The difference between CHASING vs PURSUING A WOMAN!

[@YourWingmam]

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[@actmyage2149]

How I see the distinction between the two: pursuing a woman is like placing a well-baited hook into a pond at the proper location and calmly waiting for the fish to take interest. If the fish doesn't come, calmly move to a different location with suitable fish and try again. Chasing a woman is running into the pond splashing and frantically grabbing at any fish which catches your eye.

[@YourWingmam]

@@actmyage2149 Excellent analogy! I approve this message! :))

[@billmurray7473]

You remind of Karen Valentine from TVs "Room 222".

[@lloydkline1518]

Pursuing & chase basically mean same thing, Pursuing a woman show guy show her fancy 🚗car; talk her professional job etc etc chasing a woman is like my late female cat got pregnant by male neighbors cat

[@tomfotografie5831]

The part about logic is a bit vague tho, how would you go about 'convincing' someone? Starting every sentence with i feel like ... ? Any good video recommendations about this? Nice video btw!

[@ModernDatingMastery]

*Chasing is when you lose yourself trying to gain someone’s attention. Pursuing is when you show genuine interest while maintaining your value and boundaries - big difference!*

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing. I appreciate that ❤️ 🙏🏼

[@brookvalley907]

Okay, okay. You are now officially the best relationship consultant on the net. You were spot on, on everything. You understand things of which other consultants are completely unaware.

[@YourWingmam]

Best compliment! Thank you! :))

[@brookvalley907]

@@YourWingmam it is my best compliment. I have never given it to anyone else, because you "get it" better than anyone else. I pity the fool, who tries to game you.

[@AutoBodyEverything]

She’s part of my top 3

[@twain772]

@@YourWingmam I am curious, are you in a romantic relationship? I agree with what brookvalley907 said about your consulting skills, you are by far one of the best consultants that I have seen on here which is why I subscribed a long time ago.

[@billmurray7473]

"You can't always get what you want. But if you try , sometimes, you might finally get what you need." -Rolling Stones

[@normasnockers323]

Unless you are me...then its not even sometimes!!

[@jamesparlane9289]

BILL MURRAY please allow me to introduce myself, I'm a man of wealth and taste.

[@x-man5056]

@@jamesparlane9289 And you got the lyrics right.

[@pureprogress9359]

Wow good advice

[@Pixx4you]

Lyric from Sympathy for the Devil, Rolling Stones

[@Gham847345]

When I was a young man and struggling with relationships, didn't have a clue which way to turn, I would finally break down and ask my older sister what to do and where I was going wrong. She would give me the best and most honest advice. Explain to me where I was screwing up. Did I listen?....sometimes but probably not enough. You're like that big sister that men need, continued success and I wish you all the best!

[@saughs]

So many good points. I've done a lot of these things on both sides. Chasing led me to some cringy moments and blown opportunities, but I've also experienced a lot of the pursuing mindset - living my own life, being able to handle a girl being unreasonable without being reactive while also being willing to walk away if needed, trusting that I'll meet other girls, seeing them realistically... so many things I can relate to. Putting it into words definitely helps the lessons sink in.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

[@pauljanoff7941]

All your videos are stellar but this presentation may be your best yet. I remember asking a woman whom I had been chasing for about three months whether she had any insecurities. She replied, "Yes, I am afraid no one will ever approach my perfection." Run Forrest run!! I did. Thank you Anna for speaking the truth in love and with empathy.

[@jamesmeyers8161]

What keeps me watching? I am convinced you actually care. You are a real blessing. Thanks.

[@ccriztoff]

A woman who knows how to talk to men. Subbed

[@YourWingmam]

Welcome aboard and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏

[@JIA1327]

You ARE good. Excellent evaluation of men and women trying to find each other and themselves. You broke all of that down and arrived at the bottom line. Thank you !

[@jacquesvanderlinden]

This is a good video: a list of unknown rules for many men. Especially the "accept her flaws-rule". Nice, Anna.

[@x-man5056]

She will also be excepting your flaws so seems only right.

[@machtnichtsseimann]

A turning point for me came when I finally decided to tell a woman who was late for our date that I would appreciate her letting me know ahead of time instead of making me wait. Plus, her reason was nonchalant and mumbled, laughing it off. IMO, not a good reason. When I told her, she got quiet and we managed to have a nice time, but she wasn't as animated and present like she usually was when we would interact. So? I never heard from her again. Maybe she thought I was an absolute a-hole for talking about being late ( IIRC, she was over close to 30 minutes late ) or maybe she got psyched out by being called on her BS. Either way, it was time in my life to voice my objection over rude and/or disrespecting behavior, i.e. not pedestaling anymore. And if that means one less opportunity with a rather attractive and fun woman in my life, it's worth the payoff in self-respect and the search for higher-caliber women.

[@CharismaStrategies]

Couldn't agree more. As men of high value, this is what we should be doing anyway... It makes a man look more attractive as well. Never feel sorry or second guess yourself for putting your foot down. You wasn't in the wrong.

[@machtnichtsseimann]

@@CharismaStrategies - Thank you! ( I learned to finally put my foot down from observing high value men...AND women when I was the one pulling that BS on them. LoL. ) Peace and Prosperity to you and all of us high value men maintaining our standards.

[@rcfoley]

Kudos for the extra effort. 15 Max for me.

[@VaronPlateando]

... (we as) gents need to care less to zero about our attractiveness to any xx.s who can't (by nature) bother to even basically appreciate else than being spent any m.e.a.t. specifically (that is - not the spender per se). as in: off that one goes, (too,) fine. not bothering for another of that ilk in line even... any gents' self-development has to relate to their own mental origin point of reference only. what sbdy. else sees in that or not is on their part only.

[@patrickorourke41]

Dude 30 minutes late is unacceptable. I can understand like 10 minutes, but 30 is ridiculous.

[@haroldpinteresque4460]

Anna, where have you been my whole (dating) life? This may be one of the single best videos for me that gets me hooked and yielding my power way too quickly. To me, the overarching theme is detachment from outcomes, and instead being in integrity with myself. Thank you Anna!

[@degbry]

Fantastic advice. Also can be simply summed up as "treat em mean, keep em keen". It's tried and true people.

[@blakenorman7648]

5:35 Don't do that. Act in such a way that she might think that's what you're doing but never directly stick another woman in her face like that. It communicates insecurity. You just walk away but never text her something like that.

[@marcusyap5880]

That's kinda true, a high value woman will just leave

[@firstescape3523]

I need to rewatch this once a week. Thanks.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you 🙏

[@jimh527]

#22.. You're caring and kind.

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@7Earthsky]

I never usually watch advice from women on youtube about guys but you are straight up the best no bullshit advisor on the subject....Subscribed for sure....Embarrassing to see my own behaviours in the past (and sometimes present) on the 'Chasing'' list....I obviously need to re-claim my balls a bit more.

[@YourWingmam]

Welcome aboard, and don't forget to click on the notification bell to be notified whenever I release a new video ❤ 🙏

[@wisecounsel6135]

Over time I have realized that a lot of times you can think about it in this way "How does she perceives me" And the the answer should be "fun but Respectable and in control" You should not be smiling all the time, switch as your genuine mood changes and she can gauge your range of emotions. Laugh and have fun and be cool but also be able to be firm, from the beginning. Be confident and in control but speak and act in a way that you know that even if your chats or voice notes are to be shown to other people then there is not really much you can be embarrassed by.

[@YourWingmam]

Wise counsel indeed! Great tips! ;)

[@x-man5056]

"Not desperate" is the short answer you are looking for.

[@wisecounsel6135]

@@x-man5056 yes, sometimes we need to hear it in different words just like the words "Just be yourself". I didn't not get much help from those 3 words. Also Maintaining Masculine Frame is important

[@x-man5056]

@@wisecounsel6135 If you (or any man) are pursuing female company of course you want to look your best. Your physical appearance is without question important...obviously. But if your are not an athlete with Adonis body and rugged good looks there are still plenty of women out there for you. EVERYWHERE.

[@wisecounsel6135]

@@x-man5056 oh when I spoke about Masculine Frame I wasn't talking about physical but mental stability, assertiveness, decisiveness, foresight, leadership and control of emotions. A lot of times we as men tend to lose those aspects when in a relationship because of the fear of losing the relationship. Ending up trying to please her instead of maintaining the lead and losing mental stability trying to fix everything. This leaves the man weaker and less attractive overtime

[@LordMullins]

I think this lady is truly inspirational. Great advice as allways. Truly a legendary Wingmam

[@jwolffilms]

During the last year or so of my 14 year marriage, I became the needy, pushover, pathetic guy. We had just moved to a new state for an awesome career opportunity for me and then COVID hit. No friends or family or support system in the new city and all I had was her and our son. She began pulling away and I began to do the passive aggressive, needy, pathetic behaviors of trying to guilt her back into my arms. Of course, this made her pull away more and the downward spiral continued until the (very) bitter end. But! This was the time all her lies and deceptions finally really started to come to light. This betrayal crushed me even deeper. I lost my sense of self during this time. So glad to be getting my identity and confidence back. Our divorce will prove to be the best thing to ever happen to me, in time. Thanks for the great content! And those eyes...

[@YourWingmam]

I'm sorry to hear about that, I pray that you heal from all that you have been through, and be able to keep moving in faith 🙏 ❤️

[@WelderStick-vt8ut]

New here and man do I got a lot of home work to do ... getting back into this world of dating in this day and age not have a lot to go on here but I'll give this a shot ... Confident I'll do good ... With the lady's tho... Love your channel...

[@alexanderhanooman]

Your videos are recommended for all my male Students. Firstclass education.

[@YourWingmam]

Best compliment everrrr! Thank you, Sir! ;)

[@alexanderhanooman]

@@YourWingmam kein Problem und Guten Abend.

[@rickyjay7363]

She’s brilliant

[@infostudy101]

A big improvement in latest videos on Wingmam production, look and styling. Shows we can all improve and learn.

[@tanelp1453]

After watching this I am glad to say that I've learned some of these things from my latest "chase" on my own and I can see some hope for me there now. Accepting the fact that I'm not attractive in any market is still somewhat frustrating and I need to figure out how to actually deal with it or how to begin doing something at all.

[@ronj9448]

Nicely detailed video. When I was younger I sensed this but vaguely phrased it as "Join my parade" vs "Let me join your parade". Your parade needs to be exciting and interesting to get someone's attention.

[@dorian3044]

One of your best videos ever! I watched twice

[@YourWingmam]

Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

[@carlhenryglobal8025]

One of your VERY BEST advice videos, so deep that I don't thing the guys making errors will take it to heart (until they fail) or (idea) you could do a video on each point individually to "ram" home the message - brilliant lists, thank you! Carl xx

[@bartstickney6491]

Regarding the “one main thing”, that was phenomenally well articulated. Such has been observed and approached in a countless number of videos, but not quite as nailed down as you just described. Truly invaluable! Thank you Anna!

[@Inkinthegrass]

Dang, I've got a lot of work to do. Thanks for recommending this

[@CryptoCrackers]

Another complete and well thought out presentation of the dynamics. Yay!

[@ravipeiris4388]

Great analysis, please revisit this matter soon

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you, noted! :))

[@MyDyerMaker]

I believe it's 'Need vs Want'. She should know you don't need her and that you're secure in yourself, with or without her. She can't be made to feel like prey being stalked, but rather desired and wanted, while also feeling safe and secure.

[@YourWingmam]

When the student becomes the teacher! ;)

[@deejames1st]

This is better advice than the video!

[@MyDyerMaker]

@@deejames1st Watch her other videos. It's all from her. She's a wise, good soul.

[@deejames1st]

@@MyDyerMaker Perhaps she is, I don’t know her personally. But your advice was still better than the video.

[@alphafox400]

10:49 “don’t you want to see me?” “Nooo actually (giggle).” I love how you get across to us how a woman reacts when a guy is a needy dope. Very timely video for me since I am currently pursuing a woman and I appreciate the reminder not to chase her all over the place (until we get to the bedroom that is).

[@CoreyJonesMotivation]

Yo, I needed this so much. The values you talked about in this video don't only apply to dating it applies to just being a man with a strong backbone. Thank you for your content it is necessary. BTW do you do workshops, seminars, or boot camps?

[@apachidwill]

This is the best video you have ever put out and the best one on the internet for dating. Finally someone explains it in a way that I understand ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

[@lensullivan7082]

Good stuff, I've been a chaser in the past

[@YourWingmam]

Awareness is the first step to change. You got this! :))

[@lloydkline1518]

My late female cat got pregnant by the neighbor cat;;;: chasing ;; pursuing woman is more professional fancy car,, very nice job etc etc guys who pursuing woman do not have to chase pretty woman

[@bryanhamilton5904]

So helpful. It seemed like I was somehow attracting the wrong type of women and I see how I've been creating some of my own problems to begin with. Thank you for this insight!

[@YourWingmam]

Glad it was helpful!

[@user-hd1qx2bd1r]

This is right here, why I like this Wingman Video Series so much!! Wingman Anna, not only explains what is going through the Female estrogen fueled Mind and the Female highly evolved Emotion centre, She herself knows and also feels the hardship on a male that we experience when dealing well, or not so well, with the Female. She understand both paradigms, and she even really comprehends and feels, how we testosterone driven males, try to cope, and that we find it a difficult road to hoe. Oh Baby! so hard! Thank Goodness she makes these Videos, cause there's few and far between that have such a Natural ability to do this! We're very lucky to have her, and be able to tune in here and go to school for our own personal relationship success! Big Thank You Wingman!

[@YourWingmam]

Wonderful compliments, thank you so much and thank you for watching! :)

[@St3veWK]

A ton of gold you packed into this one!

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@darkwolf2275]

What about love? When you really love someone, this all hard tricks goes away.. Their wellness comes before your.. You may call it weakness, but for a person who loves, this is her/his way to connect to love.

[@ajunteburns6894]

This was very helpful. I see that I was chasing alot instead of pursuing.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy this has been helpful to you and I pray that you heal all you have been through 🙏

[@vdcg2010]

Excellent explanation, you could not have made it easier to understand, thank you 🙏🏼 🙏🏼

[@YourWingmam]

My pleasure ❤️

[@johngonzalez4298]

Happy Tuesday to the spicy señorita Anna! Wishing you a great week and God was showing off when he created you ❤🍷🥰

[@YourWingmam]

Oh la la, I like that one! Thanks John, hope you have a wonderful week, too! :))

[@johngonzalez4298]

@@YourWingmam I'm glad you liked it my Anna! Thanks, I'm having a great week and in a couple of days, it will be Friday again :-)

[@x-man5056]

That should be in the Book of Actually "Good" Lines. I'm using that. ;-)

[@johngonzalez4298]

@@x-man5056 👍🏻

[@x-man5056]

@@johngonzalez4298 You silver tongue devil.

[@bryanadams5091]

Spot on! Great reminders and very effective at shining a light on each behavior

[@Dynacologist]

If you are chasing a woman, you have already been rejected by her.. To add into the "bad behavior" DO NOT reward bad behavior from a female or by anyone for that matter

[@akashgunjal8324]

Thanks for all this videos I am new into this dating world and you are becoming more of a online relationship adviser for guys like me.

[@YourWingmam]

I'm happy the videos have been helpful to you, don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

[@rudecrudesociallyunaccepta2200]

Given the certain events going on, I've given up on finding a woman. Thanks for trying to help a loser like me! I'll stay tuned I suppose. . .

[@YourWingmam]

Ok... #1 you take that back right now lol you're not a loser. And even if you maybe kinda are, well, reaffirming that isn't going to help change things. If you were in my class, I'd be saying gimme 10, soldier! 10 positive things about yourself! ... and you thought pushups were tough ;)

[@rudecrudesociallyunaccepta2200]

I'm funny. I like to clean. I like to cook. I write lyrical poetry. I enjoy taking care of my cats. I'm an early riser. I like to garden. I'm honest. I like riding bikes. I've been told I'm a good kisser! 😘

[@rudecrudesociallyunaccepta2200]

And if I could take any women on the internet on a real date It would be you!! 💋

[@rudecrudesociallyunaccepta2200]

But. . . I get too emotional and scare everyone away. . .

[@rudecrudesociallyunaccepta2200]

I apologize if I made you uncomfortable, but you are absolutely adorable!

[@raymondchandler697]

Great stuff! Really needed your words of wisdom when I was in my 20’s😊😊😊

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙏

[@madfrosty5228]

When you realise that you are dealing with emotionally unstable child that does not even know what she wants and was damaged too much by her exes , trying to change and control you , take a deep breath look in the mirror and if you see a MAN in the mirror walk away , even if it hurts just leave , otherwise you will end up wasting your valuable time that cannot be replaced , woman can be replaced !

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Truth

[@alienpyramid]

I SO LUV YOU ANNA! I did all the negative stuff!!! This is a vid worth watching a 100 times, with a note pad!

[@YourWingmam]

Glad you found value in it! The good news is, that means there is a lot you can do to change your future. You got this!

[@kerryfoster1]

So many excellent points here! Wish I knew this stuff 25 years ago. Glad I know all of it now. 'Make yourself happy' is of extreme importance. Nothing about a needy person is attractive. Self Contentment is a VERY attractive quality. As is sexual overtness!

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you for sharing, I appreciate your feedback.

[@michaelkisil4052]

Bravo, some of the best advice I've heard !

[@YourWingmam]

❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

[@redpilljesus]

Do neither. Be excellent and you'll have them chasing you. Or they won't and you'll have cool stuff. Either way...

[@YourWingmam]

You may appreciate my version of "pursuing" :))

[@louisloseau9049]

I kinda agree to a point but i have been ignoring Shania Twain for years and she still doesnt knock on my door hausha

[@redpilljesus]

@@louisloseau9049 who said you have to be excellent at your house?

[@ericduran8722]

I’m triyng to get on that naughty list 😉 just subbed to channel alerts activated and all 🚨 😊

[@YourWingmam]

Just saw this... hope you've found some of my other videos helpful!

[@ericduran8722]

@@YourWingmam u saying a made da list! Would love a date w u 🤗😘

[@64maxpower]

What if I text every hour and show up at her job just to see how her day is going 2x a week? What girl can resist that?

[@distinctivemf1918]

Haha. They love that.

[@arielsantomauro9558]

Works wonders. Except for the child support.

[@YourWingmam]

There appears to be spam on my account, please ignore any whatapp #s until I can get this sorted out! Grrr trolls!

[@tacorevenge87]

It shouldn’t be that difficult. Just stop focusing on the wrong woman

[@x-man5056]

Sometimes (often in fact), it takes time and effort to know if she's "wrong".

[@lloydkline1518]

Pursuing & chasing mean same thing,,;; my late female cat got pregnant from male neighbors cat ; he was chasing her right & left;;; pursuing is different professional men & woman: show her fancy 🚗car & very nice job & house 🏠; more complex dating

[@billmurray7473]

How do you know if she's The Right Woman? Since we don't have Jedi mind skills, it's "difficult to see".

[@x-man5056]

@@lloydkline1518 No. Pursuing is thoughtful and strategic. Chasing is mindless.

[@x-man5056]

@@billmurray7473 There is never going to be a guarantee that she stays the right one even if she currently is. It takes time to evaluate but you could still be wrong, a chance you have to take.

[@markterlaak27]

Endless list of hoops to jump through for men, where petty, moody, hypergamous and entitled behaviour by women either needs to be ignored or soothed. And what does she have to do? Be smart men, go your own way, improve yourself financially, physically, spiritually and emotionally, and women will start persuing you! And then don't commit or cohabitate, but if you do, at least have half of your assets well protected, or even better,totally hidden from her. If all of a sudden she "falls" pregnant ( although she swears she is taking the pill), always have a paternaty test done. ( always wear a condom, but if you don't like that and if you don't want kids, have a vascectomy ,but keep quiet about it) Very few relationships last nowadays, and the longer and more committed you have been, the higher the penalties for you, when most often she decides to move on. So after the "honeymoon" phase of the first months is over, move on yourself as soon as the shit testing or nagging starts.( plenty more like her, or better, younger and nicer than her around) Have a HAPPY life!

[@wilfridjoseph6172]

Truth brother

[@drmahidhar1876]

One of your best and most valuable videos- thank you

[@YourWingmam]

Glad you think so!

[@djfrank59]

I learned one thing in life...don't chase...replace. NEXT! :)

[@YourWingmam]

Never chase ✔️

[@scorpian6013]

Never pursue either.

[@audioelitist3677]

@@scorpian6013 Exactly.

[@JulianaMelgar]

I'm learning so much from these videes. Thank you.

[@MiloTupy]

This is great. It explains what happens when I’m smitten by a lady. I see them as a Goddess and it’s hard to talk to them then. Seems like all the women that chase me I’m not interested in. Basically I’m an alpha to the women I don’t care about and a beta male to my dream ladies. It’s hard to keep the lid on the those feelings.

[@tomwalling5796]

Focus on yourself and being the best you that you can be. Then the worthy ladies will find you. It’s like bad boy rock stars getting all the girls. It’s because they are focused on their careers and improving their talent. And the women can’t keep their hands off them. Be the rock god of your own world.

[@visaman]

@5:35 I had to laugh, because my psst girlfriend's teenaged daughters were named Ashley and Jessica! 😂

[@raynewell6371]

If the girl you want isn't that interested in you, show her you can get chicks and she will take notice. Life is a game play to win!!!

[@YourWingmam]

Yes, when you can show proof of value by attracting seemingly high value women, women buy into that perception. It may seem like faulty biology but it's actually just efficient biology. :)

[@brittletip8191]

Unfortunately this method of trying to make the girl you are perusing gelous by quoting other options will only turn her away from you, especially if she is high value, she will know her worth and just let you go.

[@alextorres8635]

I will never get used to how weird it feels to have to do all these steps so that SHE sees something that I already know about myself. It all feels like vetting on the fly. Like doing a job in order to keep a job. It will never NOT feel strange to me.

[@rcfoley]

A lot of us still catching up.

[@raularmas317]

I'm not about to stop doing my job so I can lose "my job".

[@hibs5516]

It's not that complicated really. She explains it and it sounds complicated. But what it boils down to is take care of yourself, take an interest in your own life, wash your bedding, and don't try so hard.

[@raularmas317]

You bathe regularly so you stay healthy and you use deodorant so you don't smell up the place while you stand in line to buy your groceries or attend class or go to work and get along with people because they too respect themselves enough to launder their clothes and themselves regularly. That's just one of the costs of living in a civil society and if we want a relationship with a woman who has high standards then this is also part of that cost of living with someone.

[@bobbydhal2199]

Anna , You are Amazing , Thank you this great video . Pursuing vs Chasing , what a big difference .

[@mrdoomguylll]

I was doing enough right, and now I lost her. Oh well, I guess

[@vapeking466]

Her loss! Honestly alot of these modern women are not high quality so in all honesty you very well maybe the better person of the two of you. Women are not held accountable like men and the feminism movement has most acting very masculine and not in the best Interest of a family! I have been looking for a partner for over 10yrs now and I always find flaws and I'm no longer willing to accept a low quality woman so I very well may die alone but dammit I won't have to deal with an old unaccountable hag!

[@indridcold2872]

"Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn" - most manly movie line in history

[@YourWingmam]

Still powerful today! ;)

[@brookvalley907]

I would slightly disagree. That line was given in an angry tone. As Wingmam pointed out in the video, men who pursue never get angry. The line should have been given lovingly, with a smile and a pat on the cheek. There is no such thing as Mastery, without Amusement. In fact this is the basic difference between pursuit and chase. At his core, the man who pursues does not give a damn, because an individual success or failure means nothing to him. And when you have achieved this, you will look into your soul and realize that you have paid a heavy price for mastery, because you will find that you literally no longer give an amused damn about having any woman.

[@indridcold2872]

@@brookvalley907 Well my dear, I would recommend to watch the movie first, or skip to the part. Because I cant hear any anger in his voice.

[@brookvalley907]

@@indridcold2872 good point. There is not a lot of anger in his voice. Perhaps gruff exasperation? And what man has not experienced that emotion toward a woman? That's why I said that I would only slightly disagree. I believe Wingmam said in her video that the pursuer never feels anger, only amusement. So, amusement would be slightly below gruff exasperation? And I harp on it, because it is an observation that almost no other consultant makes. And, to paraphrase another writer, it is the difference between a lightning bug and a lightning bolt. Once you understand why a pursuer never gets angry, you understand everything.

[@indridcold2872]

@@brookvalley907 I feel you. Totally agree. It’s worse to not give a damn than being angry.

[@jozsi26]

Dear coach. I have to say it officially that the material in this video is like pure gold, premium stuff. Others would charge men big time for this information because this can change the way how most men(who don't know better) will relate to women.

[@raynewell6371]

Be cunning as a snake, yet gentle as a dove.

[@TheTAEclub]

Such high maintenance annoying brats arent worth it. How do I practice what I would do for .001 percent of women when the rest arent even close to worth it and repulsive if I try

[@caelinchristante4021]

Matthew 10:16

[@chrisconsorte7893]

That’s the perfect balance if one can pull it off.

[@jamesalexander6417]

I will be as unforgiving as an Amur tiger but with the memory of an elephant.

[@ihsanakt]

Lit

[@ScottIrving-s2u]

Subscribed, 6’6 handsome and good job but I’ve had women just walk away from me. I’ve been doing it all wrong. Im done replying quickly, making them “feel” good and I’m going to just start focusing on myself. If they want me they will stay around I guess. I grew up in a volatile household where we had to keep my father happy, we never knew what character we had to play that day to make him happy. I guess subconsciously I want to make people in my life feel happy and let them know it’s all good. No mystery in that.

[@danf4447]

in short, you are saying treat women like amusing misbehaving little children, not like an equal partner...?

[@0QualityOverQuantity]

No, he is saying treat them how they behave. If you want respect then at least act like it's a value you hold by showing respect to everyone else.

[@donovanw.2943]

Thanks for this helpful info!

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you❣️🙏🥰

[@bryaninwood683]

I think i've given up on woman if i had to choose between going on a date or doing an oil change the oil change would win , way less complicated

[@scottenright4894]

Thanks

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you so much! ❣️🙏🥰

[@speedomars]

Easy difference. If a woman does not give you a phone number, then its chasing. If she does, then its pursuing. If she refuses to return calls after that, then it becomes chasing again...If she returns calls but can never find time to go out, its chasing...if she goes out more than three times without putting out, then its chasing...if she puts out but is also putting out with several other guys, its pursuing. But the prize is more like a used car with more miles on it than a city bus.

[@learnuiarchitecture]

Very good video. Very cute presenter. Little laugh with a squeak at the end, adorable.

[@YourWingmam]

😊 thank you

[@Hawker900XP]

The reason men don’t understand women: The rib God took from Adam to create Eve was the one we use to to read minds.

[@Shawn6751]

I didn't knew that

[@dinop7488]

Dude, how in the f can a rib be used to read minds? Mind reading would of come from an intellectual source (hint: brain) not a physical bone

[@Uzodesign]

@@dinop7488 It's a joke chill out party pooper.

[@Lonstermash]

THAT was funny!! And yeah, @Dino P, it's a joke

[@tonybeam]

The spare rib.

[@zvirtual1724]

Thanks!

[@YourWingmam]

You’re welcome and thank you so much! 🙏🥰

[@ロース-z7m]

Rule no.1: Don't fall in love [otherwise you'e considered needy].

[@67Stu]

Love is a four-letter word.

[@avve9001]

True. Being emotionally attached makes you act needy. If you don't care about the outcome with a girl you'll automatically act in a more alpha way. If you happen to be really in love with a girl, a solution to not end up chasing her is to meet other girls to create options for yourself and reduce your attachment to the first girl. It's ok to want a certain girl, but you should not need her to feel good.

[@-Mark_F]

Great advice. Lots of info. Thank you.

[@YourWingmam]

My pleasure ❤️

[@joejoe77_gold]

Explained very Well! I've not heard before, The Most important thing being Them Investing in you and Wanting to be Right! Great words!🙂

[@reivax5742]

I wish you'd been around when I was engaging in self-defeating behavior around women in earlier years. Great material. Thanks.

[@freedomday70]

Hello Anna chasing , yes but only a little bit. Pursuing never,but to conquer forever.

[@less_concerned1221]

Your hair color looks great. Thanks for the video.

[@YourWingmam]

Thank you and thanks for watching! :)

[@Lonstermash]

regarding number 9, I am someone who likes to go to the gym almost every night right after work, which means I'm not free for a date until close to 8:30. Well, in an ideal world, where I could meet women who want to dine that late, that would be amazing. The reality is, most people (men and women, included) do not want to have a dinner date that late at night. So if I do what you're saying and "never flake out on myself" when it comes to my fitness oriented lifestyle (which I've had since the mid 80s), I'm probably going to have a hard time ever having a weeknight dinner date again. So, that being said, if a woman seems like a great catch, I will miss a nightly workout here and there in order to get to know her and hopefully facilitate a relationship. I still work out regularly, even in a committed relationship, but I have to compromise a tiny bit and maybe miss a workout here and there. What drives me crazy are the early bird women who insist on being in bed by 10 PM (or earlier) every weeknight because they want to wake up at 5 AMish for THEIR workouts and never compromise for me. I don't continue to date them once I see that behavior

[@plasmopix]

You expect different results by repeating the same thing. I suggest you work out early to free up your evenings

[@Lonstermash]

@@plasmopix that would involve me having to wake up at 5 AM to get to the gym by 530 AM in order to train for 2 hours, eat breakfast, shower and get to work on time. Not gonna happen. I like to have a night that doesn't end at 9 pm, lol

[@ernodios]

Wow that thing about women (or just people) staying in the wrong place out of sheer confirmation bias towards their choice and the amount invested is a new prism through which I had never seen relationships before. Thank you for the insight

[@matthewgreenawalt439]

Thanks very much for this. I've definitely chased after women in the past, just wasn't innately getting it, no pun intended, and lately I'd say that my mind and behavior has been aligning with those of your pursuit list, I am certainly seeing a drastic positive difference in how women look at me and talk with me almost any time I'm just out and about my business in public. You covered the details succinctly in this video, illustrated each side clearly and with excellence. Thank you again, God bless you. Still sharing your content 👍

[@Starlitstudios-2024]

You were correct point to point. I lost out because i was chasing badly. I am a good guy. But I was too desperate. Never created my value in front of her . Should have watched this video before I made this mistake. Lesson learnt for life.

[@YourWingmam]

Glad I could help 🙏

[@davegibbs6423]

Men and boys need to see your video. Very spot on.

[@ONESNZER0S]

This is real good info, so appreciated.

[@jamesjonsy]

I think you are an Angel for putting this information out.

[@de-stress1973]

Anna, your videos are helping me so much ! You get the advice across so well , I love them

[@geneski695]

Great Video Anna. I unfortunately, see myself in both categories. Fortunately more to the positive than the negative but I’ve still made too many mistakes. I value your opinions. They do help

[@mrdinx]

Nice makeup! You look great.

[@jimmyjimmy2865]

Dear Anna, I've been watching your channel for a couple of years. I must say that the Lord has given you much wisdom. I have learned important things from your videos. But I do want to say that I don't only pray about which actions to take with the woman who will be my wife, but I listen. Seem like after I hear what has me do( my next move- for a lack of a better way of putting it), but it seems like in the next video or 2 (AFTER) you happen to say the same advise. I take this as a confirmation of what He told me. She is a( God fearing) Christian. And it was till are 3rd get together that we started talking about our faith and her eyes lit up when she started to talk about the Lord. Though many fall for attractiveness at first sight, and though she is very pretty it's wasn't till that instances that I knew she would be the one. Love isn't nessary like going through the drive through at Mc Donald's. With her it's been giving her space. Like the song says" Hold on Loosely But Don't Let Go". Our main challeng is that she got really hurt in a prior relationship, l just pray that she would open up about it. It would do her and us much good. And yes, once as soon as I knew she was the one I was direct with her about my intentions. Thank you for your video on pursuing. I know I'm doing the right thing in the right way in love and patience.

[@webmedia3748]

Very direct and valuable tips. Thank you Wingmam 👍

[@YourWingmam]

My pleasure!

[@jamieseiple]

Anna, you are just so cool. It is sweet of you to help men with such great advice. I see your kind heart, and you're a smart cookie too!

[@peripeteya]

Anna, this video was brilliant! You are the Tibetan master of relationships... if you spoke haltingly and had white hair and stringy beard it would be perfect 😉 seriously, I don't know how you keep all this valuable info in your head and reel it off like it's obvious. I've done and experienced many of these mistakes myself, and know in my heart that you nailed it. Thank you 😚