The 5 Stages of Obsession (and how to exit each one)

Do you know the 5 stages of obsession? My video outlines each ‘hook,’ and the exact steps to free yourself from the loop of mental and emotional obsession.
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[@marcusboyes943]

There is no WHAT IF, there's only WHAT IS!

[@debralondon2402]

I agree

[@SusanWinter]

Love it, Marcus

[@debralondon2402]

I agree

[@Babesinthewood97]

Keep the dream, change the partner. That’s some golden advice

[@ponygirlup]

"It shouldn't be that hard." -- To have a relationship. There it is!😢

[@CJ22930]

The mind is so powerful, so powerful that it can also destroy you if you don’t control it.

[@keith2o9]

and some people says, looks dont matter.. yes it matters why we become obssessive over someone

[@juliascorey999]

Perfect words perfecting timing to hear this ,it's like you just wrote the end of a chapter for me ,I properly said good bye after so much pain

[@SusanWinter]

Julia, good for you. I know it takes a lot of mental determination to move on, but when we think through the hooks that captured us, we realize they are not significant enough to warrant, true affection.

[@woowgmailcom-fk3cg]

Hello Julia how are you doing today?

[@firefoxchibi]

Thank you Susan 🙏 I am experiencing stages 1-4. The appearance one is what kicked it all off ... he was 10 years older, masculine-looking, ruggedly handsome, fit, tattooed...so I made the mistake of projecting the qualities of the masculine protector archetype (which I so deeply crave) onto him...but instead of being the leader, protective, assertive, action oriented man I dreamt that he was ... He turned out to be low effort, passive, unmotivated, confused about his feelings, got high all the time...I loved him anyway, but I needed to tear myself away after eight months of being in a committed relationship and the most he could ever say about his feelings and vision for our future was "you're a cool chick" and "i don't know what the future holds".

[@biondna7984]

Of all the online coaches and the real-time life coach I see occasionally, you've had the most articulate, doable advice on overcoming limerence - AKA obsession - I've found yet. Thank you so much for mapping the destructive elements of this state of mind. I have so much hope, even in my loneliness. My peace of mind is from keeping a polite distance from him, respecting his marriage, even with his sexually-testing comments, which indicate he needs to work on his marriage or let it go, never mind me. I've had 20 years of feeling good in my own skin, since the day I quit alcohol, and this peace is more precious to me than any man could ever be. I'm also taking your advice to take what's truly admirable about him (his profession requires actual courage and heroism), and see him as the model, not the one, I hope for. Thank you for helping me to get a better harness around this heart, mind and spirit. You help me admire ME, and to become a woman of value.

[@briechilli4496]

I love this ❤ bless you !

[@samhrdlicka1387]

Thank you I have always had obsession about certain women and over time I get over it but it’s hard to exit at the time TY Susan

[@SusanWinter]

Sam, I agree, obsession can be hard to exit. Hopefully knowing why your hooked will help you to think through the automatic reaction of attaching to someone’s qualities that have little merit.

[@samhrdlicka1387]

@@SusanWinter and I don’t have a lot of people to have friends this other friend made a promise with my fiend and he kept putting it off and it made me angry

[@Iris11music]

.. You can live peacefully, or you can not. The choice is really yours. .. So choose wisely.

[@motherofaffection9687]

My journal note listening to this: I’m letting go and I will be moving on. There is no perfect person here, not me and not you, and there will never be two perfect people in this relationship. We both have our dreams of how we’d love things to be, maybe they overlap and maybe they don’t, each to our own, but they are dreams/ideals/futures, but how we both show up in the now is the reality, how we make each other feel now is ‘it’. There will never be a perfect moment, that’s just our memories, we can’t keep expecting those moments to happen. The hope we can hold on to is just exactly what is here now.

[@user-cy9in5ry9c]

You are incredible. Every statement strikes a cord. Now I understand why I’ve been ruminating for so long. Thank you for helping me pull my mind out of that abyss

[@star_7776]

I did not give him a second chance, that is why I still want to be with him. I know I cant, but I have many problems, thinking about him is a way to escape to those moments when we were happy. I just have my memories

[@simoneribas4353]

My snapshot: he went to see me at work at lunch time - omg directly to my heart. What an agony

[@SusanWinter]

Simone, I did not know the rest of the story, but I’m sure there’s more to it. No matter the circumstance I trust that you will find your way to serve yourself, while in the process of loving someone else.

[@ivi_q]

You just said what I have been rambling in my mind for months now, thank you

[@r34221]

susan you are the reason i still can continue i suffered so much spend so much that hope you talked about destroyed me i can't even love anymore cuz i tried so hard but i m trying to heal thank you so mutch

[@SusanWinter]

You are welcome. And I’m glad to see that you are rounding the corner and getting to the other side of this truth. We all need hope in order to survive. But hope can be harmful when we latch onto a dream of what we want someone to be for us. Human nature’s design is that we all have free will. So it is best to love someone who freely and willingly will love us in return.

[@zeezyu]

thank you so much for this!! I needed to hear this!

[@Malefica_Sibylla]

You are the real deal Susan, thank you for always sharing your wisdom!

[@GerardoHernandez-fq1mx]

Solid advice, as always.

[@cynthiawarren9379]

Thank you- so true. Continue to filter who we decide to give our heart to.

[@SusanWinter]

Absolutely! Set boundaries and trust that the universe has your back!

[@Annamaria-lr8pt]

Since I've found your Channel I cannot stop watching. You give so many amazing insights, that help me to get over my last situationship :) thank you!

[@rainbowgirljules]

Susan, I've been watching your videos for a couple of years, now. Thank you so very much for this one in particular. I'm getting over someone at the moment and you've helped me immensely. xx

[@ZenPepperClub]

I'm obsessed with Susan😮

[@timcorley5558]

Wow what a great video. Everything is completely true!!!

[@Ravikumar-nc9bz]

Amen to that, been there, all of it. I can truly relate to that. Thanks for discussing about this. 💌 I actually went to the last step and I have to carry myself from this point on. Thanks for helping.

[@jannybanany1]

One of her best and most applicable and relatable videos yet! She has described my current and previous situations to a TEEEE!

[@user-nh2bz7xl5f]

Totally meaningful Love the snapshot. Thank you.

[@lolachlih3136]

Great content obsession can consume your life if you allow it to or just say goodbye thanks Susan❤

[@genallen769]

All of this. You are spot on. Thank you

[@scorpiochic2]

Real talk!! ❤the humor in your delivery, thank you Susan!!

[@SusanWinter]

Glad I was able to make you smile!

[@Metagosling]

Hope is that blank check and the gambling step is that compounded diamond made from all the time / pain / pressure you can't throw in the sea. Thank you!

[@roberttruman8444]

I'm gonna need a bigger bank!

[@Malithi-P]

This is valuable Susan, makes so much sense. Thank you ❤

[@SusanWinter]

Glad you found it helpful!

[@zeezyu]

your timing is ALWAYS right!😁

[@RRthee1]

Much appreciated, Susan!

[@lionhearttt3540]

Wow Susan this was good... you are so on point and get the message out there for us to really understand

[@SusanWinter]

It makes me really happy to know that I’ve been able to help!

[@kevinrodolforamirezramirez669]

Thank you for all the information, wiser words were never spoken.

[@SusanWinter]

Virtual hugs are coming your way!

[@amitkumarpatel2667]

Thank you, Susan, for this insightful video. Very True

[@SusanWinter]

You are so welcome!

[@stellalesel6400]

U r God sent to break me free from obsession million thanks.

[@aludrenknight1687]

That last one hit hardest. Gave it my all, all of me I could give. And it's not that it wasn't enough, but that it would never be enough because I was clearly providing it to the wrong person.

[@johns.1710]

Amazing video. One of the best for sure. The quality of this information is golden . Thank you so much Susan

[@SusanWinter]

I appreciate you watching!!!!

[@bryanpablo6270]

Love this Susan, Precious Realtalk here. Like I said, I should have known you much earlier. Thank you so very much ❤

[@SusanWinter]

As always, thank you for your endless support

[@Iamjodie78]

Thanks Susan, I look forward to your video it teaches us a lot

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you SOOO much for your generosity! I hope you found the video helpful! ❤❤❤❤❤

[@maxingham9139]

Well explained ,I'm not looking for the off ramp yet ,but I may need to soon.

[@sunayana2205]

Oh my god, I'm such a fan of Susan Winter , you helped me a lot a few years ago, again you are helping me now ❤

[@briechilli4496]

Perfect. Thank you Susan.

[@SusanWinter]

You are so welcome!

[@crypto_85]

Wow !! seriously amazing Video Susan ! thank you !! that helps a lot 🙏🏼

[@christinacox5590]

Thank you, enjoyed this video, very true!

[@rg7122]

I have been looking for an answer for how to unhook yourself from how your partner looks since forever. This helped so much. Thank you.

[@SusanWinter]

❤❤❤❤❤

[@chococookies7292]

Thank you for this!!!

[@Platinum907]

You are so precious Susan.

[@SusanWinter]

😊

[@SariParkinsonMetabolicHealth]

Woohoo great video❤❤❤❤

[@Jen-nb4tb]

Thank you this video was priceless!

[@catherinegardener9511]

Thanks Susan! Your the best. Keeping the dream!

[@klscriviner]

I agree. I dont see it as a bad thing tho if your obsessed with someone it just means youve found the one you want to be with. I dont see anything wrong in that, i say go and get them before its too late!

[@woowgmailcom-fk3cg]

Hello Catherine how are you doing today?

[@negindream6948]

Wonderful ❤ Thank you Susan❤️🙏🏻

[@SusanWinter]

You are so welcome

[@williamdepa3570]

Thank you... I am struggling.. this was so good

[@taranehj6776]

How can I end the obsession when the person is my close friend that I talk to every single day😢 The amount of anxiety is killing me, I can’t end the friendship and I can’t stop obsessing and having hope even though he has told me he just sees me as a friend. I just found out he is in LOVE with another girl…

[@TheRealSahLence]

That's not a friend. You have to mourn the loss and move forward. It's painful but that's the only way. Unrequited love and unwarranted hope can be toxic to our spirit and keep us from finding the real love we deserve.

[@SusanWinter]

@@TheRealSahLence wow… perfectly answered

[@SusanWinter]

Tara, you are torturing yourself by holding a flame for a friend who is clearly stated they only see you as a friend. Why him? Why must it be him? Even if you think he’s a great guy, he’s not your guy. You’ve got to love yourself more than you love the idea of him.

[@angelatrinh1156]

Just a gentle reminder, there ARE others out there who hold the qualities you've fallen for in him. It's not him and you owe it to yourself to step away, even if it's your friend, to take back your happiness. Step away and do things and be with people that make you happy.

[@taranehj6776]

@@angelatrinh1156 This is exactly what i needed to hear, because right now it seems impossible for me to find another guy I like as much as him.

[@basimO777]

Never heard anyone talking to Point .. Like this.. Really Helpful.. I would like to know about your One to One session

[@kainatbaloch9131]

Thank u susan

[@lucasdesouza9674]

I love your videos . ❤

[@lainas3603]

Amazing content

[@SusanWinter]

Thank you, Claudia

[@terriwhalen3618]

Excellent

[@itisharaghu9857]

her videos are so helpful, wonder why they have such a low view count.

[@ravern1000]

spot on x

[@lifeisbeautiful7047]

Thank you, Thank you, Thank you

[@jss302]

Tysm❤

[@SusanWinter]

You are welcome so much!!😊

[@Surya-jn4np]

Thank you so much ma'am

[@tonymeechie]

your good!!!!

[@va7046]

The looks! Omg Susan.. The build, the body, the.. Yes it sucks..

[@pamelav.5699]

🌈💞🌷🌻🦋Hi Susan, ThankYou, this is so helpful to me right now! Does consultation with you cost anything?

[@SusanWinter]

Yes PV. My prices are clearly listed on my website. So take a look and consider booking a session if you need help. www.susanwinter.net under the consultation tab.

[@hijaumorson]

yes its the polaroid

[@CupNoodleKitty]

Susan can you make a video on how to stop thinking that one is too old to find love?

[@williamdepa3570]

Your amazing thank you so much I am so low your video so helpful thank you

[@corinnetwigden1816]

Hi Susan, thank you, I appreciate all your advice, it has helped me immensely, do you ever do personal consultations? if so, is there a link I can go through please

[@ZenPepperClub]

Duh, that is what she is all about😅

[@corinnetwigden1816]

@@ZenPepperClub No kidding Batman!! I’m trying to work out how to contact her to arrange a personal consultation.

[@AustinFranklin-iq8tn]

If I am going no contact, I feel like I can't get rid out of the "What Ifs" because I never begged or tried to talk with them. What are your thoughts on this? By the way, wonderful video with really life changing information.

[@Ailijul]

4:20 💯

[@danielruszaa4219]

And how to deal with so called retroactive jealousy? I got this right now, maybe that I haven't been in a relationship is the case? Will it go away or should I do something? Please for some advice, the girl is wonderful and I don't want to sabotage it because of it 😢

[@Steffaass]

Hard to hear but so necessary

[@debralondon2402]

Wow

[@AlwaysTryingToBeABetterHuman]

Thousands of snapshots.

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