The biggest human prejudice I know of

[@petermarinatos9475]

I have been working with people with intellectual disabilities and mental health issues for close to twenty years now. All of my clients have have exhibited challenging behaviours of some kind. The attitudes reflected in the comments that you are responding to in this video are one of the biggest reasons it is so difficult for people like my clients to find communities that will accept them. People will often open a space or group to someone with special needs thinking that it will be a magical, heart-warming experience. They don't understand the work it can take for that person to be successful. When things go badly, they ask the person to leave. This happens over and over again. I often think of my clients as gurus. They teach me who I really am. When someone strips away your patience, your feelings of personal safety, your sense of knowing what to do, exhausts your empathy, etc.- who are you in that moment? That is the person you need to work on making a better person. The job is not always that challenging of course, but it sometimes is. It is good to see someone talk about this issue in an open and honest way. Thank you.

[@RamseyDewey]

I really appreciate this very candid response! I love the part about how people think it’s going to be a magical, heart warming experience when the reality is, so often, it is the test you described that reveals your true character by stripping away our persona.

[@petermarinatos9475]

@@RamseyDewey Another thing you mentioned in the video is parents sending their kids away to homes. These days my work is as much counseling for parents as it is direct work with clients. I feel it is important to mention that in many (perhaps most) cases, this is not the parents choice. Families that have money or access to funding will often be able hold on to their children into adulthood; especially those who have higher functioning children who are capable of semi-independent living. What they don't get to do is stop being parents in any respect. Their kids don't usually move out, very rarely get a job that can sustain them, etc. At some point these parents get old, and are no longer able to take care of them. Sometimes their adult kids can get by in a subsidized housing arrangement with various types of workers coming by to help them out; sometimes they can't. The other possibility is that families don't have the money or access to funding to bring in therapists, or to cover complex medical needs. These families often have their children removed by the state and placed into group homes. There are of course, people with autism and other special needs who none of this applies to, who are able to have jobs and families, and who none of what we are discussing applies to.

[@theprodigalson4003]

Yours comment alone has made me better. I hope I can continue to be. Thankyou for sharing

[@robertsutherland6162]

​@RamseyDewey I'm not able to comment apparently, so I'll put this here. Canadian Jean Vanier once said, that seeing a disabled person makes you see the disability in yourself. That's why many people are uncomfortable around them.

[@RamseyDewey]

@ KZbin won’t let you leave comments?

[@christianpisetta5399]

Hate the sin, love the sinner. Thank you Ramsey

[@pedrotenoriomendes]

I have a friend that asked me if he could stay at my house for a while. In the first hours that he stayed here, I noticed that he became schizophrenic. He was very paranoid, and thought everybody was against him. It was a very hard time. He disappeared for a couple of days and when he came back , he didn't tell me where he was. I tried to get help for him , but he refused to recognize that he had a problem. I had to send him away. It's no easy thing to deal with mentally disabled people. I wish I could have helped my friend.

[@Domzdream]

I’m sorry to hear about your friend. There’s nothing worse than being inside your own prison cell you can’t get out of. Really unfair. I hope we have technology someday that’ll ‘zap’ away these ailments, for them to become as easy to fix as the common cold. I have a friend of mine who has this friend with schizophrenia. He’s been to my flat for a get together, a really awesome! guy. Talent at playing the guitar which I suck at. Super smart. But after a while you start noticing their paranoia. He wasn’t going on and on about it but for a while he spoke about being inside an actual Matrix system. The last I heard of where he is today, I think he’s homeless somewhere out there. I wish only the best for him. I really feel for people like this.

[@RamseyDewey]

I had a roommate a lot like that in college. These things are much more common than a lot of people realize.

[@enterthebruce91]

​​@@RamseyDeweyRamsey I love your content my dude! I'm 33 and I have mild Cerebral Palsy myself but Bruce Lee was the one who sparked my interest in Martial Arts, as the years have gone by and my function has declined somewhat (though I can still walk unaided I can no longer run as I suffer from increasing muscle fatigue, leg pain and muscle contraction), so I'm hoping for surgery soon to improve my function and get back to somewhere where I used to be in life. You have the PERFECT voice for a film trailer voice over artist/audiobook narrator! Love from the UK, Sean 👊🏽🏴󠁧󠁢󠁥󠁮󠁧󠁿

[@dennismason3740]

I won't type out what parts of my body are "missing". Sometimes folk assume I'm a homeless drug addict due to the way I look. I'm 42 years clean and sober and I am a good man.

[@nickolasdesouza3610]

God bless you man. I've been accused of being homeless too because I go to a high class gym and don't have nice clothes or shoes. For a while I didnt have a car and someone took a video of me walking home in eain

[@dummy_kong]

I needed this. I have 3 boys. All born premature. The youngest having the hardest time, being born just barely over 1lbs (500g) and needing oxygen support for the first year of his life. My middle and youngest both could not eat early on and needed to eat through tubes in their stomachs. I struggled with this for years blaming myself, thinking they could never live a normal life. But now after seeing them grow despite everything fills me with so much hope and love, I can't ever truly express how grateful I am for them changing my perspective and putting my fears of failing as a father to rest.

[@ActionPopCast]

Ramsey, my son is registered as disabled due to Autism. My wife works in special educational needs, a field she was inspired to pursue because of our son. Her job gives us a deeper understanding of his needs and strengths, helping us appreciate all the more what a brilliant, intelligent, and uniquely loving child he is. Despite the label of disability, we count our blessings every day. If his behavior sometimes makes others feel uncomfortable, that's their problem, not ours. Our son deserves to be treated with the same respect and dignity as anyone else, and we fight daily to make sure he is. His unique view of the world is a gift, and we’re proud to share it, never hide it, just so others feel at ease.

[@2ezlopez689]

To be whole is a blessing, I won't waste it. Thanks Mr. Ramsey

[@khorneschosen7561]

Joe Frazier (one of my all time favorites) was blind in one eye and became World Boxing Heavy Weight Champion.

[@sincityinfinity6255]

You don’t know Joe Frazier stop lying

[@khorneschosen7561]

@@sincityinfinity6255 ??????

[@awanderer9966]

also his left arm was busted since a childhood accident

[@periodic98]

@@awanderer9966but it was busted in a way that he got probably the best left hook of all time

[@Hogibaer]

I would think one aspect which makes many "healthy" people uncomfortable dealing with "disabled" ones is the brutal and scary realization neither their own "fullness of limbs" nor their "normally working brain" is guaranteed or a given. For me the thought of losing even one of my eyes, a hand, or my legs is almost unbearable, if for the fear of being looked upon and judged by others for the rest of my life only by this disability. In this world we have a tendency to - by default - despise weakness, and to imagine we are weak in some areas w/o having the chance to rectifiy this situation though hard work, can be frightening to the core. This line of thought however is completely messed up and we can learn a great deal of joy and gratefulness from those who (supposedly) have been dealt lemons in life. And for those inner demons every man faces we all need a different kind of medicine anyway... 🙂

[@nickolasdesouza3610]

Yes, prayer and meditation through Jesus

[@aiyahuntacheimumbi236]

I have this same birth defect, mirrored. My left arm and leg are an inch longer than my right. My mother is the same way. Learning about Bruce Lee's solution helped my own training.

[@RetroMonkee]

Human beings can overcome any setback under the right circumstances, as evidenced by the channel "Special Books by Special Kids". There are millions of kids with a stronger spirit than most adults on earth. I want the "non-Ableists" to watch some of the more difficult videos on that channel from beginning to end and then tell me to "ignore disability". I am a Bruce Lee fan, but with common sense regarding his fighting ability, helps that I am 35 cm taller than him lol. I didn't know or completely forgot about his injury and leg. Makes me respect the man 4x more. Thank you Ramsey for all your commentaries. I feel they make me a better person. You don't make illogical statements and rarely some that I might slightly argue/add on to, regardless if I agree with them or not. Most importantly you don't spread hate like too many others do.

[@jaklumen]

Wonderful channel, and yet I freely admit I have great difficulty watching some videos. Perhaps it is at least some progress to confess that I am sometimes uncomfortable and I turn away because I am not always prepared to watch the individuals that are interviewed to behold their strength of spirit self. Someday I will overcome that, God willing.

[@RetroMonkee]

@@jaklumen I am uncomfortable too and I turn away as well, no doubts about it. They are so far away behind the screen and there is almost nothing I can do to help. In real life, it kills me because I can't communicate with a cerebral palsy kid I know. I think it shows empathy, not weakness or malice. I don't think it needs to be overcome, it is a normal feeling, maybe a combination of sadness and helplessness that comes from empathy. It is up to the person to act on it or not, whatever it may be. Nobody likes being helpless. And if you see someone helpless and you can't help them, empathy makes you helpless. To add to that, when people see their spirit they can either feel inspired or attacked in a way. I also want to say nobody is ever truly helpless and you can always do something to help others. Thank you for the comment, made me think :D

[@theadaptiveone]

This is by far , the very best video you have ever made. I have cerebral palsy and teach adaptive martial arts to others like myself and even albed bodied people as well. Thank you for this video!

[@DarrinKemp-lr1cz]

He overcame all of his physical shortcomings. That should be an example for everyone.

[@garfster]

As other people have pointed out, I think the issue was with the wording, or other people's perception of it. Alot of people use that type of wording to make fun of people with visible or hidden disabilities or imply that someone is doing something that's wrong or bad, which they also think disabilities are. I really loved this video. I am autistic and have been unaware/undiagnosed for almost my whole life, and it has made me struggle with life and relationships (platonic or romantic) and made me a target of bullying. I feel like socially and culturally accross the globe we get brought up to think of disabled people as some sort of homonculi, less than humans or bad or wrong and you are 1000% correct in saying that disabilities and even the mention of them make people super uncomfortable. Disabilities are socially so "vile" and "unnatural" that people don't want to hear about them. This video made my day. It made me feel seen, heard and human. Thank you for taking the time to talk about these things and for being kind and humane and treating people with disabilities with respect.

[@Travis-w6w]

You have a big heart and an empathy few do. God bless you Ramsey

[@jackslater5886]

I for one feel far more inspired by someone who overcame their own flaws than someone who never had any

[@jamesyamauchi5657]

Thank you, Ramsey. This is something that no one talks about.

[@BourneFighting]

I appreciate this so much. Im a diagnosed level 1 (lower support needed) autistic with ADHD and I know firsthand just how weird and uncomfortable people get at that revelation. I either get dismissed or people just start acting weird and distant. This forces me to hide parts of myself, hence the need to “mask.”

[@Bucephalus84]

At least you don't have a personality disorder

[@tambaz2276]

When did they start doing "levels"? 0_o first I'm hearing of that

[@ruffalo1643]

I grew up around disabled people, never saw them any different from normal people until I saw the wider world.

[@justinAclark2075]

I think this is a great example of why it's important for people not to film each other in general. It's always possible a person has a disability or just experienced something traumatic, and nobody online will understand the full depth of what was happening. South Park did an episode on the subject of inclusion without judgement, with Timmy as the vocalist for a metal band, unironically, because people just loved him and his confidence. So encourage people to take part in their own way, but don't record tidbits of events and pass it around for judgement. I had a friend named Jonah who did air guitar and wild vocals at an open mic with a pair of whitey tighties on his head. He got cheered off stage. Legendary

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

These rejects. Watch this show for the future lmfaooo00

[@Danielmach74]

I have asperg syndrome, during my growing up i had very a hard time around people. Social life was a nightmare, i have no idea of the many times i screwed things up with other people, and other people were also very nasty without me doing nothing, just being quiet and having a weird voice. I have being doing my best to get better, i got on muay thai, it was much more difficult because i just freeze for few seconds, somehow i won a state championship, i also became a writter and radiologist. My life is still hard, but i belive God Yahweh is giving me strengh. Your video made me very emotional.

[@mrsenkur613]

I am not officially diagnosed but more than likely I have ADHD and OCD(not very serious disorders but a disorder non the less) and I thank you for this video. I remember one coworker once told me well don't view that as bad, view it as an advantage. That's why I accepted it and I don't try to hide it anymore, whether is ADHD, OCD, Depression or an Injury from training and man it feels better. The fact that I can thrive and even have some advantage despite this disorders is inspiring. Btw I must admit when I saw that video I didn't think that guy had any disabilities and yeah it makes sense, I just wanted that girl to middle kick him without taking that into consideration. Probably because I tried to symphatize with a fellow martial artist, but also because I have ADHD as well I think the worst thing that can happen is getting interrupted while you are trying to be focused on something. I don't understand how can ADHD make you annoy other people perhaps he wanted to hit the bag as well and didn't have patience to wait, still tho didn't took that into consideration and I probably should've.

[@kenshoryu7889]

I used to get a lot of shit for my ADD as a kid. I still do. But back in high school I was very socially awkward and had trouble talking to girls. I unintentionally made a lot of them think I was a creep because of my anxiety and self loathing. Plus my inability to pick up social cues. Of course with time I learned and correct my faults but had I not had people in my life who believed in me. I'd probably still be in that dark, self loathing mindset now. Im glad I've been blessed with a good family and good friends. The world is unforgiving my friend.

[@pattyorigami]

This was exactly the video I needed to see at exactly the right time. Two nights ago I sustained a pretty severe knee injury that is going to need surgery and will have me out of commission for quite awhile. It's easy for me to slip into despair, but the message here gives me hope. Thanks, coach!

[@soysaucebananna]

I didn’t know these things about Bruce Lee. Thought I’ve heard it all since being a kid in the 80s. Pretty neat.

[@sryconn]

I have worked with special needs students and I have two brothers who are intellectually challenged. It’s not usual for someone with special needs to behave in a manner that is not socially acceptable. Not intentionally or with bad intentions. But it is what it is. I have also worked for over 30 years in the fitness industry. And it is very, very common for women who are minding their own business to be “coached” by men. These men have their own reasons for inserting themselves into this persons workout. Usually to pump up their own sense of self or to have an interaction with a female they find attractive. So I understand when people assume it’s the latter situation as it is far more common.

[@luzk1031]

Thank you for this video Ramsey. I've been learning just how much prejudice can deeply affect someone emotionally and mentally. Recently in the past few months, I befriended a really cool and talented dude who is very neurodivergent and has ADHD, Autism, and Borderline Personality Disorder. He struggles a lot in many social environments because of it, so me and my friends always try to do what we can to make him feel comfortable, safe and understood when he's around us. Big problem is that his family doesn't accept him the way he is, and they don't believe that he has anything like ADHD, Autism or BPD, they just think he's being "dramatic" most of the time, and they refuse to pay for any psychological exams or mental care treatment, because they don't believe its worth paying for "problems that don't exist." Whenever my friend tries to reason with them so that he can get any kind of help, they just shut him down and look the other way. Because of this, my friend feels constantly rejected and helpless at home, and it unfortunately resulted in him suffering severe mental meltdowns periodically and developing impulsive self-harming practices in moments of despair and aguish, which is worsened by his BPD whenever his most negative and self-destructive personality traits take hold of his fragile mental state. Ever since he became closer with me and my friends and we started to discover everything he is going through, we've been trying everything within our power to give him as much support as we can. We've been trying to go out with him as much as possible so that he can have fun and feel like he belongs, and we try to be good listeners whenever he has to get anything off his chest and talk about it. Whenever he goes through a meltdown or wants to harm himself, we try our best to give him reassurance and kindness in order to calm his emotions and defuse his negative thoughts and impulses, and fortunately, we were able to to avoid the worst-case scenario many times already. Unfortunately, his meltdowns seem to only be getting worse, and we know there might come a point where we might not be able to stop him from doing something too drastic if we are too far away to help, so we've already planned an emergency call for medical services directly to his address as an absolute last resort if everything goes to shit. I really hope we'll never have to make that call. People should care more. People should show more love and look out for each other better, even when someone screws up. Because bad stuff happens when they don't. All it takes to make someone's day better is a simple act of kindness. It's that simple.

[@Bucephalus84]

Bpd is caused by childhood trauma. My guess is that his family are the ones who traumatized him. The family won't acknowledge it bc the world won't. It can be a form of tough love albeit not good for every personality type. He is lucky to have you in his life.

[@seriouscat2231]

There are techniques to treating trauma, and as a rule most of them involve having an emotional experience that is moderated in some way and combined with some rational consideration of the situation. EMDR and "tapping" are such methods of moderation, but you must add some rational perspective, in cooperation with the patient, in suitable doses. BPD is also about fear of rejection and disappointment, and your attention might encourage this tendency by accident if what you're doing does not intentionally, in small steps, increase his tolerance to those.

[@HPTeguh]

Yuen Wah is also the landlord from the movie Kung Fu Hustle. I love that movie

[@TheFox-d3x]

I'll always appreciate you doing the right thing when it comes to the disabled my dad also worked with disabled people as well so in my family it's very important I'll always respect you for that

[@martialgeeks]

It does seem that people with mental Ilness, disabilities and special needs of all kinds are by far the most prejudiced against...it's either: "you look strange or disgusting" or "you're lying I don't see your illness"

[@jaklumen]

It seems for these, even having a loved one with such challenges is not enough for some people. Ramsey Dewey is LDS as I am, so it pains me to say the worst attitudes were the most obvious in my home ward congregation. Parents of kids with autism that could not seem to understand their kids, my autistic son, or autistic me. For 15-20 years, employed ward members could not understand that I was on disability, at least not until my spinal health issues were more obvious. It was usually the younger family men that did not understand, but not always. I could go on, but I won't. My wife and I have attended a neighboring congregation for a little over a year just to get away from the ignorance and even outright abuse.. which is a story unto itself. It is heartbreaking to realize people I think share the some values as I do are nevertheless quite cruel.

[@martialgeeks]

@jaklumen prejudice is horrible, as a high functioning autistic man I've been ignorantly called out many many times for "pretending to have something wrong with me" because it's "invisible" by the same people who turn their head away when they see "visible" illnesses, it's double standards nonsense with both standards being wrong, I feel you

[@sincityinfinity6255]

This is because there is a lot of people claiming mental disabilities but their just looking for attention

[@martialgeeks]

@@sincityinfinity6255 yes, but more often than not those who say that they're only staying vigilant to call out fakers end up doing more damage then good

[@sincityinfinity6255]

@@martialgeeks you’re most certainly right. It’s a losing situation to even try. It makes the person doing it look negative in a social way. The unfortunate reality is it exists though. I admire your honesty.

[@dacedebeer2697]

I remember I was griping to my uncle, may he rest in peace. I was 27 and had to go through a second cirgury on my ankle. My first I was 17, and had to stay a whole year on crutches, 4 months bedridden. This first cirgury had left me with chronic pain. I was not looking forward to going through it again. My uncle said something dismissive and called me a cripple. Hey f you I'm not a cripple, I replied. You're damn right. You are not. He proceeded to remind me that I was more than just a person witha bad foot. That it didn't define me. That the first didnt stop me and neither would this.I went through the cirgury, the tech was better the second tome around, so was the doctor. I recouped totally in 5 months. I am now nearing 40. Still have chronic pain, but I'm also at my peak. I had two amateur kickboxing fights in the last two years. Lost the first, learned from it and won the second against a more dangerous oponent. I believe we get these chalenges in order to step up to them. They make us better.

[@FireVasilisk]

Yo, big guy I appreciate your content for a few years I want to tell that idea of "disposing disable people" will never work Because we are people, and people love to feel supremacy There will never be enough of "disabling" things even after theoretically all people on Earth will be perfectly shaped It's called hypocrisy We just need to live with what we have, everything is important out there And try to never be a jerk, that's just nearly always not nice

[@Sbv-25]

Today i learned Bruce Lee had asymmetrical leg length and whose fighting stance is a result of that I almost lost my left middle finger from a squat accident. My finger got caught between the barbell and the rack, splitting the finger longitudinally. Fortunately it got sewn back together. I have a scarred middle finger but it’s functional, though a bit uncomfortable to touch with The thought of not having a pristine finger anymore bothers me a lot. But it is what it is God give us strength

[@somethingsomethinggr]

That part about the challenging behaviours associated with some special needs people acting out is something most people aren't even remotely aware of. I have a younger brother with leukodystrophy and epilepsy. He's always been exceptionally strong for his age and can get extremely aggressive when under stress or if it gets too hot (high body temperature being of the triggers for his seizures). I was one of the primary carers for him when he was younger (he requires at least two people to be looking after him at all times) and whilst he wasn't always difficult, when he would act out he would bite, scratch, pull hair hit, kick and headbutt. One thing I learned is that even with his limited communication skills, he would usually respond better to being treated like a normal child. He likes to run around, listen to music, dance and play in parks. He had one school teacher who specialised in teaching children with complex special needs who was able to handle him better than any other person I've seen. She used to treat him like he was her own child.

[@swankmank]

i think the concept of free will becomes to intoxicating for most people "if i can use my pure unwavering power over myself in a "good" way and you do it in a "bad" way i can identify you as a "bad" person, but the brain isn't so simple, mutation degeneration, brain damage, experiences give people negative differences , peoples sense of accomplishment and worth always gets in the way of empathy, when the reality is the prime differences between them and the people they judge is their brains are different, its really easy to jerk ourselves off when we are blessed with neurochemical stability, good brain function that quells our problematic impulses for us without actually having to build up our morals and coping pathways

[@vaarkobke3102]

Does anyone know where I can find the mentioned video?

[@rauldelarosa2768]

As an uncle of a special needs young man..i feel every word you said Ramsey.. Btw i love your shirt. God bless.

[@shizanketsuga8696]

I think one of the biggest factors was the neutral way you worded your observation. You said it yourself: most of the comments were emotional, judgmental. So, it stands to reason that people who read your comment were already primed to see something that was anything but neutral, and depending on their own disposition they would project onto your comment the intention to either make excuses for the dude's behaviour or to make an ableist joke at his expense, because they assumed that you were exaggerating and not really wondering. Contributing to that is probably that most people wouldn't recognise how much the dude's kicking really sucked, so they wouldn't get how it could actually be a serious consideration that he's special needs. But still, the thought that at least some of the sub-commenters felt uncomfortable about being reminded that the dude might actually not be _just_ a jerk motivated by toxic masculinity is not unreasonable either, and you took that as a launching point for a very thoughtful video with an important message, so that's a win in my book. Thanks, mate!

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

Toxic masculinity is what made this planet great. Not a bunch of feminine men like you running around. Worried about your nails breaking

[@Howitisntmade]

I watch this channel when I need to get to sleep. It takes 30 minutes of content to convey 30 seconds of message.

[@RamseyDewey]

Summarize this video in 30 seconds. Go.

[@steffanofumo]

Tell me about it, I’m always shocked at the general ignorance and the inability of people to recognize individuals with mental disabilities, people default to wanting to call someone a A-hole, and someone saying “we don’t claim him” is truly abhorrent because mental and physical disabilities are incredibly varied and can present themselves in countless ways.

[@jaklumen]

Amen, Reverend; I'm still sitting in the choir row, but yes indeed, tell me about it. Lived it and I can't ignore it in the least bit. I have fallen outside people's expectations so many times and some get quite upset as such, especially when I point out that I have been "them" as well as "us" and I exist in the middle of their dichotomies.

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

In Greece we called it the reject pile

[@afightersdream]

Ramsey, absolutely roasting someone with genuine concern, is on brand.

[@SavageEntertainmentYEAH]

Social media posts are terrible at this where a video is opposed by random pages with no context or caption and the comments are regular people being absolutely horrible to people who didn’t choose to be disabled. When did being nice be the wrong choice? I’d like to see some positivity around the world again.

[@andymax1]

I think I’ve seen that video, never bothered to read the comments. There is always someone who has a need to provide unrequested citicism, that is perhaps just an acquired behaviour on their part based on their own self importance or perhaps they have special needs, so tact is always required.

[@ApothecaryTerry]

I feel like part of this is about the wording of a comment. A comment that says "I genuinely can't tell if this guy is disabled" could be, as it clearly was, a genuine question. However, it could also mean "I don't think he's disabled but haha he looks like it" - we know it's not that, but on the internet, which is the more common sentiment? Not that it doesn't support the general point either way, but I can certainly see why people would interpret the comment in that 2nd way. It's not them being biased, it's them making a valid interpretation of the comment, based on the wording. That is, of course, based purely on the way it's read in this video. I assume it's an exact quote. That's just about the wording of the comment in context though, the rest...yeah. I guess I don't need to say who I agree with in that debate, I'm subbed here, not wherever that other video is! This is quite a good example of why "woke" became a derogatory term. Defending those who need it, questioning bias and soon; those are good things. Sadly, people see anyone saying anything other than extreme, blind, uninformed positivity and somehow can't accept the nuance or complexity of a topic so they simply become part of the problem. Just stop oil...by making cars sit there burning it...the easiest example to mock. "There's a problem, lets fight the people who could possibly help it, without giving them the time to find out if they are helping or not." In the case of that video, if he wasn't just a jerk, then whoever posted the video was - since they've put that person online to take that abuse. One of the 2 of those people is in the wrong, along with all the people commenting with the abuse, obviously. If someone has no diagnosed disability, but doesn't have a social understanding of that situation, what's the difference? That he would be capable of understanding if someone taught him not to do that, probably. If he doesn't understand that already though, is that entirely his fault? Perhaps, I'm not condoning his actions, but there's always nuance. Edited because I have no (diagnosed or relevant undiagnosed) special needs, I'm just rubbish at typing accurately 😄

[@RamseyDewey]

You mean how young people no longer know what basic words mean? Eg: they think literally means figuratively, and “genuine” means “disingenuous”? And hot means cold? And dog means cat? And man means woman? And serious mean trivial? And good means evil? And evil means good?

[@ApothecaryTerry]

@@RamseyDewey Yes, that's exactly what I mean 😄 I'm not saying it's not ridiculous, but it does appear to be how things are.. I think it's highly likely that some, if not all those responses you got may have been genuinely interpreting your comment as an attack on that person, even if it clearly wasn't. That's entirely on them, I'm simply analysing the potential motive for their reaction.

[@seriouscat2231]

Part of the phenomenon must be that irony and sarcasm sound smart and thoughtful, draw attention and sound like a challenge, and since so many use them so constantly, it has become a default way of reading.

[@ApothecaryTerry]

@@seriouscat2231 You're attributing far more intelligence to the root cause than I was, but I hope you're correct as that would be a far more positive thing than my hypothesis that those people simply wanted to make a point against someone, so they read the comment the way that suited them. Sadly, I've seen enough cases where I know the latter version is true, hence I assume it's more likely to be the case everywhere. On the plus side, since I do love to turn things into a debate/discussion, I'm setting my expectations low enough to be pleasantly surprised on a moderately regular basis.

[@seriouscat2231]

@@ApothecaryTerry, sorry, my bad. I intended to say irony and sarcasm often just give the appearance of smart and witty without actually being so. So when a person says something actually thoughtful and intelligent, it gets interpreted as being just ironic and sarcastic.

[@stefangurguriev1047]

Hey Ramsay, years ago you spoke about an 80-year old Tai Chi master Wu Dao Shue (I‘m probably butchering everything in his name), who was very skilful and also fit and manhandled a bunch of you guys. In light of the recent Tyson-Jake Paul shenanigans many people were dismissing Tyson and saying he was too old and incapable, so I remembered your story and found it very inspiring. Can you remind us of the story and enlighten us that strength and skill shouldn’t diminish with age necessarily? Old doesn’t always mean infirm :)

[@wilsimpson9170]

I find a lot of people still whisper "cancer", "special needs", etc., because they're fearful. A lot of times they're the only ones who can be counted on to actually speak up about what they see, so I'll take their observations/suggestions just as seriously. From my experience, the positive attitude/heart they show is typically misunderstood by the fearful (and maybe the jealous). I used to teach "fitness" martial arts and shocked people by tooling a class to include someone who was chair-bound but could still raise their arms and action pretty good head movement. He was happy as hell that he was able to break a sweat, learn to be a difficult target to hit, and strike back (even if it was just on a heavy bag). I wish there were more people with the "let's do our best" attitude than the "only do if you're the best" attitude.

[@Xzontyr]

I have a friend that as of recently quit doing most of his grappling, and is more so focused on stand up striking due to his limitations. He's got a bad knee, not to your degree, but also a shoulder and hand issue that limits his grappling ability alot. Some people have told him to just stick to ground fighting, but oddly enough, thats where alot of it flares up, and he doesn't feel like being tossed anymore. So he's focused alot on mixing different striking arts, aswell as practicing a bit of counter grappling, and force redirection. Not like aikido but without actually grabbing onto someone, and just using the basic principles of it, that are also found in many other grappling arts. It's actually a fairly fun drill to do that some seem to think is a ridiculous waste of time, but unfortuantly don't see the practicality of it. Much like side stepping speed. There is no easier, and faster way to take a guys back, than when he goes for a high double and you deflect, step, and hook, all within a second. I could be wrong, but just from my experience. But ya, we put on the 16's, and than just practice going in for some sort of grapple, similiar to sanda or muay thai. He's got some interesting theories, like when able, trying to deflect starting on the far side with the back side of the forearm, that way even if they grab that arm, and attempt a drag with it, its fairly easily to break with the inside one, and you wont be off balanced. Sort of like the wax off outside block, or grip break as you noted Ramsey with the karate counter grappling, only the wax off isn't breaking a grip, but deflecting a grapple. Aikido is such a odd art that could of been good in some ways. Taking the force from a punch is unrealistic, unless the person throws movie style haymakers and put their mothers baked bread into it apart from just their entire body. A punch is still very controlled by that person. To think you can redirect and control that force to the point of it becoming a grapple is crazy. I think it's better if a person just practices the basic theories of redirecting force. Benny the Jet actually has a book on it, and some may think the book is at a novice level of a read, but he actually has a few, not many, good points on how to understand and deal with force in a few scenerious that i think every martial artist should know. It can be alot more complex than what we simply see and think. I'm perfectly fine training with my buddy that knows his limits, even though i pressured him a bit to keep on with the grappling, but he knows his limit and any friend of his should respect that. He considered practicing take downs on just other people while standing, but he doesn't feel right dishing them, and not taking them, so he's just strictly a striking stand up guy i guess you could say. People have judged him for it though suprisingly, telling him to start taking up karate or something. He laughs at that, and says he would, but he can't do lunging punches because of his knee. His kicking is a bit done aswell, and it's just a tough truth. People might call it weak, or see it as giving up, but really, the true weakness is not accepting, or trying to understand that person, and whats right for them. If they are still trying to do what they love, and haven't given it up completely, than that obviously tells you something about them.

[@P1015532oni]

I was an Army Infantryman that deployed to Afghanistan. For those few years in my life, I was, in fact, disposable. I’m not saying this from a place of self-pity or self-loathing. But yes, I’ve been to a place where the value of life, including my own, was so little. It was a dark time, it took nearly a decade to get over it.

[@RamseyDewey]

It has always deeply disturbed me how often throughout history old men who have never experienced mortal danger have been so ready and willing to send young men to die on their behalf. You are a hero to me, my friend.

[@JohnRice992]

Genesis 32:27 The man asked him, “What is your name?” “Jacob,” he answered. 28 Then the man said, “Your name will no longer be Jacob, but Israel, because you have struggled with God and with humans and have overcome.” I was born with my right ear being completely ineffective, 100% no hearing in my right ear. My left ear compensated. At age 18 my doctor would tell me and my mother that I was hearing, with my left ear, in the Dog range. But here is the catch, I never have and never will be able to know what Stereo sound is. I have ZERO directional hearing. I must rely on my sight most often, even when talking to some, I use visual cues sometimes to decipher what someone says to me when I don't quite catch what they say. Too often I hear this phrase, "You heard me, I didn't stutter." And I am left not knowing what has been said because no one understands that I can't hear. But like the name Israel, we all have struggles to overcome, Life itself is a huge struggle.

[@HotHeadGio-y5t]

John Danaher have a deformed knee but still worked as a bouncer and become a world class submition grappling/mma coach,a perfect example of limitations breed creativity.

[@johndrake5467]

So... I'm a Bruce Lee fan and I think this is one of your best commentaries.

[@youngman850]

Praise God, for the meek shall inherit the earth. Love to hear you talk Ramsey, thanks for this.

[@lihchong2267]

Interesting point about that guy having adhd. I have many friends who have adhd, and most would have openly complained about that guy's behaviour. But then i had one friend in my teens who had adhd who absolutely would have acted out like that at the time. I saw him showing off in similar ways from time to time.

[@manualbreathing1stform]

i truely wish everyday, that all people would have that level of compassion, for all things, and to just try to better understand the world around us. it would just be nice wouldnt it, if we lived this harsh world together, it wouldnt be so hard.

[@ehellsword2]

5:49 I think I know the video you are talking about because I literally saw a similar video with the same comments yesterday. Crazy.

[@TomTom-sm7il]

I work with people who have disabilities so they can live independently on the community. I agree, there is a strong tendency to sweep them under the rug.

[@Qtip855]

Ramsey……you’re the effing man! We love you dude❤️

[@BigBadBingSu]

I recently worked in a Special Needs center in China and the lady who ran it told me that over the last few years they've have to move 4 or 5 times. The public complained and harassed the owners of the center because they found the special needs people there to be noisy, inappropriate and generally unpleasant. They now live in a rural, dilapidated, depressing bit of land about an hour from Xi'an. Pushed further and further away from the general public as possible. Just sad really...

[@RamseyDewey]

Yeah, and that is a perfect example of the problem as a whole of “out of sight, out of mind”. Bless you for being willing to help!

[@sergioestrada7459]

I remember 8 years ago, I was exercising at the gym with my headphones on and a woman was looking at me the wrong way because I was a bit too loud with the deadlifts. Mind you, it was on an Olympic platform at Power House gym (the largest dumbbell there is 200lbs) . She complained about it to her trainer and I overheard him say "oh don't mind this guy he's autistic" I did my best in refraining from slapping this guy. To this date, I don't have any mental illnesses, but there IS a prevalent stigma against special needs population. Look at the ADA compliance in America and how many establishments do NOT accommodate to people with disabilities. I had a student with cerebral palsy and I would have to carry him 3 flights of stairs, just to get him to jiujitsu practice. So yes, indifference, ignorance and dispossession for people with disabilities is REAL.

[@ajwall1]

In my experience being legally blind, people only respect the disabled if your that one in a million story. That guy that did the impossible even with xyz disability. Man I'm just trying to live a normal life im not trying to umpress you all just to deserve some basic respect

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

You would be my lookout!

[@ashtraydekay6624]

Love the shirt, i am currently playing New Vegas for the first time, also...great video

[@josephsk8737]

When i saw your tshirt for a moment i thought you were going to talk about gamers being the most oppressed minority

[@unstoppabletigertalukan6710]

Martial arts related question (shocker right? There are three questions people ask when they want to learn how to fight And they go in this order How to disarm a gun How to disarm a knife How to beat someone strong So why aren't there martial arts centered around these questions Just mcdojo demos The demand is clearly there

[@seriouscat2231]

If you sell a guarantee that what you teach will be effective in a real situation, then in two different cases you'd be in trouble: When it works, and when it doesn't.

[@unstoppabletigertalukan6710]

@seriouscat2231 I am talking about a disarm centric sport like MMA or all the other combat sports So think ,two guys wrestling for a stick or a fake gun/weapon

[@chriswalker7632]

TL:DR - my question is in the paragraph towards the end, starting with 'Q)'; I've been thinking about another hot button topic (you won't have to guess what it is...) - I have an interesting constructive way of looking at it though, that actually relates to this video about disabilities in a way. But I didn't want to just randomly ask someone like yourself (I have watched quite a bit of your content before though) because honestly I am not really a martial artist. Watching this video though, I feel like I have at least some license because I practice (every day) martial arts forms and conditioning exercises - I do it for physiotherapy because it keeps it interesting and it is also effective (I started off with Tai Chi, experiencing the trauma-inducing pain of just knives in my joints - I had no choice but to do it slowly, and then basically pass out when I was done). Anyway, on to the Question I have - if you would be interested. This question is about 'Men in Women's sports' or 'Men vs Women in sports' - however you want to describe it. I know, I know - just throw yourself to rabid the wolves of cancellation why don't you. But this, in a way is the problem - we've kind of forgotten, I think, 'Politically', what we are even asking or are upset about (I'll get to this at the end with a separate but related question that you may not be able to answer - maybe no-one can?). I am well aware of the differences between Men and Women. But I just want to focus on one difference as a jumping off ramp, that would in concept I think be the same for all the other differences (even if they are harder to quantify). 'Body Fat' is the difference I am focusing on. I think we all know that Women have on average 10% more body fat than Men - this includes in athletics. But I never really connected this to athletic performance until recently, when I actually did the, actually very simple (though I am not an expert), calculations for Momentum and Kinetic Energy (important for Sprinting and Striking I believe). Basically, if two people, who are otherwise exactly the same, but with one of them having 10% more body fat, are compared with each other. One of them will have exactly a 10% difference in Speed and Kinetic Energy compared with the other - assuming they start with the same Momentum (think the recoil of a Gun has the same Momentum as the Bullet being fired - but the Bullet has more Kinetic Energy, a lot more... You can think about this in more intuitive ways to athletics, but you get the same answer in the end). Q) So after all that, my question would be: would it be in 'The Spirit of Competition' to have these two people competing in weight classes that took into account this (theoretical) 10% difference in performance, rather than them just being classed the same because they had the same overall body weight? - this then relates to 'disabilities' I suppose. The other question relating to 'Politics' gets us away from the obsession with 'Labels' and instead asks the ACTUAL Political question: does somebody run 10% slower because they have 10% more body fat (Political Right - I believe anyway), or, does somebody have 10% more body fat because they run 10% slower (Political Left - I believe anyway - it would involve the conscious action of their 'motor-sensory cortex' to run slower, maybe I don't know? involving 'free will') - it is a question about 'Causality' as much as 'Politics', but 'Pragmatically' we could just say "Eh - I don't know?". Cheers :)

[@TripleMHimself]

I have some difficulties that make life a very different matter for me compared to the average person. When it comes to disabilities which are not immediately apparent, equality and understanding are decades behind. I confess to not having yet watched the video but I saw the subject and wanted to make a post. Perhaps that's a little strange, but I only tend to focus on things much in the evening, so will watch, with full attention, later on. 🙏

[@gadlicht4627]

Thank you. I see people espousing "progressive ideals" but ignoring this happens right in their backyards and they ignore it, make excuses, or are in denial. Then I see some people think that people can suddenly be undisabled or blame the disabled for their disability etc. I have many disabilities and I am either treated as an infant or do not get help.

[@Fwibos]

As a guy who plays all video games on God Mode, Uh...

[@ApothecaryTerry]

If you suck at games, it can still be challenging 😁 Not everyone plays games for the challenge either, often there's enough challenge elsewhere in life that games are meant to be a relaxing escape, so challenge can just be irritating and stressful. I know you weren't making a serious point, but it popped into my head and it's always worth recording the rare occasions on which that happens 🤣

[@kalibkukus8888]

Lately I haven’t been seeing your videos in my feed I had to go to your channel because I was wondering what has Ramsey been up to

[@nickkapalo4881]

Thank you Ramsey. Good rant!

[@WinterSon91]

That is crazy I didn't know his left leg was shorter. My left leg is also shorter, and I prefer fighting with my right leg forward! My body also twists easier to the right than to the left. I wouldn't call it a disability though

[@SnabbKassa]

My problem with progressivism is not just that it's a variable and personal definition of progress that they seek. It's that progress as many of them define it is impossible. Every person being nice, pleasant, paying their taxes cheerfully and always using the CORRECT 5 or 6 syllable word in every situation is a standard that most humans will not reach even in another 100 years. Are the goalposts they set and supposed to inspire, or are they set so that so many people can be judged for having failed to meet them? Goalposts which move almost every few weeks. Humans today are no different to the people who evolved to survive in Africa at the start. We can't be improved.

[@mariusreinecker1556]

Well, that was a wild ride. From Bruce Lee to coprophilia. Great video, though.

[@MrJuliano14]

Everybody is treating everybody like a therapist is treating a kid, and a lot of them don't understand the world that we live and its such a hecking cancerous combination. They thing they are doing the right thing, or at least they want the moral high ground but they only slap a shit.

[@livefree1030]

Everyone has a disability

[@joekchicago]

Ramsey, I'll be waiting for YOUR response video on the Jake Paul-Tyson fight. Another MORE INTERESTING topic would be the Ramsey related response on how a Trump victory in the POTUS election will affect you there in China.

[@RamseyDewey]

I recorded my thoughts on the Paul/Tyson fiasco 8 months ago: kzbin.infooqPGYIGfIWA?si=_5OjAu0ruDsOr5dz Nothing has changed there.

[@randyhetlage9202]

God bless ya Coach..👍🌹

[@danielkjh8]

yeah, I know quite a lot of my friends have their own physical and mental disabilities. the amount they have to spend on disability aids is criminal for what they get, and people that seem to disregard the impairments they have because it's convenient for them. then there's the people that baby them and not let them have any kind of independence. people moving them in their wheelchairs without asking. I do not let this happen when i'm with them, but it's kinda hard when i'm not there since i'm only one person

[@Xzontyr]

Hey there Dewey. It would be early morning there. Not sure if you'll see it in time, but any thoughts on the Tyson Paul fight? Bout to start in 7 mins.

[@sincityinfinity6255]

Bruce Lee was an actor. Arguably the best actor of all time.

[@Danetto]

fallout really is a great story in the show xd

[@zedusan2141]

Thanks for this video coach! Really got me thinking. I do wonder, you said that there were no disposable human beings. How then do we deal with someone who seems so morally corrupt that nothing we do will ever change them? (Is this related to disability? It could be, I guess, I'm not sure). I'm still a young adult and I've yet to meet people that are truly the lowest of the low, but I notice that I tend to hold grudges. Silent grudges, but still grudges. I can see myself dehumanizing those that seem morally corrupt to me, to the point of wishing severe punishment on them. Of course, I would never do such a thing, but the thought of it appears in my mind. I'm not religious, and most likely will never be, but I do like taking a dive into it every now and then. Thanks

[@RamseyDewey]

If the worst of the worst isn’t redeemable, neither am I. I have to believe that. I think Jesus said it best, as recorded in Matthew 5: “Ye have heard that it hath been said, Thou shalt love thy neighbour, and hate thine enemy. But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you; That ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust. For if ye love them which love you, what reward have ye? do not even the publicans the same? And if ye salute your brethren only, what do ye more than others? do not even the publicans so? Be ye therefore perfect, even as your Father which is in heaven is perfect.” Religion is what you do. It’s how you live your life. It’s not a set of beliefs in an old traditional story. Your religion is how you live. Everyone is religious. Not everyone’s religion is productive.

[@terencejeffries5359]

how do all? we're all disabled at birth and usually death. we're all disabled emotionally, [ ie armband after a death ], intellectually and physically to various degrees. we're all disabled of quest till training nullifies imperfections. taztez

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

That's how you neanderthals get born. Greeks are born different. We're gods

[@brucetsai7732]

sorry to hear that. sue ultimate self defense championship!

[@FrozenLemur]

Michael Jackson was chemically castrated. That song 'Billy Jean' hits different when you realize it can't be his son.

[@ertiikus]

Hey Ramsey, do you ever visit Hong Kong? If you ever hold any classes, events, or seminars here, I'm sure a lot of us here would love to come

[@RamseyDewey]

I have only been to Hong Kong once. I might visit again at the end of December, but I’m not sure yet.

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

And make fun of the white monkey? Because that's what you call Caucasians in Asia. Right?

[@michaelgrossman7515]

I like Big Foot Wallace too . From same reason .

[@xpallodoc1147]

I didn’t know he was disabled. I also get some people perhaps believe chuck boris and Bruce Lee or who ever is invincible.

[@vilingor9631]

Hello Ramsey, great videos, thank you for sharing your knowledge and experience. I have a question, my question regards anger.. as far as I understand it anger in a fight can make the angry person to misjudge, to become predictable and make more fatal mistakes.. but is there also a positive side to anger? Is anger useful.. if channelled correctly.. to increase strength, speed, and more easily withstand the fiscal pain. Hello from central Europe Bosnia and Hercegovina. Take care.

[@RamseyDewey]

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[@vilingor9631]

@@RamseyDewey thank you for the video link, I have already seen the video and it"s a great one, great story, so honest and humble. I always wondered why dogs bark at each-other when there is a fence in the middle but then they cool down when the fence is not there, and you answered that question for me. Thank you. But, in your video you are talking about anger as a strategy before the fight.. my question is about anger/rage within the ring.. so , within the ring, is anger an advantage or a hindrance. Any way, have a nice day, take care.

[@Mokujinko]

Your perspective is quite nuanced and at times difficult to parse. I don't disagree with anything you said here but at the same time you seem frequently unsympathetic to the difficulties and barriers others may face, frequently telling 'snowflakes' to 'suck it up' and so on. Boo hoo life is hard get a grip etc. Which disabilities are worthy? If a person has, for example, a pathological demand avoidance that makes it hard for them to train however much they may want to what would you advise? How about someone who is overweight and simply can't motivate themselves to get in shape and with no history of physical culture? Such people - the body positive types who are often morbidly obese, in deep denial and who are clearly suffering mentally as well as physically, ill-served by ideological traps they have fallen into. Why don't they deserve sympathy and compassion? Had they been socialised differently and had different influences they may well have been training under you. Despite your own disabilities, differences, however you prefer to quantify them, you do have advantages and yes, privileges, provided by your background. You were set an incredible example by your relatives and learned admirable resiliency and adaptability. They contributed to the way you contextualise the world and your experiences of it. So why do you consider some lazy and weak where others get a pass? Where's the line? I put it to you that certain disadvantages make you uncomfortable too, and you have a tendency to dismiss them in turn because they are antithetical to your own views and experiences.

[@RamseyDewey]

I have never once in my life told “snowflakes” to “suck it up.” Sorry, I stopped reading right there.

[@ryanhorner3908]

Should have continued ​@@RamseyDewey

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

Who cares Go complain to your parents for giving birth to a reject

[@HarryTzianakisTheGodOfSpeed]

First cousin marriage is coming to an end in America. All 50 states are going to end first cousin marriage and people like you will not exist anymore

[@seriouscat2231]

@@ryanhorner3908, I read through the entire comment. He kept again and again trying to provoke Ramsey to respond by imagining him as some big tough guy strawman. Ramsey would probably lose to him in sensitivity olympics and that wouldn't be a problem. But the way he constantly falsely accuses Ramsey of insensitivity hardly makes it a problem or a bigger win.

[@GrinningNimbus]

Ironic. The lady who accused you of ableism was in fact partaking in ableism.

[@bigruckus8664]

not related to this video, but how do you fight a bigger guy in an enclosed space where u can't take angles well or move around much. I would use elbows because I have barely trained grappling but will start again soon. What would you advise?

[@CamdenS-vm3tt]

Much wisdom love your videos

[@comso3632]

Hello sir, I have a question: I was sparring kick-boxing with a friend of mine and I connected a medium power straight right hand to his nose when he didn’t see it coming and I dislocated it. Afterwards I apologised profusely and we were talking and he spoke about how it seems that he has an aversion to hurting people ( this was his explanation as to why I wasn’t way more beaten up than he was) I.e. when he saw me standing there he just couldn’t ’let his hands go’ and fight me at his best technical capacity. I clearly do not suffer from a mental block like that as I have always found that I can let my hands go in sparring because the way I see it once you’ve stepped into the ring and touched gloves you’ve agreed to the risk. My question is do you think it’s worrying that in my mind I can be so quick to allow myself to hurt a human being by connecting punches to their face ?

[@mordecaisymeski2]

Hey vrother great FNV shirt

[@nickolasdesouza3610]

I appreciate the video bro!

[@TheOutdoorGamer1]

21:30 literally crying after that clapback

[@mattlo6657]

Hey, whereabouts do you teach MMA in Shanghai? Ill be over there in the summer and im just interested to see how far/close it is to myself

[@Fernando64239]

Given your injury, do you regret participating in the usdc? Do blame the event for not having proper medical assistance?

[@Docinaplane]

I guess only Tom Cruise does his own stunts, and Jackie Chan does most of his stunts.

[@WadeSmith-oe5xd]

I have a question about MMA rules. How do you feel about the fact unified rules just legalized some 12-6 elbows and grounded knee strikes again?

[@Xzontyr]

I'm very curious to see the coaches opinion on this. We didn't know about the grounded knees, bit we heard about the 12:6 elbows. Most guys did deviations of them, where it was more glancing as we know, but these are the actual Varlens people rememeber from early ufc, aswell as other bouts. Aslong as they keep the mo hawk protected, most guys think they're a great addition to bring back. We didn't even know about the grounded knees, however, I have my own thoughts and story about those. If used right, they are some of the nastiest strikes to use. You can set up some very dirty pins where it leaves the person incredibly vulberable to punishment. I was fairly young at the time, but about 14, 15 years ago, I knew a guy that had one of those "king of the streets" reputation. It's silly, but it was a thing in the lesser known fight circles. He had probably one of the most common, and yet most unusual nick names.. People just called him Johny. His real name being John. Big suprise, i know. It was said a certain way though, almost with a different dialect that people knew you were talking about Johny. It was said almost as if it was a question, and needed a question mark behind it if written. Johny didn't always have an easy life. Came from hard times. I dated one of his cousins around the time. He was the kind of guy with alot of stories of battle behind him. He most likely was on the spectrum aswell. He was also part of a group of boys that had a reputation to them as it was also. Being that he grew up in some hard times and in a rough neighbourhood, there was a Church program where an old boxer got together with a cop that knew Judo, and practiced takedowns and subdueing with other cops often, aswell as a retired wrestling coach that helpedt hem for a while. They had a very affordable program for young people in the neightbourhood to join. The program ended a long time ago sadly. Some of these guys turned and joined our sambo once the program was at it's end, and they did well since they essentially learnt a synthetic version of it, but without any jacket work, or kicking, elbows, or knee work. All of the young men that trained in it were known as being very formadible, with Johny making a name for himself out of them. Some of these guys with these silly ego king of the streets reputations have the goofiest stories, that might not be half true, and pretty soon they have laser vision, aswell as material phasing. Nobody talks about material phasing enough with super heroes, great power. Anyways. Johny didn't have phasing or laser vision, but as a young man I saw some of his fights. I also saw the fight he lost. If you were to ask anyone about Johny, they'd explain how he didn't understand or feel fear. Maybe he was a real psychopath, or just lacked it somewhere up there, but he fought with pure focus. He was also a giant slayer. They guy was only maybe 170lbs, but would take on guys easily over 200, and had height on him. So Johny was a capable fighter. One William Wallace tall tale sort of joke people use to make was that If Johny ever got hit with a bat, that they would feel sorry for the bat. They guy was known for taking a hit. So I got the idea on a bit of a high horse. With that you'd assume i'd go on to tell some tall amazing story about him defeating the thugs on the streets of rage, but no. Instead I'll tell that tale of his loss thats burned into my mind, simply by the way he lost. Johny's way of fighting was unique. He basically made you off balance yourself by chasing him. He was a master at a very basic judo throw. Osoto Gari. He did it the way he was trained to do it by the cop that worked with him. Their no gi version demanded the person having some arm strength, which Johny worked on for years. As mentioned, Johny wasn't afriad to side step and puch at the same time. Sometimes, expecting a reaction and counter, where he would than usually hit them with something worse. He usually would step to his right side and try get a jab in. Get them use to getting that guard up. Doing that two or three times, usually had a fellow boxer want to slip and try a cross on him, so he'd start ducking after the second or third. At that point, he'd Than go in and try frame and grab their right wrist with his left if they put their guard up again, and would go for his osoto gari, where he would pull out their arm, even if that meant straightening his first, and than leaning into it, and from their if some head movement was needed for their left, he would do so, and than step in and go for the reap, or even simple step in for a trip, with or without his righ pressing on their left shoulder or arm. He got some big guys down with such a basic throw by just focusing on controlling that right arm of theirs. Thats the thing about osoto gari. If that arm is out, you can essentually walk into that position for kuzushi with a guard up, and even push into them with the guard aslong as you maintain control of the arm and they don't have time or room to turn into it before you get your footing right. He would always go for a thumb down grip on their right. Even after they were down, he often tried to maintain control of that arm if he didn't already get a submission in. Pretty annoying when you don't have you right arm to play with, but they still have theirs. So that was Johny's thing. He was a good shot for shot boxer when needed to be, and he had great ne waza to. However, one night he had a pretty bad loss. Guy was an off duty cop apparantly, trying out his luck in the competition. Johyny was a good wrestler, but this guy got him in a bad position, and he lost in a way no one would of beleived. Might not be legal in mma if hitting the spine, but this guy didn't hit his spine. The guy got him on his side, and than essentially got Johny in side headlock, while also cradeling his top leg. With his neck bent forward, and his leg trapped, he couldn't do much for movement wise. The guy than started to knee his kidneys pretty hard. Johny tapped out to it just after a few. A good pinner with knees, is a dangerous fighter. That will change the game drastically. It wasn't an epic ko or submission, but thats on fight i will never forget. Those knees.