Telling Asian Parents You're Depressed VS White Parents

[@nekomi6742]

"I'm depressed." Every Asian parent (probably): "LMAO you have a house, you eat 3 times a day everyday, you have a cellphone, you have clothes, you have a refrigerator, and we provide you everything you need, so you don't have the right to be depressed shut up."

[@resolvanlemmy]

This is exactly what my mom says, and I'm from Morocco which is in North Africa

[@yoko3648]

You forgot "it's because of that damn phone!"

[@mid_tl]

Hahah I'm not Asian and I wouldn't know but I'm sure this is true for some parents lol.

[@aryankumar-yz1ex]

Dont forget that line where they "at our time we didn't even had a phone ,had so little to eat and had to walk so much to get to school and u r depressed? U have everything"

[@rowdyruffy]

LMFAOOO and "think about the homeless and the sick, you have it easier than those people so be grateful!"

[@lyssaaafc]

“you're gay?! don’t worry you're still a failure!” so inspirational

[@saisaranyachennupati]

Hahahahahahahhagagaggagqhgq

[@Icelemonteascreations3119]

@Desiree CC Mikey/Manjiro Sano from Tokyo Revengers.

[@SORA-ti9ns]

Okay but your pfp

[@Aiibh]

SO SO INSPIRATIONAL 😂

[@дпагсн]

wait timeline pls i think i missed it

[@ly_lh09]

"You're gay? Don't worry, you're still a failure!" -Sun Tzu, the art of parenting

[@ly_lh09]

@@kgoobee Since when is that my concern

[@kgoobee]

@@ly_lh09 nvm sry

[@EyeLean5280]

Brilliant.

[@ilonachan]

Implying that there would have been a chance that being gay would have made him not a failure, and that would have been undesirable

[@testadicondominio6309]

😂😂😂

[@niksghost1197]

"who told u to be sad???" most accurate lines ever

[@cowboytanaka6675]

“I don’t deserve this kind of behavior”

[@soundtheartist9212]

"Just don't be sad. Who told you to be sad?" This sounded inspirational, even though they called him a failure almost immediately afterwards.

[@Mujer1]

fr.

[@kynanlinjunzhe1317]

bro it isn't that simple, it's like telling someone to not be happy

[@soundtheartist9212]

@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 When did I claim it was that simple? :\

[@kahuza_]

@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 take a joke

[@idont8715]

@@kynanlinjunzhe1317 woooosh

[@virgillaxerton781]

“You’re gay? Don’t worry you’re still a failure.” That had me dying 😂😂😂😂😂😂🤣

[@taesxl]

😭😭

[@nhhhhhhhhhhhhhshhehe]

💀

[@qbert8600]

Do you need a med kit?

[@theman933]

atleast she isnt homophobic

[@marn8734]

Q Bert too late, theyre already dead

[@tonically_tonix]

“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad.” We did it. Depression is no more Edit: I checked notifications and I was bored only to find out this comment has 30K likes so thx

[@vickielam8527]

The best cure

[@preximux]

Aiiya who told you to be sad? Who told you to be sad huh?

[@tillywilly4524]

They did it, Asian Parents solved world depression/j 😶

[@jumbobiscuits1510]

Look at your cousin...he is earning so much...getting top grades.. and you are here being sad and depressed lol

[@Factorial6529]

It works with anything! You feel cold or pain? Just dont feel cold or pain. Got bit by a bear? Dont get bit! Works everytime

[@girlinblue11]

"Everytime I look at you're report card, this is why we need abortion" As an asian kid, that's very accurate for me

[@myonlyhope6250]

Hahaahahq

[@pawlace2021]

South asian parent never talk about abortion, because they think' abortion' is bad word..good people don’t do it or talk about it.May be South -East Asian are different from Indian or Bangladeshi.

[@clod8]

@@pawlace2021 East Asian parents are famous for having no filter-they’ll say straight up rude and embarrassing things to their kids.

[@DccAnh]

@@clod8 bitter truth are more valuable than sweet lies.

[@clod8]

@@DccAnh Maybe but abortion after birth is still illegal.

[@areyoulostbabygrowl4987]

Asian's definitely show no mercy against their kids. And this is 100% percent correct.

[@melodyyyy505]

I like ur pfp off topic srry

[@areyoulostbabygrowl4987]

@@melodyyyy505 Thank you! Also it's okay if it's off topic♡

[@yotsugiononoki5343]

I’m white but I’m parents act like Asians

[@luqearthwalker3207]

For me I don’t think . They treat me amazing :) .I don’t think all Asian parents are like that :)

[@thanhthuypham2985]

Very true

[@RayMak]

That's why it's not easy for Asians to get depressed.

[@cake_404]

‍

[@blanceatscake281]

@@cake_404 why isnt there anything

[@talkingbenthedawg]

@@blanceatscake281 say my name

[@henekii]

I think you worded this confusingly. I’d argue it’s more easy for Asians to get depressed, they’re just going to bottle up and hide it more in these particular circumstances.

[@leanna5733]

hi

[@sora-tp3qt]

asian parents simply dont believe in depression, they think therapy is getting grades and getting a good job and its always the phone that causes depression lmao edit: 1.8k likes??

[@ilobyuta]

fr-

[@Foxy11123]

But us true phone is cause a depression is mess ur brain a lot

[@bgos4727]

Why are you describing my black mother

[@secretjosh5619]

If they do understand what depression is, they also feel offended. They take it personally. They'll tell you how ungrateful you are despite all they have provided you with, even if that has no relation to your depression. So uhh.. if you're (unfortunately) a typical Asian family's kid, just bottle your depression up. There's not much else that can be done. Bottle it up, and just hope you can see a therapist once you have a job and earn enough money. Your family won't care. P.S. : Removed the "Daughter's get leniency". I used to think they had it better, but after doing some more reading on the net, and seeing some replies here, I realize that was untrue. Being treated as 'Daddy's little girl' is probably just a western stereotype. Here in Asia, that simply isn't the case. Everyone is given the same terrible parenting.

[@vanessawertheim]

@@secretjosh5619 "daughters get leniency" Not if you're the eldest daughter in an Asian family... : )

[@sanjanadasa1085]

As an Indian this is 100 percent accurate . They just say what's depression? Why do you feel depressed ?you aren't doing anything great, you are not the president etc. They just say we as adults have stress and depression why do you have it you just need to study etc..I am currently preparing for my college entrances. And am 18 years old

[@hosamanipundalik6766]

a little late but good luck for your college entrances p.s. i'm also from india :)

[@mi_amour_bts_749]

My parents would say you have a house,we are giving you food , paying for your fees then why are you sad and there are no such things like depression 🙂🙂

[@hosamanipundalik6766]

@@mi_amour_bts_749 hurts when that happens

[@HluteinotHluteii]

I once told my mother I wanted to see a psychiatrist for my mental well-being and my family thought it was to gain attention and said I have no reason to be depressed.

[@sarahjaye4117]

:(

[@xuaniiz]

as an asian, this is 100% accurate

[@Mujer1]

OH

[@Burg7.]

which part of asia are you from?

[@haticekubragokkus381]

Welp-

[@aperson5294]

Honestly same. I'm definitely not depressed. I'm definitely not remembering traumatic events and watch it get to my head even when I try not to let it.

[@ellacharmxo]

Same bro

[@wandabyers9519]

“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad.” “World hunger? Just eat.”

[@cristinacamelia984]

True story: Romania 🇷🇴 is a beautiful, but a very poor country and, for some unknown reasons, we have the highest taxes in the Europe. The majority barely manages to pay them and we struggle to survive somehow and the Government had the great idea to raise and even double a lot of taxes. However, our Work Minister found the solution for our poverty. She said: "It is what it is! Just don't be poor anymore, folks!" 😂 😂 😂 Marie Antoinette de Roumanie

[@wandabyers9519]

@@cristinacamelia984 true leader 👏😂

[@physicsisawesome696]

"Dead? Just be alive."

[@wandabyers9519]

@@physicsisawesome696 I think that’s how the Queen on England is still alive!

[@lindabliss6267]

@@wandabyers9519 make sense 🤣

[@do_haegh6178]

As an asian kid, this is not accurate. We don't have the balls to talk about depression. Because we know how they would react.

[@jialin6067]

that's true.

[@brozomicki-sothe307]

Bruh

[@Dhaton001]

So true

[@Dionaea_M]

I think some are too ashamed to even consider that it might be a disorder/ mental illness instead of just being something wrong with them or just them fault, and also too ashamed to consider the possibility of sharing with someone for not wanting to be a burden or a motive of dishonor, disappointment, somethings like that.

[@lovelyarmy1419]

So true

[@Liipii123]

“You’re gay? Don’t worry you’re still a failure” When I came out to my Asian mum she literally said “oh well, not like it’s going to help you in math..” as a joke but it still has me dying when I think about it 💀

[@ara.sugars]

"you're sad because you're spoiled and ungrateful" "just be positive, you're too pessimistic" "it's your fault for not making yourself happy again" "look at how lucky you are compared to some other kids in the world" "you have no right to be sad"

[@trinimini8270]

So T R U E

[@crow1628]

This hit home lmaooo

[@naga1018]

That is a Nigerian parent for you

[@xxxsahi8012]

IFKR!

[@hidden-behind-wisteria2701]

Mmmmmm that's the good ol' invalidating-your-kids'-feelings move. Don't forget to sprinkle in a bit of "it will get harder in the future." Ah, what a classic!

[@haticekubragokkus381]

Asian parents: just don’t be sad. Depression: understandable, have a great day.

[@ilobyuta]

💀

[@parijatttt.exe.]

If you're homeless Just buy a home

[@gwendolyn7015]

You have insomnia? Just try to sleep

[@kinzey8]

@@parijatttt.exe. i- 😂😂😂

[@kinzey8]

@@gwendolyn7015 precisely 😃

[@ideac.]

Telling religion obsessed parents that you are depressed: "THERE'S NO SUCH THING AS DEPRESSION, YOU NEED GOD IN YOUR LIFE"

[@ideac.]

@sofih mello my life in a nutshell lma9

[@Roxysm]

Or they’ll say “depression is just demons! Demonic possession!” Or that’s my mom’s approach at least.

[@yoko3648]

My mom in a nutshell:

[@allweneedislove965]

@@Roxysm ld say its true but not just about it.it can be about trauma or our toxic society

[@pickaxegobrrr]

"That's just terms those westerners made up, it's not a real thing just keep praying"

[@Hivatel]

As an asian kid with actually halfway decent parents, yes, *_real parents._* We simply do not get depressed, because our parents are already way better than their parents. We are glad we do not have to deal with most of the bullshit that comes with being asian. My parents allowed me to teach myself. I learned to be free. I learned to have my own rights. I learned to stand my ground. I learned to set boundaries. And I learned to talk things out with my parents. I learned that it was right to hit them back. I learned that it was right to tell them what crossed the line. I learned that I had the right to live for myself. I stopped bottling my emotions up. I talked about it, I made them understand. I got mad. I got sad. It was not their right to tell me what I should feel. And so, after all that, I finally have a good relationship with my parents that we can collectively grow. Dragged them back to reality before they could get too far. And hell yes I am glad I argue with my parents. After all, it's through all those arguments we're finally here where we are now. I'm glad my parents were atleast good enough to realize some of their mistakes, and with my growth I was able to correct the rest. I did not end up in a loop of negative emotions, where each time I backed off my parents would grow more and more used to it, thinking it was right. After that first time, everything simply became better. Although they did try to stuff some of their garbage teachings into me, they gave me enough freedom to learn, to understand that they were wrong. I had the luxury of knowing better, and being able to filter out what was right and what was wrong. Despite my parents not being too good at parenting, I was able to correct myself because of the stories everyone passed along. Because of the explanations people created. Because of *_the internet._* And so, in my case, I argue that the internet is a good thing. I am glad I did not end up like one of those retards on twitter/reddit, nor one of those asians that grew up with extremely abusive parents. Even still, I wonder, fear what would have happened had my parents been worse. Who would I have become? Certainly, it was the internet that gave me the knowledge and the right to live for myself.

[@atle_yollotl]

Me: "I'm depressed" Mexican Parents: "Ponle más salsa a tus tacos" Me: *no longer depressed*

[@uhh302]

Extra sauce on taco cures depression confirmed by Mexican Parents 😄👍

[@dianaguzman99]

They also can say "Pues ya ni modo mijo. Ponte a barrer"

[@minicrafties6181]

XD

[@Angelic_Dreamz]

Lol!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@destituteanddecadent9106]

I caught tacos.

[@haticekubragokkus381]

Asian parents are just built different.

[@Rep0st3r]

Lmao ur pfp

[@mazokuthemimic5363]

@@Ejaz100 sucks

[@XxNeo776]

@@mazokuthemimic5363 Ass

[@haticekubragokkus381]

@@Ejaz100 I get that a lot

[@NaveenKumar-ip6ff]

1000th like

[@AdityaSingh-li3fc]

Its actually very accurate! Depression here is a joke.

[@Gokaruto]

Hiyah!

[@vigneshv3846]

it is tho

[@silly_seahorse]

Real

[@Ayoitssheethal]

Yep 😃

[@craigcarter19]

Are you being sarcastic? Lol

[@yashiroiscute6450]

"You have no right to be sad.. You failure... ayYAAaaA" really had me right there xD

[@rebecca8866]

My parents are white and when I came out with my depression and anxiety disorder they just told me I was faking it for attention and then proceeded to not believe my diagnoses. I was only able to get help and support when I moved out from their house. Regardless of race or gender, some parents are just abusive in general and it's not okay. I hope everyone who grew up with abusive parents is able to break free someday and have peace.

[@alicecrow3755]

Same. But I also have diagnosed borderline disorder. My parents are white too, and for my mother it was like that, she always said that I was looking for attention or faking it to hurt her and my siblings (like, what???) and my father never gave it any importance. My whole family kept telling me to stop being like this, to move, not to be sad... it's absurd. And it has nothing to do with race or anything else like that.

[@fergoka]

I mean parents need to secure your basic needs like safety, food, healthcare, school, basic socialization. Other than that it's up to you. You have to face life regardless.

[@aderiancreature8464]

I think, most parents have to go see a therapist aswell🤷🏻‍♀️

[@mixlii3878]

@@fergoka emotional needs are also basic needs. if you haven’t learned from parents in childhood how to deal with difficult emotions, healthy self-esteem, boundaries, being able to trust and rely on others, you will have a lot more difficulty in adult life.

[@fergoka]

@@mixlii3878 That comes with socialization but there is no human alive without some kind of trauma in their past.

[@thanhmainguyen3009]

"You're gay? Don't worry, you're still a failure." PFFT- Too accurate. Edit: Wait how is this my most liked comment in my whole entire life

[@skyleranimates1251]

LOL SO TRUE

[@sukkairatoge189]

I died 😂

[@kinzey8]

Fr 😔

[@elishawildish5067]

Well at least she accepts him to be gay

[@GiblesWantToHug2651]

Fr! 🤣😂

[@stwarbery]

"because you're on your phone." Most accurate sentence in this video. Scratch that. The whole video is accurate

[@snakelizardexoticskeeperpr9129]

As an Indian kid, I’m so glad for my parents lol. If I told them I was sad-not even depressed-we’d immediately be on trip to the Bahamas or the Florida keys and my mother would keep trying her best to drive my sadness away. One of my friends actually lost his younger brother to suicide this year (he’s Korean) and his parents had no idea what could’ve caused it but ever since then my mom has been on high alert. Which is also why I refused to take my final exams my last quarter of college. They were just causing me unnecessary stress

[@sakshipatil5155]

Wow you're really lucky to have such caring parents. My parents are also like this, ofcourse they cannot to take me on a trip 😂 but they do try to make me feel comfortable and happy as much as possible. I really appreciate their efforts 🥺

[@akatsuki4067]

Fr

[@chandrayeedey7462]

What. You didn't take your final exam? And.... Your parents or anyone didn't tell you anything? I never knew this could be done.

[@sakshiiii1270]

As an Indian kid I wish all us Indian kids have parents like yours

[@snakelizard2343]

@@chandrayeedey7462 final exams don’t matter as much as mental health and comfort so of course I skipped it. It was really bad for my mental state at the time. My teacher tried to tell me to take the final but she couldn’t make me lol I had an A in her class before the final so I dropped to an A-

[@user-zi9fq7bz5q]

As a black person, telling my mom that I am depressed would lead to her going all "do you want me to take you to a hospital in (random place), huh?? Do you want they do there" like she gets so defensive over these things its freaking ridiculous

[@tast_1842]

Ong

[@budgetadventurer9387]

I think she took it too personally because she didn’t raise you wealthy enough so that you are depressed. It’s ok man! Sometimes, people won’t understand. You just gotta keep fighting! At least, you told her.

[@TecnocraciaDev]

Some parents are really insecure about their "performance". My parents give me everything I need in terms of material stuff, but when I say our relationship is not good they just freak out. They understand they are a failure. As I said, this is the case for really insecure parents.

[@jeredi3376]

My african and Christian mom told me the reason why people are depressed is because they just let Satan enter in them 😫

[@loosenuplivefully1089]

Mom is the same i think it's becuz she is scared i might do something like end my life. And she is fustrated cuz she doesn't know what to do or say. Her being defensive is an escape from the reality and she knows all drop it if she get mad. All in all she trying to make it all disappear/hoping.

[@pie7395]

As a white person, I can confirm white parents can also be like asian parents. It's a 50/50

[@ErenYeager-oi6hu]

15/85

[@waterman3783]

I've met white peoples parents who will literally say shit like "you're depressed? how about you be grateful for everything i do for you before i kick you out and send you to a conversion camp?" and I feel damn sorry for them

[@RaideN-GTS]

@@waterman3783 that's not called parents, that's called people that were forced to take care of a child

[@hannaht7970]

@@waterman3783 yeah, when I watched this video, I was like: Why is this so accurate when my mom’s not even Asian?!

[@tenjiwa]

my white mom doesnt know what depression is and just thinks im lazy, i asked her for a therapist but its been 3 months so not getting that ig, meanwhile my friends also white dad just says she wants attention and is narcissistic, not depressed. Where I live most people get unlucky with parents like that

[@lucidix.]

As an Asian my mom would just say “DRINK MORE OF THE WATER”

[@humkin9551]

So relatable, my mom's asian too. 😂

[@pawdesu8451]

So you don't run out of water because of crying

[@humkin9551]

@@pawdesu8451 Mom logic, am I right?

[@saratran9699]

Yup same

[@yunnnnnnn.]

IKR

[@saadiftikhar3317]

Being Asian, I once watched National Treasure as a kid. And the part where the guy yells at his friend and immediately apologizes about after a scene struck me as quite odd. I was like wait this is how people behave that they apologize for yelling and shouting. My mom does at 24/7 and so do my siblings and they never showed remorse and apologized

[@Ukiyo.n]

As an asian "it's cuz of that phone" is so accurate literally in every situation they say that 🤧

[@stressbytheidiotsaroundme9045]

Ikr 😑

[@ashleygoesturu_5599]

*Yes-* 🙂💦 One day I woke up feeling dizzy (I just got vaccine the day before) so I asked my mom for some painkiller. She asked me why and I replied "I feel dizzy a bit" but she just said "probably becuz you played games too much" I'm speechless and felt like I'm going to cry so I decided to go somewhere else (I think I have social anxiety becuz I always felt nervous around people expecially my mom) then my dad told her about me got vaccinated before- Luckily he's there to told my mom becuz I don't talk with my mom much thanks for my crippling anxiety 😕

[@Ukiyo.n]

@@ashleygoesturu_5599 Can relate😩

[@cqgod]

@@ashleygoesturu_5599 I don't got issues with myself (Hope you relieve yourself though) But I just get pissed when I hear that line. Not that I can do much ab it anyways.... I've learned to accept it :(

[@ohboi2119]

Yeah and when they encounter anything that differs from their view of the world they just bitch out like a baby

[@leelee8074]

Growing up in an African (Ivorian) home, those subjects are so… i don’t know they don’t care. Once, we were watching a tv reality show and one guy admitted he tried to commit suicide. My mom literally laughed and said he didn’t try well enough. It was at a time where I also tried to commit suicide, twice and she never knew. I know she can’t understand. I took my distance and I barely talk to her. Some say I’m ungrateful but honestly I feel so much better being away of her like that’s unbelievable. It’s like I’ve been waiting for this my whole life. Honestly if you’re in a toxic home try to move. It’s not easy but it’s possible. I mean life it’s already though enough. Your parents should be your support not your bullies. It’s not normal to be scared to talk to your parents. I pray I’ll do better than them. That’s one of my biggest desires

[@gravityclarity]

So sorry you dealt with that. Glad you were able to get away. Build your own family of people who will love and support you.

[@Donkeyman777]

Sorry to hear that bro, my advice is to always look at the bigger picture. You can build something into nothing regardless of the obstacle that's in your way, you will find that outlet. As humans we learn to adapt, and we can utilize that habit to our own good, just focus on stuff that builds you up rather than what may break you down.

[@I_scooter_fast]

No don't listen to those who say you're ungrateful man. I think it sounds like you did the right thing, and it's amazing how you just followed your intuition on that, even with many questioning you. That's great. Stay strong and remember, it is never ungrateful to simply look out for yourself! I hope you are doing well. You sound like a superb person!!! God bless you. ~ Prayers from California. ~

[@kevinjosephcapistrano4315]

Same. I’m distant with my dad all because I’ve been scared of him all my life. And I’ve dealt with mental illness alone and in secret. Me and my dad are both adults now, and find I that we can finally have common ground. But I can sense there are things: his attitude, beliefs, that he can’t change. The fear of a clash on an already fragile relationship with my fragile mind keeps me distant. But my dad is old. Your parents too or will be. It’s a hard ask, but let’s also forgive our parents where they falter. And honor them. Even if they don’t see or admit their faults. And we children are the ones who need to be stronger through our pain for this. It’ll be one of the hardest but the most meaningful things we’ll do in our lives and theirs.

[@blessingsbest6838]

Not trying to minimise the pain but I do think she said that cos Africans go through alot and have developed this mental resilience. Unbelievable shit if you ask me, for this reason they think depression is a choice. Sometimes our parents don’t know better, we should try and see it from their perception. Their own parents provided them with basic needs, they accepted and made the most of it in a tough likely deprived country! To travel abroad and make something out of themselves, they believe children should be grateful. It’s depends, life affects us differently and interpretation of it. Reminding ourselves of the gratitude is important. I think there should be a study on this, why the recent surge in suicide! Depression? (Talking for children who had decent backgrounds/upbringing access to basic things). Is it lack of sleep? Lack of mental resilience? Is it in our food, water etc. it’s needs to be addressed. Or are we not challenged enough? Too comfortable? Or facing other issues? What is causing these chemical imbalances* 😞🥺! If your parents tried to give you the best they had, it’s cos they had very little or nothing x.

[@teruko_san4663]

As a white (I'm Russian) person, whenever I say "I'm depressed" my mom says "You have a great life and no problems, so stop being dramatic" 🌚👍🏻

[@lucasmcinnis5045]

"think of all the people who have actual problems"

[@Starry_Night_Sky7455]

I have Russian family that came over to the U.S. I know what you mean by this.

[@laaaliiiluuu]

@@lucasmcinnis5045 That's actually what depresses me

[@lucasmcinnis5045]

@@laaaliiiluuu Yeah, its adding insult to injury when you know you're depressed for no real reason and you can't control it

[@mashapasha3284]

and they also say that you need to work more to not be depressed

[@Jdstubs]

"You are sad because of you're on your phone" soooo true

[@mottomottolife6551]

"I'm not your mom"..this line...so accurate..Asian mom's use it so much ...like sometimes I think "will I use it too with my kids?"

[@TooSickToDressVictorian]

„I‘m not your mom“ „God, I wish“

[@AcidiFy574]

U better not

[@mottomottolife6551]

@are you ok? yess...I wish I won't ..no worries I believe in my nice self 😊🤗

[@bsanjiban]

Happened with me too when I was a kid.

[@sbrenbeve2949]

My mom says that everytime I call her mom when she's busy doing something. Like 'I'M NOT YOUR MOM KEEP QUIET AND GO AWAY GET OUTTA HERE AND CLOSE THE DOOR' 🧍

[@undead.rising]

I'm white, but my mum is more like the Asian-style parent. She would say "Depressed people just need something to do. If they didn't sit around all the time feeling sorry for themselves, then they wouldn't be depressed."

[@coldtired2962]

I am sorry but tf is wrong with her..?

[@plant2188]

My dad does that too

[@acropolis86]

Bro that's what my dad's like, and he used to be a mental health nurse-

[@ggmochie2615]

ur mum must be very lucky to not have had depression her entire life. Otherwise she'd know her statement was false T.T

[@Sallyoxthebassist]

Depressed persons don't cheer up to do something

[@Yui-Chan9124]

I am German, 30 now and 10 years ago, I had severe depression. One day, I cut both forearms at work. After I got home, my father yelled at me and asked, if I was bored and couldn't just live a life like everyone else. I put then a shirt on to cover my forearms. About 10 minutes later, my father was like "It's okay, you don't have to cover it." What a hypocrisy! Depression is a feeling we just don't choose. You don't have to be ashamed, if you get depressed. The real problem is the bottomless ignorance of this distorted, so-called "civilized" society!

[@Sun_Moon77]

Yep. They think is a choice or just a matter of low animic state, therefore easy to change . All my best for u. Never consider taking your life away. There's no many people that feel the same. You might think you are alone but you're not.

[@slovenika9108]

Man, painful to read..I hope youre in a much better situation now. Your parents have cut in an open wound, how terrible..Be a better parent, do everything so that this doesn´t happen in your family lineage anymore. I´ve been living in Germany for 10 years, you have a wonderful country to be born in. Wish you all the strength and blessings, heal and prosper, my friend!

[@lulukallinen3057]

Wtf tut mir leid, dass du emotional so misshandelt wurdest von deinem Vater. Da fehlen mir echt die Worte. Ich hoffe du weißt, dass er damit nicht im Recht war und das du es Verdienst geliebt zu werden und dich von Zeiten nicht gut zu fühlen. Ich wünsche dir alles gute auf deiner weiteren lenensreise. 💚

[@americafirst1327]

I'm sorry for your situation, really. But in all fairness i think this video was made for all those kids that use the word "depressed" for everything. So much that it masks the ppl that truly suffer this condition. I think that was his point. We shouldn't take offense to his sense of humor.

[@pattygould8240]

Are you sure he didn't learn something in between? Just based on your comment it sounds like he changed his opinion. I could be completely misreading it, in which case please forgive me. It's just that I think it would be terrible if the relationship was harmed over a misunderstanding. I do wish you the best,. You've touched me with your gentle courage.

[@ppheard1254]

1:00 "Read da Bible, because you need Jeeeeeeeeeesus!"

[@Kiiiiiiiie]

I've heard this somewhere that 'Telling someone who has depression to be happy because there is soo much happiness around, is like telling someone with asthma to breathe because there is so much air around.' God this is soo apt. As an asian I can assure, this is exactly how the better half of my family behaves.

[@gravityclarity]

That's a perfect way to put it!

[@mrs_mothra547]

Wow

[@LeonardoCollywell2004]

Kind of reminds me of something I saw somewhere else… it’s a little off topic but along the same lines: “Telling someone not to feel bad because someone has it worse is like telling someone they can’t be happy because someone has it better.”

[@ЛюдаЛ-ж6л]

wow, phrase about asthma is amazingly well put!

[@v.j.3029]

I think it's also hard for a parent to hear this from their child because they probably take it like they've been a failure as parents. They might feel responsible and don't want to face that reality so they deride and stay in denial.

[@minecraftlover9000]

“You’re sad? Just don’t be sad!” Years after Josh’s mother told people to stop being said, suicide rates have decreased in large amounts and worldwide peace has been solved. World hunger no longer exist although racism is higher in popularity:

[@acaciatree3359]

WoW

[@Noorboomboomshakalakaboom]

"Don't be racist, you are all failures anyways"

[@acaciatree3359]

@@Noorboomboomshakalakaboom 😂

[@cosmicandy4620]

@@Noorboomboomshakalakaboom racism is dead, the world is finally perfect

[@cqgod]

@@cosmicandy4620 Nope :| Iz still there, maybe another 20 years?

[@cantgame4now152]

"if you're sad, stop being sad." Literally how it works. Depression is a joke and people really expect us to ignore it tbh. But yeah this joke had me rolling

[@poopinjectionxx]

Do you mean depression is NOT a joke?

[@DancingLynx37]

@@poopinjectionxx sarcasm dw

[@vannshuttleworth4738]

You bring humor and insight to a very important subject. Those who are dealing with depression means you want to thrive;not to merely exist. You deserve to be Your Best Self! You've got so much to offer; start with YOU! Thank you all very much!!

[@watermel0ns_]

As an asian, this is damn accurate. In my family there is no time for being depressed, being depressed could make us look weak and give off a negative aura. Usually when one of us feels down like what happened to me, the others would just tease me and say that just forget about it and face it like a man because there are no time for such things. It actually worked and helped me to keep on moving forward despite several hardships in life. Whenever I am challenged, I just calm down and look down on my problems while thinking of a way to deal with it while I just seal away my negative thoughts and feelings.

[@Huda-lz9wr]

I can understand .and its even more hard for boys to deal if you cry you would be said that you are a mommy's boy.i am girl i face alot of asian hardships.you as a boy have to face many hardships.although i am proud to be an asian but the households are not quite supportive unless you have a really good friend who you can share all these things with.and there is inly one child being so depressed.your mom wouldn't even find out .you tried to sucide.i am getting imotinol .i hope we change this when we are asian parents.our kids wont even think of it.🙂🙂🙂

[@gingfreecss3808]

@@Huda-lz9wr thanks for sharing your story! All the best and take care! God bless and happy new year!

[@chacha_zemisei]

I actually worry that you may instead bottle up your feelings, which the bottle one day will eventually break because you never 'pour' it. This was actually what my psychiatrist told me on my first visit. I've been struggling with expressing my emotion for decades because I also did what you do. Please know that no matter what your family says, it is okay to have a feeling and being sad. Find a healthy coping mechanism instead of sealing away the negative thoughts and feelings. Talk to people you can trust, those who can be an ear when you need it without being judgemental. I hope you're doing well

[@lisafranku7203]

Shout out to @茶々 👆👆👆👆 It's okay to have negative feelings. It's part of what being human is. It's okay to cry, to be angry, no matter what the reason is. I know it's hard to ignore what usually our parents or relatives told us because it has such a big impact on our hearts, but always prioritize your emotional and mental health. People say mean things to hurt, control and sometimes they'll even spill their trauma on others, and we can't let their comments hit us. Love yourself and treat yourself as better as you can, because no one will do it in the way you really need it. Nobody knows our needs, what we've been through, to decide/comment on this things. Except a good therapist :) Run away from people who treat your needs as nothing. Start this year recognizing that you deserve to be in peace within yourself, making your heart and mind good places that you deserve to be in.

[@rayres1074]

Sorry mate but being teased and told to forget and _actually being able to do it_ is not really... depression. Depression isn't being down. It's a literal chemical unbalance in the brain. Sealing away negatives thoughts and feelings is not healthy either... you're not getting them away from your attention, you're bottling them, and that shit can consume you from within. Glad you're doing ok but... be careful.

[@ti20yearsago82]

"Just don't be sad." "Who told you to be sad?" "Just don't have cancer." "Who told you to have cancer?" Same vibe 💀

[@CreamPuffssz]

LMAO 💀

[@minatasidibe1006]

So damn true... I personally don't have asian parents, I have ouest African origins and you know,I was born with a blood sickness, which for, my parents always took it seriously. But now that I was diagnosed with mental problems, all they did was to neglect it and when I tried to seek help from a professional, they treat me like I was a shame, that I had some nerves to go ask help from " outsiders" although I have parents to talk to, and that I was so damn weak for having a depression, that in Mali( The country we're from), people never get depression. I said:" Well, that's maybe because: 1. Mali have no competent doctors for people who suffer from mental sickness 2. The family and society are so judgmental that there is no way to tell it without having horrible repercussions on you ”

[@johnny1846]

cancer is an illness and being sad is an emotion. Same vibe but the other one is easier to do

[@kinzey8]

@@minatasidibe1006 I can relate

[@minatasidibe1006]

@@johnny1846 yeah, but emotion affect your mind, your mindset affect your body. Therefore you're suffering everywhere in ur body. We don't control some of our feelings, as much as we don't control the arriving of a (physical) sickness. One is not easier than another, suffering is suffering, periodt.

[@btseu6449]

"you have no right to be sad you fayyylure" "read the book you stoopheed" "read the bible you need the jeeeeesus" IM FREAKING WHEEZING

[@saitab-6435]

I m not your mum haiyaa

[@btseu6449]

@@saitab-6435 "hayiaannn" ALWAYS ICONIC

[@RaideN-GTS]

Im the 69th like

[@btseu6449]

@@RaideN-GTS tysm :D

[@Treace-c8m]

"When I look at your report card I go hayyyaaaa this is why we need the abortion!"

[@cherryclwz]

“U sad be caus u on yo phone” 100percent true

[@renatarossicarvalhodeolive5124]

"You' are sad? Just don't be sad" *depression left the chat*

[@Daniella70]

That's my parents lol

[@simplyyerika]

Humor is a coping skill for sure, but let us not let it minimize how tough depression is. Sending virtual hugs to those who need them!

[@VeryLovingRN]

Thank you

[@justaname6011]

Virtual hugs from me as well

[@cowboytanaka6675]

Your virtual hug surely helps!

[@reigee2869]

As a Mexican American, I usually relate to the Asian parent reaction portion, but this is one where I’m glad my Mexican mom actually reacted like the white parent, lol. My Mexican dad on the other hand... this was so word for word it almost gave me ptsd.

[@ngndnd]

im literally you, except im dominican. My dad literally said “just stop being depressed”

[@elokin300]

Same but Brazilian

[@limpchees]

My family is fully white and their reaction can be best described as "just be happy lol"

[@Hexagon5791]

I have 2 methods for you: 1. Once you have enough money to move out, you could yell at your dad how useless he is until he has suicidal thoughts. 2. If you are a girl and live in US, you could falsely accuse of your father of rape! The law will blindly believe you. I still wouldn't recommend you to do that because they could find out that you're lying.

[@heevanw]

Wow so lucky, in LATAM the parents just say “Oh don't say stupid things, just study, you don't have more obligations it's the same with their friends” This type of reaction is so normal here that it is already a joke.

[@ËẞTÃBÄJ]

"You need the jeeeesus"😂😂

[@xunvenile]

No matter who you are and what/which race you are. Be strong and don’t listen to your unsupportive parents. Your struggle is important and there is at least one person who can relate to you. Be strong guys ✨✌🏽

[@rifn2800]

Thank you 🙏

[@Breitten]

Okay, but what are you struggling about?

[@Unknownuser-mw8td]

Thank you 🥺🙏🏻❤

[@angel404]

just discovered the channel and i love it

[@DxModel219]

it’s a documentary channel remember that

[@metalfamilyfanandqueenfan]

Ayo your videos cool

[@EECAI]

Lmao same

[@micheal6827]

Haha 69

[@sanepersonaplayer]

H E L L O C H E C K M A R K nah jk i love your videos

[@noname8354]

I'm white af and both my parents have had histories with depression. So luckily, when I was diagnosed with anxiety in 4th grade, my parents were very understanding and supportive. And even more so with depression. I love them both so much. I'll never forget how at the end of 10th grade, my mom hugged me and was happy that I was still alive. I became nearly suicidal and went to an outpatient program at a mental hospital. I couldn't imagine dealing with this stuff with unsupportive parents

[@lol-rk1qg]

I'm glad you have supportive parents!! I hope you you r okay now😊 As for me I don't, I'm black and from SA, my parents don't "believe" depression is real and is just made up. They only believe that there's one mental illness which is bipolar. My mom literally punishes me and judges me for being depressed-

[@wraith6925]

@A S it's just the asian lifestyle

[@Frank-zv4up]

sometimes even when parents try to be supportive, its still shaky. my dad was depressed from being out of jobs for years and my mom thought there's bad spirits inhabiting his body. i told my mom im depressed and wanted to kill myself, so she encouraged me to pray more and look to religion instead of letting me go to therapy. my mom tries her best. she put food on the table after my dad lost his job and kept our family from being homeless many times. she just dont understand mental health issues i guess.

[@kwek2243]

Its hard, my father just told me straight up to "kill myself if I dared to and stop cutting my wrist and go directly to it" then he would just donate my body for science. And he wasn't even laughing when he said that. He was angry. Really angry.

[@wraith6925]

@@kwek2243 That's...I'm sorry to say this, but he's not a good father.

[@alkananda7765]

This is hella truth I as an Asian can assure that! And this guy is a real talent, has the perfect observation on both sides!

[@jooniemoonie1531]

This is 100% accurate. I’m not Asian (I’m Hispanic) and this is how my Hispanic parents responded of me telling them that I have a depression disorder and they always kept saying that “stop being dramatic” or “get over with it”, like how am I supposed to get over with, if it’s became the scar of a trauma that happened to me when I’m was 13 in the past. It’s honestly sad that parents don’t take mental health seriously and see it as a joke or using it as an excuse to called their kids “lazy”, but in truth, their kids are suffering mentally and emotionally and being overwhelmed with the stress and expectations from their parents/school. Pls take care of yourself and if you ever felt lost or in ever in need of talking to someone, it’s okay and you shouldn’t be afraid of finding help or talk to anyone, cause you’re not alone. We’re here for you.

[@gratefulsam4055]

As a filipino my mom would just ask me why and continue berating me with How they gave me everything they can and how lucky i am that i live this comfortable life which she didn’t experienced and she would go on enumerating all her hardships from birth to present. So yeah i rather keep it to myself.

[@nikas_]

my mother would do the exact same

[@cherryblossoms5083]

Yeah soooo true

[@minfiresmanyeah]

OMFG exaclty

[@vortex9534]

Im a filipino too

[@swatig4678]

Bruhhh the same happened with me. For all time i was the most sorted kid out of us three. And one day i had the major anxiety attack at home and my father just started telling me how he is doing everything for us and everything. It broke my heart. So I'd rather keep my issues with myself.

[@angelica_schyler223]

"your sad? Then just don't be sad." wise words right there

[@AlatOnDemand]

right, i’ve never thought about that 🤯 genius !

[@Jungwons_GrapeJuice]

„If you are sad, just stop being sad“ 😂💀

[@shuxqer]

Saying “if you sad, just don’t be sad” is like saying “oh you’re homeless? Just go buy a house” lmao 😂

[@apricity_cafe9633]

BYE😭✊🏻

[@cqgod]

Like the comparison here, If I start using this in front of my parents it goes like: But- (they cut me off)💀😆

[@hairiren1518]

"You're sad? Just don't be sad." Psychologists: "You must be kidding me."

[@haticekubragokkus381]

Asian parents: just don’t be sad. *depression disappears*

[@angelic6631]

lol

[@xYuiyi]

*and then reappears one second later*

[@kinzey8]

^^^

[@ashleygoesturu_5599]

@@kinzey8 whoa you have *3 eyes-*

[@juroo_0]

“Just don’t be sad, that’s what they say” :/

[@katievents7412]

As a white Ukrainian girl, I can say I would always hear “IF YOU WORKED YOUR ASS OFF EVERYDAY, YOU WOULDNT HAVE TIME FOR THIS” And almost every single person older than 40 would say you that here

[@aaa5126]

@Jethro Webber you're saying that like people never bottled up their feelings in the past, just because they pushed trough doesn't mean they weren't experiencing deppression, its not like suicide didn't exist back then Time goes by, people go through different struggles, there's no need to comapare today's issue's to the past, a lot of people were hurt by that mentality, I know that by looking at my own grandparents

[@aaa5126]

@Jethro Webber but its not the case for everybody, those that had enough mantal stability were forced to strenghten up and push through because they were constantly in danger or distrrss, that's mostly thanks to adrenaline. There were still people that commited suicide, and a lot of those that survived still have problems dealing with emotions or empathy, I see it a lot in older generations, both of my grandparents ended up as addicts because they couldn't deal with their emotions in healthy way and pushed it aside. Today is different, we have other things to worry about and other things cause people distress, besides many cases of mental illness are hormonal or a genetical, its just important to get help as fast as possible, in many cases its people with abusive or neglective houses that end up in suicidal states I've gone through depression and anxiety and its professional help, medication and family support that helped me get better We need to stop with the 'people in old times were better, you're just looking for problems' For fuck sake, what's the point, every generations spits on the younger one and its going nowhere

[@LokiLagoon]

@Jethro Webber depression is not just "feeling sorry for yourself" or "feeling crestfallen", for a lot of people it's DEBILITATING, to the point of not being able to continue living. It's not just something you can just get over and even in the far past it would debilitate and lead people to suicide

[@LokiLagoon]

@Jethro Webber it is not a requirement of clinical depression to want to keep it a secret

[@midasiscariot]

If I had parents who were like this I would just leave and never talk to them again of my volition

[@amalbal2962]

"I am not ur mom" magical words of asian parents which would make u feel guilt after some time 🤣😂.

[@haticekubragokkus381]

Josh’s depression caused his parents’ depression

[@shibaboii7435]

You comment 3 times and all of them blow up, what a legend

[@-psyche]

The "What the hell is that?" IS SO ON POINT JSJSIWJSIWKWJ AND "You need jesssssuusss." 💀💀💀

[@konodioda3641]

"Mom, i'm depressed" Asian mom: nah, you just lack of worship.

[@dafphtthedislikeupdater7836]

that fucking reason is way worse than the one in this video let me tell you

[@cqgod]

@@dafphtthedislikeupdater7836 Oh yeah.

[@cqgod]

@@dafphtthedislikeupdater7836 Even worser than the phone one imo :|

[@Rougetheidealistic]

I feel grateful that my mom is not like this. She noticed that I was being off for a long while and took me to the doctor. I remember when the doctor told us I have depression, she cried on the drive home. I'm very thankful for her trying her best to understand me. Hearing the Asian parent portion feels similar to how I gaslight my own feelings. "How can I be depressed? I should be grateful. There are so many people out there worse than I am"

[@enmodelife]

That isn't gaslighting yourself, thats reality and healthy reasoning trying it's best to surface as your brain heals. I know, because I used to suffer from depression.

[@gabriellabrito8134]

As a daughter of "parents who won life" this is 100% accurate PLUS I'd gain 1h of them telling about the 5km they had to walk till school

[@Caldy94]

Are you from Brasil? This is so brazilian mom talking

[@gabriellabrito8134]

@@Caldy94 simmmmm

[@Caldy94]

Sabia! 🤣🤣🤣

[@isabellagarotti3165]

Lol knew it! "Eu ia 5 kilometros a pé até o ponto de onibus todo santo dia!" "Que depressao, você precisa é rezar, isso sim!" Kkkkkkk

[@ladyblue5004]

I knew you were brazilian just by the 5km your parents had to walked lol. Then I saw your username and it was confirmed. It's always the same

[@1murm0m82]

“Who told you to be sad?” Killed me 😭😭

[@chocolate_milk1458]

I actually wanted to say damn u grew up with a messed up childhood, but then I realised that me, I'm Asian myself and I have no right whatsoever as this is waaayy too accurate 🤣🤣🤣

[@AYBIOM]

gacha kids dont have rights you are correct

[@chocolate_milk1458]

@@AYBIOM says the one who's probably only saying that by watching some gacha kids cringe or whatever videos, u don't even have your own opinion about something, what a shame my guy 😂 Don't have rights? You think u have any right to decide someone else's rights? Please just leave me alone, i was just trying to comment something and I don't have rights for that? Say that to someone else for another reason and they'll burn u alive

[@cqgod]

@@chocolate_milk1458 Gottem. 💀

[@earthlingphilosophy3531]

The joke is my family is white and the “Asian” version is completely accurate to my family. The most popular responses to my suicidaality are: “take a walk” “you have no right to feel this way” “you just need to stop looking at screens” “your life is great” “when I was a kid and even now when I am an adult I don’t cry about working 10-14 hour days so why are you” “suck it up” Then again maybe it’s because I’m Italian American

[@doncorleone3901]

They are right about screens though

[@UntilThenn]

And taking a walk

[@hannaniah07]

*Hugs my friend. How you feel is valid.

[@sparkle0859]

yeah this is exactly why I don't talk about my suicidality

[@cupcakesfanficgameslover5792]

This is sort of how my grandmother reacted it broke my heart the first time I told her

[@genesise9261]

Not just asains, mexicans too my mom tells me all the time "if youre sad just stop being sad" and it totally helps 😂

[@LinneaSanchez]

Word! Mexican moms don’t play lol

[@kinzey8]

Same thing with black moms

[@casluvs]

My white Slavic mom is exactly like that too lol. Or she’ll blame it on my phone💀

[@mari-bt7vh]

My Mexican parents aren’t like that. They aren’t the stereotypical Mexican parents that everybody (almost everyone) has. Very supportive when I told them I have depression.

[@clarapaloma1985]

Basically racialized parents

[@endlesswonderland205]

That "just don't be sad! Who told you to be sad" hit me right in the face. Well abuse is generally universal, not just Asian. But the video was good.

[@divya_sancheti04]

Being someone with depression, this doesn't sound like a joke but so heart wrenching💔 but I am so grateful that my parents aren't like this. Yes I am an Asian (Indian) and my parents took my depression seriously...they started the treatment just in a week after I showed symptoms and did everything by which I felt safe🤧 I am so so grateful for them🥺

[@sunnybowos266]

pog dude

[@emmangenta]

Been burnt out for almost a year now, I barely even want to get out of bed every morning and when I do my parents always scold me and says that I am too lazy and yet they force me to go to school even though my grades are dropping real hard. I am from Southeast Asia and I want to immigrate to Uganda.

[@cqgod]

@@emmangenta No judgement here. Curious why you wanna immigrate there...

[@emmangenta]

@@cqgod Wildlife and Da wae

[@saloni.sharma]

You're really lucky fam. I'm an Indian with Generalised anxiety... My mom understands but my dad doesn't believe in mental health problems. He thinks it's a thing of this generation, while simultaneously showing symptoms of anxiety himself. -_-

[@shanzaylostitall]

My sister told my mother she was depressed, I remember she used to cry every night and my mom reply was "there is nothing like depression, depression doesn't exist, your feeling sad becuase you are far from god" (I'm from a Muslim asian family don't mind) and a couple years after she has recovered we still laugh at this shit lmfao

[@mariahhossain194]

That religion part was sooo relatable. 😔

[@lxve4723]

This is actually kind of sad, some parents just doesn't believe sadness is real, and the life they provide for us will always be a utopia. But it's not.

[@kutaraa]

To them, sadness is like a ghost, even if someone talking about saw a ghost, they will not believe... and if one day they saw a ghost themselves, they will still trying to explain it in a non supernature way.

[@kutaraa]

The only reason for a person to denial ghost/depression so badly, it's because deep inside, they are afraid of the unknown, they don't want it to exist, don't want to deal with this horrible thing, they protect themselves with denial, create a way to live without worry.

[@lxve4723]

@@kutaraa Thats how religions came to be, us human entities want explain death, want it to be more then a sea of oblivion. Because we fear it. Ignorence is Bliss.

[@lxve4723]

@@kutaraa Also I love bob.

[@khyatixd]

" you're depressed because you're on your phone,read a book you failure." so damn true like the dialogue I mean every asian parents' dialogue

[@Nini1m]

I’m latin, from South America and i'ts so accurate it hurts 😂

[@carla3693]

It’s so accurate that I started to laugh then cry hysterically 😞

[@rafauvu6196]

True XD

[@JujubalandiaKaulitz]

I'm a latin half japanese and the accurancy doubled lol ;-;

[@lovepeace4635]

I'm Latina too and my mom is the same as an Asian parents

[@Aquam.]

I am half Chinese and half Dutch and this is so true💀😭

[@rosie7893]

I once asked my parents if they think I'm depressed and then they r like "where the hell did you learn that word, your not depressed" XD

[@jess2166_]

PLS i was diagnosed with MDD by my doctor and my mom just turned around to look at me IN FRONT OF THE DOCTOR and was like “what?!??? you’re not depressed you’re going to college!!” and my doctor and i made eye contact like 😐😐

[@l.ucieno]

Bye lmao “your sad? Then don’t be sad”

[@kv5917]

Discovering this channel helped me realize that I'm Asian, from an Asian family, and Asian neighborhood. I always knew something was off.

[@carrot7590]

The white one is sooo wrong. Some white parents will believe you if you say you are depressed, some (my dad) won't.

[@cloudyskaiis1351]

i know but the purpose of this video wasn't to generalize the experience of children of white parents he was more so criticizing a more general culture in many asian countries and communities surrounding mental health and depression. he wasn't trying to invalidate children of white parents who had a tough time with getting help for depression (I'm still very sorry to hear about your situation I hope it gets better my heart goes out to you)

[@SofieRPhoto]

Just to speculate, from all parents that deny their childs mental health as something to consider, it may be that they have quite bad mental health themselves, and their only way of dealing with it was avoidance strategies such as various addictions and generally choosing to be ignorant of themselves. So if a child would try to talk to their parents about it, the parents would bat the idea away as it may come as an unintended threat to think about their own mental health. This is considering the fact there was much less support for it in their day and stigma so the norm was avoidance strategies etc. On the Asian subject my chinese friends back in the day said most people in Hong Kong chained smoked packs of 20+ cigarettes a day.

[@sweetluvgurl]

That doesn’t make it okay, even if you know why.

[@maretvilla1531]

It's more like earlier generations like their parents and these kids grandparents or great grandparents experienced REAL hardships, including wars, and yet not only they survived but they became one of the best and toughest generations in history. Rush Limbaugh before said every generation must have a battle to fight and win. He claimed today's younger generation because of lack of real crisis like Great Depression or war has to manufacture a crisis and that manufactured crisis is mental health 24/7 hysteria. I just want to say whatever crisis 🇺🇸 come up with, the rest of the world would follow. In the Philippines, you hear young people nowadays using mental health as a badge, a trophy to carry around. But their parents and older people don't take them seriously because they think it's crap. You also hear them imitating cancel culture and other woke crap. Makes you wonder what kind of soldiers these young weaklings would make.

[@SofieRPhoto]

@@sweetluvgurl no, I'm not saying that it makes it ok, definitely not, but recognising it as a possible cause of the problem may absolve from some of the hurt it clearly causes. The easy option is to blame but it only puts a grudge on our back to carry until we choose the harder path which is separate from our feelings of hurt we attached to the situation, to try and understand their point of view. I've been through a nearly double decade long roundabout of blame and dwelling over problems, but to avoid all that unnecessary stress I created boundaries and did everything I could to move past the misunderstandings. Your mental health should always come first, others are their responsibilities unfortunately, even if it meant you got less support growing up it's now up to you to move past it. You'll only be prouder of yourself for trying.

[@SofieRPhoto]

@@maretvilla1531 I get what you're saying, it makes sense that people develop strength through experience of overcoming hardship. You bring up some interesting points, I agree that young people discredit themselves of anything authentic if they are copying things they have seen in the media, but they are still trying to communicate something in the best way they know how, seeing real life examples working and then trying to imitate it. What interests me here is the repulsed behaviour of the parent towards the child who is acting inauthentic. It's a nice philosophy to have to say we all have a life's challenge to overcome. I do however think the challenges keep coming, just in different forms, I think that learning to enjoy the challenge is the best way of looking at it, probably best done when looking back and seeing what it taught you, but I understand also that pain can take its toll.

[@dreamendoza]

You just basically described my early 20s LOL. When I told my parents that my mental health was in a bad shape, they don’t know how to react. Now, I learned how to manage it by myself through healthy coping mechanisms.

[@JoseTerrier]

i grew up with a haitian mom and i had told her i was depressed and she went on and on about how spoiled i was only having to worry about my stupid first world problems. it didn't make me feel any better, just like a burden. i felt ashamed for the way i felt and never talked to her again about it. i seeked help from therapists and i was fortunately able to recover :D

[@sagarshrestha5800]

The very thing that the feeling of burden that she made you realize seems to what cause you into being depressed I guess. Are you self dependent now?

[@Arishake-nt8vc]

This hit hard but made me laugh at the same time, thank you Blud knows you gotta joke about it to keep yourself sane

[@the._.nabihouse]

My Indian parents gonna tell me to go drink water and solve some math problems 🕴

[@ndas5480]

😆

[@doogus8728]

Drinking water is actually pretty helpful, interestingly.

[@cqgod]

I've learned to accept it xD I can't 1v2 anymore hahaa

[@not7907]

this is so accurate asian parents just don’t believe mental illness existt LMAOOOO and the phone fault part😭😭👏👏👏

[@Yutou23503]

They like keep saying “I bet you learned this off the phoneeeee! Haiyaa!”

[@maple_vanilla]

my white parents dont believe in it either

[@kazuxhii-]

My mom would say: “I made you. You want to die? Pfft you cant die because I spend 12 years giving you stuff taking care of you and shit. You repay me by dying??? Failure, you cant die until you get a job” lmao

[@tinyluchino2626]

Wow ... x.x

[@TON-mr6qk]

"You're sad? Just don't be sad." *Depression rate drops by 100%*

[@elliwilliamz]

"Your gay? Don’t worry your still a failure!" Parent of the year 2022

[@islandboy4445]

All jokes aside, I sincerely hope that you all can find the help you need and deserve ❤️

[@anayashakeel4813]

"mom I get bullied at school" "it's all because of that phone hAiYaHHHH"

[@damian928]

Nah bc “who told you to be sad” is too real 💀

[@ismt9390]

This video might apply to the USA, but idk, i haven't been there. I'm from Eastern Europe, Romania and i've been depressed for a long time. I tried to tell my parents and it didn't go well. My mom said "What, are you telling me that you're crazy?! Is that it?!", while my dad just thought i was a rebelious teenager and he told me that he's seriously considering taking me to an exorcist. Mind you, i wasn't doing anything rebelious other than occasionally contradicting my dad when he was picking arguments with me or even beating me up. I went to school, didn't skip class, had the best grades in my class, i came home on time, i didn't party, didn't drink, didn't smoke, didn't do drugs, actually i never even went out because i wasn't allowed to, i did my chores in the house (my parents didn't do any), i watched my younger siblings sometimes. All i did was stay in my room all day drawing or on my computer, trying to avoid any contact with my family because they always somehow found reasons to argue when there were none. But they thought i was a problem child, that i was literally evil and was the cause of all the troubles in their lives. I was and still am, at 24 years old, not living with any of them anymore, the scapegoat.

[@Assamita01]

Im so so sorry they made you experience all that suffering. I hope you're doing good now. Much love.

[@doncorleone3901]

You need to go out. Join a gym and work out and go out in sun. Not saying this will solve everything but lack of social interaction can cause huge mental issues

[@Goldenretriever-k8m]

in the US most or at least many white parents do not take mental illness seriously either. Maybe schizophrenia or something, but definitely not depression.

[@UntilThenn]

I second the suggestion to be outdoors, especially in sun. It has really helped my mental health

[@darlalathan6143]

I'm from the USA and my cousin took her grown son to an exorcist--because of his crack addiction!

[@mochiluara9686]

My mom- a latina - is the perfect mix between the Asian mom and: " of course you're sad! You don't eat! Júlio!! bring the enchiladas that I've made today!! And call auntie Roberta! Lolla told me that Juan Alberto broke up with his girlfriend. Terrrible separation. You should marry him! Wonderful boy, he set fire on your dolls when you were 8. Do you remember ? There, there. Not so sad anymore, right? JÚLIO, where are the enchiladas?? Your sister is starving to death!!! "

[@JERETISM]

jasksjsj- si

[@divya_sancheti04]

What a story😄

[@neverendingtime8433]

As a Hispanic, my mother's first response was, "You're depressed? You have nothing to be depressed about..." But I'm doing better now.

[@alicecrow3755]

My mom did the same lol... I'm Spanish btw, and glad you're better 💕

[@yuppers1]

As a Hispanic, my mom's first reaction was to make it about her and how she should have been depressed given how much harder she worked all her life than I have

[@doreentwinomwe5661]

you need the jeeeeeeeeesus got me dying😂😅🤣