THE POWER OF THE BLACK WOMAN’S SELF LOVE JOURNEY | Denise Francis | TEDxQueensVillage

[@SunflowerVibe329]

Thank you !! Today i will be going to find a therapist ... Its my time to heal ! Ive been a mom since i was 18 .. Im now 30 and a mom of 3 .. I am here but i am not present .... I exist but im not living ! I need to make it my time now. Thank you Denise 🌻😘

[@CP-fw7lt]

You are worthy❤️

[@SunflowerVibe329]

@@CP-fw7lt i appreciate your kind words 😘

[@NorthPhilly-zr7xc]

Are you a spiritual person

[@CP-fw7lt]

@@SunflowerVibe329 anytime 😊

[@esthernzula995]

Yes yes. Please fo

[@NR-so3ir]

“I was coping, not healing....” I felt that to my core!! Thank you

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

You are very welcome !

[@DiamondAWashington]

This is the same self acknowledged journey I'm going through right now. It sucks and is sad when you realized your whole life you've been this way... now how do I changed it and my generation? That's the hardest question I'm facing rn.

[@SheReaDelSol]

Oh this introooooooo TOUCHED me. Girl, I hope this message is spread throughout our community.

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so much love! Please help me spread it!

[@hannahburson6671]

1!

[@hannahburson6671]

111111

[@happylifegoodlife4all]

Amen

[@allthingswithnie6982]

@@LiveNaturallyLove 🙌🏽

[@tinaford6619]

I immediately started crying when she said she realized the 9 year old girl was having an anxiety attack. Took me right back to the past. These tears are of a girl crying “heal me”

[@tabithaflagg410]

Me to thats when it all started for me to 😭😭

[@williamswalterwatson1142]

Hello

[@TasiaPearson]

Me too.

[@Renoclark]

Everything will be ok,

[@leslinepittman]

Coping instead of healing. Wow! Beautifully said.

[@RealLadi228]

Self love is no longer the scapegoat. Self love uses and enforces boundaries by any means necessary. Self love addresses issues seeks help when needed. Self love understands how energy must be protected and utilized positively. Self love is definitely empowering!! Thank you!!

[@Renoclark]

Good information for everyone

[@RealLadi228]

@@Renoclark I'm a living testimony 🙏 🙌 Amen 🙏

[@theresab540]

Just what I needed to hear as I break generational trauma and healing myself. Thank you

[@theona3726]

People don't even think we feel this way. They think we are looking for attention and just looking for something to complain about.

[@Renoclark]

I know women feel this way, stay strong

[@crissykayyexpressions111]

Thisssssss‼️🙌🏾

[@ms.m.2132]

❤❤

[@mrknowit77]

Women complain that's what all women angry women all across America that type of attitude will never change it is what it is real talk lady

[@francescaw9410]

💯 Absolutely true. It makes it difficult to show your vulnerability. when you're passionate about something you're labeled as aggressive. Where as other people who are passionate about something in the exact same way are not labeled as being aggressive, it's simply passionate.

[@nybella9678]

Wow this message was so powerful! “The strong woman is the healed woman” my new motto

[@SelfLove4eva]

This was a great way to start my morning off, I tell people all the time self love, self care, and self awareness is crucial for your mental health.

[@SincerelyBP1]

I ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS. My life has truly changed since I've embarked on my self love journey🙌🏾

[@SaraPuyol]

Mine too sis :)

[@kelseybee123]

"This whole time, I've been coping and not healing." THAT WAS SUCH A SHORT, BUT RESONATING SENTENCE.

[@taylrelorraine]

Wow! Thank you for speaking your truth. A lot of it resonated with me. My self love journey has been transformational. As a mom to a daughter I am thankful that the trauma can end with me 🤎

[@williamswalterwatson1142]

Hello

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

amen ❤

[@godislove7410]

I'm on my own self love journey and when I tell you it's the most empowering thing in the world, your smile is beautiful Denise❤

[@Black-j-o1c]

She just looks so beautiful and attractive

[@ProspectivePlans]

I was more than hesitant to watch this video, and here I am tears knowing that just being strong is not enough! I need some healing!

[@latashaclark3247]

I was emotional hearing this. I have worked very hard for a long time. Since I was 19 yrs old. I graduated college. Worked dead-end jobs, just to end up back in school. I had a daughter at 19 and 27. Each time I was in school. So where was my me time? I finally am in the end of my program and have excelled. I’ll be 30 this year. Why am I not happy? This year I’ve been so depressed not understanding why. I have so much to be happy for. This video gave me much clarity. I just need to understand me more and that I am only human and Its time to take time for me. I’ve worked hard all of my 20s and never once stopped to see if I was ok. Thanks for this video.

[@missjackie7983]

Self love and protecting your peace is extremely important!

[@williamswalterwatson1142]

Hello

[@sheambitious29lachelle17]

How are you now? I am just seeing this video, very needed

[@SassyNan]

I love this!!! This is a great message that needs to be heard. ❤️

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so much 💜 I hope to share this message to as many people as possible!

[@roziroze]

Financial Health also needs to be brought to the forefront of acknowledgement & attention.... Because without valuing ourselves we give so much of ourselves freely within the relationships we encounter throughout our journey and deal with financial abuse from our partners as well

[@chatsonthematwithedrence3910]

Agreed.

[@Exodus26.13Pi]

You meant husband or wife.

[@michealjohn7192]

no one is talking about man and money thats not the problem. sort your self out and everything and else will fall in line

[@ruehlcharles4843]

Inspirational women make more inspirational women. 🗣🗣 THANK YOU for coaching future inspirers 🙏🏾💪🏾☮️💟💕

[@jaizanerussell4103]

That definition of self-love touched my soul

[@consciousmama7385]

I don’t know you personally but I’ve watched you for years. I am proud and inspired.

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so so much !!!

[@qubilahsadeshabazz]

That she has shared so much of her personal self-love journey with us is so so so appreciated. We need more of us normalizing loving ourselves out loud! Thank you for sharing your brilliance and being vulnerable with us!

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so much 💜

[@monyamotley3079]

Exactly "Allowed" is a powerful word. this is soooo true and on point!

[@virginianicole05]

Ive started on my self love journey and I’m feeling amazing my world is changing so much for the better. My anxiety, depression and overthinking is getting better every day. It took for me to completely loss myself but I’m doing it now. Thanks to videos like these I’m finding me.

[@veronicac.4272]

You probably don’t remember, but I interviewed you for an organization about your self love journey when I was in undergrad 3 years ago because your platform made me start my own. It’s amazing to see how far you’ve come!! This TED Talk was so powerful and much needed. Your platform showed me that self love is more than just pampering yourself and looking good. The real work starts within 💜✨

[@cresha80]

I needed this as I start my journey to self love and breaking generational curses

[@celestialj5908]

Thank you my Sister. That is one BadAss suit, beautiful.

[@yvettesamuel6725]

My greatest takeaway is self awareness is obtained through self expression. Suppression of feeling does not cut it. After exhaling you can now breathe.

[@JenesisBrister-nn2gy]

24 and on my self love journey AMEN I'm happy I arrived here

[@samanthabrown814]

She speaks the truth!! I never even know what anxiety was until I was 39. I was told I just needed to calm down.

[@olabmar498]

This woman is a blessing to the world. By binge-watching her content, one has easily found a guide on how to love one's self. Such a blessing and so grateful to have come across a beautiful, gorgeous, intelligent, confident, happy soul.

[@lourodriguez2739]

One of the strengths in facilitating is the "introduction" to receive the attention. Life is a journey 💓

[@sapphofulton386]

Thank you fir your message of the importance of self love. We don’t as you mentioned need to suffer in silence. We all need to love ourselves so intentionally that we unapologetically address those generational trauma that has indeed silenced us. It’s healing time. Ase

[@jessicademus3013]

Coping and not healing is what I've been doing... It's time to heal

[@nmatteis1]

this was sooooo needed and Thank you for sharing, been on my self-love/self-care journey for 7 months now and I will continue for the rest of my life. my holy trinity is gym, church, and therapy. I thank God for it!!!!!!!!

[@chrissy5205]

Wow, seeing you up there speaking your truth with such poise and elegance really touched me! Seeing someone who look like me and is younger than me commit to this self love journey is so inspiring. I found you one day as I was looking for an apartment and there was a post of you sharing your Brooklyn loft! I read the entire article and then somehow I was led to your self love organization page. I quickly signed up to be added to the list. I knew that I wanted to be a part of a group of women like me who were working on healing! I started therapy a few days later and started my own journey of healing! It’s not easy but I keep pushing and taking my time day after day. I want you to be encouraged and know that you are doing a damn good job! You are touching lives by simply living in your truth! I can’t wait for your retreat in August! Wishing you nothing but the best!

[@jessicadawson7527]

Self love is the best love... my journey is 2 years young but I swear I'm never looking back... this was so spot on and unequivocal words can express my Vibrations at this moment.. healing for all of us is long overdue... I'm empowered from my own self healing and discovery.... namaste to you beloved

[@adricharise]

This was not only beautiful, but needed and appreciated. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging women who look us to take care of self!

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so much for your kind words 😍

[@tathealthsolutions]

Wonderful Message. We must stay happy and healthy. We must also be sure to nourish our mind, body, and spirit. Stay Blessed!

[@j.d.9378]

Truth!

[@marylavetta8136]

I felt not just every word, but every syllable. Touched my soul in a way I cannot explain. I felt this. I never knew that I was just "Coping"....

[@lyfeasmemecsit6203]

I have to push through ,I have to keep going, our unseen pain, I love how she pushed that through to the audience.. It's our everyday we have no safe space.

[@anastaciathomas1215]

I hope this message is spread where it needs to go. I’ve been on a self-love journey for about 3 years and I’ve isolated myself because of it but I love it.

[@jayla6142]

6:39...felt that.

[@vidab.8785]

Yes! As Queens we all need to hear this.. Over and over again.🌹 Thank you!

[@sheryllord440]

"Self love is a Journey.." I wholeheartedly agree.

[@Happy-jg9fg]

This work and talk is So Needed! Thank You!!!!!

[@evakeiko7770]

You are all beautiful and deserve the best. Big support to you girls.

[@donyamonique]

This was eye-opening, genuine, and so insightful! Thank you for helping me to understand what self love truly means!

[@kgirlb45]

Sooo proud of you ❤❤ thank you for just being you and sharing your beautiful energy.

[@user-yp8yz1mz4d]

I was sitting here and just flipped back to your spiel and my spirit was calmed by it thank you

[@ImaBeeAStar]

yes sis!!!!! onmyselflove journey now that led me to getting back into therapy

[@thatchicasonia]

Congratulations! I have been waiting for your reveal for weeks! This was so good, and honestly extremely relatable. After continuous episodes of pushing things aside like they never happened, my self-therapy began when I came to accept the story I was trying to avoid. Thank you so much for sharing your self-love journey.

[@shefancy1632]

Powerful speech! Thank you Denise 🙏🏽💜

[@Everybodyisimportant]

This is AMAZING!!!! I’ve shared with my daughter and relatives and friends!!!! Thank you for sharing your truth and bringing awareness that so many are still ashamed of. Thank you to The Most High, to Queen Afua, Ms. Blue the Oracle, Laila Delia, Idillionaire, Jessica Alexandria (BehatiLife) Iyanla Vanzant & I’m sure I’m missing others, please charge it to my head and not my heart these women have all been instrumental in my own personal self love journey!!!!! I wish I could have discovered this a bit sooner before my moms transition. It would have benefited and healed her I’m sure. 🙏🏽🤗❤️🙌🏾

[@nasiayah7487]

I am so proud of you Denise; this message is so powerful! God bless you 💗

[@savvymomelkie655]

This TedTalk gave me life! Confirmation that Self Love is necessary in our healing process. Thank you so much!

[@gn7493]

You are amazing! And you look fantastic sis

[@lydiagibbs1001]

Thank you. You saved my life.

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you love. Happy you are here!

[@mjgomes8886]

Self-love should take more place in our lives!

[@ericawillis208]

I took notes, because this is important to me. Thank you for this. I will do my part and continue this conversation in my life. ❤️

[@AnaLuv89]

I’m in tears! THANK YOU SISTER! 💕

[@marilynjohnsonnd6915]

Such precious essential work we both take the time to heal with a spells love Journey

[@GoldenGoddessAlchemy]

So beautifully said. We are on this journey together Goddesses! Peace and Love ✨

[@Jennmonique]

Thank you for you words Denise Francis. As a young Jamaican women, your video has been one of the tools helping me to begin my own self love journey. To be healed.

[@veronicaramotse9546]

Your presentation really touched me to the core! Thank you for sharing this message Denise! May God bless you 🙏

[@LiveNaturallyLove]

Thank you so much sis !

[@SaraPuyol]

This video need to be viral, thank you for your performance! We need that content!

[@divinesoul1077]

Excellent Tedtalk… well done!! And she is so right. I’m learning this at age 30. It’s hard but it’s worth it. Self love is the best love 💕 👏🏾👏🏾

[@keeplivingnyourrightmind]

Thanks so much! This is powerful! Sharing with my group of caregivers and my sistas!!! Let's continue this revolution of self-love and stop watching each other suffer/die.

[@NaturelleetBelle]

I get goosebumps listening to her. I’m so proud of you Liv 💕

[@rosierho7898]

She is amazing

[@RodniThorpeTK]

This was very relatable and also reflective of where WE are and where we're going. Thank you Ms. Denise Francis. I'd love to be friends with her lol. Job well done.

[@coolberry3928]

Absolutely beautiful presentation. Thank you very much.

[@sonyag.coaching]

My journey has been and beautiful! I'm grateful for the healing!

[@latecearzu2652]

what a powerful stumble I found. I have been on this journey for the pass year.

[@rachaeleena]

Amen sis 🙏🏽 thank you for your candidness. I didn’t realize someone else has a similar story from a Caribbean background.

[@louweezyanna6974]

I'm sharing this with my sister military veterans. We take on the mantle to "do it all without asking for help." I' became a mental health therapist for veterans, to share a similar message. I'm proud of you! Thank you for sharing this insightful and compassionate message. ❤

[@michellen2186]

Beautiful Powerful message! This concept has taken me years to realize but thankfully, I find inspiration like this to continue the self-work and healing that I need to break generational curses.

[@workdocumentacion]

Thank you so much for bringing awareness 🙏🏾❤️

[@renee3498]

This is what I needed to hear...my self love journey begins today

[@oxymoron9548]

Thank you for telling my story!🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤😘😘😘

[@RealHumanSunflower]

Thank you so much Denise! My tears uncontrollable right now ! I’m proud you love

[@carolynmerritt7100]

I hear ppl saying "oh im fine, ain't no need to complain because it won't change anything or nobody cares". So folks pretend they are ok, when they really are not. Its sad 😭

[@julietblanco1849]

Thank you! Well said...

[@Annjenkins806]

Self love can set you up success and beautiful life for eternity

[@neneuwase2117]

This genuinely moved me! ❤️❤️❤️

[@ambitiouslycierra]

I am so glad that I came across your work through tiktok. This message is so so important. Incredibly moved by this video-brb sharing it with everyone I know!!

[@janiquewinfield8599]

Anxiety said and spoken this way was informative. It's helped me to understand where my journey is going. I began my Mental Health Journey first and the self love is becoming more prevalent as I continue to this walk. It took a severe panic/anxiety attack to occur first, but how strange; that breakdown was what I WANTED!!!!! Admittance is the opening to balancing self love and anxiety. I solely believe that the generational curses are something breakable. We have to realize our power as women and embrace as well as give that to one another. We are the world go round, without US in the details nothing moves, so yes find a therapist, be willing to open your deepest and darkest moments and NEVER regret what was done. Own it and begin to allow those things to help you to be strong and transparent. We said.....

[@amberclancy7353]

THAT WAS AMAZING I SHED A TEAR!! GOD BLESS YOU !!!

[@b4realjenkins625]

Lord bless her, I really enjoyed the journey, thank you.

[@tiaraoliver3072]

This is what I needed to hear…today I am starting myself Love Journey 😊🙏🏽

[@marjorielemons7551]

Thank you for this Powerful commentary💯💯💯💯🙏🙏🙏🙏💞💖💖💕💓👑💃👠

[@shaunakay3910]

Deniseeeeeeeeee!!!!! Yessss sis!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yesssssssssss!!!!

[@nursestylemuse]

This is AMAZING! LOVE!!! 💜✨

[@micolomaria]

Am so proud sis . The love is real ❤️❤️❤️

[@k.c.6446]

Thank you Queen ❤️

[@denitapcaldwell]

That was a word!!! An HONEST word!!! Bless you Denise!!! The best morning cup of self love to start my day!!! Peace and blessings!!@

[@suchalady7173]

That was a beautiful Ted talk. Well spoken and very relatable. It’s a beautiful journey. We so often give our love to others but when we begin to give that love to ourselves, we unlock a new level! Masking it just covers it up. We have to be healed from the inside out! Yes I am going to church and therapy at the same damn time! Working on the core and the spiritual self. Listened to this on my way to the gym. Now I’m ready to go in and work on the external. All love.

[@oliviajones5035]

Thank you Denise for sharing.

[@تكوينجمالالكون]

I loved her makeup 💄 It really suits her pretty complexion. Gorgeous ✨👍🏾🖤🖤🖤 Honestly, she is the prettiest women in the world 🌎 🥰👩🏾‍🦱🔥

[@neneuwase2117]

This needs more recognition