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@Kai_kitty3 22 сағат бұрын
Hello, im a demiboy and neurodivergent person. I was assigned female at birth. Anyway, i was shamed by the other girls at my school when our grade went swimming. Well, more like one kid. She told me, "You need to shave down there." i remember it so clearly. How could society go after young girls too? Especially lead to them shaming others? Welp, you have fun with no body hair, where its considered gross. I'm ima stay safe with my bush.
@nataliesill766 Күн бұрын
I wish my young teenage self could have seen this video years ago
@densedecisions4568 Күн бұрын
5:33 Fuck I was zoned out ruminating😢😅
@marciafab7 Күн бұрын
Another responsibly produced video! I love you !💜
@weaversong7021 Күн бұрын
i'm on my phone, at home, and feeling lonely. this video came to me at just the right time <3 thank you for all you do, Alessia, you're an angel
@natatattful 2 күн бұрын
This was so nice, thank you
@lindysglimps 2 күн бұрын
Thank you!
@Dobermanmomma 2 күн бұрын
Get a dog. It's almost unbearable to go more than 6 waking hours without going outside unless you have a private fenced in yard. You'll never feel lonely if you build a deep bond with your dog. When your out and about, you will meet many people who wouldn't otherwise walk up to you being friendly and kind. You'll get exercise when you otherwise wouldn't even if you work out. Those impromptu late night walks without having to watch your back to closely are gold. Also, having a dog allows you to work on parenting skills.🐕🦺🐶
@lindysglimps 2 күн бұрын
or a cat, I walk with my cat, he’s my best friend and we do everything together
@yr.8249 Күн бұрын
100%!!!! My dogs are the best thing that has ever happened to me.
@lindysglimps Күн бұрын
@@yr.8249 same with my cat. Having a pet is a blessing ❤️
@leoa4755 2 күн бұрын
Thanks Alessia! This video came at such a great time. I’ve just finished uni and struggling to get a job is really getting me down, and I’ve basically been cooped up in the house. I really appreciate the way you articulate your thoughts so well in all your videos. It’s almost like you say the things I’m feeling/thinking, but don’t know how to put them into words. Hope your well xx
@Reed5016 2 күн бұрын
For me, being on my phone is my only way to connect with the outside world. I’m an autistic trans person living with very conservative parents (I don’t have the resources to move). I don’t go to university for multiple reasons, and work is becoming increasingly difficult to find (after affirmative action was overturned in the US, the already low employment rate for disabled people has become even lower). It’s difficult for me to see my friends or to engage in socializing, because I don’t have a car as well. Social media is really the only way for me. Though I do wish I was less obsessed with it, so I could write more short stories, poetry, and play guitar.
@evamaudoux3337 2 күн бұрын
Your comment really moved me, and I hope you're going to be able to move out soon! Keeping contact is what matters, no matter the medium ;) And if you're into writing and if your friends are on board with it, you could try writing letters to each others (+ you can include cute things in it like drawings or dried flowers) ? Best wishes from France xx
@Reed5016 2 күн бұрын
@@evamaudoux3337 That’s a really cool idea. Thanks for the advice. I’m also glad my comment had an impact on you.
@crazygrace94 2 күн бұрын
I just made the decision to match energy with people to kind of get to the bottom of who my real friends are. Not match energy in a people-pleasing, performative way… just calibrating my level of care to how much the other person is putting into our relationship. Using the other person as a metric has helped me balance out otherwise lopsided relationships, but it’s been painful. I’m learning I tend to pedestalize people who couldn’t care less about me. Anyway. Hope you’re all well and thriving. ✨ 💐
@sarahmcdonald6980 2 күн бұрын
I'm going through a friend breakup that has brought up so much vulnerability, feelings of rejection and insecurity and I'm spiraling seeking validation from sources that aren't sustainable- men and feeling hot. I'm lucky to have the time and resources to take the day for a self date- I live in the Bay Area and I'm planning to go CD shopping in San Francisco and then drive down Highway 1 to Santa Cruz, take myself to dinner and then go see one of my favorite singers Angel Olsen. Feeling proud of myself for this decision and thank you for your wisdom, I relate so much to the things you say, the struggles you're naming and what helps you move through it.
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
@@sarahmcdonald6980 hey my lovely, I’m so sorry you’re going through a friendship breakup. They are so so painful and scary. But wow, it sounds like you’ve really showed up for yourself and given yourself some much needed ‘you time.’ You should be so so proud of yourself! ❤️🥰🥹 Thank you for sharing your story with me my love. Also, I’ve gone through friendship breakups and found that time really is a healer. Sending a big hug your way 💕
@anlielee6959 2 күн бұрын
Yey new vlog is out! 🤍
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
@@anlielee6959 🥰😘
@sln0uha293 2 күн бұрын
You re really helping me a lot your videos has a magical effect on me, Love u Alessia💗
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
@@sln0uha293 you’ve made my day✨🥹💕 love you! 💞💞
@vgnsofia 2 күн бұрын
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@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
@@vgnsofia ❤️❤️❤️
@vgnsofia 2 күн бұрын
Such an important topic!
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
@@vgnsofia it really is 😘❤️
@Maryam-cy6cv 2 күн бұрын
The timing!! Thank you sooo much for this it’s been a huge struggle for me. I feel so seen and not alone in this💕💕
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
Aw that makes me so happy. You are not alone. 💗🥰💛 Thank you for taking the time to comment, it really means the world to me. 💛🥰
@MalachiWashington-ff2gd Күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry well all of my hobbies the things I like doing enjoy doing prefer to do though or at least most of em my hobbies generally speaking are on a device more specifically my phone computer
@sexccnoir 2 күн бұрын
This video couldn’t have come at a better time 🙌🏾
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
Aw bless you 💗💗 sending a lot of love your way 💗💗💗
@Blissdisee 2 күн бұрын
Ist comment big sistaaa ❤️😭😭I adore you and your words a lottttt
@alessiasutherberry 2 күн бұрын
I SEE YOU 🥹💕💘 And I adore you !!!!! 😘😘
@yumgatto467 3 күн бұрын
Thankyou for helping us young girls out and in becoming better version of ourselves with your wisdom and knowledge.You're beautiful Alessia❤️🌷
@anlielee6959 5 күн бұрын
been binge watching your videos. much needed advice.
@sophieirene5623 5 күн бұрын
THIS IS AWESOME
@annabelwigs 5 күн бұрын
LOVE THIS AS ALWAYS LESS!!!! Thank you!!!! ♥️🥰♥️🥹♥️🥰🥰🥰🥰
@Xodeladelamore 5 күн бұрын
Ive been called wierd and difficult because i refuse to entertain ppl i dont align with Before i used to do it oh its family so i have to be ok no now idc who you are if i dont feel comfortable or myself im not going to say yes or agree to anything! ❤lost alot of friends because of it
@graceparsons02 5 күн бұрын
This video has helped me so much I thought there was something wrong with me I couldn’t figure out why I felt pressured to look good in front of men and this video has just explained it all and told me I was not alone Thankyou so much 🤍
@alessiasutherberry 5 күн бұрын
Aw my love, I'm so glad the video found you! You are not alone and there is nothing wrong with you. I totally get you and sympathise with you. 💗🥰💛😘
@anlielee6959 6 күн бұрын
Listening to you is like im having a counselling. TYSM for this video. struggling with my MH right now.
@alessiasutherberry 6 күн бұрын
@@anlielee6959 I’m sending a big warm hug your way. You are not alone my love. ❤️
@danielahenriquez5721 6 күн бұрын
I lost two great friends for centering men, I understand that I was the problem and am willing to change for a future friend to never feel like that of me
@Sarahwilliams567 6 күн бұрын
I love to hear from youuu💛
@alessiasutherberry 5 күн бұрын
aw bless you my love, I love to hear from you!💗💗💗
@nisha5461 6 күн бұрын
Much needed ❤ God bless you 🙏 Thank you 😊
@alessiasutherberry 5 күн бұрын
you are moreee than welcome my love 💗🥰😘
@gut3laun3 7 күн бұрын
Alessia, where do you buy your jewelry? I love your earrings and rings!! <3
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
Aw thank you lovely 💛💛💛The rings are actually gifts from family members over the years. But I know the earrings are from a shop called French grey - they do beautiful pieces. 💛💛💛
@deannamorga7328 8 күн бұрын
Excellent!
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
aw thank you!
@mackenziefiloso3867 9 күн бұрын
Really great video, but I’ve never watched an affirmations video with so many ads. It really ruined it for me.
@Nourhanjanaby 9 күн бұрын
Can you please next talk about how to lower the energy we give when talking & spending time with people? I feel exhausted when i talk because i give all my energy with every single word i speak, i want them to think i care & i feel there is a lot of energy inside me thats want to be released so i give facial expressions, body language, voices, all together so i feel drained afterwards. I want to learn how to speak more calmly, be relaxed & without feeling stressed while & drained afterwards. I feel sometimes people can’t speak as much as I do, as if I’m speaking for both of us. I think i’m a people pleaser & an energy vampire at the same time.
@spearl2498 8 күн бұрын
I feel this to my coreee!!!!! I would love a video on this too!
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
💗💗💗💗 I will defo make a video exploring this 🥰🥰🥰🥰
@Innerkhushiis 9 күн бұрын
Amazing video, loved it and I absolutely love the way you talk and deliver the context❤✨ More power to you girl!💖🔥
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
Aw, thank you so much my love 💗🥰☺💛 xxx Lots of love
@nina_dell 9 күн бұрын
It annoys me when I try to learn something in a video and they only address a male audience. not understanding or not wanting to understand, that women are also ambitious.
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
It annoys me too! That’s why my channel focuses on women (though it's open to everyone). I love addressing women/LGBTQIA+ individuals. 💗💗💗💗💗
@nina_dell 9 күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry 💖💖💖
@shaylacourteau 9 күн бұрын
what is your sign queen please tell me, you are so eloquent and well-spoken ✨🩷
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Hey my love, I am a Gemini! 💗 Thank you for being so sweet ☺💖
@Supershy822 10 күн бұрын
The thing for me is I’m so scared of something bad happening. I already deal with so much mentally, and I don’t think I could deal with some kind of traumatic event. I get the chances of it happening are kind of low, but it’s not 0. I hate what my brain tells me
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
I’m really sorry you’re feeling this way. It sounds incredibly tough to be dealing with these fears on top of everything else you’re going through. It’s completely understandable to feel scared, especially when you’ve got so much on your plate already. Remember, you don’t have to face these fears alone-reaching out for support from loved ones or a professional can make a big difference. You’re doing your best, and that’s more than enough. Be kind to yourself and take it one step at a time. 💗
@rozalalili8461 10 күн бұрын
That's great content. The last point is so true.
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
aw thank you my love ❤
@kaiasiva6759 10 күн бұрын
Thank you!! Both my parents, especially my mom, are energy vampires. I unconsciously have been one my whole life. Consequently I've never had a true connection with anyone. I used to not understand why but now I do. I am trying to work through the shame and hoepfully one day actually connect with people.
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Thank you for sharing with me lovely. 💗 It sounds like you've had a lot to process, and it’s amazing that you’re gaining this understanding about yourself. It takes a lot of courage to face these kinds of realisations, and I really admire you for that. 💗The fact that you’re working through the shame and hoping to connect with others is beautiful. Sending you lots of warmth. 💗
@kaiasiva6759 9 күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry thank you!! 💕
@luv4.777 10 күн бұрын
Girl I hope yk you are such a help. I haven’t seen content like yours and have always been searching for it (maybe it’s a sign I should create my own too) but I am so glad you are here talking about this stuff and recommending content that isn’t boy centered. Helping us to deprogram the toxic thought patterns fr!
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Aw girly you've made my day!💗💗💗YOU SHOULD CREATE YOUR OWN CONTENT! 💘💘💘💘
@bakerandpainter3129 10 күн бұрын
I cried when I first listened to this video! I've been trying to do meditation for the past few months but the videos with the automated meditation voices I found weren't doing anything for me. Thank you so much Alessia! I've been watching your videos for quite a while now and am so glad I found your channel. Currently on the road to healing from trauma and past wounds. Thank you so much for your wholesome and heart touching videos! 🤍
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Aw bless you my love, I'm sending the biggest cuddle your way. Thank you for reaching out with such kind words -- you are clearly a lovely person 🥰💗💛
@bakerandpainter3129 8 күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry Looking forward to more of your videos. Thank you for everything that you do! 💓
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
@@bakerandpainter3129 awww bless you 💗🥰💛😘☺
@Tsuki682 10 күн бұрын
Hey queen I really needed this you're amazing your content is amazing you really helped me thank you Alessia😊♥️♥️
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Aw hey my love! 🥰💗 Thank you for being so so sweet! 🥰😘
@shamsmohammad4266 11 күн бұрын
Hi Alessia, I really needed this advise, what a crazy timing. One of my close friends is one of those "energy vampires" (since we both are grown adults now). I feel so bad & guilty for being drained by them & at the same time I also want to protect myself because after meeting up with them I'm so tired. I just want to isolate myself after... Sometimes I'm also scared I carry this energy myself & other people might think I'm a draining person too. It makes me very insecure. Thanks for your take on this, I will keep your tips & tricks in mind & try to work on it on my own. Warm greetings Shams
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Hi Shams, Aww I''m so happy the timing was right!🥰 It sounds like you're in a tricky spot. It's so tough when you care about someone, but being around them leaves you feeling drained. And I get what you mean about the worry of coming across that way yourself-the fact that you are self-reflecting on this says a lot though! 💗It's clear how much you care, and that speaks volumes about the kind of person you are. 💛
@shamsmohammad4266 9 күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry thanks for your kind words 💗
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
@@shamsmohammad4266 😘
@jasmin1773 11 күн бұрын
I want to have a picnic on monday with baguette, cheese, cherry tomatoes and éclairs in my garden, because I always wanted to do that with a partner, but currently I'm single.
@__nal 11 күн бұрын
Would love if you could give advice for the moment when/if an energy vampire notices you conserving your energy and confronts you about it. I’m sure it’s situation dependent, but I struggle with feeling panicked, anxious, and unsure about how to answer
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
I’m not entirely sure who you’re dealing with, so take this with a pinch of salt, but I think gentle honesty might be the way to go. 💗 Try to explain what you’re doing and why, in a kind but straightforward manner. You’re just taking care of yourself, and there’s nothing to apologise for.💗
@sarangh3913 11 күн бұрын
Thank you very much for today's video. It helps a lot to someone who suffered really for years now from this problem.🍉 thank you for your support
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Aw thank you my love. 💚😘 💚 🍉🍉🍉
@martynabiaek1307 11 күн бұрын
thank you for this video <33 i was wondering whether you would like to talk about plastic surgeries bc i really want to get one - but i feel like i would contribute to beauty standards by getting a nose job and it makes me feel guilty. it would be really interesting to hear your opinion since i agree with everything you say (i texted you on tiktok and described what i mean ) have a nice day!
@alessiasutherberry 9 күн бұрын
Hello lovely! 💛💛💛💛 What a coincidence! I’ve actually been researching women and plastic surgery lately. I’d absolutely love to make a video on this topic-it’s something I want to approach with a lot of care and understanding, so I’m taking my time to get fully informed before I post. Thank you so much for suggesting it! 🥰🥰🥰 I also really respect your self-awareness; it’s clear how much you care about other women and making a positive impact. I truly believe that choosing surgery doesn’t make you anti-feminist. This isn’t about encouraging or discouraging surgery-just letting you know that my respect for you wouldn’t change. Whatever you decide, give yourself time to really think things through and talk it over with people you trust (maybe even a therapist). 🥰 Sending lots of love your way 💛💛💛💛
@martynabiaek1307 9 күн бұрын
@@alessiasutherberry thank you so much☺you have no idea how much it means to me!
@alessiasutherberry 7 күн бұрын
@@martynabiaek1307 you are more than welcome my love 💗💗💗💗
@RuebenNomura 11 күн бұрын
Good morning from Hawaii that was a god video on protect your energy