Texting Commandments While Dating

[@Rhjnkiitewsxbmlp]

1. Don’t iniciate texts until after 3rd date. 2. If you don’t hear from him for longer than 3 days- he’s out 3. Good morning texts mean nothing. 4. Don’t respond inmediatly, just a few times a day. 5. He doesn’t have to text you every single day but it should increase with time. 6. Don’t talk via social media, only text. 7. Don’t send him pictures, only real life. 8. Don’t text late at night. 9. If It’s one word texts, match his energy or let him go. 10. Your future person won’t be too busy for you, remember that!

[@sumimasen_wtf]

*initiate

[@tigerprincess816]

Thank you!

[@supernovayo]

Hey but isn't the phone number more personal than IG ?

[@sumimasen_wtf]

@supernovayo Numbers are more forgettable than social media. Once anyone knows your ID, they will be remembering it.

[@supernovayo]

@@sumimasen_wtf I see.

[@Sunshann]

The Good Morning texts are annoying! Send me money for lunch!

[@abellabarbie]

Lmao! Word.

[@MRSROBINC231]

😂😂😂

[@tonim6009]

💯

[@poetrygirl5309]

Girl! Good one!

[@tinyking11]

💯‼️😂

[@stephaniebyard3958]

I went on 2 dates with a guy. He left town to see family & sent cute pix & I responded positively. Then radio silence for 3 weeks. I wrote him off. He suddenly texted that MY silence told him I wasn’t interested. Got snarky and said he was moving on. Glad I dodged that one!

[@tspencer661]

Texting does not build a relationship. Talking in person and via phone calls builds relationships. Texting is for minor details. “I’m running late, I have to drop something off at my friend’s house, I need to reschedule because I’m not feeling well.” We survived without texting. We can still survive without texting. Texting is a modern convenience.

[@radguurl]

Except Millennials on down don't do phone calls. Most of us don't even have voicemail set up because we live in a modern age and things change. No one is saying text ALL the time, as it's made clear that you're suppose to meet in person. But people aren't out here talking on the phone for hours on end unless you're a senior citizen, lol.

[@spicesmiles]

💯💯💯💯 I say the same. The busy finger nonsense.

[@tspencer661]

I dated a Millennial a few years back. He must have been an old soul, because he liked to talk on the phone.😆

[@laurenholloway8770]

@@tspencer661 there are a few of us out there. I hate texting honestly. People often misunderstand my text because I type so slow 🤣

[@tspencer661]

@ 😆

[@renitalake3580]

The last time a guy asked me to "send him a picture", I sent him a shot of some flowers i had taken earlier in the day. 🤨

[@spicesmiles]

I also say: no hearts❤, no kissy faces with hearts 🥰😘, we are not moving faster than the effort or actual experience. Talk and meet 👀

[@tinyking11]

Facts! I can’t stand those kissy emojis from a 👨 and we don’t even know each other yet. It’s a huge turn off.

[@emgee691]

A great and accurate 10 Commandments of texting. I'd add a number 11...DON'T be fooled into thinking, hoping or believing that if all you have between you both is texting, you are in a RELATIONSHIP. You're not. At best, at best, all you have is a CONNECTION with someone you haven't met in person, or don't even know if they're real or fake.

[@ratelhoneybadger]

Just to add, if his texting gets sexual and you haven't known one another for at least 3 months, girl you know what it is🚮

[@CassietheK]

Listen!!! Needed this!! You just liberated ya girl from texting madness here!

[@senujohnson5029]

You are fantastic and helpful. Thanks 🙏🏾❤🥰

[@ladyofthecentury]

I agree with everything you’re saying. I block and deleting men with equipment if they’re not texting me and showing their interest then they’re not into me so I just block.

[@gragram711]

Blocking is rude though. I would just stop talking to them or respond in a way they do this. Why to block?

[@vam9785]

@@gragram711not blocking leaves the door open for them to come back when they are bored

[@naturallybecoming831]

😂😂 I guess this why I’m alone because I’m quick to drop anyone who does some of these things. I’m not putting any importance on anyone who barely takes the time or effort to reach out to me

[@poetrygirl5309]

I wish I heard this great advice before I entered any of my past relationships, which unfortunately turned into situationships. I was always the initiator of communication, especially texting . I disobeyed every commandment Coach Anwar was talking about. I'm so glad I ran into Anwar's content. He's the real deal. Gangsta of Dating World 2024 for real!

[@Echo-tk8pz]

Thank you. This has been beneficial for me.❤

[@fellanalrandall9396]

Jsyk, "Fairy Godbrother," I've been a marriage & family therapist for also 14 years and published a book on this for womxn.... and I agree with 1000% of what you said!!!! Say it again for the people in the back! 💯👏🏾

[@TamFam-o3n]

Name of book

[@acd1168]

I hate the asking me for pictures text. I cut it off after that.

[@cassandracarter5175]

Thank you so much for posting this. I absolutely loved and agree with everything you said. And this doesn't just go for dating it goes for communicating with people via text across the board. THANK YOU.

[@Passion84GodAlways]

THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for sharing this with us Coach Anwar!!! 🥲💎🙌🏾🙏🏾

[@ThePeacefulbutterfly]

Not taxi cab confessions and real sex 😂😂😂

[@xyznumber123]

100% all of it!

[@mindset_olympics2]

If this man has no follow up questions for me, theres nothing for me to reply to and I let it go lol ❤ its online… and ill be fine either way…

[@bedinabebe4521]

"Fairy GodBrother" Loving It🧚🏽‍♂️

[@Msz_Brittany]

I hate how accurate this is 😩 I’ve made so many miss-steps in the past by being to available giving golden retriever energy/pleaser vibessss 😩 🫣🙃🥲 these commandments really said bxxch here’s the 🪞!

[@Msz_Brittany]

I like to think of myself as authentically nice (personality) , but there’s virtually minimal space to be nice and not in a “nice guys (gals) finish last” becos we know they still turn out to be 🫠 but being nice to mennnn in MY experience hasn’t panned out so well for me 🫣

[@BL3SSed-Bliss]

@@Msz_Brittany *"Why Men Love B!tches" is widely popular for good reason.* Feel you, Britt. 💯 Love, serenity, Joy & genuine reciprocal LOVE to you, babe❣

[@nyeguono]

I'm a nice girl too, we're extremely valuable. Just be nice to only ppl who have proven to deserve it. Be nice with boundaries, don't be nice to men who haven't proven worthy. They will perceive it as opportunity to take advantage

[@Msz_Brittany]

I love this! Definitely will implement this moving forward because I was feeling like being nice is feeling bad in a sense 😩 𝒯𝒽𝒶𝓃𝓀 𝓎𝑜𝓊 𝓈𝑜 𝓂𝓊𝒸𝒽!

[@TamFam-o3n]

❤

[@saboo1_2]

In Anwar we trust

[@elisabethngobaleba8848]

Thanks a lot fairy brother ❤❤❤ Your advices are so helpful ❤❤❤

[@B_ready4671]

Love all these commandments

[@wonderwoman6006]

I only have ONE text message: "Hey Hun - Willl you give me a call?"

[@patsycohen137]

DEFINITELY ON POINT 💯

[@tinyking11]

These rules should be in a published book! 💯‼️☝🏽🔥 You didn’t lie not once. I follow these rules anyway.

[@legalmemories]

I agree except when it comes to not hearing from someone for 3 days - I think it kind of depends on what type of relationship you have. I think if you are in a casual relationship as long as he responds fairly quickly to any message you send him and vice versa. I don’t think it matters if a few days but no more than 5 days pass between texting.

[@laurenholloway8770]

I don't think we are talking about casual dating here 😅 especially since he said no late night text.

[@nyeguono]

5 days? Pls stand up, u deserve better

[@Beauty4ashes80]

5 days?? 3 is almost pushing it, 2 at best, and really 1 at the least. I consider a guy should think I’m interested and I don’t want to risk another guy grabbing her attention. If he’s serious he needs to be communicating better than texting. One thing a man will do if allowed is waste time. It’s best to know when to exit, before allowing your time to be wasted.

[@gaylasgoodies]

Such Golden advice 🫶🏽

[@mamisotrue]

DAAAAYMMMMMMM‼️🚨🚨🚨🤩

[@ressab.5193]

Thank you 🙏🏽 I do most of this now!

[@StamperWendy]

Always on point 🌷

[@p0dcat]

These are golden!!

[@Joirychelle]

Golden Advice!!!!🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@BooDotBoo]

ALL truth!

[@islandbarbiedoll]

Please Expand more on texting / call frequency .. especially with an older man (50+)… I am in my 30s and I don’t know how their old brains work 😂

[@rockstarintrapreneur5245]

😂😂😂

[@marquinarawlings]

😂😂😂 This made me laugh so hard!! 😂😂😂 I would say that the rules are the same. The men might move slower, but they’re pretty much the same, lol! 😂

[@marquinarawlings]

I’m 55, by the way, and my ex is 60 just getting back out into the dating world. He always would give younger guys advice on how to play women, that’s why I made the comment about men being the same way regardless of age, smh!

[@JhazaAmari]

I enjoy your videos fairy, godbrother😊 thanks

[@breakthecycle1971]

Thank you!!

[@FlowerPower1000]

FACTS!!!

[@meme246814]

Ughhhh I’m in this situation, met a guy online and he was texting fine the first couple of days and now it’s just dry one word or one sentence, and I have to initiate everything, and it’s like he’ll tell me he’s interested and thinks I’m super pretty but so closed off idk what to do 😭

[@nyeguono]

Don't listen to their words, watch their actions. Ask yourself, would your future husband do this? Wrap up the convo & don't reach out

[@meme246814]

@ yeah I just woke up and found he ghosted me, he unmatched with me on the dating app 🤪 should have listened to my gut before hand

[@supernovayo]

​@@meme246814 It's okay girl! Just listen to our fairy god brother's advice from now on :)

[@Empress_Yaffa]

And you're STILL around?

[@meme246814]

@@Empress_Yaffa lol I thought he ghosted me but he didn’t, but it’s the people pleaser in me that doesn’t know how to end things. I need tips 😭

[@cocohitchman3209]

99% of men fail this 😅 we just need the right 1

[@Audrey_3]

New subscriber here, Love your channel! 🤍

[@IAmJe]

Love it !

[@gtofabulas]

Been texting with a guy for over a year because I’m in a physical rehab situation and I don’t want my conversations overheard by residents or staff. We talk everyday for a couple hours. Have grown really close and I’m out of here by year end. I know so much verified info about him and he me. Planning to meet and celebrate me walking again and continue the relationship in person. All this came about because we text late night. So isn’t there exceptions?

[@poetrygirl5309]

Have you and this gentleman met in person prior to your rehab stay?

[@gtofabulas]

No we haven’t. We met online. Initially we both just wanted someone to talk to. Me because of my situation him because he was retiring. I’m 63 he’s 66. Im single he’s divorced 15 years. I have ways of verifying everything he’s told me and every single thing checks out. He’s expressed he’s developed feelings for me and believes over the past year our chemistry is there because we took our time getting to know each other. I like him a lot and believe we will be together but there’s always a but. We’ve exchanged pics and both find each other attractive. Oh and he asks my opinion about a lot of issues that involve personal issues and his kids.

[@Lovely-ff7uv]

​@gtofabulas have you ever dated a man in Prison?

[@jones2277]

coach, do you have a video on dating as a single parent?

[@TheRm2grow]

I’m divorced and a single mom of a now 16 year old. At the time of divorce he was 11. However, 1. don’t go into a relationship with baggage from the past relationships. 2. Heal and learn and love yourself and your own company. 3. When dating, don’t bring them to your house and don’t introduce them to your kids. Establish what types of people they are first. Your kids don’t need to meet everyone you date. 4. Establish boundaries and your time. You have priorities and responsibilities and don’t have time for the foolishness. 5. Don’t allow them to spend the night and use your car. They should already have themselves together!

[@jones2277]

@@TheRm2grow thanks for your tips. where did you meet men? if in person, what kinds of places?

[@gtofabulas]

There has to be exceptions. What if that’s the only way you have to communicate at the time?

[@NormaEsperanza23]

❤

[@blah7834]

Every guy has asked for a contact pic. And ft without asking i dont like it

[@Sunshann]

@@blah7834 the AUDACITY to FT me and I never invited you to do so!!

[@nyeguono]

As you should, ignore them. There's well balanced men waiting to meet u

[@ladyroyalsupremest]

It’s a lie. Especially if both have iPhone. I had a guy ask me for a contact pic 3 days ago. I told him NO! We didn’t have a phone convo. He wasted no time. If a man asks for your social media handles…keep it moving. Men are stealing photos from your IG. Luckily, I don’t have any posts. Think of it this way… why would he save you as a contact pic? Men don’t care about things like that. Hell, they don’t even have a contact picture for their mothers. It’s creepy and sad.

[@diamondsandpearls4534]

What if texting is not your thing, and you prefer conversations

[@Lovely-ff7uv]

Let em know when you exchange numbers. Simple. Always be honest. And never be afraid to express your needs. Start off being who you are. Not what you think they like. The right person will accept you as you are. No false pretense or expectations

[@jansley4]

No double texting

[@Lovely-ff7uv]

This is ridiculous! If you are interested in getting to know someone & finding a mate, do not text. Communicate by talking directly. Make that a non negotiable

[@TheFearlessBabe]

So every man on a dating apps are narcissistic, got it 😂😂😂

[@OnMyGrindNowForever]

All these advise(s). Please remember that some people do online dating and so aren't applicable.

[@TheVexedScribeNaga]

Its all applicable. Especially with long distance. If he's not talking in person meeting at some point and how to set up some way to actually begin initiating in person time with you, just focus on yourself.

[@Passion84GodAlways]

THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH for sharing this with us Coach Anwar!!! 🥲💎🙌🏾🙏🏾