The Disgusting Truth of a Wholesome Korean Pharmacist Who Spread Herpes To Fans

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[@mariej6962]

These girls saved so many women by going public. I hope they realize that and feel proud of themselves.

[@Mr.WestcottX]

For real in Korea 🇰🇷 by this two faced disgusting Human.

[@dodgyyoutuber9560]

They probably don’t, sadly

[@fluffyowl7453]

Bless them.

[@destituteanddecadent9106]

@@dodgyyoutuber9560why wouldn’t they? They most likely put a lot of thought in it and it probably was one of the major reasons they decided to go through with it.

[@mollusckscramp4124]

Absolutely, more women should come forward about these cases as in practice it tends to be that for every one woman that speaks up 10 will stay silent. There's power in numbers.

[@mikaylapetty4850]

It was assault. Point blank period. He knew what he was doing. He needs to be held more responsible.

[@artemisameretsu6905]

For real, there's NO reason to sleep with a person after they've said no REPEATEDLY Dudes will talk about how painful rejection is but straight up SA someone after being rejected until they wear the person down into just letting them do what they want 😒

[@ryotengoku99]

Exactly, that was sexual assault and he could be charged for it. Wonder why he was just given a slap to the hand when he has 2 major offences..?

[@Anna4ali]

Absolutely! They should call it what it was ! Sexual assault! Prison time !

[@udonkey431]

@@artemisameretsu6905women do it too and don’t bother say some bs like “well men do it more” both genders complain abt rejection and both genders also do that as a result of it

[@Forevagabby]

@@udonkey431 she never said women didnt do it be so fr

[@kellycavalier2112]

So gross! 😡 I went to a kidney dr. I was 18. He had me get fully naked. I was naive. He did a full Gyno type exam. Played with my boobs. Made inappropriate comments about how gorgeous my body is. Never once addressed what I was there for (my first appt with an “adult” dr as I just turned 18 and had always seen pediatric kidney Drs yearly after a kidney surgery I had at 13) I went straight to the police station. The cops THANKED me for coming forward and being willing to testify bc “I wasn’t the first attractive female to come in to report him but no one was willing to testify before me.” I was NEVER called to testify. He had to pay a small fine and was able to keep his license. This was 14 years ago and he’s still a practicing physician 😡😡😡😡 I’m in NJ. btw…He just became head of the nephrology unit recently 😡

[@jobturkey7418]

Show his name girl

[@Millie-Muffins]

Ong expose his ass. He need to normalize exposing bad bad ppl and putting the fear of god in them​@@jobturkey7418

[@jesuswasgay]

Are you gonna post his name or?

[@aj.meso26]

Oh no, I'm so sorry that happened to you 😢

[@natalie5136]

If ur willing to, u should try to spread that info around ur area. Like Facebook neighborhood groups and shit yk.

[@SuingMinY]

My mom told us never to trust a doctor especially male. She was a nurse and the amount of disturbing incidents made her quit and open a private practice. She always accompanies us to appointments even though we are adults I used to think she was overprotective but now every story I hear proves her right

[@lily.97]

I agree w your mom at my short age of 25 I've had the most horrible encounters with all the male doctor's ive had the difference between the male and female ob gyns I've had is crazy i regret not having all women doctor's for all my pregnancies

[@SuingMinY]

@@lily.97 oh my, sorry you went through that.Hopefully the health care system improves or atleast we should get all female doctors to treat female and children patients. I know its discriminatory (I know its not all male doctors,met some decent ones) but at this point seems like a necessary solution.

[@Liz-pg4pq]

​@SuingMinY yea it's gotten to the point its not all men but it has been enough men

[@ryuko_wolf5874]

@@Liz-pg4pqit is all men even the ones who are so smart and well taught to end up becoming a helper for people in need but choose to betray the trust and take what they want from the victims men are failed excuses of human beings even a doctor did that don’t u think ur own father doesn’t ???

[@bamaQT99]

I am a nurse and my husband is a physician. We both don’t trust people so easily. It’s insane the amount of misconduct and abuse that goes on. And the assholes are protected at every level, from other staffers, the hospital and on up the line. Background check your providers, and search their history at the respective certification boards.

[@Jade-bk2zw]

I heard of this pharmacist, I really think he should be punished way more than the suspension that was given. He practically ruined so many girls lives for life.He has absolutely no respect for women and that is so scary.

[@bunniewood]

herpes doesnt ruin lives relax. yeah hes an ass but stop acting like these girls are ruined now because they have it

[@itsfinn2183]

Seriously. Especially when herpes is such a dangerous virus for pregnant women, they can’t even have children without the possibility of stillborn or premature child

[@serenity3982]

But also, women need to have more respect for themselves. We need classes that teaches boundaries and self protection, it’s also a woman’s responsibility and it’s a lack of education. Like, know all guys are more likely to lie and cheat around without your knowledge, so don’t fuck, Like fuck this guy, but also women can do more about it for themselves. I really believe this. 🤷🏻‍♀ We all learn , wish it wasn’t the hard way but most of us have to cause we be dense until we see the reality and can’t run from it.

[@cassv5619]

@@serenity3982 no. Do you believe men cant control themselves aswell? What about this story says they didn't have self respect? Ridiculous. He shouldn't have done this.

[@naglfar6305]

@@cassv5619 Stop infantilizing women, do better and women should do better as well

[@JoJos_Mojo]

Part of what's so ugly and scary about this is that he was so convincing as a caring person which means he *knows* how an empathetic person is supposed to act, he's just actively choosing not to be.

[@OoiYunKai]

a narcissist or a psychopath honestly

[@4everiloveniallhoran]

Yeah exactly

[@purrfectstormz8225]

Yes like when he tried to seduce her after she repeatedly told him she didn't want to have sex, he told her she had a unique personality. He likely thought it was the sort of compliment that would break down any barriers because it showed that he liked her better than other girls.

[@NYD666]

So, like a sociopath

[@elisabeth73]

You made me think of a newly defined described type that is called the dark empath. The dark empath has carasterics of some dark triad traits as well as having the ability of understanding and expressing empathy very well.

[@MAYBEE90]

I really want to post this as a warning to other women: if a man you’re dating has a social media dedicated to feminism/women’s health/respecting women, etc, be VERY wary of them. They’re often hypocrites who use their social media platforms to actually get more women/victims to abuse. I should know. My ex had a whole Instagram page dedicated to writing poetry about feminism and respecting women… He was so abusive and was the opposite of what he wrote about. Yet that Instagram page had so many women swooning for him, it allowed him to also find dozens of women to cheat on me with unknowingly and dozens of women to emotionally and physically abuse. So please be careful of men who portray how much they respect women and are feminists. Real men who respect women do so with their actions. They don’t have to make KZbin channels or IG posts about it.

[@sen431]

Thanks for this info 😢

[@nnennauko487]

Thanks for this and sorry for what happened to you.

[@AlissaSss23]

I'm so sorry you had to go thru that. I dated a few cheating, abusive, controlling narcissists before I learned about narcissism and knew better. Now I'm extremely wary about any man that is all over me and love bombing. After discovering my last long term partner has been cheating on me and at least his last 2 exes before me, for a period of 10 years, I stopped dating completely.

[@Itsafloufle]

⁠​⁠@@sen431damn. I’ve had a SA and SH 7 years ago and only recently had the slight energy to occasionally come out of my depression to even start using dating apps. It is very important that the person I meet respects woman and I’ve been wondering how would I even sense that out ,, like look out for feminist support (which I’ve never seen before anyway) on their profiles? But now that you’ve said this,, damn. now even if I see them,, i might start wondering if it’s just an online resonance. Sigh. This world is such a scary place for a woman and our feelings on these matters always get invalidated. We really need a place we can band together and be each other’s support

[@kichop]

Can vouch for this. A few years ago several popular 'feminist' male Malaysian twitter users got cancelled and held accountable hard by Malaysians. Several victims spoke up (this was when the #MeToo movement was gaining traction) and the men were never heard of again.

[@HelloGoodbye2085]

Just a note: Sheathing (the act of removing a c*ndom without your partners consent) IS assault (this goes for both men and women) in the uk this crime is punishable by a prison sentence. Coercing someone into intercourse ESPECIALLY when there is a power dynamic IS assault and in some cases a prosecution can be made. Lying to your partner about being on contraception or having a vasectomy IS assault, they ONLY consented to SAFE s*x. In some countries this is a crime, though it is difficult to prove. Weather you are able to seek legal repercussions or not, you ARE a valid victim/survivor your assault IS valid

[@udonkey431]

Ur not a survivor if u were never at risk of dying and these aren’t valid at all especially the last one

[@suziwalls5038]

@@udonkey431you are a disappointment to your mother smh

[@purplleyx]

​@@udonkey431surviving an experience isnt limited by life threatening circumstances

[@udonkey431]

@@purplleyx yes it is, google what the meaning of survive is

[@CatDaddy.]

​@@udonkey431buy a rope

[@iiwinnxuu]

i think it’s insane how so many people who’ve assaulted people get to keep their job. it’s disgusting to me

[@truffleandrosalie]

Predators have too much clout in this world.

[@soarabicisnotallowedhere]

​@@truffleandrosalie I cant understand why they have so much clout?like why how?

[@porcelainflesh]

​@@soarabicisnotallowedhere maybe pretty privilege?? because no matter how gnarly and psychotic a person can be, being conventionally attractive will let them off easily

[@soarabicisnotallowedhere]

@@porcelainflesh nah this old ugly ass guy touched me when I was 10 and nothing happened

[@truffleandrosalie]

@@soarabicisnotallowedhere it seems like a bug in the system, but in fact it's a feature. Privilege, power, oppression... I believe they are by design.

[@thelastuniqcorn]

I am a Canadian-Korean living in Seoul. These kinds of handsome, genteel, sociopathic men are concerningly common. They are being bred by a hypervain, hypersuperficial society that rewards beauty and fame. Ladies, be careful and advocate for your health, especially here in Korea.

[@buttarain27]

EXACTLY! Society is overran with these narcs and sociopaths, that have NO problems pretending because they are detached from human emotions.

[@kelseylandon1224]

they are common everywhere. How many times do you hear about celebs doing this kind of thing out. there's new scandals weekly. I'd say if any famous person- of any status- messages you it's probably not a good reason why. Block them and find a new fav personally i had a dude in a band message me at 16 (they aren't that well known) but he still has a small fan base despite the allegations (which he admitted too) like ??? avoid these men. If it's too good to be true it is idk if in Korea hook up culture is so taboo women aren't aware of certain tactics but this guy had so many red flags

[@Angelneo99]

@@buttarain27t

[@thecoolintroverttv8381]

​@@kelseylandon1224 true

[@whoneedsguyswhenyouhavecat7681]

I’ve met my fair share of Korean men with this character. Beware girls because they are seducers with a bad character, seeking to even harm girls.

[@dalilaramos8351]

"the Fuller the lips the more wealth u r attracting" US AFRICANS WOULD BE THE RICHEST PEOPLE ON THIS PLANET 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@emany12able]

We are just the “white people” took our wealth before we knew it

[@niggblehlm5818]

Frfr but we poor AF LMAO

[@i_kelli]

Maybe we need to move to South Korea🤣

[@julietmoore9778]

Every medical professional who assaults someone should automatically lose their license. They literally swear to "Do no harm" and if they can't take that seriously, they shouldn't be in that position of power over anyone ever

[@MusMasi]

dude was lying and spreading it for his own pleasure

[@bastianena]

It's criminal to let him off so lightly. Knowingly spreading a lifelong disease should merit a harsh prison sentence and revocation of his medical license.

[@OnyxeBlade]

Him not losing his license and the bullshit probation is a crime within itself. He ruined three people's lives and got a slap on the wrist. He should be fed to sharks for what he's done

[@lampardrussell]

If you truly wanna get rid of your herpes virus I would suggest you visit THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2 on KZbin. I was recently cured of my long aging cold sores and genital herpes by Herbalist Doctor Kingsley who owns the channel titled or rather named THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2. Herbalist Dr. Kingsley's herbal medicine for curing herpes is so fast and super effective... I can testify boldly because I was cured within just 7 days

[@caitlinbang5806]

​@#1 b wow that's honestly great to hear.... Yet those poor women who met him and had their lives turned upside down, my heart hurts for them😢

[@jujubeanzzz5413]

You would think right? Nope ... they don't consider it a bad disease just a nuisance.

[@squiggs1002]

if you look him up- he did go to jail.

[@hannigossip]

I hate how people are blaming the victim, this is literally coercion r*pe 😤

[@h4naqxr]

yeah! one even said she deserves it!

[@oscarthagrouch]

@@h4naqxr i’ve seen multiple. from guys of course. who don’t understand what concent is lmao

[@nizzimura..]

not your userne 😭💖

[@Name..........]

Wtf, my ex did this.

[@incognito__00]

How can you sleep with someone again and again when you know something wrong is going on? That's pathetic

[@Larsanthimum]

I went through this same exact situation back in 2014. My boyfriend at the time had herpes, but had no idea, so he passed it on to me. I went to the doctor bc I was experiencing my first outbreak, and once they told me my diagnosis, my whole world shattered and he blamed me for it. I thought I was damaged goods and no one would want to be with me, but I grew to accept it and didn’t let it hinder my life. Now, I have a wonderful husband who loves me despite it ❤

[@christinalewis9333]

Same thing happened to me, but he did know. If I hadn't contracted it and confronted him, he never would have told me he had it. I had already decided not to have children prior to this indecent, but I can't imagine how heartbreaking it must be for women who do, and know there's a possibility they could pass it on to their children

[@tasha3757]

I’m sorry you went through that. Happy to hear you have a caring husband now though.❤

[@Larsanthimum]

@@tasha3757 thank you so much!

[@floralfancy7814]

A nerdy, trustworthy, friendly pharmacist by day and a perverted predator by night. He seems like he wanted all the benefits of a relationship without the commitment or responsibility.

[@ninthefrog3911]

This is sickening. The fact that these types of cases are happening everywhere around the world and these so-called professionals are let off easily is infuriating.

[@msk-qp6fn]

this makes me not want to date or engage in sex EVER

[@hatsuharuboi]

unfortunately this kind of thing is not new... what is new is that the cases blow up more easy... today anyone can go to social media and speak up about so and so who is a predator and show recordings and text messages etc... before social media people didn't have the means to speak up... often times reporters took the side of the doctors/bosses/politicians/etc

[@cyberspace7208]

​@msk-qp6fn It wouldn't happen as frequently if certain boundaries were set. But of course this is the price of sexual freedom

[@TMichelle555]

Teaching what consent looks like should be a priority along with sex ed in schools. I feel like most men think as long as she's not kicking and screaming that it's not rape. There's so many women (myself included) that just go along with what's happening to avoid conflict and that's not consent. Some ppl really don't know how to say no for fear of hurting someone's feelings. This whole story makes me so sick and mad

[@angelainbloom]

This was 100% me, I am a doormat at times and I did that in a 5-year long relationship. I realized how much I was hurting over it and ended things finally. It’s difficult to say no especially if it’s someone that you care about (but you just aren’t feeling it/it actually hurts).

[@TMichelle555]

@@angelainbloom so sorry you went through that but also very proud you got out 👏🏻

[@angelainbloom]

@@TMichelle555 thank you so much, I really needed to hear this ♡

[@fair2middlin]

It is a shame you named yourself in middle school

[@TMichelle555]

@@fair2middlin is so sad, so so sad 🥱

[@bushlemon3971]

THIS IS WHY you gotta tell your relationship situation to at least one person you trust, your family, friends, or whoever it is. It's REALLY IMPORTANT to have a third point of view, beside your POV and your partner's. Because usually, the third POV is the most logical when you can't see the situations clearly because of emotions. Period.

[@DeaDiabola]

January 20th 2020 I was raped by my doctor, my most trusted physician, along with his fucked up staff. This kind of thing happens all the time. And it wasn'y even the first instance of sexual misconduct I had experienced in my decades of being chronically ill. I haven't had a relationship and I've basically fallen off the face of the earth since it happened. I gained 60lbs in three years. This devastates whoever it happens to. And now, they have a physically painful reminder of it every single time. I hope these women know that anyone sane stands behind them. I hope they are able to get the counseling they need.

[@Heartstring_1828]

I hope you are fine❤

[@christyjo5126]

Unfortunately as a woman you almost have to run a background check on any man who comes into private physical contact whether it be a boyfriend or a doctor. Today's dating life is so scary.

[@naglfar6305]

Same as a man, get a criminal record of any woman that comes into your life because she could easily make a false r@pe accusation and the man will end up in jail in most cases even if he is innocent

[@melanieeverglen]

@@naglfar6305 false r@pe accusations are EXTREMELY rare and this problem is definitely not on the same level as the r@pe problem (far from it, actually)

[@Neo-rn2mh]

@@naglfar6305 False r@pe accusations are INCREDIBLY rare. And even then, hardly ANY end up in any actual punishment. In the UK, in 2019, 55,259 r@pes were reported; but only 2,102 prosecutions and 1,439 convictions.

[@naglfar6305]

@@melanieeverglen and how do you know that? In today's society, women are viewed as truthful whereas men as seen as evil so it takes an inordinate amount of evidence for a man to be considered a victim of a false r@pe accusation. Most cases, even if there is some evidence to prove that he is innocent, at best he will be released but the public will assume he is a r@pist and at worst he will still go to jail. But good on you for downplaying something that can have crippling negative effects on men just because you cant suffer those effects. What a lovely person you are.

[@iJSabelle007]

If that's what it takes, then why not?

[@corinnewolfe963]

Important info: if you have a cold sore on or in your mouth (you can get them on the inside of your lip as well) you can give your partner genital herpes if you give them oral. Please please please be super careful and wait until the scab has completely healed over to ensure you won’t give them genital herpes. ALSO. It’s time to start de-stigmatizing HSV. A lot of people have it and don’t know, because they’re immune system is generally strong enough to keep the blisters away. It doesn’t have to be embarassing, especially because you can get HSV1 without sexual contact. I’ve had HSV1 for almost my entire life, since I was 2 years old. I do have to be careful during flare ups, and admittedly it’s not as painful or uncomfortable as HSV2 can be, but it’s extremely possible to live a normal life. They don’t define you, make you dirty, or somehow lesser. You are still you. You just have to look twice before you cross the road. Edited to say this is NOT to downplay or invalidate the seriousness and the struggle that does come with herpes. That is a very real, very hard problem people deal with. That doesn’t mean most people don’t still view herpes as this filthy disease that only sexually promiscuous women get. You can get it from a loving partner who doesn’t realize what their coldsore can transmit. Or sexual assault. These aren’t their fault and no one should ever feel less than because of it.

[@Player-re9mo]

This is quite troubling because I read somewhere in the past that you can't get herpes type 2 from herpes type 1.

[@ReyOfLight]

So very very true! Some people have cold sores since childhood. It’s just something some people get and they’ve done nothing wrong. Even genital herpes can be from childhood, if the mother has it and happens to have a sore at the time of giving birth, there’s a risk that it can be transmitted to the baby. If it is known, the baby can be born with planned C-section to be on the safe side. I know someone who has this and her daughter was born via planned C-section as a precaution. The stigma needs to go away for both type 1 and 2, it’s just so common, and for those suffering with it, it’s hard enough during flare ups without being looked at as a dirty person by society…

[@InshasChoice]

Wow, thank you for sharing. I'm gonna look this up (the more you know). Engaging in intercourse is risky..

[@antora9157]

I get what you mean, most kids in elementary had it They often shared utensils and straws

[@lampardrussell]

If you truly wanna get rid of your herpes virus I would suggest you visit THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2 on KZbin. I was recently cured of my long aging cold sores and genital herpes by Herbalist Doctor Kingsley who owns the channel titled or rather named THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2. Herbalist Dr. Kingsley's herbal medicine for curing herpes is so fast and super effective... I can testify boldly because I was cured within just 7 days

[@lanasoso5330]

I’m a pharmacist very new one and I agree one of the most horrible people you could meet are medical professionals. They are some how lack empathy and the horror stories that I listen to because even when you are student you have training. While you are study, so you see shit happening, what they do it’s literally freaked me out. I have to start working next year and I disenchanted with this profession that I worked so hard to get 💔

[@rieyuki]

I can relate. I know it’s easy to say, but focus on being a good person, and not one of these bad examples. Whenever you see a senior person do something bad, tell yourself “I will never do that when I’m eventually at that level.” There is implicit trust in medical professionals, which means whenever another “bad” medical professional ends up in the news for misconduct… it worsens the growing, public distrust. And makes things harder for those of us who are the good guys.

[@lanasoso5330]

@@rieyuki I really appreciate your advice and encouragement specially it’s a hard profession to begin with to worry about other things.too I truly like your optimistic take on it thank you very much. 🙏🏻

[@MusMasi]

dont be disenchanted because of the bad actions of others, people need good medical professionals the world over.

[@maloryj7165]

Then try to change your perspective before you start. You must have had passion at some point, get back to that. I don't mean to sound harsh but those unkind people you describe are also disenchanted. It's easy to look at the industry and feel hopeless and disconnected but you have an opportunity to make struggling people's life easier when other medical workers will make things feel harder for them. There's a sweet spot where you can show compassion yet not take every person's problems onto yourself. Basically- we really need some good people.

[@jessicaavery1080]

I work for a Dr office and some of the ways that the nurses act around some of our patients really makes me wonder why they went through all that schooling in the first place. Having worked in the field on the periphery, I know not all of them are that way, but I've met enough that I always roll my eyes at those "nurses are heroes" signs that started popping up around 2020

[@ellam1841]

The stigma of herpes is so strong. So many people won't disclose their disease because they don't want to get rejected. It was given to me and denied, too. I am too ashamed to date 6 years later.

[@Cinnyb052785]

It’s really common though. I’ve had several partners while disclosing say “hey, I have it too”. Some people can handle it. Some can’t. But I think your approach also makes a difference.

[@AleighLovesMusic]

You have no reason to be ashamed. My partner right now has it and all you have to do is take medicine that helps suppress the virus and also decreases the likelihood of spreading it to someone else. Never have sex during an outbreak and make sure you’re fully healed before becoming active again. Please don’t let this make you feel like you’re not worthy of love or a healthy relationship if that’s what you want. Having this does not define you ❤

[@straw1berry11]

There are dating sites for people with herpes since it's so common. You should try them out.

[@arlecelarae654]

Positive singles is a good dating website for STI’s. You’re not alone. 💛

[@rmjerome1182]

It's not even downplaying he really gaslit her to the MAX. The audacity, nerve, and carelessness disgusting.

[@firestarterri]

He was clearly doing it on purpose. Whether it was a control kink for him, or anger at women for him having contacted it at all (like the man who purposely infected women with AIDS), he was obviously preying on these women. But he only gets 8 months? Absolutely disgusting.

[@4m4n40]

He went to a good school and is rich. People like him love breaking the law cuz the justice system give people like him no time and barely any punishment.

[@NurmaBP]

I wonder if he is still on Korea rn, he is the most hated man in SK now so he is probably went abroad to another countries where people don't know him. Especially because he is rich, so he is afford to go anywhere as long as SK gov is not blacklist or cancel his passport. Imagine if he's continuing his evil outside SK 😨

[@karinamarkina301]

How do u know he knew about it before Alice got diagnosed? I’m so confused because I never picked up the evidence for it

[@anunohmouse7460]

I lost my virginity to a guy that "convinced" (heavily manipulated) me to have unprotected sex and he ended up giving me herpes. It's been about 14 years and I'm still fucked up over it. I feel dirty, disgusting, unworthy and unlovable. I know that most people who hear that will secretly judge me and think I'm gross (experienced it enough) and I know that I will lose a lot of romantic opportunities because of it. The thought of not telling someone I'm being intimate with makes me sick. I don't know how tf people can do this shit without being a psychopath. I still remember getting hot and heavy when I hadn't planned to with a guy years later and realising shit was about to get real so I told the guy and this POS was like "oh! Yea! Me too lol!" like wtf?! Were you even gonna tell me?

[@sidneyboo9704]

that is so sad. I am so sorry

[@anunohmouse7460]

@@sidneyboo9704 For all the heartache it's caused there are good moments at least sprinkled in amongst the bad. Like the guy I've been with a while now didn't have it and I told him weeks into getting to know each other long distance... he said he really didn't mind, and I couldn't believe it so I checked and rechecked for months until I was convinced he wasn't just saying it to be nice or making a rash decision. It helped to show that there are decent people out there that don't hear the words "I have herpes" and just run for the hills.

[@youpoops]

I think one of three or more people in America have herpes. Hopefully it will get destimatized but i wish you all the strength to overcome the shame and dirtiness you feel. Hopefully one day you arrive at a point where you can help others overcome their own struggles with it by being a strong example of still living a full and happy life. Much love to you.❤ Ignorant peoples judgments can hurt but they didn't matter because they aren't educated on the sunject anyways. Would you trust someone who knows nothing about cars to tell you there's something wrong with yours? No! So fuck them and their opinions. But i know it's not that easy to throw off judgments.

[@arlecelarae654]

It’s so stigmatized. 1 in 6! That’s crazy common! So many of us are too chicken to admit it.

[@youpoops]

@@arlecelarae654 1 in 8 for herp 2 in America and 50%-80% herp 1. if two people kiss or give each other oral there's a huge chance at getting it!

[@anunohmouse7460]

Also as a person with herpes I was scared to watch this in case you said something hurtful but you spoke so respectfully and kindly. My admiration for you as a person grows with every episode I tune into. You're awesome. ALso also! Congrats on 1 million subscribers!

[@cicin894]

My story: - it doesn't matter how many times you say no.. or ask them to wear a condom or show how uncomfortable you are. People will rape for their own selfish needs. Yes.. after you tried everything. You feel trapped. I have let it happen. Laying there numb. Why? You don't know what else to do. You don't want to get hurt. Your body freezes. You are tired for constantly saying no. You feel trapped. You let it happen so that you can leave. Safely. It makes me mad. Why? Why me... you blame yourself. Whats worst is when you do bring it up. People will say things like.. Why don't you just run away? It is not that easy. Please..it is one of those things where you won't understand until you go through it. I want to put these people on a list of some sort to protect other people.

[@likhwezititus]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. It happend to me when studying abroad in the UK. At my first college party. I screamed and did everything I could, still didn't work. I told someone who I thought was my friend and I got blamed for it. The casual why were you drinking? The way you dressed what'd you expect? ( i was wearing jeans and a camisole) I'm 25 now cannot leave my apartment after dark, can't wear things above my knees, can't drink, hate any type of social party-like gathering etc. I still get the nightmares sometimes. I'm getting help but I still have difficulty sometimes. I hope anyone who reads this know ITS NEVER YOUR FAULT. What you wore doesn't excuse what THEY DID.

[@KagomeYasha023]

If it’s rape you didn’t “let it happen” don’t you or anyone else tell you otherwise

[@KagomeYasha023]

I’ve been in coercive situations twice and one situation of being drugged, so three different situations. People said I’m doing something to attract them or I’m lying. I think people who SA have a good radar of “damaged” people they think/know they can get away with doing it to. The first situation I was in elementary school and it went on for a while by men in high school. So maybe yeah that damaged me and attracted more idk.

[@georgiachao1607]

@@KagomeYasha023 Definitely!

[@BijinMCMXC]

There is a HUGE difference between being raped and giving into someone’s persistence. The two shouldn’t be conflated. A rapist FORCES you, whether physically or removing your consent by drugging you. The guys that aren’t rapists but keep on pressing you to have sex? They stop after you very forcefully tell them no. Yell at them, curse them out, stand up and leave immediately etc. Should you HAVE to do all that? No. No means no. But I’m gonna choose standing up for myself over hoping he finds the decency to stop himself every single time. If you don’t have the courage to stand up for yourself, just don’t be alone in a room with a guy you’re not gonna have sex with, because they’re gonna try it.

[@uhnschlek8827]

As a general rule of thumb, anyone who pushes to have unprotected sex without prior history of using protection with you is a higher risk since they are cavalier with STDs and pregnancy. Everyone likes to think of being special, but in reality, the person pushing for unprotected sex on initial encounters is more than likely a carrier. Additionally, it is common for rape victims to try to convert the rapist into a real relationship to protect their minds from accepting they were raped.

[@TecTitan]

Part of the tough part is really putting someone else in your shoes when this pressuring occurs People think about times they talked someone into something or their awkward encounters growing up and try to imagine they consented in some way. When it's clear and obvious from the facts they couldn't have made informed consent as they didn't know about the std And without experiencing it themselves the people reading their story won't understand how awful persuasion is from someone you respected in some way

[@cyberspace7208]

Duh

[@nikkis7375]

I relate with the second part. I tried to hang out with my R word after because I told myself if I hang out with them maybe it will make me feel like it was consensual. (Two guys I thought were my “friends”) I was drugged and asleep when it happened and woke up a couple times so I get those flashes in my head. I had R* dreams every night for years until talking to a therapist about it and the therapist telling me that it was R*. It stayed with me and haunted me. After acknowledging it with my therapist years later i stopped having those nightmares every night. It’s still with me but it helped to come to terms with it. I don’t trust easy anymore.

[@uhnschlek8827]

@@nikkis7375 R is a murder of the soul. In many ways, it is worse than murder as one has to live the rest of their life managing the damage. In rare cases does the perpetrator pay the price of their crime. Often it is those loved ones surrounding the victim and the victim who pay that price. The victim needs to work very hard to continue a normal life AND they have to heal themselves so they don't pass on the trauma. So, framing the R as a misunderstanding or consensual in some way is an attempt to take back the power that was stripped from them. The mind works in funny ways. Ultimately, it will do whatever it needs to do to help you survive. Thank you for being strong and rightfully putting the responsibility back on those two vermins.

[@beverlyarcher546]

Ik I'm STD safe why? Because I have never done it before and happily will go get tested to prove it

[@watcher8047]

As a med student... and as a human, I'm absolutely disgusted by his actions. He got off too easy. I hope the ladies will find peace, and that their immunity will somehow never go down. How can someone be so 2-faced. He's a master Gaslighter too.

[@catarinafbribeiro]

As a future pharmacist myself, I'm disgusted of how dismissive of women's health this man is. Absolutely outrageous.

[@Mr.WestcottX]

Agreed. This awful man gives these innocent women, STDs for life.

[@MusMasi]

he is not just dismissive he is deliberately damaging their health for his own gain.

[@jobturkey7418]

lol In Korean society we are respected over here we are a joke to be yelled at for 2 dollar vitamins. What a life

[@Red_Leviathan]

It's odd they didn't give her meds as soon as she was diagnosed. There are anti-viral meds you take which prevent the outbreak or lessen the severity if it's already started, and anti-viral creams you use which rapidly heal the blisters. Went through it back in like 2010 after being cheated on which is besides the point, but there are ways to mitigate it immediately (and there's also meds you can take which prevent you from being able to give them to a partner)

[@coolio4843]

Yes I have HSV1 but anti virals cleared in within two days. It’s honestly very manageable but people should tell others they have it. I always do. People with cold sores often think they can get away with not saying because it has a different name though. The stigma truly is the worst part.

[@Sw33tSara]

What does that mean? So people with cold sores have herpes? I’m so confused I thought there’s normal once and a blue moon cold sore and then there’s cold sores like herpes but u said there’s a different name or something?

[@coolio4843]

@@Sw33tSara Yes cold sores are herpes. I mean a different name as in people will call it a cold sore instead of herpes because of stigma but at the end of the day it’s herpes. I don’t know what blue moon is.

[@mystrknwital9146]

I went to south korea around 2019, and I got a cold during my 10 days of stay. We went to a pharmacy to get medication, but instead of getting the over-the-counter cold medication we usually get in North America, the doctor gave me 3 medications, and none of them I know the name (cause its Korean). If I remember correctly, I think he gave me one for sore throat, one to improve my immune system, and I think the last one was like a painkiller. Anyways, what I'm trying to say is, even if there's a medication for it in North America that doesn't mean the medication is prevalent in other parts of the world. They also have their own pharmaceutical companies in their own country, that provide a different set of medication that provides what most of their population needs. Also, based on the video, she probably didn't go to the doctor sooner than you thought.

[@frenchieewoo3355]

@@Sw33tSara there is no difference cold sores is oral herpes by another name. You can have one outbreak or never have one but still have herpes.

[@moschmitz18]

as someone drugged and assaulted and then finding out I had herpes after this trauma (not knowing who the person was cause we were at a party and he had drugged me, blindfolded me, and kept me at his apartment for 3 days) this really hit hard. I checked with my other partners and none of them had it and even went to go get tested and found they didn't have it so that meant my r****t gave it to me. I have HSV1 on my genitals so he had a cold sore and performed oral. My parents brought me to the doctor when my first outbreak was bad and that is how I found out. I had to tell my parents, both mom and dad, that I had herpes, but I didn't tell them about my assault. I was ashamed cause I was recently single and had just moved back home. My first outbreak was so bad I could barely walk, I ended up getting an infection from the open sores all over my genitals, front and back. I had to go back to the doctor because my infection was so bad and the doctor shamed me for not cleaning the area better even though I was screaming in pain just from him slightly touching it. He also told me that if it had hurt this bad I should've gone to the emergency room and that I needed to not be so loud otherwise other patients would get uncomfortable. I was prescribed oxy and my step grandma ended up having to take care of me. I had to use her walker to get around, she gave me one of her night gowns to wear and I had to wear a diaper because of the discharge from the blisters. When I peed I had to have a cup of water and pour it down my front so it would dilute my urine and it wouldn't sting so bad. Every time I tried to take a bath to soak and clean myself getting into the bath I would scream in pain and was shamed by her because she lived in a condo so she was worried her neighbor would get upset with her. I was on a meds schedule. I took oxy and acetaminophen every 6 hours and then ibuprofen every 4 hours. Even with these meds I was in so much pain still. I wanted to die it was so bad and mentally I was internally struggling because I hadn't told anyone about what really happened. I was humiliated and beaten down. Now whenever I have an outbreak I get a little fever and sometimes vomit and that's a good sign to tell me that one is starting. I also ended up telling my parents what had happened for real and my best friend who's house I was at when it had initially started. I joke about how there's a virus I have to live with for the rest of my life just chilling at the base of my spine waiting to come out and party just for funsies, but in reality every time I have an outbreak (usually 5-6 times throughout the summer and 2-3 times in the winter) I die a little on the inside from everything I went through. I couldn't finish your video, but I am glad that this is being talked about because Herpes isn't just a cold sore disease its something that affects so many people in such a traumatic way. There is another side too of being a female and having children while also having herpes, but I've said so much already I think I will stop here.

[@praice226]

Can’t imagine the pain and sufferings u went through and that u even are able to rencounter this event. Sending hugs to u ❤

[@RizZRizZ-]

Wat

[@dee1307]

You are so brave to share your story, thank you for sharing ❤

[@shrutteyyy]

OMG can't imagine the pain you've been going through 🥺🥺 you're so brave 🩷

[@malakabuzaid5854]

You’re so brave. Strength to you, I wish you the best 💗

[@misacruzader]

I am a carrier of HSV-2. I was given it by a long term partner who didn't disclose his status to me. While it was devastating to me at first, I have found that over the long term, it is a minor inconvenience on my life. As a public figure, you have a huge role in reducing the stigma of genital herpes. While it is a lifelong disease, symptoms and outbreaks tend to decrease in symptoms over time. I've had the infection for 13 years and maybe only have one outbreak per year.

[@LauwaCukinell]

Pretty ironic that he made a video about boycotting Japanese products when his YT channel name is referencing Yakult, which originated from Japan 😂 Thank you as always for all your work on this video, I have been binging all your videos recently and all the cases and stories are so interesting and well told. I hope you have a great day/evening. ❤

[@ninafernandes6774]

this reminds me of something very similar I went through with an ex. he gave me herpes, blew up at me when I told him, accused me of giving it to him, then coldly broke up with me by ghosting me a week later. he was my first relationship, and first sexual partner. now I have herpes for the rest of my life. some men are so, so heartless

[@WallyHandford]

I am so sorry this happened to you and I wish you all the peace you can find. Know that you are loved and not alone. 🙏

[@mdr8062]

I have herpes too 😞

[@sarahbrown3938]

@@mdr8062me too I’m so sad I’ve had if for years bt still can’t cope I even hated seeing this title about it I’m literally afraid to date I’m pretty so a lot of guys like me but I think that makes it worse they want me n think I’m pretty n perfect bt don’t knw what’s wrong with my sexual health I be so afraid to let somone get close idk how I’d tell them so I try n keep guys at a distance even if we do “talk” how do u cope?? Do u still date n do u tell guys once u feel comfortable with them or on the first date please give me some advice 😢😢

[@jasg771]

did u warn his next gf? or would u warn her if you know her? This kinda guy will continue to keep quiet about his illness and continue spreading to others. He'll never be remorseful and will continue until one day he finally gets caught or publicly shamed. U never knew or even suspected he had it that was why you unknowingly and wholeheartedly trusted him because he's asymptomatic. Being Asymptomatic just gives him the extra opportunities to move on to new victims

[@ninafernandes6774]

@@jasg771 he wasn’t asymptomatic, he had the sores on his mouth area but told me it was a pimple. He broke up with me by blocking me on everything, so even if I wanted to warn his next partners I wouldn’t be able to.

[@ray-rh9ir]

As someone who is paranoid with contracting diseases I really feel like I can’t trust people after this story. A literal pharmacist lying about something like this 😭

[@Squishymochy]

Stuff like this happens and people are shitty, the best you can do is try to prevent it by having your partner wear protection and getting on PrEP

[@kanivea]

Rotten Mango.... Imo, you are the best narrator on KZbin. Your voice is beautiful and the way you express emotions verbally throughout the stories is incredible. I can say many more things but will end up being a short story lol Thanks for all the hard work you do. It's noticable. ❤

[@mssevensins]

When I was 6, my mom had a miscarriage and flatlined, the dr that saved her became like a brother to my dad. When I was 15 my parents sent me to him cause he specialized in a condition I have, they knew he had multiple charges against him but thought I was safe because I was a minor. Things never got too far, but far enough. They finally stopped when I was 24 when he got too creepy at my grandfather’s funeral. It took him getting arrested on exchanging sex for pain killers and multiple other charges for the 5th time for the state to finally take his licenses. I’m 46 now. Last I heard his millions are all gone and his wife supports him by working a deli counter.

[@alisaoka6529]

When I heard about Sj's negative test, I automatically thought, this guy is a pharmacist, he sure knows how to fake a simple test like that. It's so sad what these women all have to go through. I am chronically ill myself and I know how that pain that you have to live with a disease for the rest of your life. This guy is a narcissist and just because he's not bad looking and has some fame, he thinks he can get away with anything.

[@lyntoncampbell1425]

He's not that handsome just famous

[@anonnnymousthegreat]

I work in healthcare myself and immediately thought the same thing. He really thought he could dupe people. I was thinking if he did a blood test, he would even go as far as faking that too by manipulating what the results say on paper.

[@yin4296]

It’s so hard to trust healthcare professionals these days. We frame them as experts on everything but a lot of them use their supposed title to get away with lots of manipulation, misinformation, and abuse in their regular lives.

[@charnylee]

WILD. As a pharmacist, I can't imagine colleagues doing sh*t like this. Thanks for being such a hard working biss! Appreciate it so much

[@TecTitan]

It's like an economist committing robbery except worse

[@wooltattoo]

he's a pharmacist, but the p is silent.

[@jacquelinenelson252]

Do you know how many doctors are responsible for killing or harming a patient and just transfer to a different hospital with no consequences? I'm not shocked to hear they get away with sexual misconduct as well.

[@chuuu4610]

I studied criminology in my undergrad. My professors told me that successful r@pe convictions made up about 0.3% of actual occurrences in Canada…. The fact that people think that there is a serious over-conviction problem makes me so mad.

[@TecTitan]

What the fuck is with the spam on this comment?

[@chloereed2434]

3 women weekly are killed by men here in the UK

[@fishnsteve]

How can you be certain your professors are not r*pe victims?

[@bellaloves2815]

This is officially one of my favourite true crime podcast channels and podcast in general. Stephanie is amazing at telling a story, I get totally captivated and pulled into the narrative!

[@tenwaystowearit]

So true. She’s amazing.

[@lasttofirst3335]

❤

[@Alex-fc8xn]

And so empathetic to the victims, which is not common enough with true crime storytellers

[@TheSinisterProdigy]

Canker sores is the wrong word used here. She means cold sores. Canker sores are not contagious or related to the herp virus. Just wanted to clarify so no one is misinformed

[@krissunsixx]

I found your channels about a week ago and I’ve binge watched so much. You’re one of my favorites now. Just wanted to comment that. The way that you’ve got all of the evidence, how you tell the story, all of it, is magnificent.

[@cicin894]

I think about the guys I've dated, and I just cringe. Being taken advantage of and used will haunt you forever. Unfortunately, I grew up to be the good girl who obeys. There are terrible people out there. Please... I beg you .. whoever is reading this, please love yourself. You deserve to be respected. I give you the courage to have strength to sock that person in their face for disrespecting you and to walk away from them. Please.. there's more bad people than good.

[@InshasChoice]

I feel you 🫂 i ruminate over how naive I was an still am to extent. Giving ppl the benefit of the doubt. I'm sorry they took advantage of you; it's a reflection of who they are. It's not your fault

[@emarcostar]

I had the same experience, and i keep in touch with them for a long time after it happened. I didn't know how bad it was but it made me feel horrible. I promised myself i won't ever let any person treat me like that again. If anyone is going through this, it is not normal and theres good people out there that will never pressure you or force you to do anything. What these people want is to make you think everyone is like that but it's not true.

[@lampardrussell]

If you truly wanna get rid of your herpes virus I would suggest you visit THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2 on KZbin. I was recently cured of my long aging cold sores and genital herpes by Herbalist Doctor Kingsley who owns the channel titled or rather named THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2. Herbalist Dr. Kingsley's herbal medicine for curing herpes is so fast and super effective... I can testify boldly because I was cured within just 7 days

[@jasg771]

Men are usually less empathetic and self centered and when they keep trying to push your boundaries and when you eventually give in, they will claim it's consensual. It's just their way of getting what they want, disregarding the girl's feelings.

[@Alex-fc8xn]

I hope you meet someone who wants you to be completely honest and not feel you have to act or do certain things, and is willing to check in on you frequently during intimate moments until you know each other well enough and feel safe enough to know that you'll speak up if you aren't comfortable with something. Who understands that alcohol, drugs, and dissociation all take away a person's ability to give informed and enthusiastic consent. Who would rather go to another room and quickly take care of their urge than ever do anything with you that you aren't happy to participate in. Who will stop immediately no matter what if they notice your discomfort or if you indicate that you don't want to do something. Who thinks it's sexier to see your genuine reaction than for you to put on an act in bed and make faces or noises that are put upon just to please them because that's what society said you had to do (consensual, pre-discussed roleplay with a safe word and negotiated soft/hard boundaries is different and very much ok as long as everyone involved fully understands and consents.) The kind of person who will laugh and not be upset if you happen to pass gas in the middle of it 😂 and who will learn grounding techniques and how to support someone when they have a flashback or dissociate, just to make sure they can help if/when you need it. You deserve nothing less

[@churlish_hoecake]

Wow. He's such a nasty douchebag! My heart really goes out to the victims. Unfortunately, I also know what it's like to be "talked" into having sex when I already said no a few times. Learning those statistics about medical professionals getting away with sexual assault makes me so angry. Meanwhile, addicts in the same field are getting years in prison for supporting their habit. There's something horribly wrong with this picture. Thank you for another outstanding podcast episode!!

[@KagomeYasha023]

It’s called coercion

[@msk-qp6fn]

this is why i kinda look down on men from south korea, specifically i do not look kindly on medical professionals on shows and social media from south korea.

[@caitlankelly4367]

Take it from an old lady, if a is pushing you to have sex, take it as an insult immediately. Let him know you’re offended, walk away, you’ll know his true intentions by the way he acts later.

[@irinasofia_sm]

I used to suffer from abdominal pain that no doctor could understand why. So when I was in a crisis again, I went to a doctor and as soon as I sat down he look at me, look at my file and said "25yo... I am 50, so just a 25 year gap"... I didn't know what to say and I was a bit confused and was thinking if I did heard it right. Then he asked me what was my concern and I explained to him and he asked me over and over if I was pregnant and I said no, and he asked me how could I know that... basically wanting to know if I had sex or not. Then he said to lie down so he could examine me and when he was touching my abdominal area, he was just saying "hmmm". I was petrified. I didn't know what to say and what to do. By the end I did wanted to file a complaint but I knew if I did it, no one one believe me, people would have said I was interpreting everything wrong and I was afraid I was so I just didn't do anything. That's why it pisses me of when people say "why didn't she do anything or say anything" when women get SAed... because we know people won't believe us.. specially when it's doctors or people in the medical field. And in my country, they protect each other. And I know what happened to me was nothing compared to other people, but it kinda made afraid of being alone with a male doctor. I don't want it anymore. I avoid it at all costs.

[@balala5430]

​@JamesMatthew-ch6fo I thought there was no cure for STD? how did your tests come back negative afterwards

[@jcmygs]

Hi there, I’m an MD and just want to clarify that canker sores are not the same as HSV-1 sores (aka cold sores). Canker sores are what you get when you accidentally bite your inner lip, cheek, etc and they are not infectious. There’s a lot of confusion about this, with many people with canker sores thinking they have HSV. On another note, love this new channel btw! Can’t wait to watch more videos!

[@a23oj28]

Wow I went this whole time thinking I had contagious mouth herpes when it's just a lesion 😭😭

[@ulisesmontalvo9606]

Oh thank God. When she said that, it scared the shit out of me.

[@ringo567]

I searched it up on google, I was kinda scared😅

[@Lovelylittlemmie]

Yes! I am a laboratory scientist and immediately wanted to see if someone cleared this up in the comments.

[@chomalen]

Yeh. She made quite a lot of medical errors when attempting to explain STIs, transmission risk etc. Herpetiform lesions is the term used for rash that look like herpes but it does not necessary mean they are caused by it. Etiologically (the cause) can be varied and may in fact be harmless and quite common. Genital herpes is often caused by HSV2 but more recent trends mean that more and more are also caused by HSV1 (whilst being HSV2 negative). Clinically however (as it relates to symptoms), it is often indistinguishable (in some people they cause very severe and disabling symptoms and/or complications). Swabbing and PCRing a blister with fluid or at the base of the blister (ulcer) is most accurate in acute settings. Serology (or blood testing) often becomes positive at a later time, but can be used in non-symptomatic carriers (who can still transmit the infection; at a rate of

[@claracuvelier195]

This reminds me of what happened in my university. There was a teacher who forced students to sleep with him to have better grades and without a condom. 69 girls came out with this story. The teacher gave them hepatitis B (incurable disease). They told the press that he had access to a list of students. Before school started he would search on social media how his students would look like. During the school year he would send them DMs telling them how pretty they looked and insinuating they had to sleep with him. He was fired from my university and he tried to apply for a job in other universities but they refused because of his crimes. He eventually hired. This disgusts me so much. Like dude you forced girls into having sex with you and you gave them an incurable disease and you aren’t even condemned …

[@jasg771]

This teacher sounded like he's on a revenge rampage to spread to other girls because he couldn't accept the fact that he has this incurable disease, so he passes on his illness on to others to 'lessen his anguish' cos many others would be in the same plight as him. It might be the very same case as this selfish pharmacist. Since they can't cure, they spread.

[@rgo2013]

Which uni is that? That is absolutely horrible! Is this in America?

[@rgo2013]

How is he not charged with prison time? This is the worst

[@claracuvelier195]

@@rgo2013 in France

[@claracuvelier195]

@@rgo2013 idk but the trial didn’t take place and he is teaching again

[@LoreleiCatherine]

Hearing you say, sometimes you just let things happen because after saying no so many times, it feels like the only safe way to get out of the situation breaks my heart because I’ve been there too one too many times I still deal with that even at almost 35 years old, but I’m learning how more often to say no and not back down even when it’s uncomfortable. Far too many women are put in these situations and we’re so scared that we just do things we don’t really want to do and then afterwards we feel awful all because we feel like we’re going to be hurt worse if we don’t give in. I feel so sorry for these ladies. I knew a girl once where the first time she ever had been with a man She got herpes because he didn’t tell her that he had it and I remember her drunkenly confessing that to me one night and just sobbing like it’s a lifetime thing I pray for miracles for them I really do.

[@violet04nunya98]

I just watched Rotten Mango for the first time today and I have to say, I watch a lot of KZbin videos like this. Journalistic and informative. And you have a gift for doing this. I’m impressed with the way you talk about your subject and the obvious amount of research and effort that goes into it beforehand is clear. Very well done. I’ll be watching more.

[@sofiamunoz2463]

It's so scary to think that when we're at the most vulnerable moments in life someone who is supposed to help us can take advantage of the situation!!

[@SnowSNS11]

Is it paranoia when they're out to get you? I feel like it's an act of bravery to trust someone let alone a stranger.

[@lampardrussell]

If you truly wanna get rid of your herpes virus I would suggest you visit THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2 on KZbin. I was recently cured of my long aging cold sores and genital herpes by Herbalist Doctor Kingsley who owns the channel titled or rather named THE SEVEN DAYS FAST CURE FOR HERPES 1&2. Herbalist Dr. Kingsley's herbal medicine for curing herpes is so fast and super effective... I can testify boldly because I was cured within just 7 days

[@carleysorensen]

i think it's beyond crazy that a pharmacist...a literal medical professional...would treat a serious and chronic medical condition like it's nothing. as a pharmacy technician, if i ever saw my colleagues do anything like that, they would for sure be more heavily reprimanded than this guy was. ruining lives is directly against the oath pharmacists are required to make before they are officially licensed. so so so gross!!!

[@JD-ny9qj]

There was a surgeon here in the uk who has recently been banned from practicing medicine for 6 months(ish) because he was caught using his wife’s Oyster card to get free train travel to work. This guy would be barred from pharmacy here in an instant.

[@alishac5096]

It’s so upsetting that anyone thinks it’s acceptable to ask someone more than once or touch anyone without asking. I hope that the law can be changed to categorize this behavior as criminal in more places. 💔

[@jujubeanzzz5413]

A corrctional officer purposely infected me. Went to press chanrges and the prosecuter declined to proceed. Nothing happened. I was just told I can take him to civil court. NO one cares about herpes because so many people have it.

[@wlkbeastmode-issiap.346]

Yup a dentist appointment I went to in Maryland USA rubbed himself on me. I literally pushed him off and he acted normal after that.... Never went to him again. 😡

[@GamingOfLia]

for some reason, I watch your podcasts in cars and while studying, and istg this is so good, you are learning about some case or disease you did not know existed and basically getting knowledge which is good for you

[@maddlewaddles]

i live in seoul right now. from my perspective there is a huge disparity between the more conservative over-culture and the real s*xual activity going on. everyone is doing it, but no one is talking about it or being upfront. the amount of men who REFUSE to use protection is absolutely astounding. i was even told that "STIs are a foreign thing, Korean guys can't get them..." (which, i'm a foreigner. if you're thinking of being with me, isn't that even more reason to wear one...). these misconceptions and secrecy are so dangerous for STIs and ass*ult, and the threat of shame is just overwhelming. if something bad happens to you, it's almost worse to admit to your activity than to just hide it away. don't even get me started into the victim-blaming culture here. i was told if any man comes into my house - the landlord, delivery guy, cable guy - leave the front door open. if you close it and something horrid happens, the authorities can claim that 'you knew what would happen since you closed the door'. thank you for covering this Stephanie!

[@an.1380]

yeah, so much of this. im korean and i absolutely hate the victim blaming culture that's deep set in so many people in our country. it makes me sick.

[@cyberspace7208]

That last advice is good advice for anyone ans everyone. I never let people in the house when I'm alone

[@MusMasi]

and if he comes in and was drinking you are screwed because of that stupid Drunk Loophole in their law.

[@INVINCIBLE840]

a rule of thumb - do NOT EVERRR trust a widely liked person. manipulators are so good at leaving the impression of being really charming, good... just a perfect human being on everyone they meet.

[@angelainbloom]

This is always really confusing to me, because does that mean I should trust widely disliked people? I feel like whenever I give those kinds of people a chance, I find myself disappointed.

[@AleenaKhan-td2cb]

Girl' You are telling truth am too telling by experience.

[@soobhn]

@@angelainbloom you shouldn’t widely dislike people but don’t get close or trust too quickly, wait and you’ll see that persons true colours

[@reenbabe]

I agreee

[@mymanlovesme1]

​@@soobhn The keyword being wait. I will never understand the need to hump or be humped right out the gate.

[@heyyo4640]

Thank you for exposing this information. It's so important to put your health on top in situations like these.

[@writinggeeklovefreak]

I worked at a pharmacy in KY and I was physically and mentally abused but the pharmacist, when I reported him the GM said "it's easier to find another you than it is him." I quit and he remained head pharmacist up until a few months before he retired.

[@malindalinda5714]

This video has really taught me that it is NEVER worth it to bend over backwards for a man that isn’t even giving you the bare minimum, let alone HURTING you. This hit really close to home for me because, in my own life I’ve had an experience with a guy sexually harassing and almost assaulting me yet I stayed by him because I minimized the situation in my head and forcefully convinced myself that it was a misunderstanding and that he wasn’t trying to make me uncomfortable. In the end we stopped talking because I stopped reaching out to him first. After the fact, I found out that he had a girlfriend and another girl on the side (that he was also probably hurting), as well as sexually harassed one of my friends. It’s painful and it’s NEVER worth it. These type of men FEED off of being charismatic in public and buttering you up with compliments but the second you’re alone together it’s like they’re a completely different person. Please listen to me when I say it’s never worth it. They don’t even think of women as people. My heart literally BROKE when I heard that one of the girls made him homemade porridge after he made her a victim and he had the audacity to yell at her and not open the door. NEVER put in more effort than the other person. If they don’t respect you, they don’t deserve your respect back and they’re probably hurting other people at the same time because all they care about is their own gain. Please never ever minimize yourself or force yourself to take care of someone who is hurting you. They do not deserve your care, and most of the time they don’t even NEED your care, they’re just seeing how far they can push you.

[@Moi_81]

I am sorry for the hurt you have experienced. I completely understand.

[@malindalinda5714]

@@Moi_81 thank you, I just REALLY REALLY REALLY don’t want people to do what I did. If I can stop even one person from bending over backwards for a man that doesn’t even give them basic respect, then I’m happy. It really breaks my heart to see women getting walked over like that and then somehow finding a way to blame it on themselves instead of the abuser.

[@cyberspace7208]

Thank you. I learned that from my parents at a young age. I come from a culture where if a man wants to be with you, he has to see your parents, provide, protect and marry. I look towards some other cultures watching women out there fending for themselves, no family to support them and I'm thankful for what I was born into. My dad told me at a young age, anyone messes with you, they have to deal with me.

[@annaberryy1]

I hope Alice is doing better right now her whole story teared me up :( I can't imagine how much pain she was in, oh my god 😭😭😭

[@MoY206]

Found your channel and me and my girl stuck it to the end on one of your videos about the 'influencer who took a break for two months'. I gotta say your content is addicting. Been sharing your channel with my friends 😊

[@ionokiero5141]

These women were so brave and selfless by exposing this POS. They are not victims but survivors! Thanks to them, so many people are safe!

[@SunnydahyeIn]

Been a silent sucbriber for a long time but really wanted to come out to day and say Love your video Stephanie!

[@lampardrussell]

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[@putupututu]

omggg halo kaakkk, salam dari jakartaaa

[@idkwhattodo4641]

Same share your secretsssss with us it’s and seem like in the future I’m gonna be the poorest woman alivee 😩

[@logalingalogalinga3309]

Watching her lips instead of hearing the story. MISSION ACCOMPLISHED 👏

[@alexussk]

That's great what you take from the video when many poor women lives are ruined wtf is wrong with you. You should have stayed quiet

[@doyoureadme94]

One of my best girlfriends got herpes and that exact run-down of how bad it hurt, was exactly what she told me. The worst part, she got it from her fiancé..who was not a citizen. He gave her herpes and used that to manipulate her into a green card marriage. She’s divorced now, but she’ll never be the same.

[@Asia-sk8lc]

This monster should be in jail, him knowingly having an STD and he purposely infected this poor lady. Sue him. I'm so sorry this happen to you Sis. I'll pray to you with great warming heart hun.

[@cyborg_siren]

Also, in most states in the US it is somehow *LEGAL* to perform pelvic exams on people when they are under anesthesia for unrelated surgeries *WITHOUT THEIR KNOWLEDGE OR CONSENT AND IT WON'T BE DOCUMENTED ON THEIR MEDICAL RECORD* and they found this out when several women had bleeding and injuries following their unrelated to their pelvis surgeries and demanded to know what happened to them under the knife. And these doctors said "Well it's perfectly legal, I did nothing wrong." and they'll even have *STUDENTS* all crowd in the OR to all take turns "practicing" these pelvic exams. These women have no idea if it was truly a practice pelvic exam, or if it was sexual in nature. Either way, it is assault but it is legal in most states. It's SO MESSED UP.

[@roseofsharon8427]

Every se*xual battery case I've heard of from SK, the perpetrators get a slap on the wrist. That's just so sad . I feel very bad for the victims 😢😢 Poor "Alice" and the others.

[@ruuuru321]

These cases are giving me major trust issues 😭😭

[@aris7554]

Yeah very.... 📈 My previous relationships were trash and now my trust issues are skyrocketing.. To the point I would be scared to be in relationship... Don't know how to trust anyone.

[@maychenwoo9205]

There’s a reason single people are happier Sometimes avoiding romance and just trying to instead build meaningful platonic relationships is way better

[@myme8208]

​@@maychenwoo9205 ngl I'm happy staying home and watching something and eating. I don't even like being out with my friends too much either. I stay in with my sister and we watch documentaries and eat food and I occasionally just go out to workout or to university I love it. We need to appreciate the little things in life ngl.

[@Heartstring_1828]

​@@myme8208same here most of the time usually studying and watching podcasts at my home..

[@cedardryad]

Him "talking" "alice" into having sex on her period is still SA. If she said no and is continuously pressured into eventually saying yes, it's SA. Stealthing is also starting to be seen as SA in a couple of states.

[@theresahenderson3534]

You are a great storyteller with your sidekick giving excellent feedback with cussing like a lot of storytellers do. It's a pleasure to listen to the two of you.

[@OfTheSeaKND]

I feel so much rage. He destroyed so many hopes and dreams these women likely had for their futures. Because now the freedom to fall in love and have healthy sexual relationships will be incredibly hard. They have to feel pain mentally and physically. Gross man. 🤮

[@janarenales6088]

This is so sad. I hope the women find healing & peace. What a disgusting human

[@pugluvr72]

I really love your channel! The format you use to share information and the way that it's delivered are amazing! You're so easy to listen to, and I love your moxie! 💖

[@xritt2590]

I came across your channel maybe a month or three ago 😂 I’m terrible with time ANYWAY im hooked! Just the way you tell the story the commentary, your voice ! I could honestly listen to you talk all day and you’re so gorgeous!! 💕

[@imgonnawinwin3451]

I’m shocked to find some people even defend him, or again, put women to the blame it’s like what you mentioned with the Tianshan incident, people want a perfect excuse “she did this, she could’ve done this” but at the end of the day he still ‘coerced’ the girls in having sex when he most likely knew he had an STD and being manipulated is a very different mindset, not even to mention the power imbalance.

[@Peachgguk-tz6yb]

Right, some ppl in these comments… and down playing coercion, very saddening to see.

[@mymanlovesme1]

I don't get why people are being outraged at the comments for saying something that is true. Unless it's masterbation sex needs to be mutual. The women regardless of them being carried away or not by who he was their health and personal well being is their responsibility. 1. If the woman did not consent why didn't she go to the hospital and request a rape kit and file a complaint against him? Clearly there would be a wealth of DNA for a conviction and the first one could have saved other potential victims. 2. These weren't just one off events if after the 1st time you get creep vibes why continue to talk to or entertain this individual? They all keep having multiple sexual episodes but complain of being weirded out before, during and after the sexual experience. Like this doesn't feel right, let me block this guy or takes steps to limit his access to me and vice versa. 3. Why are you even showing up at someone's home or allowing him to come inside? Seems like it's simple, get out my house, call 911 report an intruder. It's funny how stranger danger goes out the window when the person in question is good looking and seemingly affluent. They had many ways and routes to persue to stop his behavior. Before the sisterhood of traveling pants come after me for victim blaming, yes I am, women shouldn't be shielded from negative criticisms and logic. Stop normalizing trash women and their trash, irresponsible behavior. They messed up, he is wrong, lots of blame to go around..

[@PrincessWolffie03]

Ahahaha. You look like the kinda guy who pretends to be a feminist to get laid. 😂 If you go participating in risky behavior, don't be surprised at the outcome. Men and women who recklessly have casual sex (either with or without protection) run the risk of catching STIs, including the incurable ones. Play stupid games, play stupid prizes. I don't feel sorry for anybody here, but the man should definitely rot for not informing his partners of his infection. Also, what you SHOULD consider is this is what risk you take when you have sex; period. Your own partner is not even a safe bet if they caught something because THEY WERE CHEATING ON YOU. Also, this basically proves why women should be armed at all times. If you're armed, men like this won't fuck with you. Simple as that. stop turning this into a sexist problem. Men and women are both the problem.

[@Slade951]

They are grown ass adult. Them making stupid decision and facing consequences doesn't make them a victim.

[@mymanlovesme1]

@@Slade951 absolute facts. The way people like to coddle women and their feelings to make them feel better about their messed up choices..

[@taeyeonmoon6009]

This became very personal for me. I had the same experienced as “Jennie”. Getting an invitation to watch a movie, the aggressive move, trying to say no many times without being listened (But yes, since I didn’t say no aggressively and tried to escape people downplayed it) and then getting HSV… Which in my case is not that bad, I don’t really get bad symptoms but the psychological burden preparing how to disclose my herpes status and preparing myself each time for a possible rejection. Adding that, each new date, each new person, each new rejection, each time someone judges me for having it… is a constant reminder of what happened and how “I didn’t stand up for myself” It is truly unfair.

[@dianazhu7330]

I hope you know that it is not your fault for what happened. You said no, and he should have stopped right there. He actively chose to disregard how you felt and what you wanted. It's naturally to freeze up and not know what to do, especially when it's from someone we know. It's our body's natural defense to help us survive. You said no many times, so it's natural to feel cornered and feel like yes is your only option when you've never had an option because he didn't take no for an answer. It's not your fault and I'm sorry you and so many of us had to go through that trauma.

[@wutgk4008]

I have the same experience as you 😞 big hugs

[@mothyhtx]

As long as your on medication you don't need to disclose to everyone. As long as you know you're doing the right thing and making sure you're not spreading it, there's technically no reason to disclose.

[@cherryblossom7120]

What happen to jennie the first time was "coercion" Someone trying to convince you to do something you don't wanna do.

[@cherryblossom7120]

@@PrincessWolffie03 it must be sooooo easy to be you.🙄

[@Julianaao2601]

Forget that he was sleeping around (which is bad already) but he wasn’t using protection? 🤯 how irresponsible! Also, as a pharmacist he had blisters on his genitals and didn’t think much? What? He’s disgusting!

[@elishavillaluna3939]

I really like stories like this when she's the one who's telling it. The way she say those words gives more tense to the story. SOOO COOL!

[@babymoon7624]

Can we just take a moment to process how little sexual health and education is spoken about and discussed, especially considering society pushes this narrative of being “sexually liberated” and hookup culture being a thing, so why aren’t more medical professionals openly and accurately educating others about these details; it seems like we have the awareness but we don’t understand the details of these symptoms…honestly I’ve learned more from this video than I ever have during any health class I’ve ever attended. Maybe I just grew up too sheltered or our health class was too conservative but damn…I would think this type of information should be common knowledge by now😢

[@willworkfordoge]

So true! Even Mango herself is poorly educated as she said oral HSV-1 was canker sores even though that is not true at all. A lot of misinformation and lack of knowledge is prevalent.

[@4m4n40]

Because it’s very politically charged and has lead to plenty of harassment and intimidation.

[@peekapeeka6482]

This guys is the DEFINITION of PSYCHOPATH!! One if the reasons why some of these girls didn't realize it sooner and he was able to get away with so much for so long is because he knows the worlds to say and the things to do for them to ignore the red flags. Literally a mastermind gaslighter. For all the men and women out there, I think we can all learn a lot from this case and the behaviours to look out for.

[@heybea891]

I 💯 agree with you about medical professionals getting away with A LOT! I have worked in the field 20+ years. But one thing I will tell you too..... karma. Karma has a very interesting way of dealing with these people. It might be right away, it might not, or it could even take years. But they will answer.... every single one of them. I've seen some of the karma these individuals are dealt and I promise you, I would NEVER want to be in their shoes. Thank you for covering this story. I just started following you and I love the fact that you bring cases to the forefront that might not normally be told. I also love that you talk to us as if we were just cuddled up in your living room and you are telling us a true story! But most of all I ❤ the fact that even in the roughest, disgusting, hurtful, deplorable and, heart-wrenching stories... You have genuine empathy for everyone. Even those that don't truly deserve empathy. Thank you for bringing yourself to us and for opening up yourself to bring us these very difficult stories(but important ones!!). Congrats on the engagement and up coming wedding!!! I send love, light and, nothing but blessings to both of you!! From Minneapolis MN❤

[@randomstuff763]

Hey @rotten mango Just want to say I love you content! It's news but in a very touching way. You make the stories feel, not like a cardboard statistic but you remind us views that these are real people. I love watching and I'm so glad to have found your channel. 💖💖💖💖😁

[@mewmew6158]

Wow, this is a horrible guy. He's such a cruel person to treat his fans like s*x toys, rather than people. Always be sure to get tested for STDs after sex with a new partner and use protection!

[@jirowang110]

Yes! Sad that this has to be a thought when you have a new partner, but better safe than sorry. Stay protected and safe

[@Reefir_]

How about std test before having sex. Prevents it altogether

[@jasg771]

Who would actually get tested after every partner? Even so, your partner could be negative but later on positive if he chooses to sleep around behind your back. Are u gonna get tested after every time? It's just mentally exhausting to constantly worry and most people would just brush it off since it isn't such a common disease and often overlooked cos most people won't get tested.

[@jujubeanzzz5413]

Majority of STD panels don't include HSV I/HSV II. Youu have to request it.

[@PrincessWolffie03]

@@jasg771 Smart people who want to stay healthy? Found the slut who has reckless sex, ya'll. The fact you treat tests like if they're not a big thing means your opinions are invalid. Stay mad.

[@soyeoncho5409]

This boils my blood. I’m Korean and I don’t give a shit how certain people “should” be perceived. I would have messed him up like I did my ex. I hope one day I can run into SJ..

[@FloppityFlopFlop777]

God bless women like you. If more were like you, the world would *actually* be changed. True reform takes fighting back.

[@lightbringer9940]

If you ran into him what would you do?

[@melaniesmith9614]

It's really hard to capture my full attention. I want to thank you for being an amazing story teller. You keep me interested and entertained the entire time. ❤

[@lakid9749]

Your channel is great You clearly put a lot into the research which makes for a Fantastic stories. But my favorite thing is you are so humble and delicate when you tell them. You include the most interesting details Thank You Glad I found you😊

[@Arinrine]

Its not just the usa or korea either. Here in Brazil recently we had a famous case of a doctor who would rape unconscious patients, i think it was discovered to have made more then a 100 victims. And he was only found bc one of his victims got pregnant after, and cause she woke up in the middle of the assault. (Like, after he was finished)

[@AkiBadKitty]

That’s disgusting omg I hope he got sued and fired

[@Arinrine]

@@AkiBadKitty sued, fired, got prohibited from working on the medical field ever again and got 35 years in jail as far as i know. He had anesthesiologists who were accomplices and ratted him out for like 120 something of the crimes. (30 years bc Brazil doesn't have lifetime jail sentences, but per cumulative sentence he would've gotten 250 something years I've heard)

[@Malenassaura]

​@@ArinrineI think the most you can get now is 40 years. Still, I wish he would be jailed for life.

[@o1314o]

holy crap..... that's psychologically not normal to want to take advantage of unconscious person...damn

[@jasg771]

@@o1314o all sorta psychotic people who have the weirdest fetish, under the disguise of professionals or respectable careers. We never know until they are exposed. We don't witness doesn't mean it didn't happen.

[@novaliciousx4090]

I remember when there was a disgusting video going around. While a women was giving birth (caesarean) the doctor was forcefully putting his genitals into the womens mouth while she was unconscious due to the anaesthetics. The amount of anger and rage I was going through while reading about this made me sick. WHILE SHE WAS GIVING BIRTH? I hope that doctor had his license stripped off of him.

[@bethysbarn]

Oh bless her 😭💔💔💔 her crying during that clip was so sad, this is so tragic, she deserved so much better than this! I hope both of these women and whoever else he was doing this to, all find the person they truly deserve, who will understand that this wasn’t their fault and love them the way they deserve ❤️

[@jaxdamf4109]

I rlly love ur videos , I love how u explained herpes in a very respectful and non shameful way. I think u have such a deep understanding of the horrible mental manipulation men can put women thru

[@Feuryy]

The number of comments talking about having similar experiences is terrifying. Society needs to do better when its comes to teaching about consent and sex education.

[@starboorii]

The fact people like this exist is mind blowing, I can't imagine how the victims feel from this situation, thank you for the videos, their edited and so well constructed

[@allasperans3984]

I was raped in a similar situationship to Alice's. I was 17 at the time, funnily enough, studying to go to University and be a pharmacist. Luckily he never transmitted anything to me. I am very open about the rape and it sorta gives other people permission to talk about their stories with me, I know a woman who has herpes bc of the rape and it's just so heartbreaking. You already feel violated and "dirty", you already have a trauma for life, and then you get a constant reminder which show ups often when you're the most vulnerable?! Like immune system can be weakened during chronic stress, rape fcking gives you chronic stress. And I consider their first ever sexual encounter a rape. She was drunk, there was pover imbalance, she didn't want to have unprotected sex, ect. And he raped her multiple times after. As a person studying this stuff, he definitely knew. I dropped out of university for now, but I still want to be a medical professional if I can, just in a different country someday. And there are a lot of things making me angry in that story, but also the ethics, I know it's the least of the problems, but damn, ethics, misinformation, using white coat as a "shield"... It's disgusting from multiple stand points.

[@venusnalugon6276]

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