Telling a partner you have HIV

Chris O'Hanlon shares his experience of being diagnosed as HIV positive and the reactions he's had from partners when he's told them - plus a doctor confirms that it's impossible to transmit the disease when taking the right therapies.
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[@Lillyychongo]

I told my ex and he changed towards me he kissed me differently and started treating me differently and I felt so sad, but it made me actual accept who I am and I can’t change it.

[@chappi1975]

This is so sad to hear, I'm waiting to get my second test I've had 1 but the time period is not sufficient yet to be fully sure. I'm dreading having to tell my family if it's positive I have 2 children and a girlfriend which I'm scared of losing. Wish me luck xxx

[@johngibson.youhavesuchachi3084]

The best way to avoid ignorance and stigma is to date someone who is the same as you undetectable, this then negates the time spent giving someone your fabulousness to someone who doesnt deserve it

[@DaRyteJuan]

Apparently 1 in 7 people who are HIV positive don’t know their status which is quite a lot. No one should be having unprotected sex until both partners are 100% sure of each other’s status. Simple as that. An ounce of PREVENTION is worth a POUND of cure.

[@betteringlifewithvelo4703]

Truth is that dating while hiv positive is so difficult and one gets so many rejections. Not many people really understands what unpredictable means and many negatives won't bother to even understand

[@themaestro3034]

And nobody needs to know your business if it doesnt effect them. Its really that simple.

[@Alpha_apex]

@@themaestro3034 they need to know if you have the virus. Low viral load or not. The virus itself can have a future effect on the other person.

[@themaestro3034]

@@Alpha_apex no actually it has no effect on another person. U=U.

[@Alpha_apex]

@@themaestro3034 youre missing the point. And honestly if you are positive, you seem very reckless and careless and that's dangerous to the public.

[@themaestro3034]

@@Alpha_apex oh no, I get it: you think people who are no threat to others should reveal their medical history to you. I get that loud and clear. I also get that you are incredibly ignorant, too.

[@claudine4068]

As a young female who grew up in trendy East Village NYC in the 80’s ‘90s I saw so many talented young gay men who were my friends, artists designers musicians stylists designers die in a short time a cruel hideous painful death….it’s traumatized me so much I would be wary to seriously date an hiv+ person even though I KNOW intellectually that if they are taking their medication and are undetectable that they CANNOT transmit the disease….Like any other difficulties that can come with a relationship I guess it just boils down to how much you love the person…

[@staytight6340]

Is this a gay disease?

[@hathortheshapeshifter]

Well said! Out of so many videos!

[@myaraygavensbert4267]

Such a great video... spreading awareness ❤️

[@deadlyassasin12345]

and aids

[@derrickmarshall628]

@@deadlyassasin12345 damn...

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[@manolissar1034]

@@deadlyassasin12345 Are u an asshole maybe? 🤨

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@phiwokuhledlamini1873]

When I disclosed to my ex he accused me of trying to infect him with HIV...I Decided to disclose my status before getting serious and I have had major rejections, some ignored me, some would be okay with it but later reject me after sex...so I decided to stop dating

[@Soless101]

It's the best thing we can do. It sucks and believe me I still get sad we are an infection but we can still live life as normally as we can just have to get used to being alone.

[@cofusedJames]

I get the fact when people say if the virus is low they can't pass it. My question is what if the virus spike back up how would you know in time? That's the scary part. It's almost like playing Russian roulette and this is no dis. Just trying to get more understanding.

[@jukilllsss2854]

If your on meds it can’t spike back up it’s not possible

[@camiloicaza]

​@@jukilllsss2854this is true and you get checked every 3-6 months in order to get the meds. Once it's treated it never comes back as long as you regularly take your meds. However it is possible to get reinfected from another HIV variant which disturbs your stats but this cases are very rare.

[@phiwokuhledlamini1873]

@@cofusedJames regular test also help inform you of your viral load

[@linetruth6513]

My name is Linet from Kenya 43 years old single mother of 3 ,can i get Patna on this platform please? HIV positive on medication.

[@Kirwina]

People with AIDS or HIV should not have sex unless they tell their partners. Some folks are still in denial

[@lucaslara3805]

U=U go search before talk, stupid

[@leratomthethwa5683]

Even after watching this video and being educated you still very much ignorant. Now this is the highest level of stupidity!

[@azrhaelshajkat6049]

Most countries' laws, specify that someone hiv positive is not obligated to disclose it's status if that person is on treatment and undetectable. On the other hand, someone knowing that it's hiv positive, and having sexual intercourse without being on treatment, and using barriers methods, and not disclosing it beforehand to his sexual partner may afford jail time for health crime.

[@mohamadfazli1457]

@John Zamani ohh fck off

[@richardparke4105]

If a person has an undetectable viral load they cannot pass the virus on. It is vastly safer to have sex with an HIV positive person on ART with an undetectable viral load than it is to have sex with a person who does not know their HIV status. Some folks are still indeed in denial. That said, for the sake of any stable or healthy relationship you should tell your partner what's going on. But on the moral level of accidentally causing someone to become infected, no not if a person is undetectable.

[@Mmcermes]

I told my partner and I invited him to my ID doc with me, but that isn't enough for him bc I'm not on therapy (cause of high cd4 and low VL, essentially I don't need it for the time being...be I can feel things changed on his side,we're not still a couple and I'm so desperate to feel him like before I told him my status...I'm alone and sad,no1 who can talk about this..it's terrible

[@Mmcermes]

Update: since last month we're officially a couple,we managed to crush his stigma and paranoia of hiv to the point where it doesn't affect our relationship anymore,it has become normal. He said "never I thought it would be so easy to dismantle all my prejudices and ignorance". When we met after the news he kissed and hugged me, that's why I value him so much even when we fight for other things..I opened the door of my private life in this issue and he didn't step back.

[@eunicewairimu8645]

@@Mmcermes I'm happy for you! In 3rd world countries, it's hard.

[@Mmcermes]

@@eunicewairimu8645 the truth is that even in so called 1st world it's not so easy to disclose such info..we're all on the same boat

[@eunicewairimu8645]

@@Mmcermes I understand what you're going through. But stay strong. You don't need acceptance from everyone, just those who genuinely love you♥️

[@azrhaelshajkat6049]

Although it's at certain point a right medical decision not to start at that point ARV's, the most recent guidelines tell that even with very low viral load and high cd4, the reasons and benefits of starting to take the ARV's are higher than not taking them. The most important one is that it they would act as a kind of Virus Lock-down, that would make it impossible to be transmitted to your partner. Not taking them it's just a matter of time in which at some point your viral load would start to rise and your cd4 would start slowly to fall. Regular medical check ups with Viral Load/CD4 count are schedualed each 3-6 months, but, even with monthly labs and check ups, the risk of passing it without meds it's quite considerable, than the one of being on ARV's. At this point it's the best you could do to protect your partner. Cheers, and take care :)

[@thomasberry-bd1rp]

Yes I have to say I enjoyed the video very much

[@8NickCoolwater8]

On the dating apps the stigma is around the effects of HIV and how long the infected person has to live .. but isn’t it more keen to look at showing the HIV negative person that they won’t contract the virus? Not that they would be okay if they did.

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@hajyila2050]

I am positive but I need an hiv positive partner from outside what are my chances of accessing this " am from uganda"

[@MichaelVance-el5mz]

I almost killed myself with FENTNYL AND BOOZE OVER THIS FEAR!!! I HAVE THIRTY ONE DAYS CLEAN AND SOBER . NERVOUS YES AFRAID HELL NO!!!

[@Soless101]

Yeah im dying alone.

[@QueenSalipupe-pc7mz]

Before you start your relationship better to kno what type of hiv both have there 4 types from stage 1 to 4.. Thank you from ZAMBIA 🇿🇲

[@gyamfikwabenaayuba6445]

Ok good massage

[@sbywishkevdyshaj3654]

Thanks doc I got cured from rosacea and HSV with the help of #Drokooboh.

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@dolly1523]

Undetectable is not necessarily a permanent status. You can still experience viral rebound and become infectious again. This can happen even if you never stop taking the medication, even if you have managed to be undetectable for years. So please disclose. Just because we have great treatment now doesn’t mean it poses no health risks.

[@tonybergman3877]

It was inconclusive, is that the same

[@KainJock]

(As she literally asks the question 🙋🏽‍♀️ he just answered lol)

[@claudiahillman6035]

i want to appreciate dr.owobu for giving me back my life again, i was diagnose of HIV/AIDS after the use of dr. owobu herbal medicine i got cured, all thanks to dr.owobu I will forever be grateful.doctor Owobu on KZbin.

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@themaestro3034]

Its real simple: if you cant spread it because you are on meds, you dont have to disclose it. Period.

[@faniceangatia915]

Hell no. Hell no and hell no.

[@themaestro3034]

@@faniceangatia915 yes actually. And thats the law now in many states.

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@cofusedJames]

Nah

[@dolly1523]

Undetectable is not necessarily a permanent status…there are different factors that can cause the viral load to rebound and you can become infectious again.

[@naturerebel2903]

impossible is not 100% proof there is still a risk....hiv people should date fellow hiv...in that case no drama....nothing to explain, no complaints but dont force urself on non carriers....

[@darolebrown5194]

I need a soul matr

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖

[@hajyila2050]

@@darolebrown5194 I am positive and need a soulmate too

[@hajyila2050]

Yes me I need an hiv partner from any country "ready for love"

[@linetruth6513]

Hi Brown I'm Linet 43 years old from Kenya I'm also looking for a partner,can we make it please?

[@Zeebo89]

Omg are all those people hiv+?

[@misshenry9207]

Wow surprisingly I'm now free from HIV with Dr Abiola medication #drabiola🇺🇸💖💖