The BEST RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: How To Know When A Man Is Truly Committed

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[@HardlyInitiated]

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[@ms.christheevangelist]

Thank you! ☺️

[@tamekabuckley9356]

LOVE IT 🤜🏾💥🤛🏾🏆

[@Zek1472]

This guy just said if she nurture me and empowers me!! Don’t listen to him… don’t listen to anyone for that matter get off social and go live and think for yourself, men don’t know what they want until they end up with it, and they never perfect not even to the women they love.. for us on what you want from a man and let him ask if he needs something, and still let him empower himself before you date him lol

[@user-dq8hu2zb7p]

Thanks

[@Jus4-Us]

@@Zek1472 Those words "empower yourself" is haunting because that's exactly what the serpent told Eve in the Garden concerning the forbidden tree which led to the fall of humanity. Women seeking independence or as you said "empowerment" is actually a code word for "rebelliousness" against the commandment of God given to ALL women that they shall be ruled under the husband. Goggle that. It reminds me of a 1500 year old teaching from Prophet Muhammed when he was asked about what people were sent to hell the most, to which he replied- women. When asked why, he said for disobedience to their husbands which is a commandment given exclusively to them from God.

[@Tentoesboutit]

Ladies, the only thing that keeps a man is a man who wants to be kept

[@jasmainjasmain2906]

Periodt

[@ElegantPaws01]

Why are you "keeping" a man? Women have value. They are kept. Are we trying to rest in his femininity? Not a man but a male.

[@ChrissyAnn85]

Bingo

[@vawor4471]

Nail on the head! Bam!

[@tinyking11]

Period. It’s not rocket science 😂 They making it harder than what it is

[@carolynroberts6671]

It don’t matter what you do for a man if you not the one you are not the one ☝️

[@blackfranklin]

Then he shouldn't be there.

[@reddit-it3414]

Women control access to sex men control access to marriage. That’s why men usually propose. Both a man and woman are sovereign individuals and every woman who is not graped can withhold sex until marriage.

[@jeytheprophet2416]

Lordt thank you 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽

[@carolynroberts6671]

@@blackfranklin I agree with he shouldn’t. But it’s the women who let him be there .

[@blackfranklin]

@@carolynroberts6671 and that shouldn't be happening, it just just gives him license to step all over her... believe me that's his plan.

[@vinnieedwards9699]

The more you do, the more he’ll use you, and blame you saying, “ I didn’t ask you to do that “ 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@iammanna]

😢😭 ooowee

[@creativesha7156]

Yep 👍🏽

[@KendrickDonaldson]

Hello ❤

[@user-tt7vg7pu4m]

I've got personal experience with this one. And I was actually married. I worked strictly to build up a 401k for us since he was self-employed with no retirement plan. Once I found out about his infidelities, all he could say was, "I didn't ask you for a retirement plan. You weren't home enough, so I found someone who could meet me anytime I called."

[@ventb1305]

Not true

[@Time4change111]

The only man you go 100% in for that gives that same loyalty & love back is Jesus. Chase Jesus, not others. ❤❤

[@cerissabrown3487]

Facts 💯

[@samiegober6488]

Amen❤

[@diacatx]

‭Matthew 6:33 KJV‬ [33] But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you.

[@Nunezsiblings]

Factsssssssssss

[@patwilliams8973]

#PERIODT

[@2Ryled]

Don't play the wife if your not the wife..

[@helena3631]

And even then have boundaries

[@johnt7684]

So then how do you become the wife? Gotta audition for the role.

[@pauletteducksworth7062]

​@@johnt7684 the same way yall audition for a husband position

[@noname-gu6ho]

I know someone doing this right now.

[@Say_it_aint_so_]

The Only Thing That Means Anything To Black Dusty Men child’s Is White MEN Validation, Apart From That Dusty’s Haven’t A Clue What They Want, No Direction, No Leadership, No Work effectiveness. Then Turn Their Trouble Souls To Disrespecting Black Women. That’s All They Got Left.

[@tunomi36]

Ladies, just because he doesn't find value in you doesn't mean you're not valuable. Put HIM in a different category. 😉

[@antoinettecollins8079]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@monicalouis8333]

THIS… so tired of hanging on their every word hoping to find a solution. We are valuable ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Sky-yh3ml]

@@monicalouis8333start by be absent in church the ones upholding it😂

[@gracelove1842]

Facts

[@Mk-un3mp]

Every man is the same stop, believing, every man is different men are different because they sell you a dream that doesn’t is not real

[@tory198511]

I'm so glad he said this. I've been telling people this for years that you can't make a man stay, he has to want to.

[@zuhairah3860]

I've been stopped gaf about what these dudes think. 🙄 Single life brings me more peace than any man ever will. Protect your peace! ✌🏾

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hey

[@angneatb6036]

Men don't know what they want. Change like the wind. Just live your life ladies.

[@TheSadie88]

Exactly!!!

[@ruthhannamaria]

Great advice.

[@denekabudget]

😂😂😂😂 exactly

[@asiacallier1]

Best advice ever!

[@ThePositivityCorner]

Absolutely true

[@Daughter.of.Yahweh.]

The more I come across these videos the more it confirms my choice to stay single. It’s exhausting… imma just get comfortable with Jesus and Jesus alone. Edit: y’all really rattled in these comments 😂🫢

[@AyeJye]

🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾💯💯💯💯💯❤️❤️❤️❤️ exactly!!

[@jenniferboldeau9313]

Same

[@shawnlove4502]

Facts sis

[@slm2021]

Amen and Praise Jesus❤❤ You don't have to perform for Jesus and He still thinks you are beautiful, and deserve love and respect. ❤

[@kellegeez]

Exactly. These men love to talk in circles saying a bunch of nothing and constantly moving the goal post.

[@christinahudson4323]

That's true, you could do everything for men he will never commit. Never try to change a man. He will show you from the get go whats important to him. It took me 13yrs to see it. Love blinds, but space brings clarity.

[@malindajones2613]

It doesn’t matter what a woman does, doesn’t do or what she is to a man with poor character, morals, and values. She can’t change who he is. The problem is society supports men being horrible humans by making excuses for bad behavior and decisions

[@dama_shares]

Yes! You've hit the nail on the head. This is so accurate.

[@mrfrost4388]

And society doesn’t support women who also make large terrible life decisions to prove an overall ‘point’ to their existences? Get over yourself

[@stroNg2thaBoNe2thaMax]

Very true.

[@SQueen-wz6ik]

@@malindajones2613 major facts 💯💯

[@optimalscore]

Damned if do, damned if you don't . Men operate the way men operate 🙄

[@nyahbrown9804]

🎯🎯🎯

[@rossrose1534]

Exactly 💯..I give up

[@bparks7007]

That is a lot of work 😮...Nah I will pass. And be happy-go-lucky by myself 🎉😊

[@TheSadie88]

Exactly!!

[@ActDeedWay]

Exactly

[@nitab5039]

The man has to be into you more than you are into him. Always remember that.

[@shawnlove4502]

Yup facts

[@n.b.0212]

Absolutely!

[@theosaka69]

Yep.

[@walterevans666]

Says a woman.

[@Noname-oo9gn]

So true.

[@clarkvaughan]

A great example of sounding like you know what you're talking about when you really don't. BTW, grown man here.

[@abshalomfarrow7061]

To simplify this for the ladies, it not about what you do for him as much as it is how you make him feel about himself when he’s around you.

[@MelMarley]

Nuture him , empower him to go be great for someone else

[@QueenDee101]

Exactly‼️👏🏽💥💯

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

I'm laying down im tired...get some🤡body else to do it😴😴😴😴💤💤💤💤💤

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Lmao! You are 100% correct. Never build these men up. Let them get up on their own unless they're breaking off "the bag" during their journey.

[@user-ff7vd9cr9q]

Leave him just as he is

[@tinyking11]

💯😂😂💀

[@lipglosslover83]

You can bring a man a 60 inch tv 📺 with a projector 📽️ and turn tricks like a circus clown 🤡… if you’re not who he wants he will leave , period.

[@iamrightyourwrong5198]

yup, if your screaming and yelling and don’t cook he definitely leaving

[@marwanlee6054]

You clearly missed what was said.

[@Theycallherblessed]

Some men have deeper issues then the woman they want.

[@elle7079]

This is semi true, he may not leave even if you're not who he wants, only if he feels there's something that you posses that he needs or want, something that he finds valuable to him that he can use to his benefit, doesn't mean that he actually like or love you, he just found something that you have that will serve him🤷🏾‍♀️

[@noneofyourbuizness]

​@@elle7079 preeeeeaachh

[@kimwarren4224]

A man won’t commit to a woman until he put god first, disciplined and knows what he wants. Period!

[@kweenuzuri9018]

A Man Don't give a damn what you do for him.... he still does what he do😮

[@chloelageaux769]

I've been there with this. Never audition or perform for a man!

[@souschef4489]

Or chase a woman.

[@StopSelfDoubting]

💯💯💯

[@jessicaclark181]

That part!

[@jessicaclark181]

@@souschef4489the irony is we don’t even want to be chased.. most of us want to be left alone lol

[@COACHFSTATON]

Sis, what is dating?

[@meddeck]

Being with a Black man is exhausting. Damn!

[@ChloeLayneXO]

That's why they're only good for whatever resources they have if any.

[@lorebay2593]

😅Yeah, for real😅

[@kokopuffs1986]

Yep, just too much.

[@sheskates6551]

So many hoops to jump too the goal post is always moving can’t be yourself gotta be a porn star video chick smh

[@elle7079]

But this isn't about black men, this is about all men, this is gender specific not race specific, non black men are thinking the same way, sorry 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@LaSheaHaynes-vu6df]

If he doesn’t want you all of that doesn’t matter. We have seen women like this get played and used by men who just didn’t want them. We have also seen women that doesn’t do all of this and get the man. To Sum it all up it depends on the man and what he thinks he need at the moment.

[@Dee-cu8yr]

I love seeing all the ladies waking up... Even though women adound the world ahare similar experiences Men will argue "not all" They arent listening ladies Live life!!

[@blewprent]

Just leave these men alone. PLEASE! Because even if you do everything correct, they'll go and cheat on you because "they want something different every once in a while". Lose/lose.

[@justblack1]

And it's not just about "wanting something different", they are trying to fill a void within themselves that is a bottomless pit. They will never be satisfied. All men need therapy.

[@tenaybates8141]

Correct to who's standards though? Judt because you attempt to do something doesn't mean its correct. And every size doesn't fit all. Just learn, grow and adjust.

[@hayleyscrafts39]

Yep, been there..

[@blewprent]

@@tenaybates8141 Obviously to his standards, hence the word "correct". I clearly wouldn't be referring to what the woman assumes to be correct in her own mind and opinion. Let's not be deliberately contrary just to prove a useless point. 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@Theycallherblessed]

I like what the guy in the video said, but in my experience the children were suffering and I was filling in gaps were he fell short. But, I did everything he asked and he still did what he wanted to do. Once I realized that what he had going on was deeper than who he was with (knowing I’m solid ), I got the hell out of there. He destroys everything he touches because he doesn’t know the value of himself or his offspring. The only way to win is to go

[@janeenewilliams7812]

I ain't doing none of that. Either you want me or you don't. 🤷🏿 period.

[@tenaybates8141]

Do you put in no kind of work huh sis? No kind of understanding lol smh sheesh good luck with that. But eith thst mentality, id stay single if I were you...

[@ruthhannamaria]

❤

[@Yougotthis1212]

You’ll be married soon! You have to be selfish and allow him to cater to you, make him work for you. Act like a true queen and he’ll treat you like one. Never settle, if he exhibits bad behavior (not cheating just things (behavior) you don’t like) let him have it and tell him you wont except that and send him on his way. He’ll come back grappling and asking for another chance. You have to teach these men how to treat you. You’re the prize and YES I’m married, happily for over 10 years.

[@ChrissyAnn85]

​@@tenaybates8141 😆 what are you talking about. A woman can put in max amount of work and no amount will keep the man in the relationship. Men are their own worst enemy. They loose "the one that got away" so many times 😂😂😂. They don't realize that woman who worked so hard to keep him satisfied was the woman he wanted and needed until after she cut off access to her either through a divorce or break up.

[@tinyking11]

💯💯🔥🙌🏽

[@marycampbell3114]

Stay single until you meet the man who treats you the way you deserve and knows your value...no matter how long it takes stay single and available.

[@juliewhitford396]

I supported my husband, cared for him, nurtured him, and loved him, but it wasn’t enough. I’m now divorced. I recently heard this two words ‘mismated couples’. The only way to find the ONE is to ask God himself to guide us.

[@islip376]

I agree. But women, you must remember that if he’s not in his season or simply immature, he won’t recognize any value in you whatsoever. He can be fully aware that you pouring into him is what he needs, but if he’s in his whore season, it’s in vain. It’s never about YOU, it’s about the man you encounter and where he is in his life. I am the same woman no matter who I meet, and there was only one man who saw my value in 5yrs. I kept the faith and never changed. I put my best foot forward each time because I knew when I did encounter my King, he’d recognize me.

[@Theycallherblessed]

I love this

[@Yougotthis1212]

It has nothing to do with season and everything to do with when they really want something. A man will move mountains when he really wants a woman. As a woman you setting a standard and expectations keeps him engaged. Men want what they cant have and desire things that are out of reach. You have to always make it a little challenging for them, its a balance to it but its necessary. You have to set expectations and if they fall short you punish them, to teach them how to treat you. When they realize you wont allow anything they will either leave which does you a favor or step up to the plate. Y’all be making way to many excuse and giving them way to much leeway

[@islip376]

@@Yougotthis1212 sounds like a game. At 47, I don’t have time to play . I get what you’re saying and I agree but it’s very discouraging to play love games.

[@GraceHarwood88]

This is great advice for young women 🌹 thanks for sharing x❤

[@hisforevereva]

​@Kesha Pressley this is the one. I don't play games. I want to be me in my full capacity and the man meant for me will love me just like that without all the mental gymnastics involved.

[@skay6454]

And they say women are complicated. In other words, don't bother being there for him. You can play wife for a decade, only for him to marry a woman he met a week ago😅.

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

Exactly that's why i didnt lift a finger..he paid for the meals every night and left me with money when he leaves..im not in lack i got it all with out him tho

[@lollymadikiza3174]

​@@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829liar!

[@DivaliciousOne]

Nah... being there for him doesn't mean cleaning his house, giving head on demand, or any of the things many women do to lock a man down. Women are too quick to do, but due to a lack of self-love, uncomfortable with just being. That's what the man is talking about and he's right.

[@BM-tx2ph]

So true wtf

[@tshepomasangochery6577]

😭

[@oluronkesanyaolu1034]

Pleasing a man is really exhausting. Just be good and be yourself. What will be will be!

[@Realness4sho]

Never give “More” energy than the other person. ✅💯💜🥰

[@happydaze7976]

Don't do wife duties when your still a girlfriend.

[@thandoncube3986]

Men should not do husband duties while they still a boyfriend

[@michelleborden5710]

It cuts both ways.

[@user-of1pj5fb6v]

Agreed

[@willwashington1884]

So True on both sides....it cuts both ways.....in the end, unless you are the wife or the husband, husband/wife rules don't apply to you.

[@TheOmniMic]

Lol. Like women know how to be wives these days!😅😅

[@evolvinglove7786]

So true. I find that in many cases (if he is truly interested) that the less you do the more he does. Allow a man to be in his masculine energy

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@ChidiebereMercy-zd5bx]

My love ❤️

[@UltraGalacticSuperFantastic]

Unless of course he then does nothing at all and blames you for not trying. We were engaged and he still wouldn't plan dates, vacations, initiate sex, nothing.

[@MichaelWilliams86306]

hi beautiful lady

[@andrealester3565]

I’m married I supported my husband when we were both down & out I still got cheated on I’m staying single these single married men do the most and don’t know what they want I’m in a better position now I’m living my best life

[@lolipopchick2]

I figured this out in my early 20s. A man will love you regardless if you’re what his heart desires and cherishes. Doing extra shit will not make a man love you if his heart doesn’t.. he’ll probably just stay around because it benefits him not because he loves you

[@Armour201]

Bro, take several seats. Most women do for others because of who they are, not who he is. When they realise they're not getting the same or better energy back, they re-package and move on.

[@TheOmniMic]

True. And that's what they capitalize on. A woman's love and affection is what a man craves every moment of every day. And I'm the one with the problem cause I'm good to the man? Damn. Y'all talk about females bashing men, now you can't even love on one without attack!🤦🏾‍♀️ Guess there's no winning this game.

[@KingKroShae]

Well well.... You just described me..

[@shawnlove4502]

Ladies basically do nothing for them, lol I've been there and done everything, don't waste your time. Men are not the prize they think they are. Date a man who wants you more and after you're committed then you can be loving and give him things. Not before. I'm a giver so I have to be careful. Men are users.

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hello

[@BM-tx2ph]

That's so sad cause you're being honest :( you changed my whole entire perspective I believe you 1000% men wre users. Now I have to play a game with these guys...you opened my eyes to my baby father

[@shawnlove4502]

@BM-tx2ph I'm sorry you feel you have to play the game. And I was on the journey to not dating anymore when I became official with my mate. Just focus on yourself and decenter men and you will be much happier.

[@teardropdiamond6251]

Stop blaming women for some men's mischievous ways 😤 a man has a mind of his own .They need to hold up or fold up help provide for his family, be there to help teach his sons to become real men so that they are an access not a liability, instead of so many leaving it all on the mother many times whom he himself has tried to break her spirit down, sometimes the man can also be faced with these situations being left to raise the daughter with maybe help from his mother . Grandparents at times have to take over the children .Things got to change ❤

[@oceania4681]

he has to like you first and that is not something you can control. once he likes you, you can support, nurture and empower him.

[@SomewhereInTheMaidenverse]

If he won’t marry you, he’s using you. If he’s seeing other women while he’s seeing you, he’s using you. If he tells you he needs to have sex with you to see if you’re the one, walk away. Don’t have sex with a man who isn’t committed to you. Ideally, don’t have sex unless you’re married. Women keep giving these men sex, thinking he’ll commit. It doesn’t work that way. Learn to be on your own until you meet the one who will commit. Don’t let a man enter your body unless he’s committed. This will obliterate single motherhood. These men have sex with you because you let them. Then you’re left all effed up because of it. If you’re a female who likes to sleep around, this message isn’t for you.

[@nokoshadung5257]

Do you know how many women of the church have done that and were still clowned on? 😂😂😂

[@gwadkarukera]

You BOLD ASF!!! How dare you Queen? I love it 💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗💗 Yes yes!!!

[@dama_shares]

This is a lovely statement that give us ladies the personal responsibility of setting boundaries for ourselves. Yet, it's still kind of sad because it puts the bulk of the responsibility for our well-being on us and doesn't require men to mature and re-evaluate their ways. Sure...we cannot force anyone to change unless they want to...but it's so exhausting that this pattern of entitlement in so many Black men and men of other nationalities reigns. James Brown said that it was a man's world and until sexism and self-righteous masculine attitudes are dismantled the world over...we, as women, will always be holding the bulk of the responsibility.

[@mercykendi8838]

Commitment!!!huh!!!he marries u n still sleeps around with women

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Celibacy gang in attendance Ma'am!!! 2018 and going SKRONG!

[@prodigykitty3614]

He just literally contradicted himself. The definition of a ride or die chick is the woman with whom you have her full support. Ladies, don't cast your pearls before swine

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hey

[@velvetw23]

Like seriously!!! The contradiction is real. Take the mics away from these 🤡.

[@atrose8005]

Being a ride or die chick is not the same as being a supporting and nurturing woman. You can ride or die all day every day but if a man is not being respected supported and empowered you are pouring into a cup with a hole in it. A man is very different from a boy

[@julieoluna8887]

The moron is saying complete nuisance with such confidence and conviction! Although not complete rubbish because he is basically saying that Men do not appreciate Women who cares about them and there's truth in that.

[@MsRenaissance]

This...👏👏👏. These phucking swines.

[@lisakennedy5760]

I have been telling this to women and men for years. Forget looks and acts of service, unless that’s your love language, fall in love with someone’s character traits. Are they supportive, understanding, compassion, empathic, intelligent, giving, generous etc. These things are the basis for emotional and psychological bonding. That is where true loyalty, commitment and deep caring come from and what is needed for a long lasting marriage. The tangible stuff can all be worked on together through the years.

[@conniecarrera5555]

We're in the last hour people are not all about money but are really struggling I think marriages are going to be tested like never before deliverance is gonna take on a whole new meaning wen food gets scarce

[@cynthiadickerson5403]

This is why fathers and brothers need to talk to their sisters when they are young.

[@drtee2905]

SOOOOOO glad I'm single. Tired of the dating game and games men play. Too much

[@noworneversoulbeach]

Women play more.😂

[@jasibae00]

Samee❤😂 Being single is great.

[@l.johnson2015]

​@@noworneversoulbeach No, accountability.

[@OGQMdawini]

He still ain't said nothing 😂😂😂😂😂

[@allenmaddox203]

Waste of words .

[@charlenesmith2577]

OMG that is what I was thinking

[@BeautybyJemyjoan]

Exactly my point.

[@terrenceready9786]

These dudes. Literally be saying nothing

[@lisaj47]

He’s saying a lot actually. It’s just not understood

[@verejey55]

I learned that the hard way. I did everything but he never saw me as his woman. He only saw me as a woman that was with him at the time and ditched me like garbage after 8 years

[@OneTwo-yw4ij]

That makes me wonder, what is it going to look like in 10yrs. When women stop giving out pickme labor, emotional, sexual investment into these build a bear males. And in some cases financial support.

[@leonardorenderos998]

A way couples can make things work is by allowing to understand each others trauma and finding a way to work through it together.

[@lennysamuel9290]

So glad I grew up around strong women who had enough self respect that they would see these men coming a mile off and keep a mile away! Sadly you usually get what you think you're worth! So start valuing yourself!!!!!

[@TeiRen2012]

He either like you or he doesn't and it's really that simple.

[@loversroadmap]

Commitment in a relationship is ideally based on a combination of factors, including who the person is and how they contribute to the relationship. Both emotional connection and mutual support play crucial roles in a lasting commitment.

[@gaillanders3725]

Your correct my husband said the same thing. I was more of a support factor than his first wife. He always said I wish I had met your before. Even though we had 46 years together RIP.

[@blueseptember2174]

Yall too complicated. Just pick one, stay faithful and cherish her ok 😅

[@lifelived9540]

Exactly they are incapable most of the time. U have to be lucky thats for sure

[@LucasPeters-lm5yd]

Hello, How are you doing? 😊

[@MaryJoe-gc9hx]

Hello

[@SVAsianPhilippinesGo6858]

Tell that to men..that I want and who want me!

[@eelie5701]

You're being way too simplistic.

[@LP-kn3yu]

If a man you’re dating treats you second rate because you’re there for him and want to show him that you are dependable, kick his ungrateful butt to the curb!

[@evelyn7881]

Hallelujah!

[@DivaliciousOne]

Well no...Most women treat men like toddlers or broken women and do too much. It's like someone who had dogs as pets their whole life getting a cat and expecting to do the same things. You need to learn about men from men instead of taking horrible advice from other women. Men are very different from women and don't value the same things. Humans of both genders don't respect people who pander and what they get for free/cheap! Do you value Payless shoes as much as Louboutin? Why? So just because YOU did a lot because you have feelings doesn't change the fact that it was offered for little effort. This is the exact point of division between the male and female mentalities. Learn that and you'll see a big change in your relationships!

[@user-sh2yi4kk5p]

Once I’ve learned that; I stopped all the extras that I use to give to someone. Now I give away things I know that deserves work from him. No cooking, not there as his beckon call, not giving out the goods. Some other things, yes- since I put boundaries, I have been kicked to the curb but it’s okay because I am okay with it. I’m not walking away hurt.

[@nokulungamkhonza9752]

When a man speaks, I got to listen. And then act according.❤

[@MissPinkapples]

Men aren’t committing no matter if you do or don’t do

[@lindagithaiga1974]

Tell em sis 👊

[@shirleyguinyard8183]

EXACTLY!!!!

[@ShadaeMastersAstrology]

Princella Clark is so right about them being solely with women for their own desires and not being capable of true love.

[@ChidiebereMercy-zd5bx]

My love 😘😘😘 you are so beautiful and sexy 😊

[@ChidiebereMercy-zd5bx]

​@@ShadaeMastersAstrologyme I love you so much ❤

[@nicholeweltanschauung8245]

This honestly sounds dumb as hell 😅. Stay away from these kinds of men is the answer. If anyone you're willing to put that kind of effort into dismissed you like that, RUN away from them because they're about to make your life a miserable living hell because they are selfish and ungratfu. No amount of doing for them or nurturing them is going to change that.

[@HeresMyBit]

Why are you willing to do all of that without long term commitment.

[@jeromebowers7510]

But I bet it's more women who take money KNOWING they have no interest in said guy. But will not think it's wrong to do this.....🤔

[@lavish_rayne5730]

​@@jeromebowers7510 there's Way more bum azz black men taking women's money so hush.. turn the news on yall steal from women, yall are hobosexual and always asking for something as if yall want to be women.. oop yall do be playing in our lace fronts,makeup and clothes..

[@Lil-Ice21]

Thats true boo

[@royalregal722]

He lost me at nurture me, empower me blah blah. I leave my garden to tend to someone else’s is clown shizz! Actively single, doing for me. Focused on me Keeping my peace. No free labour

[@jamaicanqueentv]

I hate that phase “watch this “😂😂😂😂 it’s like they coming up with a grand revelation

[@adrenna1973]

The moment I realized my worth lies in who I am not simply in what I do...priceless.

[@ashimagotnuthinbutluv4ubab429]

Women keep your clothes on no matter what comes from his trap let him prove himself to you. If he goes on to the next so be it. It was never meant to be. You are not an object know your worth.

[@bongoikno4994]

😂😂😂😂you act like women don't want sex as well

[@justjess86baby98]

I gave on men5 years ago 🙃 and my hair grew back lol

[@qjohnson527]

😂😂😂 that part!!!🎉❤ Hair been sprouting like a tree 😂😂

[@chanaef.8189]

Thanks for the laugh 😂😂

[@creativesha7156]

😂😂😂fr though!

[@monicalouis8333]

I hollered!!!!😂😂😂😂😂😂 Peace!! Leave ‘em right there!!!!

[@Katrica670]

"He commints not cause what she does, but because of who she is to him; nurtures him, empowers him, helps him to grow!" and how is that Mr. man who is talking?

[@duanebonton7716]

It’s amazing that men say that want a woman to nurture them. I don’t need a woman to nurture me, add to my growth and development, that was my parents job, I’m a grown man, I don’t need nor seek that from a woman, or from my wife, Yahuah mandated in his word it’s the man’s job to do that for his wife, as that’s what Yahuah has done for his

[@Seo-Sara97]

Relationship can be exhausting.

[@xportiaglobalconsulting]

Fr

[@Jus4-Us]

It can be with the wrong person or when you want things to go your way most of the time. My father was married to my mother for 55 years until he left this dimension of life. He told me that to be with someone for a long time requires that you both overlook each other's faults amd practice forgiveness. He added that you have to give up wanting things to always go your way. It has to be compromises on everything you do as a couple.

[@TriggaTreDay]

He is 1000% correct. This is why so many men will chase after women that don’t want them or that will dog them out. Ladies stop trying to be everything for a man, just be everything you want to be for you and your future family and just seek friendship from men. No sex, no nothing, keep your personal self to yourself. You will have more than enough men than you can handle trying to marry you. I was super chill with all of my male friends, i was very easy to talk to, I didn’t judge them unless we would joke around, and I made it very clear that I didn’t want to date I just wanted to live life and hang out. I had to turn down 5 proposals 💍 in the end. 2 from ex’s and 3 from men I had been dating heavy. Business men who would give me what I wanted. I have been married to my best friend of 14yrs for 10yrs now and we are going strong. This man will do any and everything for me. We will ride hard for one another no questions asked. We have been soulmates from day 1. And this is why so many men I dated didn’t like him 😂. I guess they knew he had something up his sleeve.

[@souschef4489]

Plenty of women chasing the same men.

[@JustKickinIt681]

exactly I do nun.i clean some days but I definitely don't cook..today I laid in bed all day while he took care of me and the kids.service me all day long.and still wanted to cuddle .I might give him some cookie I might

[@tenaybates8141]

​@@JustKickinIt681youre weird. You flexing that your man took care of you AND YOUR CHILDREN but you "MIGHT" take care of him with sex? Please delete this message smh. This was not a flex at all on you.

[@SunShine-lq7yt]

​@@souschef4489 hence why she is giving this advice

[@jtrealhatman4952]

HE'S NOT CORRECT ABOUT NOTHING, HE DIDNT SAY ANYTHING, THAT SH*T WAS RETARDED.... PLEASE READ MY COMMENTS IN THE THREAD...

[@SuperTruthful]

I'm so happy i don't gaf what a man thinks or wants. Liberating.

[@mrs.g.r.n]

You can do all of that supporting, nurturing, empowering, and helping a man to grow, only for him take all of that...you helped to build over to another woman....the woman he really wants....his dream girl. Ladies, encourage these men to stop wasting time and find their dream girl.

[@KaimaVixen]

At this point… ladies, we’re damned if we do and damned if we don’t. These men are just not happy. Like they honestly just don’t like us… all these unspoken rules, yet we’re told we have unrealistic standards.🙄

[@Robertjames-du3wy]

❤

[@mommafoxxdiaries6509]

It’s 2023 and women still searching to see what men want and still neglecting the needs of themselves learning who they are in they 50s and shit…this is crazy!! we need to get these curses banished💯

[@mommafoxxdiaries6509]

@Soulness Diary girl yessss!🙏🏾 and I truly would baby but the intensity of the cognitive dissonance on this topic would wake up and rattle even my slaved ancestors that came before me💯 …lmao Ima respectfully contribute by going to therapy and enrolling into parenting classes…🤷🏽‍♀️😂😂

[@Kashmir-lt4cx]

Define empowers him, define nurtures him, define supports him, define helps him to grow please and thank you!

[@destineehernandez7728]

Men don't know what they want until she shows up.😢. Even his wife won't stand in his way

[@peterwilliams6361]

Great video, there is nothing like a perfect marriage or relationship, I learnt that in everything there is always a solution, 5 years ago I and my wife divorced because we were having some difficulties in our marriage but we are back together ,it was a really bad phase but we got through it

[@peterwilliams6361]

@Emilio Yepez its always difficult to let someone you love go, but in my case I had the help of a spiritual adviser who saved my marriage from collapsing her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE.

[@jtrealhatman4952]

How is this even on the topic of what he said in the video??? ... glad u got your wife back tho, ......buut Definitely not on topic of what he said in the video

[@aminaadam3617]

Wish you guys all the best

[@blyg81]

💯

[@Heyu7her3]

​@@jtrealhatman4952: it's a spam post

[@MissCraig]

It doesn't matter if you nurture care for him empower, or do for him if he doesn't want to commit he is just not going to commit period. This single life is so peaceful.

[@monicalouis8333]

Yasss! Singledom is soooo peaceful!!!!

[@torrawhitehead7197]

It's best to stay single. It takes too much work to deal with a man who is going to do what he wants to do anyway, no matter how good you are to him.

[@loversroadmap]

Commitment often stems from a deep emotional connection, where a person values and appreciates their partner for who they are-qualities, personality, and shared values. On the other hand, actions and contributions, such as support, understanding, and shared responsibilities, contribute to the practical aspects of a relationship. A healthy commitment tends to balance both emotional connection and mutual support, creating a strong foundation for a lasting partnership.

[@reallifehomerevealed1957]

*Shid i don't know too many woman that think like this anymore. Most women are done. Single enjoying their life like "Shid get somebody else to do it."*

[@LindegaardMadsenThomas-kl9pg]

Hey

[@ChidiebereMercy-zd5bx]

My love are you there

[@bellabrown4787]

😅😅😅 So true!

[@CecilyJamelia]

Contradictions galore - Both women are still “doing” for the man. Whether she is the ride or die or being a helpmate even though you ain’t married there’s many a woman that contributed to a man’s success and he left her.

[@DivaliciousOne]

Not at all. The issue is your interpretation. It's entirely feminine, though not your fault. 😅 Nobody respects what is free or cheap. There's a reason why luxury is set up the way it is. If you went to a store and found a cute item for $2, would you cherish it like a high-end item you had to save 3 years to buy? Never! Just cause you have feelings you excuse all the extras you give from your heart because of love. Men aren't like that. It's cheap and he knows deep down he didn't earn what you're giving. So he knows you'll do it for anyone without being asked. That's cheap and that's how he'll see it. Real men like to earn things through effort. So do nothing for him until he commits. It's not hard. That's why you keep a roster but don't sleep with them. They weed themselves out quickly, you keep replacing until you find a good candidate. Be blessed! ❤

[@user-pj6rt5wj9i]

You're awesomely pretty

[@angryblackwomen6250]

This is all facts! Once I spoke life into him things got better. When I was doing doing doing it didn't matter I was angry and took out my frustration on him until I shut up and actually started listening to him.

[@michelecherek5392]

As a woman who has done EVERYTHING for my man, including supporting him, boosting his morale, encouragement, in EACH relationship, I can tell you, if they dont wanna be WITH YOU, all that shit doesn't even matter...🤷‍♀️ But if a man doesn't want that woman doing all that, he needs to BE A MAN and tell her she aint for him and LET HER GO, and NOT USE her as a placeholder.

[@LaeliaLove2024]

They(men) still cheat on both types of women, exposing them to disease and embarrassment. There is no reward in a man loving you! 😂

[@TSM-tv8hy]

This is true!

[@QueenDee101]

Right, right! Even the Bible states, "Who can find a faithful man?" Personally, I don't want one anymore. Happy being single w/o the added drama, headaches, heartbreaks, etc.

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

None

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

Best Comment 🏆

[@guacgirl]

This

[@tiffanymiller585]

Doing nurturing things to help that man grow and be empowered is not enough. This is legit advice.

[@LeafyBookworm]

There are moments where you empower him and speak life into him and he's still looking to his mom, friends, he's finding odd jobs, saying yes to his boss, on the videogames, and he just doesn't pour anything back into you. That's when you go silent and live your life. If he's avoiding you and the kids, the gym, other families with kids, or anything to do with God he thinks he can afford to lose what truly matters

[@michellesweightlossjourney6599]

I only choose a man.......who seeks God. When the Lord chooses your spouse, it's different than the world's standards & advice. He is right about what he's saying, but the missing element is having Christ in your life first. THEN ALL THESE THINGS shall be added unto you.

[@lizswanson426]

U r correct. Bible says Men LOVE ur Wives as Christ loves the church. Women RESPECT ur husbands. 😮 🙏🙏🙏

[@lizswanson426]

U r correct. Bible says Men LOVE ur Wives as Christ loves the church. Women RESPECT ur husbands. 😮 🙏🙏🙏

[@valken9756]

Ma'am, you're not supposed to choose. The Bible states that "When a man findeth a wife, he finds a good thing!" You're to be discovered. That's the problem today, women are choosing and then get upset with their choice.

[@michellesweightlossjourney6599]

@@valken9756 I already know that. My point in my comment is I have a CHOICE!! Just because a man may "choose" me and say God sent him doesn't mean he's the one for me. I look for Godly character to prove whether that's true or not. Women don't have to accept just anything because a man will say all kinds of things. I am going to make my choice by trying the spirit by the Spirit of God.....that's why I said "I only choose." I didn't say I will seek a man or go find a husband. There's a difference.

[@monicalouis8333]

Amen

[@SKOLAH]

If it starts with 'Women think...' and comes out of a male's mouth, it's swipe time.

[@julieoluna8887]

Exactly!!

[@anthonymckenzie5182]

Women actually think they know what they want 😂

[@unknownperson4275]

@@anthonymckenzie5182Women know what women want and men know what men want. Common sense. Everyone has wants and needs.

[@MissB-cs9uo]

The values and morals have gone out the window of a relationship, but I still have hope

[@barbyyakubu6718]

Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Who is for you will forbear to keep you and vice versa.

[@shawnmatamela6961]

nurture him impower him🤯 what is he doing for you?! when you're doing all that for him?🤔

[@monicalouis8333]

Babying them.. making them weaker!!!

[@swiftkarma4436]

My father told me when I was 16 years old that in order to keep my man faithful give him all the goody he can handle. He said hit before he goes to work. If he has an office go hit at the office. When he gets home hit again and he won't have time to cheat. Yeah I was told this by my FATHER at 16! And people wonder why some women are jacked up. To any women who has had an abusive or absent father sort yourself out before dating. Get some therapy and a spiritual life (whatever that means to you). Don't wait to figure it out in your 40s like I did. I fell and scrapped my knees but I'm still standing.

[@arleedennis791]

Girl. It hit me when I got married. It was rough. Father issues are stifling

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

U don't have to give him anything..if hes a cheater thats on him

[@Strawberry.leeraymartinez5829]

My pop told me to never get married...iv never been in lack

[@GoddessBlueYozakura7]

Funny because I knew a guy that said that a woman he was with slept him like this around the clock but he knew what she was doing so he made it his personal mission to cheat on her everytime he left the house and laughed like " did she think I wouldn't cheat?". You let men talk without judgement and they'll tell you how trifling they really are.

[@krystalgardiner5591]

shit I knew a dude who girl would give him BJ before he came to work and let him drive her nice ass lexus while she drove the 98 accord and this mf wad still fuckn the office slut IN HER NICE CAR LOL Fuck these men. They selfish and narcissistic.

[@MsDianneMaryWilkerson]

The Bible says that no one seeks God and only God’s wisdom can help everyone love and have self control over the flesh This means that no matter who you’re in a relationship with it’s never going to be God’s will for anyone’s life it’s their own will trying to force God to bless their own will not His and He will never put someone’s will before His Every single relationship will always end with regrets,wasted time, energy becoming disappointed in themselves and everyone else

[@Katebebe1]

"Who she is to him" is relative. Whoever she is to him makes him accept her inadequacies.

[@broco6608]

"Nurtures me, empowers me, helps me to grow, supports me"; sounds the same as "what a woman does for a man". Thank God I know better than to be a "ride or die chick" to a man I'm not married to. Easy peazy.

[@FeminineVibez]

You caught that too? He literally said it’s not what you do, but what you are to him…..then turned around and said, you have to empower and nurture…..like that’s a whole contradiction

[@Sheisanangel0]

Women, just do for yourself. Do not do it if it does not benefit you.

[@jennibug973]

If he doesn't want you, it doesn't matter.

[@Chosenaire]

exactly

[@msllubin8]

I'm glad for this dialogue. I'm married and it's nice to get a different perspective. I may not necessarily take all the advice but helps me to realize maybe there something I can make better in the relationship. Vice versa of course

[@Bloquita5]

“Nurtures me. Empowers me. Helps me to grow.” 🤔 But here’s a question. Is he nurturing her, empowering her, helping her grow?

[@MonochromaticBlues]

in my experience the unspoken rule is that its mostly one sided and benefits the man in most cases thats why so many of them get angry wives when its time for divorce...all because of selfishness

[@Acombhair]

Hell nah 😂😂😂

[@Tionaintown876]

Crazy part when you nurture and uplift him and then when he’s afraid of commitment you ask why are he asks you what you do for him 😂 eluding to not buying enough things. Bro men are wild

[@gemini2in1]

Are you sure you nurtured and uplifted him the way he would want to be or to what he needed to be or the way you felt he should be and the way you wanted to nurture and uplift. And he probably didn't commit because it was still something missing... Probably not from you but from him.

[@Tionaintown876]

@@gemini2in1 In my situation I tried to do it in the way I thought he wanted and needed. However because I knew where he stood on the commitment part (he didn’t want marriage), it was hard to be my best self in a relationship where I did not feel secure. Without having your needs met as a woman it is difficult to be your true self 100% due to the insecurities.

[@gemini2in1]

@@Tionaintown876 what do you mean by security by marriage. Why do you think you needed to be married for him to keep you?

[@Tionaintown876]

@@gemini2in1 When I’m ready to have children and start building my family we will be unified in marriage. I don’t intend to have children while still checking the “single” box on forms

[@pimphandstrong6620]

​@@gemini2in1 see that's it right there, they think they're doing what's needed but most of the time no, because they really don't know what we want

[@Victoria-qk3mu]

Just go whole heartedly for God And live in peace

[@24kchefkimmy43]

That’s a whole level of understanding we women have not mastered. We equate pouring in as what we will get back. 😔