The CURE for SOCIAL ANXIETY

[@fadeskywards1245]

As a person who's been struggling with this for years, I can confirm that doing anything besides focusing on yourself can really help diminish your fears. By “anything“ I mean facing your fears, most importantly. The feeling you get when you break the ice is DIVINE. This encourages you to do it more, because it felt good. It's just like exercise; you start small with lighter weights and when you break your personal bounds of endurance, you can move onto heavier weights.

[@fadeskywards1245]

Yeah, it was pretty tough at first, but it can only get easier over time. Thanks :)

[@jimbo113]

FadeSkywards Precisely, my dude. I've noticed that once I push myself to simply make the fist step in initiating a conversation, everything falls right into place.

[@SpartanBernaz]

That is just the most awesome comment I have ever seen on youtube ever Thanks :)

[@masyaf897]

nicely put

[@Joe-pe8fe]

I want to ask if Medication works?

[@nganthony8646]

This is just a method to cope with social anxiety, but the ROOT of ALL social anxiety is low self-esteem. When was the last time you saw someone with high self-esteem who had social anxiety? They don't exist. If you want to truly get rid of social anxiety, you have to find out why you have low self-esteem, and work to improve it. That is how you TRULY get rid of it.

[@kukucunt9507]

I have kinda mediem self-esteem and have this disorder but it's still isn't cure..

[@drondronov13]

Absolutely. I was just gonna write the same exact comment. It's all about self esteem. Because I feel like anxiety comes when you feel like you are being judged negatively, or compared to someone better. I, for example, started with my body. I started working out, and now when I catch people checking me out, gives me an awesome self esteem boost, because I know my body looks good. P.S.: NEVER take those anti-anxiety meds. It seems like an easy solution, but it is not a solution at all, its more of a temporary trick. Also, smoking increases anxiety/nervousness.

[@GuRuGeorge03]

anxiety is the opposite of confidence. the method "improvement pill" describes in this video gives u confidence that the things you worry about do not exist. knowing stuff up until the point of unconsciously applying it. that is how u gain confidence and get rid of anxiety. there are forms of social anxiety tho which are not linked to self esteem or confidence issues. for example if your brain is simply incapable of accepting different hormones because of a genetic disorder. that is when medication is the only true help. the same applies to things like depression. most cases can be cured through therapy and all that. but sometimes you are trying to fix something that isn't broken. it just doesn't even exist and you need medication to make it exist :)

[@jozendesu]

I don't know if I agree. I have a certain degree (small compared to others) of social anxiety, but it's not like I have many negative thoughts about myself. I'd almost go as far as to say I'm a narcissist. For the most part I'd say it's because I am afraid of messing up a conversation, or not having anything to say. That of which would lead to an awkward silence. I find it hard to start conversations because I'm worried about what impression my words might leave or if I'm saying the right things.

[@pabloolivera4938]

thats' called overthinking,just let things go,doing running or any other sport can help you

[@yofscottle3138]

at least you get invited to parties

[@rackmc3353]

yofscottle your picture makes this comment 10x funnier 😂

[@viktorthevictor6240]

Atleast you've ever BEEN to a party 😳

[@stephanierojas3185]

Viktor the victor exactly haha

[@Breb1999]

Sobs

[@BlueAndPINK666]

That's what I was thinking 😭 I haven't been personally invited to a party since elementary school

[@stepanp7230]

Don't think i have clicked on a video faster before

[@thebodyimagetherapistyyc]

CoolDown if you need more support I'm a therapist and post a lot on social anxiety as it's a topic I work with a lot :)

[@bryanu1737]

Kinda me too So annoying when people misunderstand you too

[@user-ef5nd3ho3n]

same :(

[@stepanp7230]

Afreen Siddiqui damn, it’a been three years and i had no idea this comment kinda blew up lol

[@rahulji8008]

@@thebodyimagetherapistyyc yeah iwant it

[@lealee-healthyteame184]

It's not crowds of strangers that make me anxious it is smaller groups or 1 on 1 with people I know...

[@silentobserver9418]

Lea Lee - healthyteame same here

[@yusufzulfi]

Yes. It’s the people that you know that you care about the opinions. Your friends , your acquaintance.

[@veronikavysocka4534]

same..

[@20.nguyenhuunamhoa48]

Wow i am completely opposite to u. I feel like i do better 1 on 1 than in group where i often feel overwhelmed and start staying too quiet which makes me kind of the weirdest in the group

[@lordstarkiller139]

2k4 Dreamchase same

[@sabrinamariatenaglia6316]

As a person with social anxiety i can say this is the very thing that actually made me even more socially anxious. Understanding people and their body language made me 1. think even more about myself when talking to someone with regards to my own body language and my own expressions and 2. made me WAY more sensitive to their reactions during a conversation with me. Although i get where he's coming from, its a bit counter-intuitive and can make it even worse with people who have very neurotic forms of social anxiety - they can easily twist it to be about them again and add to even more isolation around people.

[@jacobtauben6987]

I see, wish you the best Sabrina, I overcame my dis-ease which pledged me for 4 years and you can toooo

[@r.nahuel4255]

This is exactly what happened to me. I cant believe it

[@someone-kt7uk]

Finally someone who has the same problem.

[@mrnaizguy]

Same...

[@jzawithaj]

Relatable

[@ciaracorr2345]

I don't care about people watching me, what makes me anxious is thinking about conversations and how to talk to people I don't know very well in class to make friends

[@Kaj33k]

too real

[@jungfreshclean8048]

Ciara Corr ikr right how come i am not able to fucking talk to someone

[@PixelYouTube]

Omg same Im that quiet girl in class who never talks And the only time i talk is in like registration I dont really care about others watching me, for me its mainly socialising thats an issue

[@PixelYouTube]

May jane thanks for the help!! Ill try giving compliments Im too scared to start talking alot just yet

[@jamaurharris338]

May jane like what type of topics u be talking all time every day to keep the conversation going

[@renodelray]

I have no social skills. The minute you put me in a room with a bunch of people I don't know I'll freak out and show tons of signs of discomfort. I have struggled with social anxiety for as long as I can remember and I am extremely asocial. (Asocial is when you hate to socialize and would rather be alone, oftenly shown in people with social anxiety)

[@gayricardo6463]

Me too and its sad for me because i have a studder..and I just don't want to be judged..so I panic..

[@ChristieBrenner]

What if only the people that i know give me anxiety

[@royal3161]

Same Christine. It's kinda weird tho cause I know them and yet, it's hard to socialize with them than with people I do not know..

[@shion3948]

Same

[@vivienlobo7235]

We however need to face it

[@Alan18012]

Cut them out of your life

[@andrei.cr2]

*"You realize that no one's actually thinking about you"* This really helps me with my depression, i'm literally *SCREAMING*

[@dr4ken416]

AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAH

[@juubes5557]

I don't think this is a cure for social anxiety but peoples bodylanguage is very interesting when you learn to see it.

[@88Sith88]

Juubes Noah Elkrief made a video about this, it goes straight to the core of this situation, which is social anxiety. Still this video presents a great point, and enough to cure the issue.

[@alymunro123]

Juubes it's more about noticing how no one is really looking at you and having the ability to realise that everyone feels awkward or anxious in certain situations even if they're not portraying it emotionally, they might be through their body language, it really helped with my anxiety tbh, when u realise that everyone is caught up in their own lives and their own problems just as much as you

[@paulomendes1193]

Juubes the cure is to do what you feel anxious about until the anxiety disappears... sure this, meditation, mindfulness, journaling and other "tools" can help but you have to put yourself out there and start to getting used to felling uncomfortable

[@thebodyimagetherapistyyc]

Juubes for sure ... the cure for social anxiety is exposure I talk about this a lot in my videos

[@littleblue995]

Dr Peterson’s advice for overcoming SA is exactly this. As soon as you shift your focus from yourself to others....the anxiety disappears

[@ThunderD15]

I hate this curse.. Like I want to go out and have fun but my social anxiety is so damn bad that it keeps me from doing so because I'm always too scared that I'm going to make fool of myself or do something embarrasing.. all I do is go to work, make up excuses as to why I can't hang out when I'm asked, and go home and be bored and sad that I go through this living hell. I hope I overcome this one day.. I'm only 21 and I'm already not pleased with how I'm living.

[@arlaghdoth4434]

Why would you want that lmao

[@reb3kka2000]

Same

[@raynobles3736]

Im the same way

[@ChronicleLiving]

The ability to understand the outside picture of any social situations is a huge advantage. No one is born with that ability. You have to build it. Awesome video!

[@wafer2114]

Great job man, I've been living with this for about 5 years now. I realized that it's my body language that pushes people away from me and yes, In my head it's always 'me, me, me' and it drives me insane. I usually put my head down when I speak, fiddle with my hands etc. I just can't stay calm, thank you for this video.

[@James-sn5yy]

I truelly believe no one know what anxiety disorder is like unless they have exprienced it for them self. I am always thinging people are judging me as arrogant because i don't talk to them but in actual fact I'm shy and introverted.

[@lioncrest2384]

The truth is this really works ever since i started reading about and observing body language it takes all your attention to your surrounding instead of thinking about you

[@dustydavehungergames]

Being anxious is just fear of the future, like you were saying. Just live in the now and your thoughts will calm themselves and you will be at peace anywhere.

[@mrphauker]

It isn’t that easy

[@chrism7091]

Ive been having social anexity for a long time. Ever since i was in middle school. But i watched this video and changed my mindset and started focusing on other people rather than myself. I realized that theres nothing to be afraid of. Look at someone and start asking yourself questions about them. Like , "Why does he look mad about?" , "I wonder who shes texting." "I wonder what he's thinking" . You will soon start to know peoples facial expressions . I cannot imaine how id be without watching this video. Thank you so much for this.

[@greyasagoat]

Improvement Pill: Thank you for posting this excellent information. I suffered from social anxiety badly for many years, even to the point where it was life threatening - but luckily found my own way out through self-knowledge. What you say about focusing our attention on the other person is, I would agree, with the key. This is because the human mind can only think one thought at a time. And if our attention is focused inward thinking "attack thoughts" and "judgemental thoughts" about ourselves - then we are not picking up on the clues, both verbal and non-verbal, that others are giving out. That I would say is the principle difference between those who are socially really good - and those who are not as good as they could be. So it's really about communication skills. It's about tuning into them instead of attacking ourselves But the one indispensable thing I would recommend anyone suffering from social anxiety to focus on is "listening skills." Listening to people is NOT the same as merely hearing them - and listening can be done on several levels. It could well be if you are reading this that your listening skills are not as good as they could be. THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT BOTH THE STUDY OF NON VERBAL COMMUNICATION AND LISTENING ARE SKILLS. AND SKILLS ARE THINGS THAT WE LEARN - JUST LIKE DRIVING A CAR. If you are capable of learning to drive a car you can do this. A few years ago I invested some time and money in studying counseling skills - which in reality are advanced communication skills. Absolutely best decision I ever made. Today social interaction may be a source of stress for you - but another way of looking at this is that its life showing you where you need to focus attention upon. What would it mean to you to not only to be socially popular - but also able to help others to lift themselves up as well? Body language and listening or counseling skills. Tips Get a piece of card and cut it to credit card side. On one side write: There is no such thing as failure - there is only feedback that what I'm doing is not working yet. On the other side write: Mistakes are an inevitable part of the learning process. If you put that piece of card in your wallet with your credit cards you will see and review that often. Those beliefs for me played a critical part in changing my life around. Because while learning and practicing those skills nobody gets it right 100% perfect from the start. Anymore than someone can get behind the wheel of a car and drive well first time. So if is not perfect you just take a step back and say to yourself "hmmm that didn't go so well - so what can I do to make it better next time. It's okay to be kind to yourself. I wish you well

[@SvenInMotion]

*I wish I could animate hands like that, you got crazy skills!* Jokes aside, love this video, good job :D

[@QasimAli-hj6sl]

yeah i also want to make vids like that he's owesome :)

[@1998sini]

Improvement Pill Can you make a video about not being afraid of conficts, thankss

[@ipnotikfromitaly5094]

john riley I've been there and I know it sucks; start going to places where people have your same interests (Say a sport club or whatever your passions are), in that case you have at least one topic to talk about, moreover you always see the same people over and over.

[@samarooritv6601]

This is great I met check the book out I suffer from social anxiety and it's only gotten worse. By the way I also made a social anxoety video of appreciate it if anyone would want to check it out ♡

[@ngws99]

Beautiful sketch👏👏👏

[@TheClearconfusion]

i can't even raise my eyes to analyze people in fear of eye contact. sometimes it gets so hard in a group of relatives. like where do i place my eyes and still manage to look smooth.

[@Arnell_Mediocrity_Long]

That is 100% how I feel.

[@mayankdesai2523]

Exactly same

[@Bunniesinthesummer]

I feel u girl! Try to take deep breaths and know that how you feel is okay (do not fight it). Allow yourself to look at people and your environment. Focus on them more less of you. Or try getting your eyes middle level like not down but higher keep your head held high

[@jessygutierrez3204]

I have social anxiety. It started when my parents separated and I got bullied when I was in grade school. Until now I'm scared of too much attention, I'm always anxious with how other people see me so I choose to hide my emotions and feelings. I'm tired of being like this 😢😢😢

[@clownthesweat2000]

Wow you just helped me realize the root of my social anxiety it’s because of a fear of to much attention I’ll do a meditation on it and see how that goes but it makes sense I had a similar experience the time where I received the most attention was when I got bullied for my cricket teeth so i feel very vulnerable every time I get in a situation where a bunch of attention is on me it triggers those low feelings I felt at that time

[@oscarfernandez2437]

One day, I smoked weed and had zero social anxiety. I swear of god that my productivity was 100% that day.

[@benjamintoatin1780]

Same

[@wakeupdan9668]

weed makes it 100x times worse for me

[@kanooklapook414]

Weed and nicotine helps me so much with my social anxiety. It helps me too much tho so everyone can tell I’m smacked...

[@IbarraAlejandro]

@@kanooklapook414 I do smoke too

[@bellakennedy73]

Oscar Fernández what is weed????

[@kyuwiz]

I suffer with SAD (Social anxiety disorder). I can’t go through a normal interaction, so I’m going to start meds. It’s seriously something that affects my life horribly. I have panic attacks very often, its lead to me to even going as far as to self harm. Social anxiety is incredibly important and should always be treated with utmost importance

[@FullPerception]

Great collaboration man! Your voice and his style make a perfect mix of valuable information and entertainment!

[@noa9266]

i also find that seeing the room through the eyes of a stranger and seeing how little you yourself stand out helps. they see so many people everyday and don't. care. about u

[@Tolseren]

I agree tremendously with this video. Kudos for making it available for everyone to watch. I have one thing to add that might be helpful. Social anxiety for me stemmed from actually disliking myself so much that I did not really have a lot of selfconfidence socially. When i started loving myself, I was okay with just being in the present moment and those negative thought and the negative self image dissapeared. I think when you truly accept who you are and love yourself, you will feel comfortable anywhere being the person you are. Definately possible to work on both things at the same time for even better resulst. Selflove is all you really need in life in my opinion to feel like everything is as it should be.

[@yashvedhkanhye2576]

Wtf man ? I have already experienced a huge deliverance from my social anxiety just 20 days into my first NoPMO journey, And now you're telling me that I can completely turn this social anxiety into A FUCKING SUPERPOWER? :$ I will love you for this man

[@Leiura]

Wow. And here I thought there might be something useful in this video with all of the thumbs up this vid received. I have social anxiety. And it's not because I care about what other people think. In fact, I know the majority of them don't care. But that doesn't stop me from suffering from anxiety attacks at random times in classroom settings. (Funny, because outside of classroom settings I'm fine.) And they're not mild attacks either. Seems like the best "cure" that actually yields results (that I've found) is improv classes. Nothing like throwing yourself into a frying pan.

[@AndrewB221]

Accept anything for what it is and be big enough to show your presence, that irritates your attackers, and reveals your character, not your weaknesses

[@kottayami5391]

My social anxiety was cured many years ago when I learnt that it's silly that everybody is laughing at me for no reason, but this is a good video, you are an inspiration to those who face these struggles.

[@ambareshkavdki146]

No send bro

[@harumoneai]

thank you. i can't tell how much i'm being thankful for this video. i've been living with social anxiety and depression since hs. but since last year it's messed up with my university live till the point i stopped going out of my room except for basic needs (which is messed up too). the words in this video gives powerful impact for me. i know i have to keep challenging my comfort zone and i hope this video could still be my motivation till i get back my normal life.

[@josemarquez2010]

Just looking at the title gave me anxiety

[@redpillsgodson9523]

this is GOLDEN INFORMATION might I add that controlled breathing + correct posture = no anxiety also it eliminates wondering thoughts

[@ironmantis25]

This video makes you think by absorbing some advice from a 2 minute video, you can change your life instantly. It's not simply to just change the thoughts in your head like the video said, it's a long and arduous process of slowly chipping away your mental barriers , facing your fears over and over again, failing and embarrassing yourself again and again, living with the shame + fear and accepting it for the social anxiety to erode. Changing your thoughts is a first step, a small fraction of the process.

[@jzimage8343]

I don't have social anxiety, just love your videos. you've changed my life

[@That__Guy]

As someone that has suffered from crippling social anxiety - up to the point where I couldn't even leave the house any more - I can say that this is some really good advice :D Reading other people's body language to some degree is actually one of the things I learned in therapy.

[@That__Guy]

Generally a lot around focussing on different things in my surrounding (apart from other people) so that I don't think too much and can calm down. The one I remember most was called the five senses practice. There you started focussing on everything you see, everything you hear, smell, etc and try to describe it in your mind as detailed as possible. That helped against general anxiety and also heavier panic attacks. Then there were also different relaxation exercises like progressive muscle relaxation, which seemed to help some people, but wasn't really for me. And finally of course the typical behaviour therapy, which was basically taking baby steps forward in the situations, that cause most anxiety and teaching the brain, that this is actually something good and nothing to be afraid of.

[@Section927]

I have social anxiety only because of experiences I've had in the past of people saying things to me. A lot of people that I've talked to that have social anxiety have never had anything like that in the past, its all beliefs in their head. Mine came from ACTUAL things that have happened in my past, which makes the things that go on in my head even more believable. All of the times I've tried to get a girlfriend I was rejected. I've always been the shy nice guy that never speaks in class. As soon as I said something pretty messed up to someone, which I regret saying, someone hit on me. It's never happened in the past and I froze. I just got really shy and blew the opportunity to get a girlfriend. It seems the girls in high school nowadays only go for the people who are assholes and think highly of themselves, which gives me no chance to get a girlfriend. All of my opportunities now are blown because of the social anxiety and the way I see myself. I'm skinny as well, which also contributes to the point that I'll never get a girlfriend. The only reason she hit on me is that I always wear long sleeves because of the way I see myself. I honestly don't know what to do anymore. It's not common to see guys with social anxiety because its seen as "unmanly," which really stops me from sharing all of this with my friends or anyone I know.

[@hannahbenattar5697]

Wowwww. You don't know how much I needed this video. Amazing timing

[@Coregame3]

Y

[@bridgeteatherton491]

So basically, the only way I can get over my social anxiety is to start judging other people? Makes sense....

[@justcalcio747]

This made me laugh ngl

[@mandybrenda8905]

omg. that video made me feel less stressed out. i've got social anxiety since ... well, always i guess. in four days i've got that meeting that i absolutly need to go to and just thinking about it makes me so nervous. i litteraly make panick attacks when my social anxiety is too strong. i think i'm gonna try this trick and hope for the best. i really hope i'll be able to get rid of this fucking thing, it stops me in my everyday life and the worst part is probably the fact that people who don't have social anxiety laugh about it and don't understand it.

[@elmachotracho7963]

I really needed this video since a long time ago. But your social skills videos have helped me since I subscribed to your channel, especially the body language and starting conversations videos. You trully are helping lots of people who want to improve in every area of their lives. Keep it up! This is literally the best youtube channel I've ever subscribed to

[@1llf4ted]

I feel broken because I care what other people feel I do what he described. But it’s always there

[@Marco.91]

I didn't take a job because I was too anxious :-/

[@kylercollier385]

Mykael_91 exactly how I feel

[@austingood5309]

I changed oil for about a week at a dealership and we worked in groups of two so I had to talk to someone for 10 hours straight. Not only did the job itself suck but they would constantly ask me why I never say anything and because I was new I also had the pressure of all 60 people working watching me.

[@LASMONN]

i really felt that..

[@GenesisAdame1]

My first job cured by social anxiety. I was forced to be social and I didn't want to fail because either scared to talk to people. I learned basic social skills. I learned that eye contact is okay, hand movements are not weird.

[@fruitypoppin9393]

Whenever I have to talk My voice gets so little I can barely speak

[@sebastianardelean5151]

When i try to speakI have the feeling that no one here me...

[@adorerene5633]

I was such a social child and really didnt care what others Thought of me As I’m growing up everything is changing,I hate socializing.i spend most of my days in the internet which actually makes me feel just right in comfort zone

[@nataliaanioo]

as someone who suffers from it, i call this bs

[@jonathanjitters535]

I second that. However, perhaps it might help some with a mild form of social anxiety, but at my levels and most with a social phobia, they never would have even made it to the party.

[@gofishglobal7919]

I have suffered from serious social anxiety at times. And, to all of you who say this is bs I'll tell you this: you are probably so self-absorbed that you have NEVER not been. For you, the intensity, focus and discipline it will take you to get through to freedom MUST be radical. You will have to be so harsh on yourself that it will probably scare you. You must SUFFER through the wall that keeps you within your comfort zone. Attack yourself with every tool you find. Curse at your fear! Tell it go go back to hell where it comes from. And, tell it, "I'm going to beat you! You are not going to beat me!" Yell this at it! Invoke your higher power for help. Invoke your spiritual master...become that spiritual master! You are stronger than a thought. Replace thoughts of fear with thoughts of power and peace. To make those thoughts stick, make a 30 minute recording of multiple positively-worded thoughts. Say things like, "I am brilliant. I am interesting. I am confident. People love to see me. I light up a room with my presence. I am peaceful. I make people happy and peaceful. (Don't record anything negatively stated like, "I am not afraid" because this puts the word "afraid" back in your head.) So, once you have this recording done, play it for yourself every time you get in your car plus anywhere else. This method is inspired by cognitive therapy. I use it to overcome any stinking thinking. It works. All you have to overcome are your thoughts. Be aggressive about it. Win!

[@myles208]

Miles Codias now when all this is gone in any social situation because we are too socially aware.

[@PixelYouTube]

nataliaanio ikr

[@cheesyspace]

@@jonathanjitters535 social phobia or social anxiety is litteraly the same.

[@Luna-gw2ru]

This is actually pretty interesting, I like your points. I also might read that book you mentioned

[@arielkozak]

I have the fear of stuttering. and that's the only reason I'm social anxious to talk sometimes

[@gayricardo6463]

I struggle with that too..i studder all my life its hard at times..

[@nekemli2622]

Then stop stutter ring💍

[@marialopes9730]

As a person with social anxiety this video helped a whole lot so i just wanted to personally thank you😊

[@artadokht627]

Social anxiety makes one paralyzed to speak or to say a goddamn word it's not only about thinking or worrying what others might assume of you I wish it was the only problem with social anxiety, speaking even to peers becomes a nightmare, we are never capable of making friends

[@samuelvanorshaegen]

Yea, I have the same problem :( but some people have less severe social anxiety. This video is more focused on these people I guess...

[@amdeko]

I will keep clapping for others until it's my turn 🎉🎉

[@overdreamer3468]

Needed that! Continue the great job ^-^

[@schoggistangeli4839]

I read that book, too. I lost my social anxiety without even noticing it.

[@jonathanjitters535]

So, the answer to my symptoms of social anxiety which involve feeling like everyone is looking at me and judging me is now going to be cured by doing the exact thing to others that I feel like they're doing to me?

[@deejay9474]

Learning about body language lessened my social anxiety A LITTLE, and worsened my depression A LOT. Knowing people aren't interested in you doesn't make them like you.

[@equilibrium4193]

Since I've quit porn my social experiences have been so calm and fluent.

[@darkemperor95]

I bought the book last month and read a bit of it. Its amazing how much you notice after reading that book

[@nilaymaru1576]

I love your voice.

[@Error-xd7cb]

Nilay Maru yeah its pretty sexy actually no homo though

[@TQsktkg-jfgnfnggg]

Improvement Pill pull

[@ileana5299]

Don’t know how this got into my feed but I’m glad I’ve seen it. Even tho I knew about this idea, your way of presenting it is pretty unique, I like it

[@artemistheologiti]

I'm suffering from social anxiety and I'm even afraid to go to my college classes being afraid that people may judge me and it is really affecting my life. What could I do? Great video btw 👍

[@marcoloya]

I think I would feel more anxious if I knew how to read body languange. Having such knowledge would just prove my anxious me that everyone is alert of what I do.

[@Cryptoteeth]

The comment section Must be cancer for you to read dude, i just wanted to drop by and say thank you for the awesome information. I my self have grasped this concept and are living it everyday. It's to a point where I can go to a social place and I can be the most loose just because I see the different dynamics in the room

[@roninflyer]

Exactly what I was thinking after reading some of the comments lol ... Improvement pill Great video and thanks for the tip about the book, it will be a good weekend read.

[@DivinePlant]

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[@myles208]

Improvement Pill are you stupid? We reject them because it’s simply a shitty idea. If this worked then EVERYONE EVERYWHERE would be constantly preaching this but they aren’t. U wasted your time with this video.

[@mayas8360]

I can tell you that I can read people very easily and that doesn't help with social anxiety. Truthfully, knowing their thoughts make you more anxious. Like if you can see someone doesn't want to be in a conversation then you try to cut it short but then they find it unexpected and think you're just being rude. So you start to reflect on why that interaction was so akward? why that person wanted to leave? Was there a better way to handle that? A lot of the times we get anxious because we're afraid of saying something wrong or coming off as rude or stupid.

[@togetherwecantogethericant1218]

what about in gathering people chatting and someone say to you "how about u?" and all of the people immediately look at u worst nightmare

[@alexpesina6666]

sameeeeeeeeeeeee

[@imrad9371]

I've been suffering Social anxiety for nearly over 2 years now, I was always labeled as the "Sky" Kid until I figured that Social anxiety was a thing and I could relate to all the symptoms. I have no friends at school, I'm lonely. I get paranoid when I'm around people like they are judging me, I get sweaty palms, and a sore achy stomach like I'm going to throw up. I hate being in social situations, and like this guy said.. I get all these thoughts in my head that I think might happen but don't. I'm 14 at the moment, and I've been talking to a school counselor. It's been so tough, and the counselor is useless. My parents don't not, only my sister does but I haven't really spoken to her about it in ages. I'veI been having weird dreams.. A dream of my parents dying, and another one of me being a ghost like I was invisible. This has been so hard, I need help. :(

[@greyasagoat]

im rad: Sorry to hear you are having such a tough time of it. Your experience sounds very much like how I used to experience this. (Hug sent) I'm pushed for time right now but If you like I'll see if I can be of help. One question though. You said that you have been suffering social anxiety now for around two years. Does that mean that you never used to have it? Or did something happen to knock your confidence back?

[@imrad9371]

I'm pretty sure I've always had it as a kid but never knew. But it got worse when I got into Year 9 :(

[@greyasagoat]

Im rad: I hear what you are saying about it being really tough at the moment. I'm someone who has had personal experience of this, and so hopefully if we look at this together it may be of help. A good first step here would be to make sure that it is actually "social anxiety" that is going on. There are other areas people may find troublesome, which are similar such as self-confidence, self-esteem and assertiveness issues - and although these may overlap to a large degree, they are not exactly the same. IN ORDER TO GET A GOOD QUALITY ANSWER WE HAVE TO ASK A GOOD QUALITY QUESTION So if someone had say "general self -confidence issue" the answer to that would not be the same as with "social anxiety" Its important to be absolutely certain that we are asking the right specific question. Sometimes people may spend an awful lot of time (and money) because they are looking at material which doesn't offer what would be most helpful to them. So can you talk me through an example of how you experience this? I'm in the UK by the way. My spelling may seem a little different. Hope the day is a good one for you

[@imrad9371]

I'm pretty sure that I do have SAD. I hate being around people let alone my friends although I have none as I got into College (Your Highschool but we call our Highschool College) I never have the self esteem, self confidence to do things. I feel like people are always straring at me and judging me. I hate being rejected by groups, I hate doing groupwork and presentations. Groupwork is the worse! Finding people to work with is so hard, and most of the time I have to say to the teacher that I don't have a pair. I have School today but I'm sick. I have a cold :)

[@greyasagoat]

im rad: Sorry you are not feeling well. Yes, from what you say it does sound as if you may well have social anxiety. Recognizing that and then taking the first steps of looking for a way to deal with it is actually pretty impressive. I'm going to start with a couple of general ideas which hopefully will be of some use. If you want later" we" can do some exploration of social anxiety itself. You may note the word "we" I used there. Because the first thing to know is that there is only one person who is an expert on you - and that expert is you. Sometimes well-meaning people try to help and say read this or do that - but the only person who has your "intuition" is you. What do I mean by that. If you split the word "intuition" you get two words - "in" and "Tuition" "In" as in inner - and "Tuition" as in teaching or teacher. Your intuition is your own inner teacher, and only your inner teacher knows what is best for you. Some people call it a guide and the more we get in touch with that side of ourselves the stronger and wiser we become. Learning to trust ourselves is good practice. Staying with a philosophical overview, its useful to know that in a sense we are all like incomplete jigsaw puzzles. Let's say for argument sake that this world is a school where we come to learn our life lessons. Those life lessons will be different for all of us. The point being that social anxiety doesn't mean that we are in some way inferior to others - because we will have strengths which others don't have. And they will have weaknesses that we don't have. We are not broken like some washing machine and in need of someone to come along and "fix us" we can do that for ourselves. Just that it's a lot faster if you have a gentle prompt now and again from someone who has been down that road. So what exactly does social anxiety really mean? Such an obvious question people rarely ask it. It means feeling anxiety or fear when in a perceived social situation. And if that fear or anxiety is strong enough we get the "stress response" which is what they call the sweaty palms and other physical symptoms you described. I doubt if you will agree with this but that anxiety is actually a good thing - or to be more accurate it has a good intention. At some point when we are small, we touch something really hot. Maybe we get a small burn. And so it is we learn to become wary of things that hurt us physically. The "anxiety" in social anxiety is there to alert us to where we didn't do so well previously and we will have experienced pain at the emotional level. So in order to protect us from that pain, it makes us self-aware. In reality, its trying to both protect us, and also to highlight what we may need to focus our attention on to eliminate the problem in future. PROBLEMS EXIST IN ORDER TO FOCUS OUR ATTENTION ON WHERE WE NEED TO EVOLVE - TO THINK OR ACT IN A NEW WAY. So it's our birthday and a family member has booked us a flying lesson as a present. We are up in the air in our two-seater single engine plane. You are flying at 3000 ft when you notice that the instructor sat behind you is climbing out of his seat and about to jump out of the plane. He is, of course, wearing the only parachute. As he clears the plane, your heart begins to pound and palms go sweaty. Familiar symptoms - this is anxiety, but what is it really telling us. It's telling us that we are at risk because we lack a Skillset. In this case flying skills. Amongst other things its telling us of course. With the social anxiety its telling us that we are at risk emotionally because we lack a skillset In this case its social skills. ITS NOT WRONG TO FEEL ANXIETY OVER NOT HAVING AN IMPORTANT SKILLSET. iT WOULD ACTUALLY BE A LITTLE CRAZY NOT TO FEEL ANXIETY ONCE WE HAVE RECOGNIZED THERE IS AN IMPORTANT SKILLSET MISSING. I appreciate its the last thing in the world we want - and that we want to get rid of it - but thats what its saying to us. I seem to have written quite a lot there. If you are finding that any of this rings true for you may I suggest something. If you can find yourself some cardboard (even an old cereal box will do) and then cut it into credit card size pieces It would be useful to write on them the parts I have written in upper case letters from our first contact. These are empowering statements. Passing through social anxiety and moving beyone is all about personal empowerment. A good strategy for dealing with social anxiety is to change our belief system and self-image. This can be achieved by learning and practising the social skills that the more socially popular have. I think thats enough for now. I wish you well.

[@Tussenio]

And now everybody's wondering: why is that guy always looking at my feet?

[@sourcedrop7624]

sometimes a person crosses their arms because they're cold, and they are interested in what you're saying. always take the whole picture into account, not just singular things taken out of context.

[@Primedlifestyle]

Awesome vid bro! Just curios, how long did it take to get this video done?? Keep it up! 👍

[@Primedlifestyle]

looks great!

[@elin3284]

This helps alot,ive tried it but my thoughts get the best of me. It helps to just stare at people,not in a creepy way,of course.but, wondering about others and being mindful helps alot

[@yoerihengeveld139]

No. My anxiety is waaaaaaay worse. I start sweating like realy realy bad and i cannot be myself, i dont feel like myself and dont have feelings. And people bullied me alot so.... I want to overcome my anxiety but nothing works. I dont know what to do. Its so bad i islote me in my house. I want to beat my anxiety, but i dont know how.

[@mayomassa29]

I never thoughts learning about body language would be helpful for curing social anxiety!! this was so helpful thanks a lot

[@gfpv5795]

That might be the most useful advice I ever got regarding social anxiety. Will read the book ASAP. Thank you very much, good sir.

[@jessbragg1]

ive been using this method since i was in high school, i would always observe others rather than get involved, and now im almost 40 and STILL have social anxiety, so i dont think this ALONE is the CURE. nice video though

[@OOLLILOLL]

I don't know I think all these meta thoughts be it "You" or "Me" are obstructive. The goal is to move them from your conscious to your unconscious mind

[@NisargaDuttaP]

Ty for making this. Gonna remember this everytime i go out to a social event

[@jc3858]

You did not have social anxiety. You had shyness because if you did you would not have the clear mental space to focus on others. Shyness you can decide to do that. Social anxiety hits you like a fucking freight train.

[@ms.springfield8766]

Make a video on how to study more effectively

[@captain_giacco]

Your channel is seriously one of the best ones out there at the moment. Keep that level and you will be 10X-ing your channels audience in no time! Awesome video, love it.

[@thecanadianunicorns6108]

Know what the sad part is... I've spoken to three specialists on anxiety, I've seen a hundred of these videos, I'm now on a medication for anxiety called fluoxetine ( flu-oxe-tene ) AND NONE OF IT WORKS!!!! But the worst part is... It is now causing me to have depression and I'm not able to enjoy life as a preteen 😞 I wish I could be normal...

[@stephaniefranco207]

this is a pretty tough situation especially bc when one thing is cured and then something else comes up. Do you feeel really tried and out of it when you take your medication? I have a youtube channel where ppl can tell me anything they have going on in their lives & i give them the best advice possible. id love for you to check out the channel, i think youll really enjoy it. :(

[@thecanadianunicorns6108]

Stephanie Franco ok... I will look into it

[@blizzardfrosts8090]

I've been on fluoxetine for a while ( i think ) from my Psychologist for my social-anxiety and anxiety, but i don't think it'll work for everyone, for some reason --- i think it depends on the body? I could be wrong considering i'm in 8th grade. But i let my social anxiety take control of me uwu

[@joaoc.oliveira91]

I'm not sure if observing the people around us prevents social anxiety, but I do agree it is very interesting! Congratulations for the video. I appreciated the animations!

[@IglooDweller]

Well, if I go to a party with you, I'll be anxious because now I *KNOW* you're thinking about me. :P

[@nikhil_mahajan685]

I bought the book because you recommend the same in another video of yours , along with How to win friends and influence people. keep up the good work.

[@Blueissuperior]

Nikhil Harami is it good?

[@TheRedsOfficial]

Nikhil Harami is it worth a buy?

[@itamarsimon1367]

Please continue to make more videos I love them

[@PracticeNine]

awesome video, im already trying to implement bodylanguage reading for quite some time now. What I often noticed at my flat-mate, that she has often her arms crossed, stuff like that but always acts as if we are good friends. (I am not hitting on her or anything like that) I found, that this kind of observations made me even more nervous or at least more suspicious then i already was.

[@SzaboStudio]

the opposite happened to me in the last 3 years. i learned a ton off of the internet about body language, psychology etc. and the more i noticed these on other people, the more i felt bad or wrong. i noticed that people dont care about me. i'm having social hunger. any solution?

[@SzaboStudio]

people do know that i care, but there's no gravity... and i just don't understand. people around me turn towards the dumbest ones...

[@SzaboStudio]

and yes in a form, i embrace it, but i just get the wrong result lol.

[@rossi3391]

Just started watching your channel recently... you have already made a massive impact on me and my life! Thank you and keep it up

[@ciel6677]

was the coffie good?

[@andrewgonzalez6154]

Medication and exercise is important as well. I am prescribed 4 1mg tabs of Clonazepam a day. Working out and eating right helps too. I've been doing this since 18... So almost 14 years now. Kudos to those who can beat S.A. without meds, but if your S.A. is keeping you from having friends, relationships, jobs, or even getting out of the house then I strongly recommend seeing a psychiatrist. There's nothing wrong with seeking professional help

[@bob1503]

Iv seen that most you're videos are based on books. Can you provide us with a list of books which would be helpful for us to read? thank you so much xx

[@bob1503]

Thank you so much

[@nano7586]

Jordan peterson calls this "focussing your attention outwards".. great advice.

[@AllanGildea]

Superb presentation. Thanks.

[@mirrors8913]

I'm slow. I'm anxious for a conversation for the same reason I'd be anxious for a race. It's not that I don't have confidence, it's that I just know conversations put a strain on my mind because everything moves too fast. Incapable of listening and thinking of the next response at the same time. I was never really worried about other people judging me because I was always judging them back anyway :) Anyone else in that boat?

[@sarahspruth8866]

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[@tomjohnason6174]

I get those same vapes and its a really dank high.

[@matthollender7924]

Do they really work or are you just saying that?

[@mavhunter8753]

Improvement Pill to me is quite possibly the best channel on KZbin.

[@irishrose90]

Yet another thought provoking video! Thank you. :)

[@Ridgeracer10]

I have been working on my social anxiety for years, never thought about it this way, now I got a new tool in my bag. Thanks Improvement Pill!

[@noman5257]

Please post "The CURE for AUTISM"

[@martingoldblunt5163]

no man I don't think he could do that, simply because of the fact that autism is technically not a disease. It is a neurilogical disorder that currently has no known causes.

[@Nadisio19]

Probably the best two and a half minutes I have ever seen on KZbin