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[@alyssagutie302]

Oh wow! I so needed this. Literally last night, I was praying to God saying, this feels so lonely and that idk how to move forward. HE listened and this was the first video that showed up on my KZbin page. 😭😭😭 Glory to God!! Thank you!!!

[@TEWMUCH]

Praise him! 🎉

[@emmajanemark1]

Who knew that getting engaged would cause family drama. It's hit me out of nowhere. I'm an event planner for my job but this has been the hardest event by far I have managed, the time needed, the cost, the emotional stress. I thought being engaged was supposed to be this wonderful magical time and hopefully it is for the majority but this video was so needed for me. I'm glad I'm not alone in all this... Its mad how lonely this process has made me feel from my family. I cannot wait to just be married and have it all behind us... Elopement is so underrated hahaha. Thank Jamie ❤️

[@itsevee34]

Omg same, i became distant from my fam for a while bc of the UNNECESSARY drama they caused 🥲

[@whitneyanneellis]

Me too! You are not alone. I feel exactly the same way.

[@jaechea7644]

I'm getting married in less than two weeks. Although I'm not happy this happened to you all, I'm glad I'm not alone. Unnecessary and unrelated drama to the wedding or bride and groom, but some people will make it about us.

[@meaganelaine12]

It really does make people crazy and everybody seems to have a comment about everything. Family drama and expectations have made us feel really lonely in this process and I wish we had just eloped. The wedding planning “experience” wasn’t at all what I pictured. My closest friends live far away and we’re skipping all the milestones before the event out of respect for everyone’s availability and realistic expectations, so it just feels a little sad, honestly. If we would have just eloped, at least missing all of the fun activities would have been deliberate/intentional. I’m just glad I have my fiancé, the one part of this I am 100% certain is the right choice!

[@JD-im2kh]

I wish we just ran away and eloped…it is so frustrating. People want to invite people I don’t want to invite because they cause trouble. People say they will help and do things but when it comes down to it they won’t want to do the work. They want to tell you what to do but not pay for it. I wished I just eloped and saved all the money and stress. You have to work then work on the wedding after work. I just want my life back.

[@saschamayer4050]

Just cancel the whole shebang and get married without any guests. 🤷‍♂️ We did and it was stressfree, very cheap and really nice for both of us. If you should ever regret that and feel the urge to throw a huge party, you can still do it any time! 😉

[@JD-im2kh]

I’m not throwing away $10k in deposits. I ended up just not inviting the people who were causing problems. Now we are back to being super excited to celebrate with our families!! After our elopement we did feel like something was missing. So we are doing great now!

[@t.marieking3239]

Oh I’m under so much stress on all sides. I’m literally in tears. I never thought planning for what is supposed to be the happiest day would be miserable…

[@asaellelevialvares3896]

Same here! Dont hesitate to talk cauz we're all in the same kind of situation. Here for each other :)

[@src4409]

My family and friends keep thinking that my wedding is going to a rustic, shindig, family reunion... like most of our family events are. But I keep having to share my pinterest board with them because when I say elegant, formal, evening ceremony with a plated meal and a band... they still don't understand 🤣. God love them!

[@rachelkrumenauer531]

I feel this all the way to my soul. My relatives are used to the rustic barnyard wedding, while I want something more formal whenever the time comes for me.

[@itsevee34]

Oh my gosh same haha, even until the day of the were thinking it was rustic/barn but i was going for a “stylemepretty” type of wedding and no one ever understood me

[@paytonwalter2916]

“Did this ring just flip a switch on everyone?” I can so relate 😩 Everyone is weird a off now. Thank you so much for sharing this video. You and your Chanel have been a God send.❤️

[@christinewaters2482]

Thank you for this video. I have been second guessing my choices because someone always has an opinion or looks at me like I'm crazy when I say I've chosen a blue wedding dress. But watching this video I feel better. Thanks 😊

[@anxiousbulbasaur8275]

Ooh, you're going to rock that blue wedding dress, sounds awesome! 😍

[@BlindBabeBeth]

My favourite colour is blue, so I'm seriously thinking about having a soft blue wedding dress. 💙 You will look gorgeous!

[@veniciak910]

My wedding dress is blue too! 💙

[@annejia5382]

girl that's so pretty 😍💙

[@KristynRaeV]

You’re not alone, I have a yellow ceremony dress and a lavender reception dress. Do what make you feel most lovely on your special day!

[@gracemcconnell3138]

Does anyone else have wedding nightmares about nothing going right or the wedding not working out the way you want it??? I keep having them and it's stressing me out even more

[@kelseyeaston3966]

SO MANY. I keep dreaming that we forget everything on the big day and show up in the wrong place at the wrong time forgetting the ceremony/vows/schedule and wearing bathrobes 😅 I hope yours went well!!

[@paulagarcia7777]

4 days until & I’m getting so nervous 😬

[@lauraelise5095]

Thank you! Two of my friends treated me pretty awfully during wedding planning and now we are no longer friends. It’s crazy how wedding planning can bring out the worst in people 😥

[@aprilwhitaker7412]

I lost a BFF of almost 20yrs. The crack in our friendship started during the planning of my diy wedding. She was helping me with every single detail/decision. She even made my multi-tiered wedding cake (gorgeous/delicious)!! I didn’t realize how jealous she was of me getting married, and I certainly didn’t realize that she coveted my fiancé/husband until the crack became a chasm a few years later. Sadly, she never married. We are civil when our paths occasionally cross, but we are definitely not friends any longer!

[@XenaKai]

My wedding was last week and God knows I NEEDED this video. Wedding planning was smooth but somehow, drama still found it’s way to my wedding weekend. I feel seen and validated now. I had an unplugged ceremony (I made this known in advanced). I was blamed for people not being able to take any pictures at the ceremony location. I’m sorry, it’s my wedding not their wedding. And I threw a wedding NOT a photoshoot! Plus what pictures could my guests have possible taken that are better than the pictures the professional photographer took?

[@rachy5384]

I feel you. I'm planning on the same - just wondering, how did you tell your guests you want it to be an unplugged wedding? Like did you put it on the invites... I'm still early in our wedding planning journey and I'm not sure

[@danasutton129]

Getting married in 25 days and have been BLESSED with very little drama🙏🙏🙏

[@Nameless351]

Oh how wonderful! I’m happy for you!

[@mkg2124]

Good Luck!

[@chevyfinn]

I've had very little wedding drama apart from people not RSVP'ing, and even though they knew mooooonths in advance with save the dates and promised they would come, they still planned vacations on that date! They are now on the F U list!

[@gretadankert625]

I'm a Covid bride. We are finally having our wedding in June (third date) and 2 days ago we have a groomsman drop out because he couldn't organize getting off of work for the rehearsal. The ostrich came up to tell me about it and then went right back into the sand.

[@ariyanaf4205]

this is also our third date, also in June!

[@astrea79]

I really wish I watched this video when I got engaged almost two years ago. I kept an "everything is fine" attitude during COVID and lots of burgeoning family drama until the day I had to cancel my wedding due to the Delta variant, and then the floodgates of sh*t were unleashed. I found myself in the deepest depression I haven't felt since I was a teenager and I felt I couldn't rely on anyone for support because I didn't want to be to source of more drama. Luckily I was able to afford a therapist and nurse psychiatrist who could prescribe prozac. I don't know what would have happened if I didn't have access to those resources when I needed them. It's so so sooooo important to take care of yourself psychologically while planning a wedding, I wish I knew this before. I always thought I was supposed to be happy every moment of wedding planning and instead it was the opposite, which also felt very confusing. I thought something was wrong with me and it wasn't. I was just in a really messed up situation and once it was over I felt so much relief.

[@brandymalinovski3212]

The wedding drama is real! His godmother (who I've never even met) told me that my wedding has to measure up to a Kennedy wedding....yes as in Jackie Kennedy. It's the constant scrutiny over my weight, the expectations of who is to be invited, and the fiance sticking his head in the sand. Thank you for addressing this!!!!!! I get married in 87 days and finally don't feel crazy. I've felt like it's been me for months and now I know it's not ❤️

[@houseofschenck6230]

Is the godmother paying for it? If not, she can butt out. (Even if she is paying she should still butt out.)

[@brandymalinovski3212]

@@houseofschenck6230 nope not paying for anything

[@scullymariam1922]

How are you doing now? Any update?

[@brandymalinovski3212]

@@scullymariam1922 we're good. We're not speaking to his godmother but otherwise we're good. Will be happily married a year in May ❤️

[@scullymariam1922]

@@brandymalinovski3212 so glad and reassuring to hear this Brandy as I have a couple of similarities with your story, and tensions are still high as my wedding is in a month! Although it’s my MIL who is overbearing (as opposed to godmother) so unfortunately can’t really cut off that connection. So happy things are good now between you and husband 🌺🌺🌺 can I ask , did your relationship quickly recover before or after the wedding? Im looking for some hope as for me the drama has put a strain on our relationship and my mental well-being. I’m wishing you all the best! 🤗

[@annashoup3004]

This video just made me sob! We have been engaged for 14 months and get married next week. I finally feel seen and validated in what I have been experiencing. Thank you so much for making this Jamie!

[@carmanwillis7537]

How'd your day go? I hope it was beautiful and magical

[@kmk312]

Engaged for 6 months, was told to enjoy being engaged and not to rush into planning. It caused so much stress on my end, where my fiancé didn’t want to start planning. And didn’t want me to plan without him. The tables have turned and we are now getting married in a week when we set up plans three weeks ago.

[@carsonchapman4757]

Thank you so much for this. I’ve been so stressed and hurt by all the drama that it’s causing family relationships to crumble when I’m unwavering in my choices. So much so that I’ve thought about calling the whole thing off to elope which has never been my dream. Having some understanding of why this is happening is really brining me peace.

[@idopointlessthings2]

This is so timely... Thank you Jamie. The drama is real! It's actually ruining this process for me. It's like everything I choose isn’t good enough and apparently I need to 'consult' my Mother before I make any decisions... I'm 30 years old and my fiancé and I are paying for this wedding, forgive me, but I didn’t realise consultations with my Mother was required.

[@maria8091]

This video really spoke to my soul!!!!! I am in the thick of wedding planning, and I’m soooooooo stressed out by what people want and people wanting to force their traditions/expectations on my wedding specifically parents!! This helped me so much, it gave me a lot of confidence in setting boundaries and being firm with them. Man I really needed this video

[@southernhippie9058]

I think some drama would be avoided if some brides did not have unrealistic expectations of other people in their lives. They also have to realize while it is their special day other people's lives cannot revolve around their wedding. I think some people tend to check out because it becomes too much and starts taking over way too much of their life. This can particularly true with DIY brides who want their bridal party to basically serve in the place of professionals.

[@Jaylenlove18311]

When I told my mom I was getting married she scream cried saying I was breaking her heart…

[@candicekelly5136]

This is very relevant and helpful Jamie! The psychological and emotional toll can have lasting effects! My mom has been telling me about her horrible wedding 25 years later. She’s had a wonderful marriage and a great life but that stress and drama was very traumatic for her.

[@vickiking8276]

Oh my god yes! This was me in 1997! I wish they had videos and coaches like they do now. His family ruined my wedding and I was stressed and upset about it for a very long time, even well after the wedding. We ended up divorced… second time around at 51, much easier! Lol

[@soubi2025]

I REALLY needed this video this morning. My mom is throwing a fit and my best friend is having a mental break down and my fiance wants to shut up about the wedding for a minute and my soon to be mother in law won't stop asking questions and we just got engaged last weekend 🫠💍😅

[@classassignment3643]

This has been one of the worst up & down, emotionally draining experiences of my life. I will absolutely lose some friendships by the time I walk down the aisle. It’s heartbreaking. So much grief about almost everything. Friends, family, all stressful.

[@elizabethm6127]

Thank you so much for doing this. I don't think anyone expects this amount of drama when just wanting to start their life with someone. It's hard. But I am so glad you are here validating feelings! You are wonderful!

[@sillybeva]

HAHAHAHHA!!! "Your fiance, for some reason, has adopted the patronus of an ostrich..." is the best thing i've heard all morning. Good times, Jamie... good times. Also too real. =_=''

[@chrisstevens3567]

Hahaha yeah bashing your future husband is so funny and fashionable! The father of your future kids! Makes sense why we have a men’s mental health crisis.

[@ayannagreen5428]

​@@chrisstevens3567Making fun of him -or- Stating the obvious😂 (we want our men to have good mental health too😮)

[@chrisstevens3567]

@@ayannagreen5428 then let’s not make it mainstream to publicly disparage our partners.

[@ayannagreen5428]

@@chrisstevens3567 If you were planning a momentous event for the two of you and you feel like you're partner is helping less than you expected - what's a nice way to say that without disparaging this person who love?

[@benedettarossi1120]

Thank you for this video!! Also, as a Harry Potter fan I particularly appreciated "your fiancée has adopted the Patronus of an ostrich". Gold.

[@carycrosbie7578]

An important topic for your mental health. A few expectations have been expressed to me which frustrated me or I feel like I'm letting people down not choosing to have certain things that family expected me to do and I say me as my partner has done nothing and we're 2.5 months away! Can I also say my expectations of people responding to invites was higher than reality I'm so glad I didn't spend £100s on printed invites cause 50% have not bothered to fill in my online rsvp! I don't know if it's manners, being out of practice with knowing what to do with wedding invites I don't know why it's so hard for people to understand the importance of filling it in and I end up being messaged back instead, frustrating!

[@deruycknatascha]

Thank you so much, Jamie!

[@alyssarh]

I love what you said about the ring flipping a switch lol. I am sure that we're going to have lots of family drama when we get engaged and start planning our wedding

[@CM-jx9pp]

My mental health had gone down hill and still trying to recover after my wedding 6 months later …

[@src4409]

I have 3 cousins that are like sisters to me. We grew up inseparable. I was in 2 of their weddings. I asked the one I'm closest to if she had bridesmaids at her wedding because I really couldn't remember. I remember that none of us were in her wedding and it never bothered me. She said in hindsight she should never have done that. 2 of the 3 friends she had stand up with her have been long gone out of her life. She explained that one of them had told her how her family was in her wedding and ruined it with drama so she thought her family would not respect her wishes as much as friends. Being a bride can make you think in ways you wouldn't normally. Her thought process didn't make sense. She used family to help out with the wedding, and the least bit of drama came from family. We had all been in the other 2 sister's weddings and there was zero drama. I think she was in a weird place with her older sister and didn't want to ask 2 of us and not her. She admitted that she really regretted that decision.

[@emynemy5821]

Wow this was really so helpful, and I signed up for the Bridal Prep Academy! I am not a person who has ever had friend or family drama in my life so boy was I surprised when the expectations and relationship stress came flowing in! This video was really thoughtful and really validating, thank you Jamie!

[@maggieindawoods2413]

Omg thank you. I know we are making weird choices for our wedding (Black dress, DIY decorations based on an obscure book, etc) and we are honestly keeping them mostly secret. Family drama has also exploded and already changed the plan completely from what it originally was. I keep questioning if I should just do it “normal,” but Fiancé and I like the weird!

[@rachy5384]

You do you girl (is what the other KZbinr I watch called Lauren from Bluebird Creative would say in your case). And don't worry about anyone else. I think us to-be brides put way to much pressure on ourselves to conform to other people's expectations... And we really don't need to! I'm only recently engaged but me and SO will be doing lots of kinda questionable things that not all of our guests will agree with, but we love what we wana do so we don't mind about not following the "norm". It doesn't help that SO is British India and I am white British and a quarter Irish too... Do what we are doing is taking traditions from each side that we like and doing a mix of those and leaving the other traditions that we don't want well out of our celebrations. It is important to reflect the two of you as a couple we think, regardless of what anyone else says. Good luck to you for your special day, it sounds like it's gunna be great and super memorable ❤️

[@peachesl8706]

Thank you for this video. I have honestly been depressed in planning and I feel alone. Like I didn’t know what I was doing planning the wedding, I had the bridesmaid drama, I had invite drama, I didn’t even get excited or share my feelings or happiness or whatever bc I didn’t want to hear or talk about why ppl were or weren’t invited. I felt inadequate and my partner is a groom so of course people think I know how to do the planning… If i could change it now I would elope

[@JoycexSuJu]

I want to use fake flowers for the bouquets because i wanted to keep them after the wedding as well and just put it in our room but all my aunts hated the idea and said it would be tacky

[@kelseynoel9673]

Thank you Jamie, this was SOO needed!👏🏼 You always share the right thing at the right time. Love your videos!

[@Meli_Mel_619]

All of this is so important. I didn't know this was a resource. Thank you so much for talking about this and sharing Kara's work

[@lomographylillian]

Thank you for having this conversation Jamie. I have needed it. I signed up for Kara’s course.

[@EducatedEmpress8646]

You hit the nail on the head. This has been the most stressful process in my life.Thank you for all you do

[@artistalltheway]

What about family and friends that just don’t seem that involved? That don’t care one way or another about anything and are completely despondent despite pushing for our engagement?

[@janayware6127]

Can you make a video about daytime/brunch weddings?

[@onlymiriam4061]

Yes!!!!

[@emw4759]

I had a brunch wedding and it was amazing! Unfortunately there wasn't much out there for how to plan it. So I felt like I was recreating the wheel a little bit.

[@whitneyanneellis]

JAMIE, THANK YOU!!!!! For talking about this. Seriously! XoXo

[@gabbywiley3091]

This is so important to talk about ❤️ thank you for sharing

[@cynthiabrown5456]

Thank you so much! This is exactly what I needed to hear, especially the part about combining families... & expectations.

[@savvytaylor3847]

Love your hair like this!!! Drama is an understatement! We are affected by proof of vaccination rules where we are in Aus and my father is not planning on it (which I respect is his choice) but still....... 🤷‍♀️ Fun times

[@saraedgar5318]

Actions meet consequences, Dad.

[@bellatrix336]

Same for me. My finances mum is refusing to get vaccinated

[@TEWMUCH]

Wow. This video is what we all needed to hear. Thank you for this. ❤ excellent content..

[@malfunction2080]

I'm so scared my abusive parent is going to intentionally ruin the day for me. Planning a wedding and being engaged was supposed to be fun, but all I can think about is my parent

[@charlieclouser9053]

This is exactly the video my fiance and i needed! It's crazy!!! Thank you so much!

[@traversatile3471]

You make a lot of wonderful content but I will say this is the most helpful video of yours I have ever watched. I am so immensely grateful I have friends who understand how laidback I am and don't have family that will cause /too/ much drama. But I know myself and know that I will be tired and overstimulated on my wedding day, and therefore will be irritable. Because of that, I have had a nagging feeling of apprehension that I'll end up not being nearly as happy on my wedding day as I want because everyone will see my irritability and get defensive/upset and silently ridicule me for being dramatic and turning into a bridezilla. Just the thought of that has made me dread a day on which I want to feel elated and peaceful. Hearing you affirm that the subconscious turmoil of differing expectations and values is just dumped onto the bride, essentially turning her into a scapegoat, is so liberating. Again, a lot of my loved ones are understanding but my fiance and I come from different cultures and even within my own family there is such noticeable difference among generations. So thank you very much for putting this into words. I will absolutely check Kara out, thank you for making an entire video on this.

[@reesewhitt5495]

Love this video. Thank you. PS your makeup and hair are great today.

[@aliciaballeza9592]

I’ve barely started planning and I get so emotionally charged over everything. These decisions are so important to me, and I hate feeling like bringing up what *I* want makes me feel so dramatic. I just wish I was able to maintain a constant state of high emotional intelligence.

[@katiar6105]

Thank you, I needed this. Makes me feel validated. For me the hardest and most stressing part about wedding planning has been dealing with this family drama and expectations and people not understanding my vision. Luckily, 3 more weeks til my wedding... the stress and emotions are definitely mayor in these weeks. Praying for peace on my wedding day

[@MrsRobertson81322]

Managing expectations! That hit home and is good to hear from someone outside of my friend group/immediate family. Things will go wrong/not be what I imagined but that doesn't mean we failed. Will probably be my mantra the day of lol

[@DaniCD12]

Loved this video... I needed this today!

[@xuanhanguyen9093]

Thanks for bringing Kara into our lives :)

[@abbykokoczka2835]

Really needed this video!! More than you’ll know! MIL was worried about a lot of things and I’m glad there’s finally a video to help with communicating what I want our elopement to be. Thanks for the help! I just sent her an email so hopefully that helps ease her anxieties and I can get some of her opinions on some things.

[@scullymariam1922]

You are amazing 🤩- this video really helped me stay grounded and is such a relief as my mental health has deteriorated from all the drama caused by controlling in laws all while fiancé tried to stop me setting boundaries! After I kicked up a huge fuss I think he gets it now, but we as a couple are still recovering... I just wish it never had to get so explosive as now there’s tension between both families…I hope someone here with similar experience could reassure me this will get better with time as right now it’s really frosty and my wedding is in a month ☹️🌺🙏

[@Rampaigee]

Thank you for validating so much I’ve been going through

[@cindymaciver]

This is what I needed to hear.. thank you .

[@summern8157]

I just got engaged last night, but I've been following you for years ever since I watched a video about bridesmaids, and I just thought you were so precious, you deserved a follow! 😂What great timing with this specific video, though, because it was at the top of my recommended videos this morning, and I'm so excited that I got into Kara's academy for free! I struggle with anxiety and while I am so unbelievably excited to be engaged and go through this entire process, I am absolutely certain that planning a wedding will cause me significant anxiety at times. So grateful to have access to this course!

[@scullymariam1922]

You are amazing - this video really helped me stay grounded and is such a relief as my mental health has deteriorated from all the drama caused by controlling in laws all while fiancé tried to stop me setting boundaries! After I kicked up a huge fuss I think he gets it now, but we as a couple are still recovering... I just wish it never had to get so explosive as now there’s tension between both families…I hope someone here with similar experience could reassure me this will get better with time as right now it’s really frosty and my wedding is in a month ☹️🌺🙏

[@jo-anntan5650]

I’m so grateful to have come across your Chanel and site. I’ve been following you since I got engaged in 2022 and your videos have been nothing but advisable, thorough, but most of all down to earth. You email checkin have helped me stay focus and on time lolx Thank you for making this video! You etiquettely described how I feel about people and their opinions of my wedding. Lolz Thank you validating and reminding us brides that it’s not always us that’s the problem. ❤❤❤

[@edithcortez4023]

Thank you for this!! All my bridesmaids are being super high maintenance and are demanding everything and not helping out 😢

[@Melissa24781]

Thank you soo much really appreciate this video. Just what I needed

[@Nathalieprezzy]

Came on the right moment, thanks ❤

[@MarsInTheSpace]

That hairstyle suits you so well omg😍

[@Randysgirl]

I never in 1 million years would've thought wedding planning would have been so stressful. I was told that if I did not have boneless chicken at the wedding that this person would leave and go to a restaurant and then come back. I cannot tell you how much extreme stress this person put me through on what was supposed to be a happy time in my life. My fiancé at the time and I never had arguments. We might have a little disagreements, but we have never had a fierce argument until this person tried to control everything about my wedding and was criticizing all my choices and it just was ridiculous. Her offer to help turned into her wanting to control everything and then getting mad if I chose my own flowers dress, etc..

[@RadiantRuby]

I keep getting stressed about people assuming they’re invited to my wedding. Let alone I have to cut the number down.

[@theresamarie7091]

This video is life ❤️❤️❤️ I needed this- I'm currently asking myself "am I the one going crazy?" During this wedding planning process

[@Izzy4731]

I have a vision for my hypothetical wedding & my Mother wants to wear something that’s not only the complete opposite of that vision, but also an outfit that’s 20 years too young for her. It’s wedding GUEST appropriate, but not MOTHER of the BRIDE appropriate.

[@danicandy4ever]

Hard core facts.

[@kj7067]

Completely irrelevant to the contents, but you look so nice in this video! I love the crispness of the blouse, and the colour of your lipstick is really classy.

[@7corky77]

You had me at “patronus of an ostrich” 😂😂😂

[@ZainabHabib]

I wish I had this a month or few ago for my brother! (He just got married this past weekend) Great video!

[@rhythmspiral]

Your Hollywood glam hair 😍

[@rebeccarevello4978]

This popped into my thread right after talking to my family about all the potential drama people 😅😂

[@rebeccalazzell5262]

I'm scared to plan with my mother in law she is paying for everything and I don't know how to set expectations for someone who is paying for it lol but this video really helped and all the info you gave is great. Thank you!

[@heidioberlander8919]

I have been binging your videos, could you do a review of Ling's Moment, a faux flower company?

[@nadiadansani2139]

Loving Jamie’s hair on this vid

[@BlindBabeBeth]

Planning our wedding for 2024! 💕

[@mkg2124]

Same!!

[@kathyschemmel8166]

After six months of meeting my husband he asked me to marry him. I didn’t want an engagement ring. His mother thought the neighbors would believe he was cheap so she gave me her engagement ring. Little did I know that she asked my brand new husbandTo ask me for the ring back at the reception. I gave it back and never spoke about it again.

[@melissabarry8995]

Exactly why people takeoff and get married. People want to control the situation as if it’s their own wedding.

[@nataliaalmeida-nacillustra5954]

Getting married in two months, still gotta pay for all the paperwork.

[@echoannazelnik1754]

This video helped me to see that I was better off cancelling everything and sticking with a civil ceremony with none of my family there. None of my family bothered to call or visit when I moved away for work, so there's no point planning a party or celebration for people who act like they don't care about me. Saving the money to go snowboard the rest of the winter and someday buy a house.

[@melissabarry8995]

That is an absolutely great idea and I got on board with that a week ago

[@XxMoonAngelxX272]

I needed this…. My wedding has been filled with so much drama.. so I have stage fright and we had a budget of only $3000 so we were planning on only having 100 people at the wedding… but it has now grown over 200. Between my mother in law not listening to my list, and my mother inviting people that I didn’t want invited and didn’t tell me till 2 weeks after the invites were sent… we are having a wedding we literally can’t afford. I sacrificed having my makeup and hair done on my day because we don’t have enough money… and my bridesmaid backed out 90 days before the wedding. Now I asked another girl. She said yes but then the next day she said no… I am so extremely stressed and I’d love to elope but we already spent so much money….

[@Rozela16]

I eloped in Vegas with the wedding place. We spent probably dress & package $3k :)

[@Leticia.Machado97]

Hello! I’ve been watching your videos throughout my engagement and it’s been a huge help. Im still debating sending a save the date or just the oficial invitation. Are save the dates necessary? My wedding is in 7 months

[@dominiquegarcia5764]

My first cousin is trying to deal with her dad’s manipulative gf while planning her initiate wedding. GF originally said she was not going to go and now wants to but she is now saying she is not invited. Also, she is not letting the bride’s father contribute “her” money to the wedding. She doesn’t even work. Just a few things she has done since my first cousin got engaged at the beginning of the year. Just feel so bad for my first cousin who has waited so long to find her soulmate.

[@Leviajohnson]

I listened to the whole video and I haven’t a clue what she’s talking about. I feel like she keeps alluding to the thing, but never addresses it. I came to this video hoping to better understand why people are so sensitive about wedding planning. My fiancée and I are in the planning stage and she seems so much more serious about it. What’s wrong with me? Im happy to help pay, pick the venue, make and send invites, arrange for catering and dj’s and photographers. Beyond that, why stress about it so much? Why am I never caring enough about the wedding?

[@melissabarry8995]

That sounds like you’re letting your fiancé make the decisions which is wonderful, but needs to blame someone else for the stress. I’m stressed because my fiancé wants to have control, but doesn’t want to participate in doing it. 😱

[@victoriae6311]

Hi Jamie, thank you for having a conversation that's often ignored. I just watched all of the Bridal Prep Academy this morning and it was super helpful!

[@cutecarolina1990]

Love this topic, but the link for the psychology website is not found.

[@soldierofthecross3410]

Hi Jamie I was wondering what u thought of a wedding vow renewal?

[@soapiesoap5649]

Lost one of my best friends and maid of honour I didn’t make bridesmaid dress shopping enough about her and pushed her out the door without trying on more dresses the dam shop was closing! Then she ghosted me after I tried to reschedule another appointment….

[@missyfrank880]

I wish I stuck to my guns and just had a backyard chill wedding. My father and my in-laws demanded a large wedding. I hate it so much. My mother in law is basically taking over everything I’m just going to call it her wedding at this point. And of course it’s his mother so she can do no wrong in his eyes. I hate this

[@missyfrank880]

Regarding my family- my mom passed away to brain cancer 6 years ago. She would be helping me plan if she was here. My father isn’t involved. He doesn’t really ever involve himself with creative things in our lives. And I have two younger sisters who aren’t interested in helping me plan so I’m left with a control freak mother in law basically dictating my wedding. I’m so over it. I wish that I never cracked and just stuck to my guns and stuck with a small personal wedding

[@scullymariam1922]

@@missyfrank880so sorry to hear this. I’m also dealing with an overbearing MIL who was trying to control aspects of the wedding and it caused huge arguments between me and fiancé .. How are you doing now? Wishing you the best…🌺

[@missyfrank880]

@@scullymariam1922hey!! We are doing ok. Getting closer to the date!! I’m getting more excited but the planning is just stressing me out

[@judefowler6687]

Thank you, thank you, thank you. Sooo my partner and I are THE most chilled people - we like an easy, no-nonsense approach to everything. Yet somehow, I'm in tears over freaking flower colours and other stupid, trivial things. A couple of people are making our lives harder than expected and I get actual panic attacks when I have to deal with wedding-related stuff. I've turned into a constant mediator and feel like I'm having to take the weight of all this. I wanted to get eloped but agreed to a 'small' wedding to compromise with my other half. As terrible as it is to say, I keep praying something goes wrong and we have to restart (then I can persuade a tiny wedding) 🤣. I can't wait to marry him, but can't stand this process 😫.

[@MegaHotdiggity]

I am similar, I wanted about 10 people at the wedding and it became clear that 10 people wouldn’t even cover my partner’s aunts and uncles. I seem to be still fixated on telling people how I wanted it small and it Had to be big for my fiancé’s family because I’m embarrassed about how blown up it has become. I hate that to plan this means to attempt to exercise control over it but then we brides are also told to let go of control and just enjoy & know that it’s going to go wrong and isn’t that fun and if you don’t think it’s fun, you’re a control freak. Like ok care care care but if it goes wrong don’t care, like then what’s the point of all of it? But tell me to relax and I’ll become so lax the wedding is unplanned or sloppy so let’s get judged on that. So I ignore anyone trying to “chill me out”.

[@johnrainsman6650]

Hey, can someone explain this wedding joke to me? I saw this happen in the hall near my brother's wedding reception. A female banquet manager was upset with a caterer, who had signed up for a one-person shift. She said she didn't think he could successfully do the service alone. She was sternly all, "I've told you not to sign up for shifts by yourself, I've been very clear about that, I don't know how much clearer I can get for you to listen. You need someone there to give you instructions and guide you." And then the caterer said, "You know, I'm beginning to see why you manage wedding receptions." What does his comeback mean? Whats the implied reason?

[@seasidesandys]

My wedding drama? I had to uninvite my own mother to the wedding

[@johnwayne1874]

Wow I am trying to be a helpful groom and this video really opened my eyes too what is going on in her head. Her family is vary fancier then mine lol. Red neck cowboy / truck driver/ crazy family to her calm, well off, big family bonds . I'm getting to meet some of my family for the first time as a adult. Her on the other hand knows everything about her family. I didn't even think of all this uggg I feel like a A..H here

[@ElisabethLynn]

My sister married her high school sweetheart on 9th street when the woman who gave birth to us, her sperm donor, Grandma, and 2 of our sisters lived on 1st street, but they didn’t show up. My father and I drove 5 hours and were the only people on her side. My brother got married to the mother of his children and Grandma started a fight before the wedding with his fiancée and me right before the wedding because she wanted her daughter AKA the woman who gave birth to us who abused and neglected us to come and we didn’t want her there on his big day when she hadn’t talked to him in years since she made him a homeless teenager and we didn’t want her around his kids, but my 3 sisters voted to let Grandma invite her and bring her if she wanted to come in case she changed. He called me the morning of the wedding to do his fiancée’s hair and makeup and she had Pinterest expectations way beyond my skill level. It was raining and the gravel road was muddy and not great for my Beetle. And he had me sit at the sweetheart table with the two of them and their three kids instead of the table with our siblings and grandparents and I got tired of their loud comments and lies and I left. I was like best friends with the bride and her parents and grandparents were like my parents and grandparents, but I had enough. I’m trying to figure out how to have my grandparents at my wedding because they’re super racist and Grandma’s incredibly vocal about how she feels about Black people and she always makes embarrassing comments out in public and she is amazingly rude…and I am marrying a Black man. I love my grandparents and I’m their favorite grandchild and Grandma tells everyone I’m her favorite. I just don’t know how she is going to behave and we have discussed just ignoring her, but his family and friends don’t need to be around that and my family and friends don’t either…