The Complete Guide: How to stop being a people-pleaser (*BE LIKEABLE* on your own terms)

[@fatemaabdelrahman8964]

Omg I can’t believe I found such a safe cozy loving space on the internet. I love your way of thinking and outlook on life . Your friends must be really lucky to have someone like you sharing your thoughts and feelings . I would listen to you telling me your grocery list atp. 😂😂 so ya please make more videos of this similar nature . You make me introspect and think deeply about the issues you raise .

[@alessiasutherberry]

Aw bless you! Your comment has made my day! ❤❤❤❤❤ Thank you for being the sweetest 😘😘

[@migspeculates]

I am not a very social person and when watching videos about self acceptance and social skills, I can't help but feel annoyed with the usual platitudes like "just be yourself", "just smile and be nice", "try to be jovial", "be more funny and smooth", etc. etc. etc. Then I watched your video. Boom, you factored out what's been holding me back for more than a decade. Thank you.

[@alessiasutherberry]

Omg thank you so much for such a lovely and genuine comment. You've made my day. ☺☺

[@yr.8249]

People pleasing is one of my worst habits. Thank you for the advice. You inspire me so much 🤍

[@alessiasutherberry]

Thank you for your loving words 💛💛💛💛

[@shades_of_reality]

This is such a timely post! I've really been struggling with this the past few weeks...after a lifetime of seeking approval, I can finally start to let go of these urges to be perfect and just feel a little more secure in the knowledge that I'm okay and I'm enough even when I'm not trying extra hard.

[@alessiasutherberry]

I'm proud of you. You are enough!💗🥰❤☺😘

[@lindysglimps]

I wish you posted all of your videos as an audio on spotify. It makes me feel calmer and safer and I listen to it when I fall asleep ❤️

[@RikkeGade]

Omg what a great idea!

[@alessiasutherberry]

Noted;)

[@annabelwigs]

Love this Lessie! A very inspiring and motivating perspective, thank you for your words of wisdom as always ♥️🥰🌸👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@alessiasutherberry]

Aw thank you beautiful girly 💗🥰❤😘💛💘

[@Cathelijneeee]

You are so smart and beautiful! Love your content. 🥰

[@alessiasutherberry]

@@Cathelijneeee thank you so so so much lovely 💓🥹🥰😘❤️

[@xxxccc55]

Love the video :) appreciate the disclaimer at the start - you're very thoughtful, Alessia. Btw, at 5:56 there seems to be some weird lines (glitching thing) happening?

[@alessiasutherberry]

Aw thank you my love. Oh gosh the lines are actually a video filter!😅 Thank you for flagging it with me lovely 💘🥰 I really appreciate your feedback. I will defo be sure to exclude the filter from my next video!:) xx

[@sashamiche3569]

Alessia, I've followed your channel for a couple of years. You always have interesting thoughts to share, but what I notice in this and your other recent videos is that you are really enjoying being your authentic, calm self - so you're in your super-power! Also, those lovely short interludes of peaceful, relaxing views and sounds of nature work so well! Thank you for all the time and care you put into creating this message -there's lots of wisdom here. I don't tend to be a people pleaser - quite the opposite in fact, but must say that rich dark hair colour really suits you!! Sasha x 🏳‍⚧👑

[@alessiasutherberry]

Sasha, thank you so much for your kind and thoughtful words! 💖 It means the world to me to know that my videos resonate with you and that you can see the authenticity and calm I’m embracing. I’m so glad you enjoy the peaceful nature moments too - it’s something I really love sharing. And thank you for the lovely compliment about my hair! 😄 Your support truly warms my heart. Sending you so much love and gratitude! 💕❤

[@Datb2]

No good deed goes unpunished

[@discidania]

true, but if ur too nice to the point u allow people to step on ur head. thats on u 🫵🏻

[@PixieFan900]

Another lovely video! So wise! How old are you may I know x

[@alessiasutherberry]

@@PixieFan900 aw thank you my love! 🥰😘 I am 25! 💕 x

[@ezazkhan4233]

yes im empath people please

[@alessiasutherberry]

❤💛 hi xxxx:)

[@Shaiista]

First ❤

[@alessiasutherberry]

@@Shaiista 🥰🥹💓😘

[@umchileanywaysso]

I love u and im a new subscriber here. The random bits of flowers and leaves was kinda unnecessary doe. Breaks the flow of video in my opinion. Like its clearly more of an educational video rather than a vlog so the random pauses of leaf was abrupt and kinda annoying...i am trying to say this with good intentions. Just a suggestion. Perhaps a clean flow of just u talking would be better, without the big pauses of nature. It is your wish doe ❤

[@alessiasutherberry]

thank you for your feedback lovely x

[@De-mullanization]

I'm a boy and i want a matriarchal society in humans , please girls , all women in the world should gather at a place and protest for a matriachal socital structure.I hate being a man also.In this matriachy Where children name will be paased through the mother's name.If a woman marry a man outside of her religion , he must converted to her religion etc etc.I want it from my heart.