The BIGGEST lie we tell ourselves - it hurts

[@dianatower2165]

Amen. Last year I said this all the time “I don’t have time”. Then I got coaching in different areas of my life including mental toughness/performance. Allon helped me start working out 5x a week, meditating daily, writing content for my business daily, getting to bed early... Actually he challenged me to stop working at 5pm and start doing fun things. I told him that was impossible...but I agreed to try. After some moving things around I was shocked that I actually cool end my work day by around 5. That blew my mind. Our beliefs around time are so strong we rarely challenge them. Having someone to help you challenge them is a wonderful thing.

[@rachelsweets]

Diana Tower Yeah 😍😍😍😍

[@michaelyoung6211]

I was writing about his in my morning pages this morning. I feel I don’t have time but that’s a function of me screwing off and/or being busy vs. being productive during the day and then scrambling to get it all done at the end of the day. I also feel “I don’t have time” is code for I’m a perfectionist and afraid I can’t get it done perfectly. Which is a way we excuse ourselves from starting the hard things. I used to say I don’t have time to eat right and take care of myself. Yet in the last six months I’ve lost 45# and 9” around the waist from eating well and exercising. I also managed to get in 2 hours of ukulele lessons and 30 minutes a day of practice. I just needed to figure out where to take back my time. That’s how I started doing morning pages and now I am adding in my side hustle that I’ve thought about, and a talked about and not done anything about for years. If it isn’t on my schedule it doesn’t seem to happen. And I get more and more ruthless cutting out the timewasters that let me sit and complain about not having enough time.

[@richardharris5336]

Yes! So much truth here, thanks Derek. Get rid of the BS distractions, get rid of the excuses and START!

[@jonphillips1043]

“When we look at how we’re spending our time, we’re putting in the easy work.” That’s so true of me! I like small easy wins. And unfortunately, I tend to put that kind of work ahead of the big execution work as Derek mentioned. I sometimes tell myself I have no time. But it’s a lie. I have time. I just tend to spend it on empty, mindless tasks. Most of the free time i have could be using for growing my business, but it’s really common for me to sit back and coast. I tell myself I deserve to take a break... 3 hour evening breaks in front of the tv or scrolling through my phone. Unacceptable. I’m going to expect more of myself moving forward.

[@rkshorter]

I agree, the key is deciding what you truly WANT to do. I've blown through a ton of business ideas, toiling away my time at some or procrastinating & never doing others, and beating myself up about it, until I realized I was wanting to start another business for the wrong reasons. Now I'm looking to partner with an established company to do what I love with the people I want to help, and happily have enough time to do everything I truly want to do. Once you have the fire under you and the true passion for what you're doing, you'll show up every day.

[@jbrisland]

Thank you for saying this 😆 I am so guilty of this. I tend to waste time on things that aren’t even all that important to me.

[@LaraFrayre]

So true. As the quote goes, "ideas are cheap, execution is everything." A few months ago, I was drowning in work and had gotten frequently sick because of my lifestyle. Wake up, work, sleep. That was all I did. I didn't have time for social media, no time for friends, no time to do things for myself. That on top of a backlog of other tasks for my personal business. Needless to say, it was unsustainable, and I almost quit my job because I thought that I was going to die early if I stayed there (literally, because I was getting sick at least once a month). Thankfully, I had a wonderful mentor who asked me to take a good hard look about the real reason I was getting sick. Could it be self-sabotage? Could it be that because I was going beyond my usual limits, that I was snapping back to the comfort zone of putting in 8 hours a day, five days a week? Partly, yes. But I think it primarily had to do with feeling out of control with my time, which is the most important resource of all. I'm grateful that my mentor helped me reduce my daily workload so I can make time for exercise. And that alone was a key step to reminding me that if we really want to do something, we make time for it. Even if it sucks to get started. Even if it sucks to continue. Even if it sucks to feel like we're disappointing people by prioritizing our health. After reading the Miracle Morning, I started with just 5 measly push-ups every morning and added more reps and new moves every day. Productivity shot up and ironically, I feel like the extra boost in energy just created more productive hours in a workday. Two months later, I'm working twice the workload, earning thrice the income from that job and I'm not getting sick as often anymore. If it's important, we find a way to put it on calendar. Thank you for sharing this video, Derek!

[@sarahgoldsbury4013]

You're right. Saying you don't have enough time really comes down to not knowing what to do. That's when pissing about on useless stuff takes over as a way of justifying not having the time to do the thing you want to do. I've been guilty of this recently.

[@JayLance]

You know... I have to say that almost ALL my success (or LACK of success sometimes) has come down to good time management. A coach I used to have talked about constantly asking ourselves the question "does it really take this long to accomplish , or am I simply expanding the task to fit the amount of time I *think* it's going to take?" It will come as no surprise that when I put deliberate thought into answering that question I find that things I thought were going to take a week shrink to take hours, and things that I thought would take hours really take minutes. Powerful stuff, Derek. Thanks!

[@JayLance]

Oh, I'm also reminded of a question Tim Ferriss talked about at one point which has helped me so much over the years... "How would this work if it were easy." This has been super helpful for me because my tendency is to blow up (in my mind) the time, money, and resources that working on something will take... But when I reframe it I find that often times the mountains revert into molehills and the amount of work isn't nearly as "epic" as I'd built it up to be in my mind.

[@RyanSaplanPT]

Hey Derek I’m married and have 3 kids. I have time for whatever I choose. That high level of responsibility is difficult for a lot of people accept. You may alienate some your audience, but you know how this works, the more polarizing the more effective. Marketers I follow are you, Dan Kennedy, Russell Brunson, Ben settle, Andre chaperone, Frank Kern, Tai Lopez, Ryan Moran, lots more but of the ones listed the most polarizing is Tai Lopez. Any body that wants to grow a large audience, you must polarize your audience and when you’re talent....take a strong stomach as although it’s good for business it can distract from the main goal you’re trying to accomplish. Love vlog Derek! I don’t miss one!

[@hypnotherapynearmeonline]

This is seriously real. It's all about priorities and choices. You have given good advice here. I think one of the biggest time stealers that people don't realise is TV.

[@CatrinaMarie]

This was a Great AhHa moment for me. I never thought of the notion that when we say we don't have time we really are saying we don't know how. I think far too often this is true for me. I think I'm gonna try your tip and go to and from work early and late to take advantage of the time I can create. Super useful tip. Thank you

[@tiranorod]

I was hooked by this video when you said you'd tell something that may get you to lose subscribers. The most important truths are usually the ones we don't wanna know. It's funny because I just read an email by Tim Ferriss in which he said the quote of the week he is pondering on is “The problem is not to find the answer, it's to face the answer.” by Terence McKenna and it made me think about a saying we have in Brazil that goes something like "The more things I've got to do, the more time I have" which shows how the "I don't have time" lie is in fact only the fear of stop procrastinating and address the thing you want to start by finding out exactly what the next step is. In your case it was getting some comedy classes. In all productivity books I've read so far (Getting Things Done by David Allen comes to mind) instructs you to break your commitment up to the smalest, most actionable next step possible and JUST DO IT. Than repeat. Than one more time. And in two weeks you are having your first open mic. Great video!

[@tiranorod]

Also, getting in the train has made me read 3 books and almost a fourth just this first month.

[@PJPantelis]

Derek I’ve followed your content for a few years now and you always seem to say the things I need to hear when I need to hear them. Ps. Any plans to bring back the podcast?

[@OurKitchenClassroom]

I love public transportation; I'm the old-fashioned person who still reads a book, turning actual paper pages! Excellent reminder of how we prioritize what's really important to us. "I don't have time," is just code for it's not that important to me right now.

[@takenbysarahphoto]

Biggest and most constant struggle of my life is time management

[@reader88888888]

Sarah Collier mine too

[@MiraLavandier]

I hear you. been there. Still there quite often...

[@peternyiri8586]

The worst thing is when you start something and then you get into something else...and then you feel you don't have enough time and you feel that it takes too long to get something done...

[@reader88888888]

Peter Nyiri story of my life bruddah

[@crystalobregoncoaching5807]

Yes! I was using my family as an excuse. When I'd get frustrated because tasks or errands I needed to do with the family would get in the way of working on my business, I'd say, "See, I just can't get moving on anything, because stuff always comes up!" I made a decision last year, that there was no way I was going to use that excuse anymore, and I haven't! It really just took a mindset shift.

[@speakingeffortlessly1137]

Amen. I don't have time = I don't know what to do. I've noticed that if I have exact step-by-step directions or if I'm spoon fed exactly what to do, it's a heck of a lot easier to follow through with it. I find this related to BJ Fogg's system of creating habits by making it as easy as possible in the beginning. On the other hand, not everything in life can be broken down into obvious, easy steps, but that doesn't meant we shouldn't try to make things as easy as possible.

[@CathySirvatka]

I am trying to get out of the work-eat-sleep only life. Many have this sort of braggertly (is that a word?) thing "I'm so busy." I have many times said "I'm too busy" to myself and others. Friend: "How are you doing." Me: "Fine. Busy." The reality is I'm not utilizing my time efficiently. And can I fit in 30 minutes to read a book, or 1 hour at the gym? Of course. So I have been lying to myself. "I don't have time is code for I don't know what I'm supposed to do." Awesome. I also say to myself: "it probably won't work, so just keep doing what you know." I am so thankful for your daily encouragement!! Oops. It's 3:30pm and I still haven't eaten anything. There is no good excuse for that!

[@RodBurkert]

When I hear, "I don't have the time," I ask, "How much TV do you watch every week.'

[@GingerVertican]

Priorities are vital. It's just building the discipline to pursue them day after day. Building habits is THE thing we need to succeed and it's THE hardest thing in my book to build. Day by day right?

[@Impsyniki]

Great content! One thing that I found in my professional career is that any project will take you as much time as your give yourself. If you give yourself a couple of months, the project will end up taking that long. And, if you give yourself a much tighter time schedule, you will find a way to make it happen (if you truly feel like you have to). The major thing here is **need**. When the feeling of need is there, you will make it happen...somehow, someway.

[@DennisBosseCCT]

I don't have time = It is not a priority Very simple.. you have time for your priorities.. Focus, determination and ACTION!

[@NatalieHjelsvold]

Time is the same for everyone. I don't want to do the 24/7/365 hustle and I recognize it won't be the lightning path many take. But I'm ok with that

[@RussHowePTI]

This is sooo true

[@abderrahmandouara9973]

Wise man !

[@starthatsamore]

Nope. I despise public transportation.

[@ecouturehandmades5166]

Just a 'tiny' bit elitist about the public transport, but all in all I can agree with everything else. Good videos!

[@chrissa1896]

6:02 I expected you getting hit by a train ... asdf style

[@tomn9562]

What's the deal? Why have you stop making videos?

[@CatchaDouble]

Sleep for 4 hours is not a fantasy, but good advice otherwise