The Dark Truth About Long-Term Relationships

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

"Humanity is in the dark ages regarding relationships. This is a sad reality to swallow, especially given that humans are a social species and relationship was not only central to our life experience, it was and is the key to our very survival. We are headed from unconscious relationships to conscious relationships and we are deep in the middle of navigating that journey. Currently, most people live in enough of an unconscious state that they don’t even spot dysfunction in their relationships. Instead, they tend to celebrate it. For now that is". Teal Swan 🌎 thank you Teal for talking about this 😘

[@doru4248]

Humanity is in the Dark Ages from all points of view, including food, basic rights like free speech, and dimmed sunlight.

[@Invisibility397]

2​71 emotions and 12 Cognitive Awareness Tests.

[@tonywright8342]

It’s always been there in the dark ages, but now we are starting to really see that. The internet has shown us what has been really happening in this world.

[@doru4248]

They censored my answer, but still they sent me notifications for other comments in the thread. How thoughtful of them.

[@opticalman6417]

she a narc who using spiritual practice to gaslight people with utter bs

[@taramcdonald9725]

This woman has saved my life

[@jessicaszturmann609]

Exactly, same here. All the best❤

[@Amanda-nz5rl]

Word.

[@TopperPenquin]

She is beyond good and I do believe that a lot of these people deriding her here are government plants.

[@leeenda]

My former marriage was a blend of three or four of your examples. Maybe it eveolved from one dysfunction to another over 30 years. Once I prioritized myself over longevity it fell apart pretty quickly. Great video!

[@meileverse]

Same. At one point longevity was THE ONLY thing that kepts us together... Imagine how horrified I was when I cought myself thinking "How other people will react if we divorce?" That was the moment I knew something was seriously wrong

[@leeenda]

@@meileverse same! By the time I told my parents, I had gone through every possible discussion and was totally at peace with it. I see now that peoples’ reactions are a reflection of what they’re going through and I don’t take it personally

[@ChimiChuri-k2o]

In the messy reality of life and love, there's this raw, genuine longing for a connection that feels rock-solid. We all yearn for that one person who not only understands our quirks but sticks around through the highs and lows because, let's be honest, who doesn't want a love that lasts?

[@OfAngelsAndAnarchist]

You’re describing attachment which has nothing to do with love haha

[@salonez91]

Not true. Love is not ment to be always sunny and rainbow. Teal is more speaking about perfect relationship and even she concluded there is none or extremely rare.@lsAndAnarchist

[@OfAngelsAndAnarchist]

@@salonez91 again, you’re describing attachment, not love. “The perfect romantic relationship” Is merely an image that many, many people attach to. And all of them have a different idea of how the image is supposed to look. Love is unconditional, and if it’s not unconditional, it’s just another form of attachment masquerading as love.

[@CoraBellotto]

Unconditional love is a myth. Obviously adult love is conditional. But respect is crucial.

[@OfAngelsAndAnarchist]

@@CoraBellotto it’s really not. But I have noticed that very few people find it. That is because, it is in the present, where everything “real” exists. And most people live instead in their imaginations, thinking they’re in the past or the future. Stuck in a personal narrative which doesn’t “exist” outside your head. What Buddhists call “the dream state” or “samsara” I’ll take that statement as a sad one, that you know neither the difference between reality and your conceptual frameworks And you don’t know the difference between attachment and love yet But don’t feel too bad; it’s very rare that I meet someone who actually does

[@ottitudes]

I've been in a relationship for 18 years and I can honestly say that if you dont actually want to be in a relationship with someone (with all the effort and brave / open / vulnerable dialogue it entails), please cut your losses and quit before you make yourself and your partner unhappy. Please dont get hung up on the notion that "the longer the relationship, the happier it is". Its bs. Regardless of length, your relationship is good if you AND your partner are willing to invest in it. Some relationships start off slow and the more you invest in it the better it gets. Other start out great and turn sour. Just recognize honestly the situation you are really in. If its not good for you, just quit. If you both feel its salvageable, work on it, but dont force something that doesnt actually work. And if it works, it doesnt mean its a disney fairytale, thats another bs perpetuated wrongly by media.

[@millanferende6723]

Yeah it looks like love doesn't really exist.. and both men and women, are horrible creatures, (selfish, on survival and self-centered, even when open)... and only "love" that can work is the boring and mundane one, that you wouldn't have chosen as your first option... but it works. The only ones lucky enough to experience true love, are those truly on their soul road towards happiness and passion... and even then it isn't guaranteed, but at least you are happy and following your passion already, so it can only turn out well for you. ^^ (because then romance isn't a priority anyway.)

[@michellefuerstenberg935]

My grandparents where married over 52yrs before my grandfather passed. They said it lasted not because it was perfect. But because they both put time and effort into it. They never went to bed mad and they always listened to each other so they knew where the other person was coming from.

[@Invisibility397]

Right women get bored with safety security comfort peace serenity and tranquility. They dissapear from the Good Men's life. Good Luck

[@malgkur]

Did you learn anything from the video? 🤔🤔

[@capriciousfawn]

@@Invisibility397what a dumb and irrelevant generalization…

[@iweedumout9311]

My grandma and grandpa met at 16!! They literally stayed til death do them part. My grandma was an amazing painter her house full of paintings.. my grandpa a Freemason died at 81 and I always thought it was so beautiful that they have all of those memories and years shared together? Who tf even stays that long! It's a bunch of empty promises mostly only to never be held again by that friend/relationship but my grandma and grandpa they had a beautiful simplistic house they were so peaceful my grandpa on his death bed said "never give up on the one you love, you can be mad we all make mistakes but don't give up on your truest love" The happiest year of my life was 2019 I lived in a beautiful peaceful home with my grandparents before the wrong boys fucked up my mental... And even still 2019 was the best because of them... 😢

[@Invisibility397]

@@capriciousfawn Certainly, here are critical thinking skills along with their definitions in bullet point format: 1. **Analysis**: Breaking down complex information into simpler parts to understand its components and relationships. 2. **Interpretation**: Understanding and explaining the meaning of information, data, or events. 3. **Inference**: Drawing logical conclusions based on available information and evidence. 4. **Evaluation**: Assessing the credibility, reliability, and quality of information and arguments. 5. **Problem-Solving**: Finding effective solutions to complex or challenging issues. 6. **Decision-Making**: Making sound choices based on a careful consideration of available options and their consequences. 7. **Creativity**: Generating innovative ideas, solutions, and approaches to problems. 8. **Reasoning**: Using logical and rational thinking to analyze, synthesize, and draw conclusions. 9. **Deductive Reasoning**: Drawing specific conclusions from general principles or premises. 10. **Inductive Reasoning**: Formulating general conclusions based on specific observations or evidence. 11. **Abductive Reasoning**: Generating the most likely explanation or hypothesis when faced with incomplete information. 12. **Conceptual Thinking**: Grasping and applying abstract ideas and principles to real-world situations. 13. **Metacognition**: Reflecting on and monitoring one's own thought processes and problem-solving strategies. 14. **Information Literacy**: The ability to locate, evaluate, and effectively use information from various sources. 15. **Open-Mindedness**: Willingness to consider different viewpoints and perspectives without bias. 16. **Skepticism**: Questioning the validity of information and claims, especially in the absence of strong evidence. 17. **Clarity**: Expressing ideas and arguments in a clear and understandable manner. 18. **Precision**: Using language and concepts accurately to avoid ambiguity and vagueness. 19. **Logical Fallacy Recognition**: Identifying errors in reasoning and argumentation. 20. **Evidence-Based Reasoning**: Relying on data and evidence to support claims and decisions. 21. **Problem Identification**: Recognizing and defining problems or challenges effectively. 22. **Critical Reflection**: Thoughtfully reviewing and analyzing one's own thinking and decision-making processes. 23. **Active Listening**: Paying full attention to others' ideas and arguments to understand and evaluate them. 24. **Pattern Recognition**: Identifying recurring themes, trends, or relationships in data or information. 25. **Contextual Awareness**: Recognizing the broader context and implications of ideas and decisions. These critical thinking skills are valuable for making informed decisions, solving problems, and effectively engaging with complex information and situations.

[@Cat-uk4do]

The more I am realising this the more I just feel sad for humanity. So much disfunction and pain all topped off with denial. My past also reflects this.

[@sehrinteressant]

What a great video. The fact that at this point healthy long-term relationships are not the norm makes me feel less alone in this, because at this point all the relationships I attracted were dysfunctional for me. I really want a relationship with someone who also is into healing and who wants to build a healthy dynamic.

[@divyaraj6517]

My question is what's a conscious beneficial relationship? The way I see it in my current relationship is to heal ourselves, the triggers and see what underlying truth is for both of us. Understanding each other and be in a relationship based on decisions taken consciously, not by unhealed wounds. And being with each other in what ever way possible instead of cutting each other off, unless that person is very toxic for you.

[@wittjablonski2699]

Yeah, that’s one frustration I have when teal does episodes on topics and doesn’t go into what is needed or does look like, just exposes an issue or shadow and leaves it there.

[@divyaraj6517]

@@wittjablonski2699 you stole my thoughts, I felt the same incompleteness, I really want to know her approach to the way we can address these patterns and resolve and to know how does doing it look like. What I wrote in the original comment is my answer to same 😊

[@cornwallismorgan874]

I agree with your assessment of it. A consciously beneficial relationship seems to be one that's governed by light (vs shadow) compatibility and a genuine willingness to heal and move into a healthy connection.

[@gtgt9655]

Its always easier to point out the problems then it is to give solutions i guess... I wasn't aware that people assumed that longevity of a relationship = good relationship... If you come from a culture were Women are .. i guess oppressed you know this is not the case.. We are not all enlightened beings.. We are a work in progress.. So being in a somewhat "dysfunctional" relationship of some kind is understandable.. Iam no Guru or anything but i found that being vulnerable and letting your partner know what issues you have then working on them helps inspire them to be vulnerable in return.. The key is to genuinely be working on yourself without expecting anything in return.. Let them work on themselves.. Meditation helps alot..

[@LucaAnamaria]

Look into secure attachment. That's the goal in relationships. There are wonderful resources on KZbin such as Heidi Priebe and Thais Gibson (Personal Development School).

[@Suboptimalconditions]

This is accurate. When i was struggling with unhealthy relationships… one after another… i struggled with addictions as well, i remember there were people who criticized me and my struggles by saying “she has two parents who are still together” as in “this is just her being a shitty person because it couldn’t possibly be the home she grew up in” and that blew my frickin mind because my family is sooooooo damn dysfunctional and it was the most insane i ever felt and alone. I’ve been practicing celibacy for over 5 years now and have made great strides in building healthy relationships with my parents but the dysfunctional relationship they have still greatly impacts my brothers. One of my brothers is with an abusive wife and the other is… abandoning his wife and daughter currently and his wife can’t even drive. He moved her across the country to abandon her without any way to get around. Hopefully she and my niece will be moving in with us. The hardest part is when my mom says “we didn’t raise him like this” ummmm… yes mam, you actually did. Not to put fault on my parents because their relationship is actually far more healthy than the household relationships they grew up in. We are definitely in the dark ages… i want to be the light and i am. No blame just love and a desire to heal myself and provide an honest relationship with my children and really everyone I meet.

[@soulthriver-oz6470]

You can't change what you don't acknowledge. You're already very aware. Stay strong & clear.

[@muchamocha7]

I've been single for 8 years after a divorce. I don't regret it. I've dated several men, and even though in the midst of each connection was difficult or emotional, I learned how and when to let go as maturely as I could and learn from the situation. It's a lonely road for sure, but I'd rather be alone than with the wrong person. I think it feels better to be honest and recognize people's individual circumstances and behavior, rather than attempt to attach to someone who is not on the same page with me, usually in many ways. Teal teaches about acceptance too, and that's a big one. I'm hoping in the future I can have some experiences that exhibit what a healthy, workable relationship looks like. 🌻

[@justinesalt9140]

My grandparents are together more than 60 years. Grandpa call grandma "our mummy" and grandma had been only cooking and cleaning her whole life. Could not ever say "no" to anything or plan samething for only herself. But both are judging other people for divorce or being single.

[@RobertMJohnson]

They can judge all they want. What’s the problem?

[@justinesalt9140]

@HomeschoolingDepot1 Yes they are happy like mother with a child. Grandma paid with her health. They are enmeshed and will never see the truth. God bless them.

[@smiles8851]

Yes…this what the world like, approve, applaud and revere as a great success/love story and present it as the ultimate goal that we should all live by! It’s every married couple’s goal…for better or for worse…actually they should clarify this in the vows as through narcissism and enmeshment, through codependency and trauma bonding…till death do us part!! 😅😅 Maybe that’ll make the dream princess happily ever after weddings less misleading to the naive young girls and boys attending them!! 😂 Until then only people who are divorced or separated will see otherwise! Even Teal doesn’t explain a solution to this properly in my opinion… Cause in a different video she talks about how the universe loves a loose-loose scenario and whatever path you chose to walk into will determine your great success…in spite it being for the right or wrong reasons… I’m actually confused about this…😞

[@MD-wx9in]

Love this teal! What I’ve learned is that for most people is very hard to accept truth and reality of themselves they don’t want to deal with their painful emotions they prefer to live in fantasy land

[@anarkistprod]

Incredible wisdom as always. I discovered for myself the reality that I am not built for a long term relationship due to my ambitions, and so I've relinquished all desire for a life partner as it would be unfair of me to put someone in that situation. I've always had an intense desire to be left alone to pursue my path and now that I'm here, I've never been more fulfilled. After years of therapy and guidance from much smarter and wiser folks in my life, I've received an enormous amount of validation for this idea. Some people just simply can't make it work, and would be better off spending that energy on building their network and strengthening their bonds with those closest to them.

[@tonywright8342]

This is so spot on. Teal is so good at bringing it all together. I seen it in my own relationship and see it everywhere today. 50% of marriages end in divorce and most of the others are living as Teal speaks. I have spent many years alone working through this. Watching this I can now see what’s needed for a relationship to really work.Creating a conscious relationship. I have been moving in that direction. Now I see that way more clear. 🙏

[@randomelvis3359]

We were brought here “perfectly imperfect” …but knowing how it all works “consciousness“ is actually the end game… what happens next NO ONE knows ✨

[@millanferende6723]

Only way to prosperity is to learn Natural / Spiritual / God (our world and the world beyond) Law and to unite / bound together. Work as Groups of conscious people. The rest will follow.

[@TealSwanOfficial]

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[@deedeewhipple4668]

This was illuminating. There's a lot of shame and avoidance these relationship examples. Now I'll go see what you say about dealing with shame.

[@celestehernandez2000]

Thank you Teal 🙏

[@show_me_your_kitties]

I wish more creators did this. Thank you Teal, I love you.

[@mmehendale3624]

Teal “swan” will just never sit right with me.

[@show_me_your_kitties]

@@mmehendale3624 I don't think you understand how to use quotations.

[@vaishalivaidya7978]

Brilliant insight. Many relations are truly dysfunctional and just procreating codependency, distress, loneliness and everything that we call unhealthy. At most. Most ppl at best are Tolerating each other.

[@kikib.4519]

I agree, I'm in a long term relationship, but I'm not happy about it.

[@mandy5940]

Thank you. I just ended an unhappy unloving relationship last night. It hurts but it is also time for self love rather than no love ❤

[@roshomosho]

Toxic couples also post on social media about what a fantastic couple they are and make others "feel jealous" that way!

[@kyleydiamond]

yep, because if you're jealous of them they must be doing something right, even if that is the only validation.

[@coreycox2345]

@@kyleydiamond I hate them.

[@chrisoconnor7110]

My grandparents made it over 60 years of marriage, parents are on 34 years, they both had some conflict but could make it happen, and BOTH parties supported each other, I was in a 10 year relationship, 2 yrs married, and could not make it work, too much disfunction and unresolved past trauma, feel like a failure everyday but with deep shadow work I'm going a better direction, thank you so much Teal!

[@kyleydiamond]

you are not a failed human if you don't find a 60 year partner. I hope you feel LOVE, I hope you have meaningful connections in your life, but I hope Teal's message also highlights to not define your value by one idea of a relationship. if you feel like a failure until you're married for 60 years that's a big hole

[@taylorfausett177]

I'm wondering where your past trauma came from. For me, it is primarily from my parents who were also traumatized by their parents. Trauma and dysfunction is generational in my family. My grandparents and parents were married forever just like in your family. My mother married someone abusive just like her father, my grandfather. I can see how I'm just like my mother and grandmother. I don't stay in my marriages however. And I'm glad because I am making an effort to break the tradition. Look at yourself as brave and not a failure ❤

[@Ally-nn9cg]

⁠@@taylorfausett177most trauma comes from family of origin. If OP is admiring parents’ and grandparents’ relationship longevity but had trauma get in the way of their own relationship, chances are they have yet to see the reality of the relationships between parents and grandparents. Merely supporting each other is not a sign of a healthy relationship. The question is what their motives are for being supportive. A lot of support comes from a place of codependency.

[@love_dove_]

Most of my relationships have been dysfunctional. I have grown to acknowledge my role in the mess and I'm on a journey of healing. My current partner is equal parts supportive, loving and space-giving and I am that to him in return. I am happy when I'm with him and happy when I'm not, I've never felt that before. In the past, I had a tendency to feel happier alone and preferred only small amounts of togetherness, out of fear of losing myself and maybe not wanting to get too invested/fear of getting hurt. Though I could swing the other way at times and not want to be alone but be unhappy with the person being there (I know that doesn't make sense). I had/have a fearful avoidant/disorganised attachment style. It has felt huuuuuuge to let the current man into my life and to feel content, safe, secure with him. Teal's videos really open my eyes and mind whenever i take in her teachings. Thank you :-)

[@Undercovershrinkhere]

Make an episode about female sexuality! Especially about the womb. It upsets me how so many women are told that the weirdest kinds of discharge are normal and healthy, just because many women have this unhealthy condition. Same with being „unorgasmic“. I don’t want a lack of female health to be normalized!

[@user-tv2he1ge9h]

Oh my god yeeess!!!

[@VermillionLeaves]

Yes please!!

[@Undercovershrinkhere]

@@carlyofearth HELLYESS

[@jeanjacqueslundi3502]

@@carlyofearth What does the strenght of a man have to do with whether he shames a woman sexuality or not?

[@jeanjacqueslundi3502]

@@carlyofearth Yeah but your idea of "shaming" is very vague. As for a strong man being "healthy sexually" that also can mean many things. Are you not yourself shaming people who don't fit your idea of what "healthy sexuality" is (not saying you are, just asking)? How do I know I'm a "strong" man?

[@Nina_Kowsari]

I watched Teal's interview with Miss Understood last night. Great interview

[@joy-lopes]

I see your point Teal. I agree with it - I've been paying attention to that for a long time now to the point that I started NOT believing love at all. However, I've been shown that love IS real. It's true, it doesn't need to equate long-term relationships but I wish you had ended this video on a more positive note. I think we need hope nowadays. What do we do with this info? For those of us who are longing for deep, and yes, long-term HEALING relationships, do we just give up already? I choose to stick to love. Even if temporarily - even if temporarily is a couple of years only instead of 10+ years our grand/parents stuck together for. We come together, do our thing and go away - for the mission we're on individually as souls. And that's okay.

[@CLCL748]

When you say I choose to stick to love, what you are saying is I choose to stick to consciousness because that’s what love actually is. If you can have a relationship in which you are conscious all the time and the other person is as well, all the power to you but it’s highly unlikely. Most relationships are made of unconsciousness with at best intermittent flashes of consciousness so love is very fleeting if it’s there at all.

[@kyleydiamond]

I'm also going to pop in and recommend a book- communion by bell hooks. it's about "women's search for love" and talks about all different relationships in which we can find love.

[@nataliaprodan9335]

That's a good viewpoint. You cannot control how long the relationship will last . That depends on who you are dealing with also, but you are only in control of yourself and all you can do is give it your best shot😘

[@infinite-inspiration1111]

I am actually surprised you've never done a video about incest. It would greatly benefit people like me who have suffered from this dysfunctionality in my upbringing and life.

[@GiaCruz]

😢I’m so very sorry!!!!!!

[@melkerner]

When one partner in the relationship arbitrarily changes the fundamental aspects of the relationship by their decision alone (physical intimacy) and still expects traditional roles and commitment to remain - it is dysfunctional.

[@GillianAnnBlower]

I think this is true. I see dynamics shift towards keeping things going. Instead of expanding the scope and happiness of whole unit, couple.

[@williamshakespeare9094]

I love your eyes and your hair and your face in general. It's so delicate and refined and breathtaking, I just can't describe how beautiful you are, Teal❤ and this shirt looks cool and refreshing.

[@joered4689]

My first relationship and my last one were 10 years apart. They ended in the same exact way, a person showing interest, going above and beyond to get my affection, we date for a few months, we fall in love, I soak in the extremely rare feeling of security and stability that this person offers by reaffirming how much they love me everyday, then suddenly out of nowhere they reveal it was all a mistake and I was just a distraction from the pain of their previous relationship. The first time took me years to overcome, the second time I needed intensive therapy. Safe to say I’m never letting anyone mess with what little peace and sanity that I have left cause humans are absolute animals with a primary need to feel good at the expense of anyone and anything. The word love makes my palms sweat, I think I’ve developed a phobia to the concept of falling in love, the more I think about it the more it feels like the most unhinged thing someone would do to feel happy. The peace that came after I got moved on is something I wouldn’t trade ANYTHING for, it’s too good to risk for the sake of anyone.

[@89Stick]

Oh Teal, you killjoy. On a serious note this has got my analysing my own long term relationship. It's an eye opener. Thanks 😊

[@Sera79]

Teal with yet another truthbomb 🤯 ... thank you 🩵

[@sj3969]

I haven’t started the video yet, but I have come to see relationships as journeys. Or chapters like anything else in life. We begin them and then they must in some way end. As someone who has changed so much over the past few years, incrementally over time, I look back at the relationships I had and recognize that they served a purpose. Low self esteem me chose men who mirrored that to me so I had to learn. Disempowered me had to learn that lesson as well. Now, after an abusive childhood that left me with scars I feel stronger. I sought out others to complete/validate me. I used to want to hear someone call me beautiful, but now I don’t want/need that. I KNOW that I am and that’s enough.

[@Gk2003m]

Relationships among two or more people can only be as non-dysfunctional as the most dysfunctional person in that relationship. It’s like an automobile; it is only as reliable as the weakest component in the drivetrain/suspension.

[@freyahermanns3079]

Yet again, Teal often posts just exactly what I need in the moment. Thank you so much!

[@navyamekera8145]

🔥🔥🔥 The examples are so accurate. Teal knows the best way to hit us with truth. Scared me to realize just how common, normal dysfunction is

[@littlefairyfly]

These relationship videos are amazing, please keep them coming

[@Dovile-Artist555]

Thank you Teal for another video. Her frequency paintings help a lot.

[@kika-ge5qr]

The truth is ,endurism is working out fine for us. The good is way more abundant than the bad. It's temporary anyway. Right? lol Thank you Teal. Be well.❤️

[@Catina28]

The more I've been working on myself the more I can see the dysfunction in my relationship. I've been here for 17 yrs 😳. I'm hoping that we can turn it around however my partner is in total denial at this stage. So there will be a point where I will have to end it as I cannot u seed wat I see and I can't force home to see wat he is not ready to see. Of course I'm still doing work on my attachment issue as it still difficult to just walk away.

[@kikib.4519]

I understand how you feel completely.

[@soulthriver-oz6470]

Sounds precisely like me in my 20 yr relationship. His consciousness is rigid & high school level.

[@peteduch2151]

People often jump in relationships not realizing their shortcomings emotional trauma a loveless upbringing or being told by parents who are dysfunktional themselves don"t worry it wil be fine

[@antoniarichtersalla4855]

Love you Teal! I want you to know that I found in you the guidance I needed for so long. I am sad that I did not found you earlier . So much love to you and your team. You are so authentic!❤ Thank you for all your hard work. I feel like, one day with you would resolve so much in my live. Lot of the times, listening to you, is like remembering what I already know. Would love to see you in Person one day, but at the Moment its Not possible. Thank you❤

[@frankfrantisek]

This is a fantastic video Teal. It truly is the dark truth that is super hard to admit. I was in a long term relationship for 20 years and only when I left, I realised how unconscious and dysfunctional our bond was. I've been single ever since which is 6 years this year and I keep learning about myself but the more aware I am of myself and the reality of things, the more unraveling there is and a fewer potential partner matches. At this point, looking around, I feel like I am going to be single for the rest of my life.

[@tavar16]

This concept is something I noticed once i left a long term relationship. Then realized many others around me are maintaining a dysfunctional relationship similar to how I did for too long.

[@oliverrojas3185]

Thanks for sharing your knowledge of dysfunctional relationships and how they exist under many different scenarios.

[@5am74]

I am the the guy in the first example. Almost as if Teal held up a mirror in front of me and showed me why I feel the way I do. Now I have a name for what is wrong with me, and for that I am incredibly grateful. I really want to learn more about “covert incest”, and would greatly appreciate it if anyone can give me any of Teal’s videos where she explains more about the subject.

[@apriljohnson1067]

I’ve worked with the elderly and older couples all of my working life and I don’t believe in the existence of a happy 50 year marriage. I’ve written about this for years. Originally in my own marriage, I believe others had picked wrong. 20 years later, I realize it is almost impossible to pick well at the age most of us marry. Divorce is not failure. It is freeing.

[@revy-9681]

Why is your content so unique omg thank you so much for existing

[@damianjones6546]

Teal is a very intelligent lady. I struggle to follow her sometimes. I see relationships as an opportunity for growth, unfortunately sometimes people need to go to extremes before they start the process of self love and getting help for they're issues. Once both partners in the relationship are willing to get accept they have issues and get the help they need, that relationship can grow and move forward.

[@zaynabahmad698]

I think we should identify what is wrong in order to try to make it right, but nothing real is ever perfect! I think in every relationship, in the end there will be some of disfunction in a way or another.

[@CLCL748]

The deeper truth is that we are all dysfunctional. This is the reality of the human condition at this point in time. You can be dysfunctional alone or dysfunctional in relationship. The former can give you an illusion of normalcy while the latter will tend to reveal your dysfunction. Bottom line is some are aware they are dysfunctional, others are not but dysfunction is there either way.

[@lifeofthebeautifulalchemis1288]

Yea, I believe that, even coming into this human body, is a form of dysfunction. It’s like we come here to play for a bigger cause. This is not the end all be all so the journey is dysfunctional in and of itself.

[@justanillusion20]

👏🏼

[@stairway5008]

if all of us is dysfunctional,we would fit standard of being functional

[@CLCL748]

@@stairway5008The fact that a majority of people is a certain way might mean it’s normal but it doesn’t mean it’s healthy.

[@stairway5008]

@@CLCL748 how do you define healthy?like human cant see object 10 km away but eagles can ,do you define that unhealthy?

[@Klayborn1]

What an amazingly true video.

[@tonytalks9070]

This woman is a genius!

[@dougmccoll6126]

Everybody right, everybody wrong, everything is with dysfunction...does my presence turn yours up or down? Do you turn mine up or down...what happens when we notice, or don't, or think the other person does or if we sit and become aware of or read about and learn about the unconscious mind, its beauty and its ugliness and believe or learn to see in ourselves and.or in others. We now become aware that we are judgiing everybody and ourselves and second guessing every decision and how someone else will feel or benefit etc by doing this? What are the repurcussions? When does a person become aware that they have ADHD? or what if we just overthink and overanalyse everything we do and what others to too, of course and then wonder, which is stronger; my OCD or my ADHD? and then just say oh I love all of me, my annoying quirks, bad sense of timing, mask wearing, akwardness, bad spelling...I can make it all work...or not, whatever!

[@Openingtheshadow]

It’s all perspective.

[@Shekrizy]

Gosh i love this woman and how comedic she is in such deep topics

[@valenmiluz]

Thank you Teal💙 I would appreciate if you can talk about menopause 🌹🌹🌹🙏

[@annat.622]

My grandparents had decades long relationships- miserable as fvck, cheating, illnesses, etc.,don't recommend. And my parents' relationship was exactly like the first scenario, and I am the only child, or was, for mom, for the first 14 years of my life, and I experienced that covert incest, which left me with BPD, OCD, addictions and trouble making any relationships work. Plus unavailable father, who I also felt that hates me, and now I get attracted to people who don't give a fvck about my existence. And have had some fun experiences, too. Best thing my mom did was to divorce him when I was 9, at least she didn't keep it up forever like my grandparents. But they shouldn't have even kept it up for as long as they did in the first place, let alone have a child.

[@randomelvis3359]

Let go of those labels that you’ve experienced and choose to believe the truth I have seen reading your comment, you are aware, you have awoken, you may not have the relationship you deserve yet, but you will and even if you don’t…you’re conscious of “why we do what we do” so choose the freedom this brings 🙏🏻✨

[@annat.622]

@@randomelvis3359Thank you, that is really kind of you to say! The reason why I am kind of attached to these labels, especially the BPD one, is because it definitely puts explanation to my entire life, and I figured that out that December, so it's kind of relieving in a way. It doesn't make it easier or better, but it puts an explanation behind it all. And I guess that what you are saying is right, I have become aware of a lot, and I know a lot more about everything, that is going on with me, my life and my family , and it does bring some kind of freedom, indeed.

[@annat.622]

@@randomelvis3359 Thank you, that is very kind of you! And you're right, it does bring a certain level of freedom to be aware of yourself, and your life, your family, etc. Gotta use what you got, right?

[@Ane127]

Get a homeopath and live your life.

[@jarkacorkill3837]

🙏 Thank you Teal for revealing the truth about nonfunctional relationships and ilusion some people feed as they do not feel themselves secure enough. They carry on the unhealthy patterns and pass them onto their children..and this way the pattern continues on. So let's be all brave and truthful 🙏. It is never late for a great happier change 💜🙂🕊️🙏.

[@OfAngelsAndAnarchist]

I’d love for you to have a talk about the difference between attachment and love Since coming to the present, I’ve realized that most people never experience actual love for more than “the honeymoon period”

[@ParadoxxFoxx]

Teal is on fire in this one 🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥💯💯💯💯

[@PlateLive]

u came so far :D i remember watching ur videos like 10 years ago ! really awesome to see

[@padmajapadikal1815]

My mind is blown completely.

[@icesentence1182]

I needed to hear that. Thankyou wise Swan🙏🏼

[@pickupwisdom86]

Well if people don't end a dysfunctional relationship it's because the relationship is not only detrimental, but they are getting something positive out of it, or at least they perceive to get out something positive. That being said, it's true that some people are in denial about the dysfunction, but I think that the majority are aware of it but believe that they can't find something better because we don't live in a idealistic reality where you can have perfection.

[@Nina_Kowsari]

Thanks Teal

[@KTKaute]

My partner and i make no secret of the fact its not perfect. We are trying so hard to work on ourselves because we are both problematic. Ive done 12 years of therapy. I have BPD and he has ASD. Its hardgoing

[@felipesqr]

I'll be forever in debt to you for dropping these 2 words in there "cover incest" and describing the affect in the child although it was not the point of the video. You basically summarised my life there in 40 second and gave my trauma a name.. for the first time it has a name "covert emotional incest", I cant thank you enough!!!

[@paulapcay]

Freedom is the key for a good relationship, systems never work. Be happy and greatful with or without a partner... Noone grows by being alone and single.... You just get an illusion of peace, by ot accepting reflections through others....

[@hanzocodes]

Isn’t every relationship both functional and disfunctional simultaneously? Both beneficial and unhealthy to some degree? Everyone seems to be jumping ship when it comes to relationships - like, “this isn’t working from me, see ya!”, only to find themself in a different relationship with different problems. I think if you honestly love a person, you need to be willing to fight for them… to fight for your needs to be met and to make it a space where you both feel loved.

[@JT-wc7me]

Hey hey hey.. If you want gentle people in relationships stop acting like a tough guy and atop breaking hearts. The universe sees through your lies and games. Stop playing games.

[@Mahogui.]

10:27 I got so annoyed how accurate this is because it's my mother basically. Insane in her delulu land ugh ...

[@BlueLightAlchemist]

I love Teal (I'm a Gemini and Turquoise person) Swan ( Gemini is an air sign, which birds are. Teal Swan is the the woman of my dreams.

[@carathorsven3326]

Currently trying to be brave enough to address the dysfunction in my marriage, but I am terrified of the change it will bring.

[@dave55-]

I have to open this little door because I see things a little differently. When John was baptizing the people it was easy to see who was sick and who was strong, well it was a little harder because of being surrounded by the sick. Not everything is dysfunctional but when we are immersed in it we tend to want to call out “stop the blindness” and yet more poor people pour into the pool. The understanding is clear ‘get out of the hurt’ the ways to do it, not so easy but doable. The grace of God is that there is grace. Meaning, we all are growing and heading towards the light. Teal’s grace is in helping us to do it. Peace to the tribe.

[@aryanalfa2444]

This is so true! Thank you teal, for bringing that to awareness!

[@mars71mustang]

Hi Teal: thank you from Riverside, California. Mars

[@Adam444Tv]

14:25 When you scream and no one can hear you… you’re likely in a dysfunctional position.

[@brinihawraa5688]

Waw its so wonderful to hear someone talking the truth my gosh is a pleasure to hear that. Thank you

[@stanford513]

All relationships have dysfunction. 💯

[@mcbert5513]

Keep up the great work ma!

[@TruthQuest4700]

I've never known anyone (family included) whose relationship I would want and often remind myself to be careful what I wish for.

[@Xr2-8fan_810]

So true, I tell myself I live in 2024. There's guys in their fifties and sixties pushing the dark ages of SSH, game theory and even mental health are are in the dark ages. Teal you bring light to it all!! Great message, thank you , it helps me recenter on the things I know I can change.

[@outtaspacetime]

So anything said in this video might be recognized as false by 50 years later 😅😅😮

[@thinkinginpolitics5285]

very true time space reality influences our worldview.

[@jm_universe]

My husband and I bring out the good and bad with each other, but we have more good days than bad. We are just two human beings living with each other's occasional chaotic moods. lol 😊

[@Morale_Booster]

I loved this one ❤️

[@anattaokonkwo]

Damn, I really needed to hear this 💯 So spot on!...And I miss your old theme music..

[@peterwinzeler2935]

It goes deep and to no return.

[@LewisBallJr-bv3mc]

You're brilliant!

[@Bastet32]

Truth Bomb, 💣 as always.

[@mevja]

So what we do with dysfunctional relationships ?we broke up or we hold to share with someone we know and love ?

[@GideonStevens]

You try to find the dysfunctional part, accept your contribution to it, and work on the problem with your person.

[@parlakgoezde]

This was brutal

[@toolsthattransform]

Great share, Love this.

[@toolsthattransform]

My pleasure! Friend, I'm happy to support those who are putting good vibrations out in the world. I have a suite of heart focused meditations on my YT channel that are all designed to help calm and balance your nervous system. No matter what you struggle with balancing your nervous system can improve your health.

[@The1972maxim]

Oh Yes,i pure truth....The sad thing is that if we refuse to see the reality the wayl It really is we are stuck in misery forever and IT hurts

[@mariaokhapkina6971]

Love you, Teal.

[@bruceprigge5212]

Thank you ! 😊

[@AmyKinso]

Whenever I try to fix or point out the dysfunction in my relationship he turns it into an argument, hence more dysfunction, and I get blamed for starting it and he plays victim….what do 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@jnl3564]

Then the real disfunction is that you have no voice. Therefore, it isn't acually a relationship at all.

[@AmyKinso]

@@jnl3564 yes that’s how I feel

[@kyleydiamond]

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[@heathercameron843]

How do you manage a concious relationship that has a partner with a clinical mental health diagnosis (ie bipolar 2).. . Is it dysfunctional or does it have workability..? Mental health is very difficult to regulate funtionality....would be interesting video to explore.

[@chaz7604]

I agree

[@letalucy644]

Fantastic content thank you