The Courage to Be Disliked by Kishimi & Koga | Book Review

[@DavoodGozli]

Summary(01:00) What I liked(03:00) What I disliked(7:18) Suggestions for Further Reading(15:00)

[@RenaudDemaret]

The tone of your video is very pleasant to listen to, thanks for the review.

[@DavoodGozli]

I'm glad to hear that. Thank you!

[@Rosierose902]

I’ve watched many reviews of this book but this one has been the best for me hands down!! You explained it so well. Going to buy this book

[@DavoodGozli]

Thank you, Jamilla! Hope you enjoy reading the book.

[@eyraquintana8131]

In contrast to the extremely simplistic concepts offered by The Courage to be Disliked, your review was comprehensive and well thought.

[@DavoodGozli]

Thank you, Eyra - I appreciate that!

[@8pagesdeep]

I really enjoyed this review. I'm preparing to do a review of this myself, so I'm glad to see someone else share the same criticism that some of the examples given in the book were too simplistic and could only be applied to certain circumstances. I'm always looking for more books on psychology/philosophy, so thank you for the suggested readings!

[@DavoodGozli]

Glad to hear that! I believe in the value of fair criticism and we should do more of it. Looking forward to your review.

[@tminami2538]

Suggestions for further reading are very helpful. Thanks a lot.

[@DavoodGozli]

Glad to hear that! :)

[@nikoroo]

Thank you for this. This is such an incredibly thorough and considered analysis, rather than your standard “rote” review. New subscriber and I look forward to more reviews!!

[@DavoodGozli]

Thanks very much, Niko, for watching and for your very kind comment. It probably helps that I have a PhD in Cognitive Psychology, even though I don’t play that card usually on the KZbin channel (or elsewhere).

[@kieran1670]

Well done Davood. Thanks for an introduction to this book

[@DavoodGozli]

Thanks for watching and for your kind comment.

[@hasen_judi]

11:30 This seems to corrected in the second/sequel book, where this exact point is brought up and the philosopher espouses the view that he does not have all the answers. Although it seemed kind of contradictory because through out both books the philospher always seems to have the answers. It's similar to the point about the world being simple. Becuase in both books the philosopher also emphasizes more than once that Adler's ideas are often misunderstood and it takes a long time to get the true essense of this philosophy.

[@DavoodGozli]

Excellent comment! Thank you for watching.

[@cathybartholomew2914]

This is a very comprehensive and helpful review that I am posting on my online book club page. I am also interested in the book suggestions at the end. Thank you! I particularly appreciated your words of caution in allowing one stream of psychology (or one person) to become a cult. We cannot abandon our own core and relinquish all of our thinking to another. Ironically, I don't think Adler, or even the authors would encourage that simplistic response, based on the premise of the book. Excellent review!

[@DavoodGozli]

Thank you for your comment! And, of course, I am honored that you decided to post the video on your book club page.

[@nagodio]

This book and untethered soul Are the best books ever eva eva

[@Serenity9931]

Appreciated. Very helpful.

[@DavoodGozli]

Glad to hear it!

[@AnnaPrzebudzona]

I've read the book and I came on KZbin to search for critical review. I appreciated yours very much. I especially agree with the good point of the book which is the book being written as a dialogue (which translates very well into an audiobook that I listened to). I could enlist a few more things that you said that I really appreciated but I'll mention just one more which is picking one philosopher/psychologist as the one who has all the answers. I actually didn't expect that the book would be basically a presentation of Adler's psychology/philosophy. But I did find it interesting because I wasn't familiar with Adler's ideas. However, about halfway through the book I started feeling more and more disappointed. The notion of having confidence in other people seems to me outrageous. I mean, not the notion itself, which I think is good (like the tenth commandment). What's outrageous in my opinion is ignoring the fact that it's exactly the impossibility of having this confidence that causes people to suffer and search for all kinds of solutions. I mean, you can't just tell people - have confidence in each other and expect that this honourable commandment will solve all the problems that have been afflicting humanity since the beginning of time. I also am an idealist but I can't live in the world of my wonderful ideas no matter how hard I try. I have been abused, assaulted, exploited and cheated and no amount of encouraging ideas will produce in me the confidence I should have in other people. There are lots of people with bad intentions out there; I don't even know whether my own intentions are good! How can I have confidence??! This part really disappointed me. It wasn't properly explored and elaborated and it left in me a sense of religious teaching rather than psychological analysis.

[@DavoodGozli]

Thank you for your comment! I hear you. Your criticism reminded me of prisoners’ dilemma, which is a situation that calls for trust from BOTH sides, not just one. As you said, a one-sided trust can be abused by the other side. On the other hand, sometimes we can trust someone (without knowing that we can, beforehand and with certainty), and we will only know that truth (or its opposite) after choosing to be vulnerable. I’d agree with you that this is not a solution, but an optimistic consideration.

[@AnnaPrzebudzona]

@@DavoodGozli “An optimistic consideration” - I totally agree. However, the subtitle of the book says: ”The Japanese phenomenon that shows you how to change your life and achieve real happiness”. Most likely it was a publisher's idea but the author could have objected. It's not a Japanese phenomenon! It's an introduction to Adler's psychology/philosophy and I don't need to say that Adler was not Japanese. Also, achieving real happiness through practising religious faith in humanity better known as ”my comrades” is not what I expected.... If I was searching for a religious solution, I wouldn't have picked up a self-help book. I would simply go to church, mosque, or other religious place of gathering and participate in the ritual and possibly enjoy a sense of community. But it doesn't work for me (or I haven't tried enough)

[@uyenvu4507]

@@AnnaPrzebudzona The phrase “Japanese phenomenon” that is being used is a bit misleading I think. It’s not to say that its idea originated from Japan but more like the book was a huge hit in Japan. I go through some audiobooks and reviews of it in Japanese and the comments were overall positive, and inside Japan there are over 2 millions copies sold. I think that’s what they were trying to say by “Japanese phenomenon”. Could’ve phrased it a bit better.

[@gulinyilmazmorris3215]

Thank you. I appreciated your review and consequently subscribed.I enjoyed other books that you recommended. Other than Epictetus,I hadn't heard them.

[@DavoodGozli]

My pleasure-happy new year!

[@turnrightmyfriend]

Happy New Year!!!

[@DavoodGozli]

Same to you!

[@konstantinosstavropoulos3605]

good

[@Oneread4]

Can anyone name the suggested books I couldn’t find.

[@DavoodGozli]

They are in the video descriptions.

[@nagodio]

I watch summary first then read books