The #1 Thing That Turns On 99% of Women!

[@ericsundberg2930]

This may be good for the young, but once she has you married, you can forget this. I have been married for a long, long time. The only reason she keeps me around is to pay her bills. I would split, but that means I would lose most of everything I worked for, and I would still be paying her bills. I have tried a lot of this, but there are some freezers you just can't defrost.

[@rkeith4442]

Been there, not worth it ! 😢

[@IFY0USEEKAY]

Always nice to have a partner to help you cope with ALL those problems you NEVER had when you were SINGLE!!!

[@Tommy1977777]

So. One size does not fit all.

[@williamclayton9566]

Improve yourself (gym, diet, wardrobe) to the point that you become attractive to other women. Practice flirting with other women outside of your wife's presence. When you have re-established your skill set, allow your wife to experience another woman finding you attractive. This is called pre-selection, and it's EXTREMELY effective.

[@joangratzer2101]

GOD FORGOT TO GIVE WOMEN A SEX DRIVE.

[@anothergodlessheathen]

Men aren't afraid of rejection...they accept the possibility of rejection as a factor in their lives. They're just tired of being insulted, and so have stopped inititiating conversations with women.

[@MK007-YT]

Too True....MGTOW !

[@PGHEngineer]

Thank god for Thai and Philippines immigration.

[@fernandogallegos6257]

Yup

[@tidefanyankee2428]

You're right, money doesn't "buy" everything, but it can "rent" just about anything.

[@tarron3237]

And the least it can do is eliminate all kinds of monetary relationship issues.

[@tidefanyankee2428]

@@tarron3237 Exactly. If you rent something, there isn't generally an emotional attachment to it. You KNOW you can find what ever it is, someplace else.

[@tobybrown1179]

She isn’t yours, it just your turn

[@markthorpe5904]

Lower cost in the end for sure

[@GB-en7ue]

Paying up front is better than paying On the back end- shout out to Coach.

[@user-bl5jr5vz6i]

To pull this off you have to be a good looking man in the first place. Sarah answered this herself at 3.39 "I was dating a very handsome gentleman". Sorry guys if your average looking this will probably not work

[@BAKER22-l4u]

Idiotic

[@johndoe-vc1we]

Do you forget she's quite cute. What if the woman being approached isn't as cute?

[@ZachBrimhall]

After an 11 year marriage and a son that ended in a horrific divorce on her part, I will never trust a woman again.

[@robertweekes5783]

Just learn “game.” I.e., how to connect & push women’s attraction buttons. The RSD guys have a good handle on it - Tyler, Todd, etc

[@CGermain-s6l]

I’m with you Dawg…For Real…cuz you are Correct

[@MaverickSeventySeven]

Took the courage to walk across to a lone, very attractive woman in a "coffee house" to introduce myself, but before I could speak she said aloud "Just go away!" Which most people heard. Which I did trying to smile away my discomfort. Later, just before she left, she came over to me and smiling, apologised quetly for going so rude, I exclaimed aloud "What! 200 dollars for the whole night!?"

[@maximusmeridius3380]

I like it. But your pride may have interfered with an amazing opportunity.

[@maximusmeridius3380]

I like it. But your pride may have interfered with an amazing opportunity.

[@chewyfingers1288]

You did the right thing 👍

[@gordjohn2322]

@Maverick 7 I can understand you feeling hurt and wanting revenge from the way she acted when you approached her, however, I can't help but agree with @Maximus Meridius comment. She may have acted out of impulse and thought you were just another guy like perhaps the previous one (or ones) that had approached her. You know as well as I do a great many guys only want one thing from a woman, and being 'very attractive' as you described her, I can imagine she gets a lot of those kind of guys hitting on her all the time. Have you ever wondered what would have happened if when she came to you and as you said, 'smiled and apologized for being so rude', if you had taken the high road, graciously accepted her apology and perhaps even made some remark about how maybe you shouldn't have been quite so forward to approach her that way, then invited her to have a seat. This would have made her realize you were a gentleman even when she had treated you unfairly and I would think that would have scored you a great many points in her mind. Maybe she had another appointment and couldn't spend more time there, in which case you could mention that you'd still like to get to know her so maybe the two of you could meet there tomorrow or sometime. Obviously she realized she had done wrong and was feeling bad about the whole situation. Who knows what wonderful thing may have come out of this brief encounter.

[@MaverickSeventySeven]

@@gordjohn2322 - Ohhhh dear.......huge confession, this was a pastiche of a "joke on a KZbin channel" - the response is extraordinarily enlightening, with contrary opinions. In fact., with very few exceptions, (potty-mouth trollops come to mind, a response "Please mind your language there are ladies present" is usually effective) I would never have put down any woman as described, especially in public! However, as an 'English Gentleman of the Old School' - a few - curt withering remarks invariably fends off any insolence.

[@johnhazlett3711]

What is sad is how too many women are stuck on the phone.

[@timothythompson8129]

But what's funny is that they're doing it to themselves

[@timsimmons9995]

Free advice. Women, have realistic expectations and stop making this so difficult. Men, stop chasing and validating difficult women. They just aren't worth the trouble. You'll be much happier. Easy enough.

[@edwardmylnychuk5774]

yep not worth the time unless your a chad just getting serviced and dumping them like they deserve and from what i see, they dont want a love or a real man just a front while they cheat with chad and everyone else on line. they dont know how to treat a male because they are shallow self delusional morons

[@stevebailey5598]

BINGO!

[@jimbarrofficial]

That would be most women, sorry... as much as I want to try harder, I'm really put off by women and their outrageous behavior. I wish I was gay most days, because frankly it would be easier.

[@dreashoug7217]

Solid advice. Back in college, I dated a girl briefly that relished arguments and drama. After a couple of weeks, I walked away from her simply because the bad outweighed the good by a long stretch.

[@V.Hansen.]

Fr. You all breed with neurotic women and then wonder why life’s so hard

[@josephyarbrough8275]

You say sex then get “that’s all you talk or think about”. You try to send flirty messages all day and build the anticipation to get, “I’m too tired and stressed”. You try and keep the house clean and cook, then they pass out when you get to the bedroom. You try to whisper hot little things to get them going, and get, “I just need cuddles”. You cuddle every night, and every night you watch them just go to sleep. Unfortunately this just doesn’t work for a lot of women.

[@ledfootdude]

I would say you're wrong, this works for A LOT of women in my experience. Subtle sexual teasing and doing all the things she described, not being boring & predictable, and of course satisfying them in bed are the keys to having a great sex life (most men don't do this by the way). But if you are, and it still isn't working... then you need to move on, or be OK with having a sexless relationship.

[@VirtualFreightDog]

You are spot on with every point you brought out. Especially the ‘is that all you think about’ and cuddles part. She gets her preferred type on intimacy every day, which seems to fulfill her needs but the man’s needs go unfulfilled.

[@curiousgeorge5992]

Blue balls are blue balls no matter. What sex It is?

[@floydbuster9513]

You have to understand sometimes a woman is like a 57 Chevy whose choke is stuck open in the winter when it really really cold. If you can get the motor started you have to let it warm up and to run correctly. In saying that a woman's mind it's like the carburetor in the choke. Give her a back massage a head massage or a foot massage and read her a poem or something to get the mine focus on something other than I'm exhausted and I'm tired. As long as the woman is in the mindset I am tired it is just like the carburetor that is not warmed up it does not run good. Do something romantic that you've never done before. Learn 10 new things that brings excitement to your wife. Never coming home empty-handed again. You have to bring anticipation and excitement into her life and then she just like a 57 Chevy with a high performance motor will produce thousands of horsepower that will give you a thrill.😊

[@PGHEngineer]

​@@ledfootdudeAnd how many married women have you had sex with to make such a bold claim? You're another one talking nonsense.

[@jdickens3005]

Love Sarah Dawn Moore as she never fails to deliver wisdom. However, the most liberating day of my life was when I finally stopped chasing women. This wasn't a tactic, but rather apathy resulting from the realization that I could trace my most stressful periods in life to being married or dating. I just walked away from it all and started working on myself, enjoying my own company. Being alone isn't for everyone, but it sure works for me.

[@davidz3879]

You don't want to get casual action, or you do but don't know how to get it?

[@SuTho]

its great you decided not to make obtaining a woman your sole goal in life. Wish more people were like that.

[@gordocarbo]

Got that right. Truly not caring is actually liberating.

[@Foxtrap731]

Being single is awesome. As long as you know how to go get it when the need arises.

[@petersack5074]

...i agree. been single, since early summer of 79 (was engaged, for 2 years - she said '' going out with Keith tonight '' ) had a few flings.....tried to get-along with some....but no. None. Been a virgin, since fall of 83 -/ Went trucking...had 2 . Went to tech school - 2 years - 1 year university. Started computer /electronics business, 1995. / Done a ton of other jobs - in between all this ; welder,...welders' helper . School bus driver / taxi driver / gravel pit worker = loaders, and gravel trucks. Hauled crude oil / asphalt for 8 years. Gravelled roads, built roads..../ Been to uranium mines, with sulphuric acid in northern saskatchewan. Hauled grain / cattle / pigs....../ I've been everywhere.....done everything. NO regrets, of being ' alone '. MET A TON, OF various , different, Good People ! Never hit on any ' woman '.....as friendly as they were. NO regrets - NO residual, long-lasting pain, WHEN you just ' love them openly ''' as ' FRIENDS '. Had good, high-level ' friendly ' friend conversations, over those last 50 years. NO regrets - NO enemies. NO remorse, on my coming death - bed . Take care,....all. THIS, is an ' impossible '' generation, of smart devices......tvs' phones. houses smart water = ALL MAKING FOR INFANTILE, INSECURE, STUPID, PEOPLE. ! i will stay ' old fashioned '..../ if i meet someone, TANGIBLE and REAL......FINE. IF not ...FINE TOO ! happy, either way ! ha ha ha // i can enjoy my life ....can you ?

[@carlousmagus5387]

Why is it always men who have to adapt and cater to the woman and never to the other way around, especially when she isn't the prize and very little, if anything to the table?

[@andyf4292]

because this isnt the 19th century

[@simsneon2]

Sara Sara Sara women should not be a man’s priority there is so much more to life.

[@RoderickEtheria]

Money doesn't buy everything, but it buys a whole lot, and not having money is a turnoff. You usually don't coach those who cannot afford it.

[@carlsilverman7871]

Excellent point.

[@Judge_RR]

You speak like a brokie.

[@Leprutz]

That is what I hate about coaches. They say they are all about helping but only those who can afford that help. I believe coaching should be to some extent free and given. It's knowledge. And knowledge should be given and spreaded for free. But nope. It is still a privilege and this privilege comes with money.

[@Strive1324L]

Well like I learned, charity begins at home, but.....business is business. They look at it as, if you want it bad enough, you have to pay for it.

[@Ishitonyou666]

Money buys everything lol

[@skorpyo45]

Most of the married men I know have a completely different story after about 3-5 years of marriage. Some are now divorced, others are making futile efforts to turn their relationships around, and the rest have just accepted their fate and plod on in a loveless, sexless narriage!

[@tobybrown1179]

Must be close to 17 years married, lost count. Yes not worth losing most of my hard work just battle it out

[@slavric]

It looks like I'm some lucky bastard. We still have sex around twice a week after 27 years of marriage. We both like it and it's free so why not. I know couples who completely stop having sex after a few years which is very sad. Men need it physiologically not just emotionally.

[@vladcraioveanu233]

why are you getting MARRIED? I WANT SEX. WILD SEX. SEX PARTIES.

[@armajaxpress]

​@@slavricgood to hear that! I've been married for 26years, hv 2 kids. Yeah i feel I'm lucky too. We make love at least 4-5x a week. Truth is, it takes more effort on my part to reach this point. Nothing comes easy after a decades of marriage. We are both working and at the end of the day my wife feels pretty exhausted. I know I'm still fit and energetic, so a few years ago I decided to take over all the evening house chores, sometimes with the help of my teenage daughter, so that momma can hv a good recuperation in the bedroom. It works like a charm!

[@Diogenes425]

Worked my ass off for 47 years built 3 homes raised 3 girls & now I’m ignored & ended up being a co-owner of community property. Suffered a crippling freak accident at work. Forced to retire disabled. Abandoned & crippled & co-owner of community property. If only I could have read the future.

[@questionsfrog1918]

You still managed to raise 3 daughters and enjoy seeing them growing up,thats way more than 70% of us will ever have. The accident & getting divorced aren't good and i'm sorry to hear that but man, you sacrificed a lot of time and energy towards your legacy, thats THE most important thing you could have done Your ancestors smile while watching you

[@Nowun_Toospecial]

Beware of the love bombing narcissist.

[@Jim-b4t]

Unfortunately, it seems to work.

[@camo6884]

Sarah I challenge you to go on a dating app as a male profile and see how you go using what you coach , show us. Bet you get nowhere.

[@fiverx2159]

Her advice is pure garbage. It only works if you’re rich snd or attractive. She can’t say it’s all about money because it makes her course pointless

[@yankeewatchdog]

There's a scene in a movie, where Anthony Hopkins walks over to a table of women in a bar. You can't hear what he says, but one of the women throws a drink in his face. He turns and walks away. He gets back to the bar to wipe his face off, and one of the other women from that table, follows him. She whispers to him, "she might not be into that, but I am..." I always wanted to know what he said...

[@norayr3975]

It's just a movie, and it was fake. His script told him to just make a whispering noise, and that second woman was paid to recite that line. So don't waste your time thinking about what "hidden truth" might be in that movie. It's not real life.

[@jatbatman]

​@@norayr3975 exactly! Much like the people speculating on the briefcase in pulp fiction. It's literally a light inside the briefcase, because it's a movie. 😂😂

[@yankeewatchdog]

@@norayr3975 You missed the point...no need to try and explain it further....you won't get it

[@joeyjohnson4826]

@@jatbatman say what again 😂

[@gerryvandepol7630]

Goooood stuff

[@jamesakabbuchanan8154]

Thank you again Sarah, out of a 14 yr. relationship we both got lost. This just helped me remember what I lost in the fire. Lost my charm and playfulness.

[@barneyboy2008]

Yeah, don't blame yourself. Woman shit test you all the time. They can't help themselves and it mentally burns you out.

[@OogyLix]

Yeah, Thanx. Thats it. Sex is dirty, sweaty and strenuous. It's hell. Which divorced man in his right mind wants to go through that shit again?

[@timekeeper2538]

You sure you didn't "lose your charm and playfulness" because she didn't do anything to keep it lit?

[@Coneman3]

To me it seems that so many people are not very aware, especially women, of what turns them on. They tend to start from judgement and social expectations. They often run away from what they could enjoy.

[@skip123davis]

i met my last lady friend at work. one day she mentioned something about a box. i started asking her questions about her "box" and very matter of factly discussed this, and i could tell she was getting turned on. it was easy after that.

[@persevere6326]

The truth is that this whole theme and experiences is absolutely exhausting for men. Nerveless learning this riddle is a necessary evil.

[@orangeman5424]

You are so right about pacing and teasing with questions to increase the connection.

[@josephblow8724]

Haha. Starts right off with the shaming language. “This is for the grown men”. You do know that doesn’t work anymore.

[@steveveld9244]

Love ur hair Dawn. Someone once commented to me that a woman's hair is her crowning glory. So true.

[@dfxdarrell6734]

1 Corinthians 11:15 But if a woman have long hair, it is a glory to her: for her hair is given her for a covering.

[@SACREDFlRE]

Stop simping

[@dfxdarrell6734]

@@steveveld9244 Nothing to do with simping, men like long hair

[@timekeeper2538]

​@@dfxdarrell6734This isn't valid, nowhere in creation's biology can the message of this ridiculous passage be found, men are in fact created to have long hair

[@markh4926]

She caught me, she dumped me, she ambushed me and started yelling at me three weeks later, I told her to go away, she said you can't just brush me off, I told her to go away, she apologized, she ambushes me in the parking lot all the time, I ask her if she wants to talk, no, she wants to here a story from me, I say ok, a while later she says she's too busy. I think she is nuts, cute as hell but nuts.

[@thecatswillplay86]

this type of woman make the best sex.

[@hairycanary5912]

great in the sack though, right? i love the crazies man.

[@chewyfingers1288]

Once you’ve been shot down by you’re wife enough over the years, talking about sex just makes you pissed off. And then you lose ANY incentive to try. Don’t even care anymore.

[@camerongunn7906]

Personally, I love foreplay and setting the mood. But then I've been married for 18 years, breathing fire back into dead embers has become like a hobby.

[@alexj1897]

This shows you've hit on the secret, Sarah Dawn - I do believe you'll continue to win with helping guys contact examples of ways to do things like play little games...create mystery, intrigue, and desire. Examples of pacing and examples of engaging a woman's use of her imagination as to where he's leading things. I don't often see coaches (male or female) effectively clue guys in to this in a practical way. Well done. And thank you!

[@greyhawk4898]

Thanks Sarah, my wife had said similar things about herself. I honestly wish I could have had you and your advice 40 years ago. My dating life would have been better 😊 that said your advice has actually been a help in my marriage, and I have a good marriage. Thank you

[@RoninCotter-fp8nu]

Over 26 years ago I connected with my now wife of over 26 years, on an intellectual level. We have a lot in common and see a great deal of things eye to eye. And she didn't realize how naughty she could be until I lit that flame. And it's been burning brightly this entire time. She is also an amazing mother. She healed a lot of the wounds that I had from previous bad relationships just by being real and honest. We take care of each other and fight as a team through all of the difficulties that life has thrown at us.Sure we have both made dumb mistakes but that's where the greatest things in a marriage come into play. Forgiveness and empathy.

[@skorpyo45]

You're lucky bro, you've managed to find 1 of the 10 women in the whole world that are like this. Most of the married men I know have a completely different story after about 3-5 years of marriage. Some are now divorced, others are making futile efforts to turn their relationships around, and the rest have just accepted their fate and plod on in a loveless, sexless narriage!

[@chadjohnsen5941]

What turns on 99.9 % of women: Money !

[@Jim-b4t]

Yup. Catnip. The rest of us.... sol.

[@l3f799]

I'm an ordinary guy and found out, more or less by accident, that the way to get women interested is to make them wait (reverse psychology). The tough part is to convince yourself to not show the natural interest that men usually exhibit but, at the same time, make just enough comments to make them think about it. Its not a perfect art form but it has worked for me.

[@guyinpajamapants6892]

Exactly…Lol. Everyone is pissed off when it’s really this easy.

[@alphacentauri8083]

Attraction is a neurochemistry based dynamic based on body language and hidden cues. Too many men resort to doing things that are actually detrimental to creating attraction, like flattering women, talking too much, not saying "no". I've had a lot of FWB in my life and not so much actual girlfriends, but that is the energy I projected. Be cool and calm, nonchalant. Always have a take it or leave attitude around women and let them know that you have options.

[@tarron3237]

Thank you Sarah. You're really committed and you're doing a great job! That being said, about the topic of this video (but also others) - ugh, women are complicated. This whole jumping through hoops thing works if you're young and optimistic about live. And while you still have so much time for everything. But after a certain amount, or time, of blue-balling, patience and enthusiasm grows thin, and eventually vanishes. Ask yourself this: if men applied the same amount of rules, expectations and no-go's, who would ever have sex again? I don't like to feel like a pet that's being trained and learns tricks to then, maybe, get a treat at the end of an exhausting routine. Yes, maybe. Some women just love to receive all the attention and affection, but suddenly decide 'nah, not today..'. It sucks to be the initiator. Especially when you're then being told, more or less politely, that you're too horny and just always want sex. Well, duh! If you don't get it, you still want it. Surprise. Worst of all, some women then 'give in' and do it 'as a favor', which absolutely doesn't result in good sex. There's simply a fundamental difference between most men and women: for women, sex is the first thing that goes, for men it's the last. I think that discrepancy creates a huge number of the deadlock situations in relationships. Sorry if this sounds like a big ol' rant (I guess it is), but I had to get it out. This whole topic is triggering, and perhaps I'm not the only one who thiks this way. Maybe my point of view is limited. Maybe others have made completely different experiences. I'm not claiming the absolute truth. And of course it's not your fault. If at all you're helping the situation by raising awareness. Again, thank you for that.

[@josephyarbrough8275]

This right here! You said it perfectly

[@timbattle4035]

Bruh I just commented almost the same response. Mine a lot more condensed but on point. 😮 They are a pack of weirdos and I ain't buying it. ✈🤣

[@Papalegba22]

I don't think age has anything to do with it and yes we as men do need do the "dance" sometimes to get laid. Some women are just messed up with daddy issues. Then there's the other women that recognize what you're doing and reciprocate quickly. I was married once for 5yrs and I was sexually starved and miserable. I would jump through hoops to maybe get some and it was boring to say the least. She said I asked too much so I purposely went 7 weeks without saying a word about sex and I got crickets. Now that I'm older any relationship I have is sex- o- plenty because I know how to treat a lady and won't ever put up with that type of girl ever again. If my special woman and I aren't on the same page then I'd rather be single until someone is worth my time.

[@mutaherali9759]

Please don't get carried away emotionally & passionately about her advice. She has lots to learn not to take loans from others.

[@chesterdesmond666]

Totally agree. Not bashing the advice because it is likely accurate... but that is the whole problem. As I watched I realized it's just too much work for the payoff. Any "getting the girl" advice seems to boil down to the fact that there is this tiny tiny percent chance that you can do the right thing in the right order at the right time at each step of the game. There are easier ways of giving half your shit away.

[@RANDALLOLOGY]

I have been married for 45 years, but the last 20 years the love is gone. I want true love like saying I love you for no reason, to walk by and give me a kiss for no reason . Am I wrong for wanting this ? I looked on the internet for true love. After going through 8 women that only wanted money, I found someone that is 30 years younger than me. We hit t off ad her words are from the heart. Am I wrong for wanting this.

[@andrewschrim6676]

Love is like gold .It is where you find it.

[@hairycanary5912]

you are wrong for making me envious, ha...shame on you!

[@johndoe-vc1we]

How can a woman 30 years younger be interested unless she's getting citizenship?

[@natemeier2908]

Married 16 years, raising our 2 year old, and this is super helpful when you're a tired, stressed, and distracted provider dad to remind you how to inject some seduction back into your day to day with your wife. Thanks Sarah.

[@doughouston3552]

Thanks!

[@xiongher3080]

So we can ask a woman about her sexual fantasy on a first date? What? I see a slap in the face coming and being called a perv

[@norayr3975]

It seems you didn't pay attention to 75% of the video.

[@chapstickaddict435]

Please don't do that. It's uncomfortable.

[@paulus5877]

I'm also kind of scared of that. But i feel like it would be nice to drop my fears and just go for it. Obviously you wouldn't start the conversation like that. But i guess you could ramp it up to that. If you talk very confidently about it, as if it's no big deal, she may fall into your frame. Good luck. ;D

[@norayr3975]

@@paulus5877 The video literally said, "NOT ON THE FIRST DATE!" Watch the whole video, guys!

[@chapstickaddict435]

@@paulus5877 No don't do it. Unless you two are planning on a one night stand, don't do it. How would you feel if a woman began that with you whom you barely knew? Also keep in mind, woman are more cautious on a first date because you don't know whom you are meeting. It can be a huge red flag when a man begins discussing sex. I remember in a first date, the man within the first 10 minute out his arm around my neck while we walked. After dinner and playing magic the gathering he asked me what I thought of him it was white uncomfortable. It's a first date. You are getting to know each other. Don't expect sex or a relationship right away. Take it slow with her.

[@blacksheep4266]

So if I’ve got this right, turning a woman on is like walking into a dark room. A man can flip on the light without any problem because they know it’s coming, where it would make a woman cover her eyes from the unannounced brightness. Women would prefer a man use the dimmer switch so it isn’t startling and too bright too fast.

[@jb-xc4oh]

There are some women who will jump you in a dark room before you even flip on the light as long as they know who you are. The trick is finding that kind of woman...!!

[@arcticbushpilot123]

Before I married my wife, we were on a date as things were beginning to become serious and she had complimented the button-up shirt I was wearing (I made sure it was her favorite color) by saying something to the effect of, "You look really good wearing that shirt." Out of the blue, my response was, "But it will look much better with you wearing it in the morning..."

[@jerrytaliercio9087]

I gave my shirt to my soon to be wife and asked her to iron it!

[@roringusanda2837]

🤔 🧐

[@jerrytaliercio9087]

@@roringusanda2837 kidding….I would have an iron stuck to my head!

[@absolve4024]

Smooth❤❤❤❤!!!

[@johndoe-vc1we]

Nice one 😁

[@NoName-zb1gm]

Most of the time this just happens, It can't be planned. So it's more important to recognize the signs when it's happening and don't mess it up. Take it from someone who has tried to make it happen for years and out of nowhere someone popped into my life who brings these qualities out in me and me in her.

[@kernowpolski]

Great advice Sarah - getting men to read women's romance novels to see how women view their fantasies is genius. Words are very powerful as is humour,

[@phorn100]

If you read their romance novels mate you'd realise one damned thing. The object of their desires is fantastically 'handsome' in an effete way, a billionaire, young and alluring all the things we even successful men are NOT!!! Don't be fooled.

[@kathyroberts9037]

Total bullshit!!!

[@XPuntar]

@@phorn100 WRONG! You need to read between the lines and into the subtlety of the words of novels!

[@gordocarbo]

@@phorn100 This!! Those novels are the equivalent of Jack and the Beanstalk stories. Pets are so much easier.

[@jarber3159]

​@gordocarbo No bro, don't bang your pet. That's messed up.

[@kenmichaels]

Sarah, hi. My name is Ken, and I'm constantly amazed at how your pronouncements are spot on. I DON'T want you to get self conscious, but every time you cite a realism, you radiate an amazing beauty.... Right now I''m a 68 y/o male with Parkinsons. Further, I quit trying about 20 years ago. the last time that i asked a woman out, her reply was "not if you were the last man on earth"... A few thing that you haven'4addressed that I've noticed as I get older, include after 40, you are treated like you are invisible. This increases into your 60's, and if you try and interact with folks, you are greeted with anger and hostility. Your program on "your ideal man" was real. Presently I'd give me a 4. Years ago . i might have rated a an 8 (read 80%) Why I dropped out was for reasons of my own making. I didn't try to get back in the game because i HONESTLY believe that I'm unlovable. Lack of respect is in there somewhere. Your points presented initially allowed me an opportunity to see that I was not alone in what I've see and experienced. unfortunately, for me, I got more down and depressed, because I'm past the point of no return. I'm irrelevant and I've nothing left to offer. I have no friends or family, I'm only contacted when someone wants something, but as you pointed out, I have only myself to blame for that one. I spent the last 30 years trying to help my fellow man by doing God['s work. no i don't pretend to wash the feet of lepers, but i did help in one fellow's stroke recovery to a point where he danced with his daughter at her wedding, The list goes on... The point being that I didn't do it form some tangible reward. I did hold out the hope that in my doing my penance, I might rate some beauty in my life. By beauty I mean a loving wife, who provided me with something resembling a loving family. hey we all need some phantasy. What got was being told by my lady when we parted ways, that I was just an investment, and she -presented me with a bill for goods and services that she had provided. Apparently she had kept detailed records of everything that she had ever done or given me... My last relationship ended after she traded me in for someone who made more money. Later. she did have the forethought to try and get me to invest in a land buying scheme of her husband's. I kept the email. I tried online dating and dating services. In a word humiliating. I worked hard at my profession. So, I tr9ied joining clubs that involved my interests. I'll spare you the details. No go on that. You discussed being alone. Try that for almost 20 years. I'm very in touch with all my faults and my failures. Dying alone sucks, I realize that we all die alone but the fact that it would be an extended period before my remains were discovered doesn't help. When I was in the Marines, we had a few rules to live by... fuck 'em if they can't take a joke, die young and leave good looking corpse, and screw 'em all except six and leave them as all bearers. I think I went a little overboard. At least I made arrangements for my dogs to be cared for after my passing. I can only hope that this person will honor my wishes. I have a problem with trust and faith. How'd that ever happen? You must be asking why am I sharing this with you? Your inputs showed me that I'm not alone in my experience, but conversely they reminded me that I'm at the end of my life cycle and there is nothing that I can do. I just don't matter. I wish that I could believe that I was of some non material value to someone. Not good odds on that one. As an aside, I'm not going to off myself.. No balls, i guess, It's just getting harder to get out of bed every morning. I eventually manage to do it. Day after day. You are in no way accountable for my present state. You are not a psychotherapist, in the classic sense, but Erich Fromm in a book called Psychotherapy East and West, he put forward the proposition that the role of the guide, for lack of a better expression, was to allow the individual an opportunity to look at their situations and come to their own conclusions. To this end Sarah, you've done one hell of a good job, at least from where I'm sitting. The downside was my acknowledgment of a potload of sadness that I thought that I'd accepted. In the proudest tradition of you showed me yours, I showed you mine, I hope that you read this. No reply is necessary. It wouldn't do any good. Just know that people are listening and reacting to what you are putting out there. Ken

[@sethtenrec]

Nobody read all of this, try being a little more succinct

[@hairycanary5912]

cringe...

[@andrewquint7962]

I am a 73-year-old man who’s been with my partner for 18 years and we’ll stay together until one of us falls off the land of the living. Nonetheless, Sarah, I think you are amazing. Where were you 50 years ago when I needed you?

[@slydog81]

Not alive.

[@mattbutler458]

I vividly remember those romance novels... A Fabio like character on the cover, along with a valiant white stallion standing tall and firm.

[@mchristr]

You're providing a solution to a problem that shouldn't exist. Meet, date, get married, have all the sex you can stand. It's very simple when you follow the right sequence.

[@Hunter-ym2kk]

about 50 years ago, my mom told me that a kiss on the way to work was a lead into the bedroom afterwork..

[@usaman7358]

You slept with your mom??

[@hairycanary5912]

mommy's a freak...

[@Maynardd]

That is a very strange comment. Your mom told you this??? 😳

[@johndoe-vc1we]

Very sweet and thanks for posting. It's easy to see why it works because she's had all day to think about it. Builds anticipation and after a while if you do deliver becomes a Pavlovian response

[@gregglockhart9551]

WOW Sarah,you’re a very valuable friend to have. I’d love to see some movie rolls of the things that you imagine that just get you dripping and slippery!

[@zwolfe]

I would just said, wait until you get married, build all the wonderful things as a couple and let dessert for last.

[@judyperri9496]

Not everyone wants marriage Are you so naive that you think men are faithful after marriage 🤣🤣Grow up You’re living on fantasy island

[@MrCyclingobsession]

But the sex goes away after marriage

[@Viper2132]

You're exactly spot on. It always blows me away that men don't even know the basics of wooing a woman.

[@timekeeper2538]

That women are raised to think it's their job to sit around and be wooed is exactly why all men stop being romantic immediately after "locking her in".

[@floydbuster9513]

Not all men are the same. I've never been who has just jumped into bed at any given moment. My first six girlfriends dumped me because I wanted to get married after almost a year they get pregnant and have children out of wedlock. People who are more passionate enjoy making love and not having sex. And for some people they may not know the difference but for some people there's a huge difference

[@R3LI2UI]

Making my wife laugh is the best of all possible aphrodisiacs; communication of any sort is second (married 42 years)

[@jamesestes4992]

Love your response. Perfection! Congratulations on 42 years...

[@JamesBeede]

I feel that your advice promotes mutuality in relationships, which is always a win. Bravo, Madame !

[@jwrobinson812]

I love how spot-on you are with your information. Making a woman feel like she is something special rather than just a sex object is crucial in a relationship. Anything worthwhile is worth waiting for ❤

[@Clevelandsteamer324]

Dude they hate that. Read fifty shades of gray

[@NelsonMontana1234]

One area where I think you're wrong. That's being told "I have a surprise for you!" And then make them wait. Most people, especially men, really hate that. It's being cryptic. Just surprise the person. Don't leave them hanging. It's annoying.

[@THOMMGB]

Hi Sarah, Excellent video with some great advice. I think you’re absolutely spot on. Thanks for doing this video.

[@bentback1]

From an old {73} Texas widower I think I loved you in another lifetime.

[@robertking8648]

You know you make me really Laugh Sarah but laughter is good for us.

[@freddykagin]

Some things we may not understand but we can learn. Together.

[@ww7883]

I was a dork in school. But I listened to girls and made them laugh. My acne was horrible, so I rarely made a move because I thought I grossed them out. When my acne abated, and my confidence grew, I couldn't keep up with my dating prospects. That said, when I really liked a girl, I still clammed up a bit. Just make conversation with females. Test the waters with small talk, then move into a joke or two. Question them about their life. Watch their responses; eye contact, physical contact like a slap on the arm, is the conversation transactional or one-way? All that shit tells you if they're interested. It's like going surfing, ride the wave. Even if it doesn't work out, you've learned how to appreciate people who are different and collected more data on how to improve yourself.

[@Beatlefan67]

Oh that all sounds familiar to me!

[@Redbamboo-fb1gq]

Thanks for telling us how to get it on with you Sarah.

[@grey5974]

Again, who cares? Why bother with women at all? Not worth the price.

[@nigellee9824]

A very attractive woman was looking at me across the bar, she smiled, I smiled back, she smiled brighter, and gave a little wave…I thought I’ll play it cool, before I knew what was happening, she came across and said hi…to the good looking guy standing behind me…

[@darryldixon5794]

It's all a bit too complicated for me. I'll just stay single, thanks.

[@jb-xc4oh]

Most times the juice isn't worth the squeeze but there is always that rare exception, the trick is finding her.

[@hairycanary5912]

thank you; one less competitor for me...

[@andrewward7042]

Women's voices are very important. Yours is lovely.

[@hairycanary5912]

simpicide rears its ugly head yet again...

[@-.Steven]

Thank you Sarah! Another great video! We appreciate your wisdom and experience!

[@joecastella9]

Sarah, your voice is so soothing.

[@BL-N3xus]

I'd say take advice from women when it comes to maintaining long last relationship for most part, but never, I repeat NEVER take any kind of advice regarding attraction and seduction.

[@alsalazar6502]

Agreed👍 I have been doing that for a while. After pursuing women in daring sites, bars etc etc screw that! I started traveling more, working out, 💪 playing golf. It's All About ME Now...Working on Myself

[@Vegaswill714]

Great advice as always, Sarah. Two things I would add is that all women (and all men) are different. As a guy, you've got to develop a sense of how to read a woman. Second bit of advice is to date as much as you can and to treat every date as a learning experience. One more comment, the best part of the video is Sarah's statement that for women "It's all about words and imagination". Funny thing, as a guy I have come to understand that point of view as I have aged. Imagination and fantasy have become more important to me as a sexual turn on. Thanks Sarah, your videos are excellent.

[@richardbayne7566]

Yep, me too. As I approach 60 imagination and emotional connection have become more important. You see, men change as they age. I suppose I could take testosterone so I’d wanna fuck everything in sight again lol regardless of feelings.

[@gordocarbo]

Reached a point I truly burned out on dating just cant think of one reason to delve back into craziness lol

[@kerryrock9248]

Yea, sorry been married for too long. 7 years without sex just builds anger and resentment. I would leave but not giving up anything she didn't earn. This is my second wife and I screwed up my first marriage.

[@crocodilestantv734]

😂😂LMAO A shopping cart with lingerie and handcuffs!! OMG that’s a classic stand-up comedy right there! The way and tone of how you said that Sarah! HaHaHa 😂

[@duncanidaho2097]

Another terrific video. Men in general have to learn to communicate with women in a way that is somewhat foreign to them and can seem like having to play games to start a relationship. I suspect this can be too exhausting for many. A pity you can’t teach someone to sing as you do just by a couple of counseling sessions ☺️

[@joangratzer2101]

MY NEIGHBOR TOOK HER ADVICE; HE IS NOW IN JAIL.

[@rolandguest5585]

@@joangratzer2101 🤣😂🤣

[@PGHEngineer]

It's a wonder that we ever reached 7 billion of us. Truly human sex is as complicated as rocket science. It is curious that we are the only primate that has these complications. Or maybe this is all just bullshit, and prehistorice human women just gave it up or did without food for a week. Curious how the modern idea that women enjoy sex has only become popular since the 1960s, just as relationships have been falling apart.

[@petermartin9494]

I am a man's man, but your approach really speaks to me. It is very hard to beat the slow burn teasing approach. It is fun, it builds a connection and it leads to something very special. I guess this is why women like "bad boys". You have to be a bit of a bad boy to pull this off.

[@BL-N3xus]

Women turned on by the following attributes:- 1. Height, height, Height ( the taller the better until a certain point) 2. Facial semitay 3. In shape muscular body 4. Sense of style 5. Deep voice

[@williewonka6694]

And alotta lettuce

[@accuratealloys]

No brain required.

[@BL-N3xus]

@@williewonka6694 Yep!🤣🤣🤣

[@williamsporing1500]

Money….

[@sarahanlon8324]

@@williamsporing1500 Height.....no that is so unfair to so-called short men. I am a woman 5 ft 2 inches. I prefer a man around 5.5 or 5.6 because they are in talking distance. A six footer seems too far away. I have always seen 5.5. to 5.7 as average or tall...... my preference.

[@walkingwithdogs8547]

I've not said anything about this, both partners need that great conection between each other to have that beautiful relationship.

[@OregonDARRYL]

Thanks for all your advice. I hope it helps. I'm 5'4'' - so I need all the advice I can get... I must have done something truly horrible in a previous life.

[@felixthecat4584]

Don't sweat it bro. I am 6'2" with muscles and abs, yet still invisible to women. Sarah says it's not about money, but I for sure do not have em blowing up my phone! Apparently making under 50k means I am in the untouchable class.

[@OregonDARRYL]

@@felixthecat4584 With my height, wealth and age... why am I even still here? My only child, my beautiful and loving daughter Kasandra died from cancer 4 years ago. I'm in a sexless relationship, and have been with three women in my entire life. My father left me and my three brothers when I was 2. My mom remarried when I was 7. Stepdad was nothing but a disciplinarian. I've had maybe 5 women seem interested in me in my 65 years. The fact that I haven't hurt myself or others says a lot about my inner strength and how much my mother influenced me and my three brothers to be good men. Now I wonder... maybe too good? I fight the tears several times a day. But... the upside is that dying will now be effortless. My entire life has been a cruel joke by an evil monster who created a planet where animals live in fear of being eaten alive... because they probably will be. In my mind - the entire game is clear, and now over for me. Thanks for listening, brother.

[@felixthecat4584]

@@OregonDARRYL I feel ya man. I am 40 and working a pathetic job because I spent ages 15-31 addicted to heroin. Now I am clean, work out daily, have no debt, and always have a job (even if its low paying and low status) but clearly that does not mean much these days. I feel like my chance of having a family is a fever dream that I missed out on by being a loser junkie. Who knows, maybe I was a loser all along and the drugs just prolonged things. I wish I had advice that would help you because it sounds like you are really hurting. I cannot even seem to improve my life, yet alone someone else's. All I know is that life insurance pays off in the event of suicide if you have paid the policy for 2-3 years (depending on the state). Thats my plan at least. Hope things get better for you friend.

[@OregonDARRYL]

@@felixthecat4584 I love you, brother. Thanks for helping me feel like existing.

[@roringusanda2837]

There are actually women out there who prefer men with "a lower center of gravity"...5'4" is fine.

[@hansgrubber5753]

Thank you my beautiful therapist for a wonderful therapy session. I feel a whole lot better and I promise I will pace myself. 😊

[@timsimmons9995]

Men ignore this nonsense. Unless she already finds you attractive (hypergamy looks +money), you'll be accused of harassment and being creepy. Sarah even accused a man here of being creepy. Ignore all her nonsense here. Women choose what is creepy or not on arbitrary Rubik cube standards. Don't validate, don't play. Walk away.

[@Michael_RareZebra]

So many Simps in here, was waiting for someone to speak the truth instead of sending out platitudes.

[@phorn100]

Exactly my man. Womens standards are opportunistic. They don't need men in a direct way so couple that with the hatred of feminism and contempt for masculinity amnd you have a toxic brew. The fantastic thing about feminism is that they have set the rules so as men we no longer have any trouble understanding where we stand. That is everything is rape, everything is creepy, and if you talk to me I'm a gonna get you locked up. Now we know we can simply ignore them and get on with our lives. We can now safely ignore all their bizarre flirting signals, their nuanced come ons amnd all the bullshit that characterises female flirting. They have priced themselves out of the market!!!

[@jamesestes4992]

...YOU are creepy. Why are you even responding? Don't like what Sarah offers...leave. But the creepy part of you comments because you THINK it makes you look masculine? Childish!

[@JBLawson-ih8vw]

After 20 years of marriage with my wife we still love each other like we always did. The #1 most thing out of my time with her that makes her feel like a wife I assume from what I see is the sense of security, like me going out to the street at 3am to pick up the garbage after it gets blown over in the wind,haven been there for my kids when they where young and scared of trains and being able to run behind my legs to feel safe,your spouse lives for this in her husband.

[@8Jory]

"if she compliments you" That's a big freaking IF. I can count on one hand the number of genuine compliments I've recieved from women, and I could still do so if I had no fingers.

[@jamesestes4992]

...you just stated your problem. And it isn't the woman.

[@marccano5061]

I'm 65 in great shape, educated, and a French background. Women seem to like that.

[@Wanwan-mq3jw]

French.. for Sure thats unfair. c'est pas juste..

[@marccano5061]

@@Wanwan-mq3jw bein oui !

[@timmyhiggins5220]

The problem is it's just far too much effort and doesn't feel natural. if you make a slight mistake your done. I honestly dont care in the slightest about having sex in different places, the bedroom is fine. I just couldn't be bothered with this stupid ass game playing. Hence I'm single 😂

[@timsimmons9995]

Well said. Women's nonsense hypergamy behavior has just made too many great men give up. Walk away. Not worth it.

[@willbass2869]

"too much effort...." Damn, son. Flirting is just social lubrication. But I guess that's just TOO HARD, right? God help you guys.....

[@timmyhiggins5220]

@@willbass2869 nothing to do with flirting. Women are generally trouble and just annoying. I prefer my own company

[@phorn100]

@@willbass2869 SIMP!!!

[@xWhitechapelx]

Even though this is an older video, It's all about the build to letting the flames slowly burn.

[@anothergodlessheathen]

For a man, being in a marriage or a relationship is like...having a "difficult" part-time job where HE pays his employer LOL.

[@davidbarry6711]

Sarah, You really are quite a girl. Not only are you very good looking, but you have such a pleasant way of speaking, and with a smile. But much more than that is your content is exceptionally well presented, and exactly what needs to be said, and many times never said to us men anywhere else, or at least not so eloquently. You seem to have the unusual capability of conveying what women think to us men, from a woman's standpoint. And that is invaluable. I am 75, and lost my late wife to cancer several years ago. So I have been thrown into the dating of today and I'm not good at it. However, you have described in this video a key factor to consider and projected the positive if you do it correctly. I can see clearly that I need to pay more attention to what is in this video. Kudos to you, Sarah, for such outstanding videos.

[@Imnotyourdoormat]

Money may not buy you happiness, but it will allow you to be miserable in a nicer neighborhood...

[@2Oldcoots]

Lovely, Highly Informative, and ingenious Advice. Thank You Ms. Moore.

[@hawtenslaton4307]

Great video Sarah, thank you for the savvy advice. Something men need to review all the time!

[@desib84]

I have been divorced for 7 years now. I been out of dating scene for 12 years. Idk how to go out there and initiate conversation? I am in sales and customer service but when it comes to dating it's hard

[@LGDarksteed]

She has to be into you already for this to work at all. So just goes back to just be hot.

[@jb-xc4oh]

That's correct, if a woman doesn't lust after you, she isn't worth the time of day. This is why a lot of men eventually end up with a woman who is as much fun in bed as a dead fish.

[@bobmorgan5636]

Hey lady... thank you. I believe I will go buy some reading you recommended!

[@ToddDesiato]

Proof that women fall in love with their own thoughts and imagination based on scripted words, staged environments, and mystery. They don't actually fall in love with the person unless he continues to "act" this way. I would advise against it unless that's who you really are.

[@timsimmons9995]

Well said. MGTOW

[@ToddDesiato]

​@@timsimmons9995 Imaginary expectations inevitably lead to disappointment. It is the opposite of "unconditional" love and a feeling of acceptance to a man.

[@visaman]

It is called infatuation, if you wish to seduce her, this is a key first step.

[@Anunnasboy]

I like the innuendo that appears unintentional, followed by "are we still talking about..."

[@mdbear46]

In my 40s, after my divorce. I was on a chatline where there were plenty of women. It would turn some on when I would paint a scenario of slow dancing with them in a romantic setting and adding in slow kisses and gentle caressing. I ended up with some erotic phone calls with women wishing I was there. Even some chats where I didn't start that way ended up with the same results.

[@bruceverbeck8529]

That's no where'sville

[@freddykagin]

Being very patient with love 💕 but know that you are a very special person both of you are.

[@Dean4511]

Part of the lost art of flirting and innuendo can be attributed to women's "direct approach" on dating apps. Many times they'll message you with comments directly telling you openly and overtly the sexual acts they want to do with you and even their bedroom kinks. It gives the man the impression all he has to do is knock on the door and they'll be heading for the bedroom and that's even true in some cases, but not all. Then we get there all horny and ready to go and move too quickly and they get offended.

[@visaman]

Time to get off of Fetlife, my friend. 😅

[@Leprutz]

Where the hell do you find those women? Not once has this happened to me. You must be trippin' Dawg.

[@garyrafferty7625]

😢

[@willbass2869]

@@Leprutz he finds "on da streets" lol

[@richardbayne7566]

They’re probably scams. There’s a lot of romance scams on social media…

[@lycanmychances7926]

When someone says "money doesn't buy everything" I have trouble taking anything they say seriously.

[@fergferguson7370]

She is spot on…

[@donnyramay2635]

I stopped watching a lot of red pill content because they tell you go make money and muscles. The irony. I know a few conventional attractive men who are successful yet fail with women. I know a lot of guys whom are not that attractive with gorgeous girlfriends and wives. They are also not wealthy. This red pill and black pill stuff is toxic. Men need to learn people skills and emotional intelligence. That's what gets you laid. Not money or muscles.

[@Justanothercog24]

Well said! What's ironic is how much they talk about "avoid the gold diggers" then turn around & tell men to use their wallets to attract women. If you bait with your wallet, you're more likely to attract the gold-diggers though! Most of redpill now is really just playing on men's feelings for clicks instead of teaching anything substantial or helpful.

[@timsimmons9995]

Baloney. 90% of my male friends suffered divorces. Toxic feminism has ruined relationships. Successful wealthy single men won the game.

[@Justanothercog24]

@@timsimmons9995 maybe they should have picked better?

[@timsimmons9995]

@@Justanothercog24 So it's all mens' fault? I doubt it. Reality is women have financial incentives to divorce. Research it.

[@donnyramay2635]

@@timsimmons9995men need to stop pursuing these ball-busting boss-bitch liberal arts college grad broads and get with a traditional conservative woman who likes a guy who gets dirty from work. They're out there.