Happiness is all in your mind: Gen Kelsang Nyema at TEDxGreenville 2014

[@zeina2793]

I watch this every time I have a panic attack. Truly life changing.

[@utkarshsaxena5364]

doing the exact same!! Watching it daily in order to hardwire it in my mind.

[@darshangowda9347]

Certainly helpful. Also give mindfulness meditation a chance, changed my life.

[@r.s.5646]

May you come out of all of your fear. May you be peaceful.

[@MrAminnazir]

I am having bad panic attacks please help me

[@kkhmdfk]

@@MrAminnazir seek a psychologist

[@kittykatfancy]

There is so much to learn from her pauses, her timing. She's able to be at peace with silence. It also helps her communicate much better to slow down. It's like she is in touch with a natural energy flow so many of us are disconnected from. This is beautiful.

[@laszlonagy2928]

Is not your grandfather happen to be Ronald?

[@MarieEmanuelle]

Jessica Hubbard I totally agree. Well said, Jessica.

[@daretolivedelicious7170]

I learned the importance of slowing down from a friend & classmate. The professors would ask questions & most of would blurt out the answer (wrong or right). When he was directly asked, he would take his time before he answered. You could tell everyone else was uncomfortable with the silence, but then he would share his thought through answer. I used this technique and my answers were so much more clear, and I learned a lot.

[@mrmrsvianavianaprovim4058]

Jessica Hubbard música d natal

[@kevinreedmusic]

I agree!

[@katerinamarini4078]

“Happiness and unhappines are states of mind and therefore their real causes cannot be found outside the mind”

[@malikfahdaliawan178]

They include hormones too.. what to do with them?

[@sleepsmartsmashstress740]

Until now I used to think that Happiness and unhappines are states in the USA

[@mikebrown600]

@Aviana ' Greave. Buddhism doesn’t deny emotions, but don’t wallow in them in self-pity.

[@JohnSmith-uu5ov]

@Aviana ' You throw a party and recall all the best moments from their life

[@samtenlhendup1457]

@@malikfahdaliawan178 the production of hormones are controlled subconsciously by our mind, meaning the thoughts that we are conditioned with are the subconscious part of our mind and its flow controls the production of hormones or any other subconscious activity. Once you observe the subconscious part of your mind, it is no longer subconscious and it becomes the part of conscious mind.

[@la8842]

I have an awakening when she said “stop blaming others for your unhappiness”. She is right. If we are happy inside, no matter the outside world how bad it is, we will still have a peaceful mind. On the other hand, if we have a war inside, no matter how many beautiful people we meet in our life, how lovely our surrounding is, we will not notice the good.

[@Encircate]

I think all people that comment on KZbin video are unhappy!

[@everythingnothing2978]

@@Encircate including you?

[@thebaldone100]

I felt the exact same eye opening

[@hatembenabdallah1]

I am with you, We all have a war inside and it is a sad and lonely battlefield

[@Funmise-World.]

SO how exactly do we win the war & troubles from with... I agree it peaceful listening to her

[@sarthakmaheshwari3888]

Listening to her talking is like meditation.

[@mariescamilla3780]

Answers : 1. Very much 2. No reasons 3. Always Gud 4. I will embrace it even if nice things don't happen! 👍

[@francisdaly1757]

ASMR

[@niravrathod1146]

@@mariescamilla3780 zxzx

[@niravrathod1146]

@@mariescamilla3780 z was zxzxzxzz

[@niravrathod1146]

Zxzxx

[@kidungkasih]

This is the calmest TED video I've ever seen. Literally.

[@mateusz5718]

Like a Bob Ross' one

[@ruqayajasim5325]

Loophole no no k no no NBC p.

[@ruqayajasim5325]

Loophole P I numb no numb KB NBC I nvm n knob no NBC nonbinary

[@rileydoe2629]

U haven't seen the world yet

[@MUAxuanMUA]

The TheThe Themelidacartagena

[@amroaquinas1357]

taking care of my mother (90 years old) gives me happiness ..

[@florinpieleanu130]

Awesome, dude!

[@TJ11233]

❤❤❤

[@BLE09]

That is wonderful, wish you good health always!

[@gingtuballa6255]

@ Amro Aquinas, That's a real happiness!

[@SH-jk8ox]

Your mom is blessed to have you❤️

[@dogeboixx]

When she asked "are you having a good day" I immediately cry. I've been through so much things today. I Don't realize I'm suffering right now

[@jingyuanzhu2423]

I just cried to it too. Hope you'll have a good day everyday from today onwards.

[@dogeboixx]

@@jingyuanzhu2423 thankyou, you too! :)

[@irenekotarac1346]

Dear Hardy, l totally understand you. I have been very unhappy for so long. I don't blame anyone but myself which is why my burden has been heavy. I have had some happy days in the past few weeks after years & years of sadness. I am sending you love & hugs. Remember most of all please learn to love yourself. You are one with God & he is always with you.🙏❤️🙏

[@Christina-ku3nh]

This is: The New Kadampa Tradition - NKT aka International Kadampa Buddhist Union, IKBU' BE WARNED - A Very Dangerious Cult. Please Watch: *"An Unholy Row" BBC Documentary* about this Cult leader & the NKT on many sites across the web.

[@jenniferm430]

So did I...

[@shellieshimmel9148]

Happiness is a choice. Buddhism is a beautiful blend of spirituality and psychology, and she teaches it with a peaceful, loving spirit. Love the meditation at the end.

[@tunkycool]

I like the way you described Buddhism :)

[@est9949]

Yes, plus philosophy, which is also my favorite thing about Buddhism.

[@OrealeXO]

Your ego is choosing to watch all these videos rather than choosing to be happy, so in essence it is.

[@sahxb.]

Let go of ego. Don't expect to be happy by watching these videos.

[@rabinab7604]

This 'New Kadampa Tradition aka NKT' is a Very Dangerous Cult, Please watch: *"An Unholy Row" BBC Documentary from 1998,* across the web about these people & read the comments..

[@rajg7342]

1. Need to stop outsourcing our happiness. 2. Actively cultivate a source of peace and happiness from inside. 3. Happiness and unhappiness are both states of mind, therefore, their real cause can't be found outside the mind. It is not what happens to us but how we react to it that creates happiness and unhappiness.

[@schooloflight3292]

But that (to me) has always been obvious. This is so very easy to say when it is an example of working with a coworker you don't like! But what about real tragedies? What about a lifetime of abuse and trauma? What about subconscious (or even unconscious) reactions because of childhood trauma? Is happiness really a choice? You can go inside and find calm and love but then you still have to live in this world and sadly, truly bad things happen to very good people. What do you do then? Keep closing your eyes, breathing and finding your inner calm? You can't do that all the time. You still have to live in this world.

[@andyw0340]

@@schooloflight3292 You are right of course , events like that will no doubt make peace and happiness harder to find but not impossible . Remember it's not the event but the perception of the event that effects us ♥️

[@beatrizrodrigues3310]

Raj Gavini that’s true

[@condorX2]

She's wrong when he think everybody want to be happy the next day. My reply to her is, it depend. Just imagine if there is no religion.

[@jasonle6910]

@@condorX2 It dependS.. and the trick is: don't imagine there's no religion. Close your eyes, focus on your breath and scan through your whole body from the top of your head down to your toes. When your mind gets distracted imagining anything, refocus on your breath. Do it 15 mins a day for 21 days in a row.

[@devanggraini111]

I don't know why, looking at her face and listening to her voice makes me calm. Love this video.

[@serapserap7743]

Before i read your comment , I felt the same way . I just felt so calm and relaxed and then i saw your comment so you are not alone.

[@djs964]

ruben ter veer

[@carinamaren7779]

it's because she's really relaxed and peaceful in her mind :) it's contagious

[@justingreenough4296]

Really? It makes me annoyed.

[@hilaljan55]

Justin Greenough i agree just waste of time .

[@theliker412]

This was posted 8 yrs ago, watching this in 2022, it is peaceful and I’ve learned from this video alot.

[@TrapForestTV]

she's so calm more than me while im sleeping

[@carolsahm]

OMG hahahahahhahahha Trap Forest u just killed me hahahahaha

[@deemaalthibany5411]

Hahaha she issss

[@jinkinsjinks5792]

hahahah...that's funny!

[@claudetteedwards6512]

Jinkins Jinks

[@kathleenpappas8336]

Trap Forest jujui]peopleto

[@adejaya1692]

Her calmness makes me want to sleep, in a positive way.

[@anisamelamita728]

Wkwkwk

[@nivedshibu1787]

Also wake up in positive way.., ☺️

[@gilbert7335]

Hmm, interesting.

[@angelicahoban6184]

yes 😄

[@sunayslmnv4775]

I felt the same

[@andreaamaral9861]

She has a different kind of beauty, I guess it comes from inside

[@YSFmemories]

It's not so much beauty, it's more like an aura. In Chinese, we call it Qizhi; in mormonism, there's a concept called the "mormon glow". It's kind of like that.

[@artissonbeats3057]

Yes yours is on the out side

[@GyspyCrusader]

@@artissonbeats3057 smooth

[@amybedell3909]

Stop blaming others, stop putting your happiness upon others instead of our own mind.

[@artissonbeats3057]

@@GyspyCrusader u like that I am going some where with this smoothness ✅ right

[@noelhogan7289]

This human being just oozes spiritual love and more light than most of us have seen in a lifetime. I’d love to sit and talk with her.

[@kittens3029]

Just burst into tears when she asked if i'm having a good day. Haven't been asked that question in a long time.

[@sarahiqbal]

are you having a good day?

[@droidekka2]

Hope you're having a good day ;)

[@visalatchikrishnamurthy1578]

Sarah Iqbal

[@PRAISEMYLORDJESUS]

Kasia Liszka GOD bless you!!

[@manisai4080]

Good days won't last long... Neither do the bad ones. Relax.

[@2TheAbbeyClinic]

"When you look for it, you cannot find it. When you find it, you can't get rid of it. When you do neither, it's right there." Tilopa, 11the century

[@matmatician7]

+W.J. Kelly Look at it, it cannot be seen It is called colorless Listen to it, it cannot be heard It is called noiseless Reach for it, it cannot be held It is called formless These three cannot be completely unraveled So they are combined into one Above it, not bright Below it, not dark Continuing endlessly, cannot be named It returns back into nothingness Thus it is called the form of the formless The image of the imageless This is called enigmatic Confront it, its front cannot be seen Follow it, its back cannot be seen Wield the Tao of the ancients To manage the existence of today One can know the ancient beginning It is called the Tao axiom -Lao Tsu, "Tao Te Ching"

[@Power50505]

That quote is completely wrong in my opinion. During meditation you look into the deepest corners of your mind without judgment(not easy to do) and you discover the things that are weighing you down from enlightenment. Then when you come out of deep meditation you gain new perspectives which can be used to get rid of these negative things. This is a continuous process of growth and in no way will happen in a short time. So my friend, that quote is completely off topic here.

[@j.b.vanmourik2624]

Sounds nice, but finding something or nothing is NOT a doing. What ignites that IS, but it already needs an extraordinairy level of being. So I see this phrase as subtly insincere to the student. Mr. Tilopa worked with haiku-kind of teachings .. It has dubious sides to me as it can be used to overpower students with a conscious intention to frustrate. Even Tolle these days shows subtle signs of it. The time is near that we are given keys to deeper knowing on an even democratic level, which would indicate the end of psychiatry as well as the end of the 'esoteric elite' ....

[@Power50505]

I see your point and it makes sense. Also, the best psychiatrist is your own mind exploring itself and understanding what lies deep within your conscious. It must be done through meditation and I suggest an isolation tank as the senses can distract a person during this reflection period. The esoteric elite( the ruling class) have always known about this power for many years that is why our lives are full of distractions and our illnesses only treated by numbing through medication rather than enlightenment.

[@j.b.vanmourik2624]

so what's the problem

[@xcript123]

Her smile is so peaceful, compassionate and full of happiness....

[@gijsbon8065]

I lived with Kelsang munks..... they smile a lot but it are still people. they are not special

[@xcript123]

@@gijsbon8065 I know mate... And nor the kindness, love and enlightenment. They're all natural and nothing special...

[@Kayscastle]

Gijs Bon I agree that we need to not idolize them. Their lives are completely different and separate from us.

[@jaydesilva8589]

She is so beautiful ♥️

[@francopecci3274]

I feel the same sentiments.

[@dakotahstr]

No matter what kind of day Im having , Im alive, I was given a miracle for another day.

[@Sparkle835]

You're right because none of us knows our expiration date. So, even if your life is a lemon 🍋, squeeze all the juice out of it that you can until the end.

[@nickcoverdale]

"if you can't explain it simply, then you don't understand it well enough." Einstein This is a wonderful example of someone who understands it well enough!

[@vualgrimoire4822]

Or it actually does not make sense.

[@joannapalmer7054]

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[@charliecrome207]

There is no citation supporting this claim, Einstein is unlikely to have said it since his theory of relativity was very abstract and based on sophisticated mathematics.

[@brookdalecolonialheights3161]

Nick Coverdale beach music with slide show

[@modestetegomoh7810]

I totally agree with you Charlie Crome. The last person that could have said such thing is Einstein.

[@iamlanaphuong]

every time, when I feel depressed, hopeless, or stressed, I come to this video to listen. She really helped me to feel peaceful and calm. I promise myself to choose happiness every day.

[@veeramanimmahadev8457]

I'm also follow up your rules from today onwards Phuong Lana..

[@Sinful_Survivor]

Just listening to her talk is Relaxing 😌 and putting me at ease.

[@deepakpalpal4949]

@@veeramanimmahadev8457 lrefff

[@candycottonwithapple]

Me too

[@bhumbudha]

Who else is watching this video at end of 2020 ?

[@simsimsjying9193]

Me, tapping into our inner peace.

[@fidakhan2155]

✋

[@ZigguratCapital]

me

[@fidakhan2155]

@@ZigguratCapital 👍 stay cool and calm...

[@heimdallyong7181]

Me, to prepare 2021 and beyond.

[@leonniceday6807]

Finally, someone explained to me what is and what all the buzz is with this "meditation" thingy.

[@avanraws77]

She is simply amazing....her 15 mins TED Talk gave me "wisdom" which I hadn't realized in over 40 years of my lifetime!!

[@BrightSeaStar]

I'm glad for you.

[@aneq2310]

Go forward We are beautiful humans, we all deserve for a happiness 😌🙏🏻

[@Pepe-sd9et]

Be Warned: - This is the 'New Kadampa Tradition aks NKT' A very Dangerious Cult. Please watch: "An Unholy Row" BBC Documentary from 1998 about this Cult. Also Search: NKT Cult.

[@JohnSmith-uu5ov]

@@Pepe-sd9et I can't agree with anything that the BBC produces, it's been a propoganda machine since WW2

[@guillermochavez2515]

@@Pepe-sd9et Sure is. Thank you!

[@somakamaran2600]

I promise my self to live and have a good day every day😌

[@TonyHoang99]

Soma Kamaran but how?

[@xobrook]

Tony Hoang it’s within yourself

[@anthonygarcia3097]

I do the same and it works. I am the happiest I have ever been.

[@jackassfat]

Why?

[@adiltube9355]

@@jackassfat tf

[@florinpieleanu130]

Why would 2,5 k people give a thumb down to this video? when this nice person tries to help you live a better life...geez

[@felixliljegren]

@@JennifulCreations Are you the music or are you influenced by the music

[@xcript123]

Now it's 2.6K by the way. But we got 50K likes. So we got 47.4K World is still in balance.

[@MindlessTube]

Your small little mind knows so little. Let me help you up this tree so that you will be safe said the monkey to the fish.

[@AmbrosiaK]

for no reason, they just like being unhappy

[@MegaJae]

@@JennifulCreations elaborate please

[@didi749]

I’m watching it while crying 🌸🌸🌸.. stress doesn’t know any time 🙃

[@Nokss87]

It will get better 🤞🎀🥳

[@NightsareStarry]

I wish everyone here happiness :) meditation has helped me overcome my anxiety. Hope it helps all you too!

[@PieceFullX05Gaming]

no

[@awesomeamanda5267]

Which type of meditation works for you?

[@willjones1826]

Shaneen Bargamento me too ❤️

[@awdeshsharma2964]

@@awesomeamanda5267 go for Vipassana meditation

[@lalittiwari16]

Shaneen can you pls tell me how to meditate , how many times ut takes me to know that my mind is meditating and i m not just sitting and not wasting my timr

[@veenalakshman4021]

For a moment I was like why she is so slow...but then what's the need to rush so much all the time, why cant we be calm and peaceful . She is so happy and full of positive energy and calm.....just made me feel so revived and helped me quiet my mind:)

[@CoolSerafin]

Yeahhhh I also thought like that... And I really love how she became so calm when she speaks... That's gives us much positivity....

[@TheRisingstarProd]

Yes she's so calm. I started to have panic attacks in July this year, and I still feel so stressed today. I wish to be like her. Now I realized my happiness depends on others, and situations I live everyday,that's why, I feel so bad in this moment, because of the covid, deaths in my family and other things. She's right, we need to find happiness in ourselves, not from outside.

[@M.Đ-z4u]

@@TheRisingstarProd not easy to be happy if you have sick family members

[@BrightSeaStar]

@@TheRisingstarProd Yes.

[@ishworshrestha3559]

Pl

[@ypool6351]

It brought tears to my eyes when the first question is asked. Am i happy? Then suddenly, all of my walls crumbled and fell apart. I tried so much to hide my insecurities, and filled my head with positive thinking, to the point that the negatives and problems are just pushed down, not solved. I thought that was a righteous move, to be happy. But then seeing her so calm, i crushed. Observing her peacefulness, i cried and answered : no, i'm not happy, even why i tried so hard to be positive. In that very moment, i realized what i am missing, is peace. If inside of you are having a war, then no positive thoughts can last. I lacked peace. That's why i am so easy to be looked through just by one simple question : are you happy? Thank Gen Kelsang Nyema, for what you have taught me today, that the ultimate and greatest happiness, and the one truly stable happiness, is inner peace. I wish you peace and success.

[@timmbrockmann959]

Yes indeed, peace is the highest vibration of the mind before enlightment

[@surekhakapoor290]

I hope you are happy now

[@ypool6351]

Timm Brockmann yes, i am very grateful to learn that lesson.

[@ypool6351]

Surekha Kapoor fortunately, i am, i hope you are too !

[@AlecsxTIulian]

I can safely say that by now, your inner peace have failed you multiple times right ? If her teachigs are right, then how is possible ? Its simple. Its a lie, what goes around you does affect you, like it supose to do. You want to be happy, like me, like all of us. She says "inner peace", i say "Jesus Christ". What do you say, both seems to be source of happiness. Which one will last on the long run ? When Jesus sacrificied his life for our sins, he didn't care if we where belivers or not, he did it for all of us, so that includes also his torturers. For you, for me, thats a lot of love. Can you love the people who trully want you dead ? And by love, i mean giving even your life for them ? Well, here is your answer. Strive for this kind of love, and your happines, will not be from this world. And on the road you will find out where this "inner peace" have its place on a true happines scaleing path. God bless you !!!

[@MongolianLamb626]

We need more persons like her in this world right now...

[@alritehamilton]

We sure do!!

[@gG-gt2gp]

Then make them. She just proved we chose our mental state. Stop waiting for more and be the more yourself. If everyone sincerely focused on mending themselves instead of waving the virtue signal we would be golden. Did anyone actually take this to heart, or did we all just get the customary case of the feels before moving onto the next irrelevancy in our 24 hour distraction cycle?

[@ChrisChris-rs6le]

She's so relaxing, i love how she takes little naps in between!

[@yashikadua4089]

😂😂lol

[@clementinemashiane5244]

Naps😂

[@a.g.amarnatharumugam2323]

😂 lol

[@myrtlefowler6800]

every time, when I feel depressed, hopeless, or stressed, I come to this video to listen. She really helped me to feel peaceful and calm. I promise myself to choose happiness every day.

[@PL-li2yn]

She was not having a nap in between. Instead she was practising awareness/mindfulness meditation and simultaneously sending good vibes to the audience so that they can understand the pracitce of Buddha s Dhamma and importance of the essence. Only meditators can feel and know it.

[@TheThulitha]

The best calming video on youtube. I searched about her all over the intenet. Unfortunately I couldn't find any other videos of her. This is the only video. So be grateful and embrace her message.

[@tima9203]

This is the 👎'New Kadampa Tradition' NKT. Please Watch: 'An Unholy Row' BBC Documentary 1998 on here, about these people & read the comments. Tks ☝️

[@Shadesof]

Thulitha Nawagamuwa perfect video for this quarantine situation 👍❤️❤️❤️

[@lotusmetok1771]

You can also watch Kesang Jampa's guide to meditations if you cannot find any more of Gen Kesangs... destination is to the same ie inner peace..very relaxing and useful ..

[@ishworshrestha3559]

Yes

[@annalewisf4332]

She's so relaxing, i love how she takes little naps in between!

[@natejames6527]

I couldn't help but smile uncontrollably when I saw her smile, so calming and genuine

[@layogavita]

So true! Such a beautiful calming smile!

[@道端たんぱぱ]

日本語の翻訳つけてくれて有り難うございます。時々、瞑想を心がけ行っています。

[@jnanashakti6036]

Peacefulness and happiness are NOT synonymous. People confuse this. Happiness and Joy are just as fleeting as pain and suffering. Find peace, and happiness and sadness will come and go.

[@IOrion2013]

Exactly

[@amaurimedici8030]

This comment should be well at the top of the comments section.

[@saptarshiroychowdhur]

Happiness and joy are not fleeting..... They are consistent and neverchanging... They can be our normal default state.... But what we r doing is... We are confusing happiness with pleasures... Which depends on the stimulation of our senses.... Which definitely is fleeting.... Because for e. G we feel the best when we bite into a steak or listen to a song b ecause it stimulates our tongue or hearing.... But that rush or feeling disappears after a few bites and we certainly get bored of listening to the same tune..... We need something else.... This limited nature of sensual pleasures makes us feel that it is fleeting.... So pleasure and happiness are different.... Dont overglamorise peace because that is the most basic criteria to njoe anything just a have a meal.... We cry so much about peace because may somewhere during the journey we lost that also.... With enuf practice and dedication we can be ecastatic at every instant....

[@kail9777]

I think you're speaking about non-duality which may not be suitable for a general audience. We can simply say that peace of mind brings forth causes for happiness to arise. Non-duality can be introduced later. It would be like giving a child an injection and saying this will hurt rather than giving them a teddy bear to focus on.

[@OQFaust]

I disagree. There comes a moment where peacefulness actually ends up leading to happiness. As the moment you stop attributing labels to negative thoughts, emotions and so forth; you end up experiencing life in its entirety through this newly found pair of lens; which is the lens of acceptance and that ultimately leads to a state of blissfulness.

[@arvindshakya]

The people who meditate can feel peace within the moment she speaks her first word. So much peace. Sadhu

[@markcognetti4875]

I watch Kung fu. Is this meditation?

[@ASMRMuzz]

This is incrediblly calming, I'm convinced that people who find inner peace have a way of transmitting it out from themselves, like this person does. In Buddhist mediation class, even the moment the gelsang/monk would enter the room, the vibe would change. It's real.

[@radhika7755]

@Yashash Dave i feel kinda sad that mostly indians fall for the least peaceful ways of living when the origin or meditation is from india! Do you feel the same?

[@t_1001]

@@radhika7755 I also feel it , but I am Sri Lankan :)

[@AlecsxTIulian]

I dont know who you are, but happines is not a state of mind dont be deceived. It is a reaction, an effect. The moment you stop believing this, is the moment you become delusional, and create your own reality, and i can assure you, you will fail, you will end unhappy. Maybe if i pronnounce the word "God" or even further "Jesus", you will say " i knew it, that only a christian will disagree with her teachings". But i will be cruel and ask you to try it out. Waste your time with this kind of beliefs, but when you will discover the terifying truth behind it my friend, you will need a good pair of shoes, and bravely pray to the very Jesus for speed, couse you will need to run very fast from it. Call your christian brother "a prophet" when this happens, becouse i warned you long before.

[@squarerootof2]

The cringe was really strong with this one, as with most TEDx-Talks.

[@ASMRMuzz]

@@squarerootof2 cringe always lives inside the mind of the cringer. It's all on you.

[@susanb1394]

This has to be one of the best TEDTalks and one of the best videos I have seen on KZbin. I would love to see more of this person.

[@sallykirkstephens8415]

Me too ... particularly in UK in Nov 22 . Maybe our MP s should watch too.

[@booh8553]

She’s enjoying every nanoseconds of her Ted talk

[@samanthabinns90]

Wonderful! What a beautiful smile and radiant energy she projects.

[@parvezsalim8524]

Agree with you

[@spectralv709]

Buddhists glow from the inside

[@JeremyReardon1]

How could anyone dislike this talk/meditation? She is so peaceful, kind and loving. A true inspiration.

[@newkadampatraditionsurvivo6745]

This is deceptive. In actuality, this organization she is from (New Kadampa Tradition aka NKT) is highly controversial and you can just as easily find videos of her group with fists in the air, scowling, banging drums outside of teachings attended by Tibetan and Nepalese refugees. There are also many people who have come forward reporting spiritual abuse by the NKT.

[@Kayscastle]

New Kadampa Tradition Survivors & Supporters Thank you so much for speaking out about this! I was just about to reply with some of the deception I see in it...

[@yoooyoyooo]

I don't think organisation is important. When ever you make any organisation it will contain many people with different problems. It has nothing to do with the teaching tho.

[@TSBOFRLM]

Jeremy R....I have learned that everyone is on a different level of consciousness and not able to comprehend the understanding....because they aren’t mentally on that level yet.

[@MyYogaVideo]

@@newkadampatraditionsurvivo6745 , the Dalai Lama also has followers who have kiiled others in his name. When you label someone or some organization as bad you are creating those conditions using your own negative mind. The past is the past and if you judge the past of others you create yourself in that same way.

[@acebedotashannaaliessa7806]

why do you look and sound so peaceful? your voice seem to heal my soul.

[@Thortchello]

I've been telling this "real happiness is not just when everything is going our way......it's the capability of being happy even when things are not the way we want..." ....but it's hard to convince my brain too!

[@Kinobambino]

Just relax and believe you already feel that emotion. And repeat it

[@cloudridermrbliss7085]

Yup. Excellent observation.

[@krystalhealey2515]

Having a child like mind. This makes me think of my children who are happy even when they are being told what to do.

[@shehryar6928]

Agreed.

[@GrishaKrivchenia]

"If we have a peaceful state of mind, we will be happy, regardless of people and circumstances." That is wisdom, articulated in plain English.

[@ingenuity168]

All monks, nuns have that calmness and gentleness , soft spoken.

[@maeve3046]

theyre the best people to be around

[@ingenuity168]

@@maeve3046 Yes

[@hailylopez1457]

Yeah bcz they never repent about past or dream about an unoccured future.They just live in the present moment...so no worries

[@tanyagolder2348]

Do they

[@louisesumrell6331]

Getting sober in AA, then learning from Zen Master Thich Nhat Hahn on KZbin, I learned to accept myself for who I really am and to choose happiness. Bless you, dear one 💖🙏

[@Dianal247]

I did the meditation with her.. wow. Haven't felt this calm in a very long time, and I can definitely say, the most at peace I have felt this whole year, especially with covid.

[@gungabhy9998]

Can you please tell me what is the title for the meditation video ?

[@itsamirkat]

@@gungabhy9998 It's in the last 3 minutes of this video

[@adelinallugiqi9584]

@@gungabhy9998 7

[@gevindudakshina6116]

​@@gungabhy9998That meditation is called Anapanasathi Meditation

[@karnageartist]

"Are you having a good day?" The smile she gives afterwards always makes me go "YES. YES I AM."

[@iamandywu]

Kayla Laraine Then you are not getting true happiness

[@kerrlove1]

What a lovely lady. Very interesting talk

[@tenishavega4806]

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[@PETROSC453]

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[@bhajansinghmaravi2138]

L

[@adamp6401]

2023 and still regularly watching this video!

[@WhtJon]

Thank you so much for your talk which yes it is all a state of mind. It is all a matter of perspective. Many years ago I ended up losing my job and had to walk 1/2 a mile to catch my bus which as i was walking I was giggling and laughing and smiling while everyone else I was coming into contact with (who had yet to be to their offices) were negative and frowning... I was laid off due to the recession and also my company and department starting to restructure. I had been with the company and department for four years which I was hoping to advance up to the Financial Advisor. You can choose to either see the positive or the negative in anything it is all up to YOU and your

[@Lisa_Evers]

I try to watch this video every few days now to help remind me of the profoundly simple things she says, which I totally agree with while watching, but sometimes forget to consider in my day to day life. So like when she says that it's not external things that determine our happiness or unhappiness, but rather how we interpret or respond to those things... I think about how when I see birds, it makes me happy. When I see a bumble bee at one of my garden flowers, I get all excited. However I know that for many other people, these things bring them no happiness at all. Some people don't notice birds at all or consider them 'nuisances'. Some see bumble bees and can only think of potentially being stung and wanting to kill the bees.Conversely, some people may feel sad if they lose their job. Other people might lose their job, and see it as an 'opportunity' for change. Some Americans may feel 'irritation' if a tourist approaches them in their town, and tries to ask for help with directions, but can't really speak English very well. For other Americans, they may find this 'exciting'...an opportunity to try and help someone...maybe even to use some of their foreign language skills.So indeed, so much about our 'mood' is perspective. Of course, I am talking about your average day to day occurrences in life. It's a very different thing to say it's all about 'perspective', when one is very ill, or a family member dies etc. But yet even then, perspective can be a 'factor', insofar as in some cultures, the death of a family member is seen as automatically 'traumatic' and life-altering and a guarantee of ensuing depression, for the family members that remain. Whereas in other cultures, death is seen as a bittersweet yet beautifully poignant transition...a part of the cycle of life....

[@AvtarSingh-cn7kb]

lisa evers harp all pannu

[@sauravkumar-ik8dc]

It is same as swami vivekanand.

[@theprocess7222]

this is dope, thank you for your perspective

[@ntrinh3353]

The

[@debasisnayak675]

Thanks for this beautiful thought

[@HappyHopeyHuman]

These simple teachings are easy to apply but hard to maintain. Great talk!

[@otorishingen8600]

+Happy Hopey Human yes .. easy in theory and hard to apply - just like loosing weight or getting better n something - the key is allways doing something over and over again what takes alot of discipline

[@HappyHopeyHuman]

Agree. I think a lot of the challenges centers around habitual tendencies.

[@HappyHopeyHuman]

Wrong choice of words then. Never mind What I said. ;)

[@anncoconutvietnam3714]

+Happy Hopey Human it takes time=years in human life then you will reach thatone moment that you can be induced in that specific moment!

[@HappyHopeyHuman]

okay :)

[@fishfashfosh]

Thanks to buddhism and wisdoms, I have learned so much. Attatchment of the external leads to suffering. We get angry at things we cannot change and that is that things change all the time. Nothing stays the same. Our age, our happiness, our sadness, wealth, health and our breath. We breathe in so that it comes out. Only thing that doesn’t change is the state of death, where you cease to breathe and exist. At the same time don’t let that fear rule over you. Everything ends so that things begins, hence the change. My personal most important question in life is: If I somehow or for some reason, were to die tomorrow, will I die happy? With that question I can push myself to the urge of living life for what it is and that is the beauty of life and it is limitless. I at this point have not live life to the fullest yet so I am still in this journey thinking about my own question everyday and every moment

[@whittark111]

She's great and I agree; I can't help but wonder if this is easier for her to attain than for those of us in mainstream life. She's surrounded by other people who practice meditation and being in a serene state all of the time. She is also surrounded by others that believe as she does, think similarly, and live similarly. Easy not to externalize happiness. Or easier.

[@elsagrace3893]

Whitney Tarkington yeah very much easier for her. Our trick is too realize when main stream life is effecting us and try to choose something different

[@whittark111]

Agreed--a little harder for us but agreed

[@timmcc6899]

I think an important point has been missed here though, I know she didn't exactly bring it up, but she has done so by example. By taking the time to practise this state of mind is what makes it easier to achieve it. Practise makes perfect after all. Part of the point she's trying to make is that people are too 'busy' blaming their state of mind on others, instead of using that time to practise, which is exactly what's happened here when you accuse her of being in an environment more suited to achieving such a state of mind. I hope this is helpful in understanding what she is trying to do.

[@whittark111]

I understand what she's trying to do and am glad that she's doing it. I'm not blaming anyone. I'll put it another way. Put two people in contained environments. One environment is quiet while the other is a loud, continual barrage against the senses. Now tell both subjects that the goal is to achieve Zen calm. One will have an easier time of it. Of course. Can happiness be achieved by constantly training the mind regardless of one's environment? Yes. Not impossible but in some cases more challenging than in others. It's an observation.

[@timmcc6899]

Not necessarily. The person in the quiet environment doesn't have the outside influences necessary to learn what a Zen state is. I understand what you mean though, with the amount of information being bombarded upon the other person, and how they may be unable to filter out the unnecessary 'noise'. Either person is going to need those outside influences so that they may understand what that Zen state is. Its about developing the mental filters necessary to achieve such a state, which comes from practise, which makes the issue personal, not environmental.We've seen plenty of examples in the past where people have achieved things contrary to stereotypes and social norms, and whilst it may be a greater challenge, that its achievable is proof in itself. Its the act of questioning that can prevent the achievement, because there's no acting upon the achievement itself, which once its achieved, the challenge is overcome. Which again is a personal idea, not environmental. Don't fear the challenge. Fear instead, not accepting the challenge, because you will have gained nothing by standing idly by in 'observation' of what others achieved by accepting that challenge themselves.

[@adielwilson8749]

30 seconds into this video and I can feel her energy it's so radiant and peaceful.

[@bobbuchman1072]

Nyema suggests in this Ted talk to memorize "Happiness and unhappiness are states of mind and therefore their real causes cannot be found outside the mind." What a different way of looking at our world! She says many other things that are so thoughtful and insightful.

[@charityl7981]

Honestly, she has the sweetest demeanor.

[@timmysinvestments3110]

I downloaded this video to have that meditation part. It actually worked really well and love her voice ,made me calm and relaxed.

[@gurusiyagcomforter1150]

www.the-comforter.org/How_to_Meditate.html

[@yme9953]

Hostile Hero agreed, she's replaced my bed time audiobook for now

[@blackhunk2265]

learn Vipassana from vipassana dhamm centre in your country

[@violetaluna2782]

Decentralized Insanity great idea I will do the same

[@aiden_fallingstars]

There's a free app called Aura that gives small guided meditations just like the one she did in this video - in fact her voice sounds familiar to me and I wouldn't be surprised if she's featured in one of those meditations (app)! :)

[@ethanxowh]

The answer is so simple yet so hard for people to understand!

[@veefox8696]

Mai Lee Yang it's like trying to draw a map for someone that leads to them selves

[@akafuhrer]

Vee Fox I don't want to be like her but she has right somehow metaphoric..

[@surprisemypineapples]

I disagree. Emotions are really complicated and there isn't one answer. There are infinite answers because everyone is being called to find their own unique ways of transforming their negative and painful beliefs triggers experiences and emotions separate from what any 'guru' tells them they should be doing. The answer isn't just to be happy, that isn't enlightenment that's bypasssing ahahahahaahaha

[@americanpatriot-ib8vg]

Sleep

[@ariellemandara1483]

@@surprisemypineapples emotions aren't complicated. It's people who decided to make simple emotions so complicated.

[@aryanyadav3495]

She is so calm and happy

[@Zoe-dr5ps]

I'm happy when I've got my healthy family and pets around me and I'm healthy. We have food, we have heat, shelter and we're safe. That's all that matters to me and makes me happy

[@mijuajua4820]

It’s all about the breath! No one who is ever calm breathes fast❤️ Start by seeing where your breathing is, then start to count to 4 when you breath in, then count to 4 when you breath out. Being triggered by what others say or do, catch yourself breathing....slow it down. Just let it go through you and breath and then respond, do not react. ❤️🙏🏻

[@Docbill57]

I thought she did a wonderful job of introducing a subject that one would need to delve into deeper, in terms of personal awareness and practice. I found some of the negative comments on her talk reflect some misconception of the underlying ideas behind the talk. I would encourage the authors of those comments to accept her talk as a challenge: try to learn more about looking inward, meditation. This is something that takes some time and personal experience to see for oneself. The ideas can be understood quickly, but the mind may require time and practice to really know them. Best wishes.

[@Ac2333s]

Just what i needed to hear. thnx

[@rigden37]

Thanks for the video, Nyema! You are such an inspiration doing a Ted talk on meditation. May many people find happiness from within.

[@tacoandcatto7248]

She has such a very beautiful genuine smile that somehow became one of my reasons to smile today. Very comforting

[@TejaKarlapudi]

Happiness should be a choice, not a consequence.

[@keithtan9057]

my frens who have achieve the peaceful state of mind stated that the feeling is better than on any drugs. in fact drugs prevent them from going into that state. none wanna take drugs again .. best rehab

[@kylealper8043]

Love her energy 🙏🏽

[@GladysGraces2]

Whenever I feel confused, pressured or too much stimulated, if I feel like I don't really have rest or mental rest and I feel so overwhelmed I just watch her in this video, I am very grateful honestly

[@felicitycoghlan3077]

These are things I've heard before and thought I already knew, but she just made it make so much more sense

[@anafriezas8068]

09:21 “It’s what our state of mind is like, that determines our Happiness or Unhappiness” wow isn’t it simple&complex but yet totally liberating 🦋 Thank you* 🙏🏻😇

[@Pepe-sd9et]

Be Warned: - This is the 'New Kadampa Tradition aka NKT' A very Dangerious Cult. Please watch: "An Unholy Row" BBC Documentary from 1998 about this Cult. Also Search: NKT Cult.

[@Yogamannn]

her smile and message is very contagious

[@amilapoornima8902]

Anyone 2021 🙋‍♂️🙋‍♂️ God bless you 😇 She’s smile 🙏

[@bassantmaniea2640]

Her smile is so peaceful and makes me calm

[@billyhalim1477]

Stop blaming others, stop putting your happiness upon others instead of our own mind.

[@solangeesah5576]

What if the others is really the cause of your unhappiness??

[@petrapedro.99]

@@solangeesah5576 dont let others have negative influence in your life , unless you let them 💁🏾‍♀️

[@jawaidaslam9057]

@@solangeesah5576 just ignore them and keep calm and easy

[@jawaidaslam9057]

@@solangeesah5576 keep your reomote in ur own hand

[@y2kallday665]

Depends on the situation

[@lovemecom3832]

Happiness is inside of all of us. Sometimes you just need someone to help you find it.

[@galitbayagko]

I love how the camera vibrates when she says something that rings true.

[@nitinbansal681]

This is my 6th video on happiness back to back. I am feeling peace. 🙏

[@qiqinglai9396]

Nitin Bansal ^ _ ^

[@kamalgoyal8233]

My second brother.

[@marcycat]

No matter what is going on around me I have control over what is going on inside of myself. I have the power to choose happiness or otherwise at any given moment.

[@jennifercuozzo769]

The qualified speaker is very clear & focused on getting her message to her audience, including those of us at home. There is no use in letting cynism and suspicions cloud our listening, other than to lose an open heart & thus losing the ability to garner what is of true value here. jc

[@vonalysongreg2780]

Her first question came in; it triggered.. The second one came gradually; I bursted into tears and my head is screaming I'm so glad I came across this video. Her way of talking makes my head pause and walk slower. It's been tiring the past few weeks and I wasn't okay. Her wisdom helped me to pause and mind inner peace that I wasn't having recently.

[@srikanthreddy1217]

Not sure of happiness but sleepiness is guaranteed after watching this video

[@cloudridermrbliss7085]

👺👺👺💩💩🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@nattapat_freedom]

I used to understand that happiness was dependent on external surroundings, but after I watched this video, I changed my mind to perceive more real happiness in my mind. I sincerely owed a very thank for this video.

[@spiritualfellowship3964]

Creating Happiness @ Spiritual Fellowship - !Thank You TedX Talks! - Everyone Be Well.

[@zirlonia]

She talks slowly, allowing her audience to take in everything she is saying. Her voice is also a very relaxing non stressful pitch. Very true that happiness is a state of mind.

[@Diabeteslovewithdee]

She is truly an angel from above teaching us about Inner peace and Mindfulness. Thank You!

[@LifeBeingBlissful]

Listening to her soothing voice brings me calmness and peace.

[@alverse.2915]

She's so calm

[@Your_Entire_Reality_Is_A_Lie]

I relate 100%. Outsourcing my happiness allllllllll the time. To be happy with myself for myself would be WORTH LIVING LIFE

[@tesemashtefera5471]

Aaa

[@tondonkhoirom9038]

I thought she was d one in Dr. Strange. She's so calm☮️

[@sadginger4924]

tondon khoirom that actress’s name is Tilda Swimton I think:)

[@Caroline-mh4hn]

Beware This is the 'New Kadampa Tradition' watch: 'An Unholy Row' BBC Documentary 1998 on here about these people.

[@rosy7892]

I dont know why I laughed so much at this comment. This is funny yet accurate. 😆

[@thenatmann1]

so simple yet so powerful. we don't realize it but most problems in life can be solved by finding inner peace, breathing out all the toxic thoughts and actions and inhaling all the joyful and benevolent thoughts of goodness.

[@OrlandoAmadeus467]

Very smart. Only one point, though: Ok that the state of mind should not be found outside the mind, but the mind is not a self-sufficient organism, it is also in relation to the world. So perhaps there is some middle ground: a mind that can FILTER what comes from outside. But I'm not sure that a mind completely independent from people and circumstances is possible or even desirable. In a sense, the highs and lows of life make us human. I'm not even sure that I desire a state of continuous stable happiness. Fluctuations, moments of hardship and struggle, make moments of happiness all the more meaningful. In music there is tension and release. The idea that I want to be equally happy every single day I don't find attractive, it sounds dangerously close to a vanilla-like existence.

[@thegamingrelish9272]

I agree yet barely anyone mentions these points at all in this comment section. For me this is where Buddhism and psychology detach from each other because what she says is basically “you don’t need anything in life to make you happy” but we know that as social beings it’s important to build close friendships, relationships, find purpose and fulfilment. All those things rely on something outside of us. If we don’t allow the outside world to influence our happiness then crime wouldn’t be bad. For example: someone punches your partner, that event is happening outside of you. You seen it happen. Now if we lived in a world where your outer experiences didn’t influence your happiness then in this situation you wouldn’t be upset that someone punched your partner. But in reality like any human being watching their partner get hit they would be angry and upset and that would be an instant natural reaction it wouldn’t be a reaction you could control. Another example is someone getting bullied. A kid gets bullied everyday at school and dreads going to school and is upset that he’s getting bullied. Now would it be right to say to the kid hey kid the best way to be happy is to not blame the bullies because your unhappiness isn’t their fault but your own state of mind.

[@buddersmith]

I love her smile lines, her face. Her eyes and voice are so soothing!

[@annnee6409]

That's why you forgive others and should not depend too much on worldly things to make you happy (like Jesus taught as well).

[@readingswithjenna9714]

Ann Nee Exactly. He said Love God with all your heart, mind and Soul. And to love your neighbor as yourself. That is all the law. 2 rules. Yet, people seem to not want to even do that!!

[@bibofmahatti9000]

Have a Good Day, Everyday and a Happy New Year 🤓

[@pergunteaoninja]

+Christoph Matti (ConMis) for you too my friend

[@leonniceday6807]

I'm at the beginning of the video; I answered that I was having a (sort of) bad day. What I find interesting is that just trying to answer "why is it a bad day" led me to conclude that it's not that bad after all...

[@DeveloperRavi]

I promise myself to live and have a good day every day.