The Biggest Lies About Dating and How to Find Love That Lasts | Christian Huff & JP Pokluda

Pastor and "Welcome to Adulting" author JP Pokluda shares his incredible insights into how to approach dating and commitment when it's so hard in the 21st century. He and guest host Christian Huff talk about the biggest lies people believe about dating, attraction, marriage, whether to lower your standards, and what should disqualify someone as boyfriend or girlfriend material. JP's latest book is "Outdated: Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed."
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Sadie Robertson, first introduced to the world as a star of A&E’s Duck Dynasty and ABC’s Dancing with the Stars, recognized she could be a positive voice to those in need of an inspiring presence in their lives. At the age of twenty-two, she’s become one of the most prominent voices of her generation. Sadie’s passion is to speak, to write, and to encourage. She is a sister and friend to more than five million followers on her various social platforms, which she sees as a direct line of communication to her peers.
Sadie’s creative and entrepreneurial spirit has helped her become a 'New York Times Best Selling Author', and launch her Live Original brand, which speaks to millions across her various platforms, including KZbin, social media, the Live Original blog, LO Fam Community, the Live Original tour, and her Whoa That’s Good podcast.
Additionally, Robertson has long poured her heart into philanthropic efforts. She has loved partnering with Roma Boots, Help One Now, World Vision, and the World Food Program over the last few years. To date, Robertson has been able to be a voice and agent of change in many countries, including Peru, Somalia, Moldova, and the Dominican Republic.
Sadie is newly married to the man of her dreams, Christian Huff, and is looking forward to continuing to learn what it means to truly live and celebrate in every moment of life.

[@kathrynann8779]

I love that Christian stepped up and is helping sadie with the podcast!

[@ld3172]

I know! Such a great husband :)

[@sylviedabee]

"don't lower your standards, lengthen your patience". Dang, THAT was good👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@virtual240]

Women definitely need to lower their standards. You guys are nuts with what you expect us to have.

[@nelodypond9282]

“Pay attention to what you’re paying attention to.” Amen!

[@miak.pinelo9921]

Such a good podcast!!!! I loved it! Christian did awesome

[@laceypennies]

I am a almost 40-years-old, life-long single, God fearing woman. I have been overlooked my whole life and it truly grieves me. I have lost count of the number of times I have been told by Christian men, "you are the most spiritually attractive, sweet, caring person I have ever met, I mean, I've never met anyone like you, but you just aren't my type." Yeah, to my face. I took the blow and thanked them each time for their honestly. Oddly, non-Christian men think I am attractive. Married men upon discovering my status feel it necessary to tell me I am a beautiful woman and they don't know what is wrong with these single Christian men. They have gone so far as to tell them, "she is serious wife material," and they argue against their wisdom and say, "I need to be sexually attracted." I know many other sisters in my same boat. We are stuck in a void. Hoping in the unseen. Waiting for God's glory. And now, that I am getting along in years, I get told, "woah, you look like you're in your late 20s but aren't you too old to be having kids now?" The way I see it, if Sarah and Elizabeth can have children in their old age so can I. Sometimes I think I might have to pull an Esther/Tamar/Ruth on someone. (Tamar in the Will of God and His Promises not prostitution sense of course.) And then, because I feel wrong being dissapointed in God's timing I think being Deborah or Anna isn't bad. Single for life...

[@reannaemborg5238]

Thanks for sharing Lacey.

[@loudlittleroar675]

I pray God sends you someone who you look at and say he was worth the wait...stay strong sister.

[@berealrb1496]

No worries I’m 51 still believing for marriage partner. Most men come after me for my looks. I’ve been pure my entire life. I have not dated in 30 years. I’m now in perimenopause but still believe for children.

[@youtubeaccount-yr6hb]

God has protected you from so many men that would not be good to you. Stay on course for his plan for your life and keep the faith. The rest will be added to you. 🙏🏻 Maybe it's part of some big prodigal/revival plan because I hear this a lot.

[@guerita7244]

Do we need to be reminded? If we're single, we're not supposed to seek a husband; we're supposed to seek Thy Husband Jesus w/ all we've got & then & only then, we'll be made ready & He'll bring us our spouse...keep the faith! If you desire marriage, God put that desire on your heart & He's faithful & will bring it to pass as long as we continue to do our part seeking & living for Him. Don't quit before your miracle & stand strong on His word! 🙏💖😁

[@chardphebe3986]

"Find the godliest girl you know, and ask them out" WOW Facts!

[@kyliewierzbicki9333]

Sheeeeesh! God knew I needed this. Perfect timing!

[@colainebradly786]

care to talk about it Kylie?

[@adrianlemus204]

God said we should get to know each other 😂

[@kyliewierzbicki9333]

@@adrianlemus204 LOLLLLLL

[@adrianlemus204]

@@kyliewierzbicki9333 how have you been lol

[@kyliewierzbicki9333]

@@adrianlemus204 could be better 😂 haha

[@bryanhijar2594]

Why is this so true. I honestly need this going to this. I believe and I hope someday God will show me who is going to take my broken self as a husband. And needing help with everything and finding Jesus/Yeshua was again. 😭😢

[@tolutoluhi7252]

Pay attention to what you pay attention to. Vital 👌

[@lionoffireministries]

Whoever is reading this... ✝️ God knows your heart 💓 He knows your pain, hurt and struggles 💔. He will *RESTORE YOU* Just don’t give up ⚔️🛡😇👑🙏🔥😊

[@kathrynandtanner3773]

Perfect timing, thank you for sharing this!

[@eniolaadeeko9727]

This was so good! Thank you Christian and JP!

[@donna713]

💙💜 This quenched my thirst.. really needed this. Thank you.

[@victornico]

Can we get more pod with Christian? 😄

[@Wild.cottagegarden]

Yes! He did awesome!

[@AShroudOfTruth]

Agree. He's very good at this.

[@NalediBunguMolat]

Yessss this is really good... And so helpful. Thank you Christian & Sadie

[@Adrienne000]

Needed this today! ❤️❤️

[@hannahstemmet1934]

Such a good message! So many powerful statements from JP

[@manjotgill3059]

Wow I absolutely loved this podcast - so uplifting and life changing

[@kellyreece5600]

so good. Thanks for asking amazing questions I can share with my daughter and granddaughters.

[@lillypowers3855]

“The Lord takes our meds and makes it our message” YES YES YES

[@Chibititus]

So good! full of hope and really good advice. Thank you Christian and JP.

[@user-hf8kk4zm2h]

sooo good!! pastor JP has so much wisdom and truth from the Lord, needed this today! congrats Christian and Sadie! x

[@carla82287]

Dallasite here! Porch was one of my biggest helps in my life Moving to Dallas ! JP is awesome!

[@NaomiLCarroll]

I need this right now!!

[@neisharamsundar6212]

This was so enlighting definitely needed to hear this.

[@daisylazcon9914]

So good thank you!❤️

[@rachelg2478]

So good!

[@donnanason597]

Loved the podcast. Great job, Christian. What an awesome husband to stand in for Sadie.

[@lessleyzometa9835]

So good! 🙌

[@justangela1684]

I was praying to hear a message like this is week and here it is! Thank you, Father. 🙏

[@slevinchannel7589]

Christians need more Education though. Jesus included all Humans, modern Christians exlude them. They exclude literal MILLIONS OVER MILLIONS actually. Which is impressively much the Opposite of Jesus message. Not Hetero? Youre excluded! Got Autism? Youre excluded! Get off the planet! Playing Minecraft?! THATS SATANIC! Ahhhh! Such Storys gather more and more - wanna do something 'bout it?

[@hannahapple4140]

So good brought me to tears 😂

[@Ella-fr5rv]

I am so stoked for this one

[@vedasouthwick]

Yessss

[@kyliewierzbicki9333]

Me too!

[@noahmiller9655]

Great message JP, I pray I find love soon enough, cause I am looking for someone who is a good Christian and lovable 🥺🥺, I pray I find.

[@naturerayee7924]

Thank you Lord Jesus, I needed this 😊🙏🏼 Thank you Christian and Sadie, God bless your beautiful family ♡ Thank you to your guest speaker for speaking biblicla truths through God amen !

[@Crystal-ge9gh]

Good job, Christian! Good stuff!

[@tharteralte3968]

I would press a thousand likes on this podcast!!! reallyy awesome!!! God bless JP, Christian, Sadie and all the people working bts.

[@colainebradly786]

same here Tharte. how are you doing

[@RASHASA1237]

Great video be blessed!!!

[@4Lucky]

Hello~👋 Thanks for sharing my friend 🥳 Have a nice day & stay safe. God bless you always 🥰🙏💕🌿🌾

[@abilayne5279]

whoa thats good!!❤️❤️

[@beverlycurry4370]

Amen, I love this advice you are giving. I'm 66 years old. I'm not looking for a husband. But this is wonderful advice you are giving for anyone looking for a life time partner,🙏🙏

[@VeronicaLopez-ng2it]

Needed to hear this. God is sooo GOOD!

[@colainebradly786]

all the time Veronica. how are you doing today

[@berealrb1496]

Yes. I agree with J. P. You also need someone who can carry your purpose. Many men are attracted to flesh so it’s just warfare to get rid of all the wrong suitors. People need companionship, someone who you enjoy doing things with. I’m on the road of my high calling and it’s purity all the way. As a 51 year old attractive virgin 30 years no dating it has been a long road. Too many guys get caught with the proverbs woman and ruin their call to marry the one God has chosen for them.

[@averylewis1612]

This was a good read

[@breecheese313]

So good

[@insertname9765]

This is so goooood

[@katateandoxlavida]

31:06 This really got to me. Beautiful, thank you.

[@PaytonPorter]

this was great

[@ismaelmacias4858]

Thank you Brothers for this awesome podcast! I want to be the best boyfriend and husband (eventually GOD willing.) to my significant other that I can be. God bless!!

[@JaciMoody]

wow wow wow. thank you.

[@misssunshine2011lol]

WHOA THATS GOOD🔥

[@lexaraeruesga6573]

If y’all don’t watch the Porch then you should ... right now after this video! it’s very good :)

[@cheyennekernats1484]

whoa this was good

[@berealrb1496]

I have hyper critical family members and it is so so difficult!!

[@MattLeFaitMusic]

Keep Jesus first!

[@harleighstringer]

wait!!! i live in waco and i was at the event when sadie spoke at HCBC. 😱

[@nfnf7109]

Christian simply Awesome

[@slevinchannel7589]

Nowadays, people legit spread the idea that Polygamy is fine and ok... makes me sad.

[@ld3172]

It’s so sad.

[@Larry21924]

Your narrative is powerful; akin to a book that was impactful in its storytelling. "The Art of Meaningful Relationships in the 21st Century" by Leo Flint

[@_Natalia24]

Have both of his books ❤ Really good 🎉 Listen to Jp on Godly dating 101 podcast.

[@richgurl624]

🙌🏻

[@jakerozier3010]

How do i know if my overthinking is true and it isn't all in my head or an imagination

[@sissycody4804]

Hi

[@Chibititus]

Hi how are you

[@hanodahe6272]

🥺🙏🏾

[@AShroudOfTruth]

Christian should have his own podcast. He's really very good at this.

[@jakedaum477]

Can someone explain to me what he meant when he said "Thats a girl that would be a good wife for your best friend" rather than yourself I am assuming. I am just confused at that statement!

[@katarinagarza4362]

Hello! So, what JP means is that a lot of young Christian men will look at the Godliest woman they know and may not find them physically attractive, but they see the value of having a spouse who loves Jesus. Their response is somewhere along the lines of, “she’s a Godly woman, but *I’m* not attracted to her, she’d be good for a friend who might find her attractive.” Hope this helps!

[@paigeline6291]

💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@barbaraannluvjesus8844]

Don't know why you would say honey grandpa Jesus is coming is so close now look all going on in Israel this world is not my home can't wait for Jesus too come it's way close now

[@berealrb1496]

I think if you fornicate repent and ask God for his enabling power to not fall back into it.Its called GRACE. Grace includes WISDOM! Don’t be alone with someone your attracted too. Don’t be with Christians who compromise.Minister to them but get with people walking close to Jesus.

[@miaramona6257]

Prob is no good guys left ....🤦‍♀️🤷‍♀️

[@vibeauxssxuaebiv3489]

That's ignorant. The problem is with you, where you're looking, or both, but great single men who are striving for the Lord exist, and so do women (something I recently would have disputed).

[@empea3837]

@@vibeauxssxuaebiv3489 The tone of your comment kind of contributes to her point 🥺.

[@vibeauxssxuaebiv3489]

@@empea3837 Just saying what I learned. I felt the same, and then after moving in a better trajectory I not only found that idea false, and the problem in me and where I wad looking, but all of the people I relied upon to learn about improvement and relationships were very clear that the idea that "there are no good men/women is due to issues with that person, where they look, or both (usually and in my case personally). Pointing out that fact doesn't prove her point except in an emotional and subjective way that doesn't change the objective truth.

[@empea3837]

@@vibeauxssxuaebiv3489 Thank you for your reply. Tone is everything. I appreciate your sharing your experience and sharing with vulnerability. Mia was just expressing her frustration. I think your second comment (except for the last sentence), if she sees it, will help her a lot. It helped me 👍.

[@miaramona6257]

@@vibeauxssxuaebiv3489 well..that was rude. . Yep you proved my point. Thank u

[@absolutelyabby2486]

Hi

[@Chibititus]

Hi

[@berealrb1496]

I think if you fornicate repent and ask God for his enabling power to not fall back into it.Its called GRACE. Grace includes WISDOM! Don’t be alone with someone your attracted too. Don’t be with Christians who compromise.Minister to them but get with people walking close to Jesus.