The 3 Word Rule to Find Your Personal Style - No Shopping Required :)

Today I'm sharing the easiest way to find your personal style without shopping using the 3 word rule to find your personal style. Finding your personal style is the most difficult but most important part of slow and sustainable fashion. This video shares the ONE RULE you need to know to find and be confident in your personal style. I hope it helps!
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Alyssa Beltempo

[@Mega.bibleprincess]

My style aesthetic is : stay at home princess … like whimsical girly but lounge-ish so like a combo of princess jasmine pants and rapunzel like dresses but with Giselle flair

[@irenejohnson9614]

Hi, Alyssa. It took me a whole year to find my three words! I asked trusted friends, trusted relatives, took quizzes, looked up definitions, reviewed posts, videos, and blogs by influencers such as yourself. I was able to let go of (sell, donate, give away to friends and family) things that I knew were no longer me (because I turned 70 this past summer). Finally I was left with me and my closet., as you said. And today, I have been blessed to come up with the three words that best fit my style: Classic. Uncontrived. Appropriate. Thank you. You are so much younger than me, but I love your spirit and the creative encouragements I get from you. Be blessed.

[@stephsmith5969]

Since I retired a few years ago, I have struggled to find a style which was removed from smart workwear but still stylish. To be honest my three words had become comfortable, shapeless, careless. So your videos have been very helpful in making me have a reboot. I've cleared out a lot of stuff from my wardrobe, baggy pants with giraffes on, long loose and shapeless tops, frumpy shoes. But I found that amongst all that was a core of a better style which I can build on. A baggy shirt when tucked into jeans, with a nice leather belt was transformed for example. A dress when shortened a few centimetres, looked quite different. Making careful and considered choices when shopping is giving me a more put-together feeling. But I don't want to lose that bit of myself which is unique and which those silly trousers with giraffes on reflected. It just needs a better outlet. I've loved this video and also loved reading the replies from other people. It seems that this bit of homework has been transformative for many. After some time thinking about it, I've decided my three words, which I aspire to are authentic, classy, relaxed.

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@Steph Smith Still having a giggle about your baggy, giraffe-print pants. You may have needed that time out after retiring - just to relax, and depressurise - and giraffe pants were possibly your bridge. I hope the new, authentic you is coming together well now. Thanks for sharing your humor with us here 😀

[@trishagoodwin4069]

Steph, I am exactly the same, got lost, having retired a few years ago. My style, while working in art and design, was very similar to Alyssa's but goingfor black, ivory and dark olive green. Now retired and living in the countryside, where I need to be waterproofed most days outside and veryone wears the baggy pants with giraffe type clothing, I sort of lost my edge - apart from when travelling on holiday, when reverted to type a bit. Unfortunately, everyone my age around me wears the frumpy "fun" prints and even more frumpy, old lady shoes, so have had a fear of standing out, or rather thinking maybe time to go with them. But not happy this way, so having to rethink things, Alyssa's advice is a lot better, although not designed for our specific age group, than the stuff that is meant for over 60s. I find a lot of those sites have just ghastly suggestions and choices.

[@JBUHJBUH]

I'd like those baggy giraffe pants, lol! I'd probably wear them with a tucked in jumper with fitted shoulder seams, sleek sandals/ boots with a cinched coat, & a shiny belt, though!

[@debbiec9526]

I’m living the same reality in retirement. Finding a Style that works. Help.

[@gailmills1113]

Love this post.

[@PK-nf3jg]

A few years ago when I found myself in a style rut, I reverse-engeneered using a similar method. I started off by asking myself for I wanted to feel/look like in my clothes and put together a list of words, which I then reduced to the top 3. I made separate word lists for work, social and everyday because I realised I wanted different moods (E.g. confident, put-together, mysterious, eclectic, relaxed, adventurous....) Then based on the lists I was able to identify wardrobe gaps/what changes I wanted to make. E.g. I wanted to look a bit more elegant and polished, yet I had a bunch of chunky casual sweaters, but not thinner/more fitted classic ones that would suit my 'polished/elegant ' mood, thanks to the lists I was able to avoid automatically buying yet another casual chunky sweater, but expend my wardrobe options with a black cashmere sweater which made me feel more elegant, confident and timeless...

[@happytofu5]

Hah, I am right now trying to do the same. I have lots of comfy clothes, but I'd like to expand a bit more, to have different clothes for different moods. Sometimes I wake up and feel like a little gremlin, so I need to cater for that as well as for days I feel like a queen. (And those that make me feel like a gremlin queen, haha).

[@gabriellea201]

I love this! Thank you for the inspiration!

[@marinasaburova]

This is a lovely idea! I’m struggling to find myself right now so I like the concept of deciding how I want to feel first

[@sherryobar5750]

Very well said!

[@Kimbrasa]

THIS is the cherry-on-top advice that I needed to add to this video. I have a 20yo wardrobe built on hiding my full-figured "motherly frame" that expanded well beyond the slim feminine style I was used to in my pre-maternal years. So, I can't look at my current wardrobe to find "my style" bc it's basically a survivalist wardrobe. But to consider what I want NOW and how do I want to present myself to the world on any given day is the ticket for me. I'm excited to build my "three-word" lists for different sides of my life. Thanks so much for sharing this!!! 😊 🤗

[@sherikennedy4117]

my sunday morning "must do" is watching your newest video! really tough for me to find three words. why? i live in scrubs at least 4 days a week. i needed to really look at my life outside of the hospital setting. difficult to do as the days off i mostly veg out at home. so...how to come up with them, i guess i had to look at when i go on holiday and travel. what do i look for there....how do i like to dress on a cruise or going to visit family. so for me, i had to look at life outside of "every day" life as i tend to gravitate to certain things that i can pack in one carry on bag no matter if it is for a long weekend or 3 weeks away. you have really helped me hone in on: classic, comfort, minimal. this video was very helpful as i am in the process of trying to let go of pieces i have spent tons of money on, but never ever reach for.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Ah that is a challenge! So glad this video helped! xx

[@liatori6214]

I am a nurse too and have similar needs as yours. So I have a "house uniform ": black jazz pants, black short sleeve and black long sleeve t-shirts. I am looking for organic material. I have numerous items of them and keep them rolled up in IKEA SKUBB boxes in a drawer. They fit my adjectives: classic, basic and comfortable, thank you Alyssa, what a great idea, I love categorizations. And the adjectives fit my clothes for leaving home or when I feel to be "dressed" as well. I do not need many pieces, so classic works for me to look and feel alright and without thinking about dressing too much. That goes for basic as well, it's just simple. And 'comfortable' is a must for me. I have my seasonal items on hand, going through my closet twice a year. That's enough for me. And I hang my clothes organized by colors, pleasing to my eyes. ☺

[@NN-iu2rp]

Wearing scrubs is so great at work, but I found it made me incredibly lazy when dressing outside my work life. All I wanted to wear was comfy clothes and then felt sluby even thought my clothes were clean, but they fit similar to my scrubs. Definitely hard, but I really like how you've look outside the box for your words and am going to try the same.

[@winifredearl5031]

I'm a nurse too 😇 and wear scrubs 3/4 days a week, but I sew alot of my closet...so always recreating looks....love fashion, but it's always edgy and Quirky 😉

[@sarahroberts3840]

Classic, minimal and comfort. I often struggle, as I feel my looks are boring. Your idea about the need for a opposite word, really resonated.

[@trisha3338]

I love this idea! My three words would be contemporary, minimal, Bohemian. I do not dress like most people my age (76), but always stay stylish. I like to stay current and follow trends, but I also know what looks good on my body. As an example, I love off-the-shoulder tops. They are considered a little Boho, but are very flattering on women "of a certain age." They cover the tops of your arms, and just reveal the skin that doesn't age (shoulders/collarbone)!

[@heidimeigs5192]

Classic, Boho, Casual. I have 3 shopping weaknesses; shoes, logo/band tee shirts, white shirts/tees. I love linen, blue jeans, cut off denim shorts. I’m 65 now, live in Alabama where we have brutally hot and humid summers. I’m retired, no longer even own high heels or even a dressy pr of trousers. No longer color my hair, rarely wear much if any makeup. I use shoes, purses, jewelry, sunglasses to add color and texture to classic and casual outfits. I know there are lots of women who probably identify as I do. But we’ll all do it in a different way. I like neutral colors, navy, gray, blush pink…..but these colors don’t have to be boring. I have never, ever been called boring. I get boho, even hippie, a fair amount. Also get asked where I bought a specific item when I’m in classic mode. I know how to dress my frame/shape. Happy Easter to all who celebrate. 🙏🏻

[@xiomaras95]

I’ve learned so much from you. I love skirts, mostly silk, satin or flowing but I like to combine them with button down shirts, comfortable flat shoes and minimal jewelry and I’m 75! I never close my mind to learning. I have a bridal shower and a wedding coming up and I’ve shopped my own closet for both. Have kept old evening bags (my Mom used to love to thrift) and it’s surprising what I have. Some are treasures. I also have crochet skirts and blouses and sweaters which she made but all in soft colors - none of the patchwork and loud color stuff. stuff. My three words might be feminine, comfortable, mixture of very old and new. Your videos are great.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

You will look fab at those events! Thanks for watching! xx

[@garlicgirl3149]

YES!!!

[@xiomaras95]

Thank you both. I finally feel confident in my own skin. it took me a few years to pull myself together after my husband’s passing. Now I’m finding me at last, dressing for me and watching Alyssa has taught be to experiment and find my style. . I have heard so much negativity from family about you should wear more makeup, cut your hair this way and that, you should wear this and that. They mean well but I realize I have to be me with no apologies to anyone. Thank you both for the encouragement. It helps!

[@lisa-janeomalley7041]

can I come over and raid your wardrobe

[@maryfitzpatrick3252]

At 74, I am still bubbly, attentive to detail, and impetuous. However my 3 style words are subtle, minimal, neutral. I wear mostly black, navy, deep camel. Solid colors. So I wear knits which have ease. You taught me to balance with a third piece, which I prefer to be architectural to create tension.

[@ladyparmelee1003]

Love this method! Even though my overall style is classic, my three descriptive words would be: structured, effortless, powerful. They speak to my love of looking put-together with minimal pieces, with high-end impact.

[@Jusyna24071981]

I am stealing your words!!! :)

[@beckycartwright2634]

I think my three words are romantic, edgy and soft 😊 my primary focus is generally to be warm as I live in the uk and feel the cold, but I don’t want to spend my time in just jumpers and jeans - I want to feel feminine and attractive. But, there is absolutely an edge to my personality, my aesthetic, my tastes and my Pinterest board! They feel quite contrasting but I’m excited to play with it!

[@liavanus]

I really love this guide and found it so helpful in refining the description of my style. My 3 words are “ non-conformist, utilitarian, and roguish “

[@suethurber3745]

Great words! They speak to me too. Will spend some time after work today to come up with mine.

[@_inflection3209]

Great choices!!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

I'm so glad you liked it Lia! Your 3 words aree amazing!!! 🤩 ❤️

[@allysonrogers4389]

Roguish is a fabulous word!

[@garlicgirl3149]

Oooo! Laa Laaa!

[@kaitlinwile2053]

I absolutely loved this video, thank you for posting. I am definitely still cultivating my personal style. It's fun to me to see how my style has evolved through the years. Now at 35 years old, the clothing bits that excite me are something my 20 year old self would scoff at. My 3 words are androgynous, timeless, elevated. What a fun exercise!

[@JennAndTonik]

I turn 50 I’m a few weeks and have really been reflecting on where my style is and where it goes as I head into this next phase of my life. I’ve felt a bit at a loss (body changes, lifestyle changes, career changes) but your videos are helping me flesh it all out. ❤️

[@mangisty1007]

Omg! I am turning 50 in December and I have been wondering about this myself! I don’t think I have ever found my style and now it really feels like I am lost! I am overwhelmed with so much information and styles! Good luck!

[@amyvanslambrook]

I’m with you..50 is coming up and it’s a beautiful chance for resetting, elevating and aligning. @alyssa

[@winifredearl5031]

I'm 50, and embracing it. My 3 words are edgy, creative, magpie...(I love silver jewelry 😍) This was a fun experiment...I'm very comfortable with my individual style.

[@christinemichele2318]

Same here! Love this comment and these videos. Helping redefine for the next chapter….

[@APTTMHYforever]

50 is by no means old so don’t get me wrong BUT your comment made me think about this comedian talking about what her “old lady uniform” is going to be😂 it’s hilarious, you should look it up here on KZbin… it’s only like a 3 minute video, it’s so funny

[@amyobrien1242]

my 3 words are cozy, academic, unexpected. thanks for this video!!! love your philosophy and the way you present concepts!! thank you❤

[@odessalovett1544]

This was great! I've identified my three descriptors and it puts "bella figura" back into the joy of a curated wardrobe!👏😄👏

[@dear.charity8741]

This is maybe my favourite of all your videos, just so good! My three are comfortable, feminine and effortless like I just threw it on. Thanks again for explaining personal style and helping us get to our own style without over consumption.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

wow thank you so much! It's my pleasure - love effortless!

[@Erin_abstract_art]

Alyssa, I really resonated with this video with my whole being. You really spoke to me as I have been evolving in my personal style in the last year especially. You inspired me to write down my thoughts about my personal style. Your video helped me unpack, compartmentalize, & categorize my style in ways that surprised me. My words are Earthy, Free-spirited, Minimalist.

[@TheMaynavia]

Love this!! I’ve been really experimenting on my 3 words for the past several years and currently landed on refined, relaxed, and soft edge (I guess that’s more like 4 words 😋). These have lasted the longest so far so I think I’m on the right track. Always love learning from and getting inspired by you 💕

[@christineward477]

Comfortable, Creative, Romantic. My sister has shared many of your videos with me, and now I am sharing with all my friends who compliment me on how I mix patterns and textures in my outfits. I have always done this, but your tips have helped me to shop less and give away all my disjointed and uncomfortable pieces, which almost always resulted from binge shopping. Thank you!!

[@rhonaklipp]

Loved this video and went through the exercise with my daughter. Having to search for words that aren't typically used was a helpful challenge. My words are uncomplicated, movement & classic. I've recently turned 60 and find myself getting comfortable with a certain style but didn't know how to describe it. I think it's important to stay "modern" but you can still do that within your three words. I appreciate the comments Trisha333 made below. My daughter's words are comfortable, earthy & detailed. They really come into play when we go shopping together. This was a really fun exercise! Thank you.

[@theStarryNYT]

Yay! So psyched to have found your channel! I've heard of the 3-word rule before, but your guidelines for how to choose them really helped my verbose, song-writer brain to narrow things down a LOT. Also, I realized that my naturally curly hair gives me a romantic, almost bohemian vibe regardless of my clothing, which really freed me up to eliminate those words as options. For now, I'm trying out Pragmatic, Playful and Natural.

[@yuzufrio]

this is such a fabulous way to characterize your style! this video itself is well produced and explained. I have just finished doing a deep decluttering of my wardrobe and will likely embark on another one soon, but questions about where my style will go next have been stirring within me. this has been such a reassuring and beautiful guide. the last dress you tried on at the end while explaining how it fits your three words looked absolutely stunning on you.

[@that90skid67]

This was so helpful. I didn’t even have to get anything out of my closet! I’m minimal and classic but edgy. Thank you so much! I think keeping these words in mind when I’m shopping will help me a lot

[@melodypatrick3707]

This is one that I’ve actually been thinking about for a while. I recently settled on the three “C’s”, which describe me well at this stage of my life: classic, creative and comfortable!

[@angelaa.9915]

Yes, the 3 word method has definitely helped me to not add certain pieces to my wardrobe. For me, the idea of tying the three words to my own personality or essence helped. My words are casual, straightforward, and off-beat.

[@marqellj566]

Since transitioning to fall and winter soon, I wanted to take inventory of my closet and really hon in to what my personal style is. I like the three word method that you suggested and once I wrote those down I immediately could see a common theme in my style before even pulling clothes out of my closet. This video helped me to simplify what my style is. This is key as I search/shop for key pieces that my wardrobe is missing! Thank you for making this video!

[@ksolon21]

you're a mind-reader! I've been trying to figure out these words forever and now I'm inspired to give it some reflection. right now I think I'm natural-simple-comfortable, but I think I can refine it. thank you Alyssa!

[@wakeupstylellc]

This was amazing!! I had to watch it twice to really think about my 3 words. I came up with classic, comfy and flirty. As long as those 3 elements are part of my outfit, I feel amazing! Never thought about this before 🙌🙌🙏🙏🙏😍😍😍😍

[@betsyhaddox3964]

Showing the example of how you applied this in the dressing room was so great. Thank you, Alyssa!

[@lydianeuens5770]

This was a fun way to think about my style! The words I came up with are bold, effortless, and experimental. I think the fact that they don't really go together explains why I have had a hard time really nailing down what my style is, but they feel like a good starting point. Thank you!

[@bmlehotsky]

I love your content! It has helped me to slow down my purchasing habits and reflect on what I have instead. My three words are breezy, classic, and natural. I chose breezy because I love light, open fabrics that literally could catch a breeze (my staple outfit is an unbuttoned white shirt with some type of tank top!). Classic was an easy one, I love classic basics and silhouettes with a timeless cut. Finally, I chose natural because I gravitate towards earth tones and patterns. I love an easy, grounded floral pattern paired with other elements that are perhaps a bit garden-y or spring inspired. Thanks so much for all of your content!

[@doctorwhobeyond]

Thanks Alyssa! Funnily enough I already decided on two words to describe my style lately, as my mother told me I always looked “elegant and athletic”. I realised how accurate and yet flexible those adjectives were, like they sit at either end of a scale and I could slide between each side. Now thinking what the third word is to add an “extra” dimension, especially love your suggestion that it could be a description of personality 😁xxx

[@DestinyFerreira29]

i like what you said about minimal being simple w impactful, visual elements... this made me pause. i have always thought minimalism as being somewhat "boring" yet i find myself gravitating towards a less fussy, unembellished style which i have been resisting because i didnt want to lose my " flavor." you have just helped me to rethink my view on a simpler style and given me " permission " to embrace this new look for myself. Thank you. I always glean so much from your teaching. I so appreciate how you break things down and thoroughly explain and introduce new concepts... my life has been care giving for the last ten years so what i like no longer suits my daily life style... i'm not sure what my words are because i'm still clinging to my fantasy life but i do wear a lot of striped cotton button downs w either pencil skirts or jean skirts and sandals, so maybe i am tailored, casual, sophisticated? hmmm.... i like the sound of that. effortless ease... Huge Thanks Alyssa!!!

[@denisealee]

This was so helpful- I’m 51, and recently semi-retired, so I’m sorting out how my style might need adjusting in this new season. I think for now, my three words are: timeless, relaxed, and minimal. Now, sorting those out will be another challenge, but I think I’m headed in the right direction! Thank you for the guidance :)

[@rosieburrows3410]

Thank you, Alyssa! You've given me great (& outside the square) tips for finding my style. I've been thinking alot about this recently. I had thought boho was one word, except it didn't totally resonate with me. I always thought I'd be classic but now it doesn't quite feel right. My three words now are: Easy ~ Comfort ~ Romantic xx

[@sandramaki7819]

Loved this video! My three words don’t seem to make any sense but after many years of reflection I know that they are colourful, edgy and feminine. I love bright colours and dresses ( feminine) but I also love jeans and leather jackets (edgy). So funny that you bought that black dress which I find dramatic in style. I actually just thrifted a similar looking Georgio Armani long violet linen dress with a slit. I feel amazing in it! I thought I would hardly wear it but I have already worn it 4 times., dressed up lady with heels and dressed down with a denim jacket and sneakers. When you know your style, you know what you are going to wear a lot! Thanks for another amazing video! Hugs from Montreal 💚💚💚

[@Sandra-rk4mu]

I am very late to the 3-word party! I’ve really struggled with styling myself as I never really matured out of student clothes. A few years ago I moved countries and in the process downsized hugely (think one big suitcase). This gave me the opportunity to really start from scratch but I fell into old patterns. However within the mess I’ve identified my 3 words as tailored (streamlining), natural (anything even vaguely polyester never gets worn), and edgy (always a little something sharp, or bolder). Thank you for this video ❤

[@eloisemuller5105]

Good morning, after going through this video 3 times, I think I finally came up with my 3 descriptives: classic, courage, vintage. Great video. Love your personality and delivery.

[@pollyking8577]

Like many others who have commented, I have been going through a style identity crisis. I just turned 60 and it feels like I need to breathe some life back into my style. I have recently gone down the Kibbe rabbit hole more than I care to admit. I mostly thrift shop, which is good and bad (good to recycle, but bad because I end up with a lot of "cheap stuff" that I don't wear). But this video was really what I needed (all your slow fashion content is what I need now to be honest). Your advice helps me to simplify and relax, and lean into what makes me me. My three words (today) are nostalgic, simple, and guileless. As you suggested, I'll try it out for a while and see if it sticks. Thanks for making this all so much more approachable. Peace.

[@louiseparisotto3630]

Great video! My three words: Classic (style), Comfortable (to wear (i.e. no crisp cotton for me even though I love the look) and move) and Easy (to put together, wash, take care of, travel with). Intuitively I've shopped with these words in my head but didn't realize the 'why'. Now I do! Love your style, your explanations and help that you're able to share with us. We all would like your figure to show case our wardrobe!

[@kelleymontana7526]

I'm a little late in the game here, but a friend of mine recommended this video. Excellent! I've recently discovered your vlogs and am binging them. Thanks for the thoughtful content. My three words for now are classic, coastal and flirty. I hope that lot's of other folks find this video from a year ago. It's a keeper for the archives.

[@brownhairedgirl23]

Refined/ elegant, bright/ optimistic, and romantic/ feminine. I’m currently deciding which words are the better options. Thank you for breaking it down into such a helpful video x

[@leidylopera4998]

Watching your videos brings so much pleasure, it’s a combination of the amazing background, your soothing voice and the valuable content. Pure Joy!!!!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

ahhh thank you!!

[@2PuppyProductions]

I've heard you speak about this topic before and I learn something new every time. Thanks for all you share! The three words I'm currently working with are comfortable, natural, and classic. If it's not comfortable I'm not going to wear it. Natural refers to a no makeup makeup style, natural fibers and to me it also brings to mind the words authenticity and effortless. A sense of being comfortable in my own skin. And classic is at the heart of it all. Grazie Alyssa!

[@elaishah]

So I purged through my closet 2 days ago. It felt really elevating that I made my husband purge through his. We are first-time parents, and time management is important to use. Less laundry for both of us and for me, less time thinking about what I'm going to wear. Based of my wardrobe now(after so many videos, past pictures, my new daily life and time in the closet😂), i realized my style Is polished + functional + romantic. I'v grown to love dresses over the past 2 years. I love color but I love black. So it's like a Edgy Romance when I'm not wearing to much color. It's also fun mixing masculine and feminine. Iv been drooling over Blazer dresses for a while now😂 These videos help so much! ❤

[@carencarr4459]

I love your words!!!

[@hockey0013]

It took me years to understand this, and truthfully I think finding my style was a result of understanding who I am as a person. My words would be delicate, free spirited, dreamy. Lovely video 💗

[@clairegoodman2825]

I’ve been thinking about this for a while, so thanks for this video! I’m leaning towards classic, colorful, and unfussy. I like simple, classic shapes and not too much detail, but I like to wear mostly non-neutral colors (fall colors mainly).

[@elizabethmiddleton7003]

Yes! Love the three word concept! I struggle so much with my style vs fantasy self because I have my work wardrobe and requisite attire where I spend most of my time and then separate more casual wear for life outside work. Love the three words so I can try to tailor and meld these two worlds a bit. Always love your work and I look forward to Sunday and Wednesday video each week!

[@comealongcomealong4480]

@Elizabeth Middleton Reading some comments today. A number of Alyssa's viewers have identified their '3 word Style' for quite separate uses of their closets. They worked out they had a distinct Style for Work, Casual and Dressy/Out - and created capsules to suit. Of course, these Styles may blur or evolve over time - but they have a Style to help with outfit creation and shopping now.

[@jellybebe2753]

Wonderful! My words are vibrant, austere, and balanced. So I like to mix it up with one bright, patterned piece and a plain piece, preferably in a different shape ie flowy + fitted, or formal + informal. Thanks for helping me to figure this out!

[@LibraryCake]

scrappy, daring, and comfortable

[@helenehelene1321]

Great exercise! I think mine are Natural (easy-going styling, relaxed fit, natural fabrics and earthy colors), Artistic (play with silhouettes, colors and textures) and Polished (I love both my wardrobe and outfits to be highly curated and fine-tuned). Thanks for the challenge 😉

[@annarose477]

I LOVE this! Thank you this is really helpful. I've just started questioning my style, I feel like it needs to evolve after going into a new life phase. I have always been into slow fashion and I agree knowing your personal style is very important to achieve this

[@Bruh-wg5kh]

Your voice and way of communicating is my “aesthetic”. Calm, smooth, light, a touch of prep and fun, and well-thought.

[@heidih8556]

Loved this video. Years ago I worked with someone (image consultant) who used "inner beauty words" to describe your style. They are 4 words instead of 3, but I have used them with a few changes when purchasing items. My words are Softly feminine, Calm, Captivating, Quietly Determined. Overall, if I used the more common words in style, it would be Classic and Relaxed, but I think my words give more depth to just being classic and relaxed. Thanks again for the video and giving me a reminder reinforcement to use my style words.

[@minervacuervo4662]

You have inspired me to shop my closet and try to make new outfits from what I already have and although my body type, age and budget 😂 are very different from yours I feel I know have a more cohesive wardrobe and the recent pieces I have bought make sense in it. I haven’t bought a purse, accesories or jeans in the last 4 years and I am very happy for it. Love this channel 😍

[@notbkrfluff]

Love this video! Struggling with my words to post here. I know unfussy (few ruffles, patterns, rare sparkly) similar to minimal, classic, confident (pieces that I know either flatter or I feel great in). I'm heavier than I should be and carry that negative little voice at times so when I know something makes me feel longer, leaner it makes me more confident.

[@bridgetaakelly]

I loved this video! So helpful. I have always loved fashion and shopping, and over the last couple of years started following an absurd amount of influencers on instagram (no joke it was up to 67). Recently, I feel like I have completely lost my personal style and have started purging who I follow and my closet to clear out what doesn’t resonate with me personally. I’m definitely going to start using this concept as I keep going and (for now) I think my words are: unique, outgoing, and tailored

[@spennywe11]

Thank you, Alyssa! My style words for this season in life are Adventurous, Comfortable & Happy.

[@leonnevandervelde4822]

I love watching and learning from your videos. I share them with my teenage granddaughter! My words (today) classic, comfortable, practical.

[@marilyndoering2501]

Another very helpful video! I feel that my 3 style words are classic, feminine, and dramatic. I love to add a scarf, a pop of colour, a hat, an interesting “something” to elevate an otherwise basic tailored outfit. I just love that black dress you featured for the drama it creates as you are moving.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

So nice - these are classic! And thank you I enjoy it:)

[@lini2214]

i love this. i know what style i like but i never really thought about it to make it my own. now i know how to to do it thanks to you! i describe my style as minimalistic, earty toned, lace edgy/casual

[@bellebb8673]

I've been thinking about this three word idea for awhile, and came up with classic, edgy, and whimsical. Your suggestion to tie the description into my "inner self" was what brought me to whimsical. Once I realized that, I see so much of the whimsical element in my style. It's what I feel like puts my personal stamp on things; a little artsy (but not boho), a little humorous. Now it makes sense to me why I love to add my Mexican stone and silver turtles necklace to simple clothes. Thanks so much!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Excellent! I'm SO glad that personal element helped!

[@kathyhoyer4586]

Thank you for helping me figure this mystery out...WHAT IS MY STYLE? So simple 3 words! Also, I really like your examples your explanation helped a lot to clarify the mental process. I have been experimenting with buying clothes from the thrift store and it has helped me understand that just because I "like" them and they fit...they are not really my style. So this helps me a lot! three words....comfortable, playfully, effortless.

[@livmoryoga]

I'm a vocational guidance counsellor by day and the idea that values can also be brought into my style is such a cool idea! I've only ever thought of this as making ecological fashion choices. However, bringing values into the styles I choose is brilliant! It makes so much sense. I have 2 words so far: creative and natural.

[@hanichay1163]

Classic, flowy, flattering. Thank you!

[@kimfaherty2978]

So helpful, Allyssa. My three words, for now, are classic, comfortable and chic. I embody the Grandma Coastal vibe and have for some time. Thanks for all the lovely style lessons!

[@missmayflower]

Had to look that up. Llbean, right?

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Love these! Grandma Coastal vibe ftw! xx

[@kimfaherty2978]

@@missmayflower Have you heard of the brand Faherty? Things that look like their stuff. Lots of linen and cotton in whites, creams, blues and beiges in the summer. Hats and quality accessories. Minimal classic jewelry.

[@missmayflower]

@@kimfaherty2978 thanks for the info. Hadn’t heard of them.

[@setarehstienstra5352]

Love the videos and this one in particular as I’ve left a full corporate world but still work in an office and my work and non-work clothes are more interchangeable. Watching the way to use different items is great. Best “accidental” find on style. Keep the ideas coming!

[@2bfamos]

I love this concept and keep rewatching this video, lol! I’ve saved it to my favorites. It’ll take me a while to think of my words. I need a cheat sheet. ❤️

[@lindatyler4331]

Thank you for this video! If someone doesn't make it to the end of your videos they are not worthy of your effort! You are the BEST youtuber of all youtubers! My words are classic, comfortable, and me!

[@allysonrogers4389]

This video is very helpful Alyssa, thank you. I have been contemplating my 3 words for a while (you have spoken about them before). I was stuck on simple, but your explanation of how you came to minimal has me claiming that as one of mine. I think the other two are elegant and effortless.

[@abimarshall9284]

I stumbled on this video while trying to pack and not overpack for a 10 day vacation. Love the 3 word idea, still working on it, but so far, I've come up with creative, bold, sassy. I'm now a new subscriber.

[@juleannedawson9287]

Great tips. I need to work on my Three words. I think classic would be one. Loved the examples of styles you showed. Very helpful.

[@rachelmae2087]

Love this video. So straightforward and easy to understand and follow! I love the breakdown of steps and that you made the video so concise and didn’t overcomplicate it!

[@cjack-caldeira3363]

Love the breakdown and your approach to helping us refine our items in our closets into a personal style. Can't wait to experiment and find my words:)

[@ldh4937]

I just love watching your videos, Alyssa and this one really made me think about my three words. I feel that I know my style, but haven't thought to describe it in 3 words. People have sometimes commented that I look glamorous and for a few years I've aimed for "relaxed glamour" - a put together look but with your "undone" vibe. I also like classics like jeans, t-shirts and button downs and some of my pieces are 10-20+ years old, so I think I would describe that element as timeless. I also enjoy drawing and painting and love a smudgy, painterly print that reminds me of how watercolours blend into each other. I enjoy mixing prints, old pieces with newer ones and elevating my looks with scarves and jewellery - creativity over consumption. So for now, my words are timeless, creative, relaxed glamour - okay, I know that's 4 words, but it’s 3 descriptors and rules are made to be broken aren't they 😂🤣😁

[@robinsmith4499]

Simple - classic - edgy! These are my must words in all clothing items.

[@JamieReviewsStuff]

Classic, Edgy and Romantic. Time to build a mod board! Thanks for the great inspirational video! Obsessed with that black maxi! 😍

[@camillacook9146]

Thanks so much for this video Alyssa! I just love how you break down the process! I thought I had my three words down but will look at it all again using the steps you mentioned :)

[@davidjohnston9356]

I asked my husband. He thought eclectic was my style. Hmm, I would say minimal ( only 2 colors, and hardly any pattern) , classic, and sporty. ( working as a PT). This was a fun exercise. I agree with everyone loving that black dress. But everything looks beautiful on you. 🍃

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Nice! Glad you liked it! xx

[@elizabethnamy6053]

Classic-Trim-Simple. Thank you for all of your videos- I've been a fan since your beginning!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Ooh like those! Thank you so much for sticking around Elizabeth! xx

[@tinan8011]

Your examples and try-ons were really helpful - i've been learning more about essence systems lately which has been helpful for my style but sometimes simple is better (especially when making shopping decisions). Will be brainstorming about my three words this week!

[@ontheturquoisetrail]

Oh. I love a good challenge. And perfect timing. I feel I am at a pivot in my wardrobe. New phase of life. So far the three words that make me smile most are nomadic, demure and sensual. Thank you for the prompt and sharing your journey/expertise!

[@lindascull6327]

Oh wow this video was totally what I needed I just don't know why it always amazes me how much information Clarity and creativity you bring to my life thank you so so much Alyssa!! Since retirement and lifestyle changes I've downsized my closet which has caused sort of a identity crisis-- hard to explain-- but just in these few minutes of watching your video I know which direction I am heading of course I'm going to rewatch and take notes love you honey! I hope all is well and I do pray for you and yours!

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Excellent! This is such high praise Linda, thank you for watching!

[@CFW1]

Linda, I know exactly what you mean about downsizing the wardrobe and then feeling like a fashion identity crisis is happening. I completely get it! The same thing has recently happened to me. This video is helpful and really got me thinking. I feel like I can move forward with sort of a fashion purpose using my new three words which better define my style (classic, colorful and balanced).

[@kdp9122]

Another great video!! I’m stealing your words bc they all describe me, which may also be why I LOVE your channel! Thank you for always putting out wonderful content!!

[@janethagy8871]

Best video ever for really explaining this concept! Thank you Alyssa!

[@TheMaryWriter]

I've been doing this for years, it is so fun! I could use a variety of words but I think that my core three are clean, organic, and whimsical. I use clean to describe my general overall technique--I don't dress in loud or visually cluttered pieces, and I use variations of classic pieces that capture the polish but not always the sharp tailoring and structure. I use organic to describe my colors, the soft lines, drape, patterns, and fabrics, as well as the more natural earthy elements of my style. I use whimsical as the catch-all for the fun details and playfulness of my style--I love vintage elements and pieces (more on the antique end) and there's sort of an imaginative tone to my pieces. I settled on these because classic is too formal, boho is usually too western/worn, and minimal is too simple for what I wear, although I see elements of all three in how I dress.

[@skylerfirestone851]

Looe the way you have explained your words. I can really relate with this line: ' classic is too formal, boho is usually too western/worn, and minimal is too simple'.

[@andressachapman5]

I love the use of Clean here vs Classic. I’ve been trying to find a different word for Classic b/c Classic can tend to sound older and a bit too generic for me. Clean nails it for me for the exact reason you illustrated. Thank you!

[@bringela4531]

You and I are style twins Mary 😊

[@yogisurfrunner1925]

Active, versatile, chic. What I am really appreciating about your vids is that @ 54, I’ve spent decades in dressing rooms re-racking entire selections bc I thought I was ‘too fat’ to wear that (sz2! - so no) but watching you try on these white dresses was an AHA moment - I love the look of Boho…on other people. I try it on & it is NOT MY STYLE! Makes me feel & look frumpy, messy, not my athletic, always moving, on the go self! Thank You!! Thank You!! Thank You!!

[@nicolehood6408]

When I first discovered your channel several years ago, I chose my three words as "confident, successful, and stylish", because I wanted to feel confident, to convey succes, and to dress in a way that not only made sense for my surroundings, but were classic timeless looks indicative of good style. I recently attended my second shop your closet event, and I'm re-evaluating my three words. I think I want to focus more on how I feel and less on what I want to communicate with my style choices. After all, I'm still likely going to get annoying comments about "but you're so young! (usually in response to a life experience I'm having. I'm not as young as people assume, and clearly, I'm old enough to have the experience I'm having)" and various other annoying or inaccurate things people choose to believe about me. So, I want my three words to focus more on my experience than others' beliefs. I'm now leaning toward "classic, intentional, stylish". I find that I am thoughtful and intentional about what I wear to work in the garden, what I wear on the weekend to go grocery shopping, and what I wear on zoom calls and in person for work. I love a collared shirt with most every outfit, and even decided that since that's what I like and feel best in, I would invest in secondhand denim button-downs for gardening. So, I still feel intentional even when I'm mowing the lawn. It's great! In my ideal world, I would be able to do some gardening on a saturday, change out of the muddy pants and boots, put on a pair of flats and a pair of jeans, and be ready to go (the reality is, there's usually a shower involved and a whole outfit changed), but the idea is I could be quickly ready to go because my outfit choices are intentional enough no matter what I'm doing.

[@jemstar7592]

I love this! I've recently fallen in love with all things linen and have purchased a few pieces for the Summer. I think my words are Elegant, Comfortable and Feminine. My happiest times are when I'm out walking in nature and cooking. Ciao from Vancouver Canada.

[@jill5977]

I discovered this wonderful video only a few days ago and I love that you dive deeper into it and bring the feelings in our reflection. What do we want to feel/to express when wearing our clothes? I found it very interesting and I came up with Serenely - simple - caring

[@user-st1fb3om1k]

I really enjoyed this video because it was so helpful! I am a classic over shopper, and watch way too many influencers videos on style for my age! These words really help describe the clothing that I am drawn to and keep going back to. Also helps explain why some friends can pull off this floral midi dresses and look great and I look ridiculous! My words would be casual, classic and effortless. I like to accessorize my clothing all the time but still want to wear jeans and a button up as much as possible!

[@teresar.4882]

That was so helpful! Thank you so much! I have been trying to understand personal style for a year and nothing was clicking in my head. Your explanation helped me understand it in 12 minutes!! Wish I saw this video sooner haha

[@terriechastain8671]

Classic elegant fun...these are off the top of my head as I wstched this. I am going to live with these for awhile and see where they take me. Love this method!!

[@wanderingmargnrich]

I came up with Conservative, Timeless, Understated as a first cut. Thank you so much for your awesome content. I feel like I'm finally finding myself at age 58 and without a struggle.

[@janazavitz212]

What a great video - love the examples you gave for your words. So much to think about now for my words! Thank you!

[@tonia-deegraveson1760]

OMGoodness thank you what a gem of a vid. I have moved to a beachside town, also retired and have taken up sewing cloths so this is just what i need to be able to choose my material for my life at present. I know i am drawn to bold colour material, i tend to sew fitted type design with structure and i always like my outfits to look a bit different. So there it is my words would be , colourful, unique and structure❤. Thank you that was fun.

[@marisacooper5364]

Wow, this is so good, I have not thought of style this way.... your demo is brilliant- how “undone” plays into your style is so effective. At first take, my style is functional, comfortable, and complimentary- true too that these words can describe my personality. I am thinking mostly about how “complimentary” weaves it’s way in to my style through flattering tones, silhouettes, and fabrics that enhance not only my body and image, but also the environments that I take part in; I’m a spouse, parent, teacher, and pet owner - when I dress I consider how my clothing compliments the weather, the day’s activities, our home and the school environments. Thank you for your inspiration❣️

[@jennaviscaya3225]

Complementary is the word. Not complimentary. Different words, diff meanings.

[@christiana_mandalynn]

Such great advice! I learned this from Carol Tuttle and her Dressing Your Truth program. You take 2 keywords from your dominant energy type, and then the 3rd keyword from your secondary energy type. My three current keywords are Adventurous, Rugged, and Romantic. With “adventurous” and “rugged”, I have a lot of Safari elements to my outfits: cargo vests over blouses, olive greens and khakis and earthy browns. Lots of 3/4 sleeves and military tabs. Then with my unexpected 3rd keyword, “romantic”, I blend a lot of feminine bohemian into my details. So I might have a collar shirt with military tabs on it, but pair it with a flowy maxi skirt. Or put a cargo vest over a very feminine blouse, or pair a rugged denim jacket over a floral dress.

[@betsygiles4871]

Classic, Natural, and Athletic (plus saturated colors). Thanks Alyssa! I learn so much from you.

[@AlyssaBeltempo]

Thanks for watching Betsy! xx