The BPD Bunch: Ep 5 - Suicidality & Self-Harm

In this Episode Céline, Alex, Jess, Xannie and Mo talk about the fifth of 9 symptoms of Borderline Personality Disorder listed in the DSM-5: Recurrent suicidal threats or attempts or self-mutilation.
The Bunch share their experiences with the symptom to give you insights into the different ways someone with BPD might experience it. They also cover the different ways they manage that symptom, to give you hope and direction for managing it yourself!
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Resources for those in crisis:
United States: Emergency: 911, Suicide Hotline: 988
Algeria: Emercency: 34342 and 43, Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Argentina: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: 135
Armenia: Emergency: 911 and 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Australia: Emergency: 000 Suicide Hotline: 131114
Austria: Emergency: 112 Telefonseelsorge 24/7 : 142 Rat auf Draht 24/7 : 147 (Youth)
Bahamas: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Barbados: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Belgium: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: 1813
Bolivia: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Bosnia & Herzegovina: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Botswana: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Bulgaria: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Canada: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
China: Emergency: 110 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Colombia: 24/7 Helpline in Barranquilla: 1(00 57 5) 372 27 27 24/7 Hotline Bogota: (57-1) 323 24 25
Cyprus: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Denmark: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Egypt: Emergency: 122 Suicide Hotline: 131114
El Salvador: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: 126
Estonia: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone] ; in Russian 3726555688
Finland: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
France: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Germany: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Ghana: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Guyana: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Holland: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Hungary: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: 116123
India: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Indonesia: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Iran: Emergency: 110 Suicide Hotline: 1480
Ireland: Emergency: 116123 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Israel: Emergency: 100 Suicide Hotline: 1201
Italy: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Jamaica: Suicide Hotline: [phone]-KARE (5273)
Japan: Emergency: 110 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Jordan: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: 110
Kenya: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Kuwait: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Latvia: Emergency: 113 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Lebanon: Suicide Hotline: 1564
Liberia: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Luxembourg: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Malaysia: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Mexico: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Netherlands: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
New Zealand: Emergency: 111 Suicide Hotline: 1737
Nigeria: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Norway: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Philippines: Emergency: 911 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Poland: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Portugal: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone] and 8 96 898 21 50
Romania: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Russia: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Saint Vincent and the Grenadines: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Serbia: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Singapore: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Spain: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
South Africa: Emergency: 10111 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
South Korea: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Sri Lanka: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Sudan: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Sweden: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Switzerland: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: 143
Thailand: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Tonga: Suicide Hotline: 23000
Trinidad and Tobago: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Uganda: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
United Arab Emirates: Suicide Hotline: [phone]
United Kingdom: Emergency: 112 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Zambia: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
Zimbabwe: Emergency: 999 Suicide Hotline: [phone]
We couldn't fit everything here, so for a more complete list, check out: blog.opencounseling.com/suici...
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Disclaimer:
Although several of our panelists work in the mental health field, we are all coming to you as people in functional recovery from BPD, and are not here to provide professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment.

[@womanofcharacter]

My issues were when I felt shame and anger towards myself and punished myself. I always hid my scars unless I really needed medical attention and it wasn't a cry for help. For some the pain is better than feeling numb. One suicide attempt led to kidney failure. Thankfully I now am older, married and have kids (several failed relationships but finally found my rock). Thanks for this video, it is a topic people don't like to talk about.

[@Lozzygoz]

I stopped eating as a form of self harm and to punish myself. That I didn’t deserve to eat. Thanks ladies for being so open and sharing

[@chantalekilley4219]

I just wanted to thank you all for talking so openly and for the insights you are sharing. I don't have BPD, but I am quite a sensitive person (it's true, Xannie... some of us without BPD still feel things intensely!), and I think that trait has contributed to the mental health challenges and imbalances that I have experienced in my life. So... hearing you all talk through your experiences, and especially what it looks like to practice new coping strategies and self-care even through it all, is really valuable. Valuable for anyone with BPD I bet, and also valuable for some of us with related challenges. Thank you for your hard work in finding new ways forward that work for you, and for all you share.

[@moonk1859]

Thank you all for sharing. This must be very hard and it is so relateble 😘

[@kendreyer602]

First, thank you to all of The Bunch! Second, the T skill of the TIPP Skills is SO powerful! When I first heard about it, I thought that it couldn't really be that great. But I figured, why not try it? The worst case would be that I get a wet face in addition to self harming or breaking something. I was so amazed the first time that I used it. As pointed out a bowl of ice water isn't typically handy outside of the home, but I have taken steps to cope ahead when possible by taking along a re-freezable ice pack (as one would use in a lunch pail) to situations that I know may be triggering. It doesn't work as quickly as the bowl of ice water, but it sure beats the alternative.

[@ilissakaufman639]

thank you for sharing 💙

[@astein6273]

Awww Ili ❤❤❤❤❤ thank YOU for watching

[@lindsey4279]

Thank you so much for creating this channel and sharing these perspectives! I am at a point in my own recovery journey where it's really helpful to hear from those in functional recovery because I'm just not sure what it might look like for myself. Thank you!! Please keep the videos coming!

[@pomb4946]

Had to learn the hard way that my self-harm acted like a beacon for predators.

[@Jessie-bo9mo]

THANK YOU SO MUCH, Xannie and this episode’s panel! 👏👏👏 I can relate to so many things you all shared. Special shout-out to Alex because I feel like I related the most to everything you shared in this episode. Keep up the great work, everyone! You sharing your experiences breaks the stigma and inspires other people with BPD to tell their stories too! 😁

[@astein6273]

Its so nice to hear you related so much 🥲 -Alex

[@renus6015]

I can do relate to what's being said. Best thing is bpd gets better with age. Emotions are easier to manage as you age.

[@alkeegan9915]

The first time I saw my pwbpd self harm it was shocking and frightened me immensely. She was unaware of what was wrong with her at that time and now with awareness and a desire to get better I sincerely hope the self harming will fade in her rear view mirror. She's a beautiful person who doesn't deserve the turmoil she has endured. I did a lot of research into this terrible urge to self harm and the best explanation I got was that it's a maladaptive meditation. Hopefully everyone who suffers can get proper diagnosis, treatment and learn healthy coping mechanisms for life's challenges. Good luck to everyone fighting this battle.

[@grantmccotter8779]

Thank you for creating this channel. I find it very encouraging. I was diagnosed with BPD around 18yo. I am currently in my mid 30s and after a difficult journey I am much much better than I was yet have to keep aware of my thoughts and behaviours. I haven't been suicidal in a longtime, though it is very reassuring to see you all talking about suicidality and self harm in a non judging and empathetic way whilst at the same time not encouraging it.

[@edeneres]

So glad you all spoke so openly, honestly and with hopefullness about suicide, I can imagine how validating that was for so many ppl

[@s.tiaira9081]

I want to thank you all for being so open. This is helping me understand myself better.

[@alkeegan9915]

@12.00 made me tear up. That poor poor girl.

[@charlescollier7217]

Thank you all for your sharing of your experience, strategies, and journies.

[@4nshale]

Thank you all so much for sharing this information. This really helps me understand a person very close to me and to be better there for her.

[@Lozzygoz]

I like the editing style. This is a great idea and creative

[@nannanworld7134]

For me self harm was also embarrasing. I did not want people to see it and i covered the marks. I did it more When my anger was so intense and i didnt know what to do with All! of that. Somehow feeling the pain with the cuts helped me free that anger .

[@chrisredfield3688]

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[@lybor4533]

I could relate with motive that says I want to show people how much I´m hurt and how bad I feel b4 them. 2 months back I felt really out of control in my situation, so I self-harmed and only two close people know the fact that I self-harmed. However in my sense is self-harm much broader than cutting wrist, bcs I experienced it also in form of sexual masochism, emotional punishment from others etc.

[@AL-sg2jd]

Did you cheat?

[@lybor4533]

@@AL-sg2jd no I meant self-harm by cutting my wrist-this know only two people, if I know

[@noturbo]

i did a cold shower in winter i think i nearly died lol but seems to be a thing that works to set off calming chemicals?

[@AL-sg2jd]

Me me me me me. You guys screw ppl over and only care about yourselves

[@njb2cool]

There is so much misunderstanding, shame, and regret. I'm afraid of my age. I never will understand myself fully if it wasn't for one of my family members today. I would probably follow through with my suicide idolization. I have convinced myself not to live past 70-year-old

[@noturbo]

my mum stole my blankie told me some gaslighting story why it was gone i am still traumatized like 50 years ago i still miss it

[@7velvet]

I was always told.. “Andrea, you’re a big bag of emotions” in response to the 36 minute mark. 🥹