The #1 Menopause Doctor: How to Lose Belly Fat, Sleep Better, & Stop Suffering Now

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Today's episode is a MUST listen. You won't believe what the latest research is saying about #menopause. And you're likely not getting what you need to know from your doctor.
Did you know #perimenopause can begin as early as your 30’s? Or that symptoms can include frozen shoulder, joint pain, ear ringing, migraines, and body odor?
Today, the #1 menopause doctor tells you everything she knows so you can stop guessing and KNOW how to stay healthy and feel amazing in your body.
Dr. Mary Claire Haver joins Mel on the podcast today. She is a board certified obstetrics and gynecology specialist, a certified menopause practitioner from the Menopause Society, and her latest book is The New Menopause. Her advice today will help you optimize your health, no matter what your age.
You've got symptoms; today's episode has solutions, like:
3 types of foods that will stop your bloating
2 supplements that will help you sleep better
1 exercise that will help you lose weight and improve your bone density
Bookmark this episode and share it with every single woman in your life, because it’s time to change the paradigm: you do not have to live with symptoms that can be resolved and you do not have to suffer.
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I’m just your friend. I am not a licensed therapist, and this podcast is NOT intended as a substitute for the advice of a physician, professional coach, psychotherapist, or other qualified professional. Got it? Good. I’ll see you in the next episode.
In this episode:
00:00 Intro
06:10: What’s wrong with our medical system when it comes to menopause.
08:45: By the age of 30, women have lost 90% of these.
09:44: How the loss in sex hormones starts to affect your life.
12:30: What on earth is a WW?
14:50: Surprising symptoms you’d never think were related to menopause.
19:15: How does estrogen help your body run in the most optimal way?
20:45: What causes menstrual bloating and swelling?
21:00: Why do women become depressed and anxious during their cycles?
21:40: Wait. Migraines can be caused by a change in hormones?!
22:15: You’re not crazy if you’re dealing with ADHD symptoms in your 30’s.
24:00: Another surprising symptom of low estrogen levels.
28:10: What does estrogen have to do with your heart health?
29:10: How women are being treated unfairly by the health insurance industry.
29:55: Asthma is another unexpected symptom of menopause.
30:15: Estrogen impacts your gut health.
30:30: Despite what you’ve been told, osteoporosis IS preventable.
33:40: How is a woman’s vagina impacted by loss of estrogen?
38:20: How do women start to experience perimenopause?
42:00: Once officially in menopause, a woman should never have these again.
43:20: Will you have these menopause symptoms for the rest of your life?
44:25: Your body makes 4 types of estrogen.
46:26: How much estrogen you have at 25 vs. postmenopause.
47:40: The postmenopause toolkit you need to start feeling better.
48:20: What you need to know about hormone replacement therapy.
53:12: 3 types of food ALL women should include in their diets.
55:10: What type of magnesium supplement should you take?
56:56: Why you have to take a vitamin D supplement.
57:52: Why do so many women have higher cholesterol?
58:45: Should women take probiotic supplements?
59:30: How visceral fat is different from other fat and how HRT helps.
1:00:12: What type of exercise should postmenopausal women do?
1:01:30: How can you sleep better?
1:03:20: Estrogen dips impact how your body processes alcohol.
1:09:45: How do you find a doctor and how do you prepare for your visit?
1:10:55: What else can you do to manage your experience?
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[@2twokisses]

Viagra is covered by medicare but hormone therapy and menopause as a whole is not covered . That really says something.

[@maarten7]

Bingo! Also every other commercial on the television is for ED, Viagra, low-T, etc. (Usually featuring inappropriately young females.) It's time we claim our power.

[@YugenLife]

Makes no point to get medicare

[@bronwynsimons7028]

Is that a fact 😮😮😮??

[@vyvyienewalser6798]

Really...shocking...that viagra is coved by insurance but hrt's are not.???? Ladies...get together and march to these offices and demand that its covered....or march on to their congress men and demand that its looked into.

[@elisabetta4571]

My thoughts exacty. It just goes to show how much women 's life is valued in our society.

[@sharon1934]

I'm 67 and recommend that you start weight training and core strength work before age 40 and don't ever stop. It needs to be a routine part of your identity, above everything else in priority. It is very difficult to catch up after menopause, although I'm trying.

[@sharon1934]

Stiff hips and back have plagued me since about age 55 (12 years) and now I'm finding this may be due to hormones!?

[@tashabrown8301]

@@sharon1934 I’m 54 and the stiffness recently started😒 along with the hot flashes and weird body pains this is no fun I better get back to working out stretching and better nutrition ASAP!

[@kellyhudson6452]

I also wish I’d known this in my forties. I tell everywoman in her late 30s to start learning about menopause

[@cleanqueen75]

I had one gynecologist who was in her mid 30’s tell me bio-identical hormones will give me ovarian cancer.

[@nccrchurchunusual]

Very true. I was doing weight training & core & balance work doing great. Then covid & menapause happened at same time. Covid almost killed me & my husband & recovery was slow. I was a military wife- handled every thing by myself, fixed stuff, cooked cleaned worked raised kids, church stuff etc. Now I am over whelmed almost all the time. Cant seem to accomplish much. I have always been able to juggle alot, build stuff, organize stuff. Im 59- moved last fall. Dont have energy to unpack. Did not make a great decision on the property we bought... I am an insomniac, depressed, unable to handle much, ADHD, gained 15 lbs, developed pain in hips & shoulder, and general malaise. I think alot about dying instead of doing something productive. God please help me get my tax stuff ready for cpa. Cant find a doctor to help me except to give me vaginal crm which helps with that part. I have called alot of drs.

[@victoria256r]

We need more people telling us truth like this! Love this video. Just finished reading The 23 Former Doctor Truths by Lauren Clark. Its so fascinating how society is getting lied by industry

[@lukag3155]

Thanks. Im checking it out right now

[@lindencalloway5]

Finished it 2 weeks ago. Would defintely recommend it also. Such an amazing book!

[@laraking804]

The thing nobody talks about are TEETH! I’ve always prided myself of my nice smile. Once I entered menopause my teeth started to move and I now have a gap between my front teeth. I also needed 4 filling in my last visit something I didn’t need since a teenager. The orthodontist explained that this can happen with the hormone changes in menopause and the lost of bone density in the jaw. I never thought that I’d be needing teeth straightening at 55.

[@mzyouknowit8024]

Yes my teeth got really weak I cut back on sugar started oil pulling and take fermented cod liver oil and vitamin d3 with k2 it works

[@NBportofino]

I just got Invisalign at 69. Ive never had braces

[@dorothyonyango6575]

This explains my teeth realignment..😢 thank you for sharing

[@portalsandpathways]

Thank you! I have a tooth implant that is coming loose from my jaw bone and now I understand.

[@GrandmaLM]

Me too. I’m 76. Because of front tooth gap just got gap fixed

[@erikabusser]

Gen X women are not taking this shit lying down. We know we our worth! 💪

[@lauriepolden6594]

You think Gen X is something special girl I am a baby boomer and I know what I’m worth. I knew what I was worth the day I was born. You are a bunch of whiny piss ants. They cannot take care of yourselves I don’t wanna work I want to sit on my ass and get taken care of. I was a single parent with two kids making $7.29 an hour raising them with no child support, you think you’re tough bitch I’ve been where you are I can do it standing on my head blind I don’t need a man how many men you got taken care of you you got mommy and daddy taking care of you too you living in the basement, afraid to move out because you don’t make enough moneyyeah I know Gen X my ass

[@theresajohnson9817]

😂😂facts

[@SquirrellyShenanigans]

AMEN

[@MENOPAUSEWARRIORS]

Amen.❤ I am over it. Tried of being tired ALL the time!

[@denyelgarland6632]

And we live in a world with access to a plethora of information unlike our mothers and grandmothers so there is no reason to except the same excuses

[@merrilynedwards5008]

I am 70 years old now. I had my daughter at age 43 and within a couple of years started feeling effects perimenopause. I explained to my primary doctor that I was experiencing multiple hot flashes a day and night sweats at night disturbing my sleep. When I asked her how I should treat it she looked at me and said how should I know. I was shocked that she would not know how or care to know how to treat something that all women experience at sometime in life and realized it was the best kept secrets in town. No one was talking about it. My gynecologist put me on only estrogen patches that irritated my skin and only made my symptoms worse. Luckily I was so miserable that I kept researching and found an amazing doctor that started me on estrogen and testosterone hormone replacement pellets with progesterone pills. I still remember the day I woke up and felt like me again. I am amazed that 15 years later women are still fighting to be taken care of and that insurance does not pay for treatment. I guess when men realize how much happier they will be with a women who is treated with these hormones the medical field will wake up. Keep up the good work so our daughters don’t have these struggles

[@bronwynsimons7028]

@merrilynedwards5008 💯 ‼️ My husband, like most men are clueless on the topic if menopause! He asked me one question about what I'm experiencing 1 whole year into premenopause, only because I had a meltodown about his indifference !! It's no wonder men have midlife crises And trade in their wives for younger models. Because they don't know (not that we know either) what they are dealing with during this phase 😒 Sadly, For better and for worse, goes out the window at this point 😞

[@greencoloredstar]

Unfortunately, those of us that are entering perimenopause are still not believed despite the research and evidence to treat. I’ve been to 3 different providers, the last even being a Menopause Society certified provider, and all I got was either "you’re too young to be in perimenopause" (I’m not.. I’m 38) then, "here are some birth control pills." It’s been exhausting and expensive trying to find someone to actually listen and get the appropriate treatment.

[@Flowers57862]

I’m 67 years old 4 years ago I was started on the Forteo shots for 2 years. I lost 2 jaw teeth during that time. I wasn’t put on a follow up drug to retain basically what I was given. Today they want to start me on Envinity and follow up with Prolia every 6 months for life! The Envinity a shot once a month for a year. In 1997 I had a complete hysterectomy. I was told don’t take HRT unless your symptoms get real bad. Please someone answer my question! Should I try HRT before doing those chemicals again!!!

[@Wolfgirl-18]

Thanks for sharing ❤ I'm 43 and starting to experience peri menopause. Also, I don't want to lose hope of having a child of my own - you give me hope 😊

[@kathleensherman3760]

I have had hot flashes for 20 years. I'm on VEOZAH now and much better!

[@catherinebonnici5572]

I started my period at 16..menopause at 50.. My period cycle every 28 day..normal periods..pre menopause i had frequent migraines. Very emotional.. But that was the worse of it..always maintain healthy weight. 120 135 lbs.till recently..140 lbs..around the belly..i eat healthy. .exercise and do intermittent fasting..never on HRT..cause of possible side effects..over all i am a positive person..young at heart..i am now 71..i do count my blessings..my goal is to stay healthy and independent till my time is up.😊❤

[@Marluna-f8b]

Wow,, maybe you don’t have 4 kids before. I maintain my weight 130lbs ,125 @ age 52 now in perimenopause I am 54 and 150lbs, exercise ,diet everything but still gained and have insomia, anxiety,so may due to perimenopause plus stil have youngest child age 10 and 13 and two teens

[@northernfox6420]

@@Marluna-f8b Check out the Glucose Goddess. Huge eye opener. The same glucose that we ate before reacts twice as strongly in peri/menopause. That's why we are still eating the same thing, doing the same thing, but it's not working anymore. Our bodies react to insulin spikes WAY more than they used to. Crazy stuff!

[@1979France]

Recommendations start at 47:40: HRT (50:06) Turmeric (54:15) Vitamin D (56:56) Top 3 recommendations for nutrition start at 54:27: 1. Fiber (54:27) 2. Magnesium (55:09) 3. Omega 3 Fatty Acids (56:25) Also: Probiotics (1:00:02) Weight training (1:01:00)

[@yaki-moon]

Thanks

[@ancientwisdom108]

Thank you! Yes We need to focus on solutions.

[@krebzz3166]

Thanks

[@DawnJordan-Crone]

Thank you

[@cantikkeren]

Thx ❤

[@YCaria7366]

I'm 56 and tried to talk to my female OBGYN NP about sleep problems and my lower libido and she told me that I needed to go to a therapist. She's probably pushing 40--she is in for a rude awakening when she gets to this time of life. I'm looking for a new office now.

[@stephaniesheppard4139]

Yes please keep trying obgyn until u find one that really listens . I had to do that . 😊 estrogen low dose patch helped me ! And progesterone 😊

[@nealiecruz2532]

Tell her to watch this podcast Or tell her to buy Dr. mary Claire havers book titled The New Menopause. You would be doing her a favor

[@ZahraMoha-f4p]

this!🤣

[@artteacheramy1279]

That Dr. is B****” You need a therapist ? “ How about I’ve been seeing one for years. It hasn’t helped the pre menopause ! It’s NOT ALL IN OUR HEADS !! this is our HORMONES. they are out of whack. And we are suffering !! I’ve been to 5 doctors. None of them care. We don’t need birth control pills or HRT. We need to get natural progesterone. And try herbs etc. which I’ve done for over 5 years and it’s been a big pain in the butt. Tried everything. Where is a prescription for the night sweats and mood swings ?? Millions of women are going through this. I was so depressed recently. We need REAL SOLUTIONS. Not GYN Drs who are too busy delivering babies to pay attention the 45-55 year olds suffering.

[@tanmobley2907]

Omg the same thing happened to me and I’m currently looking for another Dr

[@TheVenusQuest]

Mel, the problem is not knowing about PERIMENOPAUSE, that phase lasts 10 to 15 years, and starts around age 35, sometimes even earlier. It is not possible for us to maintain this natural hormone decline with our diets. It's not fair to lump perimenopause and menopause together. Perimenopause is one of the most delicate times in a woman's life. On my channel, I interview women from around the world, and we are all clueless about this period of time. During the middle and end of perimenopause, women hold the highest suicide risks, we are losing women to a hormone decline, not to an illness. As much as I am doing in my power to create awareness, one woman cannot do this alone; it takes us all working together. As a society, we should guide the next generation.

[@Summerlover5011]

Exactly! Had a young doc tell me at 35 I was in perimenopause. She left our state shortly after. That began my 24yr battle with doctors telling me to exercise more, eat less, here’s the newest antidepressant, etc! Recently saw a menopause trained doc who told me most of these symptoms weren’t from menopause. Calling bs.

[@sloene72]

Oh yes! The mental health, the pressure to 'be' our best self for the world and go through menopause (something the medical industry or anyone really cannot see is huge for us. We need to exist with our body's changes and embrace it!

[@nicolephillips2312]

Absolutely!!! I feel this same way! Our doctors are in serious need of true education

[@leatelierr]

Hey there… I subscribe to your channel and I'm gonna check it out. Good for you! It's so much more than black-and-white I'm somewhere between 35 and 55 and get my hormones test, tested by hormone specialist and they say I'm not menopausal, but I have other situations I guess what I mean to say is if you got your hormones tested every day at the same time for 30 days they could be radically different and for some reason they don't do that they do sleep studies but they won't test your hormones even every day for two weeks I'm looking for a naturopath and/or Doctor Who is willing to try this with me by nature, the endocrine system is not a linear thing, there are cycles there are seasons. so instead of a straight line, it's a big squiggly line and we just have to find a way to embrace this nurture this and maybe educate other people we're on the right path and I sure do hope with these two women and yourself included society changes faster because the 90s may as well have been the 50s let me tell you! Looking forward to watching your videos. Keep up the good work.❤

[@strengthbeauty8033]

So true! I subscribed to your channel.

[@terrigodfrey8260]

Good show. 20 years ago I found a father/son doctor team in Florida who owned an alternative medicine clinic. They were life changing for me. Way ahead of their time. They did comprehensive blood work, gave me bioidentical hormones in cream form and a low dose of natural thyroid (not synthetic). Gave me my life back at 55. They also recommended low carb, high protein, natural saturated fat in the diet. It was a remarkable change for me. I'm now 75 and off hormones and thyroid med. Very healthy. I'm also 90% carnivore.

[@janetlittle4362]

Do carnivore diets eat a lot of red meat?

[@deemurray3658]

What is the name of the doctor?

[@valwk8298]

Please do share what that topical bio identical hormone cream please???? TIA Also, the Dr’s name of I can please get their information 🙏🙏🙏

[@SarahLiles5]

Yes drs name please! I’m in FL.

[@carolinegannon8076]

Dr name and local please!

[@birdsell1]

I’m watching this video with tears rolling down my face. I’m 51 and am just beginning this journey. I’m suffering everyday and now I feel empowered to find help and put myself first for the first time in my life. I can’t thank you ladies enough. From the bottom of my heart, thank you.❤️

[@k.griffin180]

I am too, I've weighed 145-150 for 10 years now; then I crept to 155 then 161 to 167 and i just look and it's 171! All of this in 2 months! I'm almost starving myself and am absolutely discouraged!

[@kathleenschubach5277]

​@k.griffin180 you need high protein meals, nourish yourself well, dont deprive yourself food. Healthy fats, hydration and strength training. Take a look at FasterWay...amazing program. I lost 40 pounds in 8 or 9 weeks. Truly amazing program with your own food.

[@over40nfab]

Going to be 57 next week - at about 50 I gained 30 pounds and completely felt like my body was turning on me - stressed, rashes, emotional- freaking miserable - found a functional medicine doctor - started hormone replacement at 51 and two years ago began intermittent fasting - I lost 35 pounds and words can’t describe how great I feel 🎉

[@sammyocgirl7411]

all Dr's want to do is push Meds....

[@LivingMyLyfe]

What type of intermittent fasting are you doing, 12 hrs, 16?

[@over40nfab]

@@LivingMyLyfe typically 16/8 now that I’ve been maintaining for the last year - when I started out mostly 18/6 with an occasional 24 - I clean fast when fasting just water and black coffee - cured my reflux which was a huge plus !

[@lauramendoza8990]

I love this advice! Intermittent fasting has been a great tool. Dr. Mindy Pelz has some very sound advice regarding this. If you haven’t watched her KZbin you must!

[@peternole5083]

I also started HRT at 51. Now I have breast cancer. Would give anything to go back and reverse my HRT choice. My functional medicine doctor swore there was no danger. She was wrong. And before you debate this, all three of my oncologists said it was the HRT.

[@bethanyjacobs6124]

I am a family medicine physician, and this is the most amazing thing I’ve heard out of any of the articles I’ve read in the last year. It’s like a lightbulb has clicked on. Thank you.

[@MarkMcCormickFitness]

I imagine you are not alone in feeling that way. I have had many clients who are physician’s or in family practice and just haven’t had enough current perimenopause to menopause education. Or understand enough what they can do for themselves. Wishing you all the best in your new realization.

[@stuffwelike7184]

Thank you for watching and keeping up with new research. I have several issues and have been to more doctors than you can shake a stick at. I've found with so many doctors they get to a point where they think there's nothing left for them to learn and this leads them to not listening to their patience and blowing them off rather than admit maybe they don't know it all or that they haven't kept up with any newer medicine

[@michelesteward5170]

Hallelujah

[@brynne77]

I have had problems with UTI since last fall. I've had three episodes where I wasn't able to urinate on my own and needed to have a catheter put in (has happened 3 times since last fall). I also had to go on anti biotics to prevent infection. Is this doctor saying that taking or applying vaginal estrogen will prevent me from having trouble urinating?

[@brynne77]

@@stuffwelike7184 Interesting. Well-said, stuffwelike.

[@louisewood9253]

Wow, this has really helped me to understand why my menopause symptoms disappeared when I went on a low carbohydrate diet - it reduced my inflammation!! I was suffering with frozen shoulder, hot flashes and chronic fatigue, now I feel the healthiest in my entire life. I knew the diet changed everything, but I didn't know why. Thank you!

[@Solost217]

What diet

[@PetsitterTails]

I guess I was one of the lucky ones. Menopause was the best thing that ever happened to me . all my life I had trouble with my periods and suffered a lot of pain, irregularity, etc. Menopause had no symptoms for me whatsoever except relief from the pain and agony had suffered for so many years.

[@lindajones4849]

Congrats on your minimal symptoms during menopause. But watch out for osteoporosis because it can progress silently. Also watch out for vaginal dryness and frequent UTIs due to low estrogen . That can be treated with low dose topical estrogen

[@goldstar846]

me too! my body is so relieved its over. us endo girls thrive post menopause. It is afterall a natural normal part of aging. I think tho its our reward for the hell we been through already. Oddly the women I know who had no dramas young have hellish menopause transition. so weird!!

[@blueseptember2174]

​@goldstar846 Gosh I hope this is true 😅. I've suffered since 9 years old. Thinking back to high school the agony of being in class. I shiver thinking about it. The inflammation to 😢

[@RachelDarleneGilliland]

I'm so happy for you! 🌸

[@goldstar846]

@@blueseptember2174 keep the faith. My gyny says it happens alot. 🙂because ...estrogen is fertiliser for endo. good times ahead! xx

[@RethaWatson-k7w]

I’m 82 years old, I had total Hestorectamy at the age of 27 yrs old, I’m still having hot flashes, so happy someone is helping we women .. thank you so much!!

[@FindYourFree]

yea when that belly fat kicks in, you know. I have been super active my whole life and in good shape, all of sudden my belly puffs up and stays puffed. This was super helpful.

[@tashagnew]

Same!!! I am on HRT now because of Dr Haver. All this changed over night for me. My clothes always fit …sometimes tighter than other times but fit. I was in the best shape of my life from 47-51….then bam…can’t wear my pants. Dr Haver and her information changed my life and I went on HRT asap. I have never been so thankful that I started weight training at 18 but have had to kick it up a notch since I turned 52. Thank you Dr Haver❤❤

[@Wendythegoodlittlewitch17]

Thx for sharing this. I’ve been on BHRT for 10 years. Feel great Did she mention Testosterone? Est/ pro/ testosterone is what I take

[@SamCole]

did your OBGYN prescribe you HRT?

[@Rebel_AF]

Hit full-on menopause at 45, but no one thought it was possible because they said I was too young and on Mirena. Doctors misdiagnosed me for 2 years with rheumatoid arthritis, depression, osteopenia, possible breast cancer, high cholesterol, and tendonitis in my shoulders. I was treated like a hysterical female instead of a woman who knew something was deeply wrong physically. I felt like a stranger in my own body. 😢🤯 It took multiple ObGyns and me advocating for myself for anyone to listen. Now, I have a low dose HRT, am on an anti-inflammatory diet and power lift 3x weekly and I'm BACK! ❤️❤️ I feel like I'm myself again. 💯💪 Ladies, you have to educate yourself and tell your friends to advocate for themselves because too many doctors just are not boned up on how to recognize or treat menopause. It's amazing that half the population will go through this and yet our medical professionals know so little about it. 😢😅 Please share this podcast with all the women you think can benefit from this. Knowledge is power 💝🤘🤘

[@nicolemerz1731]

❤ Thank you for sharing and empowering other women ❤

[@Sasha-vs6sd]

I’m also wondering how I’ll know with mirena. I almost immediately stopped having my period so I am unsure how menopause will be identified besides a group of other symptoms.

[@tammychristian1479]

I lost mine I believe 42, same experience in that regard. I am now 57 and it has taken me this long to find out what I have been trying to get anyone to hear, that all treated me so repelling, as though they could catch it from treating me with compassion and actually be good doctors, like these women in this video. I am so sad over the lost for nothing years and still not quite sure how to get out of this hot mess. I have a little window of time to pull this together, before having to return to work. I had to retrain for a sit down job, to how bad the back , diabetes, edema, etc. blah blah blah has gotten. And yes, my faith has what has kept me going, provided relief and led me thus far on my own with God. The medical system in this Country is shockingly bad. God bless you on your healing journey, complete healing and restoration I pray, in Jesus's name Amen

[@sonyaberkenpas5071]

What anti-inflammatory diet do you follow?

[@fabilopez8447]

You are describing me. I have had the same symptoms since 42. I am 51 now

[@bfreeume]

I’m 62 and have been suffering with much mentioned. I’m pissed beyond measure and will share and fight like a mad woman for women’s health! 💜

[@tiffanyhill9727]

THANK YOU! I'm in tears watching as a 55 year old post menopausal woman who was always in tremendous shape and just felt healthy. I didn't have a doctor the past 10 years and went through menopause about 7 years ago. I feel like my body is now breaking down in every way and gaining the most stubborn weight with zero energy to work out like I used to. My spine is grinding bone, I have tremendous brain fog, extreme exhaustion and after sudden repeat UTI's a doctor at the walk-in suggested a wonderful female urologist who put me on Premarin and probiotics. The relief was IMMEDIATE. This podcast is life changing news and hoping it's not too late to regain my health, power and zest for life. Long live Gen X!

[@sabinerette182]

Please use an Estradiol Cream. Premarin is the most horrible animal cruelty to pregnant mares(female horses). it‘s gross and a nightmare. Inform yourself, there really are other as efficient products. Premarin is so 1980‘s….

[@thinkforyourselfjohn3167]

Thank you for sharing with us. Menopause can be crippling. God Bless you.

[@LeahBowersox]

I thought Premarin was horse estrogen?? Might want a 2nd opinion on the type of estrogen you should take!!

[@lorirudiger9269]

You should try and get on bioidentical hormone replacement therapy. Premarun is not a good option. Also you shouldnt be taking estrogen without progestetone.

[@constitutionalcook4681]

Premarin is urine from a Mare- yes horse urine. Your human body doesn’t assimilate horse urine. Find a doctor who prescribes bio identical hormones. Compunding pharmacies ships hormones too so you dont need to have one in your town.

[@Barbara-jd5lb]

Mel and Dr. Haver, at 74 yrs young, all truth in this amazing dialogue. Saved this to send on to my daughter and other blessed 'peri's' in my life. With gratitude from Canada 🇨🇦 ❤

[@jenniferhart6136]

I was having all the symptoms you described, and I was desperate. I went to the Vanderbilt Center for Women’s Health. I asked them for help and about hormone therapy and they told me they don’t test hormones. They wait the full year without a period and then just prescribe a standard oral estrogen. So they said they couldn’t help me. When I left, I cried in my car. My psychiatrist sent me this video and encouraged me to go for hormone therapy. It infuriates me that Vanderbilt has a building they call a center for women’s health and all they do is pap smears and mammograms. Standard of care should include treating the entire woman at ALL stages of life, not just when she’s having babies or being screened for cancer. Thank you for this video.

[@MsStrawberriefairy]

This was mind blowing!!! I'm 49 and just went through one of those million dollar cardio work ups for palpitations. Increased joint pain, shoulder joint pain, brain fog, loss of concentration, monkey brain, and on & on. They said exactly what you said, nothing. I have told my MD, spouse, OB/GYN that I don't feel like I am in my body and something is off but I can't explain it. Nobody can help me. I finally feel like someone is listening.

[@Hollowmoon007]

I went through what you wrote, also, at 46. The palpitations seem somewhat better now that I take magnesium daily, progesterone and have a low T pellet. But the progesterone does bloat me. Alloy online offered me spray estradiol which can be used apparently as needed (why didn’t anyone else tell me that??) during perimenopause, and that will be my next move. Perimenopause feels very intense and I feel “normal” about one week a month. Have you looked in Alloy or Midi? Best wishes.

[@elainec5333]

@@Hollowmoon007same thing happened to me. what is alloy and midi?

[@ZandramarieDe]

Look at boosting magnesium so important for heart. Will help

[@marychambers7626]

I’m 63 and every time I go to the doctor and explain what I feel. They tell me I am too old to take HRT. I went through menopause at 56. No hot flashes. But, lack of sleep, weight gain, tired, lack of motivation, brain fog, and thinning hair, All they say is they can put me on an anti depressive. I have a weird insurance through the hospital I work at. I have to go to the doctors in that network. IM NOT DEPRESSED!!

[@sarahlong714]

If I wasn't able to get HRT after watching her on another podcast (& this one) a week and a half ago, I was prepared to go to her clinic, in the Houston area 💯

[@sarahlong714]

If I wasn't able to get HRT after watching her on another podcast (& this one) a week and a half ago, I was prepared to go to her clinic, in the Houston area 💯

[@MsRaven000]

You may have trouble getting HRT from your GP so try a Naturopathic Dr…they are way more flexible and knowledgeable about HRT.

[@robemega]

Go to another doctor, preferably a GYN who’s paying attention to new research. It took me a few primary doctors before I eventually went to a GYN.

[@alixayala4832]

Sharing YT link to Dr.Taylor. She’s a retired GYN from Houston. She has dozens of videos on Menopause and the safe window to go on HRT (if you chose that option). I believe she said the guideline is within 10 years from menopause. youtube.com/@MenopauseTaylor?si=GDB-0MTqLhypEWvd

[@TashaRansomArt]

Women of all ages should be watching this video. ❤

[@belindgo]

Ringing ears, sex drive low, hair thinning~ all things~ but there’s HOPE! I’m a nurse~ when we studied this as well there may have been One page about menopause 🤦‍♀️~ so much more~ exercise Helps~ educating yourself and listening to Mel and her guests!! Thank you for bringing the big shiny Light 💡 on this! Don’t just tolerate your symptoms live your life 🫶🏼💜🙌🏼🤩

[@mzyouknowit8024]

oh my goodness i forgot about the ringing ears as well , i have been experiencing this lately, but your right eating right helps big time! change the way your eating and symptoms are less severe.

[@MNP208]

Same. I am a RN listening to this.

[@theresesilvawalker8407]

Ear pain when under stress! Really nasty and persistent. I am in Canada so was sent for ear rests etc. Eventually family doctor prescribed Lyrica. I looked it up and decided that my ear pain could safely be ignored and over time it went. It us back again.... I am sharing this with my mum..

[@dns1241]

Omg I am so used to ringing ears I think it’s normal. At night I compare the ringing to the old school internet trying to connect.. it’s unreal.

[@belindgo]

@@dns1241my ringing is so loud, I ask my boyfriend can you hear the ringing in my ears, sometimes it gets so loud. 😢

[@Annie-yv7rc]

From you’re first period as a girl you are told just get on with it it’s not an illness. OMG this is wonderful.it’s not just the years of the change at 70 I’m still suffering brain fog, joint pain, frozen shoulder 🤷‍♀️👏

[@southerngirl9207]

Had to fire my doctor Basically googled doctor who specializes in hormone replacement menopause etc Love the new doctor She actually listened to me

[@Operamum447]

1. Vitamin D 2. Probiotics gut health 3. Weight training not cardio

[@zavino863]

And magnesium

[@singingsally5601]

Fiber

[@JOJO-ug9ei]

If you are going to take Vitamin D, please take Vitamin K2 MK-4, (not MK-7) in tandem. K2 MK-4 is a hormone (signalling molecule) that facilitates calcium uptake into the bones. Big pharma are pushing vitamin D supplements with MK-7 because it has a longer half-life in the body’s plasma, (i.e. it is not metabolised as quickly by the body), but actually you want the body to absorb MK faster so that it works faster and more efficiently. That’s where MK-4 is far superior because it’s a shorter chain molecule. The bulk price for MK4 and MK7 is the same, but because MK7 has side effects, the dosage sold is lower than in that of MK4 which means that Pharmaceutical companies can sell MK7 at a greater profit. Hence why they push MK7 over MK4. MK4 is essential for the body and we would die without it. Another lesser known attribute of MK4, is that it has been known to help kill cancer and prevent its growth in over 15 different cancer cell types, e.g. breast, leukemia, liver and lung. There are no clinical trials for this and you can be sure that this is because pharmaceutical companies cannot make any money out of it. I am not altogether against pharmaceutical companies, (we wouldn’t have HRT without them), I am just saying that they tend to pick and choose what would make them the most profit accordingly as it’s good business sense. Just choose your supplements wisely and with good research. Hope that helps.

[@marie.s9995]

The best Vit D you get is the sun

[@heide-raquelfuss5580]

​@@marie.s9995 Sun also makes your quicker older, due to damaging skin. The best is daylight, NOT SUN! ALL THE SUN ADMIRING PEOPLE LYING IN THE SUN AGE HORRIBLY. EVEN THE EYES GET DAMAGED. Vitamin D is more complicated than only getting it from the sun. Btw. Most people work inside, live inside, are covered all over, using sunscreen...so not much exposure to the sun or light. Even people outside in the sun all day can have vitamin D deficiency. How is that possible?

[@gwenjks-1272]

I’m watching my macros, logging food, weight training and rowing. I’ve gained 45 lbs since my hysterectomy. My Dr says, “Oh, your body might just be comfortable at this weight.” “So obesity is okay if that’s where your body’s comfortable? And what if I’m not comfortable?”

[@Tyggzz]

Same

[@casperinsight3524]

When your body betrays you Menopause is likely the reason

[@casperinsight3524]

Menopause is no longer the silent epidemic 😅 TY Me & Dr.Shavel for the menopause shout out 📢

[@mzyouknowit8024]

You can definitely lose the weight your gonna have to shock the body for me I did a 30 day no white bread no fries no sugar no fast food no junk food with intermittent fasting I ate at 6 pm a day drank only water and coffee in the day for dinner it’s roasted chicken bake fish lean turkey with salad or broccoli if you must have carbs get some healthy carbs sweet potatoes you will see major difference

[@ktvix9234]

What's your macros.? May not be optimal for you🤷‍♀️

[@jodysmith2812]

Dr. Kerri Kissell in Greenfield, IN. She is an endocrinologist and is on the same page. Game changer!

[@akiinefaexperiencinglife]

In my 20s,but I am here because I am learning to prioritise education on women and women related issues....(listening over menstrual cramps,how timely!)

[@casperinsight3524]

Please bring the Doc back for Part Two 😅 There is SO much INFO that needs to be unpacked So many Truthbombs dropped in this episode Her book sounds like a MenoPausal Bible 👌🏼😎😘

[@joanhoedel9641]

Yes! I'd love to know if we can stay on HRT until we die, of if we need to stop atcsime point. Thank you!

[@TanyaAlba]

Please just let her talk She is gettin in to really good topics and you just want to understand out loud 😢😢😢😢 Love you show, just let the expert talk

[@bernadettehogan2415]

💯

[@robertaflanagan8149]

Agreed!!

[@ranyafkhan1]

I feel this too, I love Mel but she really needs to let her guest talk.

[@f.r.o.g.]

Never thought a podcast on menopause would bring me to tears! And this isn’t just an emotional me speaking. I’m not crazy, lazy, and fat! I had a partial hysterectomy in 2001 when I was 32. These last several years have been awful in so many ways and I don’t go to a doc for most of it so no one thinks I’m just a “WW”. I’m definitely passing this on to my sister and friends. Thank you both!

[@mariee.5912]

❤

[@IckyIckyOne]

Partial hysterectomy for me in 2008 at 37. Can't lose weight no matter how much I exercise or eat/don't eat. As someone else mentioned in comments my teeth have rapidly gone down hill by cracking at corners & front top 2 shifted position into a slight gap. Lucky to sleep 3 hrs without waking up for hr or more. It's like I take mini naps around the clock. At times I feel like I have narcolepsy. I can even fall asleep at my desk while working esp if I've eaten anything. I can go all day without eating with no issues until my brain doesn't wanna work anymore. If I force myself to eat 3x day the body wants to sleep to digest the food which leads to many occasional daytime naps. That sleep is awesome tho as it's VERY DEEP sleep! I may subconsciously hear ppl trying to get me to wake up or sit back or put something down but can't respond at all. I can even nap on 300-400mg of caffeine! If I don't eat it don't happen at all. Anyone else experience this? I'm 53 now & not diabetic. I'm definitely overweight but been this weight 2 decades & can't lose even walking 100 miles month & exercising 5x wk for last 2 yrs.😢

[@TraciWest-MYBODYMYMINDMYLIFE]

@f.r.o.g. I like your screenname. @RepDanCrenshaw @StateDept @JoeBiden @CanadianPM @unitednations Thank you for sharing. A nice post.

[@pauladexter6164]

Wow!!! As a nurse i have just learnt so so much. I cannot believe we are not taught this in uni. I am menopausal too and i insisted that i had treatment and now have the patch and feel so much better. Please stop talking over the guest, i want to know what she knows and is telling us. When you interrupt her it stops the flow. Thank you

[@Hope_grows_here]

I was diagnosed with Invasive Ductal Breast Cancer 2 years ago at age 37 ER/PR + -I had a bilateral mastectomy and total hysterectomy due to the hormone risk of reoccurrence. PLUS hormone blockers for ca treatment-Instant menopause. Nothing could have prepared me for the toll it has taken on my body. I’ve gained 45lbs. Belly, arms, face-I don’t even look the same. I’m unrecognizable in such a short time. I starve myself and can’t lose weight-my joints hurt so bad I have no desire to exercise..But I’m tired of being miserable-so I bought her book and enrolled in the course …I hope it helps as I’m not a candidate for HRT.

[@carissam5976]

I’m a breast cancer survivor too and taking Tamoxifen. I have 4 more years to go on this medication. HRT is not an option and I’m just trying to navigate all of the changes. It’s like a double whammy- Cancer and Menopause. God bless.

[@CristinaMarzillier]

Same here, but on exemestane. It is so depressing to have gone through cancer and then to adjust to these new changes due to being put into menopause.

[@sheribukovi7156]

I am just crying this morning, listening to this… hormone appointment yesterday. My new Dr is amazing and aware and we are just beginning to adjust because I feel horrible… No energy no drive and going from somebody who gets stuff done to not being able to function is really messing with my mind and I am only 51 years old and if this was to continue with those other doctors telling me that there was nothing wrong, I would understand suicide😢 I am literally doing all of the things! And I am grateful to hear this, and to be validated! Thank you both!

[@belindgo]

So awesome~ I was going through rage fists 2 years ago and it makes sense now. I also listen to another podcast You’re Not Broken listen to her too. To me it’s crazy because Drs are brushing menopause off, thank God for Drs like Dr Haven ❤ take care of you there’s only one you 💜

[@dianad1639]

I’m the same. I have no motivation to do anything and the depression is overwhelming.

[@PhilippeChemla-l1w]

I did massage and my sleeping and énergie are much better.

[@4lb280]

I hope you feel better soon.

[@leslieh335]

You are NOT alone Sister, your situation sounds like a mirror image of mine!!!❤

[@kimberc4664]

I’m only 16 mins in and I’m crying. I have spent YEARS with frozen shoulder. Saw all the doctors, did physical therapy for months, was told it was this or that but no one ever said it could be my hormones. I feel angry, hurt and betrayed by my doctors 😖

[@sloene72]

They just don't know. My myotherapist mentioned deterioration and I wanted to slap her. My chiropractor doesn't use the word, only focuses on fixing me and telling me off. Who knows more about woman? The one who talks realistically as a woman or the man who blames me ? Choose your alternative therapists and doctos carefully. Some understand woman and some have no idea. Also, the symptoms do disappear. They really do. So hang in there. Treat it, and focus on other things in your life at same time and you will be amazed at how things heal themselves. Don't focus on being broken, focus on healing and getting so much better. Yes the frozen shoulder happens to both men and women so you wouldn't pick it. Chinese medicine brings relief so does Myotherapy over time, but medical doctors always want to operate. What your body needs it will find and so give it time its OK they don't know what they doing with the body anymore than we do. Be your own doctor and keep researching alternative help. Likely connected to menopause as are all of our crazy symptoms. I heard they clear up. Pray for you they will

[@Tamar-sz8ox]

Frozen shoulder , its stinks ! Really impacts your activities of daily living . Find an excellent chiropractor , if possible a chiropractor that is certified in applied kinesiology

[@MM-pe9ik]

I've had it for 4 months, now on both.. so painful. Big hugs, I'm going to my GP to ask for HRT, he dismissed all my other symptoms but I'm not giving up. Good luck

[@STate-lt8xq]

Me too! My shoulder has been frozen for 10 years now. I had shoulder surgery, but it didn’t work. At around the same time, I mentioned all the menopause woes to my gyn and she just said, “Well, get used to it - you’re at that age.” Now, I’m 63 and probably can’t get anything back to working condition! I did finally beg my Dr to give me estrogen, but again, too little too late. My poor husband is outta luck. 😢

[@donnatremblay2577]

After a hysterectomy, my shoulder froze. I had a failed “closed manipulation” and subsequent shoulder surgery. In hindsight, both surgeries were unnecessary- I needed HRT!!!!! Years later, I tired oral estrogen (to no avail) but finally responded to transdermal distribution of estrogen aka “the patch.” I’m relieved our daughters will be spared the menopause nightmare caused by the debunked Women’s Heath Initiative (WHI) study. Grateful for Dr. Haver & Mel for showcasing her life changing body of work.

[@martifry1257]

They are FINALLY doing menopause research. I am 66 years old, and back in the day, all doctors were male, and there was no research being done on menopause. Thank God things have changed, and you Gen X women came along!! You must be told what a blessing you are to us older women!! I want to hear about all this from female doctors, not male doctors. Thank you.

[@katherinerotnicki5910]

I know you said that you were going to send this episode to every woman you know, but I’m also sending it to my sons. If I, as a full grown 56-year-old woman going through menopause at the moment, didn’t know 99% of this, I know damn sure that my sons don’t know. I think it’s important for men to understand what the women in their lives go through at every stage of life. (If I had a partner he would be watching this as well.) it explains so so so so so much. Making an appointment with my doctor tomorrow. Thank you. 🙏 ❤

[@Hello-Stoiko]

I bought a book about menopause and asked my teen daughter to read it so that she knows more than I when I didn’t know I was entering perimenopause at 40. I’m now 51 and just beginning to understand that everything that is happening is due to hormones etc.

[@Operamum447]

Where is the ❤ button!!! Exactly! Your boys will be men and married someday and you are raising real men

[@charmaineclayton2018]

OMG, thank you ❤I live in Italy, and I don't have a group of women to talk to.. I will look at your book. I am a retired fitness trainer, 62 now, and I still work out 3 times a week and cycle, and play tennis 3 times a week, and I still have this damn belly , I do the turmeric hot water and lemon 🍋, my husband even found a tablet that takes away my appetite 😅but nothing helping , I just keep gaining weight ..

[@heatherframpton9693]

Thanks for sending this information to your sons! ❤😊

[@heatherframpton9693]

​@@charmaineclayton2018I understand first hand about the weight gain. I am more active, more vegetables & fruit, staying more hydrated, more sleep, etc. etc. Weight will not budge...I am at the highest weight of my life at 57 years young. ❤

[@ddb8841]

I'm not living my life like this anymore. This was eye-opening information. I'm calling a menopause specialist tomorrow. Thank You! This is life changing.🙏😱📱

[@StephanieW-s7x]

Same here

[@toshikaalick]

I had to go to a menopause specialist because my symptoms were driving me crazy. I am currently on oestrogen and progesterone.

[@aminah761]

🙄

[@kellymcpherson5435]

I loved this video. I wish I would’ve known this in my 50’s! I am 63 and very healthy, I also workout everyday strength training. Watch the video with Dr. Sims, it is important too! Ladies we have to keep spreading this information ❤️

[@MarkMcCormickFitness]

Great episode Mel. As a husband, father of four and women's fitness specialist I love spreading this info to more and more ladies, and also to all those men who can better understand their significant other, her needs and health concerns. Yes this info isn't shared or widely known well enough and I love having resources like this to share. Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU! ❤

[@melissaa.7970]

Where are you located? I’d join right away! Thank you for caring about female health 🙏

[@MarkMcCormickFitness]

Hi @@melissaa.7970 I’m in Edmonton, AB Canada. Thanks for the reply, I appreciate the kindness. Your welcome by the way. And if there’s anything I can do for you, I’m more than happy to connect.

[@MarkMcCormickFitness]

@@melissaa.7970 I'm in Edmonton, Alberta. If there's anything I can help you with I'm happy to connect. You're welcome, I learned early on how uninformed the women in my life were about their own health and how much I had to give to help them. And it's been important for me to share and continue that journey as a husband and as a father to my girls. Cheers!

[@ElizabethG001]

It made me think that my husband may need Progesterone and there are some studies on men. It's time for the doctors to start thinking and looking at the whole picture of how hormones affect men and women

[@vickywitton1008]

Wow! I wish all men were like you!❤

[@homeschoolaims]

At 38 I developed brain fog and terrible anxiety out of nowhere and my sleep was so bad. After almost two years and being so worried I was loosing my mind or worse yet, dying..... I had so many tests, everything came back Normal. By some miracle I found a wonderful hormone clinic that put me onto Progesterone only. And 8 months on it's been an absolute game changer. I look forward to estrogen when I need it, but progesterone only seems to be so underrated. So it was great to hear you talk about this for us younger women. Thank you for sharing ladies.

[@bethannsmith4969]

Good for you! It's most likely what I needed at that same age. You are a smart lady for getting in front of someone who knew how to help.

[@LKing-fg7hp]

Can you please share the name of the clinic?

[@BexnRN]

Progesterone is if you still have your uterus.

[@nicolewagner25]

My mother has chronically suffered from utis for years! She's at the dr for a uti at least every two months and I told her she can't continue being on antibiotics. I'm blown away by this information, thank you ❤

[@angeltravelstheworld]

Regardless of our ages, the importance of adequate sleep, stress techniques, long walks in nature, intermittent fasting and seriously taking a look at what foods we eat becomes vital. The gut truly is our second brain, the foods we eat seriously affect our moods... These past few years I have realized how important it is to become your own doctor. When it comes to doctors, those who work with functional medicine, are so much more knowledgeable. They also seek to address the root cause of all problems. Thanks for an enlightening episode Mel!

[@tracyfederman7502]

💯right on!

[@jaykaira9939]

I agree with everything, but sadly sone menopause women suffers from insomnia, I am one of those woman😢

[@Leo-mr1qz]

​@jaykaira9939 Changing habits would help with sleep. Not eating 3 to 4 hours before bed, taking a DIM amd/or chasteberry supplements. Watching your caffeine intake. Not consuming it after 1-2 pm, depending on your sensitivity level to the substance. No screen time an hour before bed. Taking a walk after dinner to help digest food. Having a healthy diet that consists of whole foods not processed foods. Etc.etc.

[@tashabrown8301]

great input!!!!❤

[@dianasmith1398]

Amen to that

[@Elizabeth-uc2no]

Too many interruptions. Please let the doctor speak. Thank you.

[@TheMistyfyingOne77]

I’m so grateful for these women. How many women have been misdiagnosed with psychiatric disorders, put on a plethora of pushed medications from drug companies and had their entire brain function screwed with? This podcast is enlightening and educational. It could save an unnumbered amount of relationships and possibly lives depending on other things. For myself I feel what peri menopause has done to me is increased preexisting hatred for a variety of people. There is no medication that has been designed or will be that will heal this. And please for the love of all that is , never vote a women into any office that could possibly be in any of these stages unless everyone’s prepared for war and taking over the world. 🤣

[@lisasamaniego1776]

None of my Dr’s asked me anything about my symptoms for 15 years! I had to research on my own

[@Karikk72]

Me too ! I took a list and they looked at me like I was crazy ! We have to be our own advocate

[@teeareijonen6338]

I am on HRT which stopped my aching joints but it wasn't until I added testosterone (Androfeme) that I started sleeping through the night, lost weight and achieved better focus and energy. Everyone is different.

[@butyoulooksohealthy-fibrom920]

I am desperately trying to find a dr. to add trt to my hrt. I feel like It would be a game changer.

[@Divadoch]

Androfeme is a total game changer!

[@Katepwe]

That would be great but I believe that particular product is only available in Australia.

[@Divadoch]

@@Katepwe Androfeme is available in the US and UK by prescription only. The product is made in Australia.

[@jennifertong135]

How is the Adrofeme, TRT, helpful in our hormone balance? Curious! I am on HRT, and it has addressed many of my more typical symptoms... hot flashes, sleeping, night sweats. But I have joint pain and am holding weight. I will follow up with my gynecologist. I definitely don't work out as hard as I did in my 30s. but in part because my joints hurt and I don't have the same energy. I have been blaming myself for holding on to 10 lbs and belly fat.

[@pattycarroll3767]

As a 60-year-old woman who has been dealing with so many symptoms/problems/health challenges over the years with no answers or education through the "health care" system, this podcast was impactful and so important. The medical system needs to catch up - STAT! Thank you, Mel and Dr. Haver!

[@TongaLavon]

Mel - thank you 100s over! I'm 49 and finally feel like I have answers. I understand my mom's health journey for the last 25 years of her life (she recently passed at 78 ) and I'm both emotional and angry at the gaps in her health care and overall wellness. I want to make sure myself, my daughters and all the women in my life are better equipped for this phase.

[@Cheryl-hx6cq]

OMG! I knew it was menopause that was causing so much of my misery, but no one would listen. The frozen shoulder, and hip joint pain and rolling over in bed. just blew my mind. It's me to a T. I'm so glad I found this episode. Thank you so much.

[@MM-pe9ik]

I'm in thr same boat. frozen shoulders, living in pain, being miserable, ups and downs. So validating to know we're not just whiny women

[@tashabrown8301]

ME TOOOOOOOOO!!!!!😢

[@sarahnajafi3904]

I'm like you, my English isn't good enough. Can you give me a brief summary of the treatment she said. I just got the omg 3 and vitamins part and also life style.

[@sarahnajafi3904]

What else should I do besides getting supplements.

[@75saralee75]

@@sarahnajafi3904 it’s hormones therapy. Estrogen and progesterone. It’s only available if a doctor prescribe it.

[@nicoledavenport5784]

A friend of mine shared this with me and as O was listening I was sharing and crying all at the same time the joint pain I’ve been experiencing for about 2-3 yrs now of back n forth to my doctors specialist etc the weight gain truly out of nowhere etc etc I’ve always taken control of my health and hearing this as given the best explanation to how I’ve been feeling and what I can do to stay empowered!!! Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Agnes-px9qo]

I am 49 and in full blown menopause! Have been diagnosed with frozen shoulder few months ago and it’s no joke. I haven’t had good night sleep in months. Plus all other symptoms that come with menopause. I am done being a hero and trying to fight this on my own. After this episodes I am making an appointment with my obstetrician.

[@lisewang]

1:13:55 I also had frozen shoulder. Fully resolved, no pain after 10 sessions of acupuncture (covered with/just a co-pay each visit, thankfully). That was 12 years ago.

[@ismabatool6991]

Mine went away after a few months on the evorel patch. Had two for a year!

[@CynthiaHStringer]

Me too! I fell and got frozen shoulder. Doing PT and fascia work with a company out of Australia.

[@L.A.6482]

I have to share that my ovaries were removed for endometriosis at age 42. I then fell off of a cliff and the age clock began immediately devastating my entire life. Now 60 I had everything you are describing. Had to convince my OBGYN to prescribe not only estrogen in my 50’s and now testosterone to just be able to save my muscles and joints. I was treated initially like I had a mental illness which was tragic in itself and a huge waste of my life and tremendous unnecessary suffering I went through.

[@karidavison8907]

This really concerns me. I'm a breast cancer survivor. My ovaries were removed last year due to complications of treatment. It's a battle.

[@VanessaSimon26]

Me too. Yes depression has been part of my life but this is ridiculous absolutely ridiculous. I need to be put on hormones ASAP.

[@joleneotoole4440]

Can I please ask did the Ovary removal help your endo?

[@ejlegal]

Thank you! Thank you! Keep educating women and their physicians. The estrogen-stop was horrific! I ignorantly suffered many postmenopausal symptoms without HRT because I erroneously believed that HRT would cause cancer. Throw in familial stress and high-pressure, deadline-driven job - well, it's a miracle that I am still on this planet.

[@sandymelton]

Glad you are!

[@SusanBohn]

I’m in tears! This IS ME and I can’t get any one dr to listen, take this for boat , this for cholesterol and your getting older get used to it . Thank you for giving me hope, so I can advocate for ME

[@sharengustafson4096]

Oh my!! I can’t stop crying watching this episode! Happy tears and a few sad ones (because I didn’t know earlier). God is answering my prayers with this podcast. I’m going to make my husband watch it with me later. Thank you, as always for caring so much about others!! ❤❤❤

[@HappyCat1111]

The belly fat. FML. What helped me was learning to read labels. So no sugar, no wheat, no dairy has been very helpful.

[@lauraleeflood5036]

Wow ! Vaginal Estrogen … I have uti off and on . I have so many symptoms of menopause it’s insane !!! Thinner hair , weight gain, brain fog , joint pain , tooth loss , gut issues, the list goes on Omg . I’m even on the patch now since 2019 . Started at age 55 now I’m 61 and still going through hell !!! Help . Thanks so much for this information ❤

[@karenfjeld3521]

What do you take for Vaginal Estrogen? Did I miss it?

[@deborahannrogenmoser2438]

Pfizer has excellent product EST ring Game changer Godspeed

[@melissal3383]

I have a pellet put in my hip area. It’s pricey. But the BIGGEST help was switching the progesterone. From micronized which is FAKE & didn’t work. Now I’m on the REAL stuff.avail at your regular pharmacy & any good doc will prescribe. I take a 100 dose every night & helps tremendously. If I put the dose of mg, YT removes my post

[@lauradimama9794]

I’ve heard you should take progesterone if you are taking estrogen. Unless you’ve had a hysterectomy. Also have you had your testosterone and thyroid levels checked?

[@Flowers57862]

Love the vaginal estrogen!!

[@kellyreyes1353]

I’m 6yrs Post-Menopause and still 🔥flashing!!! It has lessened but still living on the equator over here!

[@leneskov5184]

13 years post-menopausal - still get the occasional hot flash😬🙂

[@freshfirewordministries]

SAME. I'm 5 years POST, but I still have some pretty intense weight gain and mood swings.

[@katherinedeweger8363]

Oh my god, everything you have spoken about is me. Sitting across from my Doctor crying saying I don't recognise myself, 30kg weight gain, being told to use the food pyramid, having to take anti anxiety meds, hiding my body from my husband. I am in Australia and refused to leave my Drs appointment with HRT. I have just shared on my Facebook. Thank you so much!!!!!!!

[@stl2nola72]

I went 2 yrs with zero hormones after total hysterectomy because of Covid. That bone and joint pain they discuss is real and intense. It is no joke. Was feeling like a truck ran over me every day and being on my feet in the Operating Room was killing me. It was everything from the waist down and my shoulders. All that went away when I started on HRT.

[@mbar4555]

Omg ! That sounds horrible . Glad you are feeling better 😊

[@Coffeetime24]

What dosage of HRT do you take that helped with your symptoms? I am currently on HRT as well but thinking I may need to increase dosage.

[@jacquidan01]

Is it bioidentical?

[@stl2nola72]

@@Coffeetime24 it’s a pellet: estradiol 6mg/testosterone 112.5mg and a progesterone 100mg pill at bedtime.

[@KellyJ.Ruland]

Soon to be 60 in July. I've been on HRT for almost 5 years. It keeps me in check most of the time. I see more insurance companies now opening up to covering menopause treatments and therapy. I think it's fantastic. I shared this Pod to my friends on Facebook. I'm not going to beat myself up with who I am now. I'm just going to try to love the new me and keep me as healthy as possible. Education is Key!!! Thanks for putting this out there.

[@stickles39]

I’m so glad I found Mel. Mel, thank you for getting the word out!!! You are appreciated. It’s sad that years ago, I told my doctor all kinds of symptoms that I started having in my late 30’s. Fast forward to 50 and still struggling. It just sucks to be female. Compared to men, I feel we really got the shaft 😂 So just trying to do my best with eating healthy most of the time and do some exercise if my plantar fasciitis feet will let me. Every day is really hard, but we just have to be louder to our doctor in 5 minutes in that little room. Keep telling them what’s going on to get it in your chart. Good luck!!

[@traceyesparza7824]

Thanks so much Mel for inviting Dr Mary Claire Haver on your podcast. Because of Dr Haver, I’m at my goal weight! I turn 60 this year and have been following her for a while now. She gave me courage to ask my doctor for an estrogen patch which thankfully I was a good candidate for. I feel better now at almost 60 than I did 15 years ago. Love Dr Haver. Both of you are trailblazers! ❤️

[@susansimpson9463]

I started having an arrhythmia (my heart was skipping a beat) when I was in my mid forties (perimenopause) and it scared the hell out of me. I had know idea it was related to a decrease of estrogen production. This led to severe anxiety because I thought I had a heart problem!! I ended up getting an echo & wore a 24 hr heart monitor, both were benign. GYNs need to inform their patients!!!

[@jennieoh8543]

Oprah Winfrey had the same thing she went to 5 cardiologists and they tried to offer her meds, she found a meno specialist they replaced her hormones and she is thriving at 70!!!! She has been on it for many years.

[@jennieoh8543]

Same in my early 40s they put me on sleeping pills and ssri :*( Off of those now and replacing my lost hormones :*)@@kristyholt452

[@boonavite3200]

This was me exactly! I was even scared to exercise! Still have it now.

[@susansimpson9463]

Same!! I was so afraid of overexerting myself for fear of having a heart attack, and I used to run at least 5 days a week. If I remember correctly, it lasted for a couple years!! @@boonavite3200

[@martifechner6072]

Me, too!

[@lisawheeler7050]

My 76 yr old mother is now caring for my 98 yr old grandmother. They are my life goals & the reason I watch these on the bike, 3 days a week.

[@als239]

When I was in health coaching school an OBGYN was in my class, there were several actually, and she said she enrolled to learn about nutrition, weight loss, and menopause because it wasn't taught in medical school yet every postpartum mom wants to lose weight and everyone over 50 needs menopause help.

[@mariaanthony9783]

This is one of the best interviews of ever heard . I wish I knew this at 42 when I had hysterectomy . I’m 58 and have struggled with all these things since then ! Especially my weight . Thankyou so much ❤

[@jeannettemercado9607]

I love the way she said we’re not crazy 😢😢😢

[@portalsandpathways]

Thank you for this! My generation was intentionally not prescribed HRT due to that faulty study. I asked for them when my body and mind began spinning out of control. My DR told me to eat better and exercise more. I already ate well and exercised regularly. I felt ignored and dismissed. I white knuckled it for 8 years until I moved and a new DR helped. I love that we can say “menopause” out loud now. Thank you for bringing this into our conversation.

[@SIMpip374]

I am in this age group. I feel my generation who were denied HRT was made to suffer needlessly. I am still suffering at age 61.

[@portalsandpathways]

100%. I’m 60 and still suffering hot flashes and I’ve aged a thousand years in a decade 😅 I felt insane for several years with all of the symptoms I’ve experienced. From frozen shoulder to jaw bone loss that nearly caved in my cheek and required a dental implant. I’m finally on estradiol to try to treat the atrophy. Many of my friends still suffer terribly. Huberman had a recent podcast and somebody called the effect of that study on women’s health “criminal”. It’s unbelievable

[@debracampbell5501]

Yes, my mother is 69 this year, went through surgical menopause at 38 with 1 year of hrt only, and now she has high cholesterol and osteoporosis. I'm 100% convinced that with long-term hrt, she could be in much better health now. It's sad.

[@portalsandpathways]

So sorry your mom went through that! I was also diagnosed with “stroke-level cholesterol” about 2 years in and the doctor prescribed statins. I went 100% vegan and stepped up my cross training and brought my numbers down. I’m back to a more balanced diet (for me) and exercise but I am still annoyed at the lack of compassion and knowledge about women’s health. Luckily our daughters will get better treatment.

[@KH-yc8ik]

As a man, I enjoyed this episode tremendously. I love how Dr. Haver speaks and explains perimenopause and menopause. I’ve shared this information with my mother and sister, and I hope they decide to give HRT a try. Women need estrogen. ❤

[@임수-h7t]

Im 43 years old and since 2019, I've been experiencing perry menanopause. I feel lonely at times, but then enjoyjng being alone. At other moments, i feel disgusted by the world and humans, but then when i see neighbours i greet them so warmly as if none of it ever happened. I decided to acknowledge my feelings one by one instead of ignoring or denying them. I will love the hurting version of myself and be present for the part of myself that is afraid. I believe menanopause is blessed period that i can finally address who really i am.

[@jenniferbledsoe4311]

My whole entire body changed LITERALLY OVERNIGHT I feel horrible!!! I don’t want anyone to touch me with a ten foot pole hot flashes amongst a lot of other hellish things I’m exhausted this was so helpful!! Now I just need to find someone as knowledgeable thank you

[@tnich02]

This episode is pure gold! Your other episodes on menopause, nutrition, and our aging female bodies have been the bomb, but Dr. Haver leveled up with so much more information and "light bulb" moments. My estrogen hit zero in 2020 and like you, I've been stating my stage of menopause all wrong! Had no idea I'm post-menopausal - thought that meant when it's finally over. After the knowledge dropped in this episode, I now realize it's not really ever going to be over but there's hope! All I could think about was my grandmother, and her mother, and on and on....they were labeled "hysterical". This was just so good...shared with friends, co-workers, and my two adult daughters! Thank you thank you!!

[@KatJ3st]

I'm staying on compounded HRT as long as I can. 65 now and no muscle, bone or cognitive loss. I workout daily, avoid 'white' food, supplements and avoid toxic relationships.

[@thesethreethingspodcast2530]

How much is this costing you /month?

[@vanitagomes3794]

At what age did you start compouded HRT. Does it cause cancer

[@vanitagomes3794]

What supplements do you take and what is your diet like

[@vanitagomes3794]

Also what exercise do you do

[@GinaCsB]

@@vanitagomes3794 I'll chime in with my recommendation, I am using Winona transdermal BHRT which is around $200 for a 90-day-dose. It has been life changing. Though I am only 45, I have had low estrogen symptoms since my ectopic pregnancy and subsequent tubal ligation since my early 30s. I was misdiagnosed with fibromyalgia, I had severe joint pain, exhaustion and an awful weight gain that turned me obese while being conscious of my nutrition and lifestyle. After all these years I am finally doing awesome, my joint pains and mystery fibro flares are gone, I'm exercising like when I was young, and weight is slowly melting off..Too slowly for my taste but on the other hand I'm building lean muscle. I am only 9 months into BHRT and I will never live a day without it, period. Please research the cancer misinformation, Big Pharma once again cheated women out of one thing that would help us, to keep us sick with 5 different diseases and cash in on it. Estrogen does not cause cancer. You have a bucketload in your body all your life. It is medicinal however against osteoporosis, Alzheimers, heart disease, and yes, even preventive against some cancers. Lots of good reading on the topic. Good luck!

[@elizabethhauserman6613]

This is the best interview I've seen featuring this doctor speaking about menopause. I've watched multiple interviews she's given and she's wonderful. But Mel, you are the best at hearing what she says and asking a question that pulls so much more information we haven't heard before out of her brilliant brain 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 wow you are just as amazing interviewer as she is a leading specialist❤

[@Pennywonderland77]

When you mentioned the white blood cell count, this light bulb went off. Every time I get my annual blood work done, my Dr mentions the elevated white blood cell count and says it’s probably just allergies. Now, I’m thinking, wait a minute. My hips hurt, my neck, my elbow, my flipping shoulder! I need to find a Dr who will listen and get me on some kind of treatment. Thank you for such an amazing episode! ♥️

[@dianad1639]

I haven’t listened yet. What did she say about WBC count. Mine was high at my last checkup

[@Pennywonderland77]

@@dianad1639 she was talking about how losing estrogen could be the culprit. You need to watch it! It’s a great episode.

[@sandraross906]

Same here... OMG 😲

[@Pennywonderland77]

@@sandraross906 I ended up going to a med spa. I couldn’t find a dr who would do anything. Do your research though first. Good luck and be patient and also be your own advocate.

[@rgarc197]

Amazing, I love this. Not only I’m sharing the with women, but I’m sharing it with men in my family. They need an understanding as well. 🙏🏽

[@SqueakyPeeps]

I'm 53 and my periods are still occurring 28-29 days like clockwork with no HRT. I started having perimenopausal symptoms at age 43 so I went to my OBGYN (female and around my age at the time). She bluntly told me that my symptoms weren't related to my hormones and suggested I see a psychiatrist! In tears, I told her I will never make another appointment with her and I basically fired her. I found a Nurse Practitioner who specializes in older women's health and she was very understanding and confirmed that my symptoms were very much related to my hormone depletion. Everything I read online talks about hot flashes and night sweats and vaginal dryness remedies. I have none of these! However, my anxiety is thru the roof and I get so depressed in the days leading up to my period. The insomnia is very disruptive to my life as well. Thank you for discussing this topic on your podcast!

[@lindajones4849]

I'm very impressed that after becoming ng treated so horribly you had the presence of mind to fire your inappropriate / verbally abusive former obgyn on the spot

[@jewelk4986]

In some countries retirement age is 55 for females, makes sense since the health issues due to menopause start around that time. HRT should be covered by insurance since women in US can only retire at 65. All these health issues surely affect quality of life and ability to work well.

[@TheBiohackMom]

Exactly that! I am 53 and just now comprehending what has been happening to my body since my uterus was removed 11 years ago. 🥹 So happy 🎉 this podcast was made. We gen x women are definitely excited about the future of our quality of living because of the work being done in regards to health and menopause.

[@andreaskitchenbox7030]

The same here in Germany

[@relocatetoEUROPE]

I don't know where 55 is retirement age? Here in Italy retirement age is 67 for women.

[@toniwaugh1823]

I'm glad that I retired and was able to retire at age 55 in Ontario Canada from my teaching career. I'm dealing with multiple UTIs and they are damn annoying and painful! Sleeping through the night without having to pee is now not in my vocabulary. I've started estrogen cream last week and hoping that this relieves my symptoms.

[@lakshganesh4776]

​@@toniwaugh1823but they do carry a risk of estrogen dependent cancers

[@sarahd.2904]

I'm only 35, but this podcast was recommended by my gynecologist. I've been having some hormonal issues lately that I can't get a handle on. Definitely glad I listened to her recommendations.

[@CCT1988]

As I watch this.. I have to keep rewinding to watch parts again.. brain fog and fatigue at its finest hour .. THANK YOU MEL FOR THIS!!!

[@michelefischer1759]

I had a full hysterectomy in 2012 and started taking Premarin. My doctor at the time told me the study was flawed when I questioned the increase in breast cancer. I have told every doctor since that I plan to continue taking it indefinitely and they have all agreed. I love seeing the benefits being shared! Thank you!

[@mw1701a]

From my lived experience I agree with her comment that there is not much point in living a long life when you're disabled. So many wonderful points and a wealth of info - thank you. Grateful for all the people who help advance women's health opportunities.

[@redfreedme3749]

I finally, finally, finally feel heard, not so alone, not as confused and with some hope. I can't thank you ladies enough. THANK YOU

[@pd5244]

This interview was fantastic… but please have Dr. Haver back to include discussion on why hypothyroidism is rampant in menopausal women.

[@clairevh79]

Wow! My best friends mum survived breast cancer and brian cancer only to pass away from a UTI that couldn't be treated after so many rounds of antibiotics. This information needs to get out there to save lives.

[@dawnsdream6206]

This was so informative and astounding. I’m one of the former believers that breast cancer family history prohibited me from ever trying HRT. I’m hoping I haven’t missed the boat, I just turned 69 and have experienced a myriad of symptoms (post menopausal 15 years). Thank you for this podcast!

[@RochelleFlores-w1d]

I'm the one you said you are going to save someone's life. I just turned in the heart monitor this morning, along with other test. My body is falling apart at 54 and I regretful connect with almost 100% of what you described. Never has any doctor suggested this. I was just told by a medical professional yesterday that we all need to really advocate for ourselves. That's just what I'm going to do. Thank you! 53:49

[@robinrios4715]

Mel ! The fact that you thanked us for listening to help ourselves 😊 Says so much about you as a person

[@SashaTuke]

Thank goodness for GenX women who stand up and fight the status quo, especially for women and their treatment within the medical profession. There is no problem that can't be fixed or at least reduced by working together and actually listening to what people are saying.

[@cherylfox6765]

I think the biggest problem STILL is women being discounted by doctors as just being hysterical! A good deal of doctors are WHOEFULLY undereducated in women's health. Most Pharmacy meds are based off testing on men, not women. Especially cardio meds. We are being greatly underserved by a complacent medical industrial complex & community.😬😮‍💨🤷‍♀️

[@ChaundraVanNoy]

i love this podcast and i follow her already. I loved the "i don't give a s$#t factor" she states is right where I am no. I am 50 in 4 days and i am walking in to this decade as 50 and FABULOUS! Screw menopause. I am taking my life back!

[@JulsWellnessWarrior]

I’m 53 years old and I’ve been on BHRT for 20 years. My hormones tanked in my early 30s and I was relentless in finding a doctor that would listen to me and know what to do. It took me a while but I found someone and that person has literally saved my life. Now being on BHRT does not preclude you from weight gain as I’ve recently lost 50 pounds and gained muscle through lifestyle changes, but I am a huge advocate of BHRT and have been beating this drum for 20 years to anyone that will listen. Unfortunately, most of my family and friends who complain of symptoms, etc., won’t listen to me or even listen to a podcast like this. Dr. Haver knows what she’s talking about and I wish everyone would listen to her.❤

[@ryanlynch8013]

That standing ovation at the end put tears in my perimenopausal eyes. Thank you, Mel & Dr. Haver!