Gaslighting, Love Bombing, and Trauma Bonding: Know The Signs

[@MoosaGrace]

" the standard of how you love yourself should reflect in your partner" yes lebo yes 🙌🏽🙌🏽❤😊

[@mphomomokheseng]

Thato has definitely been bitten by the fashion bug, His fits are fire nowadays 🔥

[@freedomisonthemindof8633]

Thato is in his fashionista era🔥🔥

[@nolwazijele1280]

The way I jump when you guys release an episode should be studied🤣

[@Kattyy_chanie]

Me and you🤞🏽

[@YPandGg]

These gents finish each others sentences 🤣🤣🙏🏽

[@zekhethelongobese9530]

On that point of having considerate partners, i feel like you guys need to raise the bar a little higher for yourselves (and i am saying this as a woman). A lady deciding to pay for 1 meal after you bought the last 5 isn't fair long term. If we quantify that in terms of percentage, thats roughly a 15/85 split. You're pouring in 85% and only getting 15% back? Aowa guys, i need you guys to experience the soft men era too. I also think our generation needs to start moving towards having these financial conversations when in relationships, women aren't exempt from Cyril's economy, a conversation about realistic financials regarding dates, food, outings, baecations etc needs to be had. Its always lowkey sad when i hear these scenarios where men spend sooooooooo much with little consideration from their partners

[@kobebennette]

👏👏👏

[@Channyy956]

Men are providers finish and klaar. If that dynamic works for u good for u. But there’s men that actually like being providers

[@amogelanglegodi]

@@Channyy956there are areas where women can put that 85% and men will have 15%. It can’t be balanced everywhere. So it isn’t low standards if a guy pays for more dates.

[@palesaramo4839]

I honestly agree with you and this is why we get guys who are depressed and drained from relationships and end up just being smash and pass niggas only to avoid the spending because as ladies we don't want to be realistic and fair because you can't build with someone who is always expecting the nigga to do 85% I believe in spoiling a gent and giving him soft life and having financial talks

[@maps6283]

I felt like Thato is venting today🔥🔥

[@KgosatsanaMahlohonolo]

Can we have Lucas and Tladi back😭 even if it's once

[@nonduuu]

I MISS THEM!!!!😭😭

[@SimplyMondy]

So real 🥺

[@princessdaweti]

They are in Cape Town and moved out of Joburg 🥺

[@RekgopetsweSekele-]

I miss them 😭

[@kuts.thwala]

From Lebo not really showing appreciation to his content (last episode) to him reversing the negative chat and actually appreciating his content and realising that his content eats is nice to witness. Self cav is the best cav, shout out to him for that. (and shout out to Thato for always reassuring his brother) Annnnnd please carry on recommending more anime!!!! 🫶

[@rvlng7265]

19:11 i don’t think it comes from a place of judging people for how quickly they’re moving on but it rather comes more from the fact that we all need time to grieve certain people and certain times in our lives. the emotions we don’t allow ourselves to fully experience always catch up with us one day.

[@_snakho9717]

Please, I'm so guilty of laughing during confrontation/conflict as well😭 like wooooow re mo for real for real

[@MoosaGrace]

If there's anything I hate as a shy person/ introvert is confrontation, because I don't know know how deal or feel about it 😩 😢😔

[@KgahlisoNkosi-v6y]

By far the best male podcast I've come across😩😩😂❤

[@vuyelobaloyi]

Lol came here from Spotify to tell Thato that the partner that you described is my friend, word for word from the ambition to how you describe consideration… I had to stop halfway cause your description without a doubt was her… hope when you ready for a relationship the universe leads you guys to meet❤

[@Lelo-of4rq]

Y’all please never stop making these kind of videos I am learning so much thank you so much for the amount of effort you put in this ❤

[@kabomorolong197]

You gents are one of the Pods that can have a live audience show🤌🏾 Topics are very engaging.

[@MaleboD]

Thato, thank you for not holding back today, you should speak more, your feelings, where you at & & & Thank you Malume

[@banyanam100]

This gave me insight into a man’s world ❤️ well a good man that is

[@lifewithqueenSolo]

I'm also a love bomber, but I maintain it, for years. It's just how I love. I'm just a romantic lover. I love closeness. I then get frustrated when it's not reciprocated & it's the main reason for my break ups. Then I have exe lovers who constantly want love back... And I don't know how to tone it down...

[@lindokuhle5468]

Thanks

[@ThatoRampedi]

Thank you so much!!!!

[@olgatalksmotlhabane8206]

These 2 balance each other out🙂Love them together ❤️

[@cynthytlotlokgaileng7977]

Seated with the favs!❤🥹

[@NaleZwane]

There was so much in this that I feel like I need to listen twice !

[@italiatsotetsi8347]

Therapy session in progress 😅😅❤️❤️❤️❤️Love you guys so much 📍

[@HareaiphaJack]

While at university I used to have standards and dated people within a certain bracket, and I can attest when y'all talk about it backfiring. I think as broers we should try broadening the brackets we date into, for the experience and fun in general.

[@lesegomalakalaka4914]

What a fire episode episode , thanks Rampedi brothers!✨I noticed that Thato kept interrupting Lebo ( I know it’s probably not deliberate but please be mindful next time ) he didn’t even get to ask the bonus question because he got cut, nonetheless thank you guys for this 🔥

[@thapiem9461]

great seeing both of you on one screen 🌼

[@philiswasithole1604]

You guys are such a ball of sunshine ♥️🥹….. continue doing what you doing 🫶🏽

[@sellwanemacnolia2705]

I should be studying. Currently my Favorite Podcast.

[@asandamabanga9246]

“Gaslighting is a woman s favourite word” 😂😂😂 . Factss

[@MoosaGrace]

Yeses 😭 😭 😭

[@lindokuhle5468]

I know I’m sitting on the other side but I’d love to have a conversation with you guys. The way you guys observe each other and are so honest without being afraid to hurt each other’s feelings is admirable. Also , I’m stuck on “you are not compatable with everyone “. I have Lebo's tendencies 🤭 and I’m just going to sit with that for now. Thank you ❤️

[@beautykakuwa]

All American best series ever❤

[@siyamajay]

You guys have really improved soo much when it comes to podcasting. Enjoyed every minute of it ❤

[@Andile-j53]

Always spend below 200 😂 I don't like to spend much on junk food ..I just consume it as reward for a monthly hardwork ❤

[@enoch_adeyanju]

😂😂😂I'm new here. This is my first episode, and I just wanna say, you guys are amazing and funny 🙌🏽💪🏾 Keep up the good work

[@nokwandamagwaza8961]

I love you guys and I wish more men or guys were more open like this also women are learning a lot about guys ❤ and also learning a lot about how you should love yourself as a person ❤️ 🎉🎉🎉more love for you guyz really appreciate what you doing ❤️

[@Emmanuelk_]

Word of the podcast is “papa”🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@dineomashao4840]

Rampedi brothers this whole episode was fire okay!!🔥🔥❤️

[@Andile-j53]

Saving the podcast for later ❤

[@girly_kaise]

Always looking forward to watching you guys😊

[@debraphiri644]

I absolutely enjoy this podcast and get to learn a lot about myself too

[@Ole_Mooketsii]

Love you guys so much!! You're both doing amazing!! 💋❤🐐

[@reamorena3509]

On a genuine level, though. The vibrancy in this video in comparison to the last video shows that you are both resting. Burnout is a thing and it is real. As you're managing your 10,000 business ventures, remember to take care of yourselves and your minds.

[@SincerelyPearlM]

The Rampedi brothers 🔥🔥🔥

[@thembangubeni99]

Great episode guys🙏🏼

[@lethabo_m1532]

38:40 I cried😭

[@zamambele9830]

Thato ukhulile bandla 😊 wish y'all all the best on your journey of self discovery.

[@austin_XXV]

Oh so you guys are alive, wena where is As Majita?

[@ebbaiithelenga3882]

Even thought digest?😢

[@MoetK21]

Our big brothers 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍

[@SimplyMondy]

Where do we draw the line between being strategic with someone’s child & so called “setting boundaries for yourself”

[@Dimphokruger]

Thanks a lot for this podcast ❤love it

[@Bonolo.Mokata]

Lebo: “love is transactional.” Uhmm unfortunately it is very conditional too

[@latitalaselo]

Lebo & Yanda Woods would really make a good couple ❤

[@LettaNoge]

I know when Lebo spoke about his friend who loves love but acts like a "F-boy" he was talking about Gontse and i also love when Thato finishes a sentence and your like, "papa".😂😂😂

[@KgahlisoNkosi-v6y]

Bathong I love these brothers hle😩❤

[@GracefulYvonne]

Just do what you want, isss your life bro!!!! ❤❤

[@Gigi_Mabii]

I love it over here ❤️

[@SibsM93]

Great talk gents

[@mpumidlamini_5]

R400 on uber eats is crazy😂😂talk about being greedy.....R200 for my meal is enough and that R200 includes service fee and wat not. R200 isharp

[@nellykekana3829]

the way i jumped?!😭

[@kobebennette]

Looks great to have a brother ...... Big ups bros ❤

[@Ayoo-n14]

"Yes papa"😂❤

[@juniormanyokole42]

This was great

[@cecilia28548]

My faves🥺❤️

[@itumelengmabuya9644]

"Gaslight'nyana... it's a braai Papa"😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@nonhlethubelihlemlotshwa3154]

I honestly watch this for Lebo🥹🥹

[@malwandesimelane6140]

Most people bread crumb the opposite of love bombing.

[@ThandoN-jc5yf]

"'i love to start the season strong'"😭😭😭

[@melaluxe8195]

Lebo reka sofa😂😂😂😂

[@MoosaGrace]

😂😂😂

[@leratorosemary9513]

BARS!!!

[@mihlaliiii]

The boys❤

[@everythang.irie.]

I don’t really spend that much on Uber Eats. KFC All Star Box then I’m good. That’s less than R120 btw

[@dayzwcherrybaby]

“mama”🥺

[@zox.music.006]

Am learning a lot W

[@Svuyo]

Ey the way i relate with this episode

[@siphiwayinkhositfwala1436]

I feel like Lebo, I’ve watched everything.

[@nokwandamathebula7952]

Haibo Thato and Kamo broke up😢?

[@LaoTheDesigner]

dammmmn Lebo is funny

[@sthembilembatha280]

Im not even deep into anime like that but demon slayer was soo fire🔥🔥🔥

[@Pleasantgirly]

Lebo and Yanda🥰🥰🥰I can see it 😂❤❤

[@Zanele-pk8ty]

Quick question How do get the Voda bundles

[@thandekabhengu3313]

Oh I love All Americans 😭❤️

[@boipelommileng]

41:29 Thato is describing reciprocation. You're constantly initiating and bringing them into your world, but they're just not that into you. It's that simple.

[@zox.music.006]

Crazy that am also in a break 😂😂

[@reamorena3509]

Let me save this video as a reference for the future because the golden tips lie here. Y'all came for us, though; clearly, that AirBnB did you well. Ba re "ladies love dating broke gents" "they love build-a-gent"...... "Ladies, don't give this guy things that you struggle to give to yourself, and don't give this guy things he wouldn't even, on a normal day, give himself."

[@Sage_Blaq]

Did I miss something or is Thato is single now?

[@mmatsietumiso7842]

Bruh I'm also asking myself the same thing

[@GefteMachivene17]

I heard rumors on Twitter but now I see that he's dropping hints that the allegations are true

[@nolwazizondi1306]

Khona into ekhona la!!!👏🏾🔥

[@lindiwemtshali1643]

Thato is venting 😂

[@LelowMokoena]

I heard that ....😂😂😂 25:54

[@ThatoRammela]

29:16 nna I feel like when someone gaslights me, they are insulting my intelligence, like what do you mean what saw is not what I saw and then that person says I’m crazy, okay wena psychologist ka di diagnosis 😂😭

[@thapelo8058]

Lebo ,no you can't be single,what????😮 aowa wena wa rata ,I'm sure there are lovely ladies that would appreciate and respect you,aker men does the loving ..😊nah

[@AnaloMnukwa]

After all American, watch All American:homecoming

[@pinkhappynesslady5331]

Thato is really sweet

[@Svuyo]

Haibo I've been single for 5 years

[@malwandlesyabonga7787]

❤

[@EduGlad.]

To be honest Thato and Lebo, this is unprofessional broelas. Being quiet about AS MAJITA knowing very well that Sunday has long passed and you haven’t uploaded anything and you don’t say anything? Y’all should do better. This started as a joke, moving from Sundays to Mondays, from Mondays to Tuesdays. From Tuesdays to Nondays. We are your followers and we deserve the heads up on whether content is dropping or not.

[@iMbaulaNetwork]

🙏☺️✊🏾

[@thatommamohau]

9:29 😂😂😂

[@mahtlisto1083]

I think respecting your Subscribers is important, AS MAJITA didn't post and you guys are just silent, would we be wrong to unsubscribe??

[@mashotomalatsi7101]

They went on a trip. They are obviously working on content. But each to their own

[@mahtlisto1083]

​@@mashotomalatsi7101okay since u r part of As Majita group

[@GefteMachivene17]

​@@mahtlisto1083if you've been following their IG you'd see that they traveled. But I think the problem here is them not letting people know that they won't be uploading and keeping people in the loop

[@italiatsotetsi8347]

It’s your entitlement for me 😞and the threat to unsubscribe that is so Low😢

[@mahtlisto1083]

@@italiatsotetsi8347 it's my time that I use to watch them, so yes I am entitled.

[@ZusipheFokazana]

❤😊😊

[@Lethabo-591]

Atleast R250 is fine R400 is way too much

[@keo9179]

Manje where is Caiah & Mpho ? y’all hogging the platform

[@zainRaphael]

seated makes me question my relationships with people and my compatibility, and if I truly do love myself🥲.