The Art of Online Dating | Sarey Ruden | TEDxDetroit

What if you didn't let insults define you, but empower you? Join Sareytales as she categorizes the insults and the men who hit "send", by re-contextualizing the toxic messages many receive on dating app platforms into works of art. This presentation exposes the dark side of online dating, highlighting the cyber-bullying, sexual harassment, and toxic masculinity all too prevalent in the digital dating ecosystem.
Detroit-based artist Sarey Ruden’s project Sareytales is a collection of work inspired by the unbelievable messages she receives on dating apps. Using her visual arts background, quirky sense of humor and personal experience, Sarey turns tragic dating app insults into thought-provoking works of art that will leave you in disbelief. Leveraging art as its medium, the Sareytales platform hopes to increase awareness of the cyber-bullying and sexual harassment culture that is so prevalent in the digital dating world. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

[@ladyjade6446]

What a rude bunch of men.

[@SovereignStatesman]

Well we don't know what she said to THEM. Lots of women are rude as well, like saying "Im not interested in you" is a backhanded way of saying "you're not good enough for me."

[@LLJerseyGirl]

Well done!

[@carlosmontenegro9738]

Amazing, Sarey! Thank you for your strength!

[@damianburns2001]

Amazing? Its a woman who's career is built on the exploitation of others, and now shes on such a power trip she doesn't draw any differences between minor mistakes and misogyny!

[@puchmarnyk]

@@damianburns2001 …or it’s just you who thinks misogyny, online harassment, insults, derogatory comments and threats is minor mistakes. Check out her work, check out the conversations, this is so interesting how she sheds light on how crazy these comments can get and how ubiquitous those are.

[@puchmarnyk]

Love her art work!

[@damianburns2001]

This woman proceeded to publicly harass me, post my instagram profile with my account name to her story so her 12k followers could harass me as well, all because I said "Quick question, agree with the post, but why are you spelling women with an x? Just strange curiosity"

[@SovereignStatesman]

Thanks for warning me, I almost gave her my account name too

[@damianburns2001]

@@SovereignStatesman worst part is, I didn't even agree with her, I just said I did cause I knew coming in with an oppositional point of view would yield negative results. My reward? My information leaked out to thousands of toxic feminists, and a deleted Instagram profile

[@AMarie2326]

Sarey , i need a paper trail for this! So lovely and true!

[@nativewarriorx1639]

Very amazing talk keep going

[@freenemo5122]

I'd like to see a man doing types of women

[@TacticalMetalhead]

Wow this lady has no idea what men go through with online dating lol

[@marcusantonio1782]

This is very one-sided it's a lot of crazy women on dating sites also

[@SovereignStatesman]

It's not just the crazy women, it's ALL of them with their attitudes of entitlement. I know who she is, and her online profile.

[@lianadupuich9069]

Great! Keep going girl!

[@kristadunzy]

You go girl!

[@martinskovpoulsen2736]

...and the award for the most horrible misandrist goes to.....SAREY RUDEN

[@maivungoc3849]

The first comment

[@datther]

The art of rejecting. By, yep, a girl

[@downeastermaineusa3794]

Wait for it ..... "toxic masculinity". There , you knew that was coming.

[@downeastermaineusa3794]

Footwear is an indicator of several things. I dont care for women that wear shoes like hers.