?

[@JellyBean0776]

What is the source of your anger is retraumatizing on a daily basis and there's nothing you can do about it.

[@glennhamilton3rd]

No way, I just didn't see this coming. JAIL? for her?

[@oguzkaanuremis]

no kidding...

[@fatimaausama4451]

Im sorry to say that but that unfortunately doesnt always work

[@therealmr.unicorn]

Just can't see her with a spliff chillin back and getting busted

[@maryyouson4404]

you are bad, but funny too.

[@agnespuentes]

WHAT!!!! this woman was in Jail????

[@douglaslett7504]

I believe most people are angry because someone mistreated them ! Many times religion doesn't help, there's nothing worse than bad theology. One of the few theologians that seem to make since is Rabbi Harold Kushner !

[@10mmfan]

Looks like this lady has used her anger in the weight room. Nice arms. Lol

[@freshliving4199]

How can Marcia Reynolds explain to anyone how to deal with anger when she herself has not overcome her own anger? She is misleading many people. Ask me how to overcome anger and I will gladly answer. Or take Marcia advice and see how far you get.

[@lizziemonk927]

Ok Dr Phil since you have all the answers how do I overcome years of anger, resentment, grumpiness, bitterness, rage and apathy from being bullied at home and at school??? How do I have a FRESH start at LIVING anger-free??

[@freshliving4199]

@@lizziemonk927 Hi Lizzie, as children we are born innocent. Then as we grow up we become traumatized, usually first by our very own parents, and then by the people we meet along the way. Growing up traumatized in this world basically recreates us into who we think we are today. We become the sum total of our experiences. That is miserable, angry, hateful, depressed human beings. This is NOT who we were created to be! Return to your life giving Father by forgiving your parents for the initial trauma. They did do the very best they knew how. This forgiveness is the key to being set free from ALL your life traumas. EVERYTHING!!! I can only try to explain but you have to experience it yourself to believe it. In conversation with you I can explain faster and clearer if you can Zoom/Skype/Etc. Regards, Julian

[@Kikematamitos]

LOL you pay for views!!!!!

[@monkeybusiness6417]

should be called "how to turn your anger into vanity". tedx used to be better than that series of lame commonplaces.

[@alicerose9140]

So a woman's valid anger and advice on how to channel that is not sufficiently profound enough for you? You sound vain about your own 'important' opinion and 'superior' expectations of tedx subject matter.

[@monkeybusiness6417]

@@alicerose9140 you seem to know a lot about anger

[@alicerose9140]

@@monkeybusiness6417 I do. You sound like you have some work to do too

[@monkeybusiness6417]

@@alicerose9140 no, I expressed my view, that's all. freedom of expression, nothing more.

[@Aeimee7]

You obviously didn't understand how an emotion can be used, in either a productive or destructive manner @MonkeyBusiness You still have time to learn. Good for you I just used my anger towards your ignorance to bless you instead. I call this compassion instead of anger.

[@Version-ru1mj]

An animal caught in a trap, will gnaw off it's own leg to escape. What will you do? I must not fear... I must not fear... Fear is the mind-killer. Fear, is the little death that brings obliteration. And I'll face my fear and I'll permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past... I will turn the inner eye and see its path. And where the fear has gone, there will be nothing. Only I will remain. Like sifting sand through a screen, we sift people. If you had been unable to control your impulses, like an animal. We couldn't let you live.